JustPearlyThings - June 14, 2023


Tate's Thoughts On Christianity


Episode Stats

Length

11 minutes

Words per Minute

212.5924

Word Count

2,502

Sentence Count

207

Misogynist Sentences

7

Hate Speech Sentences

14


Summary

In this episode, I sit down with my friend Andrew to talk about his experience as a Muslim-American living in the United States. We talk about what it means to be a Muslim in the 21st century, what it's like to grow up in a Christian country, and how to navigate our relationship with religion.


Transcript

00:00:00.200 Yeah, it's the most feared. But what is respect without fear?
00:00:04.120 Do we respect men we don't fear?
00:00:06.620 If there's a man who could do absolutely nothing to you on any level at all,
00:00:10.540 you might be nice to him, sure, because we're not bad people,
00:00:13.460 but would you really respect them?
00:00:15.620 If you could take his chick in front of his face and set his car on fire,
00:00:19.960 and he wouldn't do a thing. You wouldn't respect them.
00:00:21.140 You might be nice to him because we're not bullies, but you wouldn't respect them.
00:00:24.140 Respect and fear are linked.
00:00:25.600 They're not always the same thing, and you can maybe have fear without respect,
00:00:28.620 but it's very hard to have respect without fear.
00:00:30.900 But also, I heard someone say once that we see the world as we see ourselves.
00:00:35.060 If you're a thief, you think everyone's a thief.
00:00:36.780 If you're a liar, you think everyone's a liar.
00:00:38.660 And I kind of agree with that. I understood that.
00:00:41.480 I also like to think we see religion as we see ourselves.
00:00:44.180 I like to see myself as a person whose respect you have to earn.
00:00:46.780 I like to see myself as a person who has strong, rigid boundaries.
00:00:49.200 I like to see myself as a person who will stand up and say, no, that's wrong.
00:00:51.760 I like to see myself as a person who's not afraid of being shamed by whatever community
00:00:54.900 for saying, I don't agree with that particular ideal.
00:00:56.800 I like seeing myself that way.
00:00:59.100 So if I'm going to see myself that way, then I'm going to naturally align with a religion
00:01:01.660 that operates within that form.
00:01:04.060 So when I say Islam is the last religion on earth, I say it because it seems to be the
00:01:08.760 only one who will stand up and say, no, we don't care.
00:01:12.280 No, that's not what the book says.
00:01:14.580 No, I was raised Christian and Muslims as a whole, we have no problems with Christians.
00:01:19.720 None at all.
00:01:20.420 I don't want anyone to think I'm anti-Christian, like I dislike Christians.
00:01:23.080 We don't have a problem with Christians.
00:01:23.900 We believe in a lot of the same things.
00:01:25.940 We believe in Jesus.
00:01:26.800 We put more respect on the name of Jesus than most Christians do.
00:01:30.020 I just don't like the idea of people saying they're a Christian and saying, but because
00:01:33.320 I'm a Christian, I can do whatever I want and throw all the rules away and none of it matters
00:01:35.900 because once you have that level of tolerance, you no longer have a religion.
00:01:38.700 Islam seems to be the last religion left with parameters.
00:01:40.840 If you don't have parameters, you don't have a religion at all.
00:01:42.160 So the closer I found myself to God, the closer I found myself to Islam.
00:01:47.580 That's just how it ended.
00:01:49.020 And Andrew, speaking of fear, one could argue that Islam these days, certainly in the last
00:01:53.700 20 years with the war on terror, they've also been the most vilified.
00:01:56.760 Absolutely.
00:01:57.360 Right?
00:01:57.740 So, you know, everything that we've seen happen with extremism and everything that's going
00:02:03.520 on all over the world.
00:02:04.660 How are you grappling with that?
00:02:06.200 You've been a Christian for years now.
00:02:08.580 You know, Islam, everything.
00:02:10.180 And you know what?
00:02:10.700 You know what?
00:02:11.100 That's such an interesting question because when I was younger, especially when I was
00:02:14.380 an atheist, I would sit and I'd sit and think, people are really doing terror attacks and
00:02:20.480 doing all this crazy stuff because, you know, they're upset over a cartoon.
00:02:23.460 That's so stupid.
00:02:24.440 And nobody should kill anybody.
00:02:25.720 Nobody should kill anybody.
00:02:26.400 Charlie Hebdo, everything.
00:02:27.620 Nobody should kill anybody.
00:02:29.100 Nobody should kill anybody.
00:02:30.360 I'll make that very clear.
00:02:31.680 But also part of me is now saying, why would you want to insult the prophet for billions
00:02:38.400 of people?
00:02:38.840 Why would you want to do that?
00:02:40.840 I'm not saying you, I'm not even, I don't want to make the argument against free speech.
00:02:43.620 I'm not even saying you couldn't be allowed to.
00:02:44.740 This is a sensitive subject.
00:02:45.760 I'm just saying, what kind of person wakes up and thinks, I want to do that?
00:02:50.260 I don't know.
00:02:50.940 I just don't think that's a healthy mindset.
00:02:52.380 Like when I see these Satanists and they're, especially in America and they're doing,
00:02:55.880 let's keep it on Christianity.
00:02:57.320 These Satanists and they're dressing up Jesus is gay and all this stuff like that's not done
00:03:02.340 in any kind of good faith.
00:03:04.260 Yeah.
00:03:04.440 There's no good reason to do that.
00:03:06.360 That's done with genuinely malicious intention.
00:03:09.400 Yep.
00:03:10.020 And what kind of people want to do that?
00:03:11.960 And then the answer by extension is, I thought America was a Christian country.
00:03:16.100 So how can you have a Christian country where the prophets of the religion are mocked to
00:03:21.520 the highest possible levels within the confines of the country and it's promoted?
00:03:27.400 Is that a Christian country?
00:03:29.240 Doesn't seem a Christian country to me.
00:03:31.140 I don't think the same thing would happen with Islam in Saudi Arabia.
00:03:33.380 I can't imagine that.
00:03:34.400 No.
00:03:35.080 So how can you say we're a Christian country, but everyone's mocking our God on the streets?
00:03:40.800 Ha, ha, ha.
00:03:41.640 Do you think, I have a personal theory that the downfall of America, because it is absolutely
00:03:48.600 downfalling, is directly connected to America straying away from Christian values.
00:03:56.920 Yeah.
00:03:57.860 I agree with you.
00:03:59.000 Yeah.
00:03:59.180 I think that the more you make a country godless, the more they do godless things.
00:04:05.960 And it's like when you raise, like we're raising the next generation, you know what's crazy?
00:04:09.860 We're raising the next generation of kids to spend 30 minutes with their family a day.
00:04:14.580 So who's raising them?
00:04:15.580 The state.
00:04:16.600 Yeah.
00:04:16.780 You go to school, they spend eight hours in indoctrination machines.
00:04:20.860 Yeah.
00:04:21.300 You, then, you know, you might go home and then you might go to a practice, a music, whatever
00:04:27.700 your thing is, theater, whatever.
00:04:29.220 So now you're spending time with, again, people that are not your family.
00:04:32.520 So it's like the parents aren't even the number one influence on the kids anymore.
00:04:36.300 Yeah.
00:04:36.660 They're friends and whoever the hell's teaching them, which a lot of times is these single
00:04:40.040 childless women.
00:04:41.720 Like I've heard from so many men, they don't date teachers because they're nuts.
00:04:45.340 Yeah.
00:04:45.740 Oh yeah.
00:04:46.080 Well, I mean, for me, I get, I catch a lot of flack sometimes because I say when I marry
00:04:50.160 my wife that I don't want her to work.
00:04:53.640 I want her to be a state.
00:04:54.940 I want to be a full time mother and wife because who like, God knows who these people in the
00:05:02.880 daycare are.
00:05:03.520 You're just like, oh, what's this like sunshine daycare.
00:05:06.360 Okay.
00:05:06.600 Like, you're going to take care of my kids.
00:05:08.320 Sure.
00:05:08.760 Have you seen like that one daycare when they like gave the kids like Hulk hands and they
00:05:13.800 had like a, like a fight club going on in the daycare.
00:05:16.600 You have no idea what's going on with these people, let alone these teachers teaching
00:05:21.120 your students or teaching your kids, you know?
00:05:23.600 Well, I can't even think of, it's like weird when you get older and you think back to conversations
00:05:28.240 adult adults had with you as a kid.
00:05:30.380 And you're like, why were they talking to me about that?
00:05:33.780 What do you mean?
00:05:34.140 What's the example?
00:05:34.680 Um, like I had one teacher that showed, uh, CNN kids and this was at a Catholic school.
00:05:42.100 Why is she, I had another teacher tell her, this is kind of a random thing, but it's like
00:05:46.360 an indoctrination, but I remember it.
00:05:48.180 It was like, she said that business, like that she sees the price difference.
00:05:52.400 It was like an economics teacher or something.
00:05:54.620 She sees the price difference between the, the Walmart and the rich neighborhoods and the
00:05:59.240 Walmart and the poor neighborhoods.
00:06:00.660 And she thinks it's so mean that the business owners charge the poor neighborhoods more.
00:06:06.000 Oh, I thought it would be the opposite.
00:06:07.480 No, because people steal in the poor neighborhoods.
00:06:09.700 So it raises the price.
00:06:10.980 That's why.
00:06:11.720 Yeah.
00:06:12.440 That's because I looked into it later, but the point is she's putting her moral, like
00:06:16.240 her, her obvious philosophy onto kids where it's like, and I know it seems small, but
00:06:22.540 I could think of like, or even adult teachers talking to us about like, like I remember, um,
00:06:28.260 I wasn't really invited to many parties in high school, but, but I did throw one, my
00:06:32.840 senior year of high school.
00:06:34.060 I did.
00:06:34.400 I got caught though.
00:06:35.620 Yeah.
00:06:35.760 At your parents' house?
00:06:36.860 Yeah.
00:06:37.260 You know what's crazy?
00:06:37.880 You and your 19 siblings?
00:06:39.420 You don't know.
00:06:39.960 I'll tell you what happened every summer.
00:06:41.540 So I would play volleyball and it was really competitive.
00:06:44.560 Like all of my teammates went to a division one.
00:06:46.880 Like it was a very, we were top like 20 or 30 in the country for club.
00:06:51.120 Like we were, it was a really competitive team.
00:06:52.900 And so my parents every summer would leave for like a month and I would be home in this
00:06:57.380 big house for a month.
00:06:59.540 I never did anything until my senior year.
00:07:02.500 I was like this one time I got caught.
00:07:05.220 Yeah.
00:07:05.480 It was, you know, it was crazy.
00:07:07.800 Oh my gosh.
00:07:08.380 So my senior year, I finally, like, I was kind of, I played volleyball and basketball.
00:07:14.780 So I did two sports, so I would go to school and I would have, I don't know, four, like
00:07:22.520 four hours of, I would go to school and then I'd have four hours of practice.
00:07:25.420 My school was 30 minutes away.
00:07:26.960 My practice was 45.
00:07:27.960 So I spent like, I've just always been really busy since I was, I was a kid.
00:07:32.360 And so what happened was my senior year, I finally had like a friend group because I
00:07:36.900 was so busy.
00:07:37.620 I just didn't.
00:07:38.140 And we would also travel out of state on the weekend.
00:07:40.660 So like a weekend I'd be in Vegas.
00:07:42.920 The next weekend I'd be like, I'd be traveling.
00:07:44.860 For sports?
00:07:45.440 Yes.
00:07:45.860 Yes.
00:07:46.100 Because it was travel volleyball.
00:07:47.820 So senior year, I finally get a friend group, right?
00:07:51.100 And this was kind of new to me.
00:07:52.160 I usually just had like two or three friends.
00:07:54.460 And so I'm like, all right, I'm going to throw a party.
00:07:56.960 My mom won't find out.
00:07:58.120 She's gone for a month.
00:07:59.520 Like she's not going to know one day in the whole month.
00:08:02.240 I invite, it wasn't even that big.
00:08:03.820 My mom thinks it was a rager.
00:08:05.800 Mom, if you're watching, it was like 20, 25 people.
00:08:08.960 Not bad.
00:08:09.280 I could have, I could have had a huge, you know, and so what happened was we did the
00:08:14.560 party.
00:08:15.200 It was good.
00:08:16.120 We cleaned up.
00:08:16.900 I left.
00:08:17.400 And what happened was I went to my parents' house in like their other house and I met them.
00:08:22.760 Does that make sense?
00:08:23.580 Yeah.
00:08:23.660 Yeah.
00:08:23.800 And what I didn't know was, um, my, when my dad came back, he found a garbage bag full
00:08:29.640 of beer cans, but do you know what?
00:08:32.100 The weird thing was we didn't drink beer.
00:08:34.040 So that, that's what I said.
00:08:35.420 I was so confused.
00:08:36.480 Cause I'm like, they, like my parents must be making this up because I know I did not buy
00:08:42.180 beer for this party.
00:08:43.240 I don't like beer.
00:08:44.460 And so this was like the first year I ever dread, like the first.
00:08:49.760 Yeah.
00:08:50.320 And, and so what happened was my friends in high, this is why, you know, you can't have
00:08:56.560 too many friends.
00:08:57.240 My friends in high school came back cause they knew I was leaving and threw another party and
00:09:05.180 they didn't clean it up.
00:09:06.840 And so then that, that went through my mom going through all of my text messages, my dad.
00:09:14.600 Yeah.
00:09:15.140 Oh, I'm going to tell you, this is the worst part.
00:09:17.680 I'm going to say it online.
00:09:19.000 So, you know, I really have never been a big smoker, you know, but I, this was the first
00:09:24.660 time I ever smoked weed ever.
00:09:26.380 So they bring the weed over.
00:09:27.820 Right.
00:09:28.680 And they, and I hated it.
00:09:30.680 I tried it and I was like, and so my friends took a picture of me going like, like, cause I
00:09:35.300 didn't like it.
00:09:36.260 But my dad now thinks I'm a pothead because he has a picture of me with the weed.
00:09:41.700 How did he get the picture?
00:09:42.640 Because they went through my messages.
00:09:45.020 They took your phone?
00:09:45.640 Yes.
00:09:45.860 They took my phone because of the beer thing that they came back and like did.
00:09:50.840 And then it was like a whole rabbit hole.
00:09:53.860 They just found out about everything.
00:09:56.460 I got sent to Wisconsin for a month with, to live with my grandma in the middle of nowhere.
00:10:02.080 Yeah.
00:10:02.580 Like there's like no cell service at the time.
00:10:05.360 They made me sell my, my country music ticket.
00:10:08.540 Like, yeah, they were, yeah.
00:10:11.320 What'd you do with grandma?
00:10:12.580 I mean, I actually was her designated driver.
00:10:15.260 My grandma kind of like got like, I'm German.
00:10:18.240 They, they like to drink.
00:10:19.540 You know what I mean?
00:10:20.340 So I remember I took my grandma to a karaoke bar.
00:10:22.960 You know what's funny?
00:10:23.380 I took my grandma to a karaoke of like 16 or seven.
00:10:26.840 Cause I graduated when I was 17.
00:10:28.120 I was a year young.
00:10:28.940 So I, I think I was 16 or 17 and I'm driving my grandma to, um, to a karaoke bar with her friends.
00:10:38.100 And it's all these old ladies and they're all, a lot of them, cause my grandma was a widow and a lot of them were widowed.
00:10:43.780 And I remember sitting there listening to them talk about boys, that they're dated guys like older.
00:10:48.380 Right.
00:10:48.780 And I was thinking like, wow, they sound exactly like me and my friends.
00:10:52.940 Like women never take.
00:10:55.320 And the funniest thing, the funniest thing was the, the difference about like older, cause you have to think women outlive men.
00:11:01.460 So they kind of reenter the dating pool.
00:11:03.780 Right.
00:11:03.960 I mean, you kind of hope they don't, but they do, you know?
00:11:06.440 They do.
00:11:06.840 So, so the, the issue though is when they date some of their, their dates die.
00:11:12.080 Yeah.
00:11:12.500 So it's like, they're like, oh, I was seeing that guy, but he died.
00:11:15.620 Oh, I was seeing that guy, but he got cancer.
00:11:17.600 And yeah, so it's funny.
00:11:22.820 Cause when you're dating as like, cause I think my grandpa died, which he early sixties.
00:11:26.900 So I think she was like almost 70 at the time.
00:11:29.020 Something like that.
00:11:29.720 But remember some old people live to be 90 where some, you know, diets, like the average dies at 70, 75, whatever it is.
00:11:38.300 So it's kind of like, you're kind of playing roulette at that.
00:11:41.460 That's funny.
00:11:42.380 What's the, yeah.
00:11:43.100 And all the women are like, like they're dying.
00:11:45.400 They're literally dying.