JustPearlyThings - June 12, 2023


She Said This About Short Guys


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10 minutes

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2,232

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231

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Misogyny

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In this episode we talk about short men shaming fat women, fat chicks shaming short men and why men don t like fat chicks. We also talk about body positivity and why it's not just for women. We hope you enjoy this episode and don't forget to subscribe on your favourite streaming platform so you never miss an episode.

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00:00:00.000 But that's why, you know, body positivity is not for men.
00:00:02.240 It's just for women. 1.00
00:00:03.040 Yeah.
00:00:03.600 Fat guys are still fat guys.
00:00:05.200 Short guys are still short guys.
00:00:06.640 No one cares about that.
00:00:08.080 Body positivity is for girls.
00:00:09.360 If there is short men shaming, they say body shaming.
00:00:13.600 Like five, was it five, seven energy or whatever.
00:00:17.040 I actually think, is being a short man the equivalent of being an overweight woman? 0.56
00:00:21.040 What classifies as a short man as well?
00:00:22.720 And what classifies as overweight?
00:00:25.680 Short men are allowed to be angry and overweight women kind of aren't allowed to be angry.
00:00:29.520 They are though.
00:00:30.640 What are you talking about?
00:00:31.520 They're all angry.
00:00:36.640 If a fat woman's angry, it's like, oh, it's weird. 0.99
00:00:39.920 It's worse than a short man being angry. 0.55
00:00:42.480 You see a short, angry man every day.
00:00:50.080 You could at least like do something to be able to change it.
00:00:52.000 But when you're short as a guy, short as generally anyway,
00:00:54.800 that's why I call it short people syndrome as well,
00:00:57.120 because they just go mad for no reason.
00:00:58.080 I think that, I think that, I'm not going to say it.
00:01:00.720 I mean, I just said, I guess.
00:01:02.080 Pearl has experience with it.
00:01:03.520 I've been attacked by a fat chick. 1.00
00:01:05.040 Yeah.
00:01:06.080 I will.
00:01:06.960 First hand experience.
00:01:08.400 I've never been attacked by a short man, but the fat chicks come for you. 1.00
00:01:12.000 Yeah.
00:01:12.960 Why?
00:01:13.440 They have the heart to be jolly, man.
00:01:14.880 They're big.
00:01:15.440 Okay.
00:01:16.400 It's like a trigger, basically.
00:01:17.760 Yeah.
00:01:18.240 With all this body positivity that is going on.
00:01:20.400 But you know what's worse about this?
00:01:21.600 And what's the frustration that comes from it?
00:01:23.280 Like that's something that can be done, but women will like ridicule guys for their height 1.00
00:01:28.320 and they can, there's nothing they can do.
00:01:29.680 No, you can get, you can get, you can get your shins. 0.63
00:01:32.000 Yeah, but even that's you.
00:01:32.960 Okay.
00:01:34.000 But I'll give you two sentences, right?
00:01:36.800 What do you think would have more of a public uproar?
00:01:39.680 So I say, I don't date short guys.
00:01:42.880 Men don't like fat chicks. 1.00
00:01:44.400 Second one.
00:01:45.200 Yeah, of course.
00:01:45.760 Men don't like fat chicks. 1.00
00:01:48.320 Uproar from who?
00:01:49.120 The media.
00:01:49.840 I feel like the media is controlled by the feminine energy. 1.00
00:01:56.000 By both groups.
00:01:57.120 Yeah.
00:01:57.600 Like I say I don't date short guys and I never really have a reaction.
00:02:01.440 I don't get short men that are mad.
00:02:03.280 But if I say men don't date fat chicks, typically. 1.00
00:02:06.560 I have this in real time.
00:02:08.000 I said I have never dated a girl over size 12.
00:02:10.800 It got picked up by UK gossip and everyone slated me for it.
00:02:13.920 Do you guys ever date fat chicks?
00:02:15.520 I like, listen, I see you.
00:02:17.200 No, no, no.
00:02:18.480 I'm fat and thick, innit?
00:02:20.960 Because he said size 12.
00:02:21.840 Now, I know some girls are size 12. 1.00
00:02:23.440 And god damn, they're voluptuous. 0.99
00:02:24.880 Good, juicy.
00:02:25.760 I wouldn't call that fat.
00:02:26.800 You got fat on you, but that's not fat to me.
00:02:28.720 So like, it kind of depends.
00:02:30.080 You could be fat and shaped.
00:02:31.120 I love you.
00:02:31.600 What is actually fat?
00:02:32.800 What?
00:02:33.120 No shape.
00:02:33.760 No shape.
00:02:34.320 But you're not attractive.
00:02:35.920 Like that's, that's something that needs to be worked on.
00:02:37.520 That's the preference.
00:02:38.160 Yeah, I think that it's okay to accept that being overweight,
00:02:40.720 even when I put on weight, I accept that I'm not attractive in this moment.
00:02:43.360 Like if I put on weight and stuff, I don't think it's anything.
00:02:45.280 How much weight you put on, why you don't think you try to?
00:02:47.120 Um, I've never been that big.
00:02:48.800 The most I've ever been is probably 65 kg.
00:02:51.120 I think that's the most.
00:02:52.080 Do you know how much I weigh?
00:02:53.120 Do you want to guess how much I weigh?
00:02:54.720 But for me, that's fat.
00:02:55.840 And then I do just accept I'm less attractive.
00:02:58.000 I don't think, I don't get offended by it.
00:02:59.600 How, how do you like, are there any indicators like within like the guys
00:03:02.640 that approach you depending on what your weight is?
00:03:04.800 Yes, you know it is.
00:03:06.720 We won't talk about it, but yeah.
00:03:08.560 I know I've lost weight when I appeal to a certain demographic,
00:03:11.280 and I know I've gained weight when I appeal to a different demographic,
00:03:14.080 and make of that what you will.
00:03:15.280 Yeah.
00:03:15.920 We won't.
00:03:17.360 Okay.
00:03:18.640 Okay.
00:03:19.120 Okay.
00:03:19.440 Okay.
00:03:19.760 So following Tom and Tom and Giselle,
00:03:23.840 how long is too long to move on?
00:03:26.160 Or do you think that after a divorce, there's a certain amount of time
00:03:29.680 you should wait to move on?
00:03:31.040 Yeah.
00:03:31.520 Yeah.
00:03:32.080 No.
00:03:32.640 Absolutely.
00:03:34.320 Okay.
00:03:34.640 So how, how long is that?
00:03:37.280 I'd say maybe a year.
00:03:40.480 I know if you want to see someone before then,
00:03:42.320 just don't be super bait about it.
00:03:44.320 I think women tend to move on quicker than men anyway, 1.00
00:03:47.360 but yeah, I'd say about a year.
00:03:50.000 If you're doing something there, just try and keep it under wraps a little bit.
00:03:53.360 I'll say five to seven working days.
00:03:58.000 Do you know what it is?
00:03:58.960 Yeah.
00:03:59.200 Like women, this is what I kind of read about women. 1.00
00:04:01.120 Women will go through this emotional transition straight away and kind of get over it. 1.00
00:04:06.080 And, you know, they have the girls kind of gassing them up along the way, 1.00
00:04:09.680 where guys will kind of brave it out.
00:04:11.280 And then maybe like six months down the line and just,
00:04:13.280 he just gets a shot in his chest when he just remembers like he lost you.
00:04:16.720 And it's like one of those things that kind of hits men a bit later on.
00:04:19.440 Yeah.
00:04:20.000 But I think, um, yeah, just get out there, man.
00:04:22.320 Cause if you're going to spend time thinking about that person and,
00:04:24.800 you know, that time is gone.
00:04:26.320 I would say a year, especially if you've got kids, I don't think you should bring,
00:04:30.320 I think when you start distracting yourself with men, when you've got kids,
00:04:33.280 your priority no longer becomes your kids.
00:04:35.440 So I think the priority post divorce should be their wellbeing.
00:04:39.280 And that should take a year for both of them.
00:04:40.880 They need to adapt and adjust.
00:04:42.240 So if you're out there meeting new men, immediately your kids are suffering.
00:04:46.000 And I don't think that's a good look.
00:04:47.200 Yeah.
00:04:47.600 Actually, what's the marriage situation?
00:04:49.040 Cause she's right.
00:04:49.600 Cause it's different if you've got kids and if you don't have kids for.
00:04:52.640 With kids.
00:04:54.800 What about you guys?
00:04:55.520 Um, yeah, I would say a year as well.
00:04:56.800 I mean, uh, you should give yourself a break as well to understand what's going on.
00:05:00.320 And you shouldn't just like, like complete the void of the previous man with another one
00:05:04.320 or the woman, if that makes sense.
00:05:05.840 So give yourself a break to understand because he said emotional,
00:05:08.960 you know, you go through some emotional transitions and all that.
00:05:12.160 So you need to give yourself a break to understand what's going on.
00:05:15.120 What about you?
00:05:16.160 I think, yeah.
00:05:17.040 You were like, go, go right away.
00:05:18.960 I was like, no, because one, I feel like if it's a divorce,
00:05:22.320 then it's probably been like a long time coming.
00:05:24.080 So, you know, I don't know.
00:05:25.920 You probably are in a mental space where you're already ready to step out of the relationship.
00:05:30.400 But then with having kids, it makes it a bit more sticky.
00:05:33.280 Cause like, yeah, you can't really be bringing random people around with your kids.
00:05:37.360 But you know, you don't have to necessarily even bring them home or anything.
00:05:42.080 I've got something to add.
00:05:42.880 I would say as soon as you feel like it.
00:05:46.080 Think about how it broke down and try and fix that about yourself.
00:05:50.560 Like what you paid a part in that.
00:05:52.160 Yeah.
00:05:52.400 And then when you kind of feel like you're making headway with it,
00:05:54.880 then get into a relationship.
00:05:56.240 But I feel like all you lot are capping with the moving on in terms of like physically,
00:05:59.920 I think emotionally, like maybe give it a bit of time
00:06:04.080 after you've actually figured out what happened in your last one.
00:06:07.040 Do you guys think that women mentally leave before they break up a relationship?
00:06:11.440 Listen, I forgot to say this.
00:06:12.960 I don't want to have guaranteed sex with you anymore, regardless of your headache.
00:06:16.560 You're doing too much.
00:06:17.200 You're doing way too much.
00:06:18.480 You're doing way too much.
00:06:21.680 So have you guys ever mentally broken up with someone before you've broken up with someone?
00:06:26.400 Yeah.
00:06:26.720 Yeah.
00:06:27.200 Okay.
00:06:27.600 So I'll start, start with you.
00:06:30.000 When, um, how long were you together?
00:06:33.680 Like, uh, like five, four years.
00:06:38.320 Okay.
00:06:38.720 And mentally, when did you break up with him?
00:06:40.800 Like, when did you know you were going to dump him?
00:06:42.880 Like.
00:06:47.520 Oh, I probably like.
00:06:51.440 Um, okay.
00:06:52.240 Can I just scrap that one?
00:06:53.200 Cause that one was actually a really of a mess on and off one.
00:06:56.800 So this one, we were together about like three months and I knew in two months that I wanted
00:07:02.560 to dump him.
00:07:03.520 Okay.
00:07:04.160 That's not that bad a month.
00:07:05.600 Yeah.
00:07:06.400 So the, the four or five or the four year one, you, you don't know.
00:07:10.480 It's like, we were on and off throughout the whole four years.
00:07:12.640 So I can't, I don't think it really counts as.
00:07:14.960 Oh, okay.
00:07:15.440 I was just, after the first time we broke up, I was over it.
00:07:18.320 After the first time.
00:07:19.680 Yeah.
00:07:20.000 And then how many times you get back together?
00:07:24.160 Couple.
00:07:24.560 Yeah.
00:07:26.080 What's that, the alpha ghost?
00:07:26.960 Is that the alpha ghost you're talking about?
00:07:28.080 Alpha Widow.
00:07:28.400 Alpha Widow.
00:07:28.960 Lucky, lucky.
00:07:29.920 I was triggered when you said that.
00:07:31.040 Cause I was like, damn.
00:07:33.520 I'm really.
00:07:35.360 What about you?
00:07:36.880 Um, I would say three months before breaking up.
00:07:38.880 Three months.
00:07:39.520 What about you?
00:07:40.400 I haven't been in that situation.
00:07:41.760 Okay.
00:07:42.400 Okay.
00:07:43.280 What about you guys?
00:07:44.160 Have you guys ever done that?
00:07:45.120 Yeah.
00:07:45.440 Yeah.
00:07:45.760 I had a strike system.
00:07:50.400 She didn't even last two weeks. 0.81
00:07:51.760 And you know what?
00:07:52.560 It's not, it's not about her though.
00:07:53.680 Like that was just my bad vetting stage in it.
00:07:55.680 Like I had a terrible vetting process at that time.
00:07:58.320 Okay.
00:07:58.960 And so, cause she didn't last the two weeks.
00:08:00.160 So I think that's more to do with me.
00:08:01.680 Were you dating her two weeks?
00:08:02.960 Nah, I was dating her for a little while.
00:08:04.480 And then she was like, yo, I'm gonna do all these things when we get serious.
00:08:07.120 So I'm like, all right, cool.
00:08:07.920 Let's see.
00:08:08.240 Yeah.
00:08:09.240 And yeah, that two weeks just went quick.
00:08:11.360 It was like a, you know when, yeah, free strikes.
00:08:14.720 What did she do? 0.80
00:08:15.920 Before the strike.
00:08:17.920 I'll give you, I'll give you, I'll give you, I'll give you one.
00:08:20.480 I'll give you one.
00:08:21.200 Um, uh, she just, she just disrespected herself on, online. 0.74
00:08:28.320 Oh, okay.
00:08:29.360 I'll put it that way.
00:08:30.160 I don't want to get into it, but yeah.
00:08:31.680 Like what, a booty pic?
00:08:34.000 Something in that atmosphere.
00:08:35.280 All right, all right.
00:08:38.640 And what, she did that three times? 1.00
00:08:39.920 Nah, nah, nah, nah, nah.
00:08:41.040 The same week?
00:08:42.160 Nah, they were just other three.
00:08:43.040 Do you know what it is?
00:08:44.320 It's like some, some people's behaviors might be triggers for you to act out our character
00:08:49.200 or mess up your vibes and then your energy and all that kind of stuff.
00:08:51.920 So if someone's showing you that they don't respect you like that, they just listen to them, innit?
00:08:56.720 So we don't, like, I'm not going to sit here and have a big folder full of, um, red flags.
00:09:01.680 I'll just have three and then I'll just cool it off.
00:09:04.080 I actually had a folder though.
00:09:06.080 Wait.
00:09:06.480 Yeah, I had a folder.
00:09:07.680 Wait, a folder.
00:09:08.720 A folder, like our screenshot, our screenshot.
00:09:11.520 And then, yeah, cause you know, nah, do you know what happens?
00:09:13.760 What happens is, nah, nah, nah.
00:09:15.040 Did you show her, wait, wait, I have a question.
00:09:16.880 Did you show her the album at the end and be like, this is reason B?
00:09:19.360 I should have, you know.
00:09:20.240 This is reason B.
00:09:21.440 Nah, like, um, what it is, is sometimes you'll get lost in the sauce.
00:09:26.000 So you'll forget about all the nonsense.
00:09:28.400 How bad was she?
00:09:28.800 One to ten, how bad?
00:09:29.440 Nah, she was cool. 0.99
00:09:30.160 She was cool.
00:09:30.640 She had a lot of great quality, but there was just a lot of-
00:09:32.240 I meant like how good-
00:09:33.040 Oh, she was good.
00:09:33.520 Oh, she was nice.
00:09:35.200 She was, she was attractive. 0.99
00:09:36.240 I feel like anyone who, one to ten, she was, she was above a seven.
00:09:40.080 Like seven to, like about eight.
00:09:41.440 Eight, okay.
00:09:42.160 Okay, okay, okay.
00:09:44.960 Do you feel like you give girls more wiggle room if they're, if they're hotter? 0.51
00:09:49.520 Yes.
00:09:51.280 You have, do you know what it is?
00:09:52.000 You have to be real with yourself though.
00:09:54.000 Like you gotta, you gotta look yourself in the mirror.
00:09:56.080 So if someone's taking a piss, you gotta be like, look, come on, man.
00:09:58.320 And I think that's where people will say it's ego, but that's where you gotta kind of really
00:10:02.480 say to yourself.
00:10:03.360 That's why if you set yourself like those morals and those ground rules for yourself,
00:10:07.120 then no matter who steps in front of you, if they disrespect you, then they've disrespected
00:10:11.440 you.
00:10:11.600 You gotta kind of hold yourself accountable to them.
00:10:13.600 Mm-hmm.