Single Parent's Effect on This Generation
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Summary
In this episode we discuss the difference between single fathers and single mothers and the benefits and disadvantages of being a single parent vs a single mother. We discuss the benefits of having a single father and the disadvantages of single motherhood. We also discuss the differences in parenting styles and why men raise children better than women.
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he didn't really need to be as much we weren't that bad as children but at the
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same time it was like if he needed to raise his voice it was situational where
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my mom would shout constantly that was like her go-to mechanism my mom used to hit me with a spoon
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don't get me wrong for like single mothers it's not it's not easy bringing up a child or kids on
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your own it's tough you know I applaud them for what they do but when you start getting angry and
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you know it's screaming at your kid and there's veins coming down your neck you know that's just
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that's just way too much too much anger is for a child that doesn't understand what you do the
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only thing they can get from that is trauma but there's you know in all the situations 90% of
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women are the parent to the child there's only 10% of full-time single dads that look after the child
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as the main parent just 10% so I feel like government that doesn't government prioritizing
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women to have custody over men yeah it could be but I feel like men don't know how it is like to
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have a child almost 24-7 that's because I feel like it must be really really hard men raise a single
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parent single fathers raise better children exactly than single mothers when they have been given the
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chance they've done a better job exactly really yeah I just think women like we get frustrated like
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when there's a problem yeah because we're emotional yeah we just get frustrated and like cry or get mad
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yeah I feel and I do it too like like even even and I kind of notice the differences in like the
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genders doing like solving problems because even with like my business like I'll be doing stuff and
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I'll just be like get mad at something and my brothers will be like okay why don't you try this this
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this this this like they're just more logical do you think a man would do a better job raising a
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girl than than a woman yeah yeah right what about the feminine side would she be more masculine then
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probably I would say like she's probably probably be a tomboy right it might be hard to find a man my
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mom was raised by my granddad so my mom was had has four siblings she's the youngest my grand my mom my
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nan ran off different life then my granddad raised worked has his own business and raised four kids
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my mom it was a single mom I'm not blowing it well I'm blowing a trumpet because she's the best mom
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raised my brother me and my sister strong woman was the breadwinner was everything the decorator
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everything was she shouting a lot all the time she did it because we were bad kids she was a young
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mom she had my brother at 15 me at 17 but that she got I feel like she got that strongness from my
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granddad because he was a very strict working man did everything he played both roles so I just think
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it it differs whereas she was raised by a man I was raised by a woman so I feel like I've got both
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why I actually like this idea that like men raise children better I would believe that because they're
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more logic why more men is it because of the government because I feel like a lot of men wouldn't
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want 100% custody of the child oh no they will because they want their freedom too no no I think most men
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want to be in their kids lives I can't remember what the stat is off the top of my head but one of the
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most likely times that a guy is going to commit suicide is when it's like post divorce because
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oftentimes she'll take yeah divorce yeah what about men who not like in marriage wise yeah but let's
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say men who been in a relation there's no marriage they just had a child with someone would they actually
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100% because because I feel like they're very happy with 50 or less um are you talking about men when
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there's no marriage it's just with a woman that they don't want to be with I don't I don't know but like
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in my experience most men want to be with their children even even if it's in a shitty situation
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for the most part unless they're like one of those guys that are just you know shooting up and
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everybody but that's not the majority but I don't think most men are going to want 100% because if
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you're in if you're alive and in the child's life why would he want 100% he'd rather do 50-50
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because at the end of the day even the stats say that men are better fathers there's a certain
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element to a child that a man can't give that's what a woman needs to be around so being 100% to
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your child is not as fully beneficial as it would be having both so especially me for example as a
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man even though I may want 50% I'm not going to want 100% because there's certain errors I can't
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give you I can't tell you what it's like to be a woman in this world do you not think like a lot
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of men they're happy to see the child twice a week and they don't want 50-50 that's why because
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they have to rather than because they want to I know some guys and they they they're happy with
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their like yeah two days every other week yeah it's not like it's bad everything can be great
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but once a month they're happy they're happy to yeah you know live their life and oh yeah but then
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was that was that a father that was actually heavily invested in that woman before they had a child no
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if that was a if that was an unplanned pregnancy yeah I suppose it makes sense it they I think both of
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them were unplanned yes yeah so if he was heavily invested and I'm pretty sure two days might not
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be enough in his mind but you might have to settle for it no I'm I know someone they ain't asking for
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someone or I know two other people one is basically I ain't fair enough but I'm just saying I personally
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do know of people and me myself also I was raised like that every other weekend so there's people
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out here that just they just don't want more responsibility with their children yeah I don't see
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men really want unless there was marriage or something but wanting 50 50 I think they're
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happy for the Saturday Sunday or just Saturday I don't know I I think most men want have I think
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most men want their kids to turn out better yeah and most men want to be a part of that in general
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um I I think sometimes maybe there are cases where women kind of trap a man and like the men are kind
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of resentful because like they they don't they didn't want this kid to begin with and she kind of knew what
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she was doing yeah would you say that's true yeah yeah no yeah I agree um okay so do you guys think
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the woman is doing the world of favor by having kids is that in general yeah in general depends on
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circumstances if she's in a good relationship with someone then then yeah it would be a good thing to
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have if she's single and just yeah well I don't understand the question most of the amazing world
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leaders we have today were born by women so yeah I would think so yeah I say in general yes because
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women don't have kids in because we often say that women are special because we have children would you not
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say I would say I would say maybe they're more doing doing like a duty of nature or what they're
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meant to do and then a favor you think it's a duty favor it's planned by nature we're doing what we
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put on this earth to do kind of well I know it doesn't sound the best but don't I don't see it as a favor
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it sounds like too much of like a favor it's like I'm I'm like created to do that right so if the thing
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that makes women special is having kids why do so many women focus on their careers and not becoming
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mothers talking about a modern woman the modern woman is not it's not a traditional woman so I
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would think your question the first question is really take more to a traditional woman so the
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modern woman doesn't want to think traditionally but they want traditional men is it's funny isn't
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it like yeah they're modern but they want traditional men they're very focused on what what did you say with
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the career if they're more focused on their career if the thing that yeah if the thing that makes
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women special is having kids because we'll say things we're like the givers of life right like why
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do we like they'll say we won't run the world why like yeah that's that's come you'd agree that's
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like common in the culture yeah yeah um so why do so many women focus on their careers instead of
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becoming mothers this is the thing I think feminism can brainwash you and it brainwashed me a bit
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at some point where you just sit down and think wait this doesn't add up you just pick and choose
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and that's very true what you say they say we're special because we make children but then yeah
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they push focus career I'm independent boss lady um just delusion of feminism yeah I agree I agree
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that I think now also you can have kids later on in life as well so females I can realize that oh I
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can like there's more opportunities for women to go and work it's easier there's probably a bit more
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single women like later on so you're gonna go and yeah but I don't think we really can in general
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like we're fatter than ever so so I don't like I'm just saying and even even in the UK they'll call
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America fat but you're yeah you are we are but the stats are not much better here I looked it up
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one show I'm like what are they bragging about like I mean they're beating us but not by much that's
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like saying oh I got 45th place oh yeah we're second in the world right USA the first I don't I don't I
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don't know where it is I don't I just remember looking it up and like thinking that you guys were
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fatter than you really give yourself credit for but but so so I'd imagine if we're less healthy
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right we probably don't have as much opportunity to get have children and it's it costs the average
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person twenty thousand dollars to do in vitro or any of that stuff so the most women aren't going to be
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able to do that yeah who's got 20 and there's no guarantee that'll even work yeah who's got 20k lying
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around to play with anyone in here no no not laying so it's like it's almost like they brainwash you with
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that too would you agree or disagree yes but I think also it's like women go off to university and after
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university they're not telling you go and have a family they're telling you go and work you spent
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four years and racked up all this debt you're gonna go work right so they're not thinking like oh let me go
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find a husband now because maybe most men maybe at that age don't want to settle down and have
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kids so they're like well what am I gonna do was that I need to work was that what you like maybe
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followed as well like try to go uni what they said and focus on career no well I was like go to uni and
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leave this country that's how I was like as soon as you that's what I did as soon as I finished bye
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why it's cool yeah like now I'm like oh my gosh I love this country but then no it's cold it rains all
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the time the cost of living is high like it's people are just not then I feel felt like they're
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just not nice like no one's friendly if you think it's not nice here come to Eastern Europe
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oh no I've just come there I've just spent a long time now I'm trying to like the UK
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I remember I went to Latvia so yeah so um I'm a I'm an athlete so we raced in Latvia and it was
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in the indoor track and I remember all I was doing was walking from one part of the stadium to the
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other and one of my guys was racing and I remember I was walking and then I saw this guy look at me
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and he looked at me he grabbed his girl and pulled her and stared at me and I'm just like
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I don't want your girl and he stared at me all the way to the outside of the stadium and it's like
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they do that a lot especially when you walk on the main roads in Latvia like they stare at me a lot
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and I'm just like I ain't done nothing to you I'm so hard for yeah I'm not gonna lie your rarity
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I grew up in Lithuania first time I seen a black person when I was 18 and I was taking a video from
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far it's real like the first person it's like your unicorn yeah yeah yeah I recently went to
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Lithuania uh went to a bar and I was at you know the girl I was chilling we were having a drink and
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some guy walked over to you a disgrace you know to the woman or you to the woman probably she's
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with training so obviously maybe you know it was funny like you know it was a bit intoxicated but
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was that recently did you say yeah recently like wow like last month July yeah yeah do they have
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internet listen no one knows this our internet is like I think number one in the world the fastest
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light speed so we're very you know but that's true though because I had um someone that used to work
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in I used to work in nighttime and there's a polish girl and she said that when she lived in Poland
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the the image that black people have in Poland was so bad that when she came to England she was
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surprised it was so nice she was like oh my gosh she married a Jamaican man had kids it's like in
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the Poland you are not seeing the same way you know women love you the the Lithuanian Latvian
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women love black people well it's just men yeah yeah but the white women they they like you what
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is it that happened in Poland recently during the Ukraine Russia war the Africans away crossing the
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border with getting sent back to where the bombs were falling so they were you know saving all the
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Ukrainians coming through to Poland but the African the blacks were being pushed back so yeah my mom
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went Poland with her Polish friends she said she loved it everybody was really nice to her and her
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friend's son was obsessed with Bob Marley my mom's got lots and he was like he was very very what's
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the word mesmerized yeah they changed now they changed yeah yeah but the students in Lithuania are saying
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they call to get like an apartment they don't get way from oh I'm from Nigeria okay no no it doesn't
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matter if you didn't you literally have to have a Lithuanian girlfriend to even get a reference but a lot
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of people are still really nice like 90% you get nice experience yeah it's opening up a bit but still dark
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out there so I have I have another question why is it when a father abandons his child they call it a
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deadbeat dad but when a woman aborts her child they call it a choice yes right abortion and about well
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it's probably one of the few times they the ladies think I'm citing for them I don't think abortion and
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abandoning the same thing okay why um it's not about you when the child is born it's it's a fed person
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so but like a dead a guy that knows they have a he he has a child it's it's choosing not like why would you
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want to abandon somebody who you know would need you right but couldn't you say the same thing though
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yeah both choices yeah but but but a woman who's say for example six is pregnant and she she she thinks
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she's not ready she could decide to abort a child's not born but when he's born but wouldn't he like
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wouldn't he be the same thing like he could think he's not ready yeah but the child is here there's a
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name there's there's someone I mean yeah but there's a unique DNA code with all of the like but the
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child's not suffering it's just like maybe gone the child could be crying where's the dad it's someone's
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here it'll affect them but that doesn't mean that it's right that she has the choice but there's a
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fit person you know like you always say um a woman shouldn't leave the marriage because of cheating
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think about children it's not about you anymore so I would say when the child is born and that is
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called that be that like it's not about him anymore about the choice whether he wants what couldn't you
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flip it and say the same thing when like once you're pregnant it's not about you anymore you could but
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the human is not there yet it's unfortunate that she can choose to just get rid of it but at least the
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child is not suffering but the child is forming though yeah but it's not suffering but how do you
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know that there's not there's not like inclusive evidence that says that it's not suffering and
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even and even people that are in that field disagree on that there you go you're right if there's no
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met if there's no metric to measure that like we don't do you know of any metric that you can
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measure if someone is suffering is who's innocent why should there be a metric the fetus no I'm just
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saying for example if the child is born you can tell if the child is sad happy or whatever but six
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with old you can't measure anything do you know I mean I mean they can let you know what stage or
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what it was going on but you can't measure anything so that's why it's kind of like it is yeah if the
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woman wants to and the thing is this right if she feels not ready it's equally resp irresponsible to
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to proceed with it they should be able to have that choice to realize realize realize that 90% of
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biologists say life begins at conception so if you're going to go with the science like wouldn't
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you go with the science right okay yeah the life is there but no one's crying so if I kill a baby
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with euthanasia does it not count I'm not saying it doesn't count I'm saying it's different if she
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now uses abortion as a formal contraception so she does it regularly then you can you know like
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like 40% of women do they have had abortions have had two or more but what does it mean if it's not
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a child then it shouldn't matter like who cares it's just a form of control being a deadbeat dad is
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worse than abortion so you're actually doing damage to a person that will become part of society and we
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will affect us all as a society but abortion is just affecting that woman abortion is killing the
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child technically yeah but you can't say it's just a woman though because you aborting the child it's
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all hypothesis we know that a deadbeat it's not a hypothesis I hear you but you haven't taken no
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consideration how he might feel if you aborting the child I'm not saying it's right it's it's it's
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completely not right man there might be some people who might be some men that go into mental
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depression because they could have had a child in this world that they wanted you didn't want it and
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abortion it's crazy though because I think with the question you asked previously about if men
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were given the same powers women to create life I think men there'll be more abortion if men could
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do it yeah because very there'll be more abortion so women are you know they even actually given
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bet quite a good rate no I disagree I think it'd be a small percentage of men that would want
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abortions I think you're telling me one in three men can't reproduce and like the average like I
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don't know I think a lot of average guys would want them to have the kids you see I I I'm in
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between on that because I I feel that if men have the power to abort a baby they probably will but at
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the same time they might be a lot more careful to ensure that doesn't actually happen so it doesn't
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get there'll be better people in society like no no as in like they'll prevent it prevent the woman
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from actually getting pregnant so and I think as well right that abortion should be changed to
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actual what it is you're actually killing the baby so let's say for what it is because you're
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actually terminating a life right well if it's if it's a life embryo but I was gonna ask you but
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after conception right what once the sperm has fertilized the egg that is a life what about it's a
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living organism but that's the thing like we try to change the language to take accountability off
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of women it's like a common thing because if we say follow the science but then why don't we follow
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the science when we say that 90% of biologists say that it's life at conception so why don't we use
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the terms that they are but it's like we try to play it down to take accountability off as many of you
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know I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform if you
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