JustPearlyThings - March 20, 2023


Simps Are the PROBLEM


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

220.72322

Word Count

2,116

Sentence Count

134

Misogynist Sentences

27

Hate Speech Sentences

13


Summary

In this episode, I sit down with my good friend Lauren to talk about her journey to becoming the woman she is today. We talk about daddy issues, how to deal with them, and how to be a better woman.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 You said it earlier, right?
00:00:01.100 When you talked about what it took for you to become the woman, it took work.
00:00:04.680 And women these days aren't trying to do the work.
00:00:06.460 I had a conversation earlier, and I personally, once I realized Lauren had daddy issues,
00:00:12.240 Lauren went to the table and Lauren dealt with daddy issues.
00:00:14.280 And then I began to recognize daddy issues in other women.
00:00:16.300 And I would talk to them, and they would self-identify daddy issues.
00:00:19.640 And I was shocked.
00:00:20.400 I was like, wait, you know you have daddy issues?
00:00:22.400 Because if I had known earlier, I would have fixed them earlier.
00:00:24.800 I didn't know I had daddy issues until I fixed them.
00:00:27.520 But there are women walking around knowing that they are traumatized, knowing that they
00:00:31.680 have gaps in them, and they don't want to address it because they don't want to do the work.
00:00:35.180 It is hard work to look inside of you and know that you can't victimize yourself, know that
00:00:39.500 you have to be accountable, and to stand up and say, yeah, my daddy did this.
00:00:43.420 He wasn't present.
00:00:44.100 He wasn't whatever.
00:00:45.160 But that's not on him.
00:00:45.960 I got to forgive him.
00:00:46.760 And I have to realize what that's done for me.
00:00:48.780 And if I want a healthy relationship, the role, the active role, that I have to play in evolving
00:00:53.660 and becoming a better person to get that.
00:00:55.680 And people don't want to look in the mirror.
00:00:57.380 People do not want to deal with themselves because they don't care.
00:01:00.340 The women do it for work, and they do it for their bosses.
00:01:02.800 So that's a lot of rubbish because women do it for them.
00:01:04.680 If your boss said, if you're in the job and your boss said, right, I want you to train
00:01:08.120 and do this, then we go for it.
00:01:09.600 If your man says, I want you to train and do this, then we ain't going to want to do it.
00:01:12.340 I mean, I just think we don't live in, we just get away with it because we don't face
00:01:17.040 consequences for anything.
00:01:18.760 It's like there's so many simps that'll put up with disrespectful behavior and still date them
00:01:23.220 and still marry them and still give them children when they don't respect them.
00:01:26.580 I mean, how many times do we hear happy wife, happy life?
00:01:28.860 How many times do we hear she wears the pants in the relationship?
00:01:31.420 Is that a relationship any woman really wants to be in where she's leading it?
00:01:34.220 Exactly.
00:01:34.700 They end up divorcing them, and then we're in the same cycle over again.
00:01:38.020 When a guy wants to make a decision, like, she'll call him toxic and controlling.
00:01:41.760 I mean, I hear it all the time on the show.
00:01:43.140 If he asks you to take down your social media, he's toxic and controlling,
00:01:46.220 when that's actually quite reasonable to not want random men looking at your girl on the internet.
00:01:50.380 Especially when you're posting as well.
00:01:52.520 Like, if you're out here with a man and you're posting all these, like,
00:01:55.280 it depends what type of things that you're posting, I would feel.
00:01:57.940 If you're just posting a picture every once a year,
00:02:00.260 and, like, that picture's with your man or with your family or with your friends,
00:02:03.240 and you're not, like, being excessive enough, oh, fine, fair enough.
00:02:06.160 But if you're out there posting, like, your tits, your booty, your body, everything,
00:02:10.080 and you're in a relationship, you need to see that you're actually the problem in that relationship
00:02:14.000 because you're getting the views from the men.
00:02:16.100 You know what I mean?
00:02:16.640 And you're putting yourself in that light.
00:02:18.280 And men are going to like that damn picture, especially if you're in a relationship.
00:02:21.200 But the whole point of submission is you don't ask him why.
00:02:23.740 Yeah, you just agree.
00:02:24.520 It's like we had a girl, Maggie, on the show,
00:02:26.440 and they said he asked you to take down your social media,
00:02:28.840 and she has the most mild cooking stuff.
00:02:30.480 She just said it wouldn't even be a conversation.
00:02:32.800 And so it's like, but it's so unheard of from women to just listen to men.
00:02:37.280 Not, you know, it's not every man.
00:02:39.060 Like, don't listen to the homeless man on the street.
00:02:40.880 But you know what I'm saying.
00:02:45.800 MTR, what do you think?
00:02:47.620 Yeah, I mean, to just sum it up, no, like, respect for men is at an all-time low.
00:02:59.260 I think that respect for men within our society today is more so tied to what that man can provide
00:03:05.760 and the utility within that.
00:03:07.980 Like, short story.
00:03:08.640 So before I started on YouTube, I considered myself a hobbyist.
00:03:13.740 And so one of the things that I did prior to turning the video camera on myself was to become a photographer.
00:03:19.200 Now, at the same time, you know, I was, you know, post-MBA, working a six-figure job at a Fortune whatever company.
00:03:27.380 But I wanted to do photography.
00:03:29.220 So I eventually started to, like, book gigs within that.
00:03:33.620 One of the gigs that I booked, it was at, like, a wedding party or something like that.
00:03:40.900 And I ended up having a conversation with a young woman at the wedding party.
00:03:45.420 I saw it kind of look and I saw it kind of choose and decided to walk up and have a conversation with them.
00:03:49.060 And, like, the low-level barometer of disrespect just based off of, oh, so you, like, is this what you do?
00:03:55.160 Like, this little photography thing?
00:03:56.660 And I was like, oh, you dirty, dirty wench.
00:03:59.140 That's what I was thinking.
00:04:00.020 I didn't want to say it like that just because, like, you know, I was going to get paid for the day.
00:04:03.340 You know, I don't want to cause a brouhaha within the establishment, right?
00:04:07.400 So, you know, just based off of being what they consider to be an average earner or an average worker, a lot of that respect is derived from there.
00:04:16.480 But, you know, that's why, like, on my channel I tell so many of the men to continue to work on, you know, yourselves and utility within your life because no one owes you favors.
00:04:25.760 No one will care, right?
00:04:27.400 Like, men and women are judged within our society off of different metrics, right?
00:04:31.940 But as a man, you should know what the metrics are judged off of.
00:04:35.040 And if you choose to play, well, this is the cost of that it is, right, as opposed to men that go their own way.
00:04:43.140 So, no, there's not a whole level of respect.
00:04:48.700 You know where I also see it as well?
00:04:50.320 I see it outside of the club when I see young women putting fingers in men's faces where they're instigating fights because of something that might have happened inside of the club.
00:05:00.840 If you had a respect for a man, then you'd understand that a man is more than likely stronger than you.
00:05:06.760 And he can do damage to you.
00:05:08.460 Equal rights, equal love.
00:05:10.320 He can do damage to you clearly if he decided that he don't want to play with your bullshit no more.
00:05:18.060 But, no, there's not a level of respect.
00:05:19.460 Because if you respected a man, then you would respect his hand strength, his arm strength.
00:05:24.940 That he's much bigger than you.
00:05:26.020 That's just being smart.
00:05:27.180 Baby, why would you want to deal with that?
00:05:28.880 Being smart.
00:05:29.560 Don't want to get hit.
00:05:30.220 Disrespectful people do dumb shit.
00:05:31.560 Why do you think people automatically think that the woman's the victim when she gets hit?
00:05:35.740 Yeah.
00:05:36.020 When oftentimes she hit first.
00:05:37.820 Because women are looked at as fragile little beings.
00:05:41.880 And, oh, you can't hit a woman.
00:05:44.080 It's that woman out there saying she wants to make her work.
00:05:46.220 And they're playing it to that victimhood.
00:05:47.260 And she's going to get an equal hit.
00:05:48.600 You know what I mean?
00:05:49.180 It's not even necessarily that you put your hand on a guy.
00:05:52.320 Women don't understand the power of our influence and our voice, right?
00:05:55.680 It's how you talk to a man, right?
00:05:57.740 If you can stir up some things in him and entice him in a way that make him want to put his hand on you,
00:06:03.000 and people will say, oh, it wasn't justifiable because she didn't hit you,
00:06:05.920 even though that's not appropriate either.
00:06:08.200 But it's like, women, why are you running your mouth like this to a man who could literally?
00:06:12.120 I mean, what's worse, verbal abuse or physical abuse?
00:06:15.720 I'm going to say verbal for a man.
00:06:17.660 Absolutely for a man.
00:06:18.860 And who do you think verbally abuses the other gender, more men or women?
00:06:21.800 Women, 100%.
00:06:23.060 Women abuse men.
00:06:23.660 A hundred percent.
00:06:25.340 A hundred percent.
00:06:26.040 We also got to thank our media as well.
00:06:28.180 Like, shout out to Oprah, the color purple.
00:06:31.160 What she's done to the image of the black man in society today, she's completely right.
00:06:37.420 Like, everyone is just walking around thinking that, you know, men are just, especially black men, too,
00:06:41.760 who are destroyers of women.
00:06:43.600 I didn't actually watch a lot of Oprah growing up.
00:06:46.320 So, like, what did she do?
00:06:47.720 So, specific to the movie.
00:06:48.620 I genuinely have no idea.
00:06:49.620 So, specific to image, image being formed within our media today.
00:06:55.680 I know we did the King Riches podcast not too long ago,
00:06:58.380 and we talked about black male image and how it's kind of formed today and what it is.
00:07:03.840 And what they said, like, what is the image of man, black man, you know, within America today?
00:07:09.480 And the first word that came out was thug.
00:07:12.040 I think some of the words was like a beater or things like that, right?
00:07:15.460 So, you know, there's been images within media that has promoted that we are big, bad, tough, strong, da-da-da,
00:07:20.880 and that, you know, women can do no wrong.
00:07:23.760 Women must be protected outside of their behavior.
00:07:26.800 You know, I think, you know, back to that respect question,
00:07:29.220 that there's a certain behavior of women that deserves more respect, right?
00:07:33.000 Like, of the women, right?
00:07:34.500 Like, one of the women that comes out is Maggie the Substitute Teacher,
00:07:37.500 who's graced us with her presence this past week.
00:07:39.520 You sit and you talk to Maggie for, like, a little bit.
00:07:42.820 Maggie was up in the kitchen for 12 damn hours.
00:07:45.320 And I'm not saying that you got to be up in the kitchen,
00:07:46.860 but she came in to a place that she was unfamiliar with
00:07:50.120 and graced it with feminine ease and presence.
00:07:52.260 Her influence, right?
00:07:53.040 So, within feminine ease and presence, guess what?
00:07:55.720 As a man, I am biologically driven to protect that.
00:08:00.540 Biologically.
00:08:01.500 And she drips it.
00:08:02.740 She just, it gratefully just, it comes off of her.
00:08:06.180 Just afterwards, I went up to her and I was just like,
00:08:08.440 oh my goodness, I love this.
00:08:09.840 I want to be a part of this web program so you have,
00:08:12.520 like, I can sign up for it.
00:08:13.680 Because it's just, it's amazing.
00:08:15.340 It literally changes the whole atmosphere.
00:08:18.940 When she talks, it's a respect.
00:08:20.660 Everyone gets quiet.
00:08:21.540 You want to listen to her.
00:08:22.420 You want to honor that.
00:08:23.500 And that's what we need to push for women in society.
00:08:26.820 Because we need, if we return to that,
00:08:29.080 the power that is in that, men would naturally protect us.
00:08:32.240 And here's the thing.
00:08:33.040 It's one thing to say it, but, because I was like to think about this earlier.
00:08:38.360 Like, how do I, because I can say to you, like, listen, just based off of her presence,
00:08:42.860 it's just like, if something was to happen, I'd be like, Maggie, you good?
00:08:46.800 Based off the aura in the room or whatever that changed, right?
00:08:49.520 So it's just like, how do we get more women in the understanding of, like, that's what femininity is.
00:08:55.780 That ease is.
00:08:57.200 I think it's so rare because it's a failure on the mother's part.
00:09:00.880 I mean, even from two-parent households, you absolutely see a lack of femininity in the mothers.
00:09:05.580 Like, how many moms, genuinely, that you know, if the husband made a decision,
00:09:10.420 a big decision for the household that she did not agree with, she would just say, okay, yes, sir.
00:09:15.080 No, absolutely not.
00:09:16.800 Not sir.
00:09:17.600 Or, I'm not doing it, but not sir.
00:09:19.240 That's pushing it, sir.
00:09:19.960 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:09:22.640 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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