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In this episode, we talk about abortion, birth control, abortion rights, and pro-choice. We are joined by our special guest, to discuss her experience with abortion and birth control and how she dealt with it.
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that wouldn't be not a good father we also have the choice to get an abortion we also have the
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choice to put a man on child support we also have the choice to get married and leave and then take
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half and we also get more child support if we take away the kids from the dad so we're financially
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incentivized to take away the children so they have all of the we have all of this choice and
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the men have condom or no condom so it's like if we have 10 choices that's a pre-pregnancy choice
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that the man has post-pregnancy choice it would depend a lot a lot of the things yeah of course
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we have that choice but divorce doesn't just get you don't just automatically get half based on
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absolutely nothing like if you're a woman that's like worked and earned certain amount of money
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it does come down to yeah and there's there's a small percentage of women but women don't typically
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make more than men that we we make less and we spend more and there's also um i just learned about this
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the other day there's um lawsuits going on in the u.s where they overestimate how much it costs
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to raise a child basically just so they can get more child support in court so they'll say like
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it costs this much to raise a child even though like for example let's do kanye west and kim
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kardashian like why does that girl and and she out earns him and he's a billionaire and he still
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has to pay how much in child support 200 000 yeah 200k a month and that's a billionaire woman so what
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happens to the average man if if a multi-millionaire that married a billionaire can't escape child
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support so you believe that a man shouldn't have any say in an abortion or should based on the fact
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that you acknowledge that women have all the responsibility no i'm saying like we're more
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responsible for an unplanned pregnancy like it's more of our fault and we actually avoid the responsibility
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after because we can we make the men pay for our poor choices so you think that they should have
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more say in abortions or not um i think that abortion if it was up to me it would be illegal
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yeah so um i don't think anyone should have a say but if it was to be that what would be your
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like if if that if abortions were not illegal and you were on the side of uh pro-choice pro-choice you
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would think that it would have to be a signature from the man and the woman for unable to enable the
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actual like surgical or procedure to continue based on the facts um but see that's hard because i
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wouldn't even i wouldn't be pro-choice to begin with so why is the question like relevant why because
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you're pro-choice that's what i was asking yeah um but if if you're pro-life like you don't believe
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in abortion to begin with so you wouldn't even get there so it's not about the masculine and femininist
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purely based on it's just like like feminists fought for equality here it is well guys guys
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that are pro-life right so when i got pregnant twice i was actually on um anti-contraception
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um how would you how would you react to that like obviously what i i was um i was on pills okay yeah
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and i was taking them regularly and both of the times i even changed my pills just to make sure you
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know it's a different one and and both of the times i actually got pregnant so it's it's kind
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of difficult like when you actually don't watch after the first time um what do you mean after
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the first like pregnancy you didn't switch birth control i did i did that's why i said i tried
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different ones yeah and then the the other one yeah it's a different one and it still didn't work
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and i looked specifically just to check like i made sure that i took one i even had an alarm set you
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know and it is what would you say to them i'm curious why didn't you get an iud that's like
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that's the most effective one what's that um what the coil i don't know oh is that what you guys call
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it here the coil i had a coil um but it went um it got stuck um under i couldn't breathe i had to
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they didn't even know that it um it was that it was stuck under it was attached to one of the womb
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tissues or something it was so painful and i kept saying like something's wrong and they were like
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no nothing's wrong you ain't had children so it's it's not that you know and i had to actually go
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privately pay for x-rays and then they told me no it's that and they had to get it out i mean i just
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think um you also only ovulate three days a month so i think you can track your ovulation um i think
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you can wear condoms and i think you can not have sex yeah that's another thing but yeah and i just
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think like i'm just a big fan of like you kind of made your bed lie in it and at some point like
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something went wrong yeah um but you you can't see it i can i go in i don't see it from the same
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perspective as you know i know a lot of people that's like you know just trying to justify you
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know i was on the pill and all this um simple biology sex creates children can't not always but
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it's it's cause and effect and i just think with and i get it i say this as a as someone who who got
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pregnant and had a child at 22 that typical age um and um yeah it's like it's it's we've lost
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we've lost that in society it's like it's my right to have sex with who i want and um not have any
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consequences and and i and i find it hard to say that word consequent because i i was i was silly
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i made a mistake but i've been blessed with a child and i've got a beautiful daughter so i i don't see
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it as oh that was my punishment or that was my you know for for for being careless um but it's just i
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think we just need to get back to the place of society as just looking at what sex is and you know
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if you don't want to have a child then maybe sex should be like you know if if you're not ready
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to have a child then you know sex is also pleasure and having recreation recreation so it's both it's
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two things yeah it's not just one yeah and but what's well if you can have a child then surely you
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want to ensure that the person you're having sex with is someone that you would be happy to have and
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raise a child with because because the opposite to that is what we're left with today right i think
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that's more of a we need to be able to kill that that's definitely a female perspective because
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a guy is not going to just have sex with a woman who he's hoping to have a baby with he's just going
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to have sex with a woman because yeah yeah as i got like i i just think like you can wear condoms
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like if you're on okay if i'll give it to you if you have condoms and birth control and you tracked
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your cycle i will give you that l oh but it's like if you didn't do all three things like you're
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because you said it was for you said it was for pleasure and i'm saying if you want to have sex
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for pleasure fine um you can do that but like be careful and and i just think like if you didn't
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do all three of those things like at some point you were irresponsible
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yeah sexual energy as well guys that's a big one like you don't know about this okay
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no because like yeah okay you can wear a condom and it'll protect you and and one way from stds or
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creating life and whatever but no condom is going to protect you from transferring energy it's an
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actual energy exchange ritual if it makes sense ah what were two people become one yeah yeah um i have
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i have a question for you and you don't you don't have to answer this um the the two abortions was it
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the same dad no there's they're two different people yeah um and what made you think you couldn't
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have a kid with those guys um but like what she said it made me realize ruf said it just made me
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realize um this was when i was younger by the way so i've grown up a lot from how old with each one so i was
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17 on the first one and then i was um 23 on the next one um but yeah it just made me realize like
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the the the second the first time like i actually like i was actually having fun right so that made
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me calm down i was like i'm doing that so oh when you say having fun it was like a casual it was a
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casual so it wasn't anyone you're serious with no so okay so then you thought i can't have a kid
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right yeah but but that made me realize right the media is it's those they kind of project that
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onto people that the original family is like the perfect picture right but but it's not true i've
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seen fathers who are not biological and and they have the most amazing beautiful families right so
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um do you think he would have like stuck around or no uh no no okay oh we've spoken about that yeah
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and he he said if you have this i won't be yeah yeah yeah was he angry at you at all
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um i guess yeah there was some sort of like you know pull back pull pulls and whatnot but
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yeah i guess again i was quite immature uh mentally at that time and obviously the second time as well
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it emotionally mentally i was quite immature as well i looked at things differently and then it made me
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realize okay next time i have sex i need to be aware like do i want to have a baby with this person
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do i want to marry this person do i want to you know just all these things sort of come up and i
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was like i really need to think about those decisions and and yeah and what about the second
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guy were you with him or no um yeah the second guy yeah so what made you not want to because it seemed
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like he did he love you or like he was in a relationship with you so the the so we were actually
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together before and then we ended up coming back and then yeah so i wasn't actually with him but
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we ended up coming back and you dated him before yeah and i was it was like my longest relationship
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was he was he a good guy no oh okay no no no he wouldn't have stuck around no he was no okay yeah
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um so you did the same thing yeah did the same thing twice yeah okay exactly so you kind of grow up
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from it you sort of learn the lesson and like i've been celibate for so long now right because i look
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at things so differently now when it comes to sex and it's not just the baby but it's the sexual
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energy is everything is sex is really really sacred people think it's fun but it's how long
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have you been celibate for um if you want it you don't have to answer this if you don't want to
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um well it's it could have been a year but it's now five months but it could have been a year so i had
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a little bleep but yeah okay okay yeah um and then oh you also had an abortion yeah can i ask you about
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it is it okay um what made you think you couldn't have a kid with that guy oh there were a few
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factors actually so um number one was the guy that i was with at the time was more much it was much
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an older guy how old oh gosh that's 26 27 okay that's yeah you were 19 yeah that's not so bad okay
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um or if yeah if my mom was yeah yeah 26 27 or close yeah maybe about close to 30 30 anyway but he was
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much more older than me um and i remember when we discussed the whole i'm pregnant thing we stepped
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out of the doctor's room and he said to me oh you've got your whole life ahead of you um you're too young
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um um so that put me off um and then i had i had a late term abortion um so i was like 20 weeks
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um i had left the country um because i was actually struggling with whether or not i'm making the right
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choice um also it was um just how my peers would view me at the time and
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um my family i have a very strong family unit and the way i was raised um i was raised from in a christian
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home and um i just didn't want to disappoint my mom uh and i remember my my mom at the time she made a
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statement and that really just was like a deal breaker for me i was just like oh if if you feel
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saying it like that because she didn't know outrightly but i think just having a mother's
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intuition she sort of she she knew there was something going on and once she said that i was
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just like oh god i can't do this this is i've at the time i felt like i i wasn't hearing what i wanted
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to hear which was who was going to support me how am i going to cope um and yeah i went ahead and
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went for the abortion um did the guy like do you think he would have stayed if you kept it
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i don't actually know you say actually know or you don't know no i don't i don't know i mean
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i chose not to continue a relationship with him so after my experience so yeah um i'm just curious
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if it was a different guy do you think he would have been more likely to keep it like to both of you
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when you say a different guy i think if it was a different guy who had like a different
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response i would have kept so if he had the response that like i'll be there you can keep it you
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would have you would have kept it yeah i think so yeah okay and what about if it was a guy that you
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were i should you could have could have seen yourself with long term maybe yeah like i shouldn't really
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like it shouldn't really make a difference right but i guess yeah at the time yeah yeah yeah but like
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i said i was quite immature back then even when i had the little bleep now it was actually someone
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that i looked as to the future you know so it was a bit different but um yeah i probably would but
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it shouldn't really come down to that as my point really no i think um that's what they say in like
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red pill that abortion is um the ultimate like hypergamy where it's like women um want to be with
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the like best long-term mate that they can so i'm not really surprised by that answer um can i comment i
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think what it shows as well is that you know that we we call it pro-choice but that choice is never made
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in a vacuum you know it was it was the pressures of those around the thoughts and the and the feelings
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that are particularly the man and in laura's instance her mother as well and even i can say from
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my experience and um when when i got pregnant and i told my family um yeah i mean i was very blessed that
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my um dad said to me um yeah we're gonna be there for you we're gonna support you and i know that that
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like helped me um and so i think it's it is a societal issue and i think this whole pro-choice
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rhetoric rhetoric rhetoric it kind of puts everything on the woman when as a society you know abortion
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impacts society and it is is there's so many pressures there's just so many pressures on the
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woman and the woman's left to deal with a lot herself at that end where you know what of the dad that
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wasn't there to support what of the friends and the family members that weren't there to support
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we often hear uh women say you know if i just had one person that say you can do this or we'll be here
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for you they might have made a different choice yeah um it's interesting the girls i know that have had
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abortions um not i just met you guys so like but like i don't um i don't think it was like like both
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of them came from like pretty wealthy families that could have helped them i just think it was more of
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like life inconvenience to be fair um just at the time but yeah i think support for those women is
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helpful it's not even just money though is it it's emotional support it's just that well because people
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can be rich and and could potentially support but are they you know these rich families can still say
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you know it's gonna look bad on our family or you know there's all those shame elements and um that
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perfect though you touched on that perfect that dream for that perfect family that this is an
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interruption from that and so i just think there's a lot of elements that come into it um i'm gonna read
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super chats and then we'll watch the second video um guys um thank you for this is the most calm um
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ever show i've ever had on abortion i was yeah you guys are great um okay i'm gonna read the super chats
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in one second like the video guys that's the most important metric that youtube uses um to to um push
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out these streams okay um are these women dating with intention now um 90 frito pie please ask the
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panel are you okay with women um aborting babies of a certain race um no more names available one um
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ex-girlfriend got an abortion and i didn't want and i didn't want to i supported her and i saw it in the
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bath and at water and was never the same she didn't care cannot see a kid today and not think about it
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ryan ebwark um and women wonder why men are walking away 90 frito pie i'm pearl youtube censors hard
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i can't write anything close to abortion without adding numbers and symbols is there any other way
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i don't know um numbers guide zero child support and alimony is the state ensuring that the child
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and woman doesn't become a finite financial burden to the state sal the investor if it was a thousand
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men in the trial run 124 died um 59 developed testicular cancer oh it was a thousand men in
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the trial run 120 this is about the male birth control i knew someone in the chat would tell me
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um it was a thousand men in the trial run 124 died 59 developed testicular cancer and a hundred percent
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sterilization programs have been cut by drug makers best contraception is abstinence no bills no
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pills and i got money on both sides um the savvy ninja it's easier to control one egg versus millions
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of soldiers on mo blitz pearl i'm the guy who's been a part of one or two abortions but honestly
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something dies inside of you when you do it you become desensitized to be able to go through the
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trauma of watching your child be diced up um vinnie falico she chose i had no say but i lost the child too
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numbers guy zero i'm pro um personal sovereignty but the outcome stats for abortions are definitely worth
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examining black people are 14 of the u.s population yet 40 of all abortions um at a rate of 400 aborts
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per a thousand live births yeah that's um see we're in the uk so i wasn't going to go too much into that
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but it's actually really messed up when you look at like the history of that stuff in the u.s um the
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forest hearing the answers really proved to me that margaret singer won she has more eugenics and
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empowerment issue and look where we are now the black population will be doubled in the united
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states without this human scourge on the world god save our souls gary grant um there is pro-life
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and pro-death this pro-choice thing is a farce um t is the only term to ease the guilt of murder
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top brass 88 women in the madras shirt i wonder how you feel about ivf and the process where abortion may
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be necessary to help maintain the health of the uterus if a pregnancy were to sinew um we can come as many
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of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform
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