She was SHUT DOWN by the Younger Generation.
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In this episode, I talk about trauma and why women need to start going to therapy. I also talk about abortion and why it should be avoided at all costs. I also give my opinion on whether or not abortion should be legal.
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that everybody keeps on talking about trauma and everybody keeps on blaming everything nowadays
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on trauma but if i can have counseling and cognitive therapy back in the 80s and 90s
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it's available out there for everybody and more women especially women they need to start going
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and getting therapy because i'm sick and tired of hearing about people's trauma nowadays i've
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got to the point where i've had more trauma than you i don't care about yours because you're wearing
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it like a badge you know like oh i'm doing this because i've got this trauma oh nobody's had if i
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wanted to nobody in their life has had more trauma than i have i wear my healing as my badge of honor
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as soon as you as soon as you get like you get grapes go and get counseling i did i've got abused
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go and get counseling that counseling didn't work go and get one that works me and that's what i did
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i don't carry around baggage i deal with it and i leave it and i move on as a whole human being
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i'm not going to turn around and say i was a great victim and and no can i just say something i'm sick
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and tired of hearing about people's trauma i don't care about nobody's trauma definitely deal with it
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can i just say something do you know who also needs a lot of therapy demand them to because men carry a
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lot of trauma and they don't talk about it so actually become a lot of the victims that deal with
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things that's in like quietly and then they start hurting other people too it's not just the women
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women need men need them therapy too but the whole point is that when men have trauma they use their
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penises in vaginas to get rid of their trauma and guess what then it's gone and then they get the
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girls that don't want to have babies pregnant then they have to go get abortion that is why when the
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women have issues before they go and sleep with these kind of men that's why they need to have trauma
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because people are saying oh um i came from a single parent family that my mom i was raising
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my mom and dad my mom and dad got divorced and my mom raised me on her own and i i've got trauma from
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then have i got trauma no oh my parents sent me to um um africa when i was a child and i've got trauma
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i got sent to barbados have i got trauma no i got sent away from my parents for to go to school
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have i got trauma no i'm sick and tired i got great so did i they ain't reported it i done it
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i got i reported it have i got trauma and no i don't think we can compare your special one
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no i'm not special because the traumas the the counseling is out there for everybody
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it's free you know it's got to the point where i get sick of watching certain programs
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especially stupid programs like eastenders and and and emmerdale because something would happen
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at the end of it if you're affected by this program please phone this number you know and
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then you have people saying oh i got great and i was watching this program and it brought it all back
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to me did you find the number at the end no because you like you're enjoying your pain some women enjoy
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that pain they enjoy carrying it around it's a trophy nowadays it's part of like um i'm sick to
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different hearing that people's trauma that everyone uses these kind of identity topics as a
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way of as an honor right like a feminist will most feminists i've met will have some kind of trauma
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like this and they they talk about therapy they will never use it and they'll keep on doing the same
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damn stuff because it's like a you know but um on that point the initial question was i wouldn't date
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someone who who had an abortion just because in my experience i'm pro-choice but i've seen it's extremely
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traumatic and like those women are never the same again that's one thing people don't tell you
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people are like you just have an abortion those women like it does mess you up and i think it's
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abortion is a horrible horrible thing and i think it should be avoided at all costs this is the thing
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like and like i said you have you have to deal with the consequences i'm not gonna lie one of the
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things i agree with auntie for sure people tend to be very mentally weak and that goes on both sides
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women and men that's why i said men need therapies all their weakness is just displayed in different ways
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because at the end of the day if you're going to make that decision you make it logically as well
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if you even make emotionally there's there's logic behind your emotion that's why therapy
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works because there's a certain logic so if you're logical about it you get over so instead of you
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thinking about i wouldn't be with a girl that doesn't that has had an abortion maybe start thinking
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i wouldn't be with somebody that is unhealed because there everybody goes through everything
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you just heal and you grow from it no i think i think it just i think it just says that you're selfish
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because because you're thinking because you're thinking of yourself before the child
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and like and i'm thinking about the child trust me my sister i could be a mother anytime i believe
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i'll be a great mother however i believe that i i would prefer to put my child in a situation where
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i know you're not going to be abused because the father is just right but but then like women that
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are actually selfless will leave that situation and figure out a way to to raise them they don't just
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say oh me me me me i'm first yeah and then some women are selfless but they still don't know what
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they're doing and they end up ruining the the child's life and then we see here when you say oh look at
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these women they're older women that they just opened their legs because they they are fatherless
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again again that that happens sure but usually those women are selfish too because i'm sorry you can't
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like like the women of my my mom's and like older's generation they don't do this all around the
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freaking world man it's just here um by the way just one thing about this con just to take it up
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one level one thing i always find frustrating about this conversation and i've discussed this many many
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times over the years with people of course i have strong feelings i know the pro-life pop position is
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not the most popular one in the modern western world um but i believe it's the correct one and one
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thing that's always frustrating about these conversations is people both men and women act like
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we don't know how babies are made right there's very little talk about personal responsibility
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self-control discipline making wise decisions it's just do whatever you want the truth is
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society wants people to just to be able to just do whatever have sex with whatever whoever don't think
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about it and you know have no consequences you can always you know get rid of the evidence that's
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what the truth is where you know when people are jumping to these very rare cases extreme cases of
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incest or extreme cases of grape and so on and so forth they're really distracting from 99 of the
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issue and i wish people could just be more honest about it and we could have that talk about
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responsibility and proper sexual behavior and being being careful being cautious making better wiser
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decisions blame democracy upstream upstream so that we're not we're not dealing with i think i think
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people regardless of the different positions here hopefully i think we'd all agree that ideally
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things should not even get to that situation right and the truth is we have we have so many ways now let's
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be real we have so many ways to avoid that we've got guys here who are in their in their 30s you know
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you've managed to make it through without having a kid and getting anyone pregnant and so on it's
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it's not it's not impossible it's not rocket science but you do have to be careful and make wise
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decisions can i just can i just give you a scenario what if yeah you meet a girl on a night out
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you use protection the condom breaks you don't know this girl i wouldn't have sex with a girl i don't
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know listen you just all admitted when did i do that when did i do that i didn't hear you say no
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i never banged somebody that's below my level that i didn't want to be with and i was ashamed of
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you're gonna have a child with her when when when did i i have no point in this podcast
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i heard you say no he didn't say that i didn't i i you're you know other people can i wish you
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you had like contested that bit louder than okay i'll tell you my perspective i think that if you
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are going to have sex with someone there is always a possibility that a child will be a result of that
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always a possibility you can lower that probability to 0.00001 but if you're having sex with someone
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especially on on a regular especially if you're not using protection and contraception then there
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there's a there's a possibility of that we we know we know how it works have you never heard a one
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night stand before i've never let me answer the question let me answer the question if that happened
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i would you know we live in this weird world where the man only gets so much say in these things
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but i would strongly i would be like yo i got this i got you i've got you right if that is the
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situation and that happens i will step up i will take my responsibility i'm stepping up to get the
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morning after pill bruh trust me bruh i'll be real i'm not i'm not i'm not i'm not moving right
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like that's very it's real it's honest i'm being real though but if you're man enough to do what you
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did then you should be man enough to take the responsibility of your actions regardless you
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knew there was a chance of a break it's not be by force but on a flip side should a woman take
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responsibility as well a hundred percent absolutely it takes two to tango man like we we all know how
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this stuff works like i said the truth is people want to be a men and women want to be able to go
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out have complete random sex be as promiscuous as they want whatever and not face any of the
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consequences that's the reality it's a society that's where we are and by the way society did not
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used to be like this can i just say right that people need to start talking to their children
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from young i mean my grandchildren are under five and i will talk to them about sex education down to
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them who can touch where you know whatever's underneath your swimming costume is your area
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not even glamour wash it because i don't wash them because i'd like to say not even glamour
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you know they know how to wash themselves properly on their own
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age one age two three and five and my brother's dad died when he was three years old and i stepped
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in to help my mom i was a child myself and the way i i raised help my mom raise my brother he went on a
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date when he was i think 14 with a girl though i didn't particularly like her i thought she was a bit
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forward you know you can tell that she didn't come from a good household you know you get them girls that
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come in there over friendly they want to start helping doing this and doing that and it was kind
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of weird and then he was going to take you on a date and i'd always put my brother up to let him
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know 16 is the age when you start having sex and i petrified him i terrorized him because i told him
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if you have sex under 16 the police will come and arrest you because it's against the law to this day he
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still remembers of that and he still tells me off that you had me terrified i do and he said that
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i remember he went out with this girl and i taught him about going out on dates and he said oh she
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wanted a kiss good night and i thought oh he come home and he was really upset he was storming around
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i think he was about 14 13 14. i said what's wrong because she asked me for a kiss he goes you know
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she tried to stick her tongue in my mouth he goes what kind of rubbish is that he said i went on a date
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with her because i told him about you know being a gentleman and going on a date and stuff and retrained
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my brother even his wife now he's 40 and even his wife now when they came when she came round after
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they've been dating and engaged you know with my mum and i you met my mum graces pearl's new granny
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and my mum and she in her day she was hilarious we used to go into the chemist and like pharmacy
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and big one they had condoms on offer you know he was over 16 then and we used to go and buy one
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get one for him my mum would be shouting out these ones are colored these ones are got nobsy
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and my brother used to get really embarrassed because we used to buy him condoms there was always
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and people oh you're encouraging him to have sex no we're encouraging that if he's gonna have sex
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have it safely and he ended up dumping that girl because she wanted him to have sex
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and in the back of his mind he knew he was going to get arrested and locked up
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he didn't but he's happily married now he's happily married now with two lovely children and because
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of the way he was raised he was raised like that and we had he had a fantastic dad his late dad
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was absolutely fantastic better than my dad and my mom and dad were married seriously better than my dad
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but it needs to start from young because these modern women are going out and they're when you
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see the children of these modern women you can see where they're coming from where they're gonna end up
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and it takes a village i don't see any grandmothers i don't see people coming around for dinner
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you know i mean the first time i met pearl i had to go into pearl's place i took around some drinks and
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snacks and she was like oh but to me that's you do that i'm coming around there to spend time with
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you you know i've had children's you know people bringing their children into my back garden i teach
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you matter you know where potatoes come from to dig potatoes you know i'm teaching my nephew how to
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make bacon where bacon comes from because there's not part of a pig called bacon you know and things
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like that so if people are teaching their children from young extremely young now because it seems like
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the age of having sex i mean i told my brother 16. you know he was born in 1982 i think i was telling
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him in 1985. i was telling him 16. but now i'm hearing about people having sex when they're 12.
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so and and even younger so you need to teach the children from young and everybody needs to teach
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i could walk into east ham and i can where i used to live and i can see children misbehaving
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and i will stop them tell them off they won't say another word they won't go and tell their mother
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even where i live now i don't know who they are i live by school and if i see children playing up
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you know especially if it's the white children they're giving their mouth a bit like hey you're
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making that you know and the parents you can tell they're grateful you know thank you and there's no
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village anymore there's no village anymore and that's why these children are being turn up to be like
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can i say one thing though can i say one thing yeah like what you're saying like 100 yeah i'm with
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you yeah but we live in a different time why do people keep on saying that without changing it
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there's all these positive people in here there's all these positive people in here there's all these
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people watching the podcast and you can't just sit back and allow it to happen i don't allow it to
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happen if i went into your house and you had children there and they were misbehaving i'm not gonna
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sit there and shut up i'm gonna put them straight so if you can't say that no oh this is otherwise
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we might not what's the point of having this podcast trying to change it if it's never gonna
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change i agree with you though i know but we are not you can't just say we it's different times now
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thinking well nothing's gonna change but it's different i never said that no but what i'm trying
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to say is that it will change it doesn't matter whether it's different times now because everything
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needs to turn back to traditional because that's what needed so even though times have changed now i still
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have modern people with their children in my house they're quite happily dropped them over for a
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bit of discipline because they listen to you you know i mean i haven't got no kids in my back garden
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is full of like swings and slides and art stuff and whatever and i have them all around so i'm gonna
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make the change it's gonna start with me it can start with you it can start with everybody else
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there's no point saying oh this is the way it is it's lost it's not gonna change that was back in the
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day because i'm people might say that i'm always been in the world but not of it so a lot of things that
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happen out there don't affect me because i'm not actually of the world i'm just i'm just in it
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so as far as i'm concerned in my little world i don't get affected by that all the children that
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come into my little world they will never get affected by that because i'm going to give them
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the same base the same foundation that i had and if people start stop thinking oh we know this is going
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to be they want to teach my son about um guru nanak when he was in primary school
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and i said no put him in a different class let him do some maths and english you know sex education
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i had to go and find out what it was all about before because i knew that if it was a sex education
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now there's no way you're teaching my son and i'd actually go into the school and say i don't want
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him in there put him in another class because they knew me well in brampton manor because i was always
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down there walking down there sort out the teachers and the headmaster but no people need to get involved
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because i'm tired of hearing to say oh it's different now nothing's gonna change nothing's gonna
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change because people are just sitting about saying it's different now or having talks about
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it without doing something about it what i said though i didn't say any of that what did you say
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i i said it's a different time now that's what i said and then you went on no but it's a different
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time let me say let me finish what i'm saying yeah at the end of the day as i said initially i agree with
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what you're saying yeah but it's a different time you said but yeah and you didn't let me finish
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finish so can i let me say what i'm saying yeah at the end of the day my ideology to it is we need
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a different strategy to this because the the the older people of your generation or whatever like
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my mom's generation or whatever yeah their their mindset is of of how it was when they were younger
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or how it applies now it's not necessarily the same kind of ball game and you have to evolve the same
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you have to evolve with the times like do you get what i'm saying like the kids like for instance kids
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nowadays do not care about who's older or who's younger i know when i was young if if if an older
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guy came to me and said something i'd be shook you know what i'm saying you think the kids now are shook
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they are not scared bro there are me i've never met i have never ever you go and you can go and bring
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me the worst kid ever and i'm telling you bring me and that's a challenge if you've got a child bring me
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the worst child ever i will have your child for a weekend bring me your child i've got cameras in
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my house you can see what i do and i will hand your child over to you at the end of the weekend
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a different child i will guarantee you that because i've been doing it for years because people drop
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off their children to me regularly anti yeah i hear your point i hear there's no contingency plan
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because us in the new generation we're formulating or farming kids in this new school of error and i
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feel like i understand your point we need to adopt and keep the standard the same height because at
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the moment we're conforming to society and making it seem that what's bullshits use my language is
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okay yeah and that's the problem you need that good foundation mind you though i again i don't know i
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i can't believe i'm agreeing with you this is not about conformity it's about evolving you can't go
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back you need to go up and that means like you said you need to move with the times because people
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may have the similar foundations to what they would have had before but the ideals and what the way
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people see the world is different so you need to communicate with them differently so we can't just
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try and discipline people the same way and give them certain models that no longer are valued in the
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world that they're in today because as much as you want to influence that person there's a million
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other people and a million different things that they see every single day that influences them
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even more than you you're just one voice out of so many so again like he said it's about evolving
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with the times we can't go back how do you evolve what what do you mean evolved i think we need to
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start to accept the fact that the new generations believe extremely in the freedom of expression the
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freedom of self you are who you are you have your opinion that's why a lot of people that's why a lot
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of people are believing in the freedom of self you need to actually speak to people in a way where
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you're still going to say to encourage that but you're going to also try and supplement that you
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can't force and you can't say this is how it should be this is how it's going to be instead potentially
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start doing things a little bit more entertaining that communicate with what they know such because
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one thing that again i was a teacher i know that children switch off so was i i was a special
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education teacher i'm not trying to like measure myself with anyone i'm explaining things from my
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experience and what my perspective on this is the point is people switch off the moment that things
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don't seem interesting to them so you need to speak to them on the level and speak to them in the
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language that they speak that's why he'll say people right now if you go as an adult i've i've
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had to have serious challenge with kids because they don't respect my authority because i'm an
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adult because it starts at home it doesn't just it doesn't just start at home it does though
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let me not let me not tell you are you know nigerian do not go against some of the ideals that your
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parents vote you up with to an extent but all i'm saying is you're like someone said at the start
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this whole thing your foundations they start at home you learn if your parents are swearing 24 7
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you're going to pick that up if your parents are holy you're going to pick that up whether you
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now go to a different community or whatever and you learn from that community it's then now up to
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you to decide what you're going to do kind of thing yes i learned from my stuff at home the foundations
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and yes i've learned from other people but if i now go with what i've learned in my communities where
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i grew up i'd be wayward right now and that's the facts of the matter the issue now is that people both
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parents work now so people kids are raised by the state like we all we all got our idea of how uni was from
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american pie we get ideas from dating from tv we all get so you know as much as i understand
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auntie's sentiments i think you can't really turn back that clock for a number of reasons you don't
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really have lifetime jobs like that so people are way more mobile than they used to be you know there's
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all these there's all these international factors that that kind of mean that communities can't
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can't be as stable and last as long as they used to be back in the day kids are being raised by the
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internet let me tell you one thing let me tell you one thing let me tell you one thing can't you
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control what your kid like you don't have to have your kids have a phone and also like if you don't
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if you don't like the school if you don't like the school system there's i mean i don't know how it works
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in the uk but like in the u.s you can homeschool yeah you can and you can raise them in an
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environment where you're like you have relatives and you have good people that are influencing them
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around like around them but you shouldn't exclude people from society what it wants to be friends
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with their kids you're not friends no no absolutely you're not friends yeah but you know what you know
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why that is because a lot of these people are having kids while they're still kids themselves that's the
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problem yeah that's one no no that's one but plus two when this new modern day where it's like oh
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you can't do this to you can't do whatever but at the end of the day you got to discipline your kid
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or show them and we should and they should discipline each other bring back bullying
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if you were if you weren't called ugly once in your childhood it was too good
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that's why i think it's so important to have like masculine role models in in culture because
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i think right now a lot of our issues are from you know the mainstream media kind of feminizing men
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yes and so these boys are growing up and i was a teacher as well
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i don't know what planet you're about wait wait what are you talking okay what do you what do you
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explain what i'll explain shortly and like five sentences i'll tell you nowadays nowadays
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men are just like us petty men are just like yeah because we we made them that way no because because
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no no no how many times has girl have girls said i want a guy that's emotionally available it's
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crazy because we only fight for men's rights when it benefits us because we like we want them to be
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more emotionally available for us we don't like that it's not even about and so that's what we tell
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many men are now the ones leeching off the woman like that's feminine to me okay okay if you if you
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okay okay okay okay okay if you like bums speak for yourself
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no no no and the funny thing is if you like it's not that i like bums and bums are everywhere
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no no no i think i think it's just the guys that you date are bums so you can you can speak for
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yourself okay i'll do something no no no stop stop stop remember no no stop stop stop stop stop yeah yeah
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stop go to south london my sister okay okay stop oh my god like if if you're dating bums that's on
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you that like most women are more broke than men even if they out earn and we outspend them we make
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70 to 80 of consumer buying decisions we own two-thirds of the world's debt we we don't make good
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monetary decisions how are you going to go to men and say you guys are the broke ones we're the broke
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ones we don't know how to manage our money and we make less in the uk i don't think it's quite like
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that a lot of women the uk actually you're right just whatever no no okay you're you're correct
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you're correct you're correct like like some women under 30 like do out earn men in certain
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cities but we still outspend them so it's like you think you're the but you outspend them well
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i make my money i'll spend for me and then not only that because we are spending because we got
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financial power then that's why a lot of men now see that as a plus and they start leeching off it
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again feminization no no no again again again again if you like bums speak for yourself
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i'm not speaking that's a small minority that's a small minority you like how many you like good
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looking bro guys yeah can i say something so basically like let's go back to traditional homes
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so a man is basically like he's the head of the family he he like pays for everything right or like
00:25:54.400
sometimes if your mom wanted to go grocery shopping or get stuff for the house or manage the house
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your dad would give her the money and then she would manage it would she not like she would be
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like okay this goes for groceries this goes for this this goes for that so how could you say like
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women are bad at managing money because because because statistically we are we hold most of the
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world's debt we make most of the consumer buying decisions we we hold most of the world's debt that's
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why we're bad with money even though we make less money where is it found you can literally you can
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you can literally google it which you can you can look it's a worldwide we all hold two-thirds of
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the world's debt or the world's debt worldwide okay guys guys guys okay let's just let's just take
00:26:34.240
anecdotally how many of us have our freaking nails done here let's just anecdotal like that's what i'm
00:26:39.280
saying we spend money on stupid all right so about like girls like spending money on junk and stuff
00:26:54.400
like that would you agree with that or yeah i feel like the the um world that we're living in at the
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moment is like really consumer based like social media adverts you talk about something it pops up
00:27:04.720
um i don't know too much about statistics of men and women but i i'd believe yeah can i make a point
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where a lot of times the the phrase the world is being used a lot the world the world the world
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i think it's important to say that this is largely the modern west thank you yeah this is not the
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majority of the world i'd even say that it's very big city based right london the london's the new
00:27:26.480
york city's the la's the miami's the mentality and the society and the culture there versus even within
00:27:32.160
the same country in in more rural areas or smaller towns or villages the mentality is very very
00:27:38.480
different let alone in developing parts of the world so-called second and third world countries
00:27:44.240
you know there's different types of people everywhere but the mentality is very different i
00:27:48.000
think that a lot of this is very much based on actually a small microcosm of society and we're
00:27:55.200
speaking as if this is kind of like everyone and i i don't think it is i i think it's the it's the
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i would say big city modern mentality i would say i agree with you 100 percent like because obviously
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for my experiences and everything i really talk from uk london and then the usa but the thing is
00:28:10.880
with um the western side of the world the areas you're talking about they have the biggest influence
00:28:15.520
yeah that you're gonna say worldwide so it is relevant to talk about these these regions yeah i know
00:28:21.200
i'm certainly saying it's relevant i'm just i'm just saying i think it's important to be aware for
00:28:25.280
ourselves and for the audience that this is not the it's not like a global norm yeah a lot of what
00:28:32.080
we're talking about is actually a global anomaly even when you're talking about you know oh you know
00:28:36.480
these single single mothers it's like that's not the global norm the usa has the highest single
00:28:41.280
parenthood rate in the entire world right usa number one that's probably not one that they should
00:28:45.360
be too proud of i mean in many many countries like it's it's very rare yeah even now in 2022 it's rare
00:28:51.520
yeah because in countries if you're a single mom you're done you're done bro like yeah but yeah
00:28:56.960
it's also the culture though it's what's normalized yeah you know and i think one one of the big issues
00:29:01.600
we have in the west and it goes beyond this issue but it's like we don't even strive for a good
00:29:06.320
standard anymore and i think that's a problem right it's one thing to have a standard and for people to
00:29:12.320
and understand some people are going to fall short of it right and we we do this with everything
00:29:16.320
right even with with health and fitness oh you can be healthy at any size body positivity fat except
00:29:20.480
it's like no it's bad to be obese right yeah like hey don't get cancelled i can't be cancelled
00:29:29.680
i'm immune to this but like but with everything it seems like we're just saying okay well some
00:29:33.760
people are struggling to meet the standard so let's abolish the standard yeah right and i think
00:29:37.680
that's a really dangerous mentality because you can just see how the culture is sliding and sliding and
00:29:42.880
sliding into this descent and at some point you need to say tell people look guys we need to we need to
00:29:49.120
step this up people need to take responsibility people need to take accountability we need to
00:29:53.280
empower people individually and we need to take accountability we can all do better men women
00:29:58.720
everybody it doesn't need to be it to me it's an adult thing men men are forced to take accountability
00:30:03.760
women don't yeah but even a lot man there's a lot of we can't pretend there aren't millions of men who
00:30:08.320
are also running running screaming from it yeah come on bro i don't know about that you guys are telling you there are not millions of men who are running from accountability and responsibility
00:30:22.320
hold on my people listen yeah okay first of all what i've noticed in my life yeah if you want to talk about a lot of guys running away from accountability a lot of times
00:30:36.320
Like, for instance, with the single mother thing, yeah?
00:30:48.120
These are the guys that women are gravitating to,
00:30:54.500
Let me add myself as well, because he's six foot four,
00:31:18.280
Yeah, but I can still represent a small percentage, though.
00:31:40.420
What, what, what, what, what, what, what, what, what, what, what, what, what, what, what,
00:31:44.580
let me, let me, let me, let me, let me, let me, what percent of men actually get laid?
00:31:48.720
The other, the other guys, guys face consequences for their decisions.
00:31:52.040
Like, that's the whole point, is like, like, like, like, men, when they make a bad decision,
00:31:57.420
And that's why women are worse, because one, one gender has consequences, one doesn't.
00:32:01.380
And to say, and to say it's, like, equal, I just think isn't, like, fair, because, like,
00:32:07.380
men, when they make a bad decision, they have the consequence immediately, where women don't.
00:32:14.380
Every bad decision that you make, you're bailed out of.
00:32:16.380
If you want to sleep around, there's birth control.
00:32:18.380
If you get pregnant, you don't want to keep it, there's an abortion.
00:32:20.380
If you get pregnant and you want to get married to the guy and leave and take half, you can do that.
00:32:24.380
And you can do it under the guise of being happy.
00:32:26.380
And, you know, and society will accept you in some simple, probably marry you after.
00:32:30.380
And then on top of that, if you're bad with your money, what are you going to do?
00:32:38.380
If you also, if you leave and you're a single mother and you're the fifth baby mama or whatever,
00:32:42.380
you can also go to the government, they'll pay you.
00:32:46.380
And if you cheat, and if you cheat, what'll happen?
00:32:49.380
Oh, people will ask you, well, why did she cheat?
00:32:56.380
That these systems are put into place because it is a man's world.
00:33:10.380
Majority, but like in terms of status, men rule the world.
00:33:15.380
Yeah, we do the things that you don't want to do.
00:33:23.380
You could be like, two plus two is four, and she'll be like,
00:33:25.380
Yeah, but, you know, in my experience, me and my girls,
00:33:34.380
And so, but I wanted to ask Pearl and Zuby an actual question, right?
00:33:38.380
So we're talking about, you know, the emasperation of men in the mainstream media,
00:33:40.380
and how, you know, male stories and narratives are being kind of feminized,
00:33:44.380
and they're being kind of overshadowed and demeaned.
00:33:47.380
But I was quite interested to think about, say, China, right?
00:33:52.380
And you see a same kind of trend with pretty boys in China that they've now banned.
00:33:56.380
So I'm just curious as to what you think about how that trend can occur,
00:34:00.380
even in a country where there's no feminists, right?
00:34:05.380
Yeah, because they think it's bad for the states.
00:34:10.380
Like the K-pop, like the crazy boy kind of thing.
00:34:14.380
Because they think it's bad for young men in China,
00:34:18.380
China's making specific efforts to try to make their men more masculine.
00:34:21.380
China's doing stuff that other people aren't willing to do.
00:34:23.380
They just don't, they just don't, they say we don't want men looking at guys
00:34:26.380
who wear pink suits and makeup and K-pop stars.
00:34:29.380
We don't like that image. We're going to suppress that. We want actual strong guys.
00:34:32.380
So I was quite interested, right? Because China doesn't have a, it's a communist party, right?
00:34:42.380
Who made the femin, like the feminized, who made, wait, wait, wait.
00:34:48.380
So in the West, I would have said, is this feminization of men, there's a lot of reasons,
00:34:52.380
but part of it is this feminist agenda pushing men to cry more, be more emotional,
00:34:56.380
pushing this narrative of women's strong leaders basically shitting on men around them
00:35:00.380
and showing how, you know, girl power, but that doesn't happen in China.
00:35:04.380
So how come China have the same issue with pretty boys?
00:35:07.380
I don't think China has a massive issue with pretty boys.
00:35:11.380
Because they want to nip it completely in the bud.
00:35:13.380
But why would they nip it if it wasn't a problem?
00:35:19.380
People can, people can still, can still see things.
00:35:21.380
You know, you're always, you've got 1.4 billion people in China.
00:35:24.380
But you know what he's trying to get at? Sorry, just to clarify.
00:35:26.380
He's basically trying to get at the point that you're saying that men...
00:35:31.380
Yeah, you're blaming women and feminists and giving women too much voice.
00:35:34.380
And he's saying actually in a place where women don't have much voice,
00:35:39.380
The problem may just be that men actually do have a tendency to be somewhat...
00:35:42.380
No, that's not what I was saying. We need to cut that.
00:35:44.380
Well, that's what I got. We need to explain that in there.
00:35:46.380
I was just curious as to what the other components of that would be.
00:35:52.380
If there's no feminists and we don't have this toxic Western culture attitude,
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There's pretty boys everywhere. That's not new.
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It's just whether or not that's the standard you are uplifting.
00:36:21.380
So you say they're exporting it to other countries.
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