JustPearlyThings - She SHARED Her ABORTION Experience

00:00:00.000 um i have a question for you and you don't you don't have to answer this um the the two abortions

00:00:04.880 was it the same dad no they're two different people um and what made you think you couldn't

00:00:11.040 have a kid with those guys um because like what she said it made me realize ruf said it just made

00:00:17.200 me realize um this was when i was younger by the way so i've grown up a lot from how old with each

00:00:23.520 one so i was 17 on the first one and then i was um 23 on the next one um but yeah it just made me

00:00:35.200 realize like the the the second the first time like i actually like i was actually having fun

00:00:40.800 right so that made me calm down i was like i ain't doing that so oh when you say having fun it was

00:00:45.280 like a casual it was a casual so it wasn't anyone you were serious with no so okay so then you thought

00:00:50.800 i can't have a kid with right yeah but but that made me realize right the media is it's those

00:00:55.680 they kind of project that onto people that the original family is like the perfect picture right

00:01:00.320 but but it's not true i've seen fathers who are not biological and and they have the most amazing

00:01:05.440 beautiful families right so um do you think he would have like stuck around or no uh no no okay

00:01:12.720 are we spoken about that yeah and he he said if you have this i won't be yeah yeah yeah was he angry

00:01:19.840 at you at all um i guess yeah there was some sort of like you know pull back pull pulls and whatnot

00:01:29.200 but yeah i guess again i was quite immature uh mentally at that time and obviously the second

00:01:34.960 time as well it emotionally mentally i was quite immature as well i looked at things differently and

00:01:41.360 then it made me realize okay next time i have sex i need to be aware like do i want to have a baby with

00:01:47.120 this person do i want to marry this person do i want to you know just all these things sort of come

00:01:51.760 up and i was like i really need to think about those decisions and and yeah and what about the

00:01:57.360 second guy were you with him or no um yeah the second guy yeah so what made you not wanna because

00:02:03.680 it seemed like he did he love you or like he was in a relationship with you so the the so we were

00:02:09.840 actually together before and then we ended up coming back and then yeah so i wasn't actually

00:02:15.040 with him but we ended up coming back and you dated him before yeah and i was it was like my longest

00:02:19.840 relationship was he was he a good guy no oh okay no no no he wouldn't have stuck around no he was no

00:02:28.480 okay yeah um so you did the same thing yeah did the same thing twice yeah okay exactly so you kind of grow

00:02:36.240 up from it you sort of learn the lesson and like i've been celibate for so long now right because

00:02:40.160 i look at things so differently now when it comes to sex and it's not just the baby but it's the sexual

00:02:44.960 energy is everything is sex is really really sacred people think it's fun but it's how long have you

00:02:51.120 been celibate for um if you want it you don't have to answer this if you don't want to um well it's

00:02:58.080 it could have been a year but it's now five months but it could have been a year so i had a little bleep

00:03:03.120 but yeah okay okay yeah um and then oh you also had an abortion yeah can i can i ask you about it is

00:03:12.800 it okay um what made you think you couldn't have a kid with that guy oh there were a few factors

00:03:19.040 actually so um number one was the guy that i was with at the time was more much it was much an older

00:03:27.920 guy how old oh gosh that's 26 27 okay that's yeah you're 19 yeah that's not so bad okay um or if

00:03:40.000 yeah if my mom was yeah yeah 26 27 or close yeah maybe about close to 30 30 anyway but he was much

00:03:46.240 more older than me um and i remember when we discussed the whole i'm pregnant thing we stepped out of the

00:03:57.040 doctor's room and he said to me oh you've got your whole life ahead of you um you're too young um so

00:04:06.960 that put me off um and then i had i had a late term abortion that um so i was like 20 weeks um i had

00:04:17.760 left the country um because i was actually struggling with whether or not i'm making the right choice

00:04:24.880 um also it was um just how my peers would view me at the time and um my family i have a very strong

00:04:37.200 family unit and the way i was raised um i was raised from in a christian home and um i just didn't want to

00:04:46.960 disappoint my mom uh and i remember my my mom at the time she made a statement and that really just

00:04:57.280 was like a deal breaker for me i was just like oh if if you feel saying it like that because she

00:05:05.040 didn't know outrightly but i think just having a mother's intuition she sort of she she knew there was

00:05:10.240 something going on and once she said that i was just like oh i can't do this this is i've at the time i

00:05:19.680 felt like i i wasn't hearing what i wanted to hear which was who was going to support me how am i going to

00:05:26.640 cope um and yeah i went ahead and went for the abortion um did the guy like do you think he would have

00:05:38.160 stayed if you kept it i don't actually know you say actually know or you don't know no i don't i don't

00:05:45.440 know i mean i chose not to continue a relationship with him so after my experience so yeah i'm just

00:05:54.880 curious if it was a different guy do you think he would have been more likely to keep it like to both of

00:06:00.720 you when you say a different guy i think if it was a different guy who had like a different

00:06:08.720 response i would have kept so if he had the response that like i'll be there you can keep

00:06:13.040 it you would have you would have kept it i think so yeah okay and what about if it was a guy that you

00:06:17.440 were i shouldn't could have seen yourself with long term maybe yeah like i shouldn't really like

00:06:23.040 it shouldn't really make a difference right but i guess yeah at the time yeah yeah yeah but like i said

00:06:28.080 i was quite immature back then even when i had the little bleep now it was actually someone that i

00:06:32.240 looked as to the future you know so it was a bit different but um yeah i probably would but it

00:06:38.480 shouldn't really come down to that as my point really no i think um that's what they say in like

00:06:44.800 red pill that abortion is um the ultimate like hypergamy where it's like women um want to be with 0.84

00:06:50.880 the like best long-term mate that they can so i'm not really surprised by that answer um can i comment

00:06:57.840 i think what it shows as well is that you know that we we call it pro-choice but that choice is never

00:07:03.520 made in a vacuum you know it was it was the pressures of those around the thoughts and the

00:07:09.040 and the feelings that are particularly the man and in laura's instance to her mother as well and even i

00:07:14.720 can say from my experience and um when when i got pregnant and i told my family um yeah i mean i was

00:07:24.320 very blessed that my um dad said to me um yeah we're going to be there for you we're going to support

00:07:30.880 you and i know that that like helped me um and so i think it's it is a societal issue and i think this

00:07:39.040 whole pro-choice rhetoric rhetoric it kind of puts everything on the woman when as a society you know 0.87

00:07:46.800 abortion impacts society and it is there's so many pressures there's just so many pressures on the

00:07:53.920 woman and the woman's left to deal with a lot herself at that end where you know what of the 1.00

00:07:59.680 dad that wasn't there to support what of the friends and the family members that weren't there to support

00:08:04.080 we often hear uh women say you know if i just had one person that say you can do this 1.00

00:08:08.800 or will be here for you they might have made a different choice yeah um it's interesting the

00:08:14.800 girls i know that have had abortions um not i just met you guys so like but like i don't um

00:08:23.760 i don't think it was like like both of them came from like pretty wealthy families that could have

00:08:27.840 helped them i just think it was more of like life inconvenience to be fair um just at the time but

00:08:35.040 yeah i think support for those women is helpful it's not even just money though is it it's emotional

00:08:40.880 support it's just that well because people can be rich and and could potentially support but are they

00:08:47.920 you know these rich families can still say you know it's going to look bad on our family or you know

00:08:53.280 there's all those shame elements and um that perfect though you touched on that perfect that dream for that

00:09:01.840 perfect family that this is an interruption from that and so i just think there's a lot of elements

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JustPearlyThings - April 04, 2023

She SHARED Her ABORTION Experience

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