JustPearlyThings - Sneako Battles Modern Woman

00:00:00.000 You said this wanting validation for men for being equal.

00:00:03.800 You just wanted him to validate you for being able to fix a car.

00:00:06.760 No, listen, what I said, why?

00:00:09.500 You keep talking about yourself.

00:00:11.180 Do you know why you get, no, do you know why you're getting confused?

00:00:13.380 Because you've already immediately labeled me to be a feminist. 1.00

00:00:15.740 I'm standing against.

00:00:16.500 It's not about feminism. 1.00

00:00:17.660 You said that feminism is wanting to get validation for men for being equal. 1.00

00:00:20.620 Let me clarify.

00:00:21.200 You got mad at him for not being able to fix a car.

00:00:23.420 And we just all gave you money up to go fix a car.

00:00:25.640 I have students like you.

00:00:26.400 Let me explain why you're actually just looking for an argument.

00:00:29.200 Because I'm saying that.

00:00:30.180 It's not an argument.

00:00:30.780 I'm just trying to see the double standard of what you're saying.

00:00:32.960 Feminists are actually a bit confused. 1.00

00:00:35.020 And they're screaming for so many things.

00:00:36.520 When in reality, what they're actually looking for is just, yay, well done.

00:00:40.220 That's it.

00:00:40.980 Because women cannot go and do certain things. 1.00

00:00:42.780 Newsflash.

00:00:43.100 Men go to work all day, every day. 0.94

00:00:44.620 Exactly.

00:00:45.000 And nobody thanks them.

00:00:46.380 Exactly.

00:00:46.960 It's a thankless world.

00:00:48.060 Listen, and that's what I'm saying.

00:00:48.940 Having a movement for it is quite pointless.

00:00:51.280 Say well done to yourself and it's okay.

00:00:53.200 So I'm actually against feminism because it actually hinders me. 1.00

00:00:55.960 I get called that all the time and it's so annoying.

00:00:57.940 Completely agree with you.

00:00:58.880 You're putting yourself there.

00:00:59.680 I'm not.

00:01:00.260 Because I've already told you.

00:01:00.920 So why did we all put up money to go fix a car?

00:01:04.060 If you're not exactly what you just described.

00:01:05.700 Okay.

00:01:06.420 And let me tell you why I am not a feminist in that essence.

00:01:09.760 Because that's what I want.

00:01:11.100 I want just somebody to say to me, oh, by the way, if I tell you that I can fix a car.

00:01:16.320 Oh, yeah, cool.

00:01:16.840 That's good.

00:01:17.380 Well done to you because I got skills.

00:01:19.160 Validation.

00:01:19.640 Wait.

00:01:20.340 You're seeking validation.

00:01:21.260 What are you talking about?

00:01:22.920 She's exactly what she's describing right now.

00:01:25.000 I'm explaining to you the difference between what they say they want, what they actually

00:01:29.620 really want.

00:01:30.340 That's it.

00:01:31.360 Because...

00:01:31.680 So what do you want?

00:01:32.520 Well, I just want to be able to be somewhere, do something.

00:01:35.300 Somebody say, yeah, that's really good.

00:01:36.260 Well done.

00:01:36.720 So basically you're feminist. 1.00

00:01:37.660 I'm saying, I'm belittling the fact that feminists will stand there and say, equal rights, we 1.00

00:01:48.160 want all of this, when in reality you're just a sweet little girl that just wants to be like,

00:01:51.800 well done.

00:01:52.220 But they're angry.

00:01:52.840 And yet without all of those movements, you wouldn't be here.

00:01:56.340 No one would be here.

00:01:57.120 No, you wouldn't.

00:01:58.000 50 years ago, yeah.

00:01:59.400 50 years ago.

00:02:00.600 Dead ass.

00:02:01.160 No, like without those women actually taking the logic upon themselves, you know, using 1.00

00:02:06.240 that logic, whether it was to do what men, what was the example that you gave when they

00:02:10.400 were terrorists?

00:02:11.880 Men have been known terrorists for a very long time.

00:02:14.540 We're talking back to the 1700s and all these real battles.

00:02:17.580 But what outcomes has that given for women? 1.00

00:02:19.820 Has that given us good outcomes?

00:02:21.680 Are we happier?

00:02:22.600 No.

00:02:23.280 Or do we have more children?

00:02:24.360 No.

00:02:25.820 Are we on, we're on antidepressants more than ever before?

00:02:29.520 Yes.

00:02:29.800 Is this because of feminism? 1.00

00:02:31.160 We're more sexually promiscuous than ever before.

00:02:34.140 We're in less relationships than ever before.

00:02:36.300 More of us are childless over 30 than ever before.

00:02:38.660 What outcomes has happened that are good?

00:02:41.300 We can point to individual things and say, yes, we're on a podcast.

00:02:44.320 That's fun.

00:02:45.160 But in society, as a whole, what good has it done?

00:02:50.300 It got me to meet you.

00:02:55.260 But also the other issue with it is,

00:02:59.540 at what point, you're talking about, yeah, 50 years ago,

00:03:01.680 and that's how you've got to this point and everything like that.

00:03:03.740 There's a sort of, but I believe there is an even playing field now.

00:03:07.140 Certainly in the UK, I think in the United States as well, Canada,

00:03:10.240 all these Anglosphere countries, right?

00:03:11.580 I don't believe that women are now held back in any material way, okay?

00:03:15.540 In terms of the job market, in terms of opportunities,

00:03:17.600 being an entrepreneur, et cetera, et cetera.

00:03:18.980 So at what point, at what point, no, absolutely, but at what point do we say,

00:03:25.040 okay, right, now the conversation is closed, because now we move forward.

00:03:29.040 I would go even further and say that women have more freedom than men. 1.00

00:03:33.040 Yeah, 100%, 100%.

00:03:34.540 Because of feminism. 1.00

00:03:35.700 And that's where it becomes destructive,

00:03:37.320 because it seems now that the power balance has shifted more into the feminine,

00:03:43.380 and then guys are actually being disadvantaged now.

00:03:45.380 I do think that's the problem with modern-day feminism. 1.00

00:03:48.560 I think that everyone wants women empowerment,

00:03:51.620 and I'm for women empowerment,

00:03:53.280 but we can't pick and choose when we want feminism to take place. 1.00

00:03:57.860 Say, for example, like, we want a man to provide for us and care for us, 0.98

00:04:03.260 and some people might want to be a housewife, 1.00

00:04:05.540 but then also you want the other side of it,

00:04:08.820 and you want to take control in the relationship or vice versa.

00:04:13.120 Yeah, but she doesn't really want that. 0.99

00:04:14.420 Like, it's not actually equal, because it's like,

00:04:17.480 say, for example, certain areas of work, like a bin man.

00:04:21.860 Very few women want to be a bin man. 1.00

00:04:24.020 They will say it's a man's job. 0.67

00:04:24.940 I would say zero.

00:04:25.820 Yeah, they would say it's a man's job. 0.99

00:04:27.460 Do you want to check the applications?

00:04:28.780 But then if you want to look at feminism, you guys want equality, 1.00

00:04:31.660 but when it comes to certain jobs, you don't want to do them.

00:04:34.000 When it comes to certain instances, you don't want to be involved in them.

00:04:39.360 So it doesn't really...

00:04:40.440 I think feminists pick and choose when it benefits them. 1.00

00:04:43.560 No, but I think...

00:04:44.460 That's something I would say.

00:04:45.600 I think the issue here is you guys are not trying to, like,

00:04:49.540 not you guys in general, but just, like, women who are like,

00:04:51.820 I'm not a feminist, but everything that you've actually... 1.00

00:04:55.340 Being made, like, and alive right now, I mean,

00:04:57.520 and it's back to my point of the 50 years ago, 100 years ago,

00:05:00.520 when your ancestors and your great-great-great-grandmothers

00:05:03.060 are sitting there in the kitchen, unable to do anything, yeah?

00:05:06.600 Like, feminism has benefited every woman in today's society. 1.00

00:05:11.240 Yeah, I was about to say, I would suspect those women are happier 1.00

00:05:13.660 than these women currently. 0.99

00:05:14.520 I would actually prefer.

00:05:15.120 And how are they happier?

00:05:16.820 They're not even here.

00:05:17.500 I would actually prefer to be where women was in the 20s 1.00

00:05:20.360 because the pressure for me as a lady to work can be very exhausting. 1.00

00:05:24.020 So when you sit here and say that, oh, this is the reason why I'm here today,

00:05:27.040 most women really don't. 1.00

00:05:28.080 Most women, I'll be honest with you,

00:05:29.540 we do all of this work boss chick stuff because of the pressure

00:05:32.220 that this feminist woman has put on women to not be lazy 0.99

00:05:35.680 and to get up and work.

00:05:36.740 So when you sit here and say, oh, this is the reason why you guys are here

00:05:39.600 and da-da-da-da-da, most of us really don't want to be here.

00:05:42.220 Don't forget that you're black in the 20s.

00:05:44.140 You don't have the same rights my sister.

00:05:45.820 I want freedom.

00:05:46.020 I want freedom.

00:05:46.200 You wouldn't want to be there.

00:05:47.800 The first, wait, wait, wait, just to correct something.

00:05:50.640 The first female millionaire was in the early, it was in 1900. 1.00

00:05:54.720 Yeah, the hair shop lady. 1.00

00:05:55.700 No, but everyone says they couldn't vote or they couldn't work

00:05:58.980 until like the 50s and 60s.

00:06:00.300 But before that, there was a female millionaire. 1.00

00:06:02.020 So there, someone did it.

00:06:03.660 That's nice.

00:06:04.200 Weren't held back.

00:06:06.200 Well, to be honest, making money is not really that hard.

00:06:09.700 You know, this is the thing.

00:06:11.280 If you are capable, you can do anything, whether you're a man or a woman.

00:06:14.900 The problem with feminism, I think, is that it displaces women a lot of the time 1.00

00:06:18.260 because you're trying to make us be something that we're not.

00:06:20.620 Like, I work for myself.

00:06:22.240 I do.

00:06:23.200 I would say I am a boss in what I do, but I'm not a boss, baby,

00:06:26.020 and I have to prove to my man that I'm this woman and I deserve certain things.

00:06:29.880 All I want is not because I'm a feminist, 0.98

00:06:31.840 just because I'm a person that likes to be told, well, then I just want,

00:06:34.440 if I'm with a man, to be like, oh, that's quite cool, you know.

00:06:36.600 Well done for trying that.

00:06:37.520 That's it.

00:06:38.180 But I don't really get anything against that.

00:06:40.260 I don't really get too many people sometimes,

00:06:42.320 especially the people that know me, telling me things like, oh,

00:06:45.080 you're a woman, you shouldn't do this.

00:06:45.980 So do you want validation from men or not?

00:06:47.900 I just want, I don't want, it's not just from men.

00:06:49.760 I want it from anybody, even women that will look at me and be like, 1.00

00:06:52.880 no, you can't do that.

00:06:53.940 Women do that to each other. 1.00

00:06:54.900 So I don't want to be boxed in because I'm a woman.

00:06:56.700 I just want to be treated like normal.

00:06:58.880 Just, it's fine.

00:06:59.700 It seems like your value system is extremely external and exists in other people's minds.

00:07:03.660 No, not really.

00:07:04.200 This is in terms of the context of the conversation,

00:07:06.320 because I think you can tell that I don't actually need much external validation.

00:07:09.760 I'm quite gassed by myself.

00:07:10.980 Thank you.

00:07:11.460 But it seems like in some industries, in say in London, we're in London now, right?

00:07:15.140 I mean, if you look at media industry, if you look at advertising,

00:07:17.900 certain types of like information technology and stuff like that,

00:07:21.260 it's very actually female based. 0.89

00:07:22.920 You know, you've got, like say the advertising industry,

00:07:24.680 you've got more female leaders in that space than you have men. 1.00

00:07:27.600 So it seems to me at some point we have to say, right,

00:07:30.160 well, the balance has been addressed now.

00:07:32.700 I think so.

00:07:33.480 It's getting there.

00:07:34.020 I think women need to just kind of like empower themselves, not request for the stuff. 1.00

00:07:38.200 And then it goes back to what they were saying before, which is like, OK, man or woman,

00:07:41.580 you've got to go out into the world and you've got to bend it to your will, right?

00:07:44.360 You've got to make it, you've got to make your own narrative

00:07:46.220 and not fall back on these, you know, victimhood things.

00:07:49.280 Yes.

00:07:49.800 You summed that up nicely.

00:07:51.680 I can see you've got good experience talking to people and making them understand the simple and basics.

00:07:56.780 Oh, I like that.

00:07:57.460 Thank you for summarising it that way.

00:07:59.420 But you made a good point in the sense that like when is, that's then,

00:08:03.260 the thing is with feminism is never ending. 1.00

00:08:05.600 Every week, every month, there's a new issue.

00:08:07.660 It's so unnecessary that these feminists want. 1.00

00:08:10.460 And it's just like, when are you guys going to be satisfied?

00:08:12.900 That's my problem with feminism. 1.00

00:08:14.100 And that's when it becomes destructive.

00:08:15.440 But I don't think you can say that it's unnecessary to them

00:08:17.720 because if they fall away, they fall away.

00:08:19.260 So I don't think you can invalidate their feelings.

00:08:19.760 They can feel stupid.

00:08:21.120 They can have stupid beliefs and feelings.

00:08:23.280 Yeah, but that doesn't make it real.

00:08:24.460 It's just banned on TikTok.

00:08:26.180 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.

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JustPearlyThings - May 07, 2023

Sneako Battles Modern Woman

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