JustPearlyThings - April 29, 2023


She Was Put On The Spot For Stating This...


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In this episode, we talk about cheating in relationships and how women cheat more than men. How does this happen and why does it happen? We also talk about the impact of social media and how it affects men and women.

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00:00:00.000 I feel like women do it more, they just hide it better than men. 1.00
00:00:03.440 How?
00:00:04.280 What do you mean by hide it better?
00:00:06.320 Well, I wouldn't know because I've never cheated.
00:00:07.540 No, but I'm saying from what you've heard, from your theory, what you're hearing,
00:00:10.520 how does that happen?
00:00:12.880 Women lie better than men, in my opinion. 1.00
00:00:15.100 Women lie better than men. 1.00
00:00:16.020 And I feel like, well, I can't give an example because then I'm going to be putting up...
00:00:20.400 No, I just want you to know.
00:00:21.860 I'd love to know as a man, I want to know.
00:00:23.300 Could you tell me?
00:00:24.340 I mean, because you've got this opinion from somewhere.
00:00:26.820 I know it's not you.
00:00:27.740 You're the faithful girlfriend.
00:00:29.240 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:00:29.720 But I'm sure in six years, right, you know someone that's cheated, right?
00:00:35.560 Yeah.
00:00:36.080 Okay.
00:00:36.520 So what's the question?
00:00:37.420 So like what happened?
00:00:38.620 Why did she cheat? 1.00
00:00:39.460 How did she cheat? 1.00
00:00:40.480 I feel like people in my generation think that they can go find better quick because they're
00:00:47.040 still young.
00:00:47.620 So like you have your variables.
00:00:50.440 It might be they're good looking.
00:00:52.220 I know men like good looking, young, healthy, whatever it is.
00:00:56.500 Women are in their prime when they're young, right? 1.00
00:00:57.980 So does that make sense?
00:00:59.920 No, but I was asking about it.
00:01:01.160 You seemed like you said that women, you said women cheat more than men.
00:01:03.620 So I'm asking like, do you know someone who cheated?
00:01:05.560 How do they cheat?
00:01:06.680 They just go out and do what they want to do.
00:01:09.120 Like, yeah, it's not like...
00:01:11.440 I'm asking, is it like, are they sleeping with random men every night?
00:01:15.040 Is it the same guy?
00:01:16.100 No.
00:01:16.300 So say like a girl could go out, say like she's going out with her friends or whatever.
00:01:19.780 And let's say she's talking to two people.
00:01:21.920 One, she's actually been in a relationship with on and off.
00:01:24.980 On an off weekend, she could go out with her friend and go do something with the second
00:01:28.640 person.
00:01:29.140 Wow.
00:01:29.400 But in the first person's head, they think that they're maybe like still together or whatever.
00:01:35.420 Okay.
00:01:35.920 So the first person, is she in a relationship with them or two?
00:01:38.420 So she's on and off.
00:01:39.640 She's on and off with the first person.
00:01:41.220 Okay.
00:01:41.640 But in that person's head, she's, they're on.
00:01:44.700 Does that make sense?
00:01:45.640 Mm-hmm.
00:01:46.140 Yeah.
00:01:46.720 Oh, okay.
00:01:47.340 So, so really like they both think they're the only one, but there's two.
00:01:51.960 Yeah.
00:01:52.480 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:53.380 Kind of, kind of, yeah.
00:01:55.140 You know, I think, I think social media is a big, big, big difference, you know, because
00:01:58.960 I think that everyone's like so glued on social media trying to like watch what people
00:02:04.180 are doing.
00:02:04.900 So I was like, um, people have like unrealistic expectations.
00:02:08.660 They'll compare their life to someone else's life on social media.
00:02:11.180 Mm-hmm.
00:02:11.500 And then when, you know, arguments are happening, like, oh, you didn't take me out to cinema.
00:02:15.560 Oh, my friend took, look, she's on Instagram.
00:02:17.660 She took me out to whatever, boom, boom, boom. 0.82
00:02:19.940 And it's just like too much, too much watch over people.
00:02:22.660 I thought that makes a big difference as well.
00:02:24.360 And plus on social media as well, like all the girls and that are just, like, you're from
00:02:29.960 young, just showing body, image, image, everything.
00:02:32.160 So it's all, not just girls, but in general, everything's all image.
00:02:34.960 So it's like, everyone's always showing image, image.
00:02:37.340 So everything just seems like very sexual.
00:02:39.460 That's why people are just on the cheating thing quickly as well.
00:02:42.520 Yeah.
00:02:42.580 I think, I think social media really affects women more than it does men.
00:02:47.740 Are men really on social media like that?
00:02:49.860 Yeah, of course.
00:02:50.820 All the time.
00:02:51.860 Like by and large, you think so?
00:02:54.020 You think it's equal?
00:02:55.300 I don't know about equal, but I feel it does affect a lot of men still.
00:02:58.660 I feel a lot of men, you know, get affected by, you know, on social media, what they see
00:03:02.600 in that as well.
00:03:03.440 And that makes them, like, go crazy.
00:03:06.440 Like a lot of my friends and that, they'll be like, you know, before they link girls and 0.86
00:03:10.140 they'll be doing that background research, you know what I mean?
00:03:12.580 Seeing what they've done, body count, all this crazy stuff.
00:03:15.860 Because, yeah, because it's like, they think raw, like, I want to know if this girl's
00:03:19.700 that, how many guys she's selective and all that. 0.99
00:03:21.720 They do background research.
00:03:23.040 Background research.
00:03:23.460 How do they do that?
00:03:24.360 What do they do?
00:03:24.540 Well, I don't, listen, I'll be honest with you.
00:03:26.440 Is there like a database?
00:03:27.280 Is there a database?
00:03:27.860 This burner account, this burner account, things rule, this burner account, creating
00:03:30.000 burner accounts and just, you know, messaging people and doing loads of things.
00:03:33.680 It's crazy.
00:03:34.660 Are you saying men do that or women do that?
00:03:35.960 I think men do that. 0.95
00:03:36.700 Wait, so, okay, you know a guy that makes burner accounts.
00:03:39.280 I know a couple guys.
00:03:40.680 Okay, what do they do with these?
00:03:41.880 I've just never heard of this.
00:03:42.900 Like, just create burner accounts and just, like, message girls and see, okay, potential girl
00:03:48.080 to see what, you know, they're saying to test them out and just do testing it to see.
00:03:52.260 Oh, so they test the girl. 0.99
00:03:53.380 Yeah, to see if they're like, you know.
00:03:54.600 They make, like, a really attractive burner account.
00:03:56.780 I don't know if it's attractive.
00:03:57.960 I don't know.
00:03:58.500 But it's like, just to test the girl to see if she's serious and that all.
00:04:01.860 Do you know what I mean?
00:04:03.120 Okay, so they'll test, like, if they want to chat to a girl, they'll test the girl with 0.90
00:04:07.340 another account to see if she responds.
00:04:08.900 Yeah, to pretend to be someone else, you get it.
00:04:10.580 And then they'll, they'll maybe link in the girl, pretend to be someone else and then message
00:04:13.860 them and see, okay, cool.
00:04:14.880 So, okay, like, ask them a couple of questions and see, dig in and see what they're saying.
00:04:19.320 Yeah.
00:04:20.160 You say, the man, am I getting smarter?
00:04:23.700 Bruh.
00:04:24.380 You think that's smart?
00:04:25.320 I don't know.
00:04:25.720 Smart, bruh.
00:04:27.140 Man just made me, my brain tick twice.
00:04:29.400 I said, what?
00:04:30.480 They're doing mad accounts so man can see.
00:04:33.240 So if I'm linking a ting, I'll make a new account, certain what she's attracted in to,
00:04:38.020 like, obviously, and then just try and pattern her like that and see if she's serious.
00:04:41.840 Oh, yeah, I'm not seeing no one at the moment.
00:04:43.440 But then you'll mash up your own link in a way, because that's, that's hurtful.
00:04:47.340 Seems like a lot of effort.
00:04:49.240 Yeah, it's a lot of effort still.
00:04:50.400 A lot of effort still.
00:04:50.460 I wouldn't do that personally, but yeah.
00:04:52.380 I was like, that sounds like, that must be a feminine dude, because that sounds like 1.00
00:04:55.480 something that a girl would do. 1.00
00:04:56.540 Yeah, yeah.
00:04:56.740 It's like detective work.
00:05:00.100 Yeah, that's too much, man.
00:05:01.080 I just think there's loads of insecurities though, do you know what I'm saying to you?
00:05:04.020 Maybe they don't feel that girl's trustworthy.
00:05:06.760 That's kind of sad.
00:05:07.540 And to be fair, like, I would say like rightfully, rightfully so, but that's just a lot.
00:05:12.120 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:05:16.120 I agree with what you said earlier, though.
00:05:18.020 A lot of time.
00:05:19.020 I was just saying a lot of time on the hand.
00:05:20.860 Yeah, I agree with what you said earlier, when you mentioned the social media has taken
00:05:24.780 over.
00:05:25.780 It has, in my time, obviously I'm 35 in it, so there weren't no YouTube, there wasn't
00:05:30.060 no Instagram, there wasn't no all that, so man ain't distracted, you see it, but the
00:05:34.660 new generation now, I always keep looking at you because you're too young, sorry.
00:05:37.700 But yeah, the new generation, obviously, it just, they've got all the patterns, you get
00:05:44.520 me?
00:05:44.640 The social media's there.
00:05:45.980 And I like Bush though, like back in the day, was there these things for men to even
00:05:49.300 do music like that?
00:05:50.440 You understand?
00:05:51.220 It was the set up.
00:05:52.260 It wasn't available.
00:05:53.280 You understand?
00:05:53.880 I think that social media affects women more than men because women find 80% of men unattractive,
00:05:59.820 so it's not like most men.
00:06:01.180 Like if you ask women both on dating apps and in person, and like you say, do you find this
00:06:04.880 guy attractive, this guy attractive, they find 80% unattractive.
00:06:07.580 And that's in person too.
00:06:08.780 Because a lot of people will say, oh, that's just social media, no, no, no, no, no, in person.
00:06:12.680 So it's only a small percentage of guys that are even getting messages from women like that.
00:06:16.580 Yeah, but you know what it is?
00:06:17.020 I feel a lot of guys that are on social media to try to like pattern a girl, try and move
00:06:20.720 to a girl.
00:06:21.420 And I feel like a lot of guys, like, I feel like when I was younger, like, when you're
00:06:25.180 trying to, if you're like a girl, you approach her, do you know what I mean?
00:06:27.300 You'll move to her, you know, put in game, do you know what I'm saying to you?
00:06:30.560 I feel now, guys are being lazy because it's like, everything's social media, so they just
00:06:34.760 try sliding in DMs and that's why they get blanked, do you know what I'm saying to you?
00:06:37.820 Well, yeah, because like an average, oh my gosh, an overweight woman on Tinder gets more 1.00
00:06:44.280 matches than the top, like a model level guy on Tinder.
00:06:47.600 I don't believe that, 100%.
00:06:48.600 Yeah.
00:06:48.860 I don't believe, like, how?
00:06:50.820 100%, 100%.
00:06:52.060 How?
00:06:52.540 Because men aren't as picky as women.
00:06:54.300 That's true, actually.
00:06:55.680 Yeah, men aren't like, oh, good enough.
00:06:57.740 Oh, yeah, God.
00:06:59.220 Men swipe right on dating apps 50% of the time, where women only swipe right 5%. 0.99
00:07:03.060 Wow.
00:07:04.140 Yeah.
00:07:05.860 That's a big difference.
00:07:08.080 Yeah.
00:07:08.600 I mean, yeah.
00:07:09.280 I think dating apps is also a problem as well with the whole dating scene nowadays because it's
00:07:14.980 just so easy to swipe and just, and you don't really think of the people as like real people
00:07:20.040 when they are, but you get, it takes the human side out of it.
00:07:25.940 Yeah.
00:07:26.440 Yeah.
00:07:26.800 Well, I mean, it's also like girls in their 20s usually get, you know, like ran through
00:07:32.380 a bit by the top 20% of men and then they start to settle like in their 30s.
00:07:36.980 No, I'm serious.
00:07:38.980 I'm joking.
00:07:39.620 Don't look at me because you said the age and I'm just, yeah.
00:07:43.020 Don't mind me.
00:07:43.740 No, I mean, because when you think about it, like what are people doing in their 20s?
00:07:46.920 It's situationship.
00:07:47.920 So what are you, what are you doing in a situationship?
00:07:49.900 You're like, it's funny because girls will say that they're not like they need to be in 1.00
00:07:53.060 a monogamous relationship, but it's like how many situationships have you been in?
00:07:56.900 That's not monogamous. 0.99
00:07:58.380 It's true.
00:08:01.160 Yeah.
00:08:01.800 How many have you been in?
00:08:03.240 How many have I been?
00:08:04.200 Zero.
00:08:04.600 I'm a virgin.
00:08:05.860 Yeah.
00:08:07.780 I'm just kidding.
00:08:08.520 I did not know what to say.
00:08:12.840 No, no, no.
00:08:14.800 You're not going to answer that one.
00:08:18.400 That's a laugh that one off.
00:08:19.560 You know, yeah.
00:08:20.940 Next question.
00:08:22.240 Moving on to it.
00:08:23.580 She went to it.
00:08:24.480 And just like flicking pages.
00:08:26.260 No, I'm special, you know.
00:08:28.360 Anyways.
00:08:29.900 So, so, what is the worst date you guys have ever been on?
00:08:36.980 Sure.
00:08:37.600 Oh, what?
00:08:38.520 God, I've got quite a few, you know, I'll be honest.
00:08:40.380 Okay, give me, give me a couple.
00:08:42.340 I mean, I went to date with one girl one time, yeah.
00:08:44.980 And then, you know, went to Wonderland, yeah.
00:08:48.380 And then she just wasn't even on it.
00:08:51.240 Like, she just, her whole attitude was just like moving along.
00:08:54.340 Like, wasn't wanting to play no games, nothing like that.
00:08:56.700 And then, um, after this event restaurant and that, and it's just like, this is, you know,
00:09:00.320 when the chemistry is just so dead that there's nothing there, like literally nothing.
00:09:04.860 So, I just thought to myself, this is dead.
00:09:07.260 So, I literally, I thought, let me just end the date here.
00:09:10.340 So, um, when we ended the date, I was like, okay, cool.
00:09:13.100 I'm going to go.
00:09:13.940 Because, like, what's the point?
00:09:15.060 And then she just walked off. 0.99
00:09:17.600 Not even no bye, no hug, no nothing.
00:09:19.240 I was just like, this is, this is terrible.
00:09:21.320 I don't even know why I went on a date in the first place.
00:09:23.060 But, yeah.
00:09:24.360 That's just one, that's just one example.
00:09:25.600 Give me, give me another.
00:09:26.720 Oh, my God.
00:09:28.160 You got, you got stories, huh?
00:09:31.460 Another one, um, bad one.
00:09:36.500 Yeah, I went, I went on one date with one girl in a restaurant and she was just rude to the waiter, 0.70
00:09:40.920 just proper rude, because they were taking quite long with the food.
00:09:44.180 And the way she was just disrespecting the waiter, I was like, no, this ain't it.
00:09:47.320 Do you know what I mean?
00:09:47.820 Like, at least have some manners.
00:09:48.900 I get, I get it, like, the service is bad, but she just was bad-mouthing the waiter.
00:09:53.860 And it's just like, I was just, I got mad as well.
00:09:55.500 I was like, you can't be talking to people like that.
00:09:57.320 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:09:57.920 Do you know, from there one, it just went down the hall.
00:10:00.340 So, yeah, that was not a good one as well.
00:10:02.220 So, she started yelling at the, what'd she say to the waiter? 1.00
00:10:04.620 Just start swearing.
00:10:05.420 So, you're fucking taking too long, yeah.
00:10:06.900 Just start swearing.
00:10:07.880 Oh, she started, like, all out swearing at the waiter. 0.99
00:10:10.060 You're swearing at the waiter.
00:10:11.420 Swearing at the waiter.
00:10:12.060 And then, like, I see, I was like, no, this is out of hand.
00:10:15.820 I'm completely out of hand.
00:10:17.280 I can't be in this situation, no way.
00:10:19.720 You can't be talking to people like that.
00:10:21.400 And it's bad on me, because then what I'm like, like, I've come with her,
00:10:24.600 so I've got, I was like, nah, no way.
00:10:27.340 Did you still pay for the dinner?
00:10:29.740 I'll be honest with you, when I go on dates, I always pay in it.
00:10:31.900 I always pay in it.
00:10:32.660 Okay.
00:10:32.920 So, I don't, even things like that, I just don't even have to think about it.
00:10:36.720 It just creates too much anxiety for me in terms of, like, oh, let's split the bill,
00:10:40.320 just, nah, let's pay.
00:10:41.240 I come organized, innit?
00:10:42.660 I know, okay, if I'm gonna go somewhere, I know what for you, what's gonna cost,
00:10:46.080 and I just pay for it.
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