JustPearlyThings - December 29, 2022


Society TREATS Men And Women DIFFERENTLY


Episode Stats


Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

241.90744

Word count

1,948

Sentence count

27

Harmful content

Misogyny

11

sentences flagged

Hate speech

7

sentences flagged


Summary

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In this episode, we have our first guest on the show, and it's a girl who has been through a lot in her life and has had to deal with a lot of trauma. We discuss her journey and how she has dealt with it and how it has shaped her into the woman she is today.

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
00:00:00.000 I mean, I just think there's consequences for your decisions and I just think like that my best advice would be to like lower your standards
00:00:08.400 Like that because because I just think there's gonna be consequences for putting, you know, promiscuous stuff on the internet
00:00:15.760 Okay, and you probably won't get the type of guy that you could have got at 22
00:00:19.920 Do you know what sister? It wasn't meant to be then
00:00:22.080 Do you know what I'll tell you I would say because I'm 30 and I'm single out of a situation that actually is not because I was a
00:00:28.200 And I was doing whatever whatever people can't call me that
00:00:30.240 I made a bad decision to be with somebody that hurt me alone. I stayed for five years
00:00:33.800 I came out super late and do you know what?
00:00:36.240 I realized what my what what I learned is that I know now that I have to be selective and I have to think if me
00:00:42.200 Taking longer to get to that stage is what it takes then that's what it takes
00:00:45.640 You accept your future you accept everything with gratitude because as long as you're breathing
00:00:49.160 That's the most important thing at least you've got your child
00:00:51.520 I am not afraid because I know the quality of woman that I am
00:00:54.440 I know my value regardless of whether I'm 30 40 50 do you understand?
00:00:58.200 So you don't be afraid by other people's time limits and limitations and all of these things because it actually doesn't matter
00:01:03.880 And I'll tell you why now that your value goes down as you know
00:01:06.840 That's according like you know, but i'm saying to men and you have to understand
00:01:10.920 I'll tell you why because since mr
00:01:12.920 Andrew tate explained something about status I understand very well
00:01:16.040 What that actually means and as a woman the quality and the value that I hold for myself is actually the kind of value and quality
00:01:22.040 A man will appreciate the status you'll bring to him whether or not
00:01:24.920 I'm a virgin because i've worked on myself to be a woman of quality and substance
00:01:29.080 I respect myself and I handle myself as such
00:01:31.480 Okay, and that is the way that you're going to actually overcome all of these bad mistakes that you've made because who you are
00:01:36.840 Right now actually will make a difference if you stick to it
00:01:39.720 And if you mean it and if you've always been that way, there's always another another story for everybody
00:01:44.760 It doesn't matter you'll be a fight. No, I'm just got somebody that's more emotionally mature
00:01:47.960 You know, I would just say to you what are you about to say because you just started speaking?
00:01:51.720 I want to say and she said andrew
00:01:54.280 I want to hear I really because because you've been through a lot in your life
00:01:57.640 I like when when she told me that you were going to be on and we were going to be on this panel together
00:02:01.400 I started watching a bunch of your videos and it really was like there's so much
00:02:05.800 That you have been through which is why you have a well of wisdom, right?
00:02:09.640 And the difference between me and you is that you're glorified for it and I am burned at the stake for everything that i've been through
00:02:16.520 And I it's so funny because people have always said that we were two sides of the same coin as far as like
00:02:21.160 Well, if andrew tate gets banned bernie renner should get banned because there's we are all about
00:02:25.960 Accountability and fucking truth, right?
00:02:27.960 Yeah, okay, so you've been through a lot. I've been through a lot. I'm seen as used goods
00:02:32.600 You're seen as a high value man. So if you're me then then what what's next?
00:02:36.360 Yeah, it's really interesting and it's it's interesting you make the observation and you are
00:02:39.480 Correct. That's the difference between the masculine and the feminine. It's kind of it's unfair 0.76
00:02:43.720 I guess the world's not fair
00:02:45.000 But that's the difference between the masculine the feminine men are respected for going through things and surviving and women
00:02:50.440 Are the complete opposite. They're shamed for going through things and surviving if you look at women love scars on men for a reason 1.00
00:02:55.800 He's gone through something here. They're war wounds. Yeah, the war men don't want a chick covered in scars 0.99
00:03:00.360 I'll say this right now that
00:03:03.080 A woman the more trauma she goes through the more masculine she naturally becomes and if you were to give me my ideal woman
00:03:08.680 I would not want of of wanting her to have a hard life and a bunch of trauma 1.00
00:03:12.200 I like the idea for having a soft feminine life and being a soft person and I can take care of her and protect her 1.00
00:03:17.560 Whereas as a man to be a good man
00:03:19.880 You need to have been through a bunch of trauma because if you haven't been through trauma as a man
00:03:23.080 You're a weakling you have to have been through a bunch of shit
00:03:25.240 So the masculine the feminine is very interesting point there as for
00:03:29.400 I don't know. I don't know your history. I don't know the past but we can just talk in general generalizations in regards people like me
00:03:34.520 I guess under the same umbrella. It doesn't have to be personal. I don't know yeah, but we'll give generalizations
00:03:39.480 One of the main reasons that men are scared of a female with history is is because it makes the man insecure
00:03:45.640 And and scared dogs bite 0.97
00:03:48.280 So this is why men will snap or get angry quick or they'll bring up your his if you if you get an argument with him
00:03:54.040 He'll bring up your history that whatever but a lot of it is insecurity and it's not insecurity because the man is insecure the woman
00:03:59.880 The women the female paradigm in society convinces men any man who says anything you're insecure that
00:04:06.280 It's not insecure in that way. It's insecure in a very realistic logical way
00:04:10.600 Like I was saying earlier. She's had a lot of life experience. Let's be honest. Am I the richest guy she's ever had? No
00:04:15.560 Am I the most famous guy she's ever had? No, am I the best looking guy?
00:04:18.600 She's ever had no like what's keeping her here and then part of it comes down to well
00:04:23.240 Am I second place could if she could do better would she do better like there's a whole bunch of insecurity involved
00:04:29.480 And that's where tiny things like i'm talking. I know it sounds like dumb
00:04:33.560 Tiny things about the favorite car brand become more important than ever right
00:04:38.840 And it's it's your job as a woman regardless of how much sexual history you've had or what guy you're with etc
00:04:44.200 It's your job as a woman to make your man feel secure in the fact and make him feel like a man 0.92
00:04:48.360 Like auntie was saying make him feel like the man no matter what he does so that he feels like
00:04:52.440 You really truly believe he's the best choice for you on the planet
00:04:55.960 That's your job to do now
00:04:57.240 Now if you've had a checkered past that's perhaps more difficult
00:05:00.040 You need to be more tactful with it more tactical about it, but you have to achieve the same result
00:05:04.600 You have to do the exact same thing, right?
00:05:06.680 So yeah
00:05:07.560 It's easy for me
00:05:09.560 If I get a a 21 year old virgin from some village in slovakia and i'm multi-millionaire andrew tate
00:05:17.240 Of course, it's a very easy she's never had better. She'll never get better
00:05:20.760 She's never been anywhere boom boom easy one, right?
00:05:23.480 But like you said the world's not so so so idealistic the reality is that people have had relationships, etc, etc
00:05:29.560 But a man is happiest in the relationship when he feels like man in the house and when he truly feels like
00:05:34.200 You believe
00:05:35.560 He's the best man that you could possibly ever get and have ever gotten because a man is jealous
00:05:40.760 I'll tell you something
00:05:42.360 I used to say this to girls. It's like a joke 0.93
00:05:44.680 And I used to say
00:05:46.040 No, I said it's a joke. So you cheated on me before I met you 0.71
00:05:49.400 And she was like, what do you mean? I didn't even know you
00:05:51.000 It's like yeah, you fucked that guy before I even knew you you cheated on me 0.83
00:05:53.880 And they used to laugh whatever but that's how men think
00:05:56.760 That's the male mind like I love you and you've been fucked by who but I didn't know you
00:06:01.240 I don't care if you knew me. You should have waited. What do you mean? But that's the male mind 1.00
00:06:06.120 So he is it competition with all of your exes and all of your lifestyle and all the things you've done
00:06:11.800 Permanently and it's down to you as a woman to sit there and go 1.00
00:06:14.280 How do I make him secure in himself and secure in his masculinity and make him believe that investing in me is still worthwhile?
00:06:20.200 Because I still truly value him
00:06:22.600 Despite the fact that I could do xyz. I hope that gives some clarity, but that's that's the answer
00:06:27.400 You know what I would have said I would have said
00:06:29.240 Or for anybody in that situation come off social media and just raise your child
00:06:33.720 So the next the person who meets you has got nothing to
00:06:36.840 But I never knew you I never knew who you were because I don't I've never heard of you before so when I spoke to you
00:06:44.120 By the way people by the way you're saying like what's also on the internet
00:06:50.680 Let me say you're a nicer person than what you sound like like what you perceive to be
00:06:55.720 Like you were saying oh that pearls got oh there she's a whore she's a whore and I've heard I've heard the name 1.00
00:06:59.960 But I don't know anything about you and I was saying that if you didn't have nothing on social media about your checkered past
00:07:05.720 And you met somebody the same way how I met you and I converse and I got to know you is the same way that they would
00:07:11.240 Yeah, and and and it is interesting and it's also back to the masculine feminine, right?
00:07:15.000 Because I'm all over the internet and supposedly I'm misogynist and I'm evil and all this crap, right?
00:07:19.080 But if I meet a girl, even if she disagrees with me, in fact, i'll say this i've never ever met a single female
00:07:25.720 Who's ever come up to me and disagree with me every woman comes up to me and loves what I says 0.58
00:07:28.520 But let's imagine I met this imaginary girl. She was sitting me and if I were to have a 10-minute conversation with her 0.77
00:07:32.920 By the time I explained the level to which they tried to destroy me how they tried to freeze all my bank accounts
00:07:37.640 Raise illegal charges against me put me in jail for things
00:07:39.880 I didn't do put a travel ban take my passport all this garbage by the time I explain how hard they tried to hurt me and failed
00:07:45.480 She'll want me as many of you know, I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform
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