JustPearlyThings - March 22, 2023


She Was SHOCKED To Hear THIS


Episode Stats


Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

186.9695

Word count

1,608

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

4

sentences flagged

Hate speech

5

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about the importance of being transparent as a wife and mother and how important it is to be open about your emotions and how to communicate them to your partner. We also talk about what it means to be a good wife and a good mother.

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
00:00:00.000 about you oh she's see you you've had the the privilege of love yeah um i think with me
00:00:11.440 i think one word to summarize i think i'm going to be very transparent as a wife um i would say
00:00:19.580 well if you look up like my day-to-day life as of now like i'm a very busy person like i work a
00:00:24.940 nine-to-five in a very very stressful industry so i'm always out of the house like pretty much
00:00:29.580 five days a week and if it comes to a thing where like let's say my husband likes a freshly cooked
00:00:35.500 meal once i get home i'm gonna keep it real look i'm tired i can't cook for you today
00:00:39.160 i like to kind of maybe plan ahead just due to my hectic life so as it is right are you a crock
00:00:49.220 pot type crock pot type of girl no slow cooker yeah like oh you're just yeah i mean no it's a slow
00:00:56.980 cooker i mean yeah because i like my food to taste good so obviously with that being said
00:01:03.220 yes i would say i'm a slow cooker because it involves a lot of tlc so i need to make sure
00:01:07.360 that how many meals would you say you cook a week now oh god uh so like this week how many meals did
00:01:13.380 you cook i'd say two two okay how many meals did you cook this week pearl at least seven
00:01:19.800 i've been doing better she's banned me from takeout yeah that's why i asked her yeah um so i think
00:01:28.240 and i think with me as well i'm the kind of person like um when it comes to my emotions i'm not afraid
00:01:35.180 to hide it i'm gonna like kind of tell you what's up i'm not really kind of bottle it up because i just
00:01:41.740 don't think it's healthy to bottle things up do you think that's valuable to a guy a girl that's
00:01:46.100 gonna tell him his her feelings all the time how are you doing this i'm just i'm just asking the
00:01:54.740 question i think so so you're at this job interview yeah and he's saying okay what do you what's on the
00:02:01.440 resume and you say i'm gonna tell you my feelings and that's how they're gonna hear it i'm just letting
00:02:06.080 you know i mean they don't care yeah i mean i think we i think they care to a degree but i think
00:02:14.060 you need to kind of once you got them i think you need to understand them to the point of how you
00:02:19.380 communicate to them i think that's just the best way i can approach it i think i think with me like
00:02:26.160 i think when it comes to emotions let's be real like when when it's raw sometimes you don't think
00:02:30.640 things straight away you might just say things and just blah just impulsive and then if like you're
00:02:35.120 trying to express these things to a guy let's be real he's probably gonna absorb 50 of what you're
00:02:39.600 saying not even that 20 i think i need to keep up with the times that's just an average figure i had
00:02:48.560 in my head but you know i'll wait i'll get back into reality soon um but yeah i think i think that's
00:02:53.400 just one way for me to just kind of summarize everything just being transparent and i mean if it's
00:02:58.700 a thing where like kids are involved and stuff then i don't know would you quit your you seem
00:03:04.000 like you like your job a lot you seem very career driven yeah i am yeah no and that's fine would
00:03:10.420 you quit that to raise kids uh no yeah i don't think i would i don't think she's gonna be a working 0.95
00:03:18.820 wife a working yeah definitely mama what's what so then who's gonna raise the kids 1.00
00:03:23.920 that's me that's true grandparents that's what they're there for no so you want your parents to
00:03:29.220 raise your kids i mean i don't want them to raise them but i want i know they're going to be heavily
00:03:40.220 involved in my kids either your parents or a stranger oh that's so true right um i'm just
00:03:45.000 telling you how men hear it yeah it's true oh it's a hard question it is a very hard question
00:03:52.200 okay let me just say i don't know it's really not a hard question it is a hard question when
00:03:55.640 you're a career driven woman it's a very hard question it's not a hard question it's just it's
00:04:00.600 just it's just it's like it's just the answer maybe doesn't reflect like reflect in the way that
00:04:05.000 men would want to hear and and also no one's judging you it just it's how you feel you may even
00:04:10.100 change your mind but for now if you feel like yes i'm going to utilize nannies the school system
00:04:16.580 did i'm going to utilize all of what i can afford because i love my career i liked working i changed
00:04:23.040 my jobs i mean yeah i think i think if i'm being honest now probably strangers so like nannies and
00:04:29.260 then nurseries and all that stuff will probably be strangers getting involved with raising my kids but
00:04:33.000 who knows in future i could probably change my mind in the future you might not be able to afford it
00:04:37.580 oh my god the weather prices are now yeah i had nannies so it's not yeah no in england it was
00:04:45.160 about a thousand pound um a week yeah listen i used to be a nanny yeah it was good i'll be honest
00:04:53.920 like me growing up we had all pairs is that how you pronounce it oh that's what we had actually we
00:04:58.700 had the same thing they just most people don't know that word so yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah all pairs
00:05:03.740 are different they're cheap but they live and they're cheap and they live in yeah yeah so they 0.66
00:05:08.540 all eat the same rice you know oh my gosh there's so many stories of like not not what we never had
00:05:14.320 this issue with our au pairs but au pairs in the area where they would like sleep with the husband
00:05:20.500 yeah it's a perk of the job i mean because you're basically putting a wife in your home 0.99
00:05:25.460 no i mean she's raising your kids she's cooking the risk is there we never had that but we did 0.94
00:05:30.820 have one au pair that stole my grandmother's jewelry oh yeah we had we had one that married 1.00
00:05:36.580 my cousin yeah and one that married my uncle and one that did cam work i mean we had like 20 years of
00:05:41.780 i have nine siblings so it was like wow yeah that's ten of you yeah total anyways you're the only girl
00:05:53.140 no no i get why you're vocal though because in a big family you have to be heard yeah actually i'd say
00:05:58.580 everyone in my family is entertaining and funny because it's like either entertaining or funny
00:06:02.500 because otherwise you didn't get any attention yeah it was a competition and everyone's like good at like
00:06:09.060 like very good at something because it was like how else are you gonna get your you you know you
00:06:13.860 got yeah oh my gosh everyone's performing every day yeah um okay thank you um okay tell me about being
00:06:22.260 a wife your day yeah tell me what your day is like so i wake up between 6 and 6 30 to do bible study
00:06:32.180 um and see my husband off to work and yeah you feed him before he goes to work
00:06:38.900 yeah oh no he doesn't like eating okay yeah he's not fast i mean he might like grab cereal or
00:06:44.260 something but he's not really fast to be honest and i don't make him pack lunch he just he's not
00:06:48.660 fast so i used to but yeah but um he yes i see my husband off and as of six weeks ago my daughter
00:06:57.540 decided she wanted to go secondary school so now i see her off to secondary school and my husband takes her 0.82
00:07:03.540 and then after i do my bible study a child will catch me go upstairs brush their teeth
00:07:11.540 um get them fed and then um we'll listen to some music and then after some music um and performance
00:07:19.380 time mommy watch me then we'll get into homeschooling so i homeschool three of the kids and then my eldest
00:07:25.860 one goes to how long does that take you every day for the homeschooling i'm just curious oh it varies
00:07:31.220 roughly on on average about four hours four hours a day on average yeah but then it just depends on
00:07:37.780 the kids sometimes they they're not with it so um yeah and then it comes to lunch time which is around
00:07:45.220 the time where i make lunch i make dinner and then i get the kids to tidy up and then we go out get their
00:07:53.460 sister from school then we come back sister does the homework her homework then she tells me her stories
00:08:00.740 and like we have a little bit of mom and daughter time kids are playing and then we um tidy up again
00:08:08.260 before dad comes home as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a
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