JustPearlyThings - The Church Does This To Modern Women

00:00:00.000 i'm just thinking because you're you're 29 if you're in a relationship like do you want kids

00:00:06.280 yes um do you don't have any kids no so you know if you're single by 30 your chance of having a

00:00:11.440 child drops below 50 so you're actually more likely you to not have a kid than have one and

00:00:16.320 by 34 your chance of having like any kids at all like geriatric pregnancy working is like

00:00:21.540 nothing it's like yeah it's pretty scary so it's like i know the good i serve though

00:00:26.820 i said i know the good i serve like i'm just thinking because i'm assuming you're picky right

00:00:34.160 uh defined like picky like i think i have my standards i don't think i ask for anything

00:00:40.920 too crazy i just want a guy that's like serious about me has pure intentions for me and will be

00:00:45.220 loyal well i'm just thinking because you've been dating since what 18 yeah 20 yeah right 20 okay so

00:00:52.180 like i'm just thinking of nine years if none of the guys that approached you you like enough to

00:00:56.680 marry like you're probably picky oh right and this is just me like usually that women that are single 1.00

00:01:03.900 over the age of like 25 it's not an insult you know no no no i think to be honest i'm a christian

00:01:09.120 and i think that that makes things a bit harder for me because there's certain things that i'm like

00:01:15.100 that i want to do to please god or there's some some views that i have that are more like biblical

00:01:20.820 than like the world and i think that now i used to date guys that were non-christians but the things

00:01:26.300 that i was passionate about the values that i had they didn't share those same values and i want to

00:01:30.700 be with someone that shares those same values as me and has the same worldview as me so now that's

00:01:34.980 kind of narrowed is it just him being a christian no i mean he has to be a christian of course but

00:01:40.180 there's just certain things that like i've realized are my deal breakers like what are you one of the

00:01:45.220 waiting till marriage type i mean yeah i'm not i'm not perfect but that's definitely a desire

00:01:50.760 it's a desire to want to wait until marriage yeah okay but you're i'm assuming 29 you're probably

00:01:55.520 not a virgin i'm not a virgin but no one's waiting for i mean i mean yeah that's the type of world

00:02:02.580 that we're living in it's definitely a desire i'm not saying it won't happen but it's a desire and i

00:02:06.760 would like to stick to that because i guess in my head i'm like okay so if you're 29 you know that by

00:02:12.020 now now you know at least that if you're single by next year you're most likely not going to have a

00:02:16.260 kid and that by 34 your your chance of having a kid is basically nothing like biologically so i'm

00:02:22.980 just thinking if you get into a relationship with a guy that you like which i'm assuming it's very

00:02:26.880 hard to find a guy that meets all your criteria because i mean me too it's not you're not not just

00:02:31.900 you because i'm thinking like if you get to that point it's kind of like your last chance in a way

00:02:38.180 and then you then you leave it over what a message it's like i would think in the grand scheme of

00:02:43.440 things it would be more important to have a family to you especially you know they say like

00:02:47.500 be fruitful and multiply in the bible yeah but i think for me it's also very important to be in a

00:02:52.740 situation that is healthy and i would rather be single than be in a relationship where i'm not

00:02:57.460 valued or where i'm being disrespected or where the dude is emotionally or sexually cheating yeah

00:03:02.900 sometimes i just think the church like leaves women single and i think it's really sad because i think

00:03:07.480 sometimes they tell women like we have to have these crazy high standards yeah yeah i think that the

00:03:12.180 church needs to do a message you know that's not that crazy i think the church does need to do a

00:03:17.300 better job with teaching young christians like how to date like i go to an amazing church and it's

00:03:22.640 i'm learning now like through i go to the tab london and my pastor is is amazing and he just recently

00:03:29.520 done a sermon on dating and like how to date you know you know for marriage with the intention of

00:03:35.480 marriage and it was very healthy and very informative would would you submit to your husband for

00:03:40.080 everything but the thing is like with me choosing a husband i'm going to choose somebody that i

00:03:49.380 respect i'm going to choose somebody that loves god and for me submission is about if he submitted

00:03:54.780 submitting to christ i'm low-key submitting to christ if i'm submitting to my husband so then why did you

00:04:00.540 say no but it's like to me submitting i think i need to learn about that more i'm definitely my own

00:04:06.700 woman but i think it depends in like in what degree like in what situation do you follow the bible

00:04:12.660 i try well no it just it confuses me when like don't they become one in the bible they say the

00:04:19.960 same you have to submit in the bible it's biblical so it confuses me it just confuses me like when you

00:04:26.500 say you want a christian man but you don't want to live in a christian way so like why would a man 0.97

00:04:30.900 that's super christian want to be with you if you don't want to live in a christian way which is

00:04:35.040 biblical but what do you mean by not living in a christian way so the bible says you have to submit

00:04:39.760 to your husband and when i asked you you said no yeah but then and but this is what i'm saying i

00:04:43.940 think in certain situations i think and how can i word this in certain situations of course if the

00:04:50.220 decision that my husband is making makes sense and that's fine yeah i don't really know how to just

00:04:56.760 to explain the thoughts that i'm having right now you want to submit when you feel like it

00:05:02.240 yes

00:05:04.480 but then the bible also the thing is the bible does instruct women with like how to act in marriage 0.96

00:05:11.820 but then the bible also instructs men with how to treat their wives as well and so like the bible

00:05:17.200 says to women like respect your husbands and husbands love your wives and so i feel like yeah

00:05:22.400 but how are we supposed to get a christian guy if we can't start with what we have to do yeah

00:05:26.840 folks you know like yeah i'm just i'm just you know because you want to start a family so i'm

00:05:32.800 just wondering how this would work out go ahead is it an issue of knowing so you said about the

00:05:37.740 whole decision thing um which logically makes sense so like if he's saying something and you don't i'm

00:05:43.320 just guessing right if he says something and you don't know why is your point you want to know why

00:05:48.220 and if it makes sense to you then you agree and that's your version of submitting yeah i think and

00:05:53.780 that's the thing my thing is i think that a marriage there's going to be a lot of like

00:05:57.400 complexities and like a lot of different situations that we're going to face in marriage

00:06:00.860 it's going to be a learning curve it's going to be like a journey and i think that also with whatever

00:06:06.920 the bible does say the bible also teaches about like sanctification and about like a journey of

00:06:13.340 becoming more like christ so i'm not saying that i'm perfect but i'm saying hopefully me and my

00:06:18.200 husband will get to a point where you know we're on the same page and i think yeah you don't believe

00:06:24.220 like going with the flow no now no but don't say no because going with the flow could be the best

00:06:30.200 thing the reason why i say going with the flow you could be dating you could be on tinder whatever and

00:06:34.740 someone could say what are you looking for right and i could say for me as a 33 year old i want a child

00:06:40.160 i want a child but i don't have a if god blesses me with a child i get blessed with a child i'm not

00:06:45.060 religious in any way shape or form but i believe in in an almighty my thing right now when i meet

00:06:51.780 a girl or a guy and they say like what you're looking for i just say look like my portfolio

00:06:56.240 would say like i want kids soon blah blah blah but i'll just say look i'm just here going for the flow

00:07:00.980 but i'm looking for a a serious individual and i would elaborate on that situation but like when i say

00:07:07.960 i'm going with the flow doesn't mean i want to marry you or date you i just want to chill with you and

00:07:12.560 see where things go so there is no expectations on either side you know what i mean yeah it's just

00:07:17.680 about getting to know the person getting to know the person but i feel like if you're with the whole

00:07:21.080 christian thing um hats off to you um i feel like for guys it can be a bit intimidating and we don't

00:07:29.420 know where to start and we're like oh you know what i mean but if you say like glenn others just super

00:07:34.660 chat says there's no exception to submission in the bible where it says to only submit to your husband

00:07:39.280 when you want to it says for everything because you gotta choose a man that you trust to lead

00:07:44.680 right and then you gotta listen to you gotta submit to him it's as simple as that i have

00:07:48.340 sometimes you can ask like at the end of the day if you really are submitting to your husband you're

00:07:54.120 trusting that they know what they're doing they're handling things so any decision they make you

00:07:58.620 shouldn't even be questioning it anyway because you should trust them enough to know that they've

00:08:01.840 already thought that through so you don't have to so by asking questions you're kind of creating

00:08:06.620 problems for him for having to explain it all through to you and then also you're potentially

00:08:10.440 causing another problem by them putting up a barrier if you don't agree with something that

00:08:13.720 he's done like to me i would rather leave him with it he says we're doing something fine i trust him

00:08:18.900 enough that he knows what he's doing and he's doing that for our best interest look at team sports here

00:08:22.920 let's say imagine alex ferguson's your manager and then he's like oh cool this player's gonna win us

00:08:27.980 the champions league and we're like actually and you've got this one brother that's always always

00:08:32.120 like nah i'm the manager yeah i'm here to do a job trust i'm gonna lead and we'll go if you find a

00:08:38.100 man that keeps leading you into the into the darkness then that's not the man for you i guess

00:08:42.120 isn't it but you gotta you gotta be on that journey and actually accept that call i've chosen this

00:08:46.840 person i just thought of a question do you think it it is unbiblical if women don't have children 1.00

00:08:52.540 because the lord because the lord the god says to be fruitful and multiply right and right now women

00:09:00.120 are 100 in control of who's born so like sex and reproduction because we're the only ones that 0.85

00:09:04.940 can have a choice in abortion um and the way the laws are set up like we're 100 in control so

00:09:11.020 is it unbiblical if women don't have kids a woman should be in full control is her body and what she 1.00

00:09:18.380 wants to no i'm not i'm not asking i'm not asking like okay um i can gossip and i'm in full control if

00:09:24.400 i want to gossip or not but it's unbiblical of me to gossip i think anyways i think if a woman 1.00

00:09:29.240 i think if a woman can have kids she should have kids that's just my opinion so i'm just yeah it 1.00

00:09:35.360 says to be fruitful and multiply so yeah you're right and also for people who are believers christians

00:09:39.780 it is still their responsibility to go and preach the word and and do what you need to do see this is

00:09:44.400 this is where i can't because i was gonna i was gonna come to your point of all because i'm also a

00:09:47.520 christian right so i i believe in a lot of the same passages i mean i don't think unbiblical is

00:09:51.660 a word i'm sorry guys i don't know i don't know it's fine it was a good word it was a push word

00:09:56.640 though like not so for the first because i have two things for the first thing was to your point

00:10:02.320 about submission now as a as a fellow christian when we say submit to god does that mean like what

00:10:08.440 does that mean because then we have to think about the word that we're using because we use those

00:10:12.360 words in christianity already right when we say we need to submit to jesus we submit to god submit to

00:10:17.160 the word of christ right that same submission and the understanding of what it means to submit

00:10:22.660 to christ in that same vein obviously it's not the same because the person you're submitting to

00:10:26.480 isn't jesus i'm not trying to equate them but it's this very similar vein of like you wouldn't like

00:10:31.620 like you like you said you wouldn't question what's coming next if you were 100 submissive now

00:10:37.160 understanding who to be submissive to is very very difficult because there are a lot of snakes in the

00:10:42.860 grass there's a lot of people who show one thing show one hand and actually are another like

00:10:46.800 like we were saying before but the actual act of to say i would only submit in a certain in a

00:10:52.480 certain situation which is not what you said but it's like what it sounds like i don't think it's

00:10:57.760 that difficult to be honest what you mean like i don't think it's like we kind of like as women 0.92

00:11:05.300 like we act like there's so many men that are cheating and doing all this stuff but most men can't

00:11:09.580 do that yeah it's true like i think there's a lot of average guys like as women we can date

00:11:13.620 that wouldn't actually like i don't think it's that crazy it's not but what i'm saying is in a

00:11:20.400 sense of like i'm taking it back to the biblical sense of submission and the submission that god

00:11:26.160 has told us to do to his people and for for him and his son jesus right so we understand as christians

00:11:34.000 what submission is but when it comes to submission using submission to man it becomes like different to

00:11:41.140 jesus and god which is fair yeah i think there's just been a a breakdown in trust

00:11:44.860 between in the day in the day in the day right now that's what i'm saying yeah you know i mean so

00:11:49.080 like women don't really trust families you know glenn says no it's not unbiblical because there are

00:11:56.580 women who are born that don't have the ability to have kids okay um would you have an issue submitting 0.99

00:12:03.180 to your boss for you someone asked me um yes there has been times with past managers where

00:12:13.840 i think that they're not always making the right decision okay and so but i think that i do believe

00:12:20.200 in just creating that space that respectful safe environment where i can voice my opinions they can

00:12:26.920 voice theirs and then we can just have that conversation because i think that even if you're my boss

00:12:31.240 it doesn't mean that like you can't take on good advice or like do things in a different way

00:12:37.000 so i think i think i can submit but i believe in being vocal do you know how tiring that is as a boss

00:12:43.780 though oh my gosh if i told my editor edit the video this way and every single time i gave him something

00:12:52.460 he's telling me the way he wants to do it do you know how annoying that is

00:12:55.960 no i mean it's not it's not a case where you get nothing done it's not a case where every five

00:13:02.760 seconds i've got a problem but there's just been a couple of situations in the past i believe in

00:13:06.860 being vocal i believe in being vocal i believe in creating that safe space to have a conversation

00:13:11.660 with the person once they've got all of the information then they can make their decision

00:13:16.320 um a way glenn says a way to look at submission is like this i will always respect and submit to the

00:13:22.160 president even if i don't like him i am submitting to the position that he holds uh denny said this 0.98

00:13:27.900 is for get pearl the summer ac funds yo yeah we do need summer we need ac in here oh shit does that 0.89

00:13:34.840 make sense to you that what he said yeah that's very powerful yeah um no i i don't think you're like 0.58

00:13:40.400 i think a lot of times in the church they don't really talk about submission it's odd like not not

00:13:44.860 in the true sense they do in the sense of like submitting to a higher being and submitting to like

00:13:49.820 the will of god and the will of the bible itself but like interpersonal submission not too much they

00:13:57.300 mention it it gets mentioned but it doesn't get like delved into in like great detail outside of

00:14:02.760 like god man submit to him and that one gets fleshed out more than man to man if that makes sense

00:14:11.360 i think i think there's a lot of selective politicking with when it comes to religion so

00:14:17.200 hundred percent and i think everyone's out here they're they're beating they're enjoying life

00:14:22.920 they're drinking they're doing the thing and then it's traditional in a sense when you need to do

00:14:26.760 this so listen amen i'll say that when it suits you when it suits you and all people like selective

00:14:32.040 outreach wait wait no i'm just going to add a point and say that they don't mention it because

00:14:36.640 the majority of uh churchgoers are now women and they're catering to women so if they're pre-submission

00:14:43.160 you're not going to get much of an audience really damn there you go the church has been 0.89

00:14:48.880 very feminized wow i mean why do you think they have like gay flags in the church now 0.99

00:14:55.220 yeah that is

00:14:56.440 but you know what i mean that's not biblical i don't think

00:15:00.900 i don't think men are really pushing that that's what i mean no no no no no no but is that to do with

00:15:07.840 remember it's got to do with fitting in like the whole lgbtq plus i can't remember the whole name

00:15:13.260 yeah um it's like a it's like a common thing now it's like it's a big thing now so it's like

00:15:18.700 it will like businesses will now push it and say we support this because it brings like publicity

00:15:24.660 and sales or whatever whether you do or whatever i know me and i know many people that are gay or

00:15:30.700 whatever many of us don't give a damn i didn't even know we had flags in there you know what pride

00:15:37.620 two of my man them friends said oh and he asked me my opinion on something i said bro i didn't even

00:15:41.740 you lot are telling me more about the community than me i said i didn't even know i said okay big up lgbtq plus

00:15:48.640 you

JustPearlyThings - August 12, 2023

The Church Does This To Modern Women

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