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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the sacrifices women make when it comes to being a mother and a wife. Can a woman pursue a career and a family at the same time without making sacrifices? Not in today's society, does it make sense?
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Can a woman pursue a career in a family at the same time without making sacrifices?
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I think even the women, us modern women that are doing it now,
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Back then, I think it was a thing where you're a mother, you're a wife.
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That's just like, that should be your number one priority.
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But then again, that's the situation we found ourselves in.
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In this day and age, you can either do one or you can do both.
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You can either just stick to the olden days, be the woman at home or whatever,
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But doing both, you are going to sacrifice a lot of time, energy, money and stuff.
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You're going to have to, you can't do equally the same for both.
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Well, and if you're not watching the kids, who is?
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To be fair, I have a child and what is it, I was at uni and I decided to like work on
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the side as well because I got a really good job, the career that I wanted to go into was
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So I got that job and I had one last year of uni and I had a child.
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So I thought I could do all three, which was silly of me.
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But then I found that my son at the age of two spent like long hours in nursery and that
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And then I got to a point, I'm like, wait, you're actually being silly.
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So obviously I had to stop the job, even though it was like the last thing that I'd rather,
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That's why it took me so long and I sacrificed so much, but I'm like, I'm not even enjoying
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the job anymore because I'm not choosing the things that as a woman I should be prioritizing.
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So when I gave that up, I was a bit more like happier.
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I could spend more time with my son, focus more on my uni, get the grades that I needed.
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I would say I'll put my hands up and say that's something that I had to go through
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to know, to understand, because I just thought, you know what?
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Yeah, this age that he is, his friends are in nursery and stuff.
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But I realized that the week that I stopped working and I spent more time with him,
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I realized stuff that I never really acknowledged.
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And you don't know who's influencing your kids.
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That's where you get, like, even I have a little sister and like, I come from a pretty
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And she came out like a raging liberal out of high school because she had some,
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it was like a horseback riding teacher that was like this hippie.
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No, that is so true because at that point I realized that, oh, actually someone else is
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raising my son, even though to society and this day and age, it's like, oh, he's in
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But no, I'd rather actually be the typical woman at home that takes care of my child.
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So then I know that I have a part in him being raised and what's going into his head.
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He started speaking, saying the words that I've never heard him speak about, speak certain
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I could sadly say that I did not know my child.
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Basically, they were raising him with that small £1,000 a month.
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Do you not think that having diverse friendship groups is important for a child to grow?
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Because don't you reckon, like, when we travel the world, right, I love that you're, like,
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And in that has meant that our personality and our person has grown.
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Then why can't you teach all of that to your child?
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You don't need a million different influencers to tell them what to do.
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But part of that comes from playing with other friends.
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And, you know, having experiences from other people.
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Like, having your child having friends is totally, totally different from the state.
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As in, you know, schools or nannies or, you know, whatever.
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It's very different from them influencing your child with a certain doctrine and a certain worldview and certain values.
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Because you want your child to have the whole, ideally, I would hope, wholesome values that you and your partner believe in.
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Because at the end of the day, that's your child.
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If you don't protect your children in certain specific ways when they're growing up, even if they end up being fucked up or being influenced by something, even slightly so small, that's your child that is fucked, not them.
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So I would say that I'm really glad I didn't grow up to be like my mum.
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I'm just going to say that with all the love to her.
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Yeah, but would you want your kids to grow up to be like you?
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I'd like them to make their own choices to a degree.
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Do you think a kid's just messing up the world?
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But if my kid's like, fuck you, I don't want to stay at home.
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I don't want to do this kind of like education.
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I think that's a bit of a sweeping generalization.
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So you said you want your kids to make your own choices.
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So I'm saying a 12-year-old wants to make his own choice.
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So I think what the container might be is like we're worried that it's going to be a completely different upbringing.
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Like we're going to bring in wholesome values and then the kid's going to go off and go, oh, I'm going to go do tattoos or I'm going to go in like.
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So why do you think like there'll be conservative Christian parents?
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No, I would say she struggled more with mental health than any of my other siblings.
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Do you think that's like correlation or causation?
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I think my sister was a baby loving, wanted to be a nurse, wanted all these, like, like, she's probably more naturally like motherly than any of the girls.
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I would say she's a better cook than all of us.
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She's like the most natural mother and the liberals got her.
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Like, so fundamentally, like, if you're a parent and you're trying to instill your worldview in your kids, you want the best for them because they're your kid.
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I mean, I think that applies to 99.99% of parents, right?
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But I think the majority of parents want the best for their kid.
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They want them to be fulfilled in life and have a happy life.
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However, when you put that child under the influence of the state or whoever else, they have an agenda.
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And they're going to – they don't have the best interests of that child at heart.
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So they're going to try and manipulate and adjust that child to follow a certain agenda, which is beneficial to them in the long run.
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And they do it en masse in the form of public schooling.
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Yeah, I was going to say, so why do you have your children go to like a public school?
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Well, everything – feminism is one of the big agendas we're looking at.
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Everything that she just talked about with her sister.
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If they can control – if they can – if the government can have influence over your children, they have more power.
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They can influence elections, they can influence public policy, they can influence financial decisions, they can influence everything.
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I mean, Nick might be able to talk about this more than I can.
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Well, it's not – but it's not just about a political agenda.
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Because I think it's a very simple axiom that mothers should raise their babies.
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And it's a mother's role not just to have the baby but to nurture the baby, take care of the baby.
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It's actually very important for a child's development, specifically in the first three months that they're with the parent.
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And the only – I'm Catholic, just full disclosure – the only moral way to have sex is within marriage and without contraceptives.
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So, really, women should be – they should be popping these kids out one after the other.
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If you're popping these kids out and you're with them –
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And you're with them for the first three years or four years, whatever.
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You know, a mother – that really should be their full-time job is making their food and tucking them into bed and all that.
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And it's – so, I agree, you're totally right about education and putting them in daycare or government schools.
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But I look at the epidemic of people today who are messed up in the head.
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They literally didn't get enough love as a child.
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Now, they seek validation through dating, sex, romance, which really, you know, that – I don't think that's actually the healthiest thing.
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So, the other thing, the immigrant thing, which, you know, hit me back on that.
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You put them in daycare, who's going to be raising these kids?
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It's going to be these, like, low-income people who are usually the immigrants or it's going to be other types.
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And if you look at, like, retirement homes, if you look at daycares, there's some raunchy stuff that goes on in there.
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You look at, like, daycares where these old white ladies are getting thrown around by these black daycare workers or retirement home workers.
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So, can I just say, I wanted to bring along today, like, two little signs, right?
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One that says generalization and the other one that said subjective.
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So, you have just come out with so much sweeping generalization.
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But seriously, how the fuck can you sit there and go, all things should be A when we live
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in a huge planet with loads of different societies in it?
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I'm going to plunk you in the Middle East and then ask you that question.
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I've spent a significant amount of time in the Middle East.
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I'm going to say, you'd be surprised how similar that everybody is.
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I've traveled to a lot of different countries and everyone is very, very similar in terms
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The mother stays at home and looks like things.
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These generalizations are generalizations for a reason.
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When you start to see the same thing making a positive impact again and again and again,
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you start to realize, okay, that's probably the correct way for humans to operate.