JustPearlyThings - May 18, 2023


She Shames Men For Not Spending £200 On Her


Episode Stats


Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

247.58507

Word count

2,452

Sentence count

264

Harmful content

Misogyny

17

sentences flagged

Toxicity

14

sentences flagged

Hate speech

12

sentences flagged


Summary

Summaries generated with gmurro/bart-large-finetuned-filtered-spotify-podcast-summ .

In this episode we discuss who pays for a first date and why women should or shouldn t pay for first dates. We also talk about who should pay on a date and how much should a man should pay for a date.

Transcript

Transcript generated with Whisper (turbo).
Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Toxicity classifications generated with s-nlp/roberta_toxicity_classifier .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
00:00:00.000 I feel like it's a two-way thing.
00:00:01.480 You didn't hear what she just said.
00:00:02.480 A husband has to come to her already. 0.99
00:00:04.500 So it's a two-way thing.
00:00:05.880 So then why does the wife have to come? 1.00
00:00:06.840 So don't you think, Paul, it's a two-way thing.
00:00:09.000 So if I'm, it's 50-50, and then you're both on the same page, that's different.
00:00:13.360 Of course I can do that.
00:00:14.020 So are you going to show your wife?
00:00:14.880 But if I'm not going to do the most and you're doing the least.
00:00:16.500 Okay, so I have a question.
00:00:17.600 When you go on dates, who pays?
00:00:19.860 He does, but I will pay.
00:00:21.020 I can pay.
00:00:21.520 No, I didn't say you can pay.
00:00:22.880 I said, who pays?
00:00:23.960 The guy will.
00:00:24.880 Okay, so why does he have to invest in you before you've slept with him?
00:00:28.440 But can I tell you something, Paul?
00:00:29.500 Why?
00:00:30.480 No, no, no.
00:00:31.280 We have to think about this.
00:00:32.680 Why does he have to invest in you before you've slept with him? 0.71
00:00:34.960 But I've done that before to men.
00:00:36.200 I've paid on first dates before.
00:00:37.500 I've offered.
00:00:38.240 You know, because I have a kindness in my heart.
00:00:39.680 It's not an offer.
00:00:40.100 It's not an offer.
00:00:41.780 I've done it.
00:00:42.620 Offered and done it.
00:00:43.260 I'm not talking about what you have done.
00:00:44.680 I'm talking about what typically happens.
00:00:46.440 You're a pretty girl.
00:00:47.240 I know these men pay for you.
00:00:49.040 I feel like men are in a stereotypical mindset where they feel like they're the big man.
00:00:56.120 They have to be responsible for paying for a first date and stuff like that. 1.00
00:00:59.320 So I feel like that's why they do it automatically.
00:01:01.140 Because men are traditional.
00:01:03.900 You're right.
00:01:04.600 Men are in more traditional roles than women.
00:01:07.620 So it's like the men are coming to you in a traditional role.
00:01:10.260 They're taking you on a date.
00:01:11.180 They're paying.
00:01:12.140 But you're saying, I can't be a traditional woman for him.
00:01:14.820 I can't give him wifely duties. 0.93
00:01:16.040 When off the bat, before he even knows if he's going to get sex from you, which is what 0.89
00:01:21.340 men want, right, he's paying.
00:01:23.780 £200 ain't nothing to a man.
00:01:25.560 Let's be honest.
00:01:26.320 £200 ain't nothing to a man.
00:01:27.860 Yes, yes, yes.
00:01:28.360 Let's be honest.
00:01:29.760 £200 ain't nothing to a man.
00:01:32.420 Hold on, hold on.
00:01:33.040 Let me just show of hands here.
00:01:35.300 Is £200 nothing to you guys?
00:01:38.560 Raise your hand if £200 is nothing to you.
00:01:40.080 If the investment goes right, it's great.
00:01:41.560 If it doesn't go right, it's a lot.
00:01:43.140 Okay, okay.
00:01:43.660 If £200 is nothing.
00:01:46.240 So none of these men are men?
00:01:48.840 Of course they're men, but they're different calibers of men.
00:01:51.020 Okay, they're not the right calibers of men.
00:01:53.060 Yeah, what's the calibers?
00:01:53.860 Yeah, what's the calibers?
00:01:54.980 What's that about?
00:01:55.660 No, but I just, you know, I have a certain type of man.
00:01:59.740 Like, I like a man that's, you know, I want a man that's like a leader in a high position
00:02:04.940 that can teach me because I want to be in that place too.
00:02:07.680 And you're willing to show him nothing.
00:02:09.880 No, listen, like I said, £200 ain't nothing to a man.
00:02:13.880 You could show him everything and he would just, and he could possibly not be serious
00:02:17.700 of you and be speaking to another girl or sleeping with someone else. 0.75
00:02:20.580 And that's the only reason.
00:02:23.120 No, until I know that you're serious, I will give, I can surrender to you.
00:02:26.680 Period.
00:02:26.980 So you're not even respecting a man's pocket on the first day? 0.84
00:02:29.340 Like I said, £200 is nothing to a man that has to be. 0.77
00:02:32.060 Yeah, exactly, you don't respect the money because you just said it's nothing.
00:02:34.540 Because you're looking at it like, right, my man's going to show the bank.
00:02:36.540 Unless he states he's not able to afford to go on a date or whatever.
00:02:40.360 No man is going to state anything.
00:02:42.780 Man could have his last £200 and spend at the last.
00:02:44.400 Bro, you don't date when you're broke.
00:02:45.560 No, no.
00:02:46.160 You don't date when you're broke.
00:02:47.100 No, wait, one second, one second.
00:02:47.580 You can't say that because man are dating when they're broke.
00:02:50.060 Well, that would never be me.
00:02:51.960 What do you mean?
00:02:52.380 You would have known that.
00:02:52.880 If he doesn't want to spend £200 on a date, like, what?
00:02:56.260 No, I mean.
00:02:56.760 You need £200 on a first date?
00:02:58.960 By a power man here.
00:02:59.660 For what?
00:03:00.580 But that's, I didn't ask.
00:03:02.460 No, you said, you said, you said, you said, you said, you said, you said, no, you said
00:03:05.860 200 pounds ain't nothing to a man.
00:03:07.840 To a man, yeah.
00:03:08.260 And then when, and then when all of these guys said, no, that is something to me, you 0.99
00:03:12.580 shat on them. 0.97
00:03:13.560 You said, you said they're not a high enough caliber of man. 0.97
00:03:16.280 No, no, personally, but I'm saying from my experience, um, they, people have paid and
00:03:21.700 I've been on dates and I've never spoke to a person again after and they've spent a lot
00:03:24.860 of money.
00:03:25.300 Do you know what I mean?
00:03:25.740 What I'm saying is, yeah, you're not valuing their time and money because you think that
00:03:29.940 every single one of them that's spending that money, whether it's £100 or £200, you think
00:03:33.580 all of them have got it.
00:03:34.720 There's some man that probably have taken you out on date and that's their last name.
00:03:36.900 Probably, but I would never know.
00:03:38.060 Exactly.
00:03:38.600 So then, but you're still not respecting their money.
00:03:40.520 I don't think about it like that.
00:03:42.100 Exactly.
00:03:42.640 Because you're still saying that you, you can't give them too much, but they're spending
00:03:46.680 £200 on you on a first date.
00:03:48.540 But I don't think the way guys go on, they act like money is nothing to them and they,
00:03:51.940 and they're, do you know what I mean?
00:03:53.060 So why would I be so conscious?
00:03:54.820 Like, unless I love you and I know about your financial situation, it'll be completely different.
00:03:58.200 No, okay, but this is the thing.
00:03:59.180 You're just not appreciative.
00:04:00.620 Because you're saying, no, you're not, I'm listening to you speak.
00:04:03.800 Does she come off appreciative to anyone?
00:04:05.680 No, no, not at all.
00:04:06.520 I'm not an ungrateful person, like for real, for real.
00:04:08.300 Okay, but I'm listening to you speak.
00:04:10.540 If I liked a guy and I spoke to him on a level and he came to me and said, I can't even
00:04:14.680 afford to take you out in a certain place, I would not have a problem with that.
00:04:17.720 Believe me.
00:04:18.100 No man, he's going to do that.
00:04:18.700 Believe me.
00:04:19.160 But you just, you just said it ain't nothing to a man.
00:04:22.440 And when all the guys in here said, no, that is something to me.
00:04:27.640 You said, you said they are not the caliber of man.
00:04:30.940 You insulted them.
00:04:32.080 No, not really.
00:04:33.900 No, I said broke men don't date.
00:04:36.520 That's what I said.
00:04:37.060 Okay, so a man's broke if he doesn't want to spend 200 pounds.
00:04:40.040 Again, I'm from, I'm from a 1% like top earning family.
00:04:43.900 My, like broke men can just not want to spend 200 pounds on someone they don't know.
00:04:48.040 They don't have to.
00:04:48.820 Yeah, but I don't ask for it.
00:04:49.980 It's not that bad.
00:04:50.540 But you know what?
00:04:51.140 If a man really likes you and he's into you, he will spend his last 200 pound on you without
00:04:55.600 you knowing.
00:04:56.100 But I would not have known that though.
00:04:57.120 Because they go on like they have money and they go on like, oh, like everything's fine.
00:05:00.960 It's not like a man's going on like anything.
00:05:03.640 A man's just not going, we're not going to openly say, oh, we're going to the dinner table. 0.95
00:05:07.060 The bill comes out.
00:05:07.800 Oh, you know, I can't afford this.
00:05:09.060 But some man, I don't know.
00:05:09.780 I've never been in a situation.
00:05:10.800 You're never going to be in that.
00:05:11.820 I've never been.
00:05:12.520 So I can't relate to that.
00:05:13.460 What's your name?
00:05:14.160 Royal.
00:05:14.720 Royal.
00:05:15.460 You're never going to be in that situation where a man's going to be at the table and tell 1.00
00:05:17.960 you, yo, I've got money to pay for this. 0.99
00:05:18.660 I had one guy say to me that, like, go for coffee.
00:05:21.200 And, you know, he's, he, I think he's, I think he was testing me, but I was fine with
00:05:24.480 that because I actually liked him.
00:05:25.660 Like, it's not an issue.
00:05:26.320 I don't care about the money.
00:05:27.980 No, he never.
00:05:28.420 But he said that, you know, I'm not in a great position right now.
00:05:31.140 And that's fine because I knew he was intelligent and I knew that he was someone I could build
00:05:34.420 with because he's very smart.
00:05:35.820 He just wasn't in the right place at the time.
00:05:37.680 Now I didn't have an issue with that.
00:05:38.780 Like, unfortunately, it didn't work out.
00:05:40.400 Why didn't it work out?
00:05:41.120 Well, he's, he's, he's Muslim.
00:05:44.280 Bro, it's not about money.
00:05:45.460 Like, I'm not a shallow person.
00:05:47.120 So please, let's not do that.
00:05:48.560 Like, I know I'm not a shallow person.
00:05:49.580 We're just repeating back what you're saying.
00:05:51.420 Yeah, what you're saying.
00:05:51.740 I'm speaking from my own experience so far.
00:05:53.800 I can't say anything else but what I've experienced.
00:05:55.300 Yeah, but there could have been at least two of them.
00:05:56.820 So I've never had a man that's not been able to pay for something that I'm aware of and
00:06:00.540 he has.
00:06:01.100 I've never had that.
00:06:01.620 Yeah, no, that you're aware of.
00:06:02.940 There could have been at least one man that took you on that date that was his last dime.
00:06:05.940 Probably, yeah, and I would never have knew so, and I'm compassionate about that.
00:06:09.180 No, you have to respect it.
00:06:10.160 I do respect that.
00:06:11.600 But I, if you think, if you think broke men shouldn't date, then should, or then should
00:06:15.140 fat women not date? 1.00
00:06:17.900 What the hell is going to die? 0.99
00:06:21.060 I just don't know if we have the same energy.
00:06:22.680 Do you know what it is?
00:06:23.440 I feel like beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so.
00:06:25.820 Money is in the eye of the beholder.
00:06:27.100 Sorry, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, period.
00:06:29.280 So there's a guy that might be attracted to an overweight woman. 0.99
00:06:31.660 Money is in the eye of the beholder.
00:06:34.860 Listen.
00:06:35.180 Money, money is in the eye of the beholder. 1.00
00:06:36.880 Listen, if you have, if your mentality is above average and you're broke, I fuck with you 0.99
00:06:41.760 because I know you've got potential and that we can build together. 1.00
00:06:44.340 We can be power couple.
00:06:45.420 But what is potential?
00:06:46.680 It's money later.
00:06:47.720 Like, that's all it is.
00:06:48.960 Potential is money later.
00:06:50.180 No, no, no.
00:06:50.200 It's more about, like, life.
00:06:51.840 Okay, okay, if you meet brokey at 25 and you're with him for five years, he's still brokey,
00:06:57.940 unemployed.
00:06:59.220 What, you're staying?
00:07:00.060 Say that again, sorry.
00:07:00.900 Brokey.
00:07:01.260 He meet a brokey guy, 25, and he's unemployed, and now he's 30. 1.00
00:07:06.800 You're still with him.
00:07:07.720 He's unemployed.
00:07:08.340 Are you staying or going?
00:07:09.600 No.
00:07:10.120 Because you're not pushing me to my limit.
00:07:11.320 No.
00:07:11.760 I wouldn't.
00:07:12.300 Well, five years?
00:07:12.800 You wouldn't ride out five years?
00:07:13.880 If he is unemployed and broke for five years and doesn't want to make a move, I can't be
00:07:17.800 with you.
00:07:18.100 How long does it take to create a proper business and be successful in life?
00:07:20.700 If you're unemployed, not doing nothing.
00:07:22.880 Girl, girl, I don't think you should.
00:07:25.240 Like, don't let him.
00:07:25.900 I forgot I was unemployed for five years now. 0.94
00:07:28.100 What the hell? 0.95
00:07:28.260 You should do something else. 0.99
00:07:28.480 No, not unemployed.
00:07:30.020 I said unemployed.
00:07:30.840 Oh, you said unemployed.
00:07:31.440 Okay, yeah.
00:07:31.920 So if he's stagnant.
00:07:33.560 I'm with you, but my point is you're lying.
00:07:38.680 Like, it's lying.
00:07:39.800 Yeah, you're just lying.
00:07:40.700 Why?
00:07:40.980 Because you're like, oh, if he has the right mentality, I don't care about money.
00:07:44.100 Okay, but I said, like, all that ambition translates to is money later.
00:07:48.500 So when women say, oh, I don't care about money. 1.00
00:07:50.680 Yes, it does.
00:07:51.780 Because women do leave if the men don't make enough money. 1.00
00:07:56.140 If women out earn the men, they leave. 1.00
00:07:58.160 The average woman.
00:07:58.940 But I feel like the average woman will leave. 0.99
00:08:01.560 But you are the average woman. 0.99
00:08:03.280 I mean, the average mindset woman. 1.00
00:08:04.960 The average mindset woman. 0.99
00:08:06.100 You have the average mindset.
00:08:06.840 No, I don't.
00:08:07.520 I don't.
00:08:08.060 I definitely don't.
00:08:08.740 I definitely don't.
00:08:09.560 You just said that.
00:08:10.400 And everyone tells me I don't.
00:08:11.600 I'm different.
00:08:12.020 You just said.
00:08:13.100 No, I'm telling you.
00:08:14.160 You're different.
00:08:15.220 I promise you.
00:08:15.940 Okay, what makes you different?
00:08:17.160 Because I'm just, I feel like I'm very deep.
00:08:19.880 And I've just learned.
00:08:21.680 I've really taken that time out to study life and to understand how life is.
00:08:26.020 How old are you?
00:08:26.800 I'm 32 now.
00:08:27.740 Okay.
00:08:28.600 Last month.
00:08:29.280 So I feel like I've taken time out to go inwards and to learn about life and to just,
00:08:35.380 you know, be more, not logical, but be more on point.
00:08:38.980 I don't know how to explain it, but I don't think my mindset is average.
00:08:41.680 I don't think I will ever be average.
00:08:43.020 And I really believe in myself.
00:08:44.640 So I'm a different.
00:08:45.460 Okay.
00:08:45.800 So I'm a, you're, you're a hundred percent average.
00:08:48.000 You're a comedian.
00:08:48.740 No, no, no.
00:08:49.840 No, she's a comedian though. 1.00
00:08:51.080 No, no, no.
00:08:51.560 Look at me.
00:08:51.960 Look at me.
00:08:52.340 Dead serious.
00:08:53.340 Average.
00:08:54.020 Average.
00:08:54.320 Girl.
00:08:54.480 And that's not an insult.
00:08:55.620 I think, I think I'm an average chick.
00:08:57.680 I don't think you are. 0.99
00:08:58.860 Because I even said before I came on the show, she's a, she, she's a bad ass. 1.00
00:09:01.900 Like she's built all this.
00:09:02.940 See, you're lying again.
00:09:03.800 No, but Romeo, didn't I say that to you?
00:09:05.520 I've been talking about that stuff before I met you.
00:09:08.660 But, but I'm saying, I'm saying like the way you speak.
00:09:11.180 Okay.
00:09:11.500 And I'm telling you, I've met women with a top 10%, 20, do you know how many women I
00:09:15.180 speak to?
00:09:16.240 Hundreds.
00:09:17.080 Hundreds.
00:09:17.740 And I'm saying like, I've met women with a top 10, 20% mindset.
00:09:20.700 I'm not saying it's horrible, but I'm saying an average chick when it comes to mindset.
00:09:24.760 Do you know what I think?
00:09:25.400 I just think it's because I don't, I think money's, I don't, I don't think money is important.
00:09:29.500 So it's nothing to me.
00:09:30.580 But see, you've contradicted yourself like 20 times in this conversation.
00:09:33.940 It's very chaotic to like speak to you.
00:09:36.280 Like it's very chaotic because I don't really understand what you're saying.
00:09:38.980 I was just banned on TikTok.
00:09:41.500 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
00:09:45.900 If you want to help, please consider sending a super thanks below.
00:09:50.460 Every donation helps and it helps make what we do possible.