JustPearlyThings - July 01, 2023


Successful Woman DESTROYS All Boss Babes With This Fact


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Length

10 minutes

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189.46211

Word count

1,895

Sentence count

176

Harmful content

Misogyny

16

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Toxicity

4

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Hate speech

9

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about how important it is to have a man in your life. We talk about the importance of having a man on your back and how important is it to have someone on your side to keep you safe and secure.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 In my business, I was in Forbes, one of the most successful entrepreneurs in Bulgaria and men helped me to make business.
00:00:07.140 I very respect men.
00:00:08.960 Yes, thank you.
00:00:10.300 No, no, no.
00:00:11.020 Thank you.
00:00:11.760 Because most women that are actually successful. 1.00
00:00:15.700 Men help me. 0.99
00:00:16.940 Men help me. 0.99
00:00:17.700 I know, but we will always acknowledge.
00:00:20.260 I can always tell the boss, babe, do it on my own.
00:00:24.200 That mentality as a woman will get you nowhere in business. 1.00
00:00:27.440 I am where I am at because I've listened to men smarter than me.
00:00:31.860 You know, I was many years until today in media business and has the first show about sex in Bulgaria.
00:00:40.800 And a man like Larry King here in Bulgaria, he invited me and together with him we make our TV show.
00:00:46.440 It was a revolution because never people speak about sex so openly.
00:00:50.760 And after him, I has many projects about coaching psychology.
00:00:55.300 But always, I remember that men helps me.
00:00:58.360 You cannot make successful business if not have men on your back. 0.98
00:01:01.920 My husband helped me.
00:01:03.560 My friends helped me.
00:01:05.520 Men helped me always.
00:01:06.780 Well, and do you know what I realized too?
00:01:08.580 Do you know what I hate?
00:01:09.840 And I hate this to my core. 0.90
00:01:10.940 Women that think they're better than men because they make more money. 1.00
00:01:14.300 Because, just because it's like, I make a lot for a girl, right?
00:01:17.620 But, well, I mean, I do well and I make more than a lot of men.
00:01:21.140 But I'm not better than the guy that built the building.
00:01:23.660 Because I wouldn't be able to do any of this without men.
00:01:27.100 But it's like we have made women's lives so comfortable that we don't realize we need men. 0.82
00:01:31.920 I need a man when they, to protect me if anyone breaks in.
00:01:35.800 I need a man to build the building.
00:01:37.080 I need a man to do the plumbing. 1.00
00:01:38.280 I need a man to do the electricity. 0.99
00:01:39.680 I need a man to invent stuff. 0.89
00:01:41.040 It's like, successful women cannot do what they do without men. 0.99
00:01:46.080 And so, it irritates me to my core when we get to a certain point and then shit on them as a thank you. 0.99
00:01:51.620 Because we couldn't get there in the first place. 0.97
00:01:53.800 One example I see of this is like Chelsea Handler. 0.95
00:01:57.360 You know, she's turned into like a man hater. 1.00
00:01:59.840 When she couldn't even do comedy without the microphone.
00:02:02.620 She couldn't do comedy without the building.
00:02:04.740 She couldn't do comedy without Ticketmaster, which was invented by a man.
00:02:08.540 Oh, wait, you can unmute her, Mike.
00:02:11.040 That was a girl from earlier. 0.99
00:02:13.440 Go ahead, go ahead, go ahead.
00:02:14.600 No, I totally agree with you.
00:02:17.060 Like, we cannot work in isolation and say, is it working?
00:02:21.960 Yeah, it is.
00:02:22.680 Yeah, we can hear you now.
00:02:23.320 Okay.
00:02:23.960 So, having six brothers and around men all my life, like, you know, even now when I'm single, I've got so many men friends.
00:02:33.260 And there are things in my house, like, if the balcony is changing or that fish thing has broken, I always say, oh, I wish there's a man there or somebody or I call a man to come and do the job.
00:02:47.380 And definitely this world can't, you know, work without them.
00:02:53.000 And equally, like, you know, for us women, definitely there is like an element of they bring protection, they bring security. 0.97
00:03:02.820 They are more stronger, which I feel like even in my religion, if you look at Muslim as a religion, we pray behind men. 0.63
00:03:11.520 And I love that about it because there is a sense of, like, security.
00:03:17.280 We are emotional.
00:03:18.400 We are emotional.
00:03:19.740 We need to be taken care by men. 1.00
00:03:22.140 Like, you know, brought up with six brothers, I have that, you know, I have that thing of it gives you strength, actually.
00:03:30.560 It really does.
00:03:31.880 Like, you know, so there is no going back about a woman can, no, we can't. 1.00
00:03:38.880 No, we literally can't.
00:03:40.280 We just literally can't.
00:03:41.340 And the crazy thing in all of history, we have not needed women in the workforce.
00:03:45.500 Yeah, we have not.
00:03:46.280 I'm not saying there are not exceptions.
00:03:47.660 There are.
00:03:48.160 But as a whole, we have not needed them.
00:03:50.220 So why do we think now is different?
00:03:52.540 Like, why is now special?
00:03:57.300 That's a very good question.
00:03:58.760 I think, obviously, because we it's just the mindset has changed to.
00:04:06.080 So we we we like a lot of people say to me, you're very strong woman and you're very powerful woman.
00:04:14.200 And it just sometimes I was like, no, I'm not.
00:04:17.460 I need I need this kind of help.
00:04:19.580 But it's just the more people say that to me, you're very strong.
00:04:22.860 The more I get labeled as somebody.
00:04:26.100 Oh, a man doesn't need to take care of. 0.99
00:04:27.760 In fact, in my last relationship, I felt like that's what happened, that he perceived me as so strong that he's just like, you don't need me.
00:04:36.400 And I'm like, I do like, but it's just the way positioning of, OK, I have to be responsible for my kids.
00:04:42.600 I'm living on my own, you know, that kind of thing.
00:04:46.280 And it's it's it's like it's that perception.
00:04:48.860 How do you.
00:04:50.620 My question is how, as a woman, you balance it all that you can still go out like being a finance director of a company. 0.99
00:04:58.080 I didn't choose that career.
00:05:00.020 I I fell into from and then I started loving finance and numbers and I'm passionate about it.
00:05:06.400 To make a difference at workplace, et cetera.
00:05:10.100 But I don't necessarily call myself.
00:05:13.940 I'm I'm a career woman.
00:05:15.880 Yeah, I would love to be at home and be someone's wise and serve him.
00:05:19.980 That's what I did for 18 years with the men I was with.
00:05:22.840 It's just there was no communication.
00:05:25.140 There was nothing there in the sense of I don't I don't I just don't get that.
00:05:30.040 I know.
00:05:30.520 I think what happened, he told culture, isn't it?
00:05:33.600 It's the Pakistani.
00:05:34.740 I think.
00:05:35.140 I think what happened and what he shared with me in the end was why he didn't communicate with me from from literally the wedding night is he thought he's bringing a girl from I think he wasn't ready to get married.
00:05:49.300 And he was pushed into it because they wanted the younger brother to get married.
00:05:53.460 So he married a girl from Pakistan who couldn't even wear it because he wanted me to wear heels to fly back here.
00:06:01.300 Like, you know, on my plane journey back and my father in law had the keys for the suitcase and bags and I did go to my father and I said, can I have so I can take the heels out and he said, no, it's all closed.
00:06:13.780 So this man, he decided not to talk to me on the whole plane journey.
00:06:19.480 And at that time, I realized I'm married a complete stranger.
00:06:22.000 He's not even talking to me and I'm going to his country.
00:06:24.620 So like in 18, I just thought you didn't have a conversation in 18 years.
00:06:28.580 Well, yeah.
00:06:29.560 Other than, OK, here's the food.
00:06:32.080 Here is this nothing, nothing about future.
00:06:34.340 Nothing.
00:06:35.040 That's what what made me like, you know, I got myself busy.
00:06:38.140 Yeah.
00:06:38.460 The only reason is the story doesn't make sense.
00:06:41.240 But what he told me in the end was his words were, I married a girl from a village and you don't know how to have a conversation is his sentence.
00:06:52.660 I don't know what he was dealing with.
00:06:54.240 I still think he was he's a great human being because he didn't do anything wrong in the sense of he didn't go and cheated on me.
00:07:01.820 He didn't he wasn't a drinker, nothing like that.
00:07:05.360 But I think there was a communication gap between us and I wasn't like how I'm talking today.
00:07:12.560 You have met me 10 years ago.
00:07:14.700 I was a very quiet.
00:07:16.440 I actually enjoy when he comes home, get the dinner ready.
00:07:21.120 House should be super clean.
00:07:22.240 My kids should be in bed.
00:07:23.520 I love nurturing that motherly instinct.
00:07:25.820 Even like hearing this, I just don't hear a real reason for divorce.
00:07:29.980 Yeah.
00:07:30.240 Yeah.
00:07:30.460 It was more of when I married him, he was in financial debt and he keep getting himself into financial debt.
00:07:39.620 Okay.
00:07:39.880 So it was more finance.
00:07:41.440 It's more finance for him.
00:07:43.260 He was really into branded stuff and then he loses contract.
00:07:47.560 And I always go and support him.
00:07:49.260 Like I went out, worked, paid his debt off.
00:07:51.800 Okay.
00:07:52.140 So it was money.
00:07:53.100 It was keep, I keep building him and it was keep going down.
00:07:57.160 And I think it has an impact on me.
00:08:00.060 Like there was no stability with the two kids.
00:08:02.820 And I then made a decision and I said, it's not healthy for him.
00:08:06.400 Do you know what confuses me?
00:08:08.780 Because like, wouldn't it still be more expensive because then it's two rents instead of one?
00:08:13.280 He went back to his mom's house.
00:08:15.220 Oh, okay.
00:08:15.760 And he didn't financially.
00:08:18.140 Not, I'm just curious because I just hear this stuff a lot.
00:08:21.460 And like a lot of times it just doesn't make sense to me.
00:08:24.180 And it is not like I have tried to like five years, I give it back and forth, back and forth.
00:08:28.740 And I even promised his mother once, he's never coming back.
00:08:32.020 I'm taking care of him.
00:08:33.360 Yeah.
00:08:33.540 But I think at one point.
00:08:34.300 Okay.
00:08:34.320 So he was like a son husband.
00:08:35.740 Yeah, exactly.
00:08:36.520 But having two kids and him, three of them with financial pressures, I felt like I broke down in that stage.
00:08:43.260 And I said, I can't do this anymore.
00:08:45.720 Can I say something?
00:08:46.740 We're going to react.
00:08:48.960 I'm going to read super chats right now.
00:08:50.560 And then we're going to react to a video, which I wanted to do earlier.
00:08:54.500 But, you know, this is conversation got a little derailed.
00:08:58.600 I will say that is my weakness as a host sometimes is controlling the craziest.
00:09:03.880 Myron does a really great job.
00:09:05.260 It's harder than you think.
00:09:06.480 I used to think Myron was really harsh on the women.
00:09:10.220 I really did.
00:09:11.300 But he does such a great job of, like, keeping everyone in line much better than me.
00:09:15.620 Let me tell you.
00:09:16.460 Go ahead.
00:09:16.840 No, I mean, I would say my experience on Fresh and Fit and then my experience here with you,
00:09:22.280 you and Myron have a lot in common.
00:09:24.600 I think.
00:09:25.360 I think you guys, the way you are, you both, you know, run a really clean operation.
00:09:30.220 Yeah, well, I just meant he does such a good job of, like, he does such a good job of not letting
00:09:34.600 people, like, over talk each other.
00:09:36.340 Yeah.
00:09:36.540 Like, that whole thing would not have gone on, like, half as long if he was, you know what I'm saying?
00:09:40.880 No, but you go hard, though, too, to your credit.
00:09:43.200 Yeah, both of you go hard.
00:09:44.560 Both of you are welcoming, too, so.
00:09:45.960 Yeah.
00:09:46.620 Okay, so I'm going to read the super chats right now.
00:09:50.700 Glenn Lawrence is in the chat.
00:09:53.100 Okay, guys.
00:09:54.640 Like the video.
00:09:55.460 How many likes are we at right now, King?
00:09:57.900 I just accidentally exited out.
00:09:59.460 How many likes we got?