JustPearlyThings - She was SHUT DOWN by the Younger Generation.

00:00:00.000 that everybody keeps on talking about trauma and everybody keeps on blaming everything nowadays

00:00:07.120 on trauma but if i can have counseling and cognitive therapy back in the 80s and 90s

00:00:15.680 it's available out there for everybody and more women especially women they need to start going 0.75

00:00:23.040 and getting therapy because i'm sick and tired of hearing about people's trauma nowadays i've

00:00:29.840 got to the point where i've had more trauma than you i don't care about yours because you're wearing

00:00:34.080 it like a badge you know like oh i'm doing this because i've got this trauma oh nobody's had if i

00:00:40.880 wanted to nobody in their life has had more trauma than i have i wear my healing as my badge of honor

00:00:46.960 as soon as you as soon as you get like you get grapes go and get counseling i did i've got abused

00:00:53.440 go and get counseling that counseling didn't work go and get one that works me and that's what i did

00:00:59.440 i don't carry around baggage i deal with it and i leave it and i move on as a whole human being

00:01:05.600 i'm not going to turn around and say i was a great victim and and no can i just say something i'm sick

00:01:13.920 and tired of hearing about people's trauma i don't care about nobody's trauma definitely deal with it

00:01:18.080 can i just say something do you know who also needs a lot of therapy demand them to because men carry a 0.81

00:01:23.840 lot of trauma and they don't talk about it so actually become a lot of the victims that deal with

00:01:27.200 things that's in like quietly and then they start hurting other people too it's not just the women 0.99

00:01:32.960 women need men need them therapy too but the whole point is that when men have trauma they use their 0.99

00:01:39.040 penises in vaginas to get rid of their trauma and guess what then it's gone and then they get the 1.00

00:01:43.600 girls that don't want to have babies pregnant then they have to go get abortion that is why when the 1.00

00:01:47.600 women have issues before they go and sleep with these kind of men that's why they need to have trauma 1.00

00:01:53.280 because people are saying oh um i came from a single parent family that my mom i was raising

00:01:58.640 my mom and dad my mom and dad got divorced and my mom raised me on her own and i i've got trauma from

00:02:04.640 then have i got trauma no oh my parents sent me to um um africa when i was a child and i've got trauma

00:02:12.320 i got sent to barbados have i got trauma no i got sent away from my parents for to go to school

00:02:18.480 have i got trauma no i'm sick and tired i got great so did i they ain't reported it i done it

00:02:25.360 i got i reported it have i got trauma and no i don't think we can compare your special one

00:02:32.240 no i'm not special because the traumas the the counseling is out there for everybody

00:02:38.000 it's free you know it's got to the point where i get sick of watching certain programs 0.98

00:02:42.400 especially stupid programs like eastenders and and and emmerdale because something would happen 0.56

00:02:47.760 at the end of it if you're affected by this program please phone this number you know and 0.99

00:02:52.480 then you have people saying oh i got great and i was watching this program and it brought it all back

00:02:58.000 to me did you find the number at the end no because you like you're enjoying your pain some women enjoy 1.00

00:03:03.280 that pain they enjoy carrying it around it's a trophy nowadays it's part of like um i'm sick to

00:03:07.920 different hearing that people's trauma that everyone uses these kind of identity topics as a

00:03:12.720 way of as an honor right like a feminist will most feminists i've met will have some kind of trauma 1.00

00:03:19.280 like this and they they talk about therapy they will never use it and they'll keep on doing the same

00:03:22.800 damn stuff because it's like a you know but um on that point the initial question was i wouldn't date

00:03:27.920 someone who who had an abortion just because in my experience i'm pro-choice but i've seen it's extremely 0.99

00:03:33.840 traumatic and like those women are never the same again that's one thing people don't tell you

00:03:37.680 people are like you just have an abortion those women like it does mess you up and i think it's 1.00

00:03:43.760 abortion is a horrible horrible thing and i think it should be avoided at all costs this is the thing 1.00

00:03:49.360 like and like i said you have you have to deal with the consequences i'm not gonna lie one of the

00:03:54.000 things i agree with auntie for sure people tend to be very mentally weak and that goes on both sides

00:03:59.040 women and men that's why i said men need therapies all their weakness is just displayed in different ways 0.55

00:04:04.880 because at the end of the day if you're going to make that decision you make it logically as well

00:04:09.040 if you even make emotionally there's there's logic behind your emotion that's why therapy

00:04:13.280 works because there's a certain logic so if you're logical about it you get over so instead of you

00:04:17.760 thinking about i wouldn't be with a girl that doesn't that has had an abortion maybe start thinking

00:04:21.680 i wouldn't be with somebody that is unhealed because there everybody goes through everything

00:04:25.840 you just heal and you grow from it no i think i think it just i think it just says that you're selfish

00:04:30.640 because because you're thinking because you're thinking of yourself before the child

00:04:35.600 and like and i'm thinking about the child trust me my sister i could be a mother anytime i believe

00:04:40.480 i'll be a great mother however i believe that i i would prefer to put my child in a situation where

00:04:45.760 i know you're not going to be abused because the father is just right but but then like women that 1.00

00:04:49.840 are actually selfless will leave that situation and figure out a way to to raise them they don't just

00:04:56.240 say oh me me me me i'm first yeah and then some women are selfless but they still don't know what 1.00

00:05:01.520 they're doing and they end up ruining the the child's life and then we see here when you say oh look at

00:05:05.680 these women they're older women that they just opened their legs because they they are fatherless 1.00

00:05:10.720 again again that that happens sure but usually those women are selfish too because i'm sorry you can't 1.00

00:05:17.120 like like the women of my my mom's and like older's generation they don't do this all around the 1.00

00:05:23.600 freaking world man it's just here um by the way just one thing about this con just to take it up

00:05:29.040 one level one thing i always find frustrating about this conversation and i've discussed this many many

00:05:34.080 times over the years with people of course i have strong feelings i know the pro-life pop position is

00:05:38.800 not the most popular one in the modern western world um but i believe it's the correct one and one

00:05:44.480 thing that's always frustrating about these conversations is people both men and women act like 1.00

00:05:51.200 we don't know how babies are made right there's very little talk about personal responsibility

00:05:57.200 self-control discipline making wise decisions it's just do whatever you want the truth is

00:06:05.200 society wants people to just to be able to just do whatever have sex with whatever whoever don't think 0.92

00:06:10.160 about it and you know have no consequences you can always you know get rid of the evidence that's

00:06:15.600 what the truth is where you know when people are jumping to these very rare cases extreme cases of

00:06:20.320 incest or extreme cases of grape and so on and so forth they're really distracting from 99 of the

00:06:26.640 issue and i wish people could just be more honest about it and we could have that talk about

00:06:31.200 responsibility and proper sexual behavior and being being careful being cautious making better wiser

00:06:38.960 decisions blame democracy upstream upstream so that we're not we're not dealing with i think i think

00:06:45.680 people regardless of the different positions here hopefully i think we'd all agree that ideally

00:06:51.920 things should not even get to that situation right and the truth is we have we have so many ways now let's

00:06:58.080 be real we have so many ways to avoid that we've got guys here who are in their in their 30s you know

00:07:04.880 you've managed to make it through without having a kid and getting anyone pregnant and so on it's

00:07:10.080 it's not it's not impossible it's not rocket science but you do have to be careful and make wise

00:07:15.520 decisions can i just can i just give you a scenario what if yeah you meet a girl on a night out

00:07:20.160 you use protection the condom breaks you don't know this girl i wouldn't have sex with a girl i don't 1.00

00:07:25.440 know listen you just all admitted when did i do that when did i do that i didn't hear you say no 0.69

00:07:34.960 i never banged somebody that's below my level that i didn't want to be with and i was ashamed of

00:07:39.200 you're gonna have a child with her when when when did i i have no point in this podcast

00:07:43.760 i heard you say no he didn't say that i didn't i i you're you know other people can i wish you

00:07:53.040 you had like contested that bit louder than okay i'll tell you my perspective i think that if you

00:07:59.280 are going to have sex with someone there is always a possibility that a child will be a result of that

00:08:04.960 always a possibility you can lower that probability to 0.00001 but if you're having sex with someone

00:08:10.800 especially on on a regular especially if you're not using protection and contraception then there

00:08:17.040 there's a there's a possibility of that we we know we know how it works have you never heard a one

00:08:20.240 night stand before i've never let me answer the question let me answer the question if that happened

00:08:31.680 i would you know we live in this weird world where the man only gets so much say in these things

00:08:36.800 but i would strongly i would be like yo i got this i got you i've got you right if that is the

00:08:42.080 situation and that happens i will step up i will take my responsibility i'm stepping up to get the

00:08:53.600 morning after pill bruh trust me bruh i'll be real i'm not i'm not i'm not i'm not moving right

00:09:05.040 like that's very it's real it's honest i'm being real though but if you're man enough to do what you

00:09:09.840 did then you should be man enough to take the responsibility of your actions regardless you

00:09:17.280 knew there was a chance of a break it's not be by force but on a flip side should a woman take 1.00

00:09:23.360 responsibility as well a hundred percent absolutely it takes two to tango man like we we all know how

00:09:28.000 this stuff works like i said the truth is people want to be a men and women want to be able to go

00:09:32.720 out have complete random sex be as promiscuous as they want whatever and not face any of the

00:09:37.040 consequences that's the reality it's a society that's where we are and by the way society did not

00:09:41.520 used to be like this can i just say right that people need to start talking to their children

00:09:49.520 from young i mean my grandchildren are under five and i will talk to them about sex education down to

00:09:56.960 them who can touch where you know whatever's underneath your swimming costume is your area

00:10:02.720 not even glamour wash it because i don't wash them because i'd like to say not even glamour

00:10:07.520 you know they know how to wash themselves properly on their own

00:10:11.840 age one age two three and five and my brother's dad died when he was three years old and i stepped

00:10:19.200 in to help my mom i was a child myself and the way i i raised help my mom raise my brother he went on a

00:10:27.360 date when he was i think 14 with a girl though i didn't particularly like her i thought she was a bit

00:10:33.440 forward you know you can tell that she didn't come from a good household you know you get them girls that 1.00

00:10:38.240 come in there over friendly they want to start helping doing this and doing that and it was kind

00:10:42.240 of weird and then he was going to take you on a date and i'd always put my brother up to let him

00:10:46.960 know 16 is the age when you start having sex and i petrified him i terrorized him because i told him 0.77

00:10:55.520 if you have sex under 16 the police will come and arrest you because it's against the law to this day he

00:11:03.280 still remembers of that and he still tells me off that you had me terrified i do and he said that

00:11:08.400 i remember he went out with this girl and i taught him about going out on dates and he said oh she

00:11:13.440 wanted a kiss good night and i thought oh he come home and he was really upset he was storming around

00:11:18.080 i think he was about 14 13 14. i said what's wrong because she asked me for a kiss he goes you know 0.68

00:11:24.000 she tried to stick her tongue in my mouth he goes what kind of rubbish is that he said i went on a date

00:11:29.680 with her because i told him about you know being a gentleman and going on a date and stuff and retrained 0.97

00:11:34.480 my brother even his wife now he's 40 and even his wife now when they came when she came round after

00:11:41.760 they've been dating and engaged you know with my mum and i you met my mum graces pearl's new granny 0.99

00:11:48.080 and my mum and she in her day she was hilarious we used to go into the chemist and like pharmacy

00:11:54.240 and big one they had condoms on offer you know he was over 16 then and we used to go and buy one

00:11:59.280 get one for him my mum would be shouting out these ones are colored these ones are got nobsy

00:12:03.680 and my brother used to get really embarrassed because we used to buy him condoms there was always 0.82

00:12:07.520 and people oh you're encouraging him to have sex no we're encouraging that if he's gonna have sex 0.62

00:12:13.600 have it safely and he ended up dumping that girl because she wanted him to have sex

00:12:19.920 and in the back of his mind he knew he was going to get arrested and locked up

00:12:22.800 he didn't but he's happily married now he's happily married now with two lovely children and because

00:12:32.800 of the way he was raised he was raised like that and we had he had a fantastic dad his late dad

00:12:41.040 was absolutely fantastic better than my dad and my mom and dad were married seriously better than my dad

00:12:48.080 but it needs to start from young because these modern women are going out and they're when you 1.00

00:12:54.640 see the children of these modern women you can see where they're coming from where they're gonna end up 1.00

00:13:00.160 and it takes a village i don't see any grandmothers i don't see people coming around for dinner

00:13:08.080 you know i mean the first time i met pearl i had to go into pearl's place i took around some drinks and

00:13:13.360 snacks and she was like oh but to me that's you do that i'm coming around there to spend time with 1.00

00:13:17.920 you you know i've had children's you know people bringing their children into my back garden i teach

00:13:23.440 you matter you know where potatoes come from to dig potatoes you know i'm teaching my nephew how to

00:13:28.400 make bacon where bacon comes from because there's not part of a pig called bacon you know and things

00:13:33.600 like that so if people are teaching their children from young extremely young now because it seems like

00:13:39.760 the age of having sex i mean i told my brother 16. you know he was born in 1982 i think i was telling

00:13:46.800 him in 1985. i was telling him 16. but now i'm hearing about people having sex when they're 12.

00:13:53.600 so and and even younger so you need to teach the children from young and everybody needs to teach

00:14:01.200 i could walk into east ham and i can where i used to live and i can see children misbehaving

00:14:06.480 and i will stop them tell them off they won't say another word they won't go and tell their mother

00:14:11.680 even where i live now i don't know who they are i live by school and if i see children playing up

00:14:16.160 you know especially if it's the white children they're giving their mouth a bit like hey you're 0.65

00:14:19.680 making that you know and the parents you can tell they're grateful you know thank you and there's no

00:14:24.800 village anymore there's no village anymore and that's why these children are being turn up to be like

00:14:30.960 can i say one thing though can i say one thing yeah like what you're saying like 100 yeah i'm with

00:14:38.880 you yeah but we live in a different time why do people keep on saying that without changing it

00:14:43.120 there's all these positive people in here there's all these positive people in here there's all these

00:14:47.360 people watching the podcast and you can't just sit back and allow it to happen i don't allow it to

00:14:52.240 happen if i went into your house and you had children there and they were misbehaving i'm not gonna

00:14:56.320 sit there and shut up i'm gonna put them straight so if you can't say that no oh this is otherwise 0.96

00:15:01.840 we might not what's the point of having this podcast trying to change it if it's never gonna 0.98

00:15:05.120 change i agree with you though i know but we are not you can't just say we it's different times now

00:15:09.360 thinking well nothing's gonna change but it's different i never said that no but what i'm trying

00:15:12.880 to say is that it will change it doesn't matter whether it's different times now because everything

00:15:17.600 needs to turn back to traditional because that's what needed so even though times have changed now i still

00:15:22.320 have modern people with their children in my house they're quite happily dropped them over for a 1.00

00:15:26.160 bit of discipline because they listen to you you know i mean i haven't got no kids in my back garden

00:15:32.240 is full of like swings and slides and art stuff and whatever and i have them all around so i'm gonna

00:15:37.760 make the change it's gonna start with me it can start with you it can start with everybody else

00:15:42.160 there's no point saying oh this is the way it is it's lost it's not gonna change that was back in the

00:15:47.440 day because i'm people might say that i'm always been in the world but not of it so a lot of things that

00:15:52.800 happen out there don't affect me because i'm not actually of the world i'm just i'm just in it

00:15:56.720 so as far as i'm concerned in my little world i don't get affected by that all the children that

00:16:02.800 come into my little world they will never get affected by that because i'm going to give them

00:16:06.960 the same base the same foundation that i had and if people start stop thinking oh we know this is going

00:16:14.080 to be they want to teach my son about um guru nanak when he was in primary school

00:16:19.040 and i said no put him in a different class let him do some maths and english you know sex education

00:16:24.320 i had to go and find out what it was all about before because i knew that if it was a sex education

00:16:28.560 now there's no way you're teaching my son and i'd actually go into the school and say i don't want

00:16:33.600 him in there put him in another class because they knew me well in brampton manor because i was always

00:16:37.280 down there walking down there sort out the teachers and the headmaster but no people need to get involved

00:16:42.400 because i'm tired of hearing to say oh it's different now nothing's gonna change nothing's gonna

00:16:46.800 change because people are just sitting about saying it's different now or having talks about

00:16:50.560 it without doing something about it what i said though i didn't say any of that what did you say

00:16:55.040 i i said it's a different time now that's what i said and then you went on no but it's a different

00:16:58.800 time let me say let me finish what i'm saying yeah at the end of the day as i said initially i agree with

00:17:06.000 what you're saying yeah but it's a different time you said but yeah and you didn't let me finish

00:17:10.240 finish so can i let me say what i'm saying yeah at the end of the day my ideology to it is we need

00:17:17.680 a different strategy to this because the the the older people of your generation or whatever like

00:17:23.520 my mom's generation or whatever yeah their their mindset is of of how it was when they were younger

00:17:28.640 or how it applies now it's not necessarily the same kind of ball game and you have to evolve the same

00:17:33.520 you have to evolve with the times like do you get what i'm saying like the kids like for instance kids

00:17:38.080 nowadays do not care about who's older or who's younger i know when i was young if if if an older

00:17:43.920 guy came to me and said something i'd be shook you know what i'm saying you think the kids now are shook

00:17:49.600 they are not scared bro there are me i've never met i have never ever you go and you can go and bring

00:17:57.360 me the worst kid ever and i'm telling you bring me and that's a challenge if you've got a child bring me

00:18:04.560 the worst child ever i will have your child for a weekend bring me your child i've got cameras in

00:18:11.680 my house you can see what i do and i will hand your child over to you at the end of the weekend 0.97

00:18:16.320 a different child i will guarantee you that because i've been doing it for years because people drop

00:18:21.920 off their children to me regularly anti yeah i hear your point i hear there's no contingency plan

00:18:28.000 because us in the new generation we're formulating or farming kids in this new school of error and i

00:18:32.880 feel like i understand your point we need to adopt and keep the standard the same height because at

00:18:37.280 the moment we're conforming to society and making it seem that what's bullshits use my language is

00:18:42.880 okay yeah and that's the problem you need that good foundation mind you though i again i don't know i

00:18:49.040 i can't believe i'm agreeing with you this is not about conformity it's about evolving you can't go

00:18:54.720 back you need to go up and that means like you said you need to move with the times because people

00:19:00.800 may have the similar foundations to what they would have had before but the ideals and what the way

00:19:05.280 people see the world is different so you need to communicate with them differently so we can't just

00:19:10.160 try and discipline people the same way and give them certain models that no longer are valued in the

00:19:14.800 world that they're in today because as much as you want to influence that person there's a million

00:19:18.880 other people and a million different things that they see every single day that influences them

00:19:22.240 even more than you you're just one voice out of so many so again like he said it's about evolving

00:19:27.440 with the times we can't go back how do you evolve what what do you mean evolved i think we need to

00:19:34.400 start to accept the fact that the new generations believe extremely in the freedom of expression the

00:19:39.760 freedom of self you are who you are you have your opinion that's why a lot of people that's why a lot

00:19:43.440 of people are believing in the freedom of self you need to actually speak to people in a way where

00:19:59.680 you're still going to say to encourage that but you're going to also try and supplement that you

00:20:05.520 can't force and you can't say this is how it should be this is how it's going to be instead potentially

00:20:10.080 start doing things a little bit more entertaining that communicate with what they know such because

00:20:14.400 one thing that again i was a teacher i know that children switch off so was i i was a special

00:20:20.160 education teacher i'm not trying to like measure myself with anyone i'm explaining things from my

00:20:23.840 experience and what my perspective on this is the point is people switch off the moment that things

00:20:28.080 don't seem interesting to them so you need to speak to them on the level and speak to them in the

00:20:31.520 language that they speak that's why he'll say people right now if you go as an adult i've i've

00:20:35.920 had to have serious challenge with kids because they don't respect my authority because i'm an

00:20:39.760 adult because it starts at home it doesn't just it doesn't just start at home it does though

00:20:48.400 let me not let me not tell you are you know nigerian do not go against some of the ideals that your

00:20:51.520 parents vote you up with to an extent but all i'm saying is you're like someone said at the start

00:20:55.760 this whole thing your foundations they start at home you learn if your parents are swearing 24 7

00:21:01.200 you're going to pick that up if your parents are holy you're going to pick that up whether you

00:21:05.120 now go to a different community or whatever and you learn from that community it's then now up to

00:21:09.440 you to decide what you're going to do kind of thing yes i learned from my stuff at home the foundations

00:21:15.200 and yes i've learned from other people but if i now go with what i've learned in my communities where

00:21:19.040 i grew up i'd be wayward right now and that's the facts of the matter the issue now is that people both

00:21:24.560 parents work now so people kids are raised by the state like we all we all got our idea of how uni was from

00:21:29.920 american pie we get ideas from dating from tv we all get so you know as much as i understand

00:21:36.640 auntie's sentiments i think you can't really turn back that clock for a number of reasons you don't

00:21:40.960 really have lifetime jobs like that so people are way more mobile than they used to be you know there's

00:21:45.200 all these there's all these international factors that that kind of mean that communities can't

00:21:49.760 can't be as stable and last as long as they used to be back in the day kids are being raised by the

00:21:53.440 internet let me tell you one thing let me tell you one thing let me tell you one thing can't you

00:22:10.160 control what your kid like you don't have to have your kids have a phone and also like if you don't

00:22:16.880 if you don't like the school if you don't like the school system there's i mean i don't know how it works

00:22:21.040 in the uk but like in the u.s you can homeschool yeah you can and you can raise them in an

00:22:28.160 environment where you're like you have relatives and you have good people that are influencing them

00:22:32.400 around like around them but you shouldn't exclude people from society what it wants to be friends

00:22:37.600 with their kids you're not friends no no absolutely you're not friends yeah but you know what you know

00:22:42.160 why that is because a lot of these people are having kids while they're still kids themselves that's the

00:22:46.400 problem yeah that's one no no that's one but plus two when this new modern day where it's like oh

00:22:51.600 you can't do this to you can't do whatever but at the end of the day you got to discipline your kid

00:22:56.480 or show them and we should and they should discipline each other bring back bullying

00:23:01.360 bring back bring back

00:23:06.000 if you were if you weren't called ugly once in your childhood it was too good

00:23:09.440 that's why i think it's so important to have like masculine role models in in culture because

00:23:22.800 i think right now a lot of our issues are from you know the mainstream media kind of feminizing men

00:23:28.720 yes and so these boys are growing up and i was a teacher as well

00:23:34.960 i don't know what planet you're about wait wait what are you talking okay what do you what do you

00:23:39.040 explain what i'll explain shortly and like five sentences i'll tell you nowadays nowadays

00:23:48.240 men are just like us petty men are just like yeah because we we made them that way no because because

00:23:55.920 no no no how many times has girl have girls said i want a guy that's emotionally available it's

00:24:01.040 crazy because we only fight for men's rights when it benefits us because we like we want them to be 0.88

00:24:06.160 more emotionally available for us we don't like that it's not even about and so that's what we tell

00:24:10.160 many men are now the ones leeching off the woman like that's feminine to me okay okay if you if you

00:24:15.680 okay okay okay okay okay if you like bums speak for yourself 1.00

00:24:18.800 no no no and the funny thing is if you like it's not that i like bums and bums are everywhere 0.99

00:24:25.440 no no no i think i think it's just the guys that you date are bums so you can you can speak for

00:24:31.360 yourself okay i'll do something no no no stop stop stop remember no no stop stop stop stop stop yeah yeah

00:24:37.680 stop go to south london my sister okay okay stop oh my god like if if you're dating bums that's on 1.00

00:24:44.880 you that like most women are more broke than men even if they out earn and we outspend them we make 0.99

00:24:50.160 70 to 80 of consumer buying decisions we own two-thirds of the world's debt we we don't make good

00:24:55.680 monetary decisions how are you going to go to men and say you guys are the broke ones we're the broke

00:24:59.200 ones we don't know how to manage our money and we make less in the uk i don't think it's quite like

00:25:04.000 that a lot of women the uk actually you're right just whatever no no okay you're you're correct 0.87

00:25:09.520 you're correct you're correct like like some women under 30 like do out earn men in certain

00:25:14.000 cities but we still outspend them so it's like you think you're the but you outspend them well

00:25:18.560 i make my money i'll spend for me and then not only that because we are spending because we got

00:25:22.480 financial power then that's why a lot of men now see that as a plus and they start leeching off it

00:25:27.360 again feminization no no no again again again again if you like bums speak for yourself 1.00

00:25:31.200 i'm not speaking that's a small minority that's a small minority you like how many you like good

00:25:35.680 looking bro guys yeah can i say something so basically like let's go back to traditional homes

00:25:47.520 so a man is basically like he's the head of the family he he like pays for everything right or like

00:25:54.400 sometimes if your mom wanted to go grocery shopping or get stuff for the house or manage the house

00:25:58.640 your dad would give her the money and then she would manage it would she not like she would be 1.00

00:26:02.320 like okay this goes for groceries this goes for this this goes for that so how could you say like

00:26:06.080 women are bad at managing money because because because statistically we are we hold most of the 1.00

00:26:11.280 world's debt we make most of the consumer buying decisions we we hold most of the world's debt that's

00:26:16.560 why we're bad with money even though we make less money where is it found you can literally you can

00:26:22.080 you can literally google it which you can you can look it's a worldwide we all hold two-thirds of

00:26:28.160 the world's debt or the world's debt worldwide okay guys guys guys okay let's just let's just take

00:26:34.240 anecdotally how many of us have our freaking nails done here let's just anecdotal like that's what i'm 0.98

00:26:39.280 saying we spend money on stupid all right so about like girls like spending money on junk and stuff 0.97

00:26:54.400 like that would you agree with that or yeah i feel like the the um world that we're living in at the 0.98

00:27:00.080 moment is like really consumer based like social media adverts you talk about something it pops up

00:27:04.720 um i don't know too much about statistics of men and women but i i'd believe yeah can i make a point

00:27:11.280 where a lot of times the the phrase the world is being used a lot the world the world the world

00:27:16.080 i think it's important to say that this is largely the modern west thank you yeah this is not the

00:27:20.480 majority of the world i'd even say that it's very big city based right london the london's the new

00:27:26.480 york city's the la's the miami's the mentality and the society and the culture there versus even within

00:27:32.160 the same country in in more rural areas or smaller towns or villages the mentality is very very

00:27:38.480 different let alone in developing parts of the world so-called second and third world countries

00:27:44.240 you know there's different types of people everywhere but the mentality is very different i

00:27:48.000 think that a lot of this is very much based on actually a small microcosm of society and we're

00:27:55.200 speaking as if this is kind of like everyone and i i don't think it is i i think it's the it's the

00:28:00.720 i would say big city modern mentality i would say i agree with you 100 percent like because obviously

00:28:05.200 for my experiences and everything i really talk from uk london and then the usa but the thing is

00:28:10.880 with um the western side of the world the areas you're talking about they have the biggest influence

00:28:15.520 yeah that you're gonna say worldwide so it is relevant to talk about these these regions yeah i know

00:28:21.200 i'm certainly saying it's relevant i'm just i'm just saying i think it's important to be aware for

00:28:25.280 ourselves and for the audience that this is not the it's not like a global norm yeah a lot of what

00:28:32.080 we're talking about is actually a global anomaly even when you're talking about you know oh you know

00:28:36.480 these single single mothers it's like that's not the global norm the usa has the highest single

00:28:41.280 parenthood rate in the entire world right usa number one that's probably not one that they should

00:28:45.360 be too proud of i mean in many many countries like it's it's very rare yeah even now in 2022 it's rare

00:28:51.520 yeah because in countries if you're a single mom you're done you're done bro like yeah but yeah

00:28:56.960 it's also the culture though it's what's normalized yeah you know and i think one one of the big issues

00:29:01.600 we have in the west and it goes beyond this issue but it's like we don't even strive for a good

00:29:06.320 standard anymore and i think that's a problem right it's one thing to have a standard and for people to

00:29:12.320 and understand some people are going to fall short of it right and we we do this with everything

00:29:16.320 right even with with health and fitness oh you can be healthy at any size body positivity fat except

00:29:20.480 it's like no it's bad to be obese right yeah like hey don't get cancelled i can't be cancelled

00:29:29.680 i'm immune to this but like but with everything it seems like we're just saying okay well some

00:29:33.760 people are struggling to meet the standard so let's abolish the standard yeah right and i think

00:29:37.680 that's a really dangerous mentality because you can just see how the culture is sliding and sliding and

00:29:42.880 sliding into this descent and at some point you need to say tell people look guys we need to we need to

00:29:49.120 step this up people need to take responsibility people need to take accountability we need to

00:29:53.280 empower people individually and we need to take accountability we can all do better men women

00:29:58.720 everybody it doesn't need to be it to me it's an adult thing men men are forced to take accountability

00:30:03.760 women don't yeah but even a lot man there's a lot of we can't pretend there aren't millions of men who 0.99

00:30:08.320 are also running running screaming from it yeah come on bro i don't know about that you guys are telling you there are not millions of men who are running from accountability and responsibility

00:30:21.600 amen

00:30:22.320 hold on my people listen yeah okay first of all what i've noticed in my life yeah if you want to talk about a lot of guys running away from accountability a lot of times

00:30:36.320 Like, for instance, with the single mother thing, yeah?

00:30:38.540 Which is a huge thing in society, right?

00:30:41.140 A lot of times, these single, these guys

00:30:43.760 that are creating these single mothers, 1.00

00:30:45.280 they'll have multiple baby mamas, bro. 1.00

00:30:47.280 Multiple.

00:30:48.120 These are the guys that women are gravitating to, 1.00

00:30:50.660 even if they know they are adding themselves

00:30:52.540 to a roster of four.

00:30:54.500 Let me add myself as well, because he's six foot four,

00:30:57.300 because he's cute, because he's funny.

00:30:59.200 Bro, like, come on, bro.

00:31:00.600 Like, I don't think it's like the majority of,

00:31:03.060 I don't even think it's even 50% of guys

00:31:05.680 who are just running around recklessly-

00:31:07.280 I never, I never said it was.

00:31:08.280 Creating problems.

00:31:09.220 Like, it's a small proportion of select guys.

00:31:11.100 Didn't you just say, like, millions?

00:31:12.100 It's still millions.

00:31:12.680 I said millions.

00:31:13.840 It's millions.

00:31:14.680 Yeah, but, yeah.

00:31:15.520 Across the West, there's what, 300?

00:31:16.440 Yeah, millions.

00:31:17.280 Yeah, okay, okay, but-

00:31:18.280 Yeah, but I can still represent a small percentage, though.

00:31:20.620 Yeah, I never said it didn't.

00:31:21.520 Yeah, I'm just saying.

00:31:22.360 Yeah.

00:31:23.200 Yeah, but when it's like, I don't know, what,

00:31:24.720 30, 40% of women? 1.00

00:31:26.680 Where it's like, maybe five, 10% of guys?

00:31:28.880 Like, who's really the problem?

00:31:30.280 For a while, for a while, for a second?

00:31:31.620 If it's, if it's-

00:31:32.380 Man, it's more than 10% of young men

00:31:35.380 that are not taking proper responsibility.

00:31:36.840 No, I would disagree, because it's not-

00:31:39.580 Most men are like- 0.98

00:31:40.420 What, what, what, what, what, what, what, what, what, what, what, what, what, what, what,

00:31:44.580 let me, let me, let me, let me, let me, let me, what percent of men actually get laid? 0.77

00:31:48.720 The other, the other guys, guys face consequences for their decisions.

00:31:52.040 Like, that's the whole point, is like, like, like, like, men, when they make a bad decision,

00:31:55.640 they always have a consequence, women don't. 1.00

00:31:57.420 And that's why women are worse, because one, one gender has consequences, one doesn't. 1.00

00:32:01.380 And to say, and to say it's, like, equal, I just think isn't, like, fair, because, like, 0.98

00:32:07.380 men, when they make a bad decision, they have the consequence immediately, where women don't. 1.00

00:32:11.380 We're bailed out of everything.

00:32:12.380 How are we bailed out of everything?

00:32:13.380 Okay, okay, okay.

00:32:14.380 Every bad decision that you make, you're bailed out of.

00:32:16.380 If you want to sleep around, there's birth control.

00:32:18.380 If you get pregnant, you don't want to keep it, there's an abortion. 1.00

00:32:20.380 If you get pregnant and you want to get married to the guy and leave and take half, you can do that. 0.92

00:32:24.380 And you can do it under the guise of being happy.

00:32:26.380 And, you know, and society will accept you in some simple, probably marry you after.

00:32:30.380 And then on top of that, if you're bad with your money, what are you going to do?

00:32:35.380 You're going to go to a women's shelter. 1.00

00:32:37.380 Or the government will pay you.

00:32:38.380 If you also, if you leave and you're a single mother and you're the fifth baby mama or whatever,

00:32:42.380 you can also go to the government, they'll pay you.

00:32:44.380 Oh, you can cheat.

00:32:45.380 You're right, you can cheat.

00:32:46.380 And if you cheat, and if you cheat, what'll happen?

00:32:49.380 Oh, people will ask you, well, why did she cheat? 0.98

00:32:51.380 Da-da-da-da-da-da-da. 0.96

00:32:52.380 Where men are just a dog. 0.99

00:32:54.380 What did he do wrong?

00:32:55.380 Yeah, what did he do wrong?

00:32:56.380 That these systems are put into place because it is a man's world. 0.99

00:32:59.380 Because us as women are a minority. 0.86

00:33:02.380 Nah, that's just so lazy. 0.98

00:33:04.380 That's just lazy. 0.77

00:33:05.380 We're a minority.

00:33:06.380 We're a minority.

00:33:08.380 We're the majority.

00:33:09.380 We're 55% of the population.

00:33:10.380 Majority, but like in terms of status, men rule the world. 0.77

00:33:13.380 That's it.

00:33:14.380 We're inferior, supposedly.

00:33:15.380 Yeah, we do the things that you don't want to do.

00:33:17.380 Imagine if women, no, no. 1.00

00:33:19.380 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.

00:33:21.380 Have you noticed that?

00:33:22.380 Like, modern women always have an answer. 1.00

00:33:23.380 You could be like, two plus two is four, and she'll be like, 0.99

00:33:25.380 Yeah, but, you know, in my experience, me and my girls,

00:33:30.380 No, but I'm sorry.

00:33:31.380 And it was five, you know?

00:33:34.380 And so, but I wanted to ask Pearl and Zuby an actual question, right?

00:33:37.380 Okay.

00:33:38.380 So we're talking about, you know, the emasperation of men in the mainstream media,

00:33:40.380 and how, you know, male stories and narratives are being kind of feminized,

00:33:44.380 and they're being kind of overshadowed and demeaned.

00:33:47.380 But I was quite interested to think about, say, China, right?

00:33:50.380 Which doesn't really run by our standards.

00:33:52.380 And you see a same kind of trend with pretty boys in China that they've now banned.

00:33:56.380 So I'm just curious as to what you think about how that trend can occur,

00:34:00.380 even in a country where there's no feminists, right? 1.00

00:34:03.380 They banned pretty boys?

00:34:04.380 They banned lady boys.

00:34:05.380 Yeah, because they think it's bad for the states.

00:34:07.380 No, no, no, no, no, no, no.

00:34:08.380 What do you mean?

00:34:09.380 Not lady boys. 1.00

00:34:10.380 Like the K-pop, like the crazy boy kind of thing. 0.63

00:34:12.380 So like the Asian guy. 1.00

00:34:13.380 Well, why did they ban them? I don't get it.

00:34:14.380 Because they think it's bad for young men in China,

00:34:16.380 and they don't want it to affect their youth.

00:34:18.380 China's making specific efforts to try to make their men more masculine.

00:34:21.380 China's doing stuff that other people aren't willing to do.

00:34:23.380 They just don't, they just don't, they say we don't want men looking at guys 0.81

00:34:26.380 who wear pink suits and makeup and K-pop stars.

00:34:28.380 Is it K-pop?

00:34:29.380 We don't like that image. We're going to suppress that. We want actual strong guys.

00:34:32.380 So I was quite interested, right? Because China doesn't have a, it's a communist party, right?

00:34:36.380 Yeah.

00:34:37.380 So, and they've got basically no feminists. 1.00

00:34:38.380 So who did that? Is my question.

00:34:41.380 What you guys, I'm curious.

00:34:42.380 Who made the femin, like the feminized, who made, wait, wait, wait. 0.98

00:34:46.380 How could that trend occur?

00:34:48.380 So in the West, I would have said, is this feminization of men, there's a lot of reasons,

00:34:52.380 but part of it is this feminist agenda pushing men to cry more, be more emotional, 0.99

00:34:56.380 pushing this narrative of women's strong leaders basically shitting on men around them 0.98

00:35:00.380 and showing how, you know, girl power, but that doesn't happen in China. 1.00

00:35:04.380 So how come China have the same issue with pretty boys?

00:35:07.380 I don't think China has a massive issue with pretty boys.

00:35:09.380 So why they ban it if they don't have it?

00:35:11.380 Because they want to nip it completely in the bud.

00:35:13.380 But why would they nip it if it wasn't a problem?

00:35:15.380 Because people still have internet access.

00:35:18.380 It might become a problem.

00:35:19.380 People can, people can still, can still see things.

00:35:21.380 You know, you're always, you've got 1.4 billion people in China.

00:35:24.380 But you know what he's trying to get at? Sorry, just to clarify.

00:35:26.380 He's basically trying to get at the point that you're saying that men...

00:35:29.380 Feminist influence is... 1.00

00:35:31.380 Yeah, you're blaming women and feminists and giving women too much voice. 1.00

00:35:34.380 And he's saying actually in a place where women don't have much voice,

00:35:36.380 the same things are still happening.

00:35:37.380 So the problem may not be with women. 1.00

00:35:39.380 The problem may just be that men actually do have a tendency to be somewhat...

00:35:42.380 No, that's not what I was saying. We need to cut that.

00:35:44.380 Well, that's what I got. We need to explain that in there.

00:35:46.380 I was just curious as to what the other components of that would be.

00:35:52.380 If there's no feminists and we don't have this toxic Western culture attitude, 1.00

00:35:56.380 then why are there pretty boys in China?

00:35:58.380 Why? I mean, I would say like...

00:36:00.380 There's pretty boys everywhere. That's not new.

00:36:02.380 It's always been in history. It exists.

00:36:04.380 It's just whether or not that's the standard you are uplifting.

00:36:06.380 There's none in Nigeria, bro. 1.00

00:36:07.380 But don't forget, that sells...

00:36:09.380 Don't forget.

00:36:10.380 It exists everywhere, man.

00:36:12.380 It exists.

00:36:13.380 That sells worldwide, doesn't it?

00:36:15.380 It exists everywhere.

00:36:17.380 That's why pretty boys sell. 0.94

00:36:18.380 It's money.

00:36:19.380 It sells worldwide.

00:36:20.380 Oh, okay.

00:36:21.380 So you say they're exporting it to other countries.

00:36:23.380 So that's why it's a big...

00:36:24.380 That's why it's a big thing over there.

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JustPearlyThings - November 02, 2023

She was SHUT DOWN by the Younger Generation.

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