JustPearlyThings - She Proved this Fact About Modern Women

00:00:00.000 and i think it's the human thing i get i think we get too caught up with masculine energy feminine

00:00:04.780 energy what's human to do is to look out for somebody i think um women are kind of more 1.00

00:00:09.380 socialized to kind of beat around the bush you know i mean like to be coy um it's kind of rewarded

00:00:16.020 when women are like oh look they're not as like oh i want this this and this i think women are 1.00

00:00:20.380 rewarded in romantic relationships and friendships and relationships with people in society so so if

00:00:25.640 you know that why would you still purposely like or willingly do it willingly so you just said that

00:00:31.040 um women are kind of socialized to behave a certain type of way and you know that way you're socialized 1.00

00:00:36.160 is negative in terms of creating a better outcome for all but yet you still sat here and still went

00:00:41.700 i think i i still do this because obviously that's what i'm used to i find it extremely uncomfortable

00:00:48.340 to go to someone and call them fat or call them ugly even if they asked you so if i said am i fat

00:00:53.400 and i was visibly fat you'd find it uncomfortable to be honest with me and be like you know i would

00:00:57.320 find that really uncomfortable for me i feel like they say the words outside out loud like i can think

00:01:02.160 certain things in my mind but to directly say to someone straight up like i think you're ugly especially

00:01:07.040 if it's in negative terms it would be very difficult for me so we're friends yeah so if i said if i said

00:01:12.800 have i gained let's say if i gained 50 pounds yeah and i said did i get fat this is different

00:01:20.040 because you would you because you're pearl yeah pearl can handle anything she wants you to be so 0.92

00:01:27.280 direct but i had german au pairs growing up to german nanny so i know she can handle it so 1.00

00:01:32.440 okay people don't understand what german nannies german nannies

00:01:37.360 so i feel like it also you have to have um a bit of tact and i feel like you need to gauge the

00:01:45.420 person as well let's let's let's role play okay oh like i'm beluga i'm beluga okay okay okay okay

00:01:52.620 okay set the scene

00:01:54.620 i just got rejected for the 10th time in a row um and he said it was because i'm too thick

00:02:06.900 did i did i get fat i know i ate one or two brownies okay or 10 but am i am i fat what's

00:02:16.280 your bmi i don't know i haven't i haven't i don't weight myself do you have scales at home

00:02:21.060 no okay i have scales i avoid them like the plague no it just gives me anxiety i can't get up the scale

00:02:27.900 okay interesting what do you think your bmi is i don't know i just i don't even know how bmi works

00:02:36.600 i just i think it's like a scale that's like not real so i feel like they just make that up you know

00:02:41.460 doctors to be mean okay do you think you're overweight i mean

00:02:46.500 i question it a little bit but that's why i came to you to get the truth

00:02:52.880 okay you see how this is really hard for me you see how like i went to every other option

00:02:59.820 that was a 101 or beating around the bush yeah i was doing so well i came with a bmi like she could

00:03:05.260 have got on the scales we could have worked out together okay let me let me let me try it with

00:03:08.360 eddie let me try with eddie you're like all right all right all right so so this is you know i'm at

00:03:15.480 you know i'm just like shaking all over yeah yeah eddie it's been a minute since i've seen you

00:03:21.080 how are you doing i'm good are you telling me what i'm good how are you i'm good i'm good um

00:03:28.200 anyways i i i was walking here and someone called me a whale a whale yeah yeah did i did i get fat i

00:03:35.160 ain't gonna lie when i did see you you was looking a bit more chunky than last time i seen you still but

00:03:40.600 looks all right the cheeks are grown okay okay so just chunky i'm not i'm not fat no i ain't gonna lie

00:03:45.560 you put a mad weight in it like drop a few drop a little something something in you oh but 0.98

00:03:50.840 mad weight what does that mean am i am i fat you're fat

00:03:56.120 he kind of beat around the bush too i kind of like the way you said it though it's playful 0.99

00:04:01.720 like you was very playful with it you was just like you're fat and ugly yeah that's pretty crazy 0.98

00:04:08.920 everybody scroll back and then quote unquote she said fat and ugly i feel like no i think i think me 0.99

00:04:15.640 me not you i don't know no i i didn't you can find out have a look if i said she's fat and ugly i said 1.00

00:04:23.160 she became attractive because she's because she's healthy that means she would have stayed ugly no but 1.00

00:04:28.360 you said like um i think you said like you quoted yourself he's like no you said you think you have

00:04:33.000 to say i know i know oh okay look back okay can we bet some money or something

00:04:40.840 but now i'm playful with it i guess i guess i respect you actually oh thank you because it's good

00:04:47.160 to have a friend like you that will call it straight even if it hurts you you're the most

00:04:52.760 respected friend i i have to say the thing is that there needs to be context okay so this she tells me

00:04:58.040 this over and over again and i try to you know in a polite way and if like um the thing is and like i

00:05:04.840 said i am not my existence isn't to just pacify you you know and if you're saying that oh you know

00:05:10.760 i have this issue and my weight is this and everything and i was like you know what i have 0.98

00:05:13.640 to cut this crap you are fat and her radical acceptance is the most powerful thing that's when 0.97

00:05:19.720 change actually ensued she got healthy and she had a baby that was the objective so so much uh problems 1.00

00:05:27.720 were avoided with me just being honest with her and if she's an adult she's going to take that and not

00:05:33.480 just suddenly forget who i am i'm a good friend i 100 agree with you i think there's a way of like

00:05:37.880 doing it with tact so you can be playful about it but if you're honest and real with person it won't 0.73

00:05:41.800 affect your relationship i wasn't mean i was like you're fat you're fat that's it i feel like if you're 0.55

00:05:46.520 honest with someone and factual with the person a relationship cannot be destroyed i feel like if 0.68

00:05:51.640 someone's real with you and tells you something straight if it was a real friendship i don't think

00:05:55.880 would affect it is why you don't do it for fear of losing that relationship with the person the the

00:06:00.520 reason i don't do it is that i find it extremely uncomfortable i don't think i'm i'm not used to

00:06:04.920 doing it i don't practice it i don't know i don't know would you like people to be honest with you

00:06:10.840 maybe not no oh you'd like people to lie to you mandems sliding them deals and sell dreams

00:06:17.000 no because i all believe those dreams oh yeah and i don't see a problem with that like think about it

00:06:22.120 hypothetically let's say if i think that um i'm like really crazy amazing like really really beautiful

00:06:30.040 and someone's telling me dreams and i believe the dreams he sells me happily ever after in my

00:06:34.520 delusion oh so why pop the bubble so i have a question are you cool with getting cheated on if

00:06:39.000 you never find out oh that's a hard one i don't want to ever be quoted on this but i feel like

00:06:45.720 actually let me let me drink first have you seen that have you seen that tick tock that it's like

00:06:50.840 when you catch your billionaire husband and they're having an affair an affair and you're like i didn't

00:06:56.520 see anything like because if you never find out it doesn't affect you and you're just believing the

00:07:01.560 lies i think that's the thing after he sold you the dreams then what what was his intention of selling

00:07:08.680 new dreams to he wanted to wife you he just wanted to wife you and have side pieces if he wanted to

00:07:14.600 wife me and he didn't want to have side pieces then i'd be okay no no no i said he's lying he's

00:07:18.440 selling you the dream as we we said but he's selling a lie well you want you said you said you

00:07:26.440 like being lied to don't burst my bubble yeah never like burst my bubble isn't if someone's like oh i

00:07:31.800 find you really attractive and beautiful like crazy beautiful you look a model and i'm like okay i

00:07:37.000 believe this too i believe this narrative that that narrative doesn't have to involve cheating and if

00:07:42.040 it doesn't why burst that bubble and maybe okay oh she's you're you're five you should be with this

00:07:46.920 like a five two you know you know what a guy can't get with you if he's if he's approached you like

00:07:52.920 you know what i think you're all right you're pretty decent but you know what i like you anyway

00:07:56.840 you're gonna be like what like you're not getting a chance unless you're obsessed with me unless i'm

00:08:01.640 like the best thing you've seen like that's it there's also that as well so you because there's

00:08:05.960 always someone that will treat you that way yeah there's always someone that will treat you what way

00:08:10.920 um i don't know like treat you like they really value you like if you tell someone like yeah you're

00:08:18.280 okay it just seems like do you think we like the guys that put us on pedestals i think we really enjoy

00:08:25.000 that really you think that gets guys laid no no i feel like women enjoy being on the receiving end of

00:08:31.000 being put on this pedestal yeah like i i like i enjoy it women have like a group of men who are

00:08:37.800 just for attention and then i don't know about that there's a guy that they like who they want

00:08:42.760 attention from and there's all the guys that feed them constant attention that makes them feel validated

00:08:47.080 yeah that's the friend zone that's the guys in the dms i don't like none of these guys but they

00:08:51.960 make me feel good about myself yeah the ones that don't have a chance but it's just like yeah thanks

00:08:57.160 anyway yeah if i wanted to i could but do you think guys can move out of that zone out of the

00:09:05.400 friend zone once they're in it i think if a woman has decided something she won't change her mind i 1.00

00:09:11.080 don't know you know i've seen a lot of guys escape it i think there's a frame i think there's there's a

00:09:15.800 particular type of guy who is just very very patient in it yeah and if you wait for the opportunity to

00:09:22.520 strike like cool you've been friends with this girl she's going through break up after break up because 0.51

00:09:26.120 you're always making bad decisions you just have to be there at the right time listen you put them

00:09:33.320 there in it it's more it's more of a long-term investment yeah okay like let's say okay that

00:09:38.920 does happen they hook up one time and she wakes up that joe must be feeling like he won though he

00:09:44.760 won he still got to blow yeah exactly yeah he's still got a lot of his cv improved

00:09:49.560 um wow you you need to see that um a sketch from chris rock when he says why women keep a lot of like

00:09:57.640 guy friends and stuff because they're all we get really yeah last thing youtube it it's such a funny

00:10:04.280 sketch yeah yeah we could we can we'll give him a second but yeah ultimately there comes a time where

00:10:10.200 a woman has to choose between what they always go for which i think is probably not the best 1.00

00:10:15.960 uh partner for them yeah it's probably just the like maybe like the bad but you know how like 0.97

00:10:20.440 women are always like yeah men are trash men are trust but it's like no you need to change what you 1.00

00:10:24.680 go for there's a difference between arousal and attraction attraction is like the guy that you could 0.99

00:10:30.200 take home to mom and dad and he's like the good boyfriend like you're attracted to him from that way

00:10:34.680 and arousal is like the bad boy and i think most girls want like a mix of the two if they can but

00:10:40.280 but typically like there's no mix it's usually one or the other you think so yeah i mean like i don't

00:10:46.280 think most most like stable guys also have that bad boy side to them and i think if you find one you

00:10:54.120 you you try to hold on to them yeah because you know what they pro those stable guys provide peace

00:10:59.080 and obviously peace doesn't mean continuous uh yeah but you're aroused by the drama yeah yeah and i don't

00:11:07.400 think girls this is a much more honest like panel because girls like we don't like to admit that

00:11:12.120 like i mean as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis

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JustPearlyThings - March 30, 2023

She Proved this Fact About Modern Women

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