JustPearlyThings - August 15, 2023


Social Media Did This To Dating...


Episode Stats

Length

6 minutes

Words per Minute

226.95967

Word Count

1,439

Sentence Count

119

Misogynist Sentences

10

Hate Speech Sentences

5


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I think social media is a big, big, big difference, you know,
00:00:03.200 because I think that everyone's, like, so glued on social media
00:00:07.540 trying to, like, watch what people are doing.
00:00:09.400 So it's, like, people have unrealistic expectations.
00:00:13.140 They'll compare their life to someone else's life on social media.
00:00:15.900 And then when, you know, arguments are happening,
00:00:18.060 like, oh, you didn't take me out to cinema.
00:00:19.820 Oh, my friend took me, look, she's on Instagram.
00:00:22.140 She took me out to whatever, boom, boom, boom.
00:00:24.440 And it's just, like, too much watch other people.
00:00:27.160 I thought that makes a big difference as well.
00:00:28.620 And plus, like, on social media as well, like, all the girls and that
00:00:32.640 are just, like, young, from young, just showing body, image, image,
00:00:36.480 everything's all, not just girls, but in general, everything's all image.
00:00:39.460 So it's, like, everyone's always showing image, image,
00:00:41.800 so everything just seems, like, very sexual.
00:00:43.940 That's why people are just on the cheating thing quickly as well.
00:00:47.000 Yeah, I think social media really affects women more than it does men.
00:00:52.200 Are men really on social media like that?
00:00:54.340 Yeah, of course, all the time.
00:00:56.360 Like, by and large, you think so?
00:00:58.440 Oh, you think it's equal?
00:00:59.780 I don't know about equal, but I feel it does affect a lot of men still.
00:01:03.260 I feel a lot of men, like, get affected by, you know, on social media,
00:01:06.760 what they see in that as well.
00:01:07.900 And that makes them, like, go crazy.
00:01:10.920 Like, a lot of my friends and that, they'll be, like, you know,
00:01:13.120 before they link girls and, like, they'll be doing that background research,
00:01:16.220 you know what I mean?
00:01:17.040 Seeing what they've done, body count, all this crazy stuff.
00:01:20.360 Serious.
00:01:20.840 Yeah, because it's just, like, they think, raw, like,
00:01:23.060 I want to know if this girl's that, how many guys she's selective and all that.
00:01:26.200 They do background research.
00:01:27.440 Background research.
00:01:27.960 How do they do that?
00:01:28.840 What do they do?
00:01:29.020 Boy, I don't, listen, I'll be honest with you,
00:01:30.880 this burner account, this burner account thing's real,
00:01:33.440 this burner account, creating burner accounts and just, you know,
00:01:36.300 messaging people and doing loads of things, it's crazy.
00:01:39.120 Are you saying men do that or women do that?
00:01:40.440 I think men do that.
00:01:41.240 Wait, so, okay, you know a guy that makes burner accounts?
00:01:43.760 I know a couple guys.
00:01:45.140 Okay, what do they do with these?
00:01:46.360 I've just never heard of this.
00:01:47.500 Just create burner accounts and just, like, message girls and see,
00:01:50.720 okay, potential girl to see what, you know,
00:01:53.780 they're saying to test them out and just do tests, isn't it, to see.
00:01:56.580 Oh, so they test the girl.
00:01:57.780 Yeah, to see if they're, like, you know.
00:01:59.080 They make, like, a really attractive burner account.
00:02:01.260 I don't know if it's attractive.
00:02:02.440 I don't know, but it's, like, just to test the girl to see if she's serious
00:02:05.760 and that all, do you know what I mean?
00:02:07.640 Okay, so they'll test, like, if they want to chat to a girl,
00:02:10.760 they'll test the girl with another account to see if she responds.
00:02:13.400 Like, pretend to be someone else, you get it,
00:02:15.160 and then they'll maybe link in the girl, pretend to be someone else,
00:02:17.820 and then message them and see, okay, cool.
00:02:19.840 Okay, like, ask them a couple of questions and see,
00:02:22.080 dig in and see what they say and that.
00:02:23.780 Yeah.
00:02:24.640 You say, the man, am I getting smarter?
00:02:28.220 Bruh.
00:02:28.840 You think that's smart?
00:02:29.780 I don't know.
00:02:30.580 Smart, bruh.
00:02:31.680 Man just made my brain tick twice.
00:02:33.780 I said, what?
00:02:34.960 They're doing mad accounts so man can see.
00:02:37.860 So if I'm linking a ting, I'll make a new account,
00:02:40.740 something what she's attracted in to, like, obviously,
00:02:43.140 and then I'll make a new account.
00:02:43.400 And then just try and pattern her like that and see if she's serious.
00:02:46.320 Oh yeah, I'm not seeing no one at the moment.
00:02:48.200 But then you'll mash up your own link.
00:02:49.760 Yeah.
00:02:50.380 In a way, because that's hurtful.
00:02:51.820 Seems like a lot of effort.
00:02:53.700 Yeah, it's a lot of effort still.
00:02:54.400 A lot of effort.
00:02:55.360 I wouldn't do that personally, but yeah.
00:02:56.980 I was like, that sounds like, that must be a feminine dude,
00:02:59.440 because that sounds like something a girl would do.
00:03:01.040 Yeah.
00:03:03.080 It's like detective work.
00:03:04.580 Yeah, that's too much, man.
00:03:05.780 I just think there's loads of insecurities though,
00:03:07.500 do you know what I'm saying to you?
00:03:08.360 Maybe they don't feel that girl's trustworthy.
00:03:11.240 That's sad.
00:03:11.960 And to be fair, like, I would say, like, rightfully so,
00:03:15.640 but that's just a lot.
00:03:17.040 Like, you must have a lot going on.
00:03:18.980 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:03:20.400 I agree with what you said earlier.
00:03:22.340 A lot of time.
00:03:22.700 Sorry, go on.
00:03:23.400 I was just saying a lot of time on the hand.
00:03:25.400 Yeah, I agree with what you said earlier
00:03:27.020 when you mentioned the social media has taken over.
00:03:29.840 It has.
00:03:30.320 In my time, obviously I'm 35, isn't it?
00:03:32.420 So there weren't no YouTube, there wasn't no Instagram,
00:03:35.380 there wasn't no all that.
00:03:36.720 So man ain't distracted.
00:03:38.380 You see it?
00:03:38.880 But the new generation now, I always keep looking at you
00:03:41.200 because you're too young, sorry.
00:03:42.360 It's fine.
00:03:42.960 You know what I mean?
00:03:43.280 But yeah, the new generation, obviously,
00:03:46.780 it just, they've got all the patterns.
00:03:48.540 You get me?
00:03:49.140 The social media's there.
00:03:50.440 And I like Bush though.
00:03:51.280 Like, back in the day, was there these things
00:03:53.160 for man to even do music like that?
00:03:54.900 You understand?
00:03:55.440 It was, it was the set up.
00:03:56.980 Available.
00:03:57.740 You understand?
00:03:58.080 I think that social media affects women more than men
00:04:01.020 because women find 80% of men unattractive.
00:04:04.360 So it's not like most men.
00:04:05.680 Like if you ask women both on dating apps and in person
00:04:07.980 and like you say, do you find this guy attractive,
00:04:10.000 this guy attractive, they find 80% unattractive
00:04:12.080 and that's in person too.
00:04:13.260 Because a lot of people will say,
00:04:14.240 oh, that's just social media, no, no, no, no, no,
00:04:16.060 in person.
00:04:17.160 So it's only a small percentage of guys
00:04:18.820 that are even getting messages from women like that.
00:04:21.060 Yeah, but you know what it is?
00:04:21.500 I feel a lot of guys are on social media
00:04:23.280 to try to like pattern a girl, try and move to a girl.
00:04:25.800 And I feel like a lot of guys,
00:04:27.160 like I feel like when I was younger,
00:04:28.900 like when you're trying to,
00:04:30.020 if you like a girl, you approach her,
00:04:31.500 do you know what I mean?
00:04:31.840 You'll move to a, you know, put in game,
00:04:34.280 do you know what I'm saying to you?
00:04:35.040 I feel now guys are being lazy
00:04:37.200 because it's like everything's social media.
00:04:38.900 So they just try sliding in DMs
00:04:40.080 and that's why they get blanked.
00:04:41.220 Do you know what I'm saying to you?
00:04:42.480 Well, yeah, because like an average,
00:04:45.100 oh my gosh, an overweight woman on Tinder
00:04:47.580 gets more matches than the top,
00:04:50.060 like a model level guy on Tinder.
00:04:52.080 I can't believe that 100%.
00:04:53.080 I don't believe that, how?
00:04:55.300 100%, 100%.
00:04:56.540 How?
00:04:57.020 Because men aren't as picky as women.
00:04:58.780 That's true, actually.
00:05:00.180 Yeah, men aren't like, oh, good enough.
00:05:02.220 Yeah, God.
00:05:03.700 Men swipe right on dating apps 50% of the time
00:05:05.980 where women only swipe right 5%.
00:05:07.540 Wow.
00:05:08.620 Yeah.
00:05:09.100 That's a big difference.
00:05:12.480 Yeah.
00:05:13.060 I mean, yeah.
00:05:13.740 I think dating apps is also a problem as well
00:05:16.840 with the whole dating scene nowadays
00:05:18.400 because it's just so easy to swipe.
00:05:20.900 And you don't really think of the people
00:05:23.440 as like real people when they are,
00:05:26.140 but you get, it takes the human side out of it.
00:05:30.440 Yeah.
00:05:30.940 Yeah.
00:05:31.280 Well, I mean, it's also like girls in their 20s
00:05:33.800 usually get, you know, like ran through a bit
00:05:37.160 by the top 20% of men
00:05:38.540 and then they start to settle like in their 30s.
00:05:41.460 No, I'm serious.
00:05:43.280 So, you know, ran through.
00:05:44.420 I'm joking.
00:05:45.020 Because you said the age.
00:05:45.980 And I'm just, yeah.
00:05:46.720 I'm joking.
00:05:47.480 Don't mind me.
00:05:48.200 I'm playing with you.
00:05:48.240 No, I mean, because when you think about it,
00:05:49.620 like what are people doing in their 20s?
00:05:51.440 It's situationship.
00:05:52.080 That's true.
00:05:52.520 So, what are you doing in a situationship?
00:05:54.380 You're like, it's funny because girls will say
00:05:55.880 that they're not, like they need to be
00:05:57.440 in a monogamous relationship,
00:05:59.180 but it's like how many situationships have you been in
00:06:01.360 and that's not monogamous.
00:06:02.660 It's true.
00:06:03.800 Yeah.
00:06:06.300 How many have you been in?
00:06:07.720 How many have I been?
00:06:08.680 Zero.
00:06:09.080 I'm a virgin.
00:06:10.360 Yeah.
00:06:12.240 I'm just kidding.
00:06:13.320 Yeah.
00:06:15.600 I did not know what to say.
00:06:19.340 You're not going to answer that one.