JustPearlyThings - Single mother Tries To Deny This Fact

00:00:00.000 Sorry. If women have the right to choose not to be mothers, do you think men should have the right to choose not to be fathers?

00:00:05.520 They have that choice anyway.

00:00:07.720 Agreed.

00:00:08.120 Here.

00:00:08.500 Yeah.

00:00:08.960 They have that choice.

00:00:11.040 Okay. So do you think that's right? Yes or no? And why?

00:00:15.720 That a man can sign off on his rights and not pay child support.

00:00:21.040 And not pay child support and the baby's there.

00:00:23.420 Yeah, because if a girl has the right to get an abortion, then shouldn't he have the right to sign off? 0.72

00:00:27.100 Do you mean in the circumstances that, say a woman was pregnant and she said she's keeping it and the guy's saying, oh, I don't want the baby.

00:00:35.220 Do you mean in that circumstance or you mean in general?

00:00:37.780 Yeah, so if there's a baby and I don't want to be a mother, I can get an abortion. 1.00

00:00:44.480 So he should be able to sign off on the rights and not have any contact with the kid.

00:00:47.880 He'll have to get a contract in that time where he says, I don't want to be the father and you're still having a child.

00:00:53.940 And then I don't think you should have to pay child support.

00:00:55.880 Because you're basically saying, cool, I'm okay with being a single mum then.

00:00:58.800 I think it's kind of hard to answer that one because like you said before, a woman has a choice to take contraception. 0.98

00:01:04.480 But so does a man have a choice to wrap up so he doesn't get her pregnant.

00:01:08.240 So I feel like you both have a responsibility for having unprotected sex as a man.

00:01:11.880 You know what can happen.

00:01:13.860 So I just think some women, they get pregnant like on purpose, like to break a family or whatever. 0.99

00:01:20.880 So I think in cases like that, she should deal with it and be responsible at the fact that you've both done it.

00:01:26.800 So he didn't want a kid.

00:01:28.460 You know he didn't want a kid.

00:01:29.580 Like some women use it to entrap men. 1.00

00:01:31.260 So I think she should deal with it.

00:01:33.040 Like if it's like that, then he has a right.

00:01:35.360 Well, and we're the only ones that can consent and know all of the circumstances because we know when we're ovulating and we would know if we're on birth control or not.

00:01:42.500 But so, I mean, girls, as she was saying, I have an IUD.

00:01:48.820 What do you guys think?

00:01:49.780 Yes, no.

00:01:53.240 Yeah, I feel like, you know, they both have the responsibility and I don't know.

00:02:00.960 I don't really know how I feel about that.

00:02:02.620 I would say, yeah, like if it's like a one night stand and like certain women, they want to have a child by whatever, they're not really concerned who their dad is.

00:02:14.700 Yeah, I think you should be able to have the freedom to say, you know what?

00:02:17.720 I'm not saying it's right either.

00:02:20.580 I'm not saying it's right in the sense of doing it like the same way for abortion.

00:02:24.420 I think each circumstance is going to be unique to its own.

00:02:27.960 You know, it's interesting.

00:02:29.500 We'll call a guy a deadbeat dad, but a girl that has an abortion isn't a deadbeat mom. 1.00

00:02:34.220 Yeah.

00:02:36.000 I would never call anyone a deadbeat dad.

00:02:38.520 Like, that's so wrong.

00:02:39.240 I feel like people won't say that because the child isn't here yet.

00:02:42.420 Whereas when the child is here and they expect a dad to look at that child and see how beautiful it is and just want to help.

00:02:49.180 I mean, but you'd expect a mom to not want to kill her child. 1.00

00:02:52.380 I feel like people are visual.

00:02:53.880 I realise when a woman's pregnant, well, how it depends if she doesn't do it at six months, you can't see that baby. 0.96

00:02:59.660 You can just see a little bump.

00:03:00.700 Whereas you can see a little beautiful little baby sitting before you.

00:03:03.040 Yeah, but you can get an ultrasound. 0.99

00:03:04.840 Yeah, but I mean like...

00:03:06.020 And you could feel the baby.

00:03:07.160 Yeah, you can definitely feel it.

00:03:08.900 100%.

00:03:09.260 But I just feel like from outside of looking in, people will judge a man more because they think, oh, the child is here and you're still not being active.

00:03:19.100 I just think as women, we're more judgmental, like, and harsh on men in general.

00:03:24.940 Like, I think women judge men too much and are ungrateful for certain things and fail to look at ourselves as women. 0.97

00:03:31.840 But I feel like men do judge men as well.

00:03:34.720 For example, if there was a person that's a father and you saw someone else not being active.

00:03:38.920 I mean, as individuals, like, I think women, I think we're very selfish naturally.

00:03:43.080 Like, all we think about is ourselves.

00:03:44.660 And unless you, like, block out society and start taking reflection and thinking about who you are as a person, like, I've been in, like, with my partner and, like, I've moaned and moaned.

00:03:55.100 And when you come to the conclusion, you know what, I'm just moaning too much.

00:03:58.020 Like, give him a break.

00:03:59.940 Do you get it?

00:04:00.580 Yeah, I disagree.

00:04:01.700 Females are not selfish naturally. 1.00

00:04:03.800 That's not a natural trait.

00:04:04.700 I don't mean, I feel like in society now, I think women are very selfish. 1.00

00:04:07.880 Like, she's saying a deadbeat dad.

00:04:09.160 I hear so many women say that. 1.00

00:04:10.700 And I just think it's so disrespectful to the child, let alone the man.

00:04:13.840 Well, why is it disrespectful to the child?

00:04:14.800 I look to the child.

00:04:15.520 Because in a lot of the cases, the man isn't a deadbeat dad.

00:04:18.440 Like, so many dads want to be a dad and there can't be one.

00:04:20.980 So, like, how is he a deadbeat dad?

00:04:22.440 Because he's not giving you money.

00:04:23.360 It's all based on what I said in the beginning.

00:04:24.920 It's all based on money.

00:04:25.780 But you don't want to give money to raise a child, though.

00:04:28.740 Say that again, sorry.

00:04:29.540 It takes money to raise a child, though.

00:04:31.280 I don't believe that it does.

00:04:32.440 It's because, like, I understand we've got to survive, which is what I say.

00:04:35.160 Money is important.

00:04:36.100 But, like, I think women's expectations are far too high. 1.00

00:04:40.200 Like, they want too much.

00:04:42.320 Like, a household and a family foundation isn't built on money.

00:04:45.800 Like, we had less years ago and we did more with families.

00:04:49.120 Like, now we've got everything.

00:04:49.980 Cost of living is getting higher now.

00:04:52.920 So, if I have £50 a week, I can survive on £50 a week.

00:04:56.360 If you have £500 a week...

00:04:57.440 But, you know, it is.

00:04:57.840 I feel like it depends on what type of lifestyle you want to live

00:05:00.740 and what type of lifestyle you want to give your child.

00:05:02.280 But that's the whole point, is women... 1.00

00:05:03.460 Like, I think modern women tend to be selfish 1.00

00:05:05.720 because they pick a lifestyle over a family.

00:05:08.640 Yeah.

00:05:09.040 Yeah.

00:05:09.720 You're right.

00:05:10.260 They would rather have a certain quality of living

00:05:12.540 rather than multiple children.

00:05:14.200 I just think women are waking up a little bit. 1.00

00:05:17.360 I personally feel like women are waking up 1.00

00:05:19.100 and smelling the coffee and realising we want more.

00:05:22.180 Like, we want more.

00:05:23.240 I think we'd be in brainwashed to believe that we should be that way.

00:05:25.640 To be honest with you.

00:05:26.200 I don't think so.

00:05:27.300 Like, for example, I look at my parents' marriage, for example,

00:05:30.500 and I see so many flaws in that marriage.

00:05:33.520 And I look at my mum, even to this day now,

00:05:35.940 you know, my dad passed away three years ago,

00:05:37.740 and I look at my mum and she still complains

00:05:40.780 about the things that my dad did not do in that marriage,

00:05:43.820 even to this day now.

00:05:44.880 How long were they married?

00:05:46.320 Oh, God, like 30 years.

00:05:47.980 I think that doesn't even exist now.

00:05:49.620 Like, it's so rare.

00:05:50.340 But I look at that...

00:05:51.040 At least you're still stuck together.

00:05:52.880 Yeah, but I look at that and I think to myself,

00:05:54.860 you know what, I don't want that life.

00:05:56.480 It's because...

00:05:57.040 I don't want to be with a man like that.

00:05:58.280 My mum does the same thing.

00:05:59.540 She makes me believe that I deserve better.

00:06:01.560 Like, you get your career.

00:06:03.060 But there is nothing wrong.

00:06:03.400 It's because of the new modern society.

00:06:05.040 There is nothing wrong with wanting a better life for yourself.

00:06:08.060 I agree.

00:06:08.900 I completely agree.

00:06:10.020 I completely agree.

00:06:10.700 But there's nothing wrong with wanting it,

00:06:11.800 but can you get it?

00:06:12.700 Yeah, that's right.

00:06:13.320 And that's the whole point.

00:06:13.860 You can get it.

00:06:14.660 You can.

00:06:15.340 If that's true, then you'd have it.

00:06:17.740 Like, women would have it. 1.00

00:06:19.220 Yeah.

00:06:19.400 In general, 50% of women wouldn't be going on the path 1.00

00:06:22.520 of being single and childless in the future.

00:06:26.200 Like, by 2030.

00:06:27.980 Like, they wouldn't be on that path if they could all get it.

00:06:30.340 And so a lot of times, like,

00:06:31.640 especially on, like, TikTok and shit,

00:06:33.300 I see all these girls that are like, 1.00

00:06:34.460 raise your standards, raise your standards,

00:06:36.040 like, da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da.

00:06:37.100 And it's just like, yeah.

00:06:39.920 But a lot of those girls aren't going to get what you're saying. 1.00

00:06:42.560 How do you know that, though?

00:06:44.040 I think it's a mindset thing.

00:06:45.660 Because what percent of women get to be housewives? 1.00

00:06:48.520 One in five, that means four don't.

00:06:50.560 I think it's a mindset.

00:06:51.000 So the majority of women aren't going to get that. 1.00

00:06:53.480 Yeah, but it doesn't just mean

00:06:54.620 that they want to be housewives.

00:06:55.600 Maybe they just want to live a comfortable life.

00:06:57.800 And it's not about marrying a rich man.

00:07:00.580 It's about marrying a man with a provider mentality.

00:07:03.340 The average salary is $41,000 a year.

00:07:05.920 And you guys even said yourself, like,

00:07:07.480 how many people here wanted to pay 20% or less of the bills?

00:07:11.080 But what percent of us are in the top 20% of women? 1.00

00:07:13.900 And so the men are looking up and asking,

00:07:15.280 what do they get out of it?

00:07:16.000 They don't get purity.

00:07:16.640 They don't get youth or none of us are virgins anymore.

00:07:19.320 And in the UK, they get a 31-year-old wife.

00:07:21.540 So she's on the brink of geriatric pregnancy.

00:07:24.300 Why on earth would they have a provider mindset

00:07:26.320 for a non-traditional wife? 1.00

00:07:28.700 I mean, there's seven.

00:07:29.640 Yeah.

00:07:30.440 I mean, what I would say to that is

00:07:36.340 there's like, what, seven billion men out there?

00:07:38.780 I'm sure you can find the man that you want.

00:07:40.920 The man that you want.

00:07:41.940 And I encourage women to stand up for what they want.

00:07:46.120 And that sounds nice.

00:07:47.500 But do you have it?

00:07:49.340 Yeah, but you might not have it.

00:07:51.160 But where you are now isn't where you're always going to be.

00:07:53.540 So I do believe that if you have a mindset of you're going to get something,

00:07:57.280 you can get it.

00:07:58.140 You can get it, but can you maintain that?

00:08:00.060 It's got to be realistic.

00:08:01.460 Which is what you said in the beginning.

00:08:03.340 Like, people are so delusional.

00:08:05.000 Like, you've got to keep it realistic.

00:08:06.180 But I feel like it all depends on how you view life.

00:08:09.220 Like you said, you're spiritual.

00:08:10.580 You view life in a certain way.

00:08:12.000 You like to live a certain way.

00:08:13.320 No, no.

00:08:13.800 Everyone.

00:08:14.300 It's dependent on outcomes.

00:08:15.680 Yes.

00:08:15.840 So what do you get?

00:08:17.500 Yeah.

00:08:17.740 What do you mean by that?

00:08:18.480 So, okay, if you want a traditional outcome,

00:08:20.840 like I'd first ask, are you a traditional woman? 0.99

00:08:22.820 Yeah.

00:08:23.340 And what outcome will you get?

00:08:25.280 What outcome have you gotten in the past?

00:08:26.860 If you've never gotten that outcome in the past,

00:08:28.500 why would you get it in the future?

00:08:29.580 Because things change.

00:08:31.000 No, because I feel like where you are now

00:08:33.140 doesn't mean this is where you're always going to be.

00:08:35.140 I realize I know that your mindset matters.

00:08:38.000 So whatever you say, if I say I'm going to do something,

00:08:39.840 I'm going to get it done.

00:08:40.620 I don't care what she says, if I say I'm going to do something,

00:08:43.540 I'm going to do it.

00:08:43.860 Right, but this is, okay.

00:08:44.960 So if I'm applying for a CEO job and they say,

00:08:46.980 okay, what CEOs have you worked for before?

00:08:49.580 And they say, you know, I've worked minimum wage at McDonald's,

00:08:52.260 but I really want the CEO job.

00:08:53.340 But do you know, there's...

00:08:54.140 We can talk about that we want it,

00:08:55.680 but it doesn't mean you're going to get it.

00:08:56.800 But there's been probably situations where that's happened

00:08:59.960 by chance and by going for it.

00:09:01.860 Right, and people win the lottery and it happens.

00:09:03.840 But I'm not going to go and give general advice

00:09:05.860 and say, oh, that's going to happen for most people.

00:09:07.860 But the perfect example is Tyler Perry.

00:09:10.240 It's not going to happen for most people,

00:09:11.680 but you just got to want it.

00:09:12.900 That's what I believe.

00:09:13.560 I don't believe that, or totally agree with what you're saying,

00:09:16.740 but I do believe that once you have the mindset

00:09:18.660 and you desire something,

00:09:20.540 I said I'm not in the 20%,

00:09:21.620 doesn't mean that I'm not going to be one day.

00:09:23.260 Maybe I want to be and maybe I will be.

00:09:24.980 That's all my mindset and what I choose to do.

00:09:26.860 But you can't be in the 20% with a kid.

00:09:28.540 Who says that?

00:09:29.840 Men.

00:09:30.200 Why can't I be in the 20%?

00:09:31.340 I'm sorry.

00:09:32.100 It's not.

00:09:32.280 No, sorry.

00:09:33.320 I agree.

00:09:34.600 I'm a mom.

00:09:35.500 I'm a mom.

00:09:36.360 Can I finish talking?

00:09:37.200 Go on.

00:09:37.500 And nobody can limit me.

00:09:38.900 No one can limit me.

00:09:40.000 There's no limitation.

00:09:41.560 So if I want to be in the 20%

00:09:42.860 and I believe I'm going to be in the 20%

00:09:44.060 with my six-year-old,

00:09:45.120 I am going to be in it.

00:09:46.320 That's because that's my mindset

00:09:47.540 and that's how I think.

00:09:48.300 But you have to ask the top 20% of men what they want.

00:09:50.580 But that's fine.

00:09:51.260 And I'm telling you,

00:09:51.760 I've interviewed these men.

00:09:53.080 I've spoken to these men.

00:09:54.100 Yeah, but that's fine.

00:09:54.800 They don't want single mothers typically. 1.00

00:09:57.880 But typically they don't want.

00:09:59.140 But I'm sure there's a small percentage that will.

00:10:01.680 And you'll find that percentage.

00:10:02.980 Sierras exist,

00:10:04.060 but they look like Sierra

00:10:05.120 and they have Sierra outcomes.

00:10:06.600 Yeah, but the thing is...

00:10:07.640 They're exceptions.

00:10:08.120 They're not the rule.

00:10:08.960 That's fine.

00:10:09.400 I know I'm not Sierra.

00:10:10.320 I'm Janae Simone.

00:10:11.220 So whatever Janae Simone wants,

00:10:12.860 if she's going to put her mind to it,

00:10:13.940 she's going to get it.

00:10:15.000 So you might not...

00:10:15.660 The percent or the statistics may go against me,

00:10:18.800 but I know who I am

00:10:20.180 and I know what I want.

00:10:21.440 So yes, I have a six-year-old

00:10:22.580 and yes, I was a teenage mom,

00:10:23.900 but that doesn't define me.

00:10:25.000 You're not average.

00:10:25.360 That's who I am.

00:10:26.600 Who I was when I was 18.

00:10:28.160 I'm not saying it defines you.

00:10:29.280 No, I know.

00:10:29.720 I'm saying, but it influences your outcomes.

00:10:31.940 It influences my outcomes,

00:10:32.980 but it doesn't 100% factual

00:10:35.680 that that's going to be my outcome.

00:10:37.000 Statistics can say whatever,

00:10:38.680 but from what I believe

00:10:39.600 and where I come from

00:10:40.220 and what I know

00:10:40.920 and what I've seen,

00:10:42.240 what I want, I will get.

00:10:43.240 If I want to be a housewife,

00:10:44.280 I'll be a housewife.

00:10:45.060 If I don't want to be...

00:10:46.140 Do you think it's wise

00:10:46.920 to tell single mothers 0.75

00:10:47.980 that they're going to typically

00:10:49.140 be in the top 20% of women? 0.99

00:10:50.180 I think it's wise

00:10:50.860 to tell single mothers 0.75

00:10:52.580 Sorry, sorry.

00:10:53.160 Do you think that's honest?

00:10:54.360 No.

00:10:54.980 To be honest with you,

00:10:55.520 I don't think that it's honest.

00:10:56.280 It's not about honest.

00:10:57.060 It's about letting people know

00:10:58.840 if you believe something

00:11:00.180 and you're going to work towards it,

00:11:01.540 go for it.

00:11:03.000 No, but it's not unrealistic.

00:11:04.840 It is unrealistic

00:11:05.740 in terms of statistics

00:11:07.360 and I understand

00:11:08.120 you want to be an exception

00:11:09.140 to the rule,

00:11:10.140 but it's unrealistic

00:11:10.980 to leave single mothers 1.00

00:11:12.620 to believe.

00:11:14.120 It's not about trying to be

00:11:15.100 like not normal.

00:11:15.780 No, you're unique

00:11:16.820 in your circumstances

00:11:17.620 and you believe

00:11:18.260 you can obtain that.

00:11:19.960 It's just who I am.

00:11:21.140 It's not...

00:11:21.580 I don't want to...

00:11:22.380 Yeah, but you're not everybody

00:11:23.360 now speaking from

00:11:24.320 not statistical,

00:11:25.440 like it's very unrealistic.

00:11:27.000 So what am I saying

00:11:27.840 to someone

00:11:28.100 you're going to be statistic?

00:11:29.520 No, I agree.

00:11:30.580 I get your point of view.

00:11:31.820 I don't think that.

00:11:32.260 I get your point of view,

00:11:33.460 but to tell at large

00:11:35.780 single mothers

00:11:36.440 they've got a chance

00:11:37.240 of being...

00:11:37.380 I'm not going to tell...

00:11:38.280 I'm not telling that.

00:11:38.960 That was the question though.

00:11:40.340 So I think that's unrealistic.

00:11:41.840 So do you think

00:11:42.220 it's unrealistic?

00:11:42.580 I don't think it's unrealistic.

00:11:44.200 I don't think it's unrealistic.

00:11:45.300 I don't think it's unrealistic.

00:11:45.740 But I'm not going to look at someone.

00:11:47.120 Pearl, factually,

00:11:48.100 is that not a fact?

00:11:49.040 Because I'm not going to look at someone,

00:11:50.560 I don't care what situation you're in now.

00:11:52.540 You can be homeless, poor, broke.

00:11:54.180 I'm not going to look at you

00:11:55.060 and tell you,

00:11:55.780 your statistics has said

00:11:56.900 you're going to still be homeless.

00:11:57.780 I agree.

00:11:58.780 I agree.

00:11:59.640 I agree.

00:12:00.880 I didn't say you.

00:12:02.800 No, no, I didn't say you.

00:12:04.260 I'm not saying

00:12:05.160 that every single mother 0.99

00:12:06.020 is going to die alone. 0.59

00:12:07.520 But I'm saying

00:12:07.940 if they expect to get

00:12:09.600 with the top 20% of men,

00:12:11.820 shit, they might.

00:12:12.880 Because they're holding out

00:12:13.800 for men that typically

00:12:14.660 don't want them.

00:12:16.160 Top 20%.

00:12:17.260 I don't even think

00:12:18.480 I deserve the top 20% of men.

00:12:20.880 It's about knowing

00:12:21.760 what you think you deserve.

00:12:23.100 Let's say you're

00:12:23.520 an 8 out of 10 or higher.

00:12:25.440 I mean,

00:12:26.180 I don't think that's

00:12:27.520 an insult.

00:12:27.960 Like you said before,

00:12:28.840 men don't really,

00:12:29.940 you're saying they don't look

00:12:30.700 at their parents

00:12:31.560 8 out of 10.

00:12:32.080 So that wouldn't really matter

00:12:32.880 in hindsight.

00:12:33.860 You're saying that

00:12:34.380 they don't look at

00:12:35.120 their parents.

00:12:35.940 Oh, no.

00:12:36.500 It starts with looks.

00:12:38.160 Okay.

00:12:38.720 But my point of view...

00:12:39.680 I'm saying they don't like

00:12:39.700 lip fillers.

00:12:40.560 Oh.

00:12:41.780 Okay.

00:12:42.340 Well, my point of view

00:12:43.200 is that I would never

00:12:44.120 look at somebody

00:12:44.780 and say,

00:12:45.540 because of where you are today

00:12:46.500 or what you have today

00:12:47.600 or what you've got,

00:12:49.140 you're not going to be able

00:12:49.820 to get something.

00:12:50.180 I would say

00:12:50.820 because of choices

00:12:51.900 that you've made,

00:12:52.760 it is unlikely

00:12:53.480 that you will be in that position.

00:12:54.620 But that's your opinion.

00:12:57.520 Outcomes.

00:12:58.120 It's looking at outcomes,

00:12:58.720 but there's many outcomes

00:13:00.500 that I can change.

00:13:01.200 I can change.

00:13:01.780 I'm not going to be

00:13:02.220 the same single mother 0.89

00:13:03.060 in five years.

00:13:04.080 And I don't believe that

00:13:04.900 and I'm not going to...

00:13:05.700 But you can't change

00:13:07.160 what men value.

00:13:08.380 Yeah, but I can find

00:13:09.220 someone that doesn't

00:13:09.840 agree with that.

00:13:10.600 And typically,

00:13:11.500 that's not going to be

00:13:12.080 the top 20% of men.

00:13:13.380 But typically,

00:13:13.840 that's typically by statistics.

00:13:15.020 It's not going to be

00:13:15.760 100%.

00:13:16.700 It's not 100%.

00:13:17.760 It's not 100%.

00:13:18.680 And miracles happen,

00:13:20.120 but it's not the rule.

00:13:21.140 It's not the rule,

00:13:21.820 but you don't always

00:13:23.160 have to go by rules.

00:13:23.720 I think it's dishonest

00:13:24.860 to say that

00:13:25.700 it's likely

00:13:26.600 that single mothers 0.99

00:13:27.880 are going to get

00:13:28.420 at the top 20% of men.

00:13:29.140 It's not dishonest

00:13:29.780 because it's been...

00:13:30.700 It's happened.

00:13:31.340 It happens.

00:13:31.940 I'm not going to...

00:13:32.360 It's not dishonest.

00:13:33.080 I'm letting people know

00:13:34.180 that what you desire

00:13:35.720 is achievable.

00:13:36.800 If you do...

00:13:37.580 It's achievable.

00:13:39.460 I'm not going to sit

00:13:40.180 and tell someone

00:13:40.660 because statistics says

00:13:41.740 that you're not going

00:13:42.540 to find someone in 20%.

00:13:43.400 You're not.

00:13:44.000 No.

00:13:44.580 It's achievable.

00:13:44.820 This is why women 1.00

00:13:45.620 prefer to be lied to

00:13:46.980 because that's a lie.

00:13:48.420 It's not a lie.

00:13:49.380 It is a lie.

00:13:50.240 It's not being put in a box.

00:13:51.580 Let me...

00:13:52.220 Okay.

00:13:52.840 Okay.

00:13:53.220 Blessing.

00:13:55.840 Blessing.

00:13:56.600 Do men typically

00:13:57.740 want single mothers? 1.00

00:13:59.200 No.

00:14:00.320 See, that's what...

00:14:01.060 But that's you blessing.

00:14:02.140 Do you know what it is?

00:14:02.640 That's blessing.

00:14:03.880 I know, but I think

00:14:05.040 why people look at people

00:14:05.880 as men and women

00:14:06.760 as individuals.

00:14:07.880 Wait, for example.

00:14:09.300 I've been...

00:14:09.880 Do you know what as well?

00:14:10.600 It also depends on

00:14:11.340 what type of single mother 1.00

00:14:12.240 you are.

00:14:12.840 No.

00:14:13.600 Can I finish?

00:14:14.580 Sorry.

00:14:14.840 So I'm a single mother.

00:14:16.580 Yes, I am.

00:14:17.400 I was with my daughter's dad

00:14:18.580 for seven years.

00:14:19.700 That was it.

00:14:20.560 One partner before him,

00:14:21.760 then my daughter's dad.

00:14:22.820 That's it.

00:14:23.660 I'm very...

00:14:24.640 What's the word

00:14:25.120 if I explain it?

00:14:26.300 It's not hard for me

00:14:27.160 to find someone,

00:14:27.820 but I'm selective,

00:14:29.140 which I am allowed to be.

00:14:30.380 But that's because

00:14:30.940 I want to get married.

00:14:32.560 I do not rule out

00:14:33.600 someone like me

00:14:34.440 meeting someone

00:14:35.240 that's going to value them

00:14:36.180 because they don't have a child.

00:14:37.100 I didn't say you wouldn't

00:14:38.100 find someone who values you.

00:14:39.620 I'm just saying that.

00:14:39.980 I said the top 20% of men 0.65

00:14:41.600 is probably unrealistic.

00:14:43.200 However, I...

00:14:44.600 And it doesn't...

00:14:46.100 All men feel this way. 0.86

00:14:47.720 Yeah, but that's okay.

00:14:48.280 About any kid.

00:14:49.460 Any kid.

00:14:50.020 That's okay.

00:14:50.200 Because biologically,

00:14:51.420 they don't have a biological

00:14:52.420 incentive to do so.

00:14:53.640 Okay.

00:14:54.280 But just to let you...

00:14:55.220 I just...

00:14:55.620 No, no.

00:14:55.940 That's impossible.

00:14:56.380 Can you say back

00:14:58.000 what I said?

00:14:58.860 What did you say?

00:15:00.380 Sorry.

00:15:01.300 Men don't have 1.00

00:15:02.300 a biological imperative

00:15:03.460 to raise other people's kids.

00:15:05.280 But I've seen it happen

00:15:06.220 many times.

00:15:06.760 Wait, wait, wait, wait.

00:15:08.060 Their goal is to pass

00:15:09.280 on their genes.

00:15:10.180 Yeah, but I've seen

00:15:10.660 it happen many times.

00:15:11.220 Okay, okay.

00:15:11.900 Their goal is to pass

00:15:13.360 on their genes.

00:15:14.200 Yeah, but that's

00:15:15.240 statistically, right?

00:15:16.020 Wait, wait, wait, wait.

00:15:17.260 Okay.

00:15:17.460 Their goal is to pass

00:15:18.980 on their genes.

00:15:20.320 And so marrying

00:15:21.380 a single mother,

00:15:22.260 they're putting their

00:15:22.880 resources, their time

00:15:23.860 and their energy

00:15:24.560 into a kid that's

00:15:25.440 not theirs.

00:15:26.100 Okay.

00:15:26.380 And legally,

00:15:27.040 they have no rights to.

00:15:28.600 Okay.

00:15:28.820 So they could raise

00:15:29.400 a kid for 10 years.

00:15:30.360 You could change

00:15:30.820 your mind tomorrow

00:15:31.460 and say, you know what?

00:15:32.240 I'm not feeling this anymore

00:15:33.240 and take the kid 0.80

00:15:33.860 they raised for 10 years.

00:15:35.400 But it happens.

00:15:35.800 So wait.

00:15:36.840 And miracles happen,

00:15:38.020 but it's not the rule.

00:15:38.900 Yeah, but I don't think

00:15:39.480 it's not a miracle.

00:15:40.420 That's not a miracle.

00:15:40.880 Wait, wait, wait, wait.

00:15:42.080 Okay.

00:15:42.820 Where women, 1.00

00:15:43.740 it's not the same

00:15:44.940 because if a guy

00:15:46.100 has a kid,

00:15:46.760 that signals

00:15:47.520 other women want him. 1.00

00:15:48.980 And so that's a sign

00:15:49.840 of pre-selection.

00:15:50.840 So back in the jungle

00:15:52.060 or whatever,

00:15:52.900 I saw a guy with a kid

00:15:53.820 that said, hey,

00:15:54.680 she picked him

00:15:55.580 and he could take care

00:15:57.100 of that kid,

00:15:57.700 so I should pick him too.

00:15:58.940 So we just don't view

00:15:59.980 it the same way.

00:16:00.720 Yeah.

00:16:00.900 But I still,

00:16:02.040 I don't agree.

00:16:03.080 I know that

00:16:03.740 there is men out there

00:16:05.320 that will take me on

00:16:06.500 and marry me

00:16:07.300 with my one child.

00:16:08.300 And there's men out there

00:16:09.360 that will take on,

00:16:10.600 can I finish?

00:16:11.780 There's men out there

00:16:12.680 that will take on

00:16:14.940 a woman with six children

00:16:16.220 and marry them.

00:16:17.300 Wait, wait, wait.

00:16:17.540 There's always going

00:16:18.460 to be somebody.

00:16:19.400 Always, always.

00:16:20.580 But no,

00:16:20.900 the type of man that I want.

00:16:21.720 It's not typically

00:16:22.500 the top 20% of men.

00:16:24.140 Yeah, but that's typically.

00:16:25.180 You're talking about realistically.

00:16:26.560 If I've set myself something,

00:16:27.900 I know I'm going to get it.

00:16:28.800 So you might say I'm delusional.

00:16:30.520 No one's going to want one.

00:16:31.760 I don't think you're delusional.

00:16:33.020 She don't say that.

00:16:33.840 She don't say that.

00:16:34.780 No, but I'm not saying that.

00:16:36.020 I'm just saying

00:16:36.460 other people might think

00:16:37.400 that, oh, you're delusional. 0.68

00:16:38.360 I don't think you're delusional.

00:16:39.720 No, but I'm just,

00:16:40.540 I'm just trying to say

00:16:41.260 other people may see that

00:16:42.220 or who wants,

00:16:42.720 because I've heard it many times.

00:16:43.900 Who wants somebody with a child? 1.00

00:16:45.240 Nobody wants that.

00:16:46.180 But in reality, they do.

00:16:47.240 No, they don't.

00:16:47.680 It doesn't happen.

00:16:48.500 It does happen.

00:16:48.900 No, they don't.

00:16:49.380 Maybe that's what you think.

00:16:50.420 No, they don't.

00:16:50.760 But I agree.

00:16:51.300 They do.

00:16:51.420 I believe you could actually

00:16:54.360 like sit men down

00:16:55.600 and I'd say no,

00:16:56.500 that the majority of them.

00:16:58.180 I don't agree.

00:16:59.140 I've seen people marry people.

00:16:59.620 And now that's delusional

00:17:00.800 because you're in denial

00:17:01.780 of the truth

00:17:02.300 because that is the truth.

00:17:03.280 No, I'm not in denial.

00:17:03.660 So you believe that a man 0.82

00:17:04.640 won't want to be.

00:17:04.660 I believe you can find a man

00:17:05.960 in the top 20%

00:17:06.960 and you'd be an exceptionally rare case.

00:17:09.480 But if you sat 10 men down here,

00:17:11.280 majority, if not all of them,

00:17:13.120 would say they don't want to

00:17:13.880 raise someone else's child.

00:17:15.160 Okay.

00:17:15.580 Maybe that's true.

00:17:16.700 But from my own experiences,

00:17:18.100 I don't agree.

00:17:18.780 I know people that have raised

00:17:20.020 other people's children

00:17:20.980 and I don't believe

00:17:21.820 they love them in the same way.

00:17:22.880 I'm a stepchild,

00:17:23.660 however, it's the opposite way.

00:17:24.740 My dad married.

00:17:25.660 Okay.

00:17:26.260 So I've seen it,

00:17:27.200 but it's from a woman's point of view. 0.97

00:17:28.460 And I've also seen people

00:17:29.300 take on other people's children

00:17:30.160 and they're a man.

00:17:30.800 It does happen,

00:17:31.600 but are you raised by a man

00:17:33.380 in the top 20%

00:17:34.300 is what she's saying.

00:17:35.220 It's like you're not getting

00:17:35.940 the top 20%.

00:17:36.700 You're going to be

00:17:37.440 accepting a rare case.

00:17:39.620 Well,

00:17:40.100 I'm not saying it's not possible.

00:17:41.300 I'm not doubting

00:17:41.840 what you're saying.

00:17:43.160 You believe in yourself.

00:17:44.000 You believe you can get it.

00:17:44.800 You can get it.

00:17:45.320 But you're going to be

00:17:46.580 in a rare case

00:17:47.480 if it happened.

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JustPearlyThings - April 03, 2023

Single mother Tries To Deny This Fact

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