JustPearlyThings - Simps Are the PROBLEM

00:00:00.000 You said it earlier, right?

00:00:01.100 When you talked about what it took for you to become the woman, it took work.

00:00:04.680 And women these days aren't trying to do the work. 1.00

00:00:06.460 I had a conversation earlier, and I personally, once I realized Lauren had daddy issues, 1.00

00:00:12.240 Lauren went to the table and Lauren dealt with daddy issues. 1.00

00:00:14.280 And then I began to recognize daddy issues in other women. 1.00

00:00:16.300 And I would talk to them, and they would self-identify daddy issues.

00:00:19.640 And I was shocked.

00:00:20.400 I was like, wait, you know you have daddy issues?

00:00:22.400 Because if I had known earlier, I would have fixed them earlier.

00:00:24.800 I didn't know I had daddy issues until I fixed them.

00:00:27.520 But there are women walking around knowing that they are traumatized, knowing that they

00:00:31.680 have gaps in them, and they don't want to address it because they don't want to do the work.

00:00:35.180 It is hard work to look inside of you and know that you can't victimize yourself, know that

00:00:39.500 you have to be accountable, and to stand up and say, yeah, my daddy did this.

00:00:43.420 He wasn't present.

00:00:44.100 He wasn't whatever.

00:00:45.160 But that's not on him.

00:00:45.960 I got to forgive him.

00:00:46.760 And I have to realize what that's done for me.

00:00:48.780 And if I want a healthy relationship, the role, the active role, that I have to play in evolving

00:00:53.660 and becoming a better person to get that.

00:00:55.680 And people don't want to look in the mirror.

00:00:57.380 People do not want to deal with themselves because they don't care.

00:01:00.340 The women do it for work, and they do it for their bosses. 1.00

00:01:02.800 So that's a lot of rubbish because women do it for them. 1.00

00:01:04.680 If your boss said, if you're in the job and your boss said, right, I want you to train 0.99

00:01:08.120 and do this, then we go for it.

00:01:09.600 If your man says, I want you to train and do this, then we ain't going to want to do it.

00:01:12.340 I mean, I just think we don't live in, we just get away with it because we don't face 0.98

00:01:17.040 consequences for anything.

00:01:18.760 It's like there's so many simps that'll put up with disrespectful behavior and still date them

00:01:23.220 and still marry them and still give them children when they don't respect them. 0.96

00:01:26.580 I mean, how many times do we hear happy wife, happy life?

00:01:28.860 How many times do we hear she wears the pants in the relationship? 1.00

00:01:31.420 Is that a relationship any woman really wants to be in where she's leading it? 1.00

00:01:34.220 Exactly.

00:01:34.700 They end up divorcing them, and then we're in the same cycle over again.

00:01:38.020 When a guy wants to make a decision, like, she'll call him toxic and controlling.

00:01:41.760 I mean, I hear it all the time on the show.

00:01:43.140 If he asks you to take down your social media, he's toxic and controlling,

00:01:46.220 when that's actually quite reasonable to not want random men looking at your girl on the internet.

00:01:50.380 Especially when you're posting as well.

00:01:52.520 Like, if you're out here with a man and you're posting all these, like,

00:01:55.280 it depends what type of things that you're posting, I would feel.

00:01:57.940 If you're just posting a picture every once a year,

00:02:00.260 and, like, that picture's with your man or with your family or with your friends,

00:02:03.240 and you're not, like, being excessive enough, oh, fine, fair enough. 0.99

00:02:06.160 But if you're out there posting, like, your tits, your booty, your body, everything, 0.99

00:02:10.080 and you're in a relationship, you need to see that you're actually the problem in that relationship 0.99

00:02:14.000 because you're getting the views from the men.

00:02:16.100 You know what I mean?

00:02:16.640 And you're putting yourself in that light. 0.99

00:02:18.280 And men are going to like that damn picture, especially if you're in a relationship. 0.99

00:02:21.200 But the whole point of submission is you don't ask him why. 1.00

00:02:23.740 Yeah, you just agree.

00:02:24.520 It's like we had a girl, Maggie, on the show,

00:02:26.440 and they said he asked you to take down your social media,

00:02:28.840 and she has the most mild cooking stuff. 0.98

00:02:30.480 She just said it wouldn't even be a conversation.

00:02:32.800 And so it's like, but it's so unheard of from women to just listen to men.

00:02:37.280 Not, you know, it's not every man.

00:02:39.060 Like, don't listen to the homeless man on the street.

00:02:40.880 But you know what I'm saying.

00:02:45.800 MTR, what do you think?

00:02:47.620 Yeah, I mean, to just sum it up, no, like, respect for men is at an all-time low.

00:02:59.260 I think that respect for men within our society today is more so tied to what that man can provide

00:03:05.760 and the utility within that.

00:03:07.980 Like, short story.

00:03:08.640 So before I started on YouTube, I considered myself a hobbyist.

00:03:13.740 And so one of the things that I did prior to turning the video camera on myself was to become a photographer.

00:03:19.200 Now, at the same time, you know, I was, you know, post-MBA, working a six-figure job at a Fortune whatever company.

00:03:27.380 But I wanted to do photography.

00:03:29.220 So I eventually started to, like, book gigs within that.

00:03:33.620 One of the gigs that I booked, it was at, like, a wedding party or something like that.

00:03:40.900 And I ended up having a conversation with a young woman at the wedding party.

00:03:45.420 I saw it kind of look and I saw it kind of choose and decided to walk up and have a conversation with them.

00:03:49.060 And, like, the low-level barometer of disrespect just based off of, oh, so you, like, is this what you do?

00:03:55.160 Like, this little photography thing? 1.00

00:03:56.660 And I was like, oh, you dirty, dirty wench. 1.00

00:03:59.140 That's what I was thinking. 0.99

00:04:00.020 I didn't want to say it like that just because, like, you know, I was going to get paid for the day.

00:04:03.340 You know, I don't want to cause a brouhaha within the establishment, right?

00:04:07.400 So, you know, just based off of being what they consider to be an average earner or an average worker, a lot of that respect is derived from there.

00:04:16.480 But, you know, that's why, like, on my channel I tell so many of the men to continue to work on, you know, yourselves and utility within your life because no one owes you favors.

00:04:25.760 No one will care, right?

00:04:27.400 Like, men and women are judged within our society off of different metrics, right?

00:04:31.940 But as a man, you should know what the metrics are judged off of.

00:04:35.040 And if you choose to play, well, this is the cost of that it is, right, as opposed to men that go their own way.

00:04:43.140 So, no, there's not a whole level of respect.

00:04:48.700 You know where I also see it as well?

00:04:50.320 I see it outside of the club when I see young women putting fingers in men's faces where they're instigating fights because of something that might have happened inside of the club. 1.00

00:05:00.840 If you had a respect for a man, then you'd understand that a man is more than likely stronger than you.

00:05:06.760 And he can do damage to you.

00:05:08.460 Equal rights, equal love. 1.00

00:05:10.320 He can do damage to you clearly if he decided that he don't want to play with your bullshit no more. 0.99

00:05:18.060 But, no, there's not a level of respect. 0.99

00:05:19.460 Because if you respected a man, then you would respect his hand strength, his arm strength.

00:05:24.940 That he's much bigger than you.

00:05:26.020 That's just being smart.

00:05:27.180 Baby, why would you want to deal with that?

00:05:28.880 Being smart.

00:05:29.560 Don't want to get hit. 1.00

00:05:30.220 Disrespectful people do dumb shit. 1.00

00:05:31.560 Why do you think people automatically think that the woman's the victim when she gets hit? 1.00

00:05:35.740 Yeah.

00:05:36.020 When oftentimes she hit first.

00:05:37.820 Because women are looked at as fragile little beings. 1.00

00:05:41.880 And, oh, you can't hit a woman.

00:05:44.080 It's that woman out there saying she wants to make her work. 1.00

00:05:46.220 And they're playing it to that victimhood.

00:05:47.260 And she's going to get an equal hit. 0.99

00:05:48.600 You know what I mean?

00:05:49.180 It's not even necessarily that you put your hand on a guy.

00:05:52.320 Women don't understand the power of our influence and our voice, right? 1.00

00:05:55.680 It's how you talk to a man, right?

00:05:57.740 If you can stir up some things in him and entice him in a way that make him want to put his hand on you,

00:06:03.000 and people will say, oh, it wasn't justifiable because she didn't hit you,

00:06:05.920 even though that's not appropriate either.

00:06:08.200 But it's like, women, why are you running your mouth like this to a man who could literally? 0.66

00:06:12.120 I mean, what's worse, verbal abuse or physical abuse?

00:06:15.720 I'm going to say verbal for a man.

00:06:17.660 Absolutely for a man.

00:06:18.860 And who do you think verbally abuses the other gender, more men or women?

00:06:21.800 Women, 100%. 0.95

00:06:23.060 Women abuse men. 1.00

00:06:23.660 A hundred percent. 0.95

00:06:25.340 A hundred percent.

00:06:26.040 We also got to thank our media as well.

00:06:28.180 Like, shout out to Oprah, the color purple.

00:06:31.160 What she's done to the image of the black man in society today, she's completely right. 1.00

00:06:37.420 Like, everyone is just walking around thinking that, you know, men are just, especially black men, too, 0.99

00:06:41.760 who are destroyers of women. 0.98

00:06:43.600 I didn't actually watch a lot of Oprah growing up.

00:06:46.320 So, like, what did she do?

00:06:47.720 So, specific to the movie.

00:06:48.620 I genuinely have no idea.

00:06:49.620 So, specific to image, image being formed within our media today.

00:06:55.680 I know we did the King Riches podcast not too long ago,

00:06:58.380 and we talked about black male image and how it's kind of formed today and what it is.

00:07:03.840 And what they said, like, what is the image of man, black man, you know, within America today?

00:07:09.480 And the first word that came out was thug.

00:07:12.040 I think some of the words was like a beater or things like that, right?

00:07:15.460 So, you know, there's been images within media that has promoted that we are big, bad, tough, strong, da-da-da,

00:07:20.880 and that, you know, women can do no wrong. 1.00

00:07:23.760 Women must be protected outside of their behavior. 1.00

00:07:26.800 You know, I think, you know, back to that respect question,

00:07:29.220 that there's a certain behavior of women that deserves more respect, right? 0.99

00:07:33.000 Like, of the women, right? 0.95

00:07:34.500 Like, one of the women that comes out is Maggie the Substitute Teacher, 1.00

00:07:37.500 who's graced us with her presence this past week.

00:07:39.520 You sit and you talk to Maggie for, like, a little bit. 0.98

00:07:42.820 Maggie was up in the kitchen for 12 damn hours. 1.00

00:07:45.320 And I'm not saying that you got to be up in the kitchen, 0.99

00:07:46.860 but she came in to a place that she was unfamiliar with

00:07:50.120 and graced it with feminine ease and presence.

00:07:52.260 Her influence, right?

00:07:53.040 So, within feminine ease and presence, guess what?

00:07:55.720 As a man, I am biologically driven to protect that.

00:08:00.540 Biologically.

00:08:01.500 And she drips it.

00:08:02.740 She just, it gratefully just, it comes off of her.

00:08:06.180 Just afterwards, I went up to her and I was just like,

00:08:08.440 oh my goodness, I love this.

00:08:09.840 I want to be a part of this web program so you have,

00:08:12.520 like, I can sign up for it.

00:08:13.680 Because it's just, it's amazing.

00:08:15.340 It literally changes the whole atmosphere.

00:08:18.940 When she talks, it's a respect.

00:08:20.660 Everyone gets quiet.

00:08:21.540 You want to listen to her.

00:08:22.420 You want to honor that.

00:08:23.500 And that's what we need to push for women in society. 1.00

00:08:26.820 Because we need, if we return to that,

00:08:29.080 the power that is in that, men would naturally protect us.

00:08:32.240 And here's the thing.

00:08:33.040 It's one thing to say it, but, because I was like to think about this earlier.

00:08:38.360 Like, how do I, because I can say to you, like, listen, just based off of her presence,

00:08:42.860 it's just like, if something was to happen, I'd be like, Maggie, you good?

00:08:46.800 Based off the aura in the room or whatever that changed, right?

00:08:49.520 So it's just like, how do we get more women in the understanding of, like, that's what femininity is. 1.00

00:08:55.780 That ease is.

00:08:57.200 I think it's so rare because it's a failure on the mother's part. 0.99

00:09:00.880 I mean, even from two-parent households, you absolutely see a lack of femininity in the mothers. 1.00

00:09:05.580 Like, how many moms, genuinely, that you know, if the husband made a decision,

00:09:10.420 a big decision for the household that she did not agree with, she would just say, okay, yes, sir.

00:09:15.080 No, absolutely not.

00:09:16.800 Not sir.

00:09:17.600 Or, I'm not doing it, but not sir.

00:09:19.240 That's pushing it, sir.

00:09:19.960 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.

00:09:22.640 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.

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JustPearlyThings - March 20, 2023

Simps Are the PROBLEM

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