JustPearlyThings - August 02, 2023


She Said THIS About Attractive Men


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13 minutes

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2,600

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361

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Misogyny

33

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In this episode, we talk about the importance of looks and personality in a relationship and why they are more important than they are not. We also talk about why women are more attracted to looks than personality and why men are more likely to remarry.

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00:00:00.000 Like, men will remarry more likely than women. 0.93
00:00:04.880 I have a question.
00:00:06.340 I guess I am.
00:00:07.540 Do women go for looks more than personality? 1.00
00:00:11.460 No.
00:00:12.720 Huh?
00:00:13.040 Say again?
00:00:13.680 Well, actually, most women, but I think that's what I was saying about using eyes. 1.00
00:00:17.320 Let's be honest now.
00:00:17.960 No.
00:00:18.700 I'm be pressing no.
00:00:20.160 But know what?
00:00:20.760 What?
00:00:21.160 I would go for personality overlook.
00:00:23.360 I'll come.
00:00:23.960 Obviously, you have to be attracted to them in some way.
00:00:26.880 Yeah.
00:00:27.140 But, like, can we put a face to it?
00:00:29.600 Thank you.
00:00:29.860 Thank you.
00:00:30.840 Do you know what I mean?
00:00:31.880 I give a whole bunch.
00:00:33.000 I'm ready for this.
00:00:34.520 Can you give me two men, a side-by-side?
00:00:38.340 Thank you.
00:00:39.100 But we don't know them.
00:00:40.280 Two pictures.
00:00:41.160 Come on.
00:00:41.580 No, I know.
00:00:41.880 But we can just say one is funny and one is a square, right?
00:00:46.540 I think it is like looks bring you in and then personality keeps you.
00:00:50.580 I think both sides.
00:00:51.620 So then looks.
00:00:53.500 So then it's the looks that's first.
00:00:55.680 Because you can't.
00:00:56.380 You know what I mean?
00:00:57.240 You know what I mean?
00:00:57.880 You can't be attracted to the personality.
00:00:59.940 Say, for instance, you have a friend, right?
00:01:00.660 And you've got to know them over a certain amount of time.
00:01:03.960 Yeah.
00:01:04.400 You didn't necessarily find them attractive at first.
00:01:06.140 But because you spent so much time with them.
00:01:08.280 Come on.
00:01:09.460 No, man.
00:01:10.460 And then they're like, you're batted to the bench and all this kind of stuff.
00:01:13.500 And then that's what you're doing.
00:01:14.280 The worst thing you see when you say a guy is he's cute.
00:01:16.220 Right.
00:01:17.260 Yeah, but.
00:01:17.980 And then you start looking for the thing that's cute on him.
00:01:19.880 You guys are boring.
00:01:21.880 They don't have personality.
00:01:22.360 I don't know who you're talking to.
00:01:27.720 Quite basic.
00:01:31.820 I'd rather.
00:01:33.180 Yeah.
00:01:33.920 But you're right.
00:01:34.740 Like if there's someone that you work with, like someone that you're in their proximity,
00:01:38.540 it can grow.
00:01:40.380 It can.
00:01:41.160 But then at the same time, it's looks.
00:01:43.040 You're going to look at somebody first hand and be like, oh, this guy or this girl looks good.
00:01:46.780 Let me know a bit more about that person.
00:01:49.200 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:01:50.320 Yeah.
00:01:50.860 I got to.
00:01:51.720 I got to be honest.
00:01:53.840 Looks first.
00:01:54.820 It has to be.
00:01:55.800 Come on.
00:01:56.420 I feel like if you make it like personality first, you're just not as attractive.
00:02:01.140 You know, it's like.
00:02:01.660 Come on.
00:02:02.200 You're just going to friend zone that person.
00:02:03.820 Right.
00:02:04.360 In what context are we actually talking about?
00:02:07.500 Like if a good looking guy comes up to me.
00:02:10.360 You got him.
00:02:10.880 You got him.
00:02:11.740 Okay.
00:02:13.340 All right.
00:02:13.900 Yeah.
00:02:14.040 Let's go.
00:02:14.560 Let's go.
00:02:15.320 Let's go.
00:02:15.900 All right.
00:02:16.380 He's got brilliant personality though.
00:02:18.860 Yeah.
00:02:19.200 Yeah.
00:02:19.520 Yeah.
00:02:19.800 One hundred percent.
00:02:20.620 And he is a dog.
00:02:21.840 This does not work through.
00:02:23.060 This does not work through photos.
00:02:24.980 This is literally.
00:02:26.400 You get to know someone.
00:02:27.180 No.
00:02:27.700 Be real.
00:02:28.040 Is this who we would pick?
00:02:29.020 That's two amazing photos.
00:02:29.860 All right.
00:02:30.180 So, you know.
00:02:31.100 I mean.
00:02:31.500 He's got great personality.
00:02:32.860 And he's a dog.
00:02:33.780 Yeah.
00:02:34.600 So, what are you looking at?
00:02:36.500 Are you looking at the personality then?
00:02:38.320 No.
00:02:38.560 It's deeper than that.
00:02:40.020 I'm not talking about.
00:02:41.360 Watch someone on TV.
00:02:42.720 You're like, oh, yeah.
00:02:43.660 Are we delusional here now?
00:02:45.220 No.
00:02:45.440 It's about you connecting with that person.
00:02:47.720 Delusional woman. 1.00
00:02:48.700 Delusional.
00:02:49.780 It's about you connecting with that person.
00:02:52.320 It's got nothing to do with whether they're a comedian or not.
00:02:53.740 So, what would you go for?
00:02:55.060 Is there a guy on the left's personality like Amrisa?
00:02:56.720 I don't know.
00:02:57.280 I don't even know.
00:02:57.960 But you know what, yeah?
00:02:59.000 Are we choosing?
00:03:00.040 I'll be honest.
00:03:00.580 One guy's a comedian.
00:03:01.460 The other guy's obviously awesome.
00:03:02.040 Yeah, but forget that, yeah.
00:03:03.360 I'll be very honest, though.
00:03:04.880 There's been a lot of relationships that I've seen that, yeah, they're with that person based
00:03:09.180 on personality.
00:03:09.900 And sometimes I wonder how.
00:03:11.640 It's a beautiful thing because it's like, you know, you two connect energy-wise and whatever.
00:03:15.220 It is a beautiful thing.
00:03:16.440 But then I kind of feel like, well, where does it go?
00:03:21.440 How does a, you know, how did you attract that person?
00:03:24.860 You said it could be a friend.
00:03:26.120 But let's say it wasn't a friend.
00:03:27.020 Let's say that I'm approaching you.
00:03:28.280 Let's say I'm approaching you now.
00:03:29.900 Hi, how are you?
00:03:32.000 You're going to look at me before I speak.
00:03:34.340 That's what I'm saying.
00:03:34.880 Do you know what I mean?
00:03:35.300 There has to be some sort of attraction.
00:03:37.140 There has to be some sort of attraction.
00:03:38.280 So, then looks has to play a big part.
00:03:39.980 But that's only if you're not in their proximity.
00:03:41.800 Yeah, I agree with you.
00:03:42.780 If you don't know the person, looks bring you in.
00:03:44.420 But if you're choosing someone with them or something.
00:03:48.680 I have a theory with that.
00:03:50.540 I'm one of the ladies. 0.78
00:03:51.560 You tell me if this is true.
00:03:53.300 So, there's immediate yes.
00:03:54.980 You see him, immediate yes.
00:03:56.540 Yeah.
00:03:56.800 Yeah, that's my type.
00:03:58.340 Immediate no.
00:03:59.360 There's nothing the guy in the no category could ever do to become a yes.
00:04:03.040 Yeah.
00:04:03.360 And then there's the maybes.
00:04:05.000 Okay.
00:04:05.400 So, the maybes are like, depending on what he says, he could be a yes or a no.
00:04:13.080 Some girls see men and they're like, oh, I have to get this. 0.78
00:04:16.240 Yeah.
00:04:16.900 I have to get this.
00:04:18.000 Yeah, but I've...
00:04:19.300 He's cute.
00:04:19.880 He's mine tonight.
00:04:20.700 Come on.
00:04:21.340 Girls speak like that. 1.00
00:04:22.300 I don't have one night stand.
00:04:24.340 So, not he's mine tonight.
00:04:25.560 I'm just saying, like, there's a lot of females. 1.00
00:04:28.060 I wouldn't want someone that's really, really, really attractive.
00:04:31.980 Why not?
00:04:32.420 I just wouldn't.
00:04:33.580 Doesn't that make you tingle?
00:04:34.880 Like, ooh, look at this.
00:04:36.400 I have a theory on this, too.
00:04:39.000 I have a theory.
00:04:40.220 You know what I mean?
00:04:40.940 I feel like when women say this, when women in general, not saying you, but it's because
00:04:47.420 they don't want to compete for that guy.
00:04:49.400 It's like they would have to do too much.
00:04:52.060 The girls are throwing themselves at him.
00:04:55.520 It's just like, we don't need that trouble in our lives.
00:04:58.640 You don't see a guy in the night and be like, oh, I wonder what his personality is like.
00:05:02.480 Never.
00:05:03.780 Yeah, but a lot of girls don't give the good looking guy or any guy a chance to even show 1.00
00:05:09.040 personality.
00:05:09.960 So, it's almost like, mate, everybody's at the same level.
00:05:13.120 You feel hard done by.
00:05:14.500 I mean, everybody has been, isn't it?
00:05:16.580 You know what I'm saying?
00:05:17.540 You know, like, I haven't always been successful.
00:05:20.860 Let's be real.
00:05:21.600 Like, everybody's been shut down.
00:05:23.640 Like, I'm sure most women have, too.
00:05:26.340 Like, it's not, you know.
00:05:27.920 But at the same time, it is a good question.
00:05:30.580 Because for me, like I said, I've seen relationships where, you know, how did I get together?
00:05:35.740 Like, she is a 10 and he's a minus 5.
00:05:38.920 It happens way more that way around as well, which is why I think women do grow for personality 1.00
00:05:44.380 more than looks than men.
00:05:46.680 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:05:47.360 Well, also, women find 80% of men as unattractive.
00:05:51.280 Not okay.
00:05:52.400 Not he's all right.
00:05:53.120 Like, they think 80% of men are ugly.
00:05:55.660 Really?
00:05:56.080 How?
00:05:56.360 Why?
00:05:56.560 If they, you know, if they see 10 men and they say, do you find him attractive?
00:06:00.620 They say, no, I do not at all.
00:06:02.780 He's ugly to eight of them.
00:06:03.980 On what world?
00:06:04.920 I don't, I don't.
00:06:05.880 I can see that.
00:06:06.740 I don't see that.
00:06:07.100 So, you could do, there are some studies where they just ask, they show them pictures and
00:06:11.800 the women, this is what the women say. 1.00
00:06:13.100 Or you can also look at dating app data where women only swipe right roughly 5% of the time.
00:06:18.400 Mm-hmm.
00:06:19.320 True.
00:06:19.640 Fair enough.
00:06:19.980 So, where men, on the other hand, they swipe right 50% of the time.
00:06:24.940 We're like, our finger hurts.
00:06:27.080 Yes, yes, yes.
00:06:27.640 Our finger hurts.
00:06:28.900 That's to do with the sex thing where we can choose who we sleep with, who we see. 0.98
00:06:35.160 Men can't as much.
00:06:36.680 So, they're probably just like, they're probably not looking for a relationship when they're clicking
00:06:40.160 50%.
00:06:40.980 Can I ask you a question?
00:06:41.780 Well, that's the number one way people are meeting.
00:06:43.700 That's the number one way people are meeting today.
00:06:46.160 And you could argue that nowadays, sex comes before relationships.
00:06:50.000 Thank you.
00:06:50.540 So, in a way, the sex is where it starts.
00:06:55.080 Right.
00:06:55.540 I'm not happy with this world.
00:06:57.960 It's not a relationship.
00:06:58.860 So, the question I want to ask you is, all right, cool.
00:07:02.220 So, if, I don't know, you're going to have a one-night stand or if you had a one-night stand
00:07:07.700 or whatever, you're going to be attracted by his looks rather than his personality.
00:07:12.540 I don't have one-night stand.
00:07:13.440 No, no, but if you were the, if, do you know what I'm saying?
00:07:15.600 I'm not saying you have, or I'm not saying if you would, but I'm saying it would be your
00:07:19.040 looks, right?
00:07:20.000 I need to connect more than their looks.
00:07:22.040 That's why I don't have them because I wouldn't even want to.
00:07:24.540 Even if I thought they were really attractive, I'd be like, I don't feel connected to you.
00:07:30.160 Fair enough.
00:07:30.760 It's just not, it's not the kind of sex that I have.
00:07:32.380 You know, it is deeper women, though, isn't it? 1.00
00:07:32.940 It is deeper.
00:07:33.800 I can't understand that.
00:07:35.860 I think it's just the people that's here because we're going to have other women who would see 0.82
00:07:40.720 it differently.
00:07:41.500 As a man, would you be a woman based on personality? 0.57
00:07:45.960 100%.
00:07:46.400 Everything.
00:07:47.280 She ticks, but she's not like your type. 0.98
00:07:50.480 I'm not saying she's ugly. 0.97
00:07:51.720 She's just not your type. 1.00
00:07:52.220 Shoot, yeah, there's times I've approached a girl, well, before my relationship, of course,
00:07:57.940 and get that in there. 0.91
00:08:00.580 Not now, though.
00:08:01.260 Not now.
00:08:02.920 You're looking all pretty and that, but then when I walk up to you and you open your mouth,
00:08:07.460 I'm like, no.
00:08:10.740 As soon as you open a mouth, I'm like, no.
00:08:12.680 Would you agree she has to be over a certain baseline, though?
00:08:15.860 You ain't dating no girl that's like 300 pounds. 1.00
00:08:19.560 No.
00:08:20.200 Yeah, yeah.
00:08:20.800 You know you don't agree, or yes, you would date 300 pounds.
00:08:25.240 You dating her?
00:08:25.960 No.
00:08:26.380 Okay.
00:08:26.880 Yeah.
00:08:27.060 Each that I know.
00:08:27.840 So there has to be like a basic level of attracting.
00:08:29.460 Yeah, I was just going to say that.
00:08:29.740 That's just my preference.
00:08:31.380 Yeah.
00:08:31.820 Exactly, and everybody has their own types.
00:08:33.200 Everybody has their own preference.
00:08:34.420 Some guys only like bigger women, so. 1.00
00:08:36.600 Now, is that in stone?
00:08:37.900 Yeah, no.
00:08:38.760 There's men that like big women. 0.97
00:08:40.020 There are exceptions, though.
00:08:40.480 I think it's a cultural thing as well.
00:08:42.300 Okay, so if...
00:08:42.900 Caribbean, African men.
00:08:44.240 I'm just going to add the way I'm from.
00:08:45.620 There's men not like the other women. 1.00
00:08:46.680 I'm going to break this down.
00:08:48.360 All right.
00:08:48.460 Okay.
00:08:48.760 So if men, if men really liked bigger women, right?
00:08:53.360 If that was really their type, why is it when men have all the options to sleep with whoever 0.90
00:08:59.440 they want, money, status, looks, who do they pick? 0.92
00:09:04.100 A slim one.
00:09:04.960 A slim woman. 1.00
00:09:06.300 Slim woman. 0.98
00:09:07.060 I'm just going, I'm not going from statistics.
00:09:09.820 I'm going from real life and experience and being around, you know.
00:09:13.160 No, this is real life.
00:09:13.480 Look at, look at this.
00:09:16.740 No, but I'm saying the guys that like bigger women, they usually don't have options. 1.00
00:09:20.740 That's true.
00:09:21.600 That's true.
00:09:22.660 Hey, that is facts.
00:09:24.440 Yeah.
00:09:25.160 That is facts.
00:09:26.140 That's the real thing.
00:09:27.660 It's like the men that are like, oh, I'm not picky.
00:09:30.880 Well, you can't be.
00:09:32.840 No, I can't lie.
00:09:35.040 She put a name in that. 0.96
00:09:36.400 No, what is 300 pounds in stone?
00:09:38.760 I just want to check because are we talking about, obviously curvy girls are appreciated, 0.50
00:09:43.040 but if it's big, big, then yeah.
00:09:47.120 Well, but also there is still guys that like it, but I don't think they're in the minority.
00:09:51.160 21 stone.
00:09:53.320 Yeah, I think they're in the minority.
00:09:54.900 How much pounds is that?
00:09:56.340 That's 300 pounds.
00:09:57.860 300, yeah.
00:09:58.500 Yeah, that's a lot.
00:09:59.760 21 stone.
00:10:01.060 Yeah, yeah.
00:10:02.140 That's like, here, show.
00:10:03.840 Blessing's got a picture.
00:10:04.760 21 inches and stuff.
00:10:06.780 Yeah, I was about to say that.
00:10:08.500 I was about to say that.
00:10:09.280 You've got feeders and all this kind of stuff.
00:10:11.720 Whoa.
00:10:12.320 Guys, probably a small percentage, but there are like feeders and they love fattening their
00:10:16.620 women up.
00:10:17.380 But see, this is the problem right here.
00:10:20.180 That's not.
00:10:20.680 You're the problem a little bit.
00:10:22.680 Who, me?
00:10:23.140 Respectfully.
00:10:23.540 Yeah, because, okay.
00:10:24.480 Because it's like you keep saying, yeah, yeah.
00:10:26.200 Because this is how we live in this delusion.
00:10:27.700 You're the problem, babe.
00:10:28.440 Yeah, respectfully.
00:10:29.460 Because we keep living in this clown world of delusion because we keep telling women, 1.00
00:10:35.640 oh, there's some guys that like that, da, da, da, da, da.
00:10:38.560 You don't look like that.
00:10:40.060 You know if you looked like that.
00:10:41.460 No, guys would be lining up.
00:10:42.880 You're beautiful.
00:10:43.620 So it's like, you're going to have these outcomes.
00:10:47.400 And if I said you look like her, you would be offended.
00:10:50.700 I mean.
00:10:51.680 I mean.
00:10:53.400 You would be so offended.
00:10:54.760 I mean, I wouldn't be offended because I know I don't look like that.
00:10:57.220 Imagine you got cheated on with her.
00:11:01.020 I'd be like, you can have him.
00:11:02.480 The thing is, I do have a couple of beautiful friends that do weigh a lot and their personality
00:11:09.260 is unbelievable.
00:11:10.300 Can I see?
00:11:11.120 Can I see them?
00:11:12.240 I want to see if they are.
00:11:13.120 I won't show the screen.
00:11:14.300 I just want to see like between me and you.
00:11:16.100 You have your phone.
00:11:17.320 No, I just don't think that's fair.
00:11:20.700 I'll show you after.
00:11:21.780 Honestly, like she has the most beautiful face like ever.
00:11:25.680 And she does have curves as well as being overweight. 1.00
00:11:28.020 So there's definitely guys that will like it.
00:11:30.000 And her personality is, it's one of the best personalities I've ever met.
00:11:32.800 So I do think she's still attractive and she should be. 0.99
00:11:35.760 But I think she's probably an exception.
00:11:38.020 Yeah.
00:11:38.240 And also like my sister is a larger lady. 1.00
00:11:41.120 And she's beautiful.
00:11:44.240 She's stunning.
00:11:44.660 Can I see?
00:11:45.240 She's, you can see a picture of her.
00:11:46.960 She's absolutely stunning.
00:11:48.200 Because a lot of times we use these words.
00:11:49.980 And when I see stunning, I see like eights, sevens to tens.
00:11:54.540 That's like stunning for me.
00:11:55.920 Let me find a picture.
00:11:56.700 My sister is amazing.
00:11:57.940 So I feel at that specific weight.
00:12:01.660 I will show it on the camera.
00:12:03.860 I would help my woman to get fit and healthy.
00:12:08.320 My sister is amazing.
00:12:09.140 So if you really likes her personality, you can just get her in the gym. 0.90
00:12:12.280 What?
00:12:13.380 She wouldn't get in the door.
00:12:14.920 She couldn't fit.
00:12:16.360 That's what I was going to say.
00:12:17.720 Oh no.
00:12:18.500 It's at a specific weight.
00:12:19.800 Because 300 pounds is like.
00:12:21.400 That's a lot.
00:12:21.940 To get there.
00:12:22.540 This is the most recent picture of it.
00:12:23.940 It's only her face, but.
00:12:25.040 Yeah, she's beautiful. 0.87
00:12:26.320 Did I meet her?
00:12:27.060 I met her at the show.
00:12:29.120 She's cute, but like I can see she's fat. 1.00
00:12:32.420 Yeah, she's chugging. 1.00
00:12:34.320 Okay, so she's gay. 0.93
00:12:36.460 When she was younger, she did date guys.
00:12:40.220 When I mean, when we go out, I'm not even seen.
00:12:45.720 Like she's got a big.
00:12:48.080 Bunda.
00:12:49.280 Yeah.
00:12:50.400 And like she gets harassed by guys.
00:12:53.640 Literally.
00:12:54.280 Like it's unreal.
00:12:55.380 And that's why I say.
00:12:56.180 Actually, Blassing, I think this would be really great to go into our next topic.
00:13:00.080 Oh.