She Kept trying to Deny Her Biology
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss abortion, birth control, and whether or not it s better than birth control for fertility. We also discuss the fact that women should be responsible for their own kids and how they should feel about it.
Transcript
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Do you think that abortions, like, reduce the chance of you having children in the future?
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Does it depend on the type of abortion or just abortions in general?
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I'm not going to pretend to be, like, a science, like, super...
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When I was a kid, when I was a kid, everyone was getting on birth control, right?
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And logically, I was thinking, I just feel like if you stop your fertility, that's bad.
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Like, I was never really, like, I was on it a little bit, but never really.
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And I remember all my friends were talking to me, like, when I said this to them at, like,
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16, 17, whatever, they all were looking at me like I was nuts.
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And then 10 years later, it fucks with your hormones, it does all this stuff.
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I don't know if you're taking something that, like, kills the child that's growing in you.
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I have mixed feelings about that, because there's so many types of contraception in general.
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And birth control, like, is in the pill every day, is honestly very chaotic in terms of how good it is for you in terms of your fertility in the future.
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There's so many, like, advances in science in general that we don't know how it's going to, like, the repercussions in general or how it's going to affect you.
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And if taking birth control is better for you...
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I'm actually pissed off by the fact that there's so many, like...
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We could spend so much time and so much energy and so much money on birth control in terms of adjusting men, but we don't.
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We have birth control that stops us from releasing eggs, or we have birth control that pauses the period or whatever, but we don't have birth control that affects...
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Because they're the one that's going to be carrying the child.
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Because if anything, obviously the guy can leave.
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Like, I'm sorry, we have every power when it comes to not having a child.
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There's so many forms of birth control for the woman, but there's so few for men.
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I'm sure there is, but I just don't know what it is.
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I think it has to do with that we carry the child.
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If they leave, I'm stuck with a big belly for nine months, going through every trimester.
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But at the end of the day, like, they're not going to carry the baby in their belly.
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So I feel like, logically, when they started doing birth control, they were like, okay,
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who's the first person that is suffering with this?
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But also, it's not just necessarily, like, people go on it because their periods are so
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bad that it kind of, like, balances, or they have, like, too much estrogen or something
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Is there anything that would make you want to have kids?
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Or would you, like, if you met someone, would you say it with chest and say, I don't want
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And it's quite funny, actually, because you mentioned that the fact that a lot of women
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would, like, end up alone if they told someone that they didn't want children in general.
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I don't think that's true because I have told people, like, if you ask me, oh, do you really
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You just said a small sample size because you said a guy.
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Guys off camera, does anyone not want children from the men?
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Maybe I'm in the minority, and that's completely fine.
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They're probably just trying to sleep with you.
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I feel like a lot of people have children because they feel like they're supposed to, rather than because they genuinely want children.
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One thing you did say is that when you was 19, you was all over having kids.
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I said I was more likely to be persuaded into having one child.
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But as I've gotten older, the more I've learned, the less I want children.
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Like, even when you're 56-year-old, that is your baby.
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As soon as you have a child, your entire life goes to the child, whether you want it or not.
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And the thing is, if I had a child, 100%, I'll be fucking devoted to my baby.
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It's just interesting because, like, when people list the reasons that they don't want to have children,
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Like, it's why they say modern women are selfish because everything's about me, me, me.
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It's like, I don't want to give up my free time.
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Because if you're not selfish and you choose to be naive and blindfolded
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and act like you can do everything and you do a half-hearted job and perhaps being a mother or anything.
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Like, I agree with what you were saying about the nannies.
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Like, I'm not saying every single person should have kids,
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but usually the people that don't have kids, I would say, are selfish.
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I'm sorry, but being selfish for a woman has a shelf life, to be honest.
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In a sense where, like, you can be selfish up to a point,
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but then you kind of got to make a decision in it, like, for a man's time.
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Like, I couldn't have a kid with my life right now.
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Which is understandable, but that doesn't mean, like,
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you still don't have a shelf life on being selfish.
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I need you to elaborate on shelf life on being selfish.
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Okay, as you said earlier, like, obviously, there's a certain time limit on,
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There may be a certain time limit on having a child.
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So, obviously, you can be selfish up to a point,
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but then sooner or later, you've got to kind of make the decision
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whether you obviously want a child or you don't.
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I think if you've known from young that I genuinely want children, 100%,
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if you want children to fucking have your babies,
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In fact, I want my friends to have kids so I can be an auntie.
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but also the responsibility that comes with a child is so much for me.
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I do not want to take care of another human being as well.
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I'm all about people doing what they want to do.
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I don't even think that every single girl should have a...
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There's a lot of people that shouldn't have kids.
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No, but I think the people that shouldn't have kids
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because you were talking about age earlier, yeah?
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And at 55, I'm home with 80 cats because no one...
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it would have been nice to have someone that...
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And at 55, you kind of switch to, like, the men's perspective
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because, you know, they start to treat you like they treat the men
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because people aren't attracted to you as much anymore.
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I just want to take it back to this point that you made
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because, to me, especially the points that you guys have made
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for wanting kids is, like, I want to carry on my legacy,
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No, no, no, I don't give a fuck about a legacy.
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Well, why would it matter what legacy matters to you?
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Within a hundred years, my nigga, you're going to be forgotten regardless.
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but I've heard stories about my great-grandparents who are great.
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A lot of people, if they descended from someone that was, like, great,
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like, people, they always make fun of me in the comments,
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But seriously, like, people know that they descended from him.
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I mean, I just think the point is that something, like, bigger than yourself.
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Like, I'm just thinking if I'm 65 and by myself, like, one,
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Because someone's got to take care of you in all day.
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And the second part is, like, you want to die alone?
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But even by that logic, though, what's the purpose of us doing anything?
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There would just be no purpose for us doing anything.
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But by that logic, there would be no purpose for us to be doing anything.
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There is no purpose for us to be doing anything.
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That's because whoever you settle down with, most likely,
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they may not, but most likely, they're going to want kids.
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If it's not a man, then obviously you might be all right.
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hey, if they bring up anything to do with children
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or if the conversation comes up, I'm going to be straight up.
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As soon as the food goes on the table, say it straight away.
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I find it interesting to hear, like, what people say
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In every situation, like, my kid comes first in every situation.
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I'm not, like I said, I weren't maternal and everything before.
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My mum, on my child's birthday, every year goes, well done.
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All my friends and my family, they never expected it from me,
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But I just never expected it weren't in the plan,
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but, like, it is my priority in every situation in my life,
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It's like saying, what do you want to do for a living?
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If that's your dream, everyone's just totally different,
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something to do with having kids and blah, blah, blah,
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what I was going to say before is, for men, it is a legacy,
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and they're, like, they're honouring their dads
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because you all take their name and you pass it down,
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Like, we've just been, that's what it is for most people.
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What if they don't see the dads in that, though?
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and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.