Single Mother REGRETS This Everyday
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In this episode, we talk about how men will always be there in the background waiting for their exes to come back. We also talk about why men will never leave their homes and why women will always stay in the shadows.
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There's always that one guy that can always come back in the background.
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Yeah, no, I've spoken to women that have had, like, I don't know,
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six-year situationships on and off where between every relationship
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and that's, like, how they keep their, like, body count low or whatever.
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Keeping your body count low 100%, but you don't have to do that.
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If you're going back to past situations, that may have not been good.
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That's too much toxicity that you're going to bring to the new guy that you may meet
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Yeah, and, like, and any time you mess up, he's sitting there waiting.
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Now, you've got to get rid of all the exes, you know.
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Yeah, but they are usually, usually the guys are the ones that are on standby.
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I'm not going to go to Ted and, like, yo, Ted, I'm dealing with Pell, you know.
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Whereas women always want to go to women about stuff.
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So, you lot, in terms of, you can always have your exes there.
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Because my man will just wait in the background.
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But women, we try to have that one in the background.
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She want to go to the main woman and tell her, yo, we've been together.
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But Pearl, listen, all these discussions are pointless.
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Walk outside and you will see the majority of men don't leave their homes.
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I went to Japan and all I see is women outside.
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My main point is you cannot bring back most men outside of their rooms if you have to waste
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I mean, I think in general people aren't leaving and especially like now they're going to have
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AI and like, I think there's just more people aren't going outside is his main point.
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But I was, I was thinking about this the other day because I was like, if I was a guy, how
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would you pick a good, because I've been interviewing men for this divorce documentary I'm doing.
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So I interview the men that have been like stupid wrecked by divorce.
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So they're, um, and typically this happens like it's, this is kind of the story that
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Typically he meets her and there's like an unplanned pregnancy and typically like they
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get married pretty quick and then, um, she'll go to a women's shelter, like accuse him of
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abuse on some level when some like they'll even prove that she was lying because you get
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a free lawyer here if you accuse a guy of abuse.
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Um, and basically they have their whole lives ruined.
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They're on these really big child support payments.
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Like I listened like there and you can just tell they're like a shell of a dude who they
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And I'll speak to these men and I'm like, okay, so she, and some, their girls had red
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flags, but some it's like she was from a two parent home.
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Um, she, there's, there's one that's in the news right now where they're both virgins on
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Um, I'll see another that's like, she, um, she came from a Christian family.
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She was from Eastern Europe and like all the, like on paper.
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And I'm like, I don't know as a guy, how you avoid that.
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And so that's, that's why I did this show is I was genuinely asking, how do you like,
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what, what, where are the good women and how do men pick them?
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Um, hold on, I have the list, um, go on a coffee date before or after you sleep with
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Um, one month to a year, ask her to make a coffee, ask to cook on the spot, take her
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on a coffee date, date as many women as possible to tell the difference, make sure you're not
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Um, what is her relationship like with her dad?
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Um, and I, and I don't even say this to like harp on women, right?
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But I just think like with how much guys have to lose, I'm like, how, I can't even
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Well, I would say like, just don't, don't sign a contract when you get married, just get
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I thought exactly like you, but no, it doesn't matter because when you have a kid, that's
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But I think if there was more purity in the world, I think if the, if, if men and women
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were both seeking more purity from each other, like how, how honest are you being right
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You know, how, how gentle are you as a pure person?
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Do you want to, do you go out of your way to lie and get angry?
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Let's say the guy says, I'm going to be as pure as possible.
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I'm going to have as little experience with women as possible.
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How does he tell the difference between a woman with a high body count and a low body
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If he has no experience with women, there's no way not.
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No, there's, there's no, there really is no way.
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So I, but if he has, if he has no experience, no factual ways.
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No, but I'm saying, okay, I would think you'd have to like kind of be with a lot of women
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But if he doesn't want to, if he follows the purity route, I mean, I think that men
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I think men and women should, to date men and women, a few men and women at least to see,
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like, see what, see what people are out there to know the difference between different people.
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And also observing other people's relationships is important, but I don't think you have
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to sleep with somebody to know if somebody is a, is a, is a, is a wifey material, you
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know, I don't think you have to sleep with someone being like intimate, having intimate
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conversations, having relationship, you know, having your traditional values play out in
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life roles, you know, cooking and cleaning and taking care of the house, whatever.
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I think those are things, those are important things to do.
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And that's how you'll know if that's a woman you actually want to marry one day, but that's
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There is no like, you know, having the intercourse and making out.
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But I guess my question is like the average woman and like, we could talk about like what
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And this is where like, it's hard because I used to think like this.
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I used to think like you, but it's like, I think we're like red pill and like trad cons
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tend to like talk past each other where it's like the average woman is slept with five
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Like, why would he wait for a woman that's like, so.
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And like, they should not, a man should not wait for someone who's saying that.
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And so how would he tell the difference between a virgin who's lying and a girl who's like
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But the, but the way a woman carries herself really shows a lot about who she is and if
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Go on a camping trip or travel with them or do something that's, you know, challenging
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I keep thinking to these men I was in the docu, like I did the documentary with and a
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And that's why I'm genuinely like, I think there's like, there's no way you could know
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You could never, you could never know a hundred percent.
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But you can, you can get, you can gauge because through conversation, me just having a conversation
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and I find out, okay, how much relationship you, if you've been in a relationship 10 years,
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one person, yeah, you could have done what you're doing in between, but then I can gauge
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You've had one person that maybe you've been outside for the last two years.
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I think you can gauge it that you will never know exact number cause she could be doing
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And your religion and spirituality definitely pays a part in who you choose and how you
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Cause if you both have a similar religion or spirituality.
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So, so then why are the reputation of church women so bad?
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A lot of women go to church and they do terrible things.
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But I'm saying like the reputation of church women is, it's worse than the normal population.
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And so it's like, right, no, but I, but it's like, it's, it's just crazy.
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Cause it's like everything we tell them to look for, it's like, yeah, cause they go and
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commit sins and think they can wash them away on a Sunday.
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They both commit sins, you know, they both do that.
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Well, it sounds like for women, it's, it's also pretty destructive cause their chances
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It sounds like when it doesn't work out, not only the man's life, but also the woman's
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Cause she doesn't have that many chances afterwards, according to the statistics you've been
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But you know, I don't think this is a man issue though.
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I feel like it's women that need to understand men more and understand what men want.
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If they understand what men want, they won't have the issue of finding another man.
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I just, I don't think women would leave if they didn't think they could do better.
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I'm not saying they can't like work with illusional, you know, but what's better?
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Well, because they might think that guy's better.
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Well, I mean, a lot of times it's like the, we have imaginations.
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For example, a man could do way more for you, but it's about what you accept.
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And he couldn't give you everything you want to make sure you're the number one woman.
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But if he goes out and he's got a couple of girls cheating or whatever, are you going
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I'm saying, I'm saying if he looks after your home.
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There's not a lot of, but there's not a lot of, say it again.
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So if he looks after the home, he makes sure you're good.
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But yes, he goes out sometimes and he goes on weekenders away, let's say, and he sleeps
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But when he comes back, the house is patterned.
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There's something wrong with his connection to God or religion or something.
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What about maybe she did something to make him cheat?
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I always feel like there's a reason people cheat.
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Like men don't cheat for no reason and women don't cheat for no reason.
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But like, I just think we kind of get in this, I think we get in this like, like if a guy
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I don't think cheating is good, but like, it's like, well, demonize the men for cheating.
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But when women go into relationships with open social media accounts and we don't demonize
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them where they can still get attention from high value men.
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And it's like, we don't, it's the same thing, but yet like if a guy cheats, it's the worst
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I feel like it's, if a female cheats their demon, it's the worst thing ever.
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When you, when you think about it, like men marry single mothers all the time.
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And in a way that's like, I mean, you're coming in with another man's kid.
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But I hear what you're saying to a certain degree.
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Because obviously if you're letting someone inside your body, you.
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I'm saying if you're opening your legs, I don't think you're just going to open your
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I do think, I do think people should try to work out cheating though.
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Like, I, like, I think like it's about the kids.
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I don't want to like, no offense to people watching this, but like they, my mom and dad
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got divorced when I was four and it was because my dad cheated on her and I don't think anyone
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should, you know, I think cheating, I don't inherently think cheating is a good thing, but
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I think I sometimes wonder what would my life have looked like had they been together?
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And how would I have been, you know, I'm, I'm, I'm grateful that I am the way I am now,
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but I'm just saying like, I know there's a lot of girls out there who have dysfunctional
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families and don't have a father and mother that are together.
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And I've seen people with, who have their mother and father together and they're very
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The way they approach themselves, the way they talk to people, the way they react to
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And so like, that's even like a reason, like I want, I wish more people, more women and
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men would see, oh, I want to have a healthy family.
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I want to break the generational trauma, the generational disrupt, you know, the generational
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Well, I, I, I came to him and I gave him the very clear parameters.
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I was like, listen, I figured this is happening.
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So let's just save our marriage and save our life.
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And so I said, you know, I need these three things to happen.
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And not only did they not happen, but it got much, much worse.
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And then it got dangerous and then it got violent and then it got scary.
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And then I, you know, then I just felt like I didn't have a choice because things got so
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Well, no, initially I, it started off that way because there's just so much lies and deceit
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And then, but I really, really wanted to, to make it work.
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I was like, why don't we, we'll just have an open marriage, which I knew would probably
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But I was like, yeah, I even offered it, you know, I was like, let's really, really, really
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Like I just, I really wanted the marriage to stay together, but I just got scared.
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So if it was just strictly cheating, you think it would have worked out and it would have
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I needed some securities that weren't, that weren't, that weren't there.
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Well, when I found out that he was cheating, I also looked into like our life a little bit
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more deeply and I realized that absolutely nothing was in my name.
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And I was like, oh my gosh, I'm in a really vulnerable position here.
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And so then I was like, listen, I need to have some stake in our lives.
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And it was a protection, protective mechanism, clearly.
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So did you, did you put yourself in that situation where you wanted to make it work for Penelope?
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I mean, I was hoping he would come to London yesterday and have lunch with us.
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Penelope thinks I'm crazy, but I talk about it all the time.
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But why wouldn't you, I know you said you would, you would, you're doing it for Penelope.
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You can do anything to keep, I think people would do anything for their children.
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But don't you think that you should love yourself more instead of after what he's done?
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And I feel like you can, you deserve better and you don't deserve to be treated like that.
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I glorified what being a single parent was going to look like.
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And it was crazy because I had a single mom, so I should have known better.
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But honestly, I think it's modern day child abuse.
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And I watched her in my, I watched her growing up struggle so much as one person to do all the work at home.
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Like you were, I remember the nights you were like crying.
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And it also struck a strong heart in my, and for me, it was like, I never want to have that.
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And I will do anything and everything in my power to never create that for my future family.
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I make a vow to God, to higher power, that I will stick with this person for the rest of my life.
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I thought that I did that with your father too, but you know, it happened.
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But I can never make up for that, for you not having a dad growing up.
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And there was a spiritual, like there was a spiritual disconnection there.
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I thought we were in a monogamous relationship, but I, you know, found out otherwise.
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And he wishes he could have changed certain things.
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Because I just feel like majority, not all, majority of men do, at some point in their
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And if every woman leaves a man for cheating, majority of women will be single.
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Then you have all these, you know, motherless and fatherless families.
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