JustPearlyThings - The BEST EVER Dating Advice For Women

00:00:00.000 See, this is, it all goes back to the thing of like,

00:00:03.040 men just kind of don't want to be men.

00:00:05.580 And we have to just let it go.

00:00:07.040 No, no, but that's what it sounds like.

00:00:08.920 Okay, okay, okay, but I need to submit.

00:00:11.500 No, but you're not,

00:00:12.740 but I'm saying the women aren't real women. 0.99

00:00:15.060 Like if we're going to go based off of what we talked about.

00:00:17.440 I need to know that I have a life jacket on.

00:00:20.720 But I need to tell you,

00:00:21.860 this is why I think men should just stop dealing with us

00:00:24.740 and just go to the 22 year olds and only marry virgins. 0.99

00:00:27.780 I mean, I'm very happy with my mom.

00:00:30.120 Excuse me, I'm 22.

00:00:31.540 Again, again, this is, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

00:00:34.460 I said, I said, I said, wait, wait.

00:00:36.300 I said, hold out for five years and wait for the next round.

00:00:39.740 So the next generation, no, no, I said, hold out.

00:00:43.360 Because like now, like this is exhausting to a guy

00:00:45.680 to convince you that he's, he's man enough to lead you.

00:00:48.800 And I'm not talking about you personally,

00:00:50.400 but just in general, this is exhausting.

00:00:52.460 It's exhausting.

00:00:53.460 And this is the funny thing,

00:00:54.480 like, especially for the people that are arguing,

00:00:57.140 for instance, you say you're into real estate

00:00:59.800 and you sell houses.

00:01:01.320 Is it every sale you make that you make a buck from?

00:01:03.740 Is it everybody you speak to that you're successful with?

00:01:06.160 But what happens when you're successful eventually?

00:01:08.680 You go through a couple of losses,

00:01:09.860 you learn from them,

00:01:11.020 and then you figure out how to move ahead.

00:01:13.040 That's what a leader does.

00:01:14.260 A leader is not someone that gets every single decision right.

00:01:17.720 A leader is someone that can get something wrong

00:01:20.200 and still have the guts to sit down and figure out how to make it right.

00:01:23.380 Yeah, but you can't, like, what are you meant to do as a female then? 0.97

00:01:26.100 Yeah.

00:01:26.300 Just be submissive to every single man and hope that one marries you? 0.90

00:01:28.960 I'll give it.

00:01:29.440 We miss every single man.

00:01:30.440 But every man's meant to be a leader.

00:01:31.800 You have to think, as women, we have a lot more to lose.

00:01:34.700 That's why you're meant to vet your man.

00:01:36.120 But once you pick a man.

00:01:37.280 But how do you vet them without submitting?

00:01:38.940 Are you going to even let me speak?

00:01:40.460 Like, how are you even going to get a man

00:01:41.920 if you can't even let a man speak? 0.98

00:01:43.180 I don't, I'm not, I don't want to be married.

00:01:45.120 Okay, then why are you arguing with me?

00:01:46.640 Then just listen or don't, but you can't keep cutting me off.

00:01:50.120 The point is, when a man is trying to get his way ahead in life

00:01:54.500 and he has a woman who is constantly pointing out all the faults,

00:01:57.740 he can't focus on what he has to do as a man.

00:02:00.220 So one way or the other, you're either going to have to decide,

00:02:03.840 well, you've said you don't want to get married,

00:02:05.300 so I don't even know why you're even pressed about this whole situation.

00:02:08.280 But the point is, for people that want to be married,

00:02:11.220 the point is, if you want to be married,

00:02:13.120 you need to vet your man first.

00:02:14.660 Then, when you pick that man, you need to trust in his leadership.

00:02:19.000 It's as simple as that.

00:02:19.960 If a man wants you, right, and he wants to be in a relationship with you,

00:02:25.560 okay, does he not have to demonstrate that he would...

00:02:27.600 He will show you.

00:02:28.780 Does he not have to demonstrate,

00:02:30.040 before you give him the title of husband or boyfriend,

00:02:33.060 does he not have to demonstrate that he would be a good boyfriend?

00:02:35.780 Yeah.

00:02:36.080 Right?

00:02:36.340 He has to lead by example.

00:02:38.120 Right, so why would you think that if you find a man

00:02:42.080 that you're interested in and that you want to be his girlfriend,

00:02:45.260 do you not think that you have to demonstrate

00:02:47.000 that you would be a good girlfriend to him 0.94

00:02:48.600 by showing what you would be if he committed to you?

00:02:52.680 Yeah, I know, but we're talking about marriage here.

00:02:54.940 I know, but what I'm trying to say is,

00:02:56.180 before you...

00:02:56.420 A lot of the contention is,

00:02:58.820 why would I submit to a man, right, 1.00

00:03:01.020 if I can't trust him, right?

00:03:02.940 Why should I trust him blindly?

00:03:04.280 It's literally like me going on an airplane

00:03:06.420 and the pilot is not qualified.

00:03:09.680 Why would I do that?

00:03:10.940 To women, it's a higher risk. 1.00

00:03:13.600 We have a lot more to do,

00:03:14.860 and we look for safety.

00:03:16.380 Remember, we look for safety.

00:03:17.720 But you vet who you go on a flight with.

00:03:18.420 So we will go and be with the guy.

00:03:19.920 But you do vet who you go on a flight with,

00:03:21.280 because that's why you choose airlines.

00:03:22.780 You don't choose random, independent, whatever, off the cuff, right?

00:03:25.500 You choose airlines because you know

00:03:27.200 that's part of the vetting process.

00:03:28.820 And we hope for the best.

00:03:30.660 Yeah, but like, do you ever go on an airline

00:03:32.280 where you think,

00:03:32.900 I wonder if this pilot is qualified?

00:03:34.140 Do you know what?

00:03:34.620 No.

00:03:34.880 No.

00:03:35.200 Wait, can I...

00:03:35.780 I want to point something out.

00:03:37.560 It's like you're repeating propaganda

00:03:38.920 because you're saying we have more to lose

00:03:40.720 when we have less to lose.

00:03:41.980 The men have everything to lose.

00:03:43.540 Okay, you're speaking financially.

00:03:45.500 No, I'm talking about everything.

00:03:47.480 Even kids as well.

00:03:48.120 Yeah, kids, financially.

00:03:50.480 You can have to lose.

00:03:52.380 We have a lot to lose.

00:03:53.940 But also finances are...

00:03:55.140 If women cared about their fertile years, 1.00

00:03:57.280 they'd get married when they're young.

00:03:58.720 But we don't choose to.

00:03:59.920 Well, you can have IVF at like how old?

00:04:02.480 Men don't want to get married. 0.95

00:04:04.500 It's that mentality.

00:04:05.360 It fails most of the time,

00:04:07.200 and this is the problem.

00:04:08.440 Women will blame the men 1.00

00:04:09.440 for not wanting to get married

00:04:10.600 instead of trying to improve the product.

00:04:12.000 So should we check a man's sperm count 0.94

00:04:14.200 before we marry him?

00:04:15.280 Make sure that they can give us all these kids.

00:04:17.180 I agree.

00:04:17.640 The woman should look at herself and improve. 1.00

00:04:18.660 What if you get married to a man 0.94

00:04:19.820 and then you're infertile,

00:04:21.100 should he just divorce you

00:04:22.060 because now you can't give him children?

00:04:23.360 I would say this is why women, 1.00

00:04:28.780 the next year,

00:04:29.380 like they should just throw us all away.

00:04:31.480 You know what I mean?

00:04:32.040 They got to just throw this.

00:04:33.320 This is too much for them.

00:04:34.400 I feel for it.

00:04:35.300 So it's like,

00:04:36.160 then just say,

00:04:36.940 for the next five years,

00:04:38.040 we're marrying nobody.

00:04:39.880 And then the next round

00:04:40.860 of 21, 22-year-old virgins,

00:04:43.300 they marry.

00:04:44.300 And there you go.

00:04:45.040 Everything's solved.

00:04:45.820 Do you all think yet?

00:04:47.200 But what about us?

00:04:47.580 No, I do.

00:04:48.700 Do you all think?

00:04:49.800 And we would actually,

00:04:51.420 and we would,

00:04:51.940 tell us the solution.

00:04:52.940 Okay, wait, wait.

00:04:53.720 We would be the victims

00:04:55.360 of our own decisions.

00:04:56.720 But the thing is,

00:04:57.300 when a man commits a crime

00:04:59.060 and goes to jail,

00:04:59.940 he doesn't blame the world.

00:05:01.040 He understands it was his own choice.

00:05:02.480 But then a man comes out

00:05:03.780 and is reborn

00:05:04.380 and everyone wants to treat him

00:05:05.600 like a brand new man.

00:05:06.620 But once a female, 0.97

00:05:07.560 they get to.

00:05:10.520 How many men do you know that?

00:05:11.640 You can't do so many jobs.

00:05:13.080 You get such a massive record

00:05:14.420 and it's such a massive...

00:05:15.100 You can change your name

00:05:16.120 for £25

00:05:16.840 and then you can go

00:05:18.000 and get a J's.

00:05:18.540 Yeah, but you need to add

00:05:19.860 your previous names

00:05:20.840 on applications.

00:05:22.300 What man do you know?

00:05:23.020 Guys, guys,

00:05:23.300 we need to go one at a time.

00:05:24.740 What man do you know

00:05:25.760 that's come out of prison

00:05:27.400 and the world is treating him

00:05:28.500 better than when you went in?

00:05:29.360 I'm not saying the world,

00:05:30.220 but like a man

00:05:30.920 will want to be treated

00:05:32.280 like he hasn't done that,

00:05:33.800 that he's done his time

00:05:34.760 and that he should be allowed now

00:05:36.120 to be a valuable man.

00:05:37.520 But reality is he's not going to get that.

00:05:38.680 But the reality is

00:05:39.440 that he doesn't get that.

00:05:40.360 Yeah, but they want that. 0.96

00:05:41.600 That's the reality.

00:05:42.460 But we're saying like,

00:05:43.120 okay, but women of a certain, 1.00

00:05:44.900 you know,

00:05:45.260 if they're promiscuous,

00:05:45.980 want a certain man 0.89

00:05:47.100 to commit to them,

00:05:48.060 but they're just not getting it.

00:05:49.580 And then if they do get a man

00:05:50.760 who would commit to them,

00:05:51.600 they say that they're settling.

00:05:52.620 But you don't see

00:05:53.600 the drug dealers coming out

00:05:55.240 and say you're drug dealer shaming,

00:05:57.040 but the women will come out 1.00

00:05:58.080 and say you're whore shaming 1.00

00:05:59.320 and slut shaming. 1.00

00:06:00.800 And some women love drug dealers. 1.00

00:06:02.260 Yeah, it's true.

00:06:04.020 Do you all of you think,

00:06:05.420 yeah, that women 1.00

00:06:06.160 are good support mechanisms?

00:06:09.300 What do you mean?

00:06:10.580 Emphasize a little bit.

00:06:11.600 Do you think,

00:06:12.120 like in a relationship,

00:06:12.900 do you think they should be

00:06:13.520 in a supporting role

00:06:14.300 or the leading role?

00:06:15.440 Like what's the more optimal thing?

00:06:16.040 Women should be in the supporting role. 1.00

00:06:17.320 Personally,

00:06:17.860 I think supporting role.

00:06:19.120 So you think that women 1.00

00:06:19.780 are good supporters?

00:06:21.060 They should be.

00:06:22.180 So if he's not a good leader,

00:06:24.200 ain't you part of the problem then?

00:06:26.000 Because you're the supporting role

00:06:26.960 and you could help him

00:06:28.140 to become a better leader.

00:06:28.680 It's going to be one or the other.

00:06:30.020 Do you know what I mean?

00:06:30.320 It's always going to be both.

00:06:31.460 Yeah, it's going to be team effort.

00:06:32.940 Do you know what I mean?

00:06:33.680 But I feel like...

00:06:34.200 But you see how no one said anything

00:06:35.160 when I said something positive about the lady.

00:06:37.160 No.

00:06:37.600 No one wanted to jump on it

00:06:39.220 and say,

00:06:39.420 no, I actually agree.

00:06:40.440 But I'm just trying to think as me,

00:06:42.960 like I'm 22.

00:06:44.260 So you guys still think I got some...

00:06:46.180 I still got some chances in me.

00:06:48.040 But like,

00:06:49.040 like I'm 22

00:06:49.880 and I'm not the real woman.

00:06:52.540 Do you know what I mean?

00:06:52.960 Like I'm not.

00:06:53.820 Like I've been through

00:06:54.800 whatever I've been through.

00:06:55.760 But it's like now,

00:06:57.340 the problem is not to take...

00:06:59.080 Like what...

00:06:59.980 It's not about me saying

00:07:01.360 I'm not a real woman.

00:07:02.080 It's me taking accountability.

00:07:03.680 Saying, okay,

00:07:04.700 maybe I didn't do whatever.

00:07:06.920 How do I then?

00:07:08.060 Is it just...

00:07:08.580 Like we said,

00:07:09.180 joked around.

00:07:09.580 Is it done now?

00:07:10.680 Okay.

00:07:12.460 I want to know.

00:07:13.820 The key is to know.

00:07:14.600 Please have this.

00:07:15.860 I want to actually give you a real answer.

00:07:18.360 Nobody ever gets...

00:07:19.440 I like her.

00:07:20.300 Yeah.

00:07:20.860 I like her.

00:07:22.180 Nobody ever asks to this.

00:07:24.000 They don't care.

00:07:24.900 Okay.

00:07:25.100 I'll give you...

00:07:25.820 I'll tell you.

00:07:26.520 I'll tell you the number one.

00:07:27.940 This is just,

00:07:28.580 you know,

00:07:29.020 from the guys,

00:07:29.900 what they say,

00:07:30.540 the number one thing,

00:07:31.840 a personal trainer.

00:07:33.020 That's the number one dating advice for women. 1.00

00:07:35.860 Get in the best shape

00:07:37.100 because then you can get away with more.

00:07:39.120 Weren't raised to be a wife.

00:07:40.380 If you're hot enough,

00:07:41.560 they might overlook it.

00:07:42.860 Okay.

00:07:43.080 That's step one.

00:07:44.380 You got to get their attention,

00:07:45.940 right?

00:07:46.400 Step two,

00:07:47.120 you got to find the married women 1.00

00:07:48.660 that actually are submissive

00:07:50.120 to their husbands

00:07:50.920 and learn from them.

00:07:52.400 I'm not saying go to me,

00:07:53.680 right?

00:07:54.000 But it's like,

00:07:54.960 go find the women 1.00

00:07:55.900 that are married,

00:07:57.240 stay married,

00:07:57.720 and their husbands actually like them

00:07:59.400 and can vouch for them

00:08:00.340 because a lot of married women, 1.00

00:08:01.440 their husbands are miserable. 0.95

00:08:02.280 So you got to find the ones. 0.98

00:08:05.140 Yeah.

00:08:05.640 And then I would say

00:08:06.920 those are the first two steps.

00:08:09.280 And then,

00:08:09.780 if you do that,

00:08:10.940 you're ahead of the question.

00:08:11.500 If she has children,

00:08:12.400 then she's kind of...

00:08:13.540 What do you mean?

00:08:14.080 If she has kids?

00:08:14.620 If she has children already,

00:08:16.040 then she's... 0.99

00:08:16.540 I don't have children.

00:08:18.320 That's another topic.

00:08:19.920 But it's a thing.

00:08:21.020 It's definitely a thing.

00:08:21.640 I'll give you an answer.

00:08:22.780 So if you have kids,

00:08:23.980 it's time to get back

00:08:25.260 with your baby daddy.

00:08:27.300 You made your bed.

00:08:29.540 You made your bed.

00:08:30.780 Look,

00:08:31.020 I'm just trying to solve

00:08:32.040 all the world's problems.

00:08:33.280 They always come to me

00:08:34.160 and say,

00:08:34.520 Pearl,

00:08:34.780 what are your solutions?

00:08:35.660 Well,

00:08:35.800 today I got some.

00:08:37.980 No.

00:08:38.600 Is she wrong?

00:08:39.820 No, no, no.

00:08:40.280 She's not right.

00:08:40.800 I'm agreeing.

00:08:41.700 Or,

00:08:42.240 or lower your standards

00:08:43.680 to down here.

00:08:44.360 Yeah, lower it.

00:08:44.920 But I don't want to

00:08:45.460 lower my standards.

00:08:46.600 Yeah, but then

00:08:47.100 your baby daddy then?

00:08:48.600 Because I know

00:08:49.260 what I bring to the table

00:08:50.780 even though I may not be that.

00:08:53.280 Can I ask you a question?

00:08:54.320 If you...

00:08:54.800 What would you say

00:08:55.320 to the guy

00:08:55.880 who lives in his mom's basement,

00:08:57.820 right,

00:08:58.100 is overweight,

00:08:59.080 right,

00:08:59.460 isn't actually like

00:09:00.560 working on his purpose

00:09:01.600 and anything

00:09:01.940 and he says,

00:09:03.200 I deserve

00:09:04.260 a girl like Beyonce

00:09:06.140 and if he doesn't get

00:09:07.400 someone like him,

00:09:08.080 he's settling.

00:09:08.560 What would you say to him?

00:09:10.500 Well, first of all...

00:09:11.800 He's got you, man.

00:09:12.400 He's got you.

00:09:12.760 No, I'm just asking.

00:09:13.660 Like, what would you say to him?

00:09:14.500 Because he doesn't want

00:09:15.160 to settle, right?

00:09:15.820 So what would you say to him?

00:09:17.580 Obviously, like,

00:09:18.560 girl like Beyonce,

00:09:20.420 like...

00:09:20.780 So he wants...

00:09:21.540 So he goes,

00:09:22.220 I want a girl...

00:09:23.200 I want a girl 0.75

00:09:23.960 who is very gorgeous,

00:09:26.100 who's very feminine, 1.00

00:09:27.160 who is very submissive

00:09:28.580 and is going to support me

00:09:29.540 and everything that I'm doing.

00:09:30.200 I do believe that

00:09:31.340 you should first

00:09:32.420 look at yourself

00:09:33.740 before you try

00:09:35.280 and get what you want.

00:09:36.320 No, but I'm asking you,

00:09:37.180 what if he goes...

00:09:38.480 If I take any girl 0.97

00:09:41.020 that's not that,

00:09:41.640 I'm settling?

00:09:42.400 What would you say to him?

00:09:44.780 You know the answer.

00:09:45.680 You're not...

00:09:46.060 You're not...

00:09:47.220 She asked not on question.

00:09:48.500 No, I know what...

00:09:49.640 I know what I would say to them.

00:09:51.080 I'd be like,

00:09:51.480 well, yeah,

00:09:51.940 you're not really right.

00:09:53.800 But also,

00:09:54.360 women are settling as well

00:09:55.480 because not every woman's here

00:09:56.720 with the Ronaldo.

00:09:57.820 So here's the thing.

00:09:58.420 So here's the thing.

00:09:59.540 Here's the thing.

00:10:01.740 There's actually,

00:10:02.500 right, I believe,

00:10:03.180 there's actually no such thing

00:10:05.460 as saying.

00:10:05.720 I don't know.

00:10:06.080 Yeah, because I may not

00:10:07.320 want a Ronaldo.

00:10:08.240 I know, but what I mean is

00:10:09.560 there's actually no such...

00:10:10.240 Ronaldo picked a normal girl 1.00

00:10:11.480 working in a shop,

00:10:12.320 so it doesn't make sense.

00:10:13.220 There's no such thing as saying

00:10:14.180 because human beings, right,

00:10:15.420 we're selfish by design.

00:10:17.540 You think she's a normal girl. 0.95

00:10:18.180 So let me tell you

00:10:18.820 what Ronaldo's girlfriend has

00:10:21.320 that most women don't have. 1.00

00:10:23.000 One, she's super feminine. 1.00

00:10:24.640 Two, she's very beautiful.

00:10:25.400 Oh, yeah,

00:10:25.860 I think she's beautiful.

00:10:26.880 Yeah, she's very beautiful. 0.91

00:10:27.560 She takes care of her shape. 0.99

00:10:28.580 Three, she's submissive.

00:10:30.440 I keep saying that word,

00:10:31.280 but you guys,

00:10:31.760 it just keeps going over your head.

00:10:33.220 Ronaldo is the guy

00:10:34.280 that is the top guy, right?

00:10:35.940 He's out there.

00:10:36.920 What do you actually hear

00:10:38.080 about his woman?

00:10:38.980 You don't hear anything.

00:10:40.620 Well, that's amazing.

00:10:42.340 She's obviously... 1.00

00:10:43.100 Why is it sad?

00:10:43.980 Why is it sad?

00:10:44.560 I'm looking at you

00:10:44.600 from a different perspective.

00:10:45.660 Who said it sad?

00:10:46.360 How is that sad?

00:10:47.220 But most women today 1.00

00:10:48.460 want to be on the same level

00:10:50.200 with their man.

00:10:50.800 They want to be in the media.

00:10:51.780 They want to be in the limelight.

00:10:52.860 They want to be the one

00:10:53.640 taking the shine

00:10:54.560 while their man is doing his thing.

00:10:56.540 That is a problem.

00:10:57.440 It depends what

00:10:58.280 your career choice is, though.

00:10:59.920 Yeah, but it doesn't matter

00:11:00.580 if you have a top man.

00:11:01.460 It doesn't matter what you do.

00:11:02.760 Like, for example,

00:11:04.020 if I want to be like a,

00:11:05.840 let's just say,

00:11:06.400 an actor, singer,

00:11:07.480 whatever, whatever,

00:11:08.240 that comes with being

00:11:09.340 in the limelight,

00:11:10.300 if that's what you want.

00:11:11.320 Yeah, but a lot of guys,

00:11:12.220 a lot of guys...

00:11:13.160 So then what you've got to be...

00:11:13.240 ...

JustPearlyThings - August 28, 2023

The BEST EVER Dating Advice For Women

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