She Proved this Fact About Modern Women
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the taboo of calling someone fat or ugly, and how to be tactful when dealing with people in society. We also discuss the importance of being tactful and how important it is to have a thick skin.
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and i think it's the human thing i get i think we get too caught up with masculine energy feminine
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energy what's human to do is to look out for somebody i think um women are kind of more
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socialized to kind of beat around the bush you know i mean like to be coy um it's kind of rewarded
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when women are like oh look they're not as like oh i want this this and this i think women are
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rewarded in romantic relationships and friendships and relationships with people in society so so if
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you know that why would you still purposely like or willingly do it willingly so you just said that
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um women are kind of socialized to behave a certain type of way and you know that way you're socialized
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is negative in terms of creating a better outcome for all but yet you still sat here and still went
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i think i i still do this because obviously that's what i'm used to i find it extremely uncomfortable
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to go to someone and call them fat or call them ugly even if they asked you so if i said am i fat
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and i was visibly fat you'd find it uncomfortable to be honest with me and be like you know i would
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find that really uncomfortable for me i feel like they say the words outside out loud like i can think
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certain things in my mind but to directly say to someone straight up like i think you're ugly especially
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if it's in negative terms it would be very difficult for me so we're friends yeah so if i said if i said
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have i gained let's say if i gained 50 pounds yeah and i said did i get fat this is different
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because you would you because you're pearl yeah pearl can handle anything she wants you to be so
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direct but i had german au pairs growing up to german nanny so i know she can handle it so
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okay people don't understand what german nannies german nannies
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so i feel like it also you have to have um a bit of tact and i feel like you need to gauge the
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person as well let's let's let's role play okay oh like i'm beluga i'm beluga okay okay okay okay
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i just got rejected for the 10th time in a row um and he said it was because i'm too thick
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did i did i get fat i know i ate one or two brownies okay or 10 but am i am i fat what's
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your bmi i don't know i haven't i haven't i don't weight myself do you have scales at home
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no okay i have scales i avoid them like the plague no it just gives me anxiety i can't get up the scale
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okay interesting what do you think your bmi is i don't know i just i don't even know how bmi works
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i just i think it's like a scale that's like not real so i feel like they just make that up you know
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doctors to be mean okay do you think you're overweight i mean
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i question it a little bit but that's why i came to you to get the truth
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okay you see how this is really hard for me you see how like i went to every other option
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that was a 101 or beating around the bush yeah i was doing so well i came with a bmi like she could
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have got on the scales we could have worked out together okay let me let me let me try it with
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eddie let me try with eddie you're like all right all right all right so so this is you know i'm at
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you know i'm just like shaking all over yeah yeah eddie it's been a minute since i've seen you
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how are you doing i'm good are you telling me what i'm good how are you i'm good i'm good um
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anyways i i i was walking here and someone called me a whale a whale yeah yeah did i did i get fat i
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ain't gonna lie when i did see you you was looking a bit more chunky than last time i seen you still but
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looks all right the cheeks are grown okay okay so just chunky i'm not i'm not fat no i ain't gonna lie
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you put a mad weight in it like drop a few drop a little something something in you oh but
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mad weight what does that mean am i am i fat you're fat
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he kind of beat around the bush too i kind of like the way you said it though it's playful
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like you was very playful with it you was just like you're fat and ugly yeah that's pretty crazy
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everybody scroll back and then quote unquote she said fat and ugly i feel like no i think i think me
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me not you i don't know no i i didn't you can find out have a look if i said she's fat and ugly i said
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she became attractive because she's because she's healthy that means she would have stayed ugly no but
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you said like um i think you said like you quoted yourself he's like no you said you think you have
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to say i know i know oh okay look back okay can we bet some money or something
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but now i'm playful with it i guess i guess i respect you actually oh thank you because it's good
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to have a friend like you that will call it straight even if it hurts you you're the most
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respected friend i i have to say the thing is that there needs to be context okay so this she tells me
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this over and over again and i try to you know in a polite way and if like um the thing is and like i
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said i am not my existence isn't to just pacify you you know and if you're saying that oh you know
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i have this issue and my weight is this and everything and i was like you know what i have
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to cut this crap you are fat and her radical acceptance is the most powerful thing that's when
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change actually ensued she got healthy and she had a baby that was the objective so so much uh problems
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were avoided with me just being honest with her and if she's an adult she's going to take that and not
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just suddenly forget who i am i'm a good friend i 100 agree with you i think there's a way of like
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doing it with tact so you can be playful about it but if you're honest and real with person it won't
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affect your relationship i wasn't mean i was like you're fat you're fat that's it i feel like if you're
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honest with someone and factual with the person a relationship cannot be destroyed i feel like if
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someone's real with you and tells you something straight if it was a real friendship i don't think
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would affect it is why you don't do it for fear of losing that relationship with the person the the
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reason i don't do it is that i find it extremely uncomfortable i don't think i'm i'm not used to
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doing it i don't practice it i don't know i don't know would you like people to be honest with you
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maybe not no oh you'd like people to lie to you mandems sliding them deals and sell dreams
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no because i all believe those dreams oh yeah and i don't see a problem with that like think about it
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hypothetically let's say if i think that um i'm like really crazy amazing like really really beautiful
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and someone's telling me dreams and i believe the dreams he sells me happily ever after in my
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delusion oh so why pop the bubble so i have a question are you cool with getting cheated on if
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you never find out oh that's a hard one i don't want to ever be quoted on this but i feel like
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actually let me let me drink first have you seen that have you seen that tick tock that it's like
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when you catch your billionaire husband and they're having an affair an affair and you're like i didn't
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see anything like because if you never find out it doesn't affect you and you're just believing the
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lies i think that's the thing after he sold you the dreams then what what was his intention of selling
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new dreams to he wanted to wife you he just wanted to wife you and have side pieces if he wanted to
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wife me and he didn't want to have side pieces then i'd be okay no no no i said he's lying he's
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selling you the dream as we we said but he's selling a lie well you want you said you said you
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like being lied to don't burst my bubble yeah never like burst my bubble isn't if someone's like oh i
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find you really attractive and beautiful like crazy beautiful you look a model and i'm like okay i
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believe this too i believe this narrative that that narrative doesn't have to involve cheating and if
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it doesn't why burst that bubble and maybe okay oh she's you're you're five you should be with this
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like a five two you know you know what a guy can't get with you if he's if he's approached you like
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you know what i think you're all right you're pretty decent but you know what i like you anyway
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you're gonna be like what like you're not getting a chance unless you're obsessed with me unless i'm
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like the best thing you've seen like that's it there's also that as well so you because there's
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always someone that will treat you that way yeah there's always someone that will treat you what way
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um i don't know like treat you like they really value you like if you tell someone like yeah you're
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okay it just seems like do you think we like the guys that put us on pedestals i think we really enjoy
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that really you think that gets guys laid no no i feel like women enjoy being on the receiving end of
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being put on this pedestal yeah like i i like i enjoy it women have like a group of men who are
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just for attention and then i don't know about that there's a guy that they like who they want
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attention from and there's all the guys that feed them constant attention that makes them feel validated
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yeah that's the friend zone that's the guys in the dms i don't like none of these guys but they
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make me feel good about myself yeah the ones that don't have a chance but it's just like yeah thanks
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anyway yeah if i wanted to i could but do you think guys can move out of that zone out of the
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friend zone once they're in it i think if a woman has decided something she won't change her mind i
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don't know you know i've seen a lot of guys escape it i think there's a frame i think there's there's a
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particular type of guy who is just very very patient in it yeah and if you wait for the opportunity to
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strike like cool you've been friends with this girl she's going through break up after break up because
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you're always making bad decisions you just have to be there at the right time listen you put them
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there in it it's more it's more of a long-term investment yeah okay like let's say okay that
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does happen they hook up one time and she wakes up that joe must be feeling like he won though he
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won he still got to blow yeah exactly yeah he's still got a lot of his cv improved
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um wow you you need to see that um a sketch from chris rock when he says why women keep a lot of like
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guy friends and stuff because they're all we get really yeah last thing youtube it it's such a funny
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sketch yeah yeah we could we can we'll give him a second but yeah ultimately there comes a time where
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a woman has to choose between what they always go for which i think is probably not the best
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uh partner for them yeah it's probably just the like maybe like the bad but you know how like
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women are always like yeah men are trash men are trust but it's like no you need to change what you
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go for there's a difference between arousal and attraction attraction is like the guy that you could
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take home to mom and dad and he's like the good boyfriend like you're attracted to him from that way
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and arousal is like the bad boy and i think most girls want like a mix of the two if they can but
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but typically like there's no mix it's usually one or the other you think so yeah i mean like i don't
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think most most like stable guys also have that bad boy side to them and i think if you find one you
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you you try to hold on to them yeah because you know what they pro those stable guys provide peace
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and obviously peace doesn't mean continuous uh yeah but you're aroused by the drama yeah yeah and i don't
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think girls this is a much more honest like panel because girls like we don't like to admit that
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like i mean as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis
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