JustPearlyThings - June 05, 2023


Steve Harvey Single Handedly Lied To Modern Women


Episode Stats

Length

7 minutes

Words per Minute

210.96887

Word Count

1,681

Sentence Count

3


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 women definitely need to be held accountable definitely because i do think like tate said
00:00:05.800 we are the ones creating the problems for each other because if you're opening your legs to any
00:00:10.400 man now then they don't even feel the need to get married anymore because they're like
00:00:14.300 well i can just get sex like it's so easy however that what i'm just trying to say is
00:00:19.320 don't we can't just put it on the women because these men are the ones sleeping with them
00:00:23.980 but i'm saying for 50 for 50 years we have put it on the men okay there's there's a lot of little
00:00:29.400 things in society you guys probably don't even notice and i didn't either before i started like
00:00:33.900 really listening to what men say like if you say she got knocked up it sounds like something that
00:00:39.240 happened to her not a choice she made who knocked her up he did we always put the blame on the men
00:00:43.800 it's it's very new this is a new type of content where you put any accountability on women watch
00:00:49.200 watch some early 2000s like steve harvey dating no watch watch some early 2000s steve harvey dating
00:00:56.520 advice where these women come up to him and like he just says oh like even even the idea of oh you
00:01:02.380 intimidate guys no there's probably something about you that guys don't like and and that's just being
00:01:08.360 honest um sweet feminine girls don't intimidate anybody there's probably something about you guys
00:01:14.120 don't like um and then on top of that it's like i just think men are never allowed to have standards
00:01:21.520 like even every time a man has a standard he's shamed for it so if they say oh i like thin women
00:01:26.480 i like pure women they say he's slut shaming body shaming it's not the same for for for women
00:01:32.880 can i just go back to your other point about the fact that um we always put it on men so i don't agree
00:01:40.200 with that because again i did a lot of research into this so 90 of single motherhood it's a woman
00:01:47.000 so in a single parent home it's a woman that is the single parent how can you say that we're always
00:01:54.120 putting it on men when women are the ones stepping up for their kid so i'll tell you you're right you're
00:02:00.120 right 90 90 of women are awarded custody like i've actually talked to divorce like lawyers about this
00:02:06.240 they say they love representing women in court it's much easier for women than it is for men i'm not
00:02:11.600 saying it's easy either way like court is tough but i'm saying but i'm saying fight for it and i'm
00:02:16.660 saying i'm saying i've actually i know someone that went through this where he was trying to get like
00:02:21.720 custody of his children and it's very hard because once if he leaves the home then she can not let him
00:02:27.980 see like not let him see his kids for say six months so with this guy it was like she kicked him like
00:02:33.400 like they were fighting whatever he left so because because she wanted him out of the house
00:02:38.520 i'm gonna clarify he wanted to be a part of his kids lives what happened was because of covid his
00:02:43.280 court date kept moving like they kept moving it back and what happened was she went to court and
00:02:47.720 said he hasn't been around for eight months he hasn't been around for a year and he'd been trying
00:02:52.760 the whole time and so it's like there's a lot of situations where men want custody of their
00:02:57.660 children and they can't get it and there's even men that kill themselves because she leaves she
00:03:02.560 takes half of their his assets and he takes the kids and he doesn't have access to their kids
00:03:07.320 like there's a whole it's like men's rights activists you probably never heard of them they
00:03:11.560 talk about these issues where like men there's a guy in ohio in the u.s he his um his girlfriend or
00:03:19.700 whatever had a baby and she gave the kid up for adoption he wanted the kid he had no rights to his
00:03:24.520 kid stuff like that happens all the time but nobody and i don't and and so when you say when you say
00:03:29.800 ninety percent like my thing is like we don't think about why don't they have access to their
00:03:34.300 children and also what would you rather let me ask you because you got a son would you rather leave
00:03:39.340 your child with a babysitter that is a woman or babysitter that is a man a babysitter yeah a
00:03:44.680 babysitter nanny whatever a woman or a man i mean i would probably prefer a woman exactly exactly
00:03:51.440 because at the end of the day this although i understand what you're trying to get at we can't
00:03:56.300 just put it on women and everything like that but we also have to understand we as women we've got
00:04:00.440 different talents and gifts okay and i think that's kind of like what a lot of men are trying
00:04:04.540 to get at is like you have a certain talent which is the power to attract which means you can get
00:04:10.160 basically any guy that you want if you're easy enough okay so i do understand the rhetoric of saying
00:04:17.640 be more selective because you as a woman got way more power in your hands to create that interaction
00:04:23.280 than a man would fine self-control take your power with responsibility as a woman yes naturally you
00:04:31.060 will stay with your child because you're more nurturing that's your natural gift that still
00:04:34.500 doesn't mean that a woman is to be excused by it for everything again for the sake of argument right
00:04:40.300 here and also because you've put me in this position where i actually want to stand against
00:04:43.520 you i will say men and women both are equally entitled to complain about what is going on
00:04:49.200 because both are messing up a lot of women they are not fit to take care of their children but
00:04:55.740 because of the bitterness and anger they have towards the relationship that didn't work out
00:05:00.100 they make their child suffer they take advantage of the fact that they're a woman and they mark their
00:05:04.700 man that is not okay there's a there's and like women let's just be honest like women are spiteful
00:05:10.080 when they hate a man they hate and i'm not saying all women i'm not saying every person does this
00:05:14.640 but it's like women will use the kids as a pawn and what what happens is a lot of times even kanye
00:05:20.860 that happened in front of us he he his his um another thing they'll do is they can move states
00:05:26.680 and the father has no say if they gave the woman's like primary custody um and i'm not saying like i
00:05:32.400 know all the ins and outs of the laws this is just like from talking to divorce attorneys
00:05:35.860 and it's like um it's just like men their issues are not brought to the forefront and it's really
00:05:44.760 sad that like you know a lot of times a big issue is men committing suicide after divorce there is a
00:05:50.160 guy um i just learned this the other day so i'm probably going to butcher it but our whole job most
00:05:55.020 of the domestic violence laws are based off of a system that automatically assumes that the woman's the
00:05:59.980 victim and in the u.s and so it's like a lot of men like most when you talk to people that have
00:06:05.620 actually worked in domestic violence most domestic violence situations are mutually abusive where the
00:06:10.860 man and the woman are hitting each other and and the men still get put away and the woman don't
00:06:16.500 a woman can just call the cops and like uh a cop can come will come in and automatically based on
00:06:21.780 their training assume that the woman's the victim okay wait uh again advocate for women that go through
00:06:29.540 these situations i don't know what the stats tell you i don't know what the stats are not telling
00:06:36.920 you because these things you cannot actually regulate because a lot of things go and it's
00:06:40.800 from um can i just just just to give you perspective it's from people that work with these couples and
00:06:46.040 that work at women's shelters will tell you this well so much so much so much so that they're like
00:06:51.040 there is um the three feminists that came up with the the system that the justice and i'm butchering
00:06:56.480 this but it's like the system that the justice system is built on that automatically assumes the
00:07:00.460 woman's the victim they were saying that even in their practice it wasn't what they saw that they
00:07:04.900 were saying you know what it's actually mutually abusive sorry go ahead go ahead well i was just
00:07:09.780 going to say that when it comes to domestic abuse i believe that women are inherently more vulnerable
00:07:17.540 to be in that situation because when a woman does commit and this is why men get upset that women
00:07:23.880 cheat because when a woman commits to a man she gives herself emotionally when you attach to
00:07:29.060 yourself to somebody emotionally now you are a victim to all of these things whereas men as
00:07:33.300 andrew tate very quite rightly said he's got the decision whether he wants to make you 10 out of
00:07:37.500 10 happy or 5 out of 10 happy and keep you crying here and there because it is true that once men get
00:07:43.360 a woman to fall in love with them they've got the power that's also what men don't understand
00:07:47.140 and that's how they mess about and that's why domestic violence i believe is so prevalent
00:07:51.120 amongst women being the victims the victims instead of being the perpetrators although there are cases
00:07:56.660 of course that women do take the picture