JustPearlyThings - August 28, 2023


The BEST EVER Dating Advice For Women


Episode Stats

Length

11 minutes

Words per Minute

233.36006

Word Count

2,619

Sentence Count

231

Misogynist Sentences

35

Hate Speech Sentences

17


Summary

In this episode, we discuss what it means to be a woman in a relationship with a man who doesn t want to get married. We discuss the importance of being a woman who submits to a man and does what he needs to do in order to get a man into a relationship.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 See, this is, it all goes back to the thing of like,
00:00:03.040 men just kind of don't want to be men.
00:00:05.580 And we have to just let it go.
00:00:07.040 No, no, but that's what it sounds like.
00:00:08.920 Okay, okay, okay, but I need to submit.
00:00:11.500 No, but you're not,
00:00:12.740 but I'm saying the women aren't real women.
00:00:15.060 Like if we're going to go based off of what we talked about.
00:00:17.440 I need to know that I have a life jacket on.
00:00:20.720 But I need to tell you,
00:00:21.860 this is why I think men should just stop dealing with us
00:00:24.740 and just go to the 22 year olds and only marry virgins.
00:00:27.780 I mean, I'm very happy with my mom.
00:00:30.120 Excuse me, I'm 22.
00:00:31.540 Again, again, this is, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:00:34.460 I said, I said, I said, wait, wait.
00:00:36.300 I said, hold out for five years and wait for the next round.
00:00:39.740 So the next generation, no, no, I said, hold out.
00:00:43.360 Because like now, like this is exhausting to a guy
00:00:45.680 to convince you that he's, he's man enough to lead you.
00:00:48.800 And I'm not talking about you personally,
00:00:50.400 but just in general, this is exhausting.
00:00:52.460 It's exhausting.
00:00:53.460 And this is the funny thing,
00:00:54.480 like, especially for the people that are arguing,
00:00:57.140 for instance, you say you're into real estate
00:00:59.800 and you sell houses.
00:01:01.320 Is it every sale you make that you make a buck from?
00:01:03.740 Is it everybody you speak to that you're successful with?
00:01:06.160 But what happens when you're successful eventually?
00:01:08.680 You go through a couple of losses,
00:01:09.860 you learn from them,
00:01:11.020 and then you figure out how to move ahead.
00:01:13.040 That's what a leader does.
00:01:14.260 A leader is not someone that gets every single decision right.
00:01:17.720 A leader is someone that can get something wrong
00:01:20.200 and still have the guts to sit down and figure out how to make it right.
00:01:23.380 Yeah, but you can't, like, what are you meant to do as a female then?
00:01:26.100 Yeah.
00:01:26.300 Just be submissive to every single man and hope that one marries you?
00:01:28.960 I'll give it.
00:01:29.440 We miss every single man.
00:01:30.440 But every man's meant to be a leader.
00:01:31.800 You have to think, as women, we have a lot more to lose.
00:01:34.700 That's why you're meant to vet your man.
00:01:36.120 But once you pick a man.
00:01:37.280 But how do you vet them without submitting?
00:01:38.940 Are you going to even let me speak?
00:01:40.460 Like, how are you even going to get a man
00:01:41.920 if you can't even let a man speak?
00:01:43.180 I don't, I'm not, I don't want to be married.
00:01:45.120 Okay, then why are you arguing with me?
00:01:46.640 Then just listen or don't, but you can't keep cutting me off.
00:01:50.120 The point is, when a man is trying to get his way ahead in life
00:01:54.500 and he has a woman who is constantly pointing out all the faults,
00:01:57.740 he can't focus on what he has to do as a man.
00:02:00.220 So one way or the other, you're either going to have to decide,
00:02:03.840 well, you've said you don't want to get married,
00:02:05.300 so I don't even know why you're even pressed about this whole situation.
00:02:08.280 But the point is, for people that want to be married,
00:02:11.220 the point is, if you want to be married,
00:02:13.120 you need to vet your man first.
00:02:14.660 Then, when you pick that man, you need to trust in his leadership.
00:02:19.000 It's as simple as that.
00:02:19.960 If a man wants you, right, and he wants to be in a relationship with you,
00:02:25.560 okay, does he not have to demonstrate that he would...
00:02:27.600 He will show you.
00:02:28.780 Does he not have to demonstrate,
00:02:30.040 before you give him the title of husband or boyfriend,
00:02:33.060 does he not have to demonstrate that he would be a good boyfriend?
00:02:35.780 Yeah.
00:02:36.080 Right?
00:02:36.340 He has to lead by example.
00:02:38.120 Right, so why would you think that if you find a man
00:02:42.080 that you're interested in and that you want to be his girlfriend,
00:02:45.260 do you not think that you have to demonstrate
00:02:47.000 that you would be a good girlfriend to him
00:02:48.600 by showing what you would be if he committed to you?
00:02:52.680 Yeah, I know, but we're talking about marriage here.
00:02:54.940 I know, but what I'm trying to say is,
00:02:56.180 before you...
00:02:56.420 A lot of the contention is,
00:02:58.820 why would I submit to a man, right,
00:03:01.020 if I can't trust him, right?
00:03:02.940 Why should I trust him blindly?
00:03:04.280 It's literally like me going on an airplane
00:03:06.420 and the pilot is not qualified.
00:03:09.680 Why would I do that?
00:03:10.940 To women, it's a higher risk.
00:03:13.600 We have a lot more to do,
00:03:14.860 and we look for safety.
00:03:16.380 Remember, we look for safety.
00:03:17.720 But you vet who you go on a flight with.
00:03:18.420 So we will go and be with the guy.
00:03:19.920 But you do vet who you go on a flight with,
00:03:21.280 because that's why you choose airlines.
00:03:22.780 You don't choose random, independent, whatever, off the cuff, right?
00:03:25.500 You choose airlines because you know
00:03:27.200 that's part of the vetting process.
00:03:28.820 And we hope for the best.
00:03:30.660 Yeah, but like, do you ever go on an airline
00:03:32.280 where you think,
00:03:32.900 I wonder if this pilot is qualified?
00:03:34.140 Do you know what?
00:03:34.620 No.
00:03:34.880 No.
00:03:35.200 Wait, can I...
00:03:35.780 I want to point something out.
00:03:37.560 It's like you're repeating propaganda
00:03:38.920 because you're saying we have more to lose
00:03:40.720 when we have less to lose.
00:03:41.980 The men have everything to lose.
00:03:43.540 Okay, you're speaking financially.
00:03:45.500 No, I'm talking about everything.
00:03:47.480 Even kids as well.
00:03:48.120 Yeah, kids, financially.
00:03:50.480 You can have to lose.
00:03:52.380 We have a lot to lose.
00:03:53.940 But also finances are...
00:03:55.140 If women cared about their fertile years,
00:03:57.280 they'd get married when they're young.
00:03:58.720 But we don't choose to.
00:03:59.920 Well, you can have IVF at like how old?
00:04:02.480 Men don't want to get married.
00:04:04.500 It's that mentality.
00:04:05.360 It fails most of the time,
00:04:07.200 and this is the problem.
00:04:08.440 Women will blame the men
00:04:09.440 for not wanting to get married
00:04:10.600 instead of trying to improve the product.
00:04:12.000 So should we check a man's sperm count
00:04:14.200 before we marry him?
00:04:15.280 Make sure that they can give us all these kids.
00:04:17.180 I agree.
00:04:17.640 The woman should look at herself and improve.
00:04:18.660 What if you get married to a man
00:04:19.820 and then you're infertile,
00:04:21.100 should he just divorce you
00:04:22.060 because now you can't give him children?
00:04:23.360 I would say this is why women,
00:04:28.780 the next year,
00:04:29.380 like they should just throw us all away.
00:04:31.480 You know what I mean?
00:04:32.040 They got to just throw this.
00:04:33.320 This is too much for them.
00:04:34.400 I feel for it.
00:04:35.300 So it's like,
00:04:36.160 then just say,
00:04:36.940 for the next five years,
00:04:38.040 we're marrying nobody.
00:04:39.880 And then the next round
00:04:40.860 of 21, 22-year-old virgins,
00:04:43.300 they marry.
00:04:44.300 And there you go.
00:04:45.040 Everything's solved.
00:04:45.820 Do you all think yet?
00:04:47.200 But what about us?
00:04:47.580 No, I do.
00:04:48.700 Do you all think?
00:04:49.800 And we would actually,
00:04:51.420 and we would,
00:04:51.940 tell us the solution.
00:04:52.940 Okay, wait, wait.
00:04:53.720 We would be the victims
00:04:55.360 of our own decisions.
00:04:56.720 But the thing is,
00:04:57.300 when a man commits a crime
00:04:59.060 and goes to jail,
00:04:59.940 he doesn't blame the world.
00:05:01.040 He understands it was his own choice.
00:05:02.480 But then a man comes out
00:05:03.780 and is reborn
00:05:04.380 and everyone wants to treat him
00:05:05.600 like a brand new man.
00:05:06.620 But once a female,
00:05:07.560 they get to.
00:05:10.520 How many men do you know that?
00:05:11.640 You can't do so many jobs.
00:05:13.080 You get such a massive record
00:05:14.420 and it's such a massive...
00:05:15.100 You can change your name
00:05:16.120 for £25
00:05:16.840 and then you can go
00:05:18.000 and get a J's.
00:05:18.540 Yeah, but you need to add
00:05:19.860 your previous names
00:05:20.840 on applications.
00:05:22.300 What man do you know?
00:05:23.020 Guys, guys,
00:05:23.300 we need to go one at a time.
00:05:24.740 What man do you know
00:05:25.760 that's come out of prison
00:05:27.400 and the world is treating him
00:05:28.500 better than when you went in?
00:05:29.360 I'm not saying the world,
00:05:30.220 but like a man
00:05:30.920 will want to be treated
00:05:32.280 like he hasn't done that,
00:05:33.800 that he's done his time
00:05:34.760 and that he should be allowed now
00:05:36.120 to be a valuable man.
00:05:37.520 But reality is he's not going to get that.
00:05:38.680 But the reality is
00:05:39.440 that he doesn't get that.
00:05:40.360 Yeah, but they want that.
00:05:41.600 That's the reality.
00:05:42.460 But we're saying like,
00:05:43.120 okay, but women of a certain,
00:05:44.900 you know,
00:05:45.260 if they're promiscuous,
00:05:45.980 want a certain man
00:05:47.100 to commit to them,
00:05:48.060 but they're just not getting it.
00:05:49.580 And then if they do get a man
00:05:50.760 who would commit to them,
00:05:51.600 they say that they're settling.
00:05:52.620 But you don't see
00:05:53.600 the drug dealers coming out
00:05:55.240 and say you're drug dealer shaming,
00:05:57.040 but the women will come out
00:05:58.080 and say you're whore shaming
00:05:59.320 and slut shaming.
00:06:00.800 And some women love drug dealers.
00:06:02.260 Yeah, it's true.
00:06:04.020 Do you all of you think,
00:06:05.420 yeah, that women
00:06:06.160 are good support mechanisms?
00:06:09.300 What do you mean?
00:06:10.580 Emphasize a little bit.
00:06:11.600 Do you think,
00:06:12.120 like in a relationship,
00:06:12.900 do you think they should be
00:06:13.520 in a supporting role
00:06:14.300 or the leading role?
00:06:15.440 Like what's the more optimal thing?
00:06:16.040 Women should be in the supporting role.
00:06:17.320 Personally,
00:06:17.860 I think supporting role.
00:06:19.120 So you think that women
00:06:19.780 are good supporters?
00:06:21.060 They should be.
00:06:22.180 So if he's not a good leader,
00:06:24.200 ain't you part of the problem then?
00:06:26.000 Because you're the supporting role
00:06:26.960 and you could help him
00:06:28.140 to become a better leader.
00:06:28.680 It's going to be one or the other.
00:06:30.020 Do you know what I mean?
00:06:30.320 It's always going to be both.
00:06:31.460 Yeah, it's going to be team effort.
00:06:32.940 Do you know what I mean?
00:06:33.680 But I feel like...
00:06:34.200 But you see how no one said anything
00:06:35.160 when I said something positive about the lady.
00:06:37.160 No.
00:06:37.600 No one wanted to jump on it
00:06:39.220 and say,
00:06:39.420 no, I actually agree.
00:06:40.440 But I'm just trying to think as me,
00:06:42.960 like I'm 22.
00:06:44.260 So you guys still think I got some...
00:06:46.180 I still got some chances in me.
00:06:48.040 But like,
00:06:49.040 like I'm 22
00:06:49.880 and I'm not the real woman.
00:06:52.540 Do you know what I mean?
00:06:52.960 Like I'm not.
00:06:53.820 Like I've been through
00:06:54.800 whatever I've been through.
00:06:55.760 But it's like now,
00:06:57.340 the problem is not to take...
00:06:59.080 Like what...
00:06:59.980 It's not about me saying
00:07:01.360 I'm not a real woman.
00:07:02.080 It's me taking accountability.
00:07:03.680 Saying, okay,
00:07:04.700 maybe I didn't do whatever.
00:07:06.920 How do I then?
00:07:08.060 Is it just...
00:07:08.580 Like we said,
00:07:09.180 joked around.
00:07:09.580 Is it done now?
00:07:10.680 Okay.
00:07:12.460 I want to know.
00:07:13.820 The key is to know.
00:07:14.600 Please have this.
00:07:15.860 I want to actually give you a real answer.
00:07:18.360 Nobody ever gets...
00:07:19.440 I like her.
00:07:20.300 Yeah.
00:07:20.860 I like her.
00:07:22.180 Nobody ever asks to this.
00:07:24.000 They don't care.
00:07:24.900 Okay.
00:07:25.100 I'll give you...
00:07:25.820 I'll tell you.
00:07:26.520 I'll tell you the number one.
00:07:27.940 This is just,
00:07:28.580 you know,
00:07:29.020 from the guys,
00:07:29.900 what they say,
00:07:30.540 the number one thing,
00:07:31.840 a personal trainer.
00:07:33.020 That's the number one dating advice for women.
00:07:35.860 Get in the best shape
00:07:37.100 because then you can get away with more.
00:07:39.120 Weren't raised to be a wife.
00:07:40.380 If you're hot enough,
00:07:41.560 they might overlook it.
00:07:42.860 Okay.
00:07:43.080 That's step one.
00:07:44.380 You got to get their attention,
00:07:45.940 right?
00:07:46.400 Step two,
00:07:47.120 you got to find the married women
00:07:48.660 that actually are submissive
00:07:50.120 to their husbands
00:07:50.920 and learn from them.
00:07:52.400 I'm not saying go to me,
00:07:53.680 right?
00:07:54.000 But it's like,
00:07:54.960 go find the women
00:07:55.900 that are married,
00:07:57.240 stay married,
00:07:57.720 and their husbands actually like them
00:07:59.400 and can vouch for them
00:08:00.340 because a lot of married women,
00:08:01.440 their husbands are miserable.
00:08:02.280 So you got to find the ones.
00:08:05.140 Yeah.
00:08:05.640 And then I would say
00:08:06.920 those are the first two steps.
00:08:09.280 And then,
00:08:09.780 if you do that,
00:08:10.940 you're ahead of the question.
00:08:11.500 If she has children,
00:08:12.400 then she's kind of...
00:08:13.540 What do you mean?
00:08:14.080 If she has kids?
00:08:14.620 If she has children already,
00:08:16.040 then she's...
00:08:16.540 I don't have children.
00:08:18.320 That's another topic.
00:08:19.920 But it's a thing.
00:08:21.020 It's definitely a thing.
00:08:21.640 I'll give you an answer.
00:08:22.780 So if you have kids,
00:08:23.980 it's time to get back
00:08:25.260 with your baby daddy.
00:08:27.300 You made your bed.
00:08:29.540 You made your bed.
00:08:30.780 Look,
00:08:31.020 I'm just trying to solve
00:08:32.040 all the world's problems.
00:08:33.280 They always come to me
00:08:34.160 and say,
00:08:34.520 Pearl,
00:08:34.780 what are your solutions?
00:08:35.660 Well,
00:08:35.800 today I got some.
00:08:37.980 No.
00:08:38.600 Is she wrong?
00:08:39.820 No, no, no.
00:08:40.280 She's not right.
00:08:40.800 I'm agreeing.
00:08:41.700 Or,
00:08:42.240 or lower your standards
00:08:43.680 to down here.
00:08:44.360 Yeah, lower it.
00:08:44.920 But I don't want to
00:08:45.460 lower my standards.
00:08:46.600 Yeah, but then
00:08:47.100 your baby daddy then?
00:08:48.600 Because I know
00:08:49.260 what I bring to the table
00:08:50.780 even though I may not be that.
00:08:53.280 Can I ask you a question?
00:08:54.320 If you...
00:08:54.800 What would you say
00:08:55.320 to the guy
00:08:55.880 who lives in his mom's basement,
00:08:57.820 right,
00:08:58.100 is overweight,
00:08:59.080 right,
00:08:59.460 isn't actually like
00:09:00.560 working on his purpose
00:09:01.600 and anything
00:09:01.940 and he says,
00:09:03.200 I deserve
00:09:04.260 a girl like Beyonce
00:09:06.140 and if he doesn't get
00:09:07.400 someone like him,
00:09:08.080 he's settling.
00:09:08.560 What would you say to him?
00:09:10.500 Well, first of all...
00:09:11.800 He's got you, man.
00:09:12.400 He's got you.
00:09:12.760 No, I'm just asking.
00:09:13.660 Like, what would you say to him?
00:09:14.500 Because he doesn't want
00:09:15.160 to settle, right?
00:09:15.820 So what would you say to him?
00:09:17.580 Obviously, like,
00:09:18.560 girl like Beyonce,
00:09:20.420 like...
00:09:20.780 So he wants...
00:09:21.540 So he goes,
00:09:22.220 I want a girl...
00:09:23.200 I want a girl
00:09:23.960 who is very gorgeous,
00:09:26.100 who's very feminine,
00:09:27.160 who is very submissive
00:09:28.580 and is going to support me
00:09:29.540 and everything that I'm doing.
00:09:30.200 I do believe that
00:09:31.340 you should first
00:09:32.420 look at yourself
00:09:33.740 before you try
00:09:35.280 and get what you want.
00:09:36.320 No, but I'm asking you,
00:09:37.180 what if he goes...
00:09:38.480 If I take any girl
00:09:41.020 that's not that,
00:09:41.640 I'm settling?
00:09:42.400 What would you say to him?
00:09:44.780 You know the answer.
00:09:45.680 You're not...
00:09:46.060 You're not...
00:09:47.220 She asked not on question.
00:09:48.500 No, I know what...
00:09:49.640 I know what I would say to them.
00:09:51.080 I'd be like,
00:09:51.480 well, yeah,
00:09:51.940 you're not really right.
00:09:53.800 But also,
00:09:54.360 women are settling as well
00:09:55.480 because not every woman's here
00:09:56.720 with the Ronaldo.
00:09:57.820 So here's the thing.
00:09:58.420 So here's the thing.
00:09:59.540 Here's the thing.
00:10:01.740 There's actually,
00:10:02.500 right, I believe,
00:10:03.180 there's actually no such thing
00:10:05.460 as saying.
00:10:05.720 I don't know.
00:10:06.080 Yeah, because I may not
00:10:07.320 want a Ronaldo.
00:10:08.240 I know, but what I mean is
00:10:09.560 there's actually no such...
00:10:10.240 Ronaldo picked a normal girl
00:10:11.480 working in a shop,
00:10:12.320 so it doesn't make sense.
00:10:13.220 There's no such thing as saying
00:10:14.180 because human beings, right,
00:10:15.420 we're selfish by design.
00:10:17.540 You think she's a normal girl.
00:10:18.180 So let me tell you
00:10:18.820 what Ronaldo's girlfriend has
00:10:21.320 that most women don't have.
00:10:23.000 One, she's super feminine.
00:10:24.640 Two, she's very beautiful.
00:10:25.400 Oh, yeah,
00:10:25.860 I think she's beautiful.
00:10:26.880 Yeah, she's very beautiful.
00:10:27.560 She takes care of her shape.
00:10:28.580 Three, she's submissive.
00:10:30.440 I keep saying that word,
00:10:31.280 but you guys,
00:10:31.760 it just keeps going over your head.
00:10:33.220 Ronaldo is the guy
00:10:34.280 that is the top guy, right?
00:10:35.940 He's out there.
00:10:36.920 What do you actually hear
00:10:38.080 about his woman?
00:10:38.980 You don't hear anything.
00:10:40.620 Well, that's amazing.
00:10:42.340 She's obviously...
00:10:43.100 Why is it sad?
00:10:43.980 Why is it sad?
00:10:44.560 I'm looking at you
00:10:44.600 from a different perspective.
00:10:45.660 Who said it sad?
00:10:46.360 How is that sad?
00:10:47.220 But most women today
00:10:48.460 want to be on the same level
00:10:50.200 with their man.
00:10:50.800 They want to be in the media.
00:10:51.780 They want to be in the limelight.
00:10:52.860 They want to be the one
00:10:53.640 taking the shine
00:10:54.560 while their man is doing his thing.
00:10:56.540 That is a problem.
00:10:57.440 It depends what
00:10:58.280 your career choice is, though.
00:10:59.920 Yeah, but it doesn't matter
00:11:00.580 if you have a top man.
00:11:01.460 It doesn't matter what you do.
00:11:02.760 Like, for example,
00:11:04.020 if I want to be like a,
00:11:05.840 let's just say,
00:11:06.400 an actor, singer,
00:11:07.480 whatever, whatever,
00:11:08.240 that comes with being
00:11:09.340 in the limelight,
00:11:10.300 if that's what you want.
00:11:11.320 Yeah, but a lot of guys,
00:11:12.220 a lot of guys...
00:11:13.160 So then what you've got to be...
00:11:13.240 ...