JustPearlyThings - August 15, 2023


Social Media Did This To Dating...


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Length

6 minutes

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226.95967

Word count

1,439

Sentence count

119

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Misogyny

10

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Hate speech

5

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In this episode we talk about the differences between men and women when it comes to social media and the impact it has on our perception of the world and how it affects us. We also talk about how social media affects men and how they are affected by it.

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00:00:00.000 I think social media is a big, big, big difference, you know,
00:00:03.200 because I think that everyone's, like, so glued on social media
00:00:07.540 trying to, like, watch what people are doing.
00:00:09.400 So it's, like, people have unrealistic expectations.
00:00:13.140 They'll compare their life to someone else's life on social media.
00:00:15.900 And then when, you know, arguments are happening,
00:00:18.060 like, oh, you didn't take me out to cinema.
00:00:19.820 Oh, my friend took me, look, she's on Instagram.
00:00:22.140 She took me out to whatever, boom, boom, boom. 0.82
00:00:24.440 And it's just, like, too much watch other people.
00:00:27.160 I thought that makes a big difference as well.
00:00:28.620 And plus, like, on social media as well, like, all the girls and that
00:00:32.640 are just, like, young, from young, just showing body, image, image,
00:00:36.480 everything's all, not just girls, but in general, everything's all image.
00:00:39.460 So it's, like, everyone's always showing image, image,
00:00:41.800 so everything just seems, like, very sexual.
00:00:43.940 That's why people are just on the cheating thing quickly as well.
00:00:47.000 Yeah, I think social media really affects women more than it does men.
00:00:52.200 Are men really on social media like that?
00:00:54.340 Yeah, of course, all the time.
00:00:56.360 Like, by and large, you think so?
00:00:58.440 Oh, you think it's equal?
00:00:59.780 I don't know about equal, but I feel it does affect a lot of men still.
00:01:03.260 I feel a lot of men, like, get affected by, you know, on social media,
00:01:06.760 what they see in that as well.
00:01:07.900 And that makes them, like, go crazy.
00:01:10.920 Like, a lot of my friends and that, they'll be, like, you know,
00:01:13.120 before they link girls and, like, they'll be doing that background research,
00:01:16.220 you know what I mean?
00:01:17.040 Seeing what they've done, body count, all this crazy stuff.
00:01:20.360 Serious.
00:01:20.840 Yeah, because it's just, like, they think, raw, like,
00:01:23.060 I want to know if this girl's that, how many guys she's selective and all that. 0.99
00:01:26.200 They do background research.
00:01:27.440 Background research.
00:01:27.960 How do they do that?
00:01:28.840 What do they do?
00:01:29.020 Boy, I don't, listen, I'll be honest with you,
00:01:30.880 this burner account, this burner account thing's real,
00:01:33.440 this burner account, creating burner accounts and just, you know,
00:01:36.300 messaging people and doing loads of things, it's crazy.
00:01:39.120 Are you saying men do that or women do that?
00:01:40.440 I think men do that. 0.95
00:01:41.240 Wait, so, okay, you know a guy that makes burner accounts?
00:01:43.760 I know a couple guys.
00:01:45.140 Okay, what do they do with these?
00:01:46.360 I've just never heard of this.
00:01:47.500 Just create burner accounts and just, like, message girls and see,
00:01:50.720 okay, potential girl to see what, you know,
00:01:53.780 they're saying to test them out and just do tests, isn't it, to see.
00:01:56.580 Oh, so they test the girl. 0.99
00:01:57.780 Yeah, to see if they're, like, you know.
00:01:59.080 They make, like, a really attractive burner account.
00:02:01.260 I don't know if it's attractive.
00:02:02.440 I don't know, but it's, like, just to test the girl to see if she's serious
00:02:05.760 and that all, do you know what I mean?
00:02:07.640 Okay, so they'll test, like, if they want to chat to a girl,
00:02:10.760 they'll test the girl with another account to see if she responds. 0.96
00:02:13.400 Like, pretend to be someone else, you get it,
00:02:15.160 and then they'll maybe link in the girl, pretend to be someone else,
00:02:17.820 and then message them and see, okay, cool.
00:02:19.840 Okay, like, ask them a couple of questions and see,
00:02:22.080 dig in and see what they say and that.
00:02:23.780 Yeah.
00:02:24.640 You say, the man, am I getting smarter?
00:02:28.220 Bruh.
00:02:28.840 You think that's smart?
00:02:29.780 I don't know.
00:02:30.580 Smart, bruh.
00:02:31.680 Man just made my brain tick twice.
00:02:33.780 I said, what?
00:02:34.960 They're doing mad accounts so man can see.
00:02:37.860 So if I'm linking a ting, I'll make a new account,
00:02:40.740 something what she's attracted in to, like, obviously,
00:02:43.140 and then I'll make a new account.
00:02:43.400 And then just try and pattern her like that and see if she's serious.
00:02:46.320 Oh yeah, I'm not seeing no one at the moment.
00:02:48.200 But then you'll mash up your own link.
00:02:49.760 Yeah.
00:02:50.380 In a way, because that's hurtful.
00:02:51.820 Seems like a lot of effort.
00:02:53.700 Yeah, it's a lot of effort still.
00:02:54.400 A lot of effort.
00:02:55.360 I wouldn't do that personally, but yeah.
00:02:56.980 I was like, that sounds like, that must be a feminine dude, 0.99
00:02:59.440 because that sounds like something a girl would do. 0.99
00:03:01.040 Yeah.
00:03:03.080 It's like detective work.
00:03:04.580 Yeah, that's too much, man.
00:03:05.780 I just think there's loads of insecurities though,
00:03:07.500 do you know what I'm saying to you?
00:03:08.360 Maybe they don't feel that girl's trustworthy.
00:03:11.240 That's sad.
00:03:11.960 And to be fair, like, I would say, like, rightfully so,
00:03:15.640 but that's just a lot.
00:03:17.040 Like, you must have a lot going on.
00:03:18.980 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:03:20.400 I agree with what you said earlier.
00:03:22.340 A lot of time.
00:03:22.700 Sorry, go on.
00:03:23.400 I was just saying a lot of time on the hand.
00:03:25.400 Yeah, I agree with what you said earlier
00:03:27.020 when you mentioned the social media has taken over.
00:03:29.840 It has.
00:03:30.320 In my time, obviously I'm 35, isn't it?
00:03:32.420 So there weren't no YouTube, there wasn't no Instagram,
00:03:35.380 there wasn't no all that.
00:03:36.720 So man ain't distracted.
00:03:38.380 You see it?
00:03:38.880 But the new generation now, I always keep looking at you
00:03:41.200 because you're too young, sorry.
00:03:42.360 It's fine.
00:03:42.960 You know what I mean?
00:03:43.280 But yeah, the new generation, obviously,
00:03:46.780 it just, they've got all the patterns.
00:03:48.540 You get me?
00:03:49.140 The social media's there.
00:03:50.440 And I like Bush though.
00:03:51.280 Like, back in the day, was there these things
00:03:53.160 for man to even do music like that?
00:03:54.900 You understand?
00:03:55.440 It was, it was the set up.
00:03:56.980 Available.
00:03:57.740 You understand?
00:03:58.080 I think that social media affects women more than men
00:04:01.020 because women find 80% of men unattractive.
00:04:04.360 So it's not like most men.
00:04:05.680 Like if you ask women both on dating apps and in person
00:04:07.980 and like you say, do you find this guy attractive,
00:04:10.000 this guy attractive, they find 80% unattractive
00:04:12.080 and that's in person too.
00:04:13.260 Because a lot of people will say,
00:04:14.240 oh, that's just social media, no, no, no, no, no,
00:04:16.060 in person.
00:04:17.160 So it's only a small percentage of guys
00:04:18.820 that are even getting messages from women like that. 1.00
00:04:21.060 Yeah, but you know what it is?
00:04:21.500 I feel a lot of guys are on social media
00:04:23.280 to try to like pattern a girl, try and move to a girl.
00:04:25.800 And I feel like a lot of guys,
00:04:27.160 like I feel like when I was younger,
00:04:28.900 like when you're trying to,
00:04:30.020 if you like a girl, you approach her, 0.56
00:04:31.500 do you know what I mean?
00:04:31.840 You'll move to a, you know, put in game,
00:04:34.280 do you know what I'm saying to you?
00:04:35.040 I feel now guys are being lazy
00:04:37.200 because it's like everything's social media.
00:04:38.900 So they just try sliding in DMs
00:04:40.080 and that's why they get blanked.
00:04:41.220 Do you know what I'm saying to you?
00:04:42.480 Well, yeah, because like an average,
00:04:45.100 oh my gosh, an overweight woman on Tinder 1.00
00:04:47.580 gets more matches than the top,
00:04:50.060 like a model level guy on Tinder.
00:04:52.080 I can't believe that 100%.
00:04:53.080 I don't believe that, how?
00:04:55.300 100%, 100%.
00:04:56.540 How?
00:04:57.020 Because men aren't as picky as women.
00:04:58.780 That's true, actually.
00:05:00.180 Yeah, men aren't like, oh, good enough.
00:05:02.220 Yeah, God.
00:05:03.700 Men swipe right on dating apps 50% of the time
00:05:05.980 where women only swipe right 5%. 1.00
00:05:07.540 Wow.
00:05:08.620 Yeah.
00:05:09.100 That's a big difference.
00:05:12.480 Yeah.
00:05:13.060 I mean, yeah.
00:05:13.740 I think dating apps is also a problem as well
00:05:16.840 with the whole dating scene nowadays
00:05:18.400 because it's just so easy to swipe.
00:05:20.900 And you don't really think of the people
00:05:23.440 as like real people when they are,
00:05:26.140 but you get, it takes the human side out of it.
00:05:30.440 Yeah.
00:05:30.940 Yeah.
00:05:31.280 Well, I mean, it's also like girls in their 20s 0.59
00:05:33.800 usually get, you know, like ran through a bit
00:05:37.160 by the top 20% of men
00:05:38.540 and then they start to settle like in their 30s.
00:05:41.460 No, I'm serious.
00:05:43.280 So, you know, ran through.
00:05:44.420 I'm joking.
00:05:45.020 Because you said the age.
00:05:45.980 And I'm just, yeah.
00:05:46.720 I'm joking.
00:05:47.480 Don't mind me.
00:05:48.200 I'm playing with you.
00:05:48.240 No, I mean, because when you think about it,
00:05:49.620 like what are people doing in their 20s?
00:05:51.440 It's situationship.
00:05:52.080 That's true.
00:05:52.520 So, what are you doing in a situationship?
00:05:54.380 You're like, it's funny because girls will say 1.00
00:05:55.880 that they're not, like they need to be
00:05:57.440 in a monogamous relationship,
00:05:59.180 but it's like how many situationships have you been in
00:06:01.360 and that's not monogamous.
00:06:02.660 It's true.
00:06:03.800 Yeah.
00:06:06.300 How many have you been in?
00:06:07.720 How many have I been?
00:06:08.680 Zero.
00:06:09.080 I'm a virgin.
00:06:10.360 Yeah.
00:06:12.240 I'm just kidding.
00:06:13.320 Yeah.
00:06:15.600 I did not know what to say.
00:06:19.340 You're not going to answer that one.