JustPearlyThings - She kept Trying To Argue With The Facts

00:00:00.000 I just say, just be selective.

00:00:01.920 I'm not going to lie.

00:00:03.440 I'm not on any birth control.

00:00:05.040 Why?

00:00:05.360 Because I'm selective and I'm careful and I'm not out there like that.

00:00:08.420 Do you see what I mean?

00:00:09.260 I'm natural and I'm not going to put things in my body that are going to ruin me.

00:00:14.020 So I'm taking the responsibility for the situation I put myself in.

00:00:17.120 And I'm not doing the things that are going to put me at risk.

00:00:19.340 It's really that simple.

00:00:20.460 You just got to make better decisions for yourself.

00:00:22.540 And we need to stop talking about men and women.

00:00:25.620 Make better decisions for yourself.

00:00:26.960 Men, make better decisions.

00:00:28.420 Pick better women. 1.00

00:00:29.400 Women that seem to be maybe a little bit more mentally stable. 0.97

00:00:32.660 Don't just go off of a one night stand.

00:00:34.320 I heard the West is great.

00:00:35.700 Or not the West, the East is great.

00:00:37.900 I heard the passport.

00:00:38.700 I've heard great things about Brazil for the guys.

00:00:41.300 Be careful.

00:00:42.140 Well, actually, let me not do that because I'll get cancelled.

00:00:44.860 All men have to do is just wrap it up though. 0.83

00:00:46.720 Simple.

00:00:48.560 Unless you're Drake.

00:00:49.580 Just wrap it up.

00:00:51.120 Just wrap it up.

00:00:51.960 And if it breaks and it's unlucky in it, then it falls onto the woman.

00:00:55.640 It's unlucky if it breaks.

00:00:57.040 You can't control if a condom breaks.

00:00:58.400 I agree.

00:00:58.640 I hear stories and I'm like, y'all are wild then.

00:01:01.760 But like the whole point is that we have more choice in it.

00:01:05.120 So it comes with being more responsible.

00:01:07.240 But you don't even have to pay for condoms.

00:01:10.680 All you have to do is go to your doctor, go to your sexual health clinic. 0.85

00:01:14.220 Whether you are a woman or a man, you can go to your clinic and saying,

00:01:18.560 I need some supplies.

00:01:20.880 They will give you a nice little paper bag.

00:01:23.280 Yes, I've had that before.

00:01:25.000 And they will give that to you whether you are a man or a woman.

00:01:28.040 So there's no excuses.

00:01:30.660 Even as a woman, if you don't want to take the pill and you want to use a condom. 0.88

00:01:34.800 To have supplies for free.

00:01:39.440 I think I didn't onto what you're saying, sorry.

00:01:42.520 Because I know there's different, certain women don't like having rubber downstairs and stuff, right? 1.00

00:01:50.440 With the condom situation.

00:01:51.620 I get that.

00:01:52.020 But I feel like a lot of these decisions that we've been discussing,

00:01:56.000 it's just being a short-term interaction with a long-term consequence

00:01:59.640 that a lot of people don't want to take accountability for.

00:02:03.020 How about investing, if you're not comfortable with the idea of celibacy

00:02:07.020 or having sex to procreate,

00:02:09.600 investing more time in educating yourself in ways to naturally,

00:02:14.200 I guess, reduce the possibility of having a child.

00:02:19.120 As you're saying about cycles, for example,

00:02:21.060 or men training themselves to pull out.

00:02:24.760 Or, you know what I mean, retention, all these kind of things.

00:02:27.920 Pre-comics, pre-comics.

00:02:29.360 Do you know what I'm saying?

00:02:29.960 There are things that you can do before you have that interaction

00:02:34.120 and risk it, do you know what I mean?

00:02:36.240 Risk it long-term.

00:02:37.160 I mean, and I don't think there's enough of a conversation around

00:02:39.440 different exercises you can do to basically self-con,

00:02:44.300 basically natural consternation techniques

00:02:46.660 or following a woman's cycle, for example.

00:02:50.060 You can only get pregnant like three to five roughly days in a month. 0.97

00:02:53.080 Exactly, yeah.

00:02:53.660 Yeah, yeah.

00:02:54.280 And more often than not, I could be wrong, but do correct me, women, 1.00

00:02:58.720 but my understanding is, from my experience,

00:03:03.120 when women have been more attracted to me, 0.97

00:03:05.540 I've been when they've been more fertile.

00:03:08.140 Yeah, there's something.

00:03:09.440 Yeah.

00:03:09.780 So chances are more of it falls on you, women, 1.00

00:03:12.600 because you know when you're fertile.

00:03:13.900 We don't.

00:03:14.440 So it's like when you're having these fertile experiences,

00:03:17.160 you're increasing the likelihood of even having a child.

00:03:19.200 So why not just get accustomed to having sex when you're not fertile 0.93

00:03:23.700 and reducing that possibility rather than just saying,

00:03:27.000 you know, it's awful.

00:03:27.920 Sex is less enjoyable when you're not fertile. 0.89

00:03:29.420 And to be fair.

00:03:30.080 There we go, it's enjoyment now.

00:03:31.400 It's all you got to do with the consequences.

00:03:32.540 Yeah, but it's like, it's like you guys want to do whatever you want

00:03:35.020 and have no responsibility.

00:03:36.740 Yeah, it's the same thing as how men feel.

00:03:38.300 If we're going to champion my...

00:03:39.760 Men have all the responsibility. 0.99

00:03:41.440 Men have all the responsibility without any of the freedom. 0.96

00:03:44.300 It's my fault if I get pregnant if a man comes inside me 1.00

00:03:46.860 because I wasn't taking the pill.

00:03:48.500 I think that's the part that's confusing. 0.99

00:03:50.440 Have sex with you. 0.99

00:03:51.680 Wait, wait, wait. 1.00

00:03:52.200 I just want to...

00:03:52.700 I'm going to put artificial hormones in my body,

00:03:54.820 so it's now my fault that someone's going to... 0.97

00:03:56.820 So then don't have sex with people without a condom. 0.94

00:03:58.340 Simple. 0.91

00:03:58.920 That's the part I'm a bit confused.

00:04:00.240 Just don't...

00:04:00.520 Okay, okay, guys, guys, guys.

00:04:02.380 It has to be one at a time.

00:04:03.300 So most of the girls I've been with outside of my relationship,

00:04:06.920 they have insisted I wear a condom.

00:04:09.980 So it's like this inequity you're talking about, options,

00:04:12.840 isn't it like...

00:04:14.300 Doesn't a condom solve it?

00:04:15.660 Like a guy wants it.

00:04:16.460 Yeah, yeah, fair enough.

00:04:17.360 A condom solves it.

00:04:18.120 But with...

00:04:18.660 Like, some guys don't want to wear a condom, to be honest with you. 0.96

00:04:20.900 Don't have sex with them. 0.96

00:04:22.060 Yeah, it's simple. 0.99

00:04:22.980 It's simple.

00:04:23.500 Some women... 1.00

00:04:24.020 A lot of women don't actually want condoms as well. 1.00

00:04:26.280 They don't want guys wearing condoms.

00:04:27.600 So it's a thing where, like, if you're concerned about this

00:04:29.880 and you know when you're fertile,

00:04:30.860 I promise you, right, yeah,

00:04:32.760 if you tell a guy,

00:04:33.840 I am very fertile and I'm very likely to be pregnant

00:04:36.740 over the next week, right, yeah,

00:04:38.500 he will himself come forward and say,

00:04:41.360 I will be the contraception, 0.94

00:04:42.480 I will be celibate for these next weeks.

00:04:44.140 I promise you.

00:04:44.820 It sounds funny.

00:04:45.660 But if you, as women,

00:04:46.700 actually tell men when you're fertile,

00:04:48.440 because a guy...

00:04:50.120 It doesn't matter.

00:04:50.880 It's a date.

00:04:51.360 Do you know what I'm saying?

00:04:51.800 If it means that, like,

00:04:53.300 that 18 years and waiting five days

00:04:55.400 and we still get to do what we've got to do,

00:04:57.640 it's logical, you know?

00:04:59.080 My point isn't that men have no responsibility.

00:05:02.100 I don't think it's wise to shoot up at random girls

00:05:05.740 that you don't know.

00:05:06.500 I don't think that's smart.

00:05:09.620 But the point is that, like,

00:05:11.460 we have 10 choices.

00:05:13.120 They have one.

00:05:13.820 Actually, if we're going to count 41 forms of birth control,

00:05:16.500 we probably have, like, 50 choices.

00:05:18.540 And they have, like, a vasectomy and condoms.

00:05:22.220 That's it.

00:05:22.700 But why don't we make more forms for men? 0.99

00:05:25.440 I mean, I think there's either two theories

00:05:30.400 as to why there's no birth control for men.

00:05:33.280 One is that women don't want to give up power. 1.00

00:05:36.180 And that, two, is that it's harder biologically.

00:05:39.040 Like, scientists can't figure out a way to do it.

00:05:40.340 I do not believe that.

00:05:41.280 Because you can create semen. 0.81

00:05:43.040 Men can create semen throughout their whole life. 0.60

00:05:45.120 Women can make what you're born with the amount of eggs you have. 1.00

00:05:47.940 Right now, women have 100% of reproductive power 1.00

00:05:51.040 over who is born.

00:05:52.600 100%.

00:05:53.280 Women are in complete control of who is born. 1.00

00:05:55.080 So why don't we leave in the odds?

00:05:55.940 So I agree.

00:05:57.320 I think there should be a male birth control. 1.00

00:05:59.320 Yeah, but it's the fact that our society

00:06:01.160 isn't putting money into that.

00:06:02.860 Our society isn't focused on that

00:06:03.960 because apparently women have to deal. 1.00

00:06:05.980 Thank you.

00:06:06.460 It's patriarchal.

00:06:07.200 Thank you.

00:06:07.680 Like, women have to deal with all this responsibility. 1.00

00:06:09.440 It's not patriarchal when women make 70% to 80% 0.99

00:06:12.220 of consumer buying decisions.

00:06:13.960 Women have more power than men, I would argue. 1.00

00:06:16.420 Because we're the ones bailed out of every bad decision we make.

00:06:19.020 I would say as well, actually, as women,

00:06:22.300 you know, we are the ones that get pregnant. 1.00

00:06:24.320 We are the ones that will grow the baby inside of us.

00:06:27.220 And therefore, I believe that actually,

00:06:29.280 if you are going to put yourself in that situation,

00:06:32.540 you do have to take account of that power

00:06:36.360 that you do have to bring life into this

00:06:38.680 because the man cannot,

00:06:39.700 so he will never understand what it means.

00:06:41.740 So he'll just do anything willy-nilly.

00:06:43.760 He doesn't think about the consequences as deep

00:06:45.240 because it's not going to go inside of him.

00:06:47.140 I asked one of my friends, I said to him,

00:06:49.140 oh, he's just had a baby.

00:06:50.320 I said, yo, bro, how do you feel you just had a baby?

00:06:51.980 Did you cry?

00:06:52.480 He said, actually, no, I don't know how I felt

00:06:55.200 because the baby was inside my girl for all these months.

00:06:58.460 She's had a head start on knowing the child.

00:07:00.980 Oh, it's because she is the woman.

00:07:02.480 She has the baby.

00:07:03.540 I just added to it.

00:07:04.700 So I didn't really think about what it felt

00:07:06.480 because I still had to get another baby

00:07:08.080 simply for the fact that it is us.

00:07:10.180 So I would say for sure,

00:07:11.480 me as a woman, I take responsibility.

00:07:13.580 If I was to get pregnant right now,

00:07:14.800 and I didn't want the baby,

00:07:16.020 I want to go to my man and do whatever man got me pregnant 0.99

00:07:18.320 and be like, yo, listen, I'm pregnant.

00:07:19.780 What are we going to do?

00:07:20.500 I'll be like, okay, I made a mistake. 0.99

00:07:22.500 I fucked up. 0.97

00:07:23.560 What am I going to do? 1.00

00:07:24.880 That's it.

00:07:25.740 So if you don't want to be in that situation,

00:07:27.960 just put that, what am I going to do

00:07:29.300 before the mistake even happens?

00:07:30.420 Because you're going to be the one with the baby. 0.83

00:07:32.660 If we talk about the fact that the woman

00:07:34.380 is usually the one that stays with the child

00:07:36.260 because we're more nurturing,

00:07:37.580 then again, it just goes to say-

00:07:39.220 And the courts don't give it to men. 0.99

00:07:40.620 That's it.

00:07:41.240 So actually, as a woman now,

00:07:42.580 in that situation, understand your power.

00:07:44.680 Actually, as women, we have a lot of power. 1.00

00:07:46.420 The only problem with us is that

00:07:48.220 we make the wrong choices.

00:07:49.740 That's it.

00:07:50.560 We only realize the power that we have

00:07:52.480 when we're using it for the wrong reasons

00:07:54.160 or when we have lost it,

00:07:55.420 when we've made mistakes that are detrimental.

00:07:57.060 You said we make the wrong choices?

00:07:59.640 A lot of the time, yes.

00:08:01.080 I would say so.

00:08:02.240 DeNalva, you switched?

00:08:04.860 It's really wild.

00:08:06.140 DeNalva, what happened to you?

00:08:08.840 Every time I talk on this podcast,

00:08:11.060 I talk from experience

00:08:12.540 because I know

00:08:13.660 not only the choices I've made,

00:08:15.500 the choices a lot of my friends have made.

00:08:17.060 I also talk about men

00:08:18.200 because I also see a lot of the mistakes

00:08:19.440 they've made.

00:08:20.140 But when it comes to this,

00:08:21.760 when it comes to this sort of situation,

00:08:23.260 I know the power that I have

00:08:25.040 and I know the responsibility that I have.

00:08:26.720 I will not run away from it

00:08:27.880 to say all equality

00:08:28.740 because this is one of those

00:08:30.160 one things actually

00:08:31.360 that is not equal between women and men 1.00

00:08:33.340 at all.

00:08:34.640 A man cannot give birth to a child. 1.00

00:08:36.880 We can.

00:08:37.600 That is completely different.

00:08:38.800 So we have that power.

00:08:40.120 We need to take responsibility for it.

00:08:41.760 I want to add,

00:08:42.900 for men as well,

00:08:43.760 watching this,

00:08:45.220 just download one of those free apps.

00:08:47.740 Like, be around,

00:08:49.000 like, download one of those free apps.

00:08:51.300 Use the rubber as long as you can

00:08:52.560 until you figure out her cycle.

00:08:53.920 It'll tell you when she's,

00:08:55.340 like, pretty much,

00:08:57.260 when she's fertile.

00:08:59.220 Make sure that you've got rubber on

00:09:00.540 if you want to be active then.

00:09:02.520 And outside of that,

00:09:04.540 there's, you know,

00:09:05.240 there's ways to work around this naturally.

00:09:07.180 Even do both.

00:09:08.660 Do you know what I'm saying?

00:09:09.840 Contraception,

00:09:10.320 like on a pill or whatever,

00:09:11.340 and condoms

00:09:12.180 if you want to be ultra safe.

00:09:13.700 That's it.

00:09:14.260 Do you know what I mean?

00:09:15.060 There's enough out,

00:09:16.000 there's more than enough out there.

00:09:17.260 Communication.

00:09:18.180 Everyone's saying,

00:09:18.900 you know,

00:09:19.220 like,

00:09:19.620 why isn't there more?

00:09:20.380 There's like,

00:09:20.820 the stuff that's already out there,

00:09:23.560 people are only using probably three

00:09:24.880 out of the,

00:09:25.520 how many,

00:09:25.820 40 something options,

00:09:27.320 you know?

00:09:27.540 So I feel like it really,

00:09:28.820 it really falls back on the individual.

00:09:30.160 Yeah,

00:09:30.320 it's option three for men,

00:09:31.480 track your girl's cycle.

00:09:33.400 That's it.

00:09:33.860 Work with solution minds.

00:09:34.920 For the guys,

00:09:35.480 I did that myself,

00:09:36.680 and it's a thing where I went natural.

00:09:39.080 Do you know what I mean?

00:09:39.420 I wasn't into,

00:09:40.200 into the actual,

00:09:42.700 you know,

00:09:42.780 you like to take risks.

00:09:43.940 Sorry?

00:09:44.320 You like to take risks.

00:09:45.540 No,

00:09:45.720 it's calculations.

00:09:46.260 Not necessarily risk,

00:09:47.260 calculated,

00:09:47.780 calculated,

00:09:48.660 calculated risk.

00:09:49.400 Calculated execution.

00:09:50.840 I'll be scared out there.

00:09:51.820 But I'm just saying that ultimately,

00:09:53.460 at the end of the day,

00:09:54.000 there's nature at play,

00:09:54.860 and if you actually understand nature for it is,

00:09:57.500 as you were saying,

00:09:58.180 as you know,

00:09:58.700 the whole fertility thing is a couple days in a month, 1.00

00:10:00.820 right?

00:10:02.000 Is that correct?

00:10:02.680 It's like three to five.

00:10:04.060 Yeah,

00:10:04.340 so if you've got three to five days in a month,

00:10:06.560 right,

00:10:06.680 you've got about 30 days in a month,

00:10:08.720 right,

00:10:08.860 yeah?

00:10:09.300 To do the nasty and not have consequences.

00:10:11.900 Sorry?

00:10:12.500 To do the nasty and not have consequences.

00:10:14.420 No,

00:10:14.540 no,

00:10:14.600 no,

00:10:14.840 it's not a conversation like this,

00:10:16.080 he's in a relationship,

00:10:17.000 clearly.

00:10:17.520 No,

00:10:17.700 I'm not in a relationship,

00:10:18.460 but the point I'm making is that three to four,

00:10:20.200 wait,

00:10:20.320 is it three to five days,

00:10:21.240 right?

00:10:21.420 Let's call it five.

00:10:22.280 Let's call it a week.

00:10:22.940 Let's call it a week,

00:10:23.620 right,

00:10:23.760 yeah?

00:10:24.000 You have to have spoken to her a lot of times.

00:10:25.780 Yeah,

00:10:25.800 but what I'm saying is that let's call it a week,

00:10:27.380 yeah?

00:10:27.720 Yeah.

00:10:28.020 Let's call it a week,

00:10:28.760 right,

00:10:28.920 yeah?

00:10:29.500 And you've got three other weeks in the month,

00:10:31.960 right,

00:10:32.240 yeah?

00:10:32.540 And one of them,

00:10:33.020 you're extremely not fertile.

00:10:34.480 If you're both aware of when that fertile,

00:10:36.980 for me,

00:10:37.340 it doesn't make sense why you wouldn't want to know when your woman's,

00:10:40.920 if you don't want to be a parent,

00:10:42.580 it doesn't make sense to me why you wouldn't want to know when your partner's fertile,

00:10:46.720 because as a woman,

00:10:48.400 that's the highest,

00:10:49.240 that's literally the most certain time that you can get pregnant,

00:10:52.060 right?

00:10:52.740 So if you're not taking accountability for that,

00:10:54.460 I'm sorry,

00:10:54.900 but I feel like more of that percentage falls on you,

00:10:56.800 and as a man,

00:10:57.640 you're not innocent in this,

00:10:58.760 because that is something that you can learn.

00:11:00.920 I understand that women, 1.00

00:11:02.100 when they're around other women,

00:11:04.140 it moves a couple of days here and there,

00:11:06.120 I get that,

00:11:06.920 but ultimately,

00:11:08.260 just find out when her time of the month is.

00:11:09.880 What's the app called?

00:11:11.820 Just go,

00:11:12.540 Apple Store,

00:11:13.360 Play Store,

00:11:13.820 just write Cycle,

00:11:14.900 just have a game.

00:11:16.060 Seriously,

00:11:16.400 just write Cycle Tracker,

00:11:17.700 and it just left thousands of them up there.

00:11:19.440 As many of you know,

00:11:20.560 I was just banned on TikTok,

00:11:22.620 and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.

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JustPearlyThings - March 26, 2023

She kept Trying To Argue With The Facts

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