JustPearlyThings - October 29, 2023


She STRUGGLED To Accept This Truth Bomb


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11 minutes

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2,010

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208

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In this episode, we discuss the age old question of when is too young to get married? Is it too young for a woman to be married at 25? Or is it too old for a man to be a man at 25 years old?

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00:00:00.000 But if we're raising young girls to believe that they deserve Prince Charmings, are we raising our sons to be Prince Charmings?
00:00:08.740 No, we're not.
00:00:10.180 So how do you expect to expect something if it's not even been brought forward?
00:00:16.340 Wait, can you explain that more?
00:00:17.960 Are we raising our sons to be Prince Charmings?
00:00:19.980 No, so if you, he said, you know, the entitlement is almost installed in you from a young girl.
00:00:24.740 Yeah.
00:00:24.940 You're a princess.
00:00:25.520 You deserve this.
00:00:26.280 So when you don't get it past 25, the entitlement is already a part of you.
00:00:30.860 So touch whatever age.
00:00:32.480 But so is this supposed Prince Charmings that we've raised her.
00:00:35.840 If we have a son, are we raising him to be the perfect gentleman that we expect for someone's daughter? 0.54
00:00:41.400 Because if someone's son.
00:00:42.820 Right, but who is he being a gentleman for?
00:00:44.660 No, but that's my whole point.
00:00:46.640 If we're raising her to have expectations, I mean, somebody has a son.
00:00:50.980 Are you raising your son to be a Prince Charmings as a young woman, as a wife or a mother?
00:00:55.680 Well, I would say, I would say women don't reward Prince Charmings. 1.00
00:00:59.640 They don't, they don't, women do not reward good behavior in general. 1.00
00:01:04.060 Not at all.
00:01:04.320 I would say if women did reward good behavior and chivalry, then you would see more of it. 1.00
00:01:09.140 Because men will do anything to get sex. 1.00
00:01:11.160 But if we don't reward it, how can we be mad when they don't do it?
00:01:15.580 So who's entitled?
00:01:17.660 Women. 0.81
00:01:18.420 Oh.
00:01:18.620 Women, because... 1.00
00:01:20.000 Not because they want a reward for being, having decency and manners and courtesy and chivalry.
00:01:26.160 Women, women, no, because they, because, because they're not, we're not traditional. 0.98
00:01:30.480 Exactly.
00:01:31.180 That's the point.
00:01:32.080 So it's like we're asking for traditional.
00:01:33.540 A 25-year-old was probably, a 24-year-old was born not that long ago, 24 years ago.
00:01:41.760 We're in a society where this is not a part of their norm.
00:01:46.200 What isn't a part of the norm?
00:01:47.780 To be traditional.
00:01:50.000 Right.
00:01:50.420 Yeah.
00:01:50.540 So you are raised, she's being raised to be a part of a masculine world that is what the norm is now. 0.64
00:01:58.840 Right.
00:01:59.300 So a more traditional woman is probably going to be older, but unfortunately she's been cut off because she's expired. 1.00
00:02:05.580 No, I would say more traditional women are going to be married. 1.00
00:02:09.420 It's traditional.
00:02:10.200 Right.
00:02:10.460 Because traditional women get married before the age of 25, typically. 1.00
00:02:14.320 Perhaps.
00:02:14.620 Yeah, so I would say no, the older women that are still single, like they have a term for it, it's called leftover. 1.00
00:02:21.440 In China, they call women over, and I think it's over the age of 30 or maybe even 27, 28, and they just call them leftover.
00:02:31.420 Because like, if the product's amazing, wouldn't someone have bought it?
00:02:35.060 Notice in the language you're using as well, it's like, it's always what does she deserve?
00:02:45.620 It's not what has she earned?
00:02:48.660 That's what I'm saying about the entitlement, right?
00:02:50.620 That's what entitlement means.
00:02:51.920 Yeah, exactly.
00:02:53.020 I'm just elaborating, right?
00:02:54.860 It's not, we're not teaching young women like, oh, you need to earn your Prince Charming. 0.96
00:03:00.240 You need to earn a good man, a good husband.
00:03:02.340 Just be given.
00:03:02.640 You should just be given.
00:03:03.320 And you should, you're entitled to it, and it should just come to you one day, magically from the sky, without you actually like, sitting down and saying, you know what, I, I, here's, here's when I want to get married by, I want to get, and I'm going to put it at a reasonable age, because I'm, I, I know that it's a competition, because everything's competition in life, right?
00:03:20.700 And so I'm going to take my dating decisions a lot more seriously, right, than, than most women tend to do at a younger age. 0.73
00:03:31.180 Okay, so, all right, would you, Klaus, go ahead.
00:03:34.560 I'm just wondering what a woman at 24 has done to earn a good man, because at that point in life, you probably haven't had a secure career.
00:03:41.860 You're still young.
00:03:42.660 You haven't stacked up that expectation.
00:03:44.760 I don't care about a career.
00:03:46.440 Don't care.
00:03:47.040 I make, I make more than enough for her.
00:03:48.880 So you, you aren't looking for necessarily a partner.
00:03:51.360 You're more so looking for it.
00:03:52.400 A wife.
00:03:53.120 A wife.
00:03:53.400 She, she, as a partner, it's complimentary, right?
00:03:56.520 I don't need another me.
00:03:57.760 Yeah.
00:03:58.080 I don't need someone to replicate what I'm doing, and not as good as I do it, either.
00:04:01.240 Like, I make more than enough money for both of us.
00:04:03.540 Oh, what's the problem?
00:04:03.780 I want a woman who's going to be feminine, who wants to be a mother, who's going to provide that nurturing energy. 1.00
00:04:08.620 Look after her.
00:04:09.400 Right.
00:04:10.180 And, yeah, someone to look after my kids, someone to look after me, like, in, in the aspect that she can. 0.89
00:04:15.360 And it's my job to keep us all alive.
00:04:17.380 Yeah.
00:04:18.160 And be the man.
00:04:19.020 Yeah.
00:04:19.640 We've got different roles, complimentary.
00:04:20.860 And you asked what value a girl at 24 brings.
00:04:24.480 I mean, typically, they're thinner.
00:04:26.040 Typically, they're more pure.
00:04:27.420 Typically, they're more youthful.
00:04:28.560 Typically, they have less baggage.
00:04:30.240 So I would say, like, those are the things that men select for.
00:04:34.120 Okay.
00:04:34.840 It just, it just sounds like we're comparing tools or pieces, not women with, you know.
00:04:41.280 But do we, sorry.
00:04:42.960 Are we looking at also what your foundation is?
00:04:47.240 So a lot of people, maybe it's religious or something like that.
00:04:50.160 Those are things that are installed in young boys and young girls to value certain things.
00:04:55.220 And whether it's Christianity or Islam, like, you hold yourself in a certain manner.
00:05:00.240 And then it becomes what is valued to you.
00:05:03.380 So if you don't have these things at home, I'm not saying any religion does it, because you don't have to be under a certain religion to do it.
00:05:09.100 But if your fundamental foundations with your parents or however you're raising a child, if that's not installed in them from a young age, as they're growing, why would they know to value it?
00:05:20.580 How would they know to value yourself as a woman?
00:05:23.840 They wouldn't know at all.
00:05:24.380 So it all comes back to what your, that entitlement and your teachings.
00:05:28.180 So if a guy was raised by drug dealers and then he chooses to deal drugs, should he not go to jail?
00:05:33.400 For sure.
00:05:34.160 He should still go to jail, right?
00:05:35.800 That's the point.
00:05:36.480 Even if you were raised by bad parents and you don't know how to be a wife and you make certain decisions, like, it doesn't alleviate you from the consequences of those decisions.
00:05:44.040 So I'm curious.
00:05:50.360 Now, I kind of wanted to go into this, all right?
00:05:52.460 I wanted to, I had some ideas.
00:05:54.900 What could, if you found a woman that was over the age that you typically date for, for this, for the guys, she's 32, let's just say, except for you, 50. 0.99
00:06:06.120 But, she has, that makes up for it.
00:06:15.640 What does she have?
00:06:16.400 Yeah, yeah, because there's something that a girl could do if she's over a certain age to make up for the fact that she's old.
00:06:23.440 Company, home cooked food, house clean, there when I get home, you know, going out partying, respect for my parents.
00:06:33.700 Okay, so you would, if she was really respectful, you would date a 32-year-old if she had all that stuff?
00:06:39.980 I need to come home to peace without someone complaining about something or someone, you know, whinging about her friends or gossiping.
00:06:47.720 I don't need all of that.
00:06:48.680 I mean, I just need to know that I'm comfortable when I get home.
00:06:52.680 As long as she's bringing me comfort and peace, yeah, that's all right.
00:06:55.600 But then, I would normally go for someone a lot younger.
00:06:58.640 I probably wouldn't even pay attention to her first.
00:07:00.700 Okay, so no.
00:07:03.700 Okay, what about you?
00:07:08.060 Basically, I was with someone that was 35, yeah, for three years.
00:07:12.400 She's like 38 now, nearly 40, yeah.
00:07:14.820 And she's got four kids.
00:07:16.820 And, like, I stayed with her because of the companionship.
00:07:20.560 And we was good together.
00:07:22.420 She could cook.
00:07:23.300 She was doing everything right.
00:07:24.580 So, like, I wouldn't read.
00:07:27.140 This is why I'm stressing the fact of this expiry date thing because at her age and the age she's at now, obviously, if we did stay together, then it would have been good.
00:07:35.560 But for me, it's just a case factor of she did everything that was okay for me.
00:07:40.500 So, yeah, I didn't drop her out because of the age.
00:07:44.820 Okay.
00:07:45.620 Sterling, what about you?
00:07:46.660 She's 25 and a month.
00:07:52.280 Out the door.
00:07:54.140 Not a chance.
00:07:55.880 Her birthday's next week.
00:07:57.440 She's almost 25.
00:07:58.320 Throwing out the rest of the trash.
00:08:03.660 No.
00:08:05.400 I'd say, okay, can she milk a cow? 1.00
00:08:09.600 All right, she's 29 but can milk a cow. 1.00
00:08:13.340 That's 49.
00:08:14.560 It's too many years.
00:08:15.380 Bring that number down a bit.
00:08:16.640 So, 20, all right, 28 but can milk a cow.
00:08:19.680 25 and can milk a cow.
00:08:22.180 And knows how to garden.
00:08:24.340 Okay.
00:08:25.300 We might go.
00:08:26.440 If she has a garden, that's like a plus.
00:08:28.140 Knows how to garden, yeah, is a good green thumb, right?
00:08:30.440 Okay.
00:08:30.900 Knows how to make gross veggies.
00:08:32.120 Knows how to cook.
00:08:33.240 I mean, a lot of these things I'm already going to select for things like, even in the
00:08:36.980 24-year-old, it's not just the fact that she's 24.
00:08:39.160 Yeah.
00:08:39.460 Like, there's other things that go into that.
00:08:41.220 It's not just like the age I'm looking for, right?
00:08:43.680 There's like, obviously, like purity.
00:08:46.060 There's like political leanings towards my kind of political leanings or at least like,
00:08:51.620 you know, maybe conspiracy.
00:08:54.760 If she, okay, I'll add numbers.
00:08:56.480 I'll add age here.
00:08:56.980 If she's like a conspiracy theorist, she gets at least 27. 0.99
00:09:00.440 At least 27.
00:09:01.580 She's like a full-blown conspiracy theorist. 1.00
00:09:03.440 All right.
00:09:04.200 All right.
00:09:04.460 This girl's kind of crazy in a good way.
00:09:07.100 You're like, I could get a kid in her real quick. 1.00
00:09:10.460 Yeah.
00:09:10.820 Yeah.
00:09:11.120 Yeah.
00:09:11.300 Like, she's like, all right, we ain't got time.
00:09:13.080 The world's ending.
00:09:14.080 Yes.
00:09:14.580 All right.
00:09:14.840 That's my girl.
00:09:16.000 You know?
00:09:16.280 Okay.
00:09:18.740 What else do you select for?
00:09:20.920 Like, what?
00:09:21.420 Give me your list of standards in a girl. 1.00
00:09:24.160 Cool.
00:09:24.480 So, we went over age.
00:09:26.060 Ideally, like, not college educated.
00:09:29.080 Okay.
00:09:29.440 Ideally.
00:09:30.040 Like, in fact, if she went to like a really big college, that would be a massive red flag.
00:09:34.100 Okay.
00:09:34.380 So, she's 22, but she went to a mainstream college.
00:09:39.220 Like, if she went to like, in America, for example, if she went to like a big college with like fraternities and sororities and shit, that's a giant red flag.
00:09:46.280 Okay.
00:09:46.660 Huge red flag.
00:09:47.760 Okay.
00:09:48.220 Because that woman has partied a lot. 1.00
00:09:50.460 Is she off the table completely? 1.00
00:09:53.100 Oh, okay.
00:09:53.580 Basically, yes.
00:09:54.360 So, she says I went to.
00:09:55.480 Unless, like, if I can, I mean, look, a girl's Instagram will give a lot of this stuff away. 0.99
00:10:00.780 Yeah.
00:10:01.220 Like, I can tell if she was in like a sorority party. 0.95
00:10:03.580 I can tell if she was like going up and down Bermond Street or whatever.
00:10:07.480 Yeah.
00:10:07.600 Like, they'll tell on themselves on their Instagram.
00:10:10.760 That's a big one.
00:10:11.560 Does she have an Instagram?
00:10:12.660 If she doesn't have an Instagram, we'll push that age right up. 0.99
00:10:17.160 No Instagram?
00:10:18.100 Could you?
00:10:18.400 No social media at all?
00:10:19.560 No.
00:10:19.980 27.
00:10:20.520 No problem.
00:10:20.800 What about, okay, no social media?
00:10:22.800 Yeah.
00:10:23.280 30.
00:10:23.900 Nah.
00:10:25.440 That's what one.
00:10:26.520 This ain't a negotiation, all right?
00:10:28.220 This is a dictatorship.
00:10:29.720 We ain't negotiating yet.
00:10:30.980 No, I'm just kidding.
00:10:31.520 I want to know how many years it gets you.
00:10:33.580 What about 30, but she's a virgin? 1.00
00:10:37.160 That's pretty hard.
00:10:38.420 That's pretty hard.
00:10:39.480 We're talking.
00:10:41.000 Oh, what if she's a magical unicorn? 0.99
00:10:43.400 Yes.
00:10:46.780 It does happen, but I mean.
00:10:48.800 She has six tits. 1.00
00:10:51.780 We're talking in Fantasyland.
00:10:53.460 Someone said if she went to ASU, she's done for sure.
00:10:56.640 Arizona State.
00:10:57.860 Definitely.
00:10:58.260 Yes.
00:10:59.080 Definitely.
00:10:59.300 We're talking.
00:11:00.240 All right.
00:11:00.820 Maybe.