JustPearlyThings - May 22, 2023


She WANTS a GOOD MAN without any Sacrifice


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Length

17 minutes

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194.60971

Word count

3,478

Sentence count

287

Harmful content

Misogyny

26

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Hate speech

9

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In this episode, we talk about what it means to be a wife of a hoe and how to deal with the pressures of being a wife in the modern dating world. We also talk about the perils of going out at night club with your wife and what to look out for when it comes to your wife.

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00:00:00.000 To be with you.
00:00:01.000 Yeah, definitely the socials.
00:00:03.000 Okay, no social media.
00:00:04.000 Definitely, you know, nightlife.
00:00:06.000 Yeah, and time giving time, that's it.
00:00:10.000 Okay.
00:00:11.000 Yeah, yeah.
00:00:12.000 So your big things are social media and nightlife?
00:00:15.000 Nightlife, yeah.
00:00:16.000 And all the ho behaviors are the window. 1.00
00:00:19.000 All the ho behaviors gone. 1.00
00:00:21.000 Yeah.
00:00:22.000 What, do you want a wife of ho? 1.00
00:00:24.000 No.
00:00:25.000 No.
00:00:26.000 Is it possible to?
00:00:27.000 I don't know.
00:00:29.000 Okay, what would you expect your girl to give up for you?
00:00:33.000 I'm pretty liberal.
00:00:34.000 Like, unless I see that it's coming between us in some way, do what you want.
00:00:39.000 Just don't be out here making either of us look crazy because you're a reflection of me.
00:00:44.000 So if you're going to go to the club with your girls, all right, cool.
00:00:48.000 But then if it comes back to me that you was dancing on 50 men and your tongue was down 50 throats,
00:00:54.000 then obviously it's not going to run, can it?
00:00:56.000 What about one man?
00:00:57.000 If she was dancing on one man.
00:00:58.000 Yeah, exactly.
00:00:59.000 One man too many.
00:01:00.000 I should be the one man.
00:01:01.000 And if I'm not there, obviously it's not always that I can be there.
00:01:03.000 But like, I'm not going to let her.
00:01:04.000 What if she's dancing on another dude? 0.80
00:01:05.000 No.
00:01:06.000 Would you mean you're dancing on a...
00:01:07.000 I don't know.
00:01:08.000 She's at the club.
00:01:09.000 What else are you doing at the club?
00:01:10.000 You're dancing.
00:01:11.000 That's almost like a sarcastic refrain.
00:01:12.000 But I understand what you mean by she's dancing on another one.
00:01:15.000 Like, I wouldn't appreciate that.
00:01:16.000 And if that was okay.
00:01:17.000 You dumping her?
00:01:18.000 Yeah, of course.
00:01:19.000 Not working or nothing.
00:01:20.000 Oh, he's thinking about it.
00:01:21.000 He's not sure.
00:01:22.000 Yeah.
00:01:23.000 Cause you know, it is now.
00:01:24.000 Yeah.
00:01:25.000 The laws online.
00:01:27.000 Have you kept a girl before that's done that? 0.85
00:01:30.000 Well, yeah.
00:01:31.000 That's the thing.
00:01:32.000 Oh, okay.
00:01:33.000 And I was like, you know what?
00:01:34.000 It's a dance.
00:01:35.000 If I, she told me, she did tell me though.
00:01:36.000 So it's like, all right, cool.
00:01:37.000 You told me.
00:01:38.000 Is it the worst thing in the world?
00:01:40.000 No.
00:01:41.000 Did I appreciate it?
00:01:42.000 No.
00:01:43.000 You didn't marry her though, did you?
00:01:44.000 I did marry her.
00:01:45.000 That's the thing.
00:01:46.000 Oh, she's your wife. 0.99
00:01:47.000 Yeah.
00:01:48.000 This is my wife.
00:01:49.000 Yeah.
00:01:50.000 So, but then to be fair with my wife, because the story with my wife is a long time in the
00:01:56.000 making.
00:01:57.000 Like I met my wife when I was seven years old.
00:01:59.000 So it's different.
00:02:00.000 You know?
00:02:01.000 So like, exactly.
00:02:03.000 But then I've, I've said to her before, like, if I just, if I met you in the club and then
00:02:06.000 I found that you went to the club and using other things in the club.
00:02:09.000 It's like, nah.
00:02:10.000 Cause I just met you.
00:02:11.000 You're just any girl from the club. 0.99
00:02:12.000 So you can go.
00:02:13.000 But she doesn't do that now. 0.99
00:02:14.000 No, no, no.
00:02:15.000 She, now when she's like, oh, she's meeting my friends.
00:02:16.000 I'm like, yeah, go.
00:02:17.000 Cause she's a wife. 1.00
00:02:18.000 She's a mother.
00:02:19.000 She did education and stuff like that. 0.71
00:02:21.000 She's very rarely goes out.
00:02:22.000 She looks after me, food, clothes, all that kind of stuff.
00:02:25.000 So you have a more traditional relationship.
00:02:26.000 Very, very, to be fair.
00:02:27.000 Yeah.
00:02:28.000 So, and yeah, so that's, that's why I would question it.
00:02:33.000 But obviously my situation is very unique as opposed to some other people out there.
00:02:38.000 But in general terms, then I would mostly say, yeah.
00:02:41.000 Okay.
00:02:42.000 What would you give up for the right guy?
00:02:46.000 Not soccer.
00:02:48.000 Pretty much.
00:02:49.000 My daughter and football is like those two things. 0.97
00:02:53.000 I mean, why would a man want me to give up football?
00:02:55.000 I mean, I don't even keep social media on my main phone.
00:03:05.000 I don't.
00:03:06.000 Going out.
00:03:07.000 How'd you get recruited today?
00:03:08.000 Your main phone.
00:03:09.000 Don't they recruit you through Instagram or no?
00:03:11.000 No, just the girl knows me. 0.65
00:03:13.000 Oh, okay.
00:03:14.000 She called me, but, um, but yeah, I mean, I'm yeah.
00:03:17.000 And going out is just over.
00:03:18.000 I did a lot of clubbing when I was younger.
00:03:20.000 I've lived my life.
00:03:22.000 I mean, I'm easy.
00:03:25.000 Yeah.
00:03:26.000 Whatever.
00:03:27.000 I don't have to dress like a slut.
00:03:29.000 But then what if your husband was like, nah, yeah.
00:03:31.000 So you need to hang up your football boots.
00:03:34.000 No more life.
00:03:35.000 No more life coaching.
00:03:36.000 Just sit down.
00:03:37.000 No more couch.
00:03:38.000 Get up and cook. 0.90
00:03:39.000 Yeah.
00:03:40.000 If he's the right man, like, sure.
00:03:41.000 I'm bored of coaching anyway.
00:03:43.000 He can provide it.
00:03:44.000 So you go, you won't give up.
00:03:45.000 You just won't do it because you don't want to do it anymore.
00:03:46.000 Right.
00:03:47.000 It's not like give up for him.
00:03:48.000 You're coaching.
00:03:49.000 Well, I am doing it now.
00:03:50.000 But yeah, if he really wanted me to give for the right man.
00:03:51.000 Yeah, I would.
00:03:52.000 I'm not really attached.
00:03:53.000 Come on.
00:03:54.000 I have a question.
00:03:55.000 So this one, I actually don't even, I don't even think I would do this one.
00:03:56.000 So, so would you get plastic surgery?
00:03:58.000 No.
00:03:59.000 For the right guy?
00:04:00.000 No.
00:04:01.000 For the right guy?
00:04:02.000 No.
00:04:03.000 I would not give up.
00:04:04.000 No, no, no.
00:04:05.000 That I would not.
00:04:06.000 That doesn't really make sense to me because if the guy wants you to get plastic surgery,
00:04:09.000 why don't you just find the woman who looks like. 1.00
00:04:11.000 Yeah.
00:04:12.000 Because she's not Ebola.
00:04:13.000 I've heard, I've heard guys like paying for it.
00:04:14.000 I'm not doing it.
00:04:15.000 I'm not doing it now.
00:04:16.000 I'm not doing it now.
00:04:17.000 I'm not doing it now.
00:04:18.000 But yeah, if he really wanted me to do it.
00:04:19.000 For the right man, yeah, I would.
00:04:20.000 For the right man, yeah, I would.
00:04:21.000 I'm not really attached.
00:04:22.000 I'm not really attached.
00:04:23.000 I have a question.
00:04:24.000 I've heard guys like paying for their girls' boob jobs. 1.00
00:04:29.000 Yeah, 100%.
00:04:30.000 I've heard of that.
00:04:31.000 I'm too scared to go under surgery.
00:04:34.000 I wouldn't want to do it either, but I think that's my...
00:04:38.000 I might need it, but I still want to do it.
00:04:41.000 Fine as you are, man.
00:04:42.000 All that plastic surgery, BBL, BLL.
00:04:45.000 But yeah, otherwise I'm easy.
00:04:46.000 I'm not down for it, man.
00:04:47.000 I'm not attached to...
00:04:49.000 Yeah.
00:04:50.000 But then couldn't he just get the girl to eat more? 0.62
00:04:53.000 No, you can't get boobs from that. 1.00
00:04:55.000 No?
00:04:56.000 Yeah, I mean...
00:04:57.000 If you put on weight, wouldn't your breasts grow? 1.00
00:04:58.000 Yeah.
00:04:59.000 I don't think they want.
00:05:00.000 I think it's usually because they want the hourglass.
00:05:03.000 Yeah.
00:05:04.000 Sheesh.
00:05:05.000 I don't know.
00:05:06.000 I'm just trying to think of a natural route.
00:05:07.000 I'm trying to think of a natural route.
00:05:08.000 No, you can.
00:05:09.000 There are ways that you can, but not for it to look like plastic.
00:05:12.000 No, obviously not.
00:05:13.000 It's not going to be up here like this, but like...
00:05:15.000 But there are things, like I said, it is, you can work on yourself.
00:05:18.000 And yeah, that, I would do that for him, like to work on myself, to be in shape, to look good.
00:05:22.000 Yeah, absolutely, but not plastic surgery or fillers and all that.
00:05:25.000 Yeah, that's quite true.
00:05:26.000 No, I wouldn't do that.
00:05:27.000 Yeah.
00:05:28.000 Okay, what would you expect the right girl to do for you or to give up for you? 0.98
00:05:32.000 I think, you know, sort of to begin with, just to be looking at my current circumstances.
00:05:38.000 Obviously, if she'd work, the start of the other is fine.
00:05:40.000 But if it came down to where I was in a position where she wouldn't need to work, and especially, 0.94
00:05:47.000 I think, I think by nature, like, I want to be with a woman that's more nurturing.
00:05:52.000 So, you know, that early stage is before the kids start to go to school.
00:05:56.000 I'll take one for the team.
00:05:58.000 You know, you've got to stay at home.
00:06:00.000 Especially if I can provide that life for us, you know?
00:06:03.000 Mm-hmm.
00:06:04.000 So that's why I'd expect her to give up.
00:06:05.000 After that, you know, we're open to talks.
00:06:07.000 If she wants to go back to work, yeah, no problem, man.
00:06:10.000 But in that period, you've got to play ball, man, you know?
00:06:13.000 If it's the best thing for the family.
00:06:15.000 Mm-hmm.
00:06:16.000 Did you answer what you would give up for the right guy?
00:06:19.000 I don't remember.
00:06:20.000 No, not really.
00:06:21.000 Okay, I didn't think you did.
00:06:22.000 Because I was thinking about it, and I was kind of like, I don't know.
00:06:26.000 I probably wouldn't give up anything.
00:06:31.000 Nothing?
00:06:32.000 Damn, son.
00:06:33.000 No.
00:06:34.000 I don't think any relationships require sacrifice.
00:06:35.000 No, I have a fiancé, obviously, and I love him.
00:06:38.000 Right.
00:06:39.000 But I think the only reason probably is coming from that, that is he's very, he wants me the way
00:06:45.000 I want, I am.
00:06:46.000 I mean, I think I love dancing.
00:06:50.000 So he doesn't me going to the, because I do a bit of a TV personality in Persian channels.
00:06:55.000 So I do a lot of dancing.
00:06:57.000 I do a lot of, you know, cameras.
00:07:00.000 I do like Persian Latino.
00:07:02.000 So I mix both.
00:07:03.000 I will, I will do a bit of a dance here.
00:07:06.000 Oh yes, please.
00:07:07.000 And so, because, because I do whatever I always wanted to do right now.
00:07:11.000 And he's very happy with the way I am, even though I'm most of the time just, you know,
00:07:18.000 I'm very like outgoing and stuff and spending a lot of time out because of the camera and
00:07:24.000 videos and my friends.
00:07:26.000 And, and he's always involved and he's loving the fact that I'm very outgoing and social.
00:07:31.000 So he doesn't say, Oh, I don't like that.
00:07:34.000 Don't do that.
00:07:35.000 Don't do this.
00:07:36.000 I think he lets you do whatever you want.
00:07:38.000 So probably if he tells me don't dance, I wouldn't give up because I'm, I'm so.
00:07:43.000 What if he told you delete social media?
00:07:50.000 What do you need social media for?
00:07:52.000 Social media, because I have a big platform on Instagram and I really worked hard for it.
00:07:57.000 Do you make any revenue, any type of money?
00:07:59.000 Do you get paid from social media?
00:08:01.000 No, but I have a big, amazing family.
00:08:04.000 Like, you know, you're having, when you build up your Instagram.
00:08:06.000 Better than your real family.
00:08:07.000 You can call them.
00:08:08.000 Sorry?
00:08:09.000 You can call your family, FaceTime your family.
00:08:10.000 Oh, I talked about my family in Iran.
00:08:12.000 I called Instagram my family as well, because I kind of like.
00:08:15.000 Hold on, better than your real family, like your fiance and.
00:08:18.000 No, I just don't understand why anybody wants me to delete my Instagram.
00:08:22.000 In case.
00:08:23.000 You can see them in real life.
00:08:24.000 Yeah.
00:08:25.000 Well, I'll give you an example.
00:08:26.000 Is he ringing?
00:08:27.000 Is he ringing?
00:08:28.000 Yeah.
00:08:29.000 We had, we had a guy come, come in two days ago, Justin Waller.
00:08:35.000 He's like a YouTuber.
00:08:36.000 And this guy has married women constantly trying to sleep with him on social media all the time. 0.96
00:08:43.000 Like literally, like he's shown me like videos, pictures of girls like saying, come over.
00:08:48.000 And like, he'll show me pictures of their families.
00:08:50.000 Right.
00:08:51.000 Yeah.
00:08:52.000 And he doesn't do it because he's, he's not that type of guy.
00:08:53.000 Yeah.
00:08:54.000 You know?
00:08:55.000 Yeah.
00:08:56.000 But, but it's like, if a guy just wants to avoid that headache.
00:08:59.000 Yeah.
00:09:00.000 Of you, you know, potentially doing something like you wouldn't understand that.
00:09:04.000 If a lot, a lot of divorces like come from social media.
00:09:08.000 That's true because my sister had, you know, lots of argue with his, with her husband because
00:09:13.000 of social media, but now thinking about it, if obviously he wants me to delete Instagram,
00:09:19.000 otherwise he's not going to be with me because I really love him and he's, he's amazing.
00:09:24.000 So probably I would, but I think I'm going to be depressed for a few months.
00:09:28.000 Is he Iranian?
00:09:29.000 Is he, is he Iranian?
00:09:30.000 No, he's English.
00:09:31.000 Okay.
00:09:32.000 Okay.
00:09:33.000 So you, so you, so you.
00:09:34.000 Okay.
00:09:35.000 I don't know.
00:09:36.000 It explains a lot.
00:09:37.000 I don't have that sort of things in your life.
00:09:39.000 You don't really think about it.
00:09:40.000 But now because we're discussing it, it's actually good for me because when you discuss
00:09:44.000 it, I get into myself and thinking if one, they don't want me to delete my Instagram.
00:09:49.000 Cause we never had that conversation and I never thought about it.
00:09:52.000 But now you're asking me and I'm thinking about it.
00:09:55.000 Probably I would.
00:09:56.000 Well, can I ask you, would you like, would you give up just pearly things for the right
00:10:00.000 time?
00:10:01.000 Geez.
00:10:02.000 Oh yeah.
00:10:03.000 Easily.
00:10:04.000 Yeah.
00:10:05.000 You can just do it at home though.
00:10:06.000 From home.
00:10:07.000 Yeah.
00:10:08.000 I mean, to be honest, I don't think the show is conducive.
00:10:10.000 Like what am I going to do this when I have kids?
00:10:12.000 No.
00:10:13.000 You know what I mean?
00:10:14.000 You can still do the wife show. 1.00
00:10:15.000 The wife show. 0.71
00:10:16.000 The wife show. 0.71
00:10:17.000 You could still do that man.
00:10:18.000 Yeah.
00:10:19.000 Just rock the baby with your foot here. 1.00
00:10:20.000 The camera ain't got to be there.
00:10:21.000 I mean, if it was genuinely causing a problem in my marriage, like I would, I mean, it's
00:10:34.000 social media.
00:10:35.000 You know what I mean?
00:10:36.000 That's what I was going to say.
00:10:37.000 I don't know.
00:10:38.000 Sorry.
00:10:39.000 Yeah.
00:10:40.000 Go ahead.
00:10:41.000 I'm going to keep on people nowadays.
00:10:42.000 And it hasn't been around for that long.
00:10:43.000 It's only what?
00:10:44.000 Nine, 10.
00:10:45.000 Imagine saying that 10 year old controls your life and it isn't your child.
00:10:49.000 That is crazy to me.
00:10:50.000 Like, yeah, fair enough.
00:10:51.000 I'll go on social media.
00:10:52.000 Most days I'm just scrolling a one night.
00:10:53.000 When you actually really think about what is it that you're doing, unless like you're
00:10:57.000 a full time content creator now, or like some former celebrity where you need to have
00:11:02.000 to have that level of engagement to my mind now if you just on then go like this
00:11:05.900 on with your thing with your phone scrolling in the glass that's wasting
00:11:09.560 your time no I wouldn't if I was like that like just scrolling and you know
00:11:14.300 wasting my time I wouldn't even care if I want to delete my Instagram to be honest
00:11:18.260 if you're meant ask for it you're gonna delete it yeah yeah what about girls 1.00
00:11:22.760 trips would you give up girls trips yes but I love my girls trip I tell you
00:11:29.660 tonight when I go home I'm gonna I'm gonna ask him if if there's one thing he
00:11:37.640 wants me to give up on what would it be I don't know I should ask him what if he
00:11:45.540 came back and said now that you well no it's actually interesting you make me
00:11:56.120 kind of like aware of what about plastic surgery would you get plastic surgery
00:11:59.900 for a guy if if like I I did my boob job because after I had nether I just lost 0.99
00:12:05.580 the fat because I lost weight and I did for myself because I hated it and I
00:12:10.460 wanted to do it but if I had to do because of him no not really no I'm
00:12:19.520 scared of plastic surgeries I mean I did this ten years ago but now I'm getting
00:12:22.880 older I'm scared of that sort of thing okay did you say what you would give up
00:12:27.740 for a guy you know what this actually this conversation made me think when I
00:12:31.340 was younger we actually we women we do that we do give up things we why do we
00:12:37.700 dress a certain way to for men to look at us and I think you know I think there
00:12:44.200 was times when I was too conscious of I wanna be certain way so I can get the
00:12:50.180 attention from men but now that's not the case anymore that's where I can speak
00:12:54.680 freely about this if I would get plastic surgery no giving up things like my
00:13:02.940 social media my career mm-hmm yes but when it comes to I don't know this is it's
00:13:10.480 just age as well because I know I'm thinking when it was about 2025 and I
00:13:16.360 had a boyfriend and I fell in love with him and to be honest I would have done
00:13:19.780 anything hmm but not now were you more in love then probably okay so so it sounds
00:13:27.820 like for the like the right guy you would give up more yeah I mean I don't know is
00:13:34.660 it is it the age or am I wrong is it the age it's got to be the right guy only at
00:13:41.900 the guy it should be your age as well yeah but I think for me because the
00:13:45.480 opposite was I don't know maybe like I was raised by a feminist mom and he was
00:13:49.720 like don't get married don't have kids go and do what you want no but she's very
00:13:55.180 happy she's got granddaughter I'm I'm the only one out of her four kids has given
00:13:58.700 her a grandchild could it be because when you get older when I get more
00:14:02.440 experience experience and you get more confident you kind of feel like why do
00:14:05.800 I have to do that maybe because maybe because you don't love you that much if
00:14:09.880 I did have that I don't I don't think it's love only no I don't think I should
00:14:15.640 do something because I should do my boob job because I love him and he wants me
00:14:19.420 to do I don't call it love if he would really truly love me he would love me the
00:14:24.760 way I look yeah ideal man like I've got second I just don't like that any of
00:14:32.320 that stuff anyway but so I think I call it my I'm I'm more mature in terms of
00:14:38.620 making decision right then just because someone who go maybe I would like I have
00:14:44.740 maybe I would have tell him wait wait blessing I have to give a statement um okay
00:14:52.660 is king is Michael here can you see if he'll take the show for like while I go
00:14:58.540 do it I have to give a police statement I guess for the lady 1.00
00:15:01.180 she called the police oh I'm so sorry pal
00:15:03.340 serious yeah but guys we're gonna get King Richie's to take over the show yes
00:15:09.900 kick um it's ridiculous seriously she called the police yeah I guess she couldn't just
00:15:16.340 come down when she spoke to me in a certain oh I saw and it was good get a
00:15:31.280 bit spicy it was drunk I gotta say she came you're drunk yeah I just said calm
00:15:35.660 down and she went no I'm just saying but the environment was just real spicy she
00:15:41.220 just yeah she went off man and then she was trying to say that I said that domestic 1.00
00:15:45.980 abuse was okay I didn't even I don't know where she got these these ideas and going
00:15:55.200 off a random tangents as well and just not even just listen I wanted to hear so
00:16:01.920 you said you had a feminist mother when did you because you seem actually pretty 1.00
00:16:05.340 based like you know you don't scream like feminism to me so I rebelled against
00:16:12.540 my mom finally I well yeah I was born 1980 so I grew up in the 90s and yeah
00:16:20.800 moving from Iran to Sweden it was my mom was like freedom do what you want was
00:16:27.720 your mom a single mother yeah that split up when I was 12 okay divorced my dad and
00:16:33.360 had two job two three jobs and you know really tried to provide for us really
00:16:37.380 good mom amazing I love her but she really I said to her my only complaint was
00:16:42.180 like you raised me based on ideologies that you had not you know I never really
00:16:46.560 got you it was more what you believed in about you know being a feminist being an 1.00
00:16:51.900 atheist and so yeah and I yeah I'm definitely not a feminist so I'm curious do
00:17:02.100 you feel did your mom ever get remarried no she was with someone for like 20
00:17:07.020 years but not she didn't get remarried okay so it's yeah I was just wondering if
00:17:10.980 she had a better outcome or not I've always wondered about that when sorry
00:17:14.820 goodness no and that's not direct to you personally but cuz I grew up single
00:17:19.160 parent home but I've always wonder where they told that they were out there
00:17:22.660 working two three jobs yeah I was single mother then telling her daughter go and do 1.00
00:17:26.920 the same I just I don't understand how okay I just didn't get it man I mean I've
00:17:31.960 worked two three jobs before and as many of you know I was just banned on tick tock
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