JustPearlyThings - April 21, 2023


Sneako Rizzes Up Girl On The Panel


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7 minutes

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1,732

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183

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Misogyny

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In this episode, we discuss cheating in relationships and why it s a waste of time and money. We also discuss why men cheat and why they should not even be talked about in this episode. We have a special guest on the show today who has a very interesting opinion on cheating.

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00:00:00.000 Look, I know that sucks and it's not fair and it's completely not fair, but it is the reality of the world.
00:00:06.460 And I think sometimes when we talk about these subjects, we get lost between the realities of the world and the emotions because I know it hurts.
00:00:14.040 It does.
00:00:15.040 But it is absolutely true. 0.86
00:00:18.480 Wow.
00:00:21.640 What do you guys think of that?
00:00:23.960 Silence.
00:00:24.880 I agree to a certain extent.
00:00:26.820 Oh, no, not to a certain extent.
00:00:28.480 Speak into the mic.
00:00:30.000 Sorry.
00:00:32.200 Their silence agrees with me.
00:00:34.460 Their silence agrees.
00:00:35.540 That's what I was going to say.
00:00:36.520 Their silence agrees with me.
00:00:37.660 And look, man, I'm sorry.
00:00:38.380 As much as I don't want that.
00:00:39.680 Yeah.
00:00:40.120 And I get it.
00:00:41.000 And like I said before, if I could pay a million dollars to cut it off, I actually would.
00:00:47.680 I would actually cut it off.
00:00:49.560 I think it's a waste of time.
00:00:51.360 It will haunt a man.
00:00:53.160 It is in us.
00:00:54.460 Just in us.
00:00:56.300 Not all of you.
00:00:57.580 Oh, yeah, it is.
00:00:58.440 It's in us all.
00:00:59.220 It's in every one of us.
00:01:01.340 It's just it's just the fact that a lot of men don't want to climb that mountain.
00:01:05.360 Yeah.
00:01:05.760 And so they'll trade off things that they don't actually want to do to get some piece of candy.
00:01:10.860 But the men that really want to hustle want the whole fucking store. 0.99
00:01:15.680 And generally, that's the man that you're going to admire and look up to because he has ambition.
00:01:19.880 He has drive in his life.
00:01:21.420 He's a hard worker.
00:01:22.400 You believe in him.
00:01:23.140 And most of all, you trust him to take care of you.
00:01:25.420 Yeah.
00:01:26.020 That's all I'm saying.
00:01:27.660 And I don't mean to be disrespectful, but I genuinely want you to hear me because I fear that if young women that are young and beautiful, like you girls are, are taking advice from older women that are not happy.
00:01:41.560 You are going to find yourself in that same position.
00:01:44.660 I'm saying it.
00:01:45.340 Look, as as heated as it got, I'm saying this out of love, not not to put you down.
00:01:50.360 I genuinely believe it.
00:01:52.500 And I'm also not manipulating you because I'm not trying to get with any of you.
00:01:55.660 I'm going to get on a plane in a couple of days.
00:01:57.720 You know what I'm saying?
00:01:58.580 But please let me leave this with you or watch it again.
00:02:02.880 Any man that could, would.
00:02:05.700 I often say I'm not doing anything that any other man would not do if he could.
00:02:11.660 All right.
00:02:12.260 I love you all.
00:02:15.400 I'm curious.
00:02:16.760 Did any of you change your opinion on cheating after listening to him or after having this conversation tonight?
00:02:23.260 I hate that it's called cheating in the first place.
00:02:25.140 I hate that squishy.
00:02:26.020 Because the cheating is the triggering part.
00:02:28.580 You know, like if he set you down, like, like pretty teeth said, you know, she's like, I wouldn't like it, but I would appreciate the truth.
00:02:37.020 Yeah.
00:02:37.480 It's the deceit that really is going to upset you because he's killing himself for you.
00:02:41.780 He loves you more than anything.
00:02:42.820 He'd take a bullet for you and the slags on the side, dude, he don't even want them in his bed at night. 1.00
00:02:49.580 He's in love with you.
00:02:51.260 Why does he need them?
00:02:52.960 Why?
00:02:53.260 Just for a little bit of coach.
00:02:54.860 Yeah, because it's, you know how you guys get emotional for no reason?
00:02:58.580 Men are like, yeah.
00:03:00.040 So are you saying it's just like an ego stroke?
00:03:01.860 No, not at all.
00:03:02.800 It's not an ego stroke.
00:03:02.980 No, that's the point.
00:03:04.560 It's not about ego at all.
00:03:06.000 It's not about ego at all.
00:03:08.180 Men that sleep with women just to feel better about themselves are super insecure.
00:03:12.620 Yeah, they're lacking something, right?
00:03:13.800 They're lacking something.
00:03:14.840 No, no.
00:03:15.440 It is more like, it is more like this primal thing inside of you that will not get out of your fucking head.
00:03:20.320 So is it primal or is it lacking something?
00:03:22.500 No, it's primal.
00:03:23.480 It's primal.
00:03:24.120 It's completely primal.
00:03:25.160 Does the fact that 8,000 years ago, 17 women reproduced for every one man, does that mean anything to you?
00:03:31.460 Does that show at all that it's primal?
00:03:33.820 That always in history, there's always been more women reproducing for men? 1.00
00:03:37.140 I think historically, yeah, but like we try and adapt like we're humans, we're creatures of adaptation.
00:03:45.660 Like I would try my best to adapt if something didn't sit right with me.
00:03:51.000 Okay, so if in modern society we're going back to that, like we're trending more towards sharing men?
00:03:59.020 No, that doesn't sound right.
00:04:00.580 No, to be fair, I don't even like to share my food, so best believe I'm not sharing my men.
00:04:04.480 You're wrong.
00:04:07.420 You're wrong.
00:04:07.800 You have, again, because we spoke about you've been in situationships, so you were sharing a guy.
00:04:12.440 Y'all are sharing guys right now, but we're beating a dead horse, right?
00:04:16.140 You're all sharing guys right now.
00:04:17.660 I'm not sharing their one.
00:04:18.720 Well, we keep coming back to the same point because you guys, whenever Justin makes the, or somebody makes the point and says,
00:04:26.980 well, no, this is how men are wired, this is how they're programmed, these are the things that they want,
00:04:30.720 then somebody on the couch or wherever says, oh, but not all of them.
00:04:34.220 Like, like you did.
00:04:35.080 And it's kind of like, but no, but we keep, we keep beating the same horse.
00:04:38.160 They, they do all want to do it.
00:04:40.220 They, or they, they are all programmed.
00:04:42.180 Not all of them necessarily will act on it, but that's partly down to, okay, there's going to be a few unicorns who aren't going to act on it.
00:04:48.220 Cause they're super amazing.
00:04:49.580 Whatever guys.
00:04:50.220 I don't think so.
00:04:50.880 I think so.
00:04:51.540 Repercussions are scared.
00:04:52.360 Yeah.
00:04:52.620 Yeah.
00:04:52.900 Probably.
00:04:53.340 Yes.
00:04:53.500 But for the most part, for the most part, they're not going to act on it because then they don't have the ability to,
00:04:57.940 because they're not high enough in the food chain.
00:04:59.640 Okay.
00:04:59.960 The guys who are at the top, they all are going to act on it.
00:05:02.120 And that's just how it is.
00:05:03.220 It's also character as well.
00:05:04.900 Yeah.
00:05:05.200 I know you think, sorry, go on.
00:05:06.640 It's also character.
00:05:07.720 Like, I think I could personally relate.
00:05:09.440 Cause at a certain point you have a connection that's distinct enough with someone that it takes a long time for that urge to come back.
00:05:17.580 Yeah.
00:05:17.700 It will come back though.
00:05:18.920 Sure.
00:05:19.100 Oh yeah.
00:05:19.440 About, at about 18 months probably.
00:05:21.160 Yeah.
00:05:21.600 I'm not, I'm not going to lie.
00:05:22.660 Even for me, I'll be like, you know what?
00:05:24.600 I could like really vibe with someone.
00:05:26.120 Like she's one in a million.
00:05:27.660 She's got chat.
00:05:28.560 We're cool.
00:05:29.000 But I, part of me knows that in like, in like a year, maybe two, some people have been together for 20 years.
00:05:34.160 I know eventually two becomes one.
00:05:37.320 Why do you think like that?
00:05:38.320 But I know I'm like that.
00:05:40.300 That's one of the reasons I didn't have a relationship when I was younger.
00:05:41.820 Cause I thought I don't want to do that.
00:05:42.860 I don't mess someone up.
00:05:43.760 But I realized, bro, I'm always, it's just human nature.
00:05:46.760 Novelty.
00:05:47.220 Yeah.
00:05:47.460 I tried to fix myself in my twenties.
00:05:49.200 I thought something was wrong with me and I thought I was all fucked up and I hated myself for a long time.
00:05:53.160 Yeah.
00:05:53.280 I broke up with Miss Louisiana in college because I, like, I felt like I couldn't do it and I didn't want to be a piece of shit.
00:05:58.580 And I went and tried to pray about it and do all this church stuff.
00:06:00.860 And I come to find it was just a pattern that would not leave me.
00:06:04.540 And, and I was, I was leaving women that I loved.
00:06:07.580 Was that because of something too, like yourself?
00:06:10.260 No, not at all.
00:06:11.140 It was literally what I'm telling you.
00:06:12.520 I wouldn't lie to you.
00:06:13.360 And let me, let me nail it home with this.
00:06:16.840 It could be an ugly woman. 1.00
00:06:19.900 You know what I'm saying?
00:06:20.860 True.
00:06:21.060 True.
00:06:21.400 True.
00:06:21.660 I could eat for me is hungry and horny to a man.
00:06:26.960 It's pretty much the same thing.
00:06:28.000 I kind of stress this to you.
00:06:29.160 No, do you know what?
00:06:29.720 I do agree with that.
00:06:30.620 Like, I do agree that it's nothing to do with the looks.
00:06:33.180 It doesn't matter.
00:06:34.000 Is she, I don't.
00:06:34.940 Bro, does it breathe?
00:06:36.040 Like, men are disgusting.
00:06:38.560 That is the first thing that I actually a hundred percent, like, agree with you on.
00:06:42.340 She could be the ugliest girl in the world, but he's still going to do it.
00:06:45.940 Well, it's like the old thing.
00:06:47.080 It's like, it's like the old steak.
00:06:48.180 You know, you've got steak at home, but sometimes you just fancy going out for a McDonald's.
00:06:51.220 Do you know what I mean?
00:06:51.840 And that's just the reality.
00:06:53.780 Cheap is cheap at the end of the day.
00:06:54.660 It's going to happen.
00:06:55.220 Yeah, it's not even about cheap.
00:06:56.420 It's just about different.
00:06:57.440 And it's like this thing is people, people demonize it and act like, you know, is this more, bro, it is wired into us.
00:07:04.580 It almost comes out of us in a way.
00:07:06.880 And, and again, I cannot stress this enough.
00:07:09.680 If I could pay to get rid of that feeling, I would absolutely do it.
00:07:13.280 A hundred percent.
00:07:14.240 I guess it's nice.
00:07:15.880 Not nice.
00:07:16.660 That's the wrong word.
00:07:17.460 But I guess it's like a bit more, a better feeling for us girls to know that he's sat there saying that if he could get rid of it, he would.
00:07:26.820 Do you know what I mean?
00:07:27.780 Yeah, because it's counterproductive.
00:07:29.860 It's so counterproductive.
00:07:30.560 It's a waste of time, energy.
00:07:31.920 It's reassurance.
00:07:32.420 It's not like a want.
00:07:33.480 Do you know what I mean?
00:07:34.120 It's like, if you're saying that you could, I'd get rid of this if I could.
00:07:37.060 I would pay to get rid of it.
00:07:38.200 Yeah, see, that's reassurance for us girls. 1.00
00:07:40.380 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:07:43.780 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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