JustPearlyThings - March 26, 2023


She kept Trying To Argue With The Facts


Episode Stats

Length

11 minutes

Words per Minute

219.05994

Word Count

2,540

Sentence Count

207

Misogynist Sentences

26

Hate Speech Sentences

19


Summary

In this episode, we talk about the dangers of not using birth control, the benefits of condoms, and how to prevent getting pregnant when you re not fertile. We also talk about how to increase your chances of not getting pregnant if you re on birth control.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I just say, just be selective.
00:00:01.920 I'm not going to lie.
00:00:03.440 I'm not on any birth control.
00:00:05.040 Why?
00:00:05.360 Because I'm selective and I'm careful and I'm not out there like that.
00:00:08.420 Do you see what I mean?
00:00:09.260 I'm natural and I'm not going to put things in my body that are going to ruin me.
00:00:14.020 So I'm taking the responsibility for the situation I put myself in.
00:00:17.120 And I'm not doing the things that are going to put me at risk.
00:00:19.340 It's really that simple.
00:00:20.460 You just got to make better decisions for yourself.
00:00:22.540 And we need to stop talking about men and women.
00:00:25.620 Make better decisions for yourself.
00:00:26.960 Men, make better decisions.
00:00:28.420 Pick better women.
00:00:29.400 Women that seem to be maybe a little bit more mentally stable.
00:00:32.660 Don't just go off of a one night stand.
00:00:34.320 I heard the West is great.
00:00:35.700 Or not the West, the East is great.
00:00:37.900 I heard the passport.
00:00:38.700 I've heard great things about Brazil for the guys.
00:00:41.300 Be careful.
00:00:42.140 Well, actually, let me not do that because I'll get cancelled.
00:00:44.860 All men have to do is just wrap it up though.
00:00:46.720 Simple.
00:00:48.560 Unless you're Drake.
00:00:49.580 Just wrap it up.
00:00:51.120 Just wrap it up.
00:00:51.960 And if it breaks and it's unlucky in it, then it falls onto the woman.
00:00:55.640 It's unlucky if it breaks.
00:00:57.040 You can't control if a condom breaks.
00:00:58.400 I agree.
00:00:58.640 I hear stories and I'm like, y'all are wild then.
00:01:01.760 But like the whole point is that we have more choice in it.
00:01:05.120 So it comes with being more responsible.
00:01:07.240 But you don't even have to pay for condoms.
00:01:10.680 All you have to do is go to your doctor, go to your sexual health clinic.
00:01:14.220 Whether you are a woman or a man, you can go to your clinic and saying,
00:01:18.560 I need some supplies.
00:01:20.880 They will give you a nice little paper bag.
00:01:23.280 Yes, I've had that before.
00:01:25.000 And they will give that to you whether you are a man or a woman.
00:01:28.040 So there's no excuses.
00:01:30.660 Even as a woman, if you don't want to take the pill and you want to use a condom.
00:01:34.800 To have supplies for free.
00:01:39.440 I think I didn't onto what you're saying, sorry.
00:01:42.520 Because I know there's different, certain women don't like having rubber downstairs and stuff, right?
00:01:50.440 With the condom situation.
00:01:51.620 I get that.
00:01:52.020 But I feel like a lot of these decisions that we've been discussing,
00:01:56.000 it's just being a short-term interaction with a long-term consequence
00:01:59.640 that a lot of people don't want to take accountability for.
00:02:03.020 How about investing, if you're not comfortable with the idea of celibacy
00:02:07.020 or having sex to procreate,
00:02:09.600 investing more time in educating yourself in ways to naturally,
00:02:14.200 I guess, reduce the possibility of having a child.
00:02:19.120 As you're saying about cycles, for example,
00:02:21.060 or men training themselves to pull out.
00:02:24.760 Or, you know what I mean, retention, all these kind of things.
00:02:27.920 Pre-comics, pre-comics.
00:02:29.360 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:02:29.960 There are things that you can do before you have that interaction
00:02:34.120 and risk it, do you know what I mean?
00:02:36.240 Risk it long-term.
00:02:37.160 I mean, and I don't think there's enough of a conversation around
00:02:39.440 different exercises you can do to basically self-con,
00:02:44.300 basically natural consternation techniques
00:02:46.660 or following a woman's cycle, for example.
00:02:50.060 You can only get pregnant like three to five roughly days in a month.
00:02:53.080 Exactly, yeah.
00:02:53.660 Yeah, yeah.
00:02:54.280 And more often than not, I could be wrong, but do correct me, women,
00:02:58.720 but my understanding is, from my experience,
00:03:03.120 when women have been more attracted to me,
00:03:05.540 I've been when they've been more fertile.
00:03:08.140 Yeah, there's something.
00:03:09.440 Yeah.
00:03:09.780 So chances are more of it falls on you, women,
00:03:12.600 because you know when you're fertile.
00:03:13.900 We don't.
00:03:14.440 So it's like when you're having these fertile experiences,
00:03:17.160 you're increasing the likelihood of even having a child.
00:03:19.200 So why not just get accustomed to having sex when you're not fertile
00:03:23.700 and reducing that possibility rather than just saying,
00:03:27.000 you know, it's awful.
00:03:27.920 Sex is less enjoyable when you're not fertile.
00:03:29.420 And to be fair.
00:03:30.080 There we go, it's enjoyment now.
00:03:31.400 It's all you got to do with the consequences.
00:03:32.540 Yeah, but it's like, it's like you guys want to do whatever you want
00:03:35.020 and have no responsibility.
00:03:36.740 Yeah, it's the same thing as how men feel.
00:03:38.300 If we're going to champion my...
00:03:39.760 Men have all the responsibility.
00:03:41.440 Men have all the responsibility without any of the freedom.
00:03:44.300 It's my fault if I get pregnant if a man comes inside me
00:03:46.860 because I wasn't taking the pill.
00:03:48.500 I think that's the part that's confusing.
00:03:50.440 Have sex with you.
00:03:51.680 Wait, wait, wait.
00:03:52.200 I just want to...
00:03:52.700 I'm going to put artificial hormones in my body,
00:03:54.820 so it's now my fault that someone's going to...
00:03:56.820 So then don't have sex with people without a condom.
00:03:58.340 Simple.
00:03:58.920 That's the part I'm a bit confused.
00:04:00.240 Just don't...
00:04:00.520 Okay, okay, guys, guys, guys.
00:04:02.380 It has to be one at a time.
00:04:03.300 So most of the girls I've been with outside of my relationship,
00:04:06.920 they have insisted I wear a condom.
00:04:09.980 So it's like this inequity you're talking about, options,
00:04:12.840 isn't it like...
00:04:14.300 Doesn't a condom solve it?
00:04:15.660 Like a guy wants it.
00:04:16.460 Yeah, yeah, fair enough.
00:04:17.360 A condom solves it.
00:04:18.120 But with...
00:04:18.660 Like, some guys don't want to wear a condom, to be honest with you.
00:04:20.900 Don't have sex with them.
00:04:22.060 Yeah, it's simple.
00:04:22.980 It's simple.
00:04:23.500 Some women...
00:04:24.020 A lot of women don't actually want condoms as well.
00:04:26.280 They don't want guys wearing condoms.
00:04:27.600 So it's a thing where, like, if you're concerned about this
00:04:29.880 and you know when you're fertile,
00:04:30.860 I promise you, right, yeah,
00:04:32.760 if you tell a guy,
00:04:33.840 I am very fertile and I'm very likely to be pregnant
00:04:36.740 over the next week, right, yeah,
00:04:38.500 he will himself come forward and say,
00:04:41.360 I will be the contraception,
00:04:42.480 I will be celibate for these next weeks.
00:04:44.140 I promise you.
00:04:44.820 It sounds funny.
00:04:45.660 But if you, as women,
00:04:46.700 actually tell men when you're fertile,
00:04:48.440 because a guy...
00:04:50.120 It doesn't matter.
00:04:50.880 It's a date.
00:04:51.360 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:04:51.800 If it means that, like,
00:04:53.300 that 18 years and waiting five days
00:04:55.400 and we still get to do what we've got to do,
00:04:57.640 it's logical, you know?
00:04:59.080 My point isn't that men have no responsibility.
00:05:02.100 I don't think it's wise to shoot up at random girls
00:05:05.740 that you don't know.
00:05:06.500 I don't think that's smart.
00:05:09.620 But the point is that, like,
00:05:11.460 we have 10 choices.
00:05:13.120 They have one.
00:05:13.820 Actually, if we're going to count 41 forms of birth control,
00:05:16.500 we probably have, like, 50 choices.
00:05:18.540 And they have, like, a vasectomy and condoms.
00:05:22.220 That's it.
00:05:22.700 But why don't we make more forms for men?
00:05:25.440 I mean, I think there's either two theories
00:05:30.400 as to why there's no birth control for men.
00:05:33.280 One is that women don't want to give up power.
00:05:36.180 And that, two, is that it's harder biologically.
00:05:39.040 Like, scientists can't figure out a way to do it.
00:05:40.340 I do not believe that.
00:05:41.280 Because you can create semen.
00:05:43.040 Men can create semen throughout their whole life.
00:05:45.120 Women can make what you're born with the amount of eggs you have.
00:05:47.940 Right now, women have 100% of reproductive power
00:05:51.040 over who is born.
00:05:52.600 100%.
00:05:53.280 Women are in complete control of who is born.
00:05:55.080 So why don't we leave in the odds?
00:05:55.940 So I agree.
00:05:57.320 I think there should be a male birth control.
00:05:59.320 Yeah, but it's the fact that our society
00:06:01.160 isn't putting money into that.
00:06:02.860 Our society isn't focused on that
00:06:03.960 because apparently women have to deal.
00:06:05.980 Thank you.
00:06:06.460 It's patriarchal.
00:06:07.200 Thank you.
00:06:07.680 Like, women have to deal with all this responsibility.
00:06:09.440 It's not patriarchal when women make 70% to 80%
00:06:12.220 of consumer buying decisions.
00:06:13.960 Women have more power than men, I would argue.
00:06:16.420 Because we're the ones bailed out of every bad decision we make.
00:06:19.020 I would say as well, actually, as women,
00:06:22.300 you know, we are the ones that get pregnant.
00:06:24.320 We are the ones that will grow the baby inside of us.
00:06:27.220 And therefore, I believe that actually,
00:06:29.280 if you are going to put yourself in that situation,
00:06:32.540 you do have to take account of that power
00:06:36.360 that you do have to bring life into this
00:06:38.680 because the man cannot,
00:06:39.700 so he will never understand what it means.
00:06:41.740 So he'll just do anything willy-nilly.
00:06:43.760 He doesn't think about the consequences as deep
00:06:45.240 because it's not going to go inside of him.
00:06:47.140 I asked one of my friends, I said to him,
00:06:49.140 oh, he's just had a baby.
00:06:50.320 I said, yo, bro, how do you feel you just had a baby?
00:06:51.980 Did you cry?
00:06:52.480 He said, actually, no, I don't know how I felt
00:06:55.200 because the baby was inside my girl for all these months.
00:06:58.460 She's had a head start on knowing the child.
00:07:00.980 Oh, it's because she is the woman.
00:07:02.480 She has the baby.
00:07:03.540 I just added to it.
00:07:04.700 So I didn't really think about what it felt
00:07:06.480 because I still had to get another baby
00:07:08.080 simply for the fact that it is us.
00:07:10.180 So I would say for sure,
00:07:11.480 me as a woman, I take responsibility.
00:07:13.580 If I was to get pregnant right now,
00:07:14.800 and I didn't want the baby,
00:07:16.020 I want to go to my man and do whatever man got me pregnant
00:07:18.320 and be like, yo, listen, I'm pregnant.
00:07:19.780 What are we going to do?
00:07:20.500 I'll be like, okay, I made a mistake.
00:07:22.500 I fucked up.
00:07:23.560 What am I going to do?
00:07:24.880 That's it.
00:07:25.740 So if you don't want to be in that situation,
00:07:27.960 just put that, what am I going to do
00:07:29.300 before the mistake even happens?
00:07:30.420 Because you're going to be the one with the baby.
00:07:32.660 If we talk about the fact that the woman
00:07:34.380 is usually the one that stays with the child
00:07:36.260 because we're more nurturing,
00:07:37.580 then again, it just goes to say-
00:07:39.220 And the courts don't give it to men.
00:07:40.620 That's it.
00:07:41.240 So actually, as a woman now,
00:07:42.580 in that situation, understand your power.
00:07:44.680 Actually, as women, we have a lot of power.
00:07:46.420 The only problem with us is that
00:07:48.220 we make the wrong choices.
00:07:49.740 That's it.
00:07:50.560 We only realize the power that we have
00:07:52.480 when we're using it for the wrong reasons
00:07:54.160 or when we have lost it,
00:07:55.420 when we've made mistakes that are detrimental.
00:07:57.060 You said we make the wrong choices?
00:07:59.640 A lot of the time, yes.
00:08:01.080 I would say so.
00:08:02.240 DeNalva, you switched?
00:08:04.860 It's really wild.
00:08:06.140 DeNalva, what happened to you?
00:08:08.840 Every time I talk on this podcast,
00:08:11.060 I talk from experience
00:08:12.540 because I know
00:08:13.660 not only the choices I've made,
00:08:15.500 the choices a lot of my friends have made.
00:08:17.060 I also talk about men
00:08:18.200 because I also see a lot of the mistakes
00:08:19.440 they've made.
00:08:20.140 But when it comes to this,
00:08:21.760 when it comes to this sort of situation,
00:08:23.260 I know the power that I have
00:08:25.040 and I know the responsibility that I have.
00:08:26.720 I will not run away from it
00:08:27.880 to say all equality
00:08:28.740 because this is one of those
00:08:30.160 one things actually
00:08:31.360 that is not equal between women and men
00:08:33.340 at all.
00:08:34.640 A man cannot give birth to a child.
00:08:36.880 We can.
00:08:37.600 That is completely different.
00:08:38.800 So we have that power.
00:08:40.120 We need to take responsibility for it.
00:08:41.760 I want to add,
00:08:42.900 for men as well,
00:08:43.760 watching this,
00:08:45.220 just download one of those free apps.
00:08:47.740 Like, be around,
00:08:49.000 like, download one of those free apps.
00:08:51.300 Use the rubber as long as you can
00:08:52.560 until you figure out her cycle.
00:08:53.920 It'll tell you when she's,
00:08:55.340 like, pretty much,
00:08:57.260 when she's fertile.
00:08:59.220 Make sure that you've got rubber on
00:09:00.540 if you want to be active then.
00:09:02.520 And outside of that,
00:09:04.540 there's, you know,
00:09:05.240 there's ways to work around this naturally.
00:09:07.180 Even do both.
00:09:08.660 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:09:09.840 Contraception,
00:09:10.320 like on a pill or whatever,
00:09:11.340 and condoms
00:09:12.180 if you want to be ultra safe.
00:09:13.700 That's it.
00:09:14.260 Do you know what I mean?
00:09:15.060 There's enough out,
00:09:16.000 there's more than enough out there.
00:09:17.260 Communication.
00:09:18.180 Everyone's saying,
00:09:18.900 you know,
00:09:19.220 like,
00:09:19.620 why isn't there more?
00:09:20.380 There's like,
00:09:20.820 the stuff that's already out there,
00:09:23.560 people are only using probably three
00:09:24.880 out of the,
00:09:25.520 how many,
00:09:25.820 40 something options,
00:09:27.320 you know?
00:09:27.540 So I feel like it really,
00:09:28.820 it really falls back on the individual.
00:09:30.160 Yeah,
00:09:30.320 it's option three for men,
00:09:31.480 track your girl's cycle.
00:09:33.400 That's it.
00:09:33.860 Work with solution minds.
00:09:34.920 For the guys,
00:09:35.480 I did that myself,
00:09:36.680 and it's a thing where I went natural.
00:09:39.080 Do you know what I mean?
00:09:39.420 I wasn't into,
00:09:40.200 into the actual,
00:09:42.700 you know,
00:09:42.780 you like to take risks.
00:09:43.940 Sorry?
00:09:44.320 You like to take risks.
00:09:45.540 No,
00:09:45.720 it's calculations.
00:09:46.260 Not necessarily risk,
00:09:47.260 calculated,
00:09:47.780 calculated,
00:09:48.660 calculated risk.
00:09:49.400 Calculated execution.
00:09:50.840 I'll be scared out there.
00:09:51.820 But I'm just saying that ultimately,
00:09:53.460 at the end of the day,
00:09:54.000 there's nature at play,
00:09:54.860 and if you actually understand nature for it is,
00:09:57.500 as you were saying,
00:09:58.180 as you know,
00:09:58.700 the whole fertility thing is a couple days in a month,
00:10:00.820 right?
00:10:02.000 Is that correct?
00:10:02.680 It's like three to five.
00:10:04.060 Yeah,
00:10:04.340 so if you've got three to five days in a month,
00:10:06.560 right,
00:10:06.680 you've got about 30 days in a month,
00:10:08.720 right,
00:10:08.860 yeah?
00:10:09.300 To do the nasty and not have consequences.
00:10:11.900 Sorry?
00:10:12.500 To do the nasty and not have consequences.
00:10:14.420 No,
00:10:14.540 no,
00:10:14.600 no,
00:10:14.840 it's not a conversation like this,
00:10:16.080 he's in a relationship,
00:10:17.000 clearly.
00:10:17.520 No,
00:10:17.700 I'm not in a relationship,
00:10:18.460 but the point I'm making is that three to four,
00:10:20.200 wait,
00:10:20.320 is it three to five days,
00:10:21.240 right?
00:10:21.420 Let's call it five.
00:10:22.280 Let's call it a week.
00:10:22.940 Let's call it a week,
00:10:23.620 right,
00:10:23.760 yeah?
00:10:24.000 You have to have spoken to her a lot of times.
00:10:25.780 Yeah,
00:10:25.800 but what I'm saying is that let's call it a week,
00:10:27.380 yeah?
00:10:27.720 Yeah.
00:10:28.020 Let's call it a week,
00:10:28.760 right,
00:10:28.920 yeah?
00:10:29.500 And you've got three other weeks in the month,
00:10:31.960 right,
00:10:32.240 yeah?
00:10:32.540 And one of them,
00:10:33.020 you're extremely not fertile.
00:10:34.480 If you're both aware of when that fertile,
00:10:36.980 for me,
00:10:37.340 it doesn't make sense why you wouldn't want to know when your woman's,
00:10:40.920 if you don't want to be a parent,
00:10:42.580 it doesn't make sense to me why you wouldn't want to know when your partner's fertile,
00:10:46.720 because as a woman,
00:10:48.400 that's the highest,
00:10:49.240 that's literally the most certain time that you can get pregnant,
00:10:52.060 right?
00:10:52.740 So if you're not taking accountability for that,
00:10:54.460 I'm sorry,
00:10:54.900 but I feel like more of that percentage falls on you,
00:10:56.800 and as a man,
00:10:57.640 you're not innocent in this,
00:10:58.760 because that is something that you can learn.
00:11:00.920 I understand that women,
00:11:02.100 when they're around other women,
00:11:04.140 it moves a couple of days here and there,
00:11:06.120 I get that,
00:11:06.920 but ultimately,
00:11:08.260 just find out when her time of the month is.
00:11:09.880 What's the app called?
00:11:11.820 Just go,
00:11:12.540 Apple Store,
00:11:13.360 Play Store,
00:11:13.820 just write Cycle,
00:11:14.900 just have a game.
00:11:16.060 Seriously,
00:11:16.400 just write Cycle Tracker,
00:11:17.700 and it just left thousands of them up there.
00:11:19.440 As many of you know,
00:11:20.560 I was just banned on TikTok,
00:11:22.620 and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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