JustPearlyThings - May 18, 2023


She Shames Men For Not Spending £200 On Her


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Length

9 minutes

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247.58507

Word count

2,452

Sentence count

264

Harmful content

Misogyny

17

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Hate speech

12

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In this episode we discuss who pays for a first date and why women should or shouldn t pay for first dates. We also talk about who should pay on a date and how much should a man should pay for a date.

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00:00:00.000 I feel like it's a two-way thing.
00:00:01.480 You didn't hear what she just said.
00:00:02.480 A husband has to come to her already. 0.99
00:00:04.500 So it's a two-way thing.
00:00:05.880 So then why does the wife have to come? 1.00
00:00:06.840 So don't you think, Paul, it's a two-way thing.
00:00:09.000 So if I'm, it's 50-50, and then you're both on the same page, that's different.
00:00:13.360 Of course I can do that.
00:00:14.020 So are you going to show your wife?
00:00:14.880 But if I'm not going to do the most and you're doing the least.
00:00:16.500 Okay, so I have a question.
00:00:17.600 When you go on dates, who pays?
00:00:19.860 He does, but I will pay.
00:00:21.020 I can pay.
00:00:21.520 No, I didn't say you can pay.
00:00:22.880 I said, who pays?
00:00:23.960 The guy will.
00:00:24.880 Okay, so why does he have to invest in you before you've slept with him?
00:00:28.440 But can I tell you something, Paul?
00:00:29.500 Why?
00:00:30.480 No, no, no.
00:00:31.280 We have to think about this.
00:00:32.680 Why does he have to invest in you before you've slept with him? 0.71
00:00:34.960 But I've done that before to men.
00:00:36.200 I've paid on first dates before.
00:00:37.500 I've offered.
00:00:38.240 You know, because I have a kindness in my heart.
00:00:39.680 It's not an offer.
00:00:40.100 It's not an offer.
00:00:41.780 I've done it.
00:00:42.620 Offered and done it.
00:00:43.260 I'm not talking about what you have done.
00:00:44.680 I'm talking about what typically happens.
00:00:46.440 You're a pretty girl.
00:00:47.240 I know these men pay for you.
00:00:49.040 I feel like men are in a stereotypical mindset where they feel like they're the big man.
00:00:56.120 They have to be responsible for paying for a first date and stuff like that. 1.00
00:00:59.320 So I feel like that's why they do it automatically.
00:01:01.140 Because men are traditional.
00:01:03.900 You're right.
00:01:04.600 Men are in more traditional roles than women.
00:01:07.620 So it's like the men are coming to you in a traditional role.
00:01:10.260 They're taking you on a date.
00:01:11.180 They're paying.
00:01:12.140 But you're saying, I can't be a traditional woman for him.
00:01:14.820 I can't give him wifely duties.
00:01:16.040 When off the bat, before he even knows if he's going to get sex from you, which is what 0.89
00:01:21.340 men want, right, he's paying.
00:01:23.780 £200 ain't nothing to a man.
00:01:25.560 Let's be honest.
00:01:26.320 £200 ain't nothing to a man.
00:01:27.860 Yes, yes, yes.
00:01:28.360 Let's be honest.
00:01:29.760 £200 ain't nothing to a man.
00:01:32.420 Hold on, hold on.
00:01:33.040 Let me just show of hands here.
00:01:35.300 Is £200 nothing to you guys?
00:01:38.560 Raise your hand if £200 is nothing to you.
00:01:40.080 If the investment goes right, it's great.
00:01:41.560 If it doesn't go right, it's a lot.
00:01:43.140 Okay, okay.
00:01:43.660 If £200 is nothing.
00:01:46.240 So none of these men are men?
00:01:48.840 Of course they're men, but they're different calibers of men.
00:01:51.020 Okay, they're not the right calibers of men.
00:01:53.060 Yeah, what's the calibers?
00:01:53.860 Yeah, what's the calibers?
00:01:54.980 What's that about?
00:01:55.660 No, but I just, you know, I have a certain type of man.
00:01:59.740 Like, I like a man that's, you know, I want a man that's like a leader in a high position
00:02:04.940 that can teach me because I want to be in that place too.
00:02:07.680 And you're willing to show him nothing.
00:02:09.880 No, listen, like I said, £200 ain't nothing to a man.
00:02:13.880 You could show him everything and he would just, and he could possibly not be serious
00:02:17.700 of you and be speaking to another girl or sleeping with someone else. 0.75
00:02:20.580 And that's the only reason.
00:02:23.120 No, until I know that you're serious, I will give, I can surrender to you.
00:02:26.680 Period.
00:02:26.980 So you're not even respecting a man's pocket on the first day? 0.84
00:02:29.340 Like I said, £200 is nothing to a man that has to be. 0.77
00:02:32.060 Yeah, exactly, you don't respect the money because you just said it's nothing.
00:02:34.540 Because you're looking at it like, right, my man's going to show the bank.
00:02:36.540 Unless he states he's not able to afford to go on a date or whatever.
00:02:40.360 No man is going to state anything.
00:02:42.780 Man could have his last £200 and spend at the last.
00:02:44.400 Bro, you don't date when you're broke.
00:02:45.560 No, no.
00:02:46.160 You don't date when you're broke.
00:02:47.100 No, wait, one second, one second.
00:02:47.580 You can't say that because man are dating when they're broke.
00:02:50.060 Well, that would never be me.
00:02:51.960 What do you mean?
00:02:52.380 You would have known that.
00:02:52.880 If he doesn't want to spend £200 on a date, like, what?
00:02:56.260 No, I mean.
00:02:56.760 You need £200 on a first date?
00:02:58.960 By a power man here.
00:02:59.660 For what?
00:03:00.580 But that's, I didn't ask.
00:03:02.460 No, you said, you said, you said, you said, you said, you said, you said, no, you said
00:03:05.860 200 pounds ain't nothing to a man.
00:03:07.840 To a man, yeah.
00:03:08.260 And then when, and then when all of these guys said, no, that is something to me, you
00:03:12.580 shat on them. 0.73
00:03:13.560 You said, you said they're not a high enough caliber of man.
00:03:16.280 No, no, personally, but I'm saying from my experience, um, they, people have paid and
00:03:21.700 I've been on dates and I've never spoke to a person again after and they've spent a lot
00:03:24.860 of money.
00:03:25.300 Do you know what I mean?
00:03:25.740 What I'm saying is, yeah, you're not valuing their time and money because you think that
00:03:29.940 every single one of them that's spending that money, whether it's £100 or £200, you think
00:03:33.580 all of them have got it.
00:03:34.720 There's some man that probably have taken you out on date and that's their last name.
00:03:36.900 Probably, but I would never know.
00:03:38.060 Exactly.
00:03:38.600 So then, but you're still not respecting their money.
00:03:40.520 I don't think about it like that.
00:03:42.100 Exactly.
00:03:42.640 Because you're still saying that you, you can't give them too much, but they're spending
00:03:46.680 £200 on you on a first date.
00:03:48.540 But I don't think the way guys go on, they act like money is nothing to them and they,
00:03:51.940 and they're, do you know what I mean?
00:03:53.060 So why would I be so conscious?
00:03:54.820 Like, unless I love you and I know about your financial situation, it'll be completely different.
00:03:58.200 No, okay, but this is the thing.
00:03:59.180 You're just not appreciative.
00:04:00.620 Because you're saying, no, you're not, I'm listening to you speak.
00:04:03.800 Does she come off appreciative to anyone?
00:04:05.680 No, no, not at all.
00:04:06.520 I'm not an ungrateful person, like for real, for real.
00:04:08.300 Okay, but I'm listening to you speak.
00:04:10.540 If I liked a guy and I spoke to him on a level and he came to me and said, I can't even
00:04:14.680 afford to take you out in a certain place, I would not have a problem with that.
00:04:17.720 Believe me.
00:04:18.100 No man, he's going to do that.
00:04:18.700 Believe me.
00:04:19.160 But you just, you just said it ain't nothing to a man.
00:04:22.440 And when all the guys in here said, no, that is something to me.
00:04:27.640 You said, you said they are not the caliber of man.
00:04:30.940 You insulted them.
00:04:32.080 No, not really.
00:04:33.900 No, I said broke men don't date.
00:04:36.520 That's what I said.
00:04:37.060 Okay, so a man's broke if he doesn't want to spend 200 pounds.
00:04:40.040 Again, I'm from, I'm from a 1% like top earning family.
00:04:43.900 My, like broke men can just not want to spend 200 pounds on someone they don't know.
00:04:48.040 They don't have to.
00:04:48.820 Yeah, but I don't ask for it.
00:04:49.980 It's not that bad.
00:04:50.540 But you know what?
00:04:51.140 If a man really likes you and he's into you, he will spend his last 200 pound on you without
00:04:55.600 you knowing.
00:04:56.100 But I would not have known that though.
00:04:57.120 Because they go on like they have money and they go on like, oh, like everything's fine.
00:05:00.960 It's not like a man's going on like anything.
00:05:03.640 A man's just not going, we're not going to openly say, oh, we're going to the dinner table. 0.95
00:05:07.060 The bill comes out.
00:05:07.800 Oh, you know, I can't afford this.
00:05:09.060 But some man, I don't know.
00:05:09.780 I've never been in a situation.
00:05:10.800 You're never going to be in that.
00:05:11.820 I've never been.
00:05:12.520 So I can't relate to that.
00:05:13.460 What's your name?
00:05:14.160 Royal.
00:05:14.720 Royal.
00:05:15.460 You're never going to be in that situation where a man's going to be at the table and tell 1.00
00:05:17.960 you, yo, I've got money to pay for this. 0.99
00:05:18.660 I had one guy say to me that, like, go for coffee.
00:05:21.200 And, you know, he's, he, I think he's, I think he was testing me, but I was fine with
00:05:24.480 that because I actually liked him.
00:05:25.660 Like, it's not an issue.
00:05:26.320 I don't care about the money.
00:05:27.980 No, he never.
00:05:28.420 But he said that, you know, I'm not in a great position right now.
00:05:31.140 And that's fine because I knew he was intelligent and I knew that he was someone I could build
00:05:34.420 with because he's very smart.
00:05:35.820 He just wasn't in the right place at the time.
00:05:37.680 Now I didn't have an issue with that.
00:05:38.780 Like, unfortunately, it didn't work out.
00:05:40.400 Why didn't it work out?
00:05:41.120 Well, he's, he's, he's Muslim.
00:05:44.280 Bro, it's not about money.
00:05:45.460 Like, I'm not a shallow person.
00:05:47.120 So please, let's not do that.
00:05:48.560 Like, I know I'm not a shallow person.
00:05:49.580 We're just repeating back what you're saying.
00:05:51.420 Yeah, what you're saying.
00:05:51.740 I'm speaking from my own experience so far.
00:05:53.800 I can't say anything else but what I've experienced.
00:05:55.300 Yeah, but there could have been at least two of them.
00:05:56.820 So I've never had a man that's not been able to pay for something that I'm aware of and
00:06:00.540 he has.
00:06:01.100 I've never had that.
00:06:01.620 Yeah, no, that you're aware of.
00:06:02.940 There could have been at least one man that took you on that date that was his last dime.
00:06:05.940 Probably, yeah, and I would never have knew so, and I'm compassionate about that.
00:06:09.180 No, you have to respect it.
00:06:10.160 I do respect that.
00:06:11.600 But I, if you think, if you think broke men shouldn't date, then should, or then should
00:06:15.140 fat women not date? 1.00
00:06:17.900 What the hell is going to die?
00:06:21.060 I just don't know if we have the same energy.
00:06:22.680 Do you know what it is?
00:06:23.440 I feel like beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so.
00:06:25.820 Money is in the eye of the beholder.
00:06:27.100 Sorry, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, period.
00:06:29.280 So there's a guy that might be attracted to an overweight woman. 0.99
00:06:31.660 Money is in the eye of the beholder.
00:06:34.860 Listen.
00:06:35.180 Money, money is in the eye of the beholder.
00:06:36.880 Listen, if you have, if your mentality is above average and you're broke, I fuck with you
00:06:41.760 because I know you've got potential and that we can build together.
00:06:44.340 We can be power couple.
00:06:45.420 But what is potential?
00:06:46.680 It's money later.
00:06:47.720 Like, that's all it is.
00:06:48.960 Potential is money later.
00:06:50.180 No, no, no.
00:06:50.200 It's more about, like, life.
00:06:51.840 Okay, okay, if you meet brokey at 25 and you're with him for five years, he's still brokey,
00:06:57.940 unemployed.
00:06:59.220 What, you're staying?
00:07:00.060 Say that again, sorry.
00:07:00.900 Brokey.
00:07:01.260 He meet a brokey guy, 25, and he's unemployed, and now he's 30. 1.00
00:07:06.800 You're still with him.
00:07:07.720 He's unemployed.
00:07:08.340 Are you staying or going?
00:07:09.600 No.
00:07:10.120 Because you're not pushing me to my limit.
00:07:11.320 No.
00:07:11.760 I wouldn't.
00:07:12.300 Well, five years?
00:07:12.800 You wouldn't ride out five years?
00:07:13.880 If he is unemployed and broke for five years and doesn't want to make a move, I can't be
00:07:17.800 with you.
00:07:18.100 How long does it take to create a proper business and be successful in life?
00:07:20.700 If you're unemployed, not doing nothing.
00:07:22.880 Girl, girl, I don't think you should.
00:07:25.240 Like, don't let him.
00:07:25.900 I forgot I was unemployed for five years now.
00:07:28.100 What the hell?
00:07:28.260 You should do something else.
00:07:28.480 No, not unemployed.
00:07:30.020 I said unemployed.
00:07:30.840 Oh, you said unemployed.
00:07:31.440 Okay, yeah.
00:07:31.920 So if he's stagnant.
00:07:33.560 I'm with you, but my point is you're lying.
00:07:38.680 Like, it's lying.
00:07:39.800 Yeah, you're just lying.
00:07:40.700 Why?
00:07:40.980 Because you're like, oh, if he has the right mentality, I don't care about money.
00:07:44.100 Okay, but I said, like, all that ambition translates to is money later.
00:07:48.500 So when women say, oh, I don't care about money. 1.00
00:07:50.680 Yes, it does.
00:07:51.780 Because women do leave if the men don't make enough money. 1.00
00:07:56.140 If women out earn the men, they leave. 1.00
00:07:58.160 The average woman.
00:07:58.940 But I feel like the average woman will leave. 0.99
00:08:01.560 But you are the average woman. 0.99
00:08:03.280 I mean, the average mindset woman. 1.00
00:08:04.960 The average mindset woman. 0.99
00:08:06.100 You have the average mindset.
00:08:06.840 No, I don't.
00:08:07.520 I don't.
00:08:08.060 I definitely don't.
00:08:08.740 I definitely don't.
00:08:09.560 You just said that.
00:08:10.400 And everyone tells me I don't.
00:08:11.600 I'm different.
00:08:12.020 You just said.
00:08:13.100 No, I'm telling you.
00:08:14.160 You're different.
00:08:15.220 I promise you.
00:08:15.940 Okay, what makes you different?
00:08:17.160 Because I'm just, I feel like I'm very deep.
00:08:19.880 And I've just learned.
00:08:21.680 I've really taken that time out to study life and to understand how life is.
00:08:26.020 How old are you?
00:08:26.800 I'm 32 now.
00:08:27.740 Okay.
00:08:28.600 Last month.
00:08:29.280 So I feel like I've taken time out to go inwards and to learn about life and to just,
00:08:35.380 you know, be more, not logical, but be more on point.
00:08:38.980 I don't know how to explain it, but I don't think my mindset is average.
00:08:41.680 I don't think I will ever be average.
00:08:43.020 And I really believe in myself.
00:08:44.640 So I'm a different.
00:08:45.460 Okay.
00:08:45.800 So I'm a, you're, you're a hundred percent average.
00:08:48.000 You're a comedian.
00:08:48.740 No, no, no.
00:08:49.840 No, she's a comedian though. 1.00
00:08:51.080 No, no, no.
00:08:51.560 Look at me.
00:08:51.960 Look at me.
00:08:52.340 Dead serious.
00:08:53.340 Average.
00:08:54.020 Average.
00:08:54.320 Girl.
00:08:54.480 And that's not an insult.
00:08:55.620 I think, I think I'm an average chick.
00:08:57.680 I don't think you are.
00:08:58.860 Because I even said before I came on the show, she's a, she, she's a bad ass. 1.00
00:09:01.900 Like she's built all this.
00:09:02.940 See, you're lying again.
00:09:03.800 No, but Romeo, didn't I say that to you?
00:09:05.520 I've been talking about that stuff before I met you.
00:09:08.660 But, but I'm saying, I'm saying like the way you speak.
00:09:11.180 Okay.
00:09:11.500 And I'm telling you, I've met women with a top 10%, 20, do you know how many women I
00:09:15.180 speak to?
00:09:16.240 Hundreds.
00:09:17.080 Hundreds.
00:09:17.740 And I'm saying like, I've met women with a top 10, 20% mindset.
00:09:20.700 I'm not saying it's horrible, but I'm saying an average chick when it comes to mindset.
00:09:24.760 Do you know what I think?
00:09:25.400 I just think it's because I don't, I think money's, I don't, I don't think money is important.
00:09:29.500 So it's nothing to me.
00:09:30.580 But see, you've contradicted yourself like 20 times in this conversation.
00:09:33.940 It's very chaotic to like speak to you.
00:09:36.280 Like it's very chaotic because I don't really understand what you're saying.
00:09:38.980 I was just banned on TikTok.
00:09:41.500 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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