JustPearlyThings - April 24, 2023


Simp Keeps Contradicting Himself


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Length

11 minutes

Words per minute

161.95627

Word count

1,807

Sentence count

212

Harmful content

Misogyny

26

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Hate speech

24

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Summary

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Is sex a duty in marriage? How long should a woman wait to have sex with her husband? Should a man cheat if his wife won t have sex for a long period of time? Is sex a part of a healthy relationship? What does sex mean to a man and a woman? How much time should a wife and husband spend together before they have sex?

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Can a guy cheat if his wife won't sleep with him? 1.00
00:00:03.900 I don't think anybody should cheat, male or female, wife or husband, if they can't sleep
00:00:09.280 with each other, whether it's from physical deformity or whatever it is.
00:00:14.920 Communicate it.
00:00:15.660 And if not, then just split.
00:00:17.080 How long can a woman not sleep with her husband until she's a bad wife? 1.00
00:00:21.840 Eternity.
00:00:23.540 Forever?
00:00:24.400 Eternity.
00:00:26.440 So she's a good wife still if she doesn't sleep with him for a year? 1.00
00:00:30.000 Other way around.
00:00:36.820 She's a bad wife if she doesn't sleep with him for a year. 1.00
00:00:40.080 Okay.
00:00:40.640 So if it's a month, is she a bad wife? 1.00
00:00:43.600 No.
00:00:44.080 Well, no.
00:00:44.960 She feels a certain type of way.
00:00:46.320 She's on her period.
00:00:47.140 Maybe it could be many things.
00:00:48.200 Okay.
00:00:48.220 So one month, three months, is she a bad wife? 1.00
00:00:50.260 Six months, ten months, a year.
00:00:51.780 But at least communicate.
00:00:52.740 Tell me why.
00:00:54.080 Okay.
00:00:54.500 And then she says, I don't want to.
00:00:57.980 Tell me why you don't want to.
00:00:59.120 Exactly again, why?
00:00:59.820 There has to be some sort of reason.
00:01:01.560 Even if you tell me, okay, I don't feel it, it's a reason.
00:01:05.700 But if you tell me, I don't know, that's literally not a reason.
00:01:09.660 Is sex a duty in marriage? 0.86
00:01:11.980 It's a duty amongst animal instinct, but it's not an obligation.
00:01:18.340 Okay.
00:01:18.820 If that makes any sense.
00:01:19.420 What is marriage?
00:01:21.160 Commitment.
00:01:22.840 A marriage is... 0.52
00:01:24.380 Love.
00:01:24.980 No, a marriage is...
00:01:26.860 A contract of commitment and love.
00:01:29.180 It's two people coming together and saying, okay, we agree to respect each other and come to the same vows and say, okay, if we agree to be together, then it's just going to be us.
00:01:42.280 Okay.
00:01:42.920 And we have to be openly honest, whether it's through positive, through negative.
00:01:47.400 And if we don't see alike, we can figure out a way around it or away from it.
00:01:55.340 Because not everything always goes together, blends together.
00:01:59.440 Is marriage for life?
00:02:00.980 Yes.
00:02:01.560 It should.
00:02:02.380 Okay.
00:02:02.900 So one...
00:02:04.060 Is marriage for life?
00:02:07.760 Yes.
00:02:08.300 It should be for life.
00:02:09.120 It should be.
00:02:09.800 Okay.
00:02:10.700 Until the day you...
00:02:11.580 Until death do us part.
00:02:13.600 Is it that way?
00:02:14.660 Unfortunately not, because there are many life-like situations where individuals don't feel the same way they did when they were first married.
00:02:23.900 Is marriage about feelings?
00:02:26.300 It's respect.
00:02:27.000 No, it's about feelings, commitments, respect.
00:02:29.080 It's about a bunch of different things.
00:02:30.620 Okay.
00:02:30.940 So what would you say it's about?
00:02:32.960 Oh, feelings, commitments, sacrifice.
00:02:36.280 Okay.
00:02:36.440 So it is about feelings.
00:02:38.040 Yeah, definitely.
00:02:38.940 I would disagree.
00:02:40.120 I would strongly disagree.
00:02:41.300 I think if that was true, then India wouldn't have like the lowest divorce rate where it's arranged. 1.00
00:02:47.460 They have no feelings.
00:02:48.760 I guess.
00:02:49.200 I guess.
00:02:49.760 No, it's not that they have no feelings.
00:02:51.120 It's about duty, I think.
00:02:52.400 Yeah, it's about duty.
00:02:53.220 But then there's also have to be some feeling and consideration backed behind it.
00:02:58.300 Because if there's a duty, okay, your duty is to go hunt and kill.
00:03:04.880 But behind that duty, there's a purpose.
00:03:08.000 If you don't kill, you don't eat.
00:03:09.820 Nobody eats.
00:03:10.360 You can eat by yourself.
00:03:11.620 Sure.
00:03:12.200 So be it.
00:03:12.720 Do you think it's good to rely on feelings?
00:03:16.040 Not solely.
00:03:16.500 Not 100%.
00:03:17.480 It depends on the situation.
00:03:19.600 No, I do not agree.
00:03:21.300 But then there's always a situation.
00:03:22.920 Should a guy protect and provide when he feels like it?
00:03:26.780 Should a guy protect and provide when he feels like it?
00:03:30.200 Many of them do.
00:03:31.320 Why not?
00:03:32.400 Because he feels like a duty as an alpha.
00:03:35.160 Yeah, he'll feel it.
00:03:36.100 Even if he feels that he knows that it's negative.
00:03:38.140 If there's an intruder and he's scared, should he run away?
00:03:41.920 If he runs away, then he's not.
00:03:45.100 If there's an intruder and the man runs away and there's a household full of women and children,
00:03:51.300 male or female, under the age that cannot protect themselves and the male alpha runs away.
00:03:57.240 So he shouldn't do that based on his feelings.
00:04:00.100 He shouldn't do that anyway.
00:04:01.760 No, no, I'm saying he shouldn't rely on his feelings when he's scared.
00:04:05.380 Should rely on his duty, right?
00:04:07.480 Instinctively, duty.
00:04:09.260 And I say this for myself.
00:04:10.500 Okay.
00:04:10.920 Instinctively.
00:04:11.320 Would you say it's the same for women and sex? 0.99
00:04:17.540 Instinctively and duty for women and sex? 0.74
00:04:24.540 Sure, why not?
00:04:25.480 Okay.
00:04:28.760 Did you have something to say, King?
00:04:30.400 I just wanted to ask, for the ladies, is a woman's emotional need important in a marriage?
00:04:40.800 Yeah.
00:04:41.180 Both of them are.
00:04:42.100 I just asked a specific question.
00:04:45.560 I didn't ask about men.
00:04:46.660 For a woman, is her emotional need important in a marriage? 0.98
00:04:50.220 Yeah.
00:04:50.440 Yeah.
00:04:50.680 Is it important for a man to consider his woman's emotional need in a relationship and in a marriage, for that marriage to be successful?
00:05:00.520 Yeah.
00:05:01.420 Okay.
00:05:01.860 That's good.
00:05:02.680 So for a man, is sex important in a relationship?
00:05:05.540 Yes.
00:05:05.780 Yes.
00:05:06.200 Yes.
00:05:06.800 All right.
00:05:07.120 So is it important for a woman to consider a man's need in a relationship, for that relationship to be successful?
00:05:12.040 Yes.
00:05:12.240 Yes.
00:05:12.800 Okay.
00:05:13.160 So do you realize how you guys have all argued against that point?
00:05:17.400 Basically, after you asked that question, yes.
00:05:19.900 I didn't answer that question, but I specifically.
00:05:23.420 But we said, what is the reason that she's not giving sex, right? 1.00
00:05:27.940 Exactly.
00:05:28.620 There may be a real reason.
00:05:30.160 I don't see no reason.
00:05:31.180 No.
00:05:31.400 The question was, if he was allowed to cheat, there's something different.
00:05:36.320 That's good.
00:05:36.580 So do you think there can be a reason why a man would not consider a woman's emotional need in a relationship?
00:05:43.060 Yes, there is a reason.
00:05:44.300 I don't know what it is, but there's.
00:05:45.880 The woman always asks, what is the reason why he's not considering my, before they start making problems?
00:05:51.240 Do they try to find out the reason why the man is not fulfilling his end of the bargain, or do they just start causing trouble?
00:05:57.840 This is why couples fight. 0.99
00:05:59.100 This is why, because they don't, they don't maybe communicate, and they don't really consider each other's.
00:06:05.120 Does communicating typically lead to the problem being solved?
00:06:08.720 No.
00:06:09.180 Not if they communicate in a bad way.
00:06:12.620 So why would men communicate more? 0.91
00:06:14.620 And they are scared.
00:06:16.180 Men, they are scared to communicate sometimes, because they know the woman will do a big fuss. 0.99
00:06:21.720 Maybe they will end with a big fighting and argument, and they don't want that.
00:06:25.860 I disagree on that, too.
00:06:27.040 Who communicates better, men or women?
00:06:29.100 It depends who.
00:06:30.300 In general, in general, who communicates, even in relationships, who do you think communicates better, men or women?
00:06:34.220 Women. 0.81
00:06:35.540 I would say women. 0.95
00:06:37.240 Are you sure?
00:06:38.520 I think women are more open to talk. 1.00
00:06:40.240 No, because women are more open to talk at all. 1.00
00:06:42.600 Women are more open to talk. 1.00
00:06:44.420 Do women typically communicate and get to the point? 1.00
00:06:48.620 No.
00:06:49.060 They will go around the subject.
00:06:51.120 Wait, wait, wait, just yes or no.
00:06:52.600 Do women typically communicate and get to the point? 1.00
00:06:54.940 No.
00:06:55.200 No.
00:06:55.880 So why do we think they communicate better when we don't get to the point?
00:07:03.420 Trying is better than nothing, because some men, they don't even want to talk.
00:07:08.140 If I try to lose weight and I don't, does it matter?
00:07:17.340 Have you actually tried?
00:07:19.260 When it's two.
00:07:20.020 I think women have brainwashed society into thinking we communicate better, but we communicate worse. 1.00
00:07:29.720 I don't agree.
00:07:30.720 I don't really agree.
00:07:31.800 Do men not communicate in relationships or do women not like the way men communicate?
00:07:38.280 The second.
00:07:39.240 The second, yeah.
00:07:40.440 I would say the second as well.
00:07:42.400 I think it depends still.
00:07:43.800 Women talk over them. 1.00
00:07:44.940 I mean, I think generally, if you're going to be a generalization again, once again, we're doing the generally.
00:07:54.120 Women speak with emotion, right? 1.00
00:07:56.560 And so they speak emotionally.
00:07:57.760 I feel this.
00:07:58.380 I feel that.
00:07:59.240 Whereas men speak. 0.98
00:08:00.340 This is the facts that they think rather than maybe feelings coming into it.
00:08:06.420 And so that's the difference.
00:08:08.720 But what I've learned from my marriage was from my ex-husband.
00:08:12.080 And he was saying to me, you all the times you go around the subject.
00:08:15.800 He was saying to me that I'm going around the subject like this and he is coming.
00:08:19.640 This is the problem.
00:08:20.460 This is the solution.
00:08:21.320 Let's do something.
00:08:22.420 Exactly.
00:08:23.060 Simple for the men.
00:08:23.940 But I'm more like that.
00:08:24.380 And we, and we as a woman, we are making the fuss and we are going around the problem.
00:08:30.740 I think that's a generalization because I think.
00:08:33.240 It's a generalization in general.
00:08:34.880 This is what women are doing. 1.00
00:08:37.500 Bullet points.
00:08:38.260 So the cheating, should a man cheat if his wife will not sleep with him? 0.61
00:08:44.080 Sure.
00:08:45.740 I mean, I'm not married, never been married, but I've lived with different partners and
00:08:52.980 sometimes it's painful because you get that look and it's like, almost like a, first it's
00:09:00.000 a no, it's bad.
00:09:01.980 Then it's almost like a disgust after a while.
00:09:05.040 Like, ooh, like, why would I sleep with you?
00:09:06.840 I'm like, fuck, we've been together for like, together for like years.
00:09:14.060 So, yeah, for sure.
00:09:15.940 After a while.
00:09:16.560 Yeah, or break up.
00:09:17.580 Fuck it.
00:09:20.220 How long can a woman not sleep with a man until she's a bad wife? 1.00
00:09:27.780 One week.
00:09:28.800 It's been a, it wasn't.
00:09:31.600 Who said that?
00:09:33.200 A week.
00:09:34.240 They're going to be like, okay, we'll, we'll overlook the cheating.
00:09:43.860 If, I don't know, depends on the man's libido, if he wants it a lot and then all of a sudden
00:09:50.380 it's gone for like a week.
00:09:51.380 Just in general.
00:09:52.040 We're just talking about in general.
00:09:54.020 For the average guy.
00:09:54.500 Bad wife, a couple of months. 1.00
00:09:56.340 A couple of months.
00:09:57.020 Six?
00:09:57.180 Yeah.
00:09:57.300 Two.
00:09:59.040 Two.
00:09:59.600 Okay.
00:10:00.220 Okay.
00:10:00.480 That's rough.
00:10:00.720 Three months.
00:10:01.240 One couple.
00:10:01.700 That is rough.
00:10:02.300 What?
00:10:02.760 One couple of months.
00:10:05.100 They're lower than it.
00:10:06.220 They're like, ah, we're not dealing with this.
00:10:08.900 Okay.
00:10:09.200 What about you?
00:10:11.200 Okay.
00:10:11.660 On this, like, I have a different opinion.
00:10:13.960 I don't think it will make it a bad wife if she doesn't sleep with you. 1.00
00:10:17.460 I strongly believe that as a practical man, I should try to find why is that happening?
00:10:21.860 Maybe I'm doing something wrong.
00:10:22.960 Maybe or not.
00:10:23.500 But if, let's say, I'm doing everything right, yeah, I wouldn't like way too wrong.
00:10:31.900 Do you think women reward good behavior? 1.00
00:10:34.200 No.
00:10:35.320 So then why would you look to see if you're doing everything right?
00:10:38.880 Recognize but not reward.
00:10:40.080 No, not everything right.
00:10:41.800 I mean, like, maybe something like is major that makes her stay away.
00:10:46.760 Not for small things because no one is perfect, right?
00:10:49.760 But, yeah, they definitely don't reward.
00:10:52.900 So if she keeps not sleeping with you, how long?
00:10:59.480 I don't know.
00:11:00.320 It never happened to me.
00:11:03.440 But I would address the issue immediately, probably the first few times of attempt.