JustPearlyThings - The Curse of The Modern Mother

00:00:00.000 Thank you.

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00:01:07.000 Good afternoon.

00:01:21.820 Good evening, ladies and gentlemen.

00:01:23.600 Welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily here on the Audacity Network.

00:01:27.500 I am your host, Pearl.

00:01:28.320 Welcome to the show.

00:01:29.220 So I want to tell you guys today about a realization that I had.

00:01:36.200 So when I first got into red pill content and like watching,

00:01:45.160 I saw a stream that Rolo Tomasi did about Michaela Peterson.

00:01:52.780 And when I first saw the stream, I thought it was a bit harsh, right?

00:01:58.420 He was, I can't remember exactly, so I'm paraphrasing, but it was insinuating that she was having

00:02:05.500 someone else raise her kids.

00:02:07.920 And I thought to myself, how would he even know that?

00:02:10.640 And it was something along the lines of her putting on social media looking for a babysitter.

00:02:22.380 And hindsight 2020, this was absolutely insane.

00:02:29.380 This woman was asking her Instagram to essentially watch her kid.

00:02:35.400 And there was a red pill.

00:02:37.400 And there was a red pill that once I saw it, I just couldn't unsee it.

00:02:42.440 And that was the curse of modern mothers.

00:02:46.280 Now, what is a modern mother?

00:02:49.720 These are women that put anything else above their children.

00:02:53.660 Now, there was a time when I was younger, there was, so I had about like three really good friends

00:03:02.140 that I was friends with when I was a kid.

00:03:05.440 And I remember collectively, they all really found out that their moms were crazy.

00:03:12.660 They spent most of their life thinking that up to like 13 years old,

00:03:16.720 everyone else, that the dad was the bad guy.

00:03:20.780 So they thought, you know, one woman had her dad that was deployed.

00:03:26.700 And, you know, all throughout the year, her mom would tell her all these terrible things about her dad

00:03:31.720 till she hit about 13, 14 years old, figures out the mom's crazy.

00:03:36.200 One mom was cheating on the dad.

00:03:39.340 And what I figured out is there's all these different archetypes of mothers

00:03:43.540 that just really do not want to be parents.

00:03:47.100 Now, I need to make a disclaimer.

00:03:59.020 I am not talking about all mothers.

00:04:01.600 There are mothers out there that are amazing,

00:04:05.240 that put their kids first, that would do anything for their children.

00:04:09.600 And I don't want to be flagged by YouTube for hate speech on this video.

00:04:13.800 So when I am referring to the modern mothers,

00:04:17.420 I am referring to the mothers that did a bad job and put everything above their children.

00:04:24.020 Now, when I think of the classes of mothers, there's like an A team, right?

00:04:28.620 I mean, just like a classroom, not everybody can be an A student.

00:04:33.460 So when there is an A student mother, I think of a woman who gave up her career

00:04:39.980 or maybe still obeyed and submitted to her husband, even with a career, trusted his judgment.

00:04:48.760 But you knew that that mother would do anything to be with her kids.

00:04:53.340 She was not letting outside people watch the kids.

00:04:56.080 She was not putting her kids in daycare.

00:04:58.200 She would work night shifts.

00:04:59.680 She would do whatever it took to be the one that she would become.

00:05:03.640 She would work at night if she had to and take her kids to school in the morning.

00:05:08.500 You know, there are some mothers that are really, really dedicated.

00:05:13.620 These are not the mothers I'm discussing today.

00:05:17.000 As a gentle parenting mother.

00:05:19.860 Now, these are the mothers that really want to be their kid's friend.

00:05:25.660 They don't like to tell their children no.

00:05:28.520 And the reason being is they don't like the icky feeling of being the bad guy.

00:05:35.560 And they want all the benefits of being a mother, raising good kids,

00:05:39.620 having a good relationship with those kids,

00:05:42.960 but ultimately often raise their kids to be terrible people

00:05:46.900 because they want to do the gentle parenting method.

00:05:49.480 Now, I'm not one to say you should abuse your kids like that.

00:05:53.580 That would be a terrible thing to say.

00:05:55.140 I don't say that.

00:05:56.100 I'm not one to say that you should, you know.

00:06:05.020 Now, these are women, and they will tell you themselves,

00:06:09.340 that will do anything.

00:06:13.600 They would much rather raise a kid by themselves

00:06:16.900 than do the work of getting along with somebody for the child.

00:06:21.720 Let her tell you herself.

00:06:24.540 Oh, no.

00:06:25.240 I recently came across a...

00:06:26.700 Let me go back.

00:06:28.160 Okay, so people wonder...

00:06:30.420 Here we go.

00:06:31.820 ...why someone would want to be a single mom by choice.

00:06:34.640 I know I've mentioned to people,

00:06:36.760 oh, I'd rather just be a single mother.

00:06:39.380 I think once you get to a certain age,

00:06:41.540 people start to ask you,

00:06:43.160 when are you getting married?

00:06:44.320 When are you having kids?

00:06:45.240 Et cetera, et cetera.

00:06:45.900 And I've said, like,

00:06:47.200 I would rather just have my kids on my own

00:06:50.640 and be a single mom.

00:06:51.980 I've had people ask me...

00:06:53.420 Now, single mothers,

00:06:56.100 you know, it's one thing

00:06:57.300 if you put your all into a marriage

00:06:59.280 and it just doesn't work out.

00:07:01.160 I think we've all seen two people be married

00:07:03.680 that just should never have been married

00:07:05.920 in the first place.

00:07:07.100 They weren't the right people.

00:07:08.760 Their temperaments were completely different.

00:07:10.820 They would argue.

00:07:11.440 But they can break up amicably

00:07:13.960 and do what's best for the children.

00:07:17.080 And then there's the women that can't even try.

00:07:22.040 I don't know, maybe they're afraid of failure.

00:07:24.840 But usually it's because they're so insufferable

00:07:28.140 they can't get along with anybody.

00:07:30.800 And they think, you know,

00:07:32.060 I can't get along with anybody,

00:07:33.360 so let's make the kids suffer.

00:07:36.980 You know, let's make the...

00:07:38.960 And oftentimes these people have

00:07:40.560 de-habilitating problems.

00:07:43.700 Maybe they can't...

00:07:44.880 Maybe it's their personality.

00:07:46.260 Maybe it's borderline personality disorder.

00:07:49.820 Maybe it's their weight that they can't control.

00:07:52.420 But in some way,

00:07:54.040 generally these people

00:07:55.080 cannot take care of themselves

00:07:56.960 to some degree.

00:07:59.200 Not all, not all, not all, YouTube.

00:08:02.020 Like, why would you want that?

00:08:03.980 For me,

00:08:04.920 I don't have to compromise.

00:08:09.580 And so I don't have to compromise

00:08:10.900 in how I raise my kids.

00:08:12.680 I don't have to compromise

00:08:13.840 in where we're living,

00:08:17.140 in moving for someone else's career.

00:08:20.800 Me, me, me, me.

00:08:22.520 What I want.

00:08:24.060 Decisions, et cetera.

00:08:25.460 And I'll be honest,

00:08:26.460 initially I did...

00:08:28.840 I did, um,

00:08:31.560 look into

00:08:32.840 having a known donor

00:08:35.360 or, like, a co-parenting situation.

00:08:38.140 And I'm really glad

00:08:39.220 that I didn't choose that route

00:08:40.500 because I don't want to share

00:08:42.180 these decisions with anyone.

00:08:43.840 And so that's pretty much

00:08:45.060 why I chose to be

00:08:45.900 a single mom by choice.

00:08:46.840 There's so many ways

00:08:47.980 someone can become

00:08:48.680 a single mom by choice.

00:08:49.960 You can go

00:08:50.700 the traditional adoption route,

00:08:52.140 so going to an adoption agency

00:08:54.020 or maybe, you know,

00:08:56.960 someone who's having a baby.

00:08:58.220 Now, I can't say adoption

00:09:01.560 and IVF are the same thing.

00:09:06.820 Now, I'd like to say

00:09:08.460 as somebody that's been

00:09:09.840 on both sides

00:09:10.720 of the adoption system, right,

00:09:13.200 at least my family did,

00:09:16.160 you know, we adopted.

00:09:19.100 I had a brother

00:09:20.020 that was given up for adoption.

00:09:21.580 So I've been on both sides.

00:09:24.000 It's one thing

00:09:25.020 to take a baby.

00:09:26.700 Now, babies,

00:09:27.880 they tend to have

00:09:28.600 a long wait list

00:09:29.760 from what I understand.

00:09:31.440 The kids that nobody

00:09:32.900 takes or signs up for as much

00:09:35.620 are the children

00:09:37.260 that are in foster care.

00:09:39.600 You know, maybe their mom's

00:09:40.500 a crackhead

00:09:41.140 and, like, the state

00:09:41.900 had to take them away

00:09:42.940 and now this kid

00:09:43.680 has seen some terrible things

00:09:45.640 he wants to raise, you know,

00:09:47.160 that's a ton of work.

00:09:48.800 Maybe special needs, you know.

00:09:50.560 Now, could I see the case

00:09:53.600 for someone being

00:09:54.400 a single mother

00:09:55.160 and taking care of a kid

00:09:56.560 that nobody wants?

00:09:58.140 That is not the same thing.

00:10:01.740 What these ladies do

00:10:03.120 is they go and they pay

00:10:04.120 for egg, you know,

00:10:06.160 egg donors, IVF.

00:10:07.640 They get all the technology,

00:10:09.060 sperm donors,

00:10:09.760 and make a baby

00:10:11.880 that they are not prepared,

00:10:13.420 ready for,

00:10:14.140 because they can't find a guy

00:10:15.860 to deal with them.

00:10:16.760 No, I wasn't adopted.

00:10:19.860 Don't, no, I,

00:10:21.660 I had, um,

00:10:24.240 I had a brother

00:10:26.100 I found out about

00:10:27.000 later in life.

00:10:27.900 I'll tell you that story

00:10:28.860 a different day.

00:10:31.820 Sorry.

00:10:32.900 Okay.

00:10:33.380 That would like to

00:10:34.440 put their child up

00:10:35.120 for adoption

00:10:35.640 or would prefer

00:10:36.440 to...

00:10:37.300 Also, hit that like button.

00:10:38.600 Also, if you guys have

00:10:39.400 a comment you want read,

00:10:41.020 you go to

00:10:41.380 theaudacitynetwork.com.

00:10:42.980 My friend here,

00:10:43.640 Richard Evans,

00:10:44.320 says,

00:10:44.540 white people are doomed

00:10:45.800 to fail because

00:10:46.480 they're the only race

00:10:47.900 that cares about

00:10:49.000 what women think

00:10:49.940 and say.

00:10:50.700 Andrew Tate.

00:10:51.560 That is not true.

00:10:54.440 That is not true, Andrew.

00:10:56.280 I,

00:10:57.060 if we're going to talk

00:10:58.260 about mother issues,

00:10:59.400 there's a lot of people

00:11:00.440 that they can't move away

00:11:02.920 from their mothers.

00:11:04.620 I've seen this across races,

00:11:06.220 can't move away

00:11:06.860 from their moms,

00:11:08.140 always have to live

00:11:09.220 their life

00:11:09.760 on their mom's terms.

00:11:11.040 Like, let's not,

00:11:12.480 come on,

00:11:13.200 Tate,

00:11:13.460 I don't agree with that.

00:11:15.400 Place their child.

00:11:18.560 You can,

00:11:19.640 I wrote them all down

00:11:20.500 so one second.

00:11:21.360 Well,

00:11:21.800 not all of them.

00:11:22.540 I'm sure there's some

00:11:23.120 that I'm missing,

00:11:23.800 but

00:11:24.040 embryo adoption

00:11:26.980 or donation.

00:11:28.140 So,

00:11:28.380 embryo adoption

00:11:29.140 is when

00:11:30.660 someone does IVF

00:11:32.460 and they have

00:11:33.740 extra

00:11:35.060 or single parent

00:11:36.580 looking to

00:11:38.280 start their family.

00:11:39.020 You good?

00:11:47.680 And then

00:11:48.840 there's

00:11:50.500 IVF,

00:11:51.360 IUI,

00:11:52.180 ICI,

00:11:52.960 and of course

00:11:53.560 foster to adopt.

00:11:56.120 And so,

00:11:56.800 I did IVF.

00:11:57.840 I think people

00:11:58.480 pretty much know

00:11:59.460 what IVF is.

00:12:00.900 So,

00:12:01.340 IVF is when you

00:12:02.560 stimulate your ovaries

00:12:04.080 to create eggs

00:12:05.220 or more eggs

00:12:07.400 and then you will

00:12:08.780 fertilize them

00:12:09.540 with sperm

00:12:10.200 once they're fertilized

00:12:11.400 after like,

00:12:12.200 it can go from

00:12:12.920 three to seven days.

00:12:14.820 I'm not sure

00:12:15.580 if it can go longer

00:12:16.280 than that,

00:12:16.740 but I know

00:12:17.060 three to seven

00:12:17.660 is what I've seen.

00:12:19.840 And at that point,

00:12:21.440 they're empty.

00:12:21.680 Okay,

00:12:22.160 we get the idea.

00:12:23.060 So,

00:12:23.320 you know,

00:12:23.560 she's telling you

00:12:24.260 herself,

00:12:25.140 I don't want

00:12:26.440 to get along

00:12:28.380 with a man

00:12:29.000 because I don't

00:12:29.820 want to share

00:12:30.300 any of the decisions.

00:12:31.940 Now,

00:12:32.340 what is interesting,

00:12:35.060 this is across

00:12:35.800 race,

00:12:36.880 culture,

00:12:37.400 and country.

00:12:39.060 You know,

00:12:39.400 I've talked to people

00:12:40.140 from Nigeria

00:12:41.060 to India

00:12:42.240 to white America,

00:12:44.560 black America,

00:12:45.840 southern America,

00:12:46.780 northern America.

00:12:48.160 Most houses

00:12:49.160 are decorated

00:12:49.980 the way the mom wants.

00:12:51.680 Most kids

00:12:52.460 go to school

00:12:53.160 where the mother wants.

00:12:55.120 Most things

00:12:56.260 are done

00:12:56.820 the way the mother wants.

00:12:58.620 What percent

00:12:59.160 of people

00:12:59.700 had a dad

00:13:00.440 that knew

00:13:00.860 how to say no

00:13:01.660 and that couldn't

00:13:03.680 be manipulated?

00:13:04.760 I mean,

00:13:05.000 how often

00:13:05.660 do women

00:13:06.840 overreact,

00:13:07.960 not all?

00:13:09.120 Do many women

00:13:09.980 overreact

00:13:11.100 just to get

00:13:12.760 the man

00:13:13.180 to do something

00:13:13.940 for them?

00:13:16.100 Now,

00:13:16.740 we're going

00:13:17.060 to continue

00:13:17.760 to the single

00:13:20.220 mothers by choice.

00:13:21.400 So this is

00:13:21.980 another woman

00:13:22.600 saying her journey

00:13:23.480 to being

00:13:23.880 a single

00:13:24.300 mother by choice.

00:13:25.960 Everyone,

00:13:26.780 and welcome

00:13:27.060 to my channel

00:13:27.800 and welcome

00:13:28.760 to my journey

00:13:29.440 on becoming

00:13:30.060 a single mom

00:13:30.800 by choice.

00:13:31.520 My name is Caitlin.

00:13:32.360 I'm 34

00:13:33.060 and will be

00:13:34.060 35 in April

00:13:35.200 and I live

00:13:36.020 in Maryland.

00:13:37.600 So what is

00:13:39.100 a single mom

00:13:39.900 by choice?

00:13:40.560 A single mom

00:13:41.180 by choice

00:13:41.660 is someone

00:13:42.120 who seeks

00:13:42.840 out solo motherhood

00:13:44.080 for a variety

00:13:45.140 of different reasons

00:13:46.080 and a variety

00:13:47.320 of different ways.

00:13:48.280 You can seek

00:13:49.380 out motherhood

00:13:50.220 by a sperm donor,

00:13:51.480 an embryo donor,

00:13:52.540 adoption,

00:13:53.080 there's a variety

00:13:53.740 of different ways.

00:13:55.380 It is different

00:13:56.160 than someone

00:13:56.880 who gets pregnant

00:13:58.160 and the relationship

00:13:58.960 doesn't work

00:13:59.680 and they decide

00:14:00.840 to still have

00:14:01.860 the baby

00:14:02.300 and be a solo mom.

00:14:04.320 So how did

00:14:05.280 I get here?

00:14:06.840 What started off

00:14:07.740 as an egg freezing

00:14:08.940 journey

00:14:09.520 turned into

00:14:10.760 a lot of research

00:14:11.920 and just

00:14:12.720 some soul searching

00:14:13.560 and I was

00:14:15.480 in a seven-year

00:14:16.380 relationship

00:14:17.060 and that

00:14:18.600 unfortunately

00:14:19.220 didn't work out.

00:14:20.740 I knew I wanted

00:14:21.400 to be a mom

00:14:22.260 and I thought

00:14:23.000 So she was

00:14:23.740 in that relationship

00:14:24.720 trying to find

00:14:25.780 Prince Charming.

00:14:27.900 If women know

00:14:28.920 they want to be moms,

00:14:30.240 they're not waiting

00:14:30.880 around to do it.

00:14:32.300 It's on the table

00:14:33.320 as soon as the man

00:14:34.320 wants it.

00:14:36.620 He would be the one

00:14:37.580 that I would have

00:14:38.040 a family with.

00:14:38.880 He had three kids

00:14:39.720 of his own

00:14:40.460 which sparked

00:14:41.180 my motherly instincts

00:14:42.820 but up until

00:14:43.840 this point

00:14:44.680 I've been really

00:14:45.180 focused on my career

00:14:46.280 and I'm fortunate

00:14:47.380 to have gotten

00:14:48.060 a promotion

00:14:48.520 which gives me

00:14:49.220 off weekends again

00:14:50.240 and that is just

00:14:52.400 giving me a little bit

00:14:53.340 more of a work-life

00:14:54.080 balance where I feel

00:14:55.200 like I'm ready

00:14:56.000 to start my family.

00:14:58.360 Unfortunately,

00:14:59.560 the right guy

00:15:00.480 hasn't come along.

00:15:01.600 I've dated on and off

00:15:02.800 since that relationship

00:15:04.000 ended four years ago.

00:15:05.400 I've met some

00:15:06.180 amazing people

00:15:07.100 and some of my

00:15:09.060 greatest friends.

00:15:10.680 However,

00:15:11.020 I haven't met

00:15:12.080 the one

00:15:12.580 and the person

00:15:13.300 that wants to commit

00:15:14.220 and have a family

00:15:15.180 with me.

00:15:15.800 So,

00:15:16.340 throw everything

00:15:16.840 into dating

00:15:17.540 or do I go

00:15:19.440 about solo motherhood?

00:15:20.760 I am the type

00:15:21.560 of person

00:15:22.040 who

00:15:22.740 when I want

00:15:25.660 something

00:15:26.060 I just go

00:15:27.460 after it

00:15:28.200 and

00:15:30.380 Now,

00:15:31.320 did she think

00:15:32.340 okay

00:15:32.660 what's better

00:15:34.680 for the kid?

00:15:35.660 She thought

00:15:36.040 this is what

00:15:36.900 I want.

00:15:38.260 Me, me, me, me, me,

00:15:39.300 me, me, me, me, me.

00:15:40.580 Did she think

00:15:41.180 is it

00:15:42.120 eating in a pressure cooker?

00:15:43.580 I wanted that family

00:15:44.900 so bad

00:15:45.940 and I wanted

00:15:46.560 to have kids

00:15:47.280 so bad

00:15:47.880 that every date

00:15:48.780 I went on

00:15:49.500 I was looking at it

00:15:51.220 does this have

00:15:51.740 the potential

00:15:52.300 to progress

00:15:53.080 to an engagement

00:15:54.060 in six months

00:15:55.260 to a year?

00:15:56.260 Now,

00:15:56.980 this is the anxiety

00:15:58.240 that women make

00:15:59.160 men's problem.

00:16:01.100 Look,

00:16:02.260 I'm no spring chicken,

00:16:04.920 you know,

00:16:05.200 but

00:16:07.080 is it fair

00:16:08.400 for me

00:16:09.120 and I'm asking

00:16:10.240 you guys

00:16:10.600 is it fair

00:16:11.120 for the women

00:16:11.840 if we decide

00:16:13.740 to settle down

00:16:15.480 25,

00:16:17.380 26,

00:16:18.140 35

00:16:18.560 as opposed

00:16:20.040 to 20,

00:16:20.840 21,

00:16:21.540 22

00:16:22.060 is it fair

00:16:24.860 to put that

00:16:25.560 on the men

00:16:26.180 and a marriage

00:16:28.780 quickly after

00:16:29.480 and then kids

00:16:30.440 because I don't

00:16:31.540 want to start

00:16:32.200 having kids

00:16:32.880 in the show

00:16:33.520 if I get

00:16:35.160 10 signups

00:16:36.160 this show

00:16:36.640 on the audacity

00:16:37.400 network.com

00:16:38.340 I want no excuses

00:16:39.880 none

00:16:40.360 because it's

00:16:41.580 on the website

00:16:42.340 it's on

00:16:43.120 I mean sorry

00:16:43.660 it's on Apple Store

00:16:44.720 and it's also

00:16:46.220 on

00:16:46.900 whatever the other one

00:16:49.420 I have an Apple phone

00:16:50.240 the other one

00:16:50.800 so if I get 10

00:16:52.820 we can do call-ins

00:16:55.480 and I'll take like

00:16:56.200 a couple callers

00:16:57.000 at the end

00:16:57.480 assuming my producer

00:16:59.780 says we can do it

00:17:00.760 which I'm sure

00:17:02.600 he will tell me

00:17:03.440 soon

00:17:03.700 it's a holiday

00:17:05.800 season

00:17:06.240 you know

00:17:06.500 he's at home

00:17:07.000 but I got

00:17:08.480 I officially

00:17:09.100 got one signup

00:17:10.600 from Elliot

00:17:19.620 I won't say

00:17:20.520 the last name

00:17:21.240 but did get

00:17:22.920 a signup

00:17:23.460 so yeah

00:17:23.820 yeah

00:17:24.120 I will blackmail

00:17:25.400 you guys

00:17:25.880 yep

00:17:26.360 yep

00:17:27.760 Andrew Wilson

00:17:29.200 LARPing again

00:17:30.160 well

00:17:31.460 too bad

00:17:32.720 after 40

00:17:34.280 that just

00:17:34.740 personally

00:17:35.220 isn't for me

00:17:36.200 I

00:17:37.200 really

00:17:38.980 wanted to

00:17:40.120 start having

00:17:40.620 kids around

00:17:41.240 this time

00:17:41.780 and I actually

00:17:42.460 always said it

00:17:43.080 tongue-in-cheek

00:17:43.680 that if I'm 35

00:17:44.580 and I'm still

00:17:45.200 single

00:17:45.560 then I'm just

00:17:46.620 gonna do it

00:17:47.060 with a sperm

00:17:47.520 donor

00:17:47.800 and I never

00:17:48.420 really thought

00:17:48.980 that was going

00:17:49.440 to happen

00:17:49.820 but yet

00:17:50.820 here we are

00:17:51.740 so in doing

00:17:52.420 research

00:17:52.900 I turned to

00:17:53.660 YouTube

00:17:53.940 and I found

00:17:54.680 some amazing

00:17:55.280 women who have

00:17:56.260 chosen this path

00:17:57.100 that I felt

00:17:57.620 a connection

00:17:58.260 to

00:17:58.600 and I

00:17:58.900 okay

00:17:59.040 what would

00:17:59.480 I do

00:18:00.020 if I was

00:18:00.940 35

00:18:01.540 and I

00:18:02.180 wanted

00:18:02.520 children

00:18:03.180 I don't

00:18:05.800 believe in IVF

00:18:06.720 so what would

00:18:07.260 I do

00:18:07.540 if I was

00:18:07.880 coaching her

00:18:08.600 I would

00:18:10.500 first say

00:18:10.980 all right

00:18:11.340 lady

00:18:11.700 we need

00:18:13.360 to let

00:18:13.660 whatever your

00:18:14.220 list is

00:18:14.800 for a husband

00:18:15.500 we need

00:18:15.840 to cut it

00:18:16.280 in half

00:18:16.700 he needs

00:18:18.860 to be

00:18:19.240 attractive

00:18:19.840 enough

00:18:20.460 that you

00:18:21.260 can have

00:18:21.600 sex with

00:18:22.120 him

00:18:22.300 that's

00:18:24.260 one

00:18:24.520 he needs

00:18:26.940 to have

00:18:27.640 to be

00:18:28.160 a good

00:18:28.500 person

00:18:29.060 to raise

00:18:29.600 the kids

00:18:30.140 and I

00:18:31.400 would say

00:18:31.840 you get

00:18:32.160 like three

00:18:32.700 things that

00:18:33.300 you want

00:18:33.720 you want

00:18:35.240 them to be

00:18:35.560 tall and

00:18:36.180 hot

00:18:36.440 pick one

00:18:37.020 pick one

00:18:38.720 lady

00:18:39.020 and I

00:18:39.300 would say

00:18:39.580 all right

00:18:39.920 it's time

00:18:40.400 you know

00:18:41.100 the ladies

00:18:41.840 will say

00:18:42.200 no I

00:18:42.720 don't want

00:18:42.940 to use

00:18:43.200 the dating

00:18:43.640 apps

00:18:43.900 I would

00:18:44.100 say it's

00:18:44.380 time to

00:18:44.780 use the

00:18:45.120 dating

00:18:45.380 apps

00:18:45.740 you get

00:18:46.740 like 5,000

00:18:47.640 matches

00:18:48.020 on there

00:18:49.000 and I would

00:18:50.760 say I'm

00:18:51.000 sorry lady

00:18:51.660 but it's

00:18:52.560 time

00:18:53.040 you're gonna

00:18:54.160 have to

00:18:54.580 sleep with

00:18:54.960 these guys

00:18:55.380 pretty fast

00:18:56.120 you're 35

00:18:57.580 no guy

00:18:58.460 is gonna

00:18:58.800 wait

00:18:59.100 so if

00:18:59.400 you like

00:18:59.740 a guy

00:19:00.140 you think

00:19:01.140 he could

00:19:01.440 be it

00:19:01.800 use

00:19:02.060 protection

00:19:02.640 but this

00:19:05.080 is the only

00:19:05.620 way that

00:19:06.180 that whole

00:19:06.640 waiting thing

00:19:07.560 you know

00:19:08.740 I'll be

00:19:09.140 nice

00:19:09.400 I'll give

00:19:09.700 you three

00:19:10.080 dates

00:19:10.440 if you

00:19:10.720 don't want

00:19:10.960 to sleep

00:19:11.260 with him

00:19:11.580 by three

00:19:11.980 dates

00:19:12.320 keep going

00:19:13.480 move on

00:19:14.420 next

00:19:14.920 next

00:19:15.240 I need

00:19:16.180 you to

00:19:16.400 fill out

00:19:16.860 your schedule

00:19:17.620 with these

00:19:18.860 with dates

00:19:19.580 this is

00:19:22.060 your job

00:19:22.560 this is

00:19:22.880 a part

00:19:23.360 time

00:19:23.680 job

00:19:24.180 you know

00:19:28.600 and will

00:19:31.600 she get

00:19:32.020 picked

00:19:32.380 will it

00:19:32.720 work out

00:19:33.260 probably

00:19:34.620 not

00:19:35.040 but look

00:19:37.140 at it

00:19:37.360 we gotta

00:19:37.640 do the

00:19:37.940 best we

00:19:38.300 can

00:19:38.620 it's

00:19:38.860 better

00:19:39.020 than being

00:19:39.260 a single

00:19:39.640 mother

00:19:40.040 I felt

00:19:43.120 that

00:19:43.500 wow

00:19:44.100 I really

00:19:44.540 could do

00:19:44.900 this as

00:19:45.320 well

00:19:45.540 I also

00:19:46.420 threw

00:19:46.660 myself

00:19:47.020 into

00:19:47.260 podcasts

00:19:47.900 the single

00:19:48.360 greatest

00:19:48.680 choice

00:19:48.980 podcast

00:19:49.440 is one

00:19:50.260 of my

00:19:50.640 favorites

00:19:51.080 and I

00:19:52.140 have done

00:19:52.620 some of

00:19:53.000 her

00:19:53.200 community

00:19:53.800 okay guys

00:19:54.540 what would

00:19:54.920 you say

00:19:55.260 if she

00:19:55.580 wants to

00:19:56.080 get a

00:19:56.280 husband

00:19:56.660 if that's

00:19:57.200 what she's

00:19:57.460 looking for

00:19:57.860 she's got

00:19:58.160 to go

00:19:58.340 on dates

00:19:59.040 how else

00:20:01.820 is she

00:20:02.080 gonna get

00:20:02.420 there

00:20:02.720 oh you

00:20:04.420 know what

00:20:04.640 I would

00:20:04.880 do a

00:20:05.100 matchmaker

00:20:05.580 too

00:20:05.840 I would

00:20:06.860 say we're

00:20:07.160 gonna go

00:20:07.440 all angles

00:20:08.100 lady

00:20:08.420 I need

00:20:09.020 you to

00:20:09.260 approach

00:20:09.680 one

00:20:10.000 guy

00:20:10.200 you find

00:20:10.640 hot

00:20:10.900 every

00:20:11.140 day

00:20:11.460 so every

00:20:12.480 day you

00:20:12.820 go out

00:20:13.240 if you

00:20:13.480 see a

00:20:13.740 guy you

00:20:14.000 find hot

00:20:14.460 I want

00:20:14.680 you to

00:20:14.840 go say

00:20:15.160 hi

00:20:15.420 ask him

00:20:18.280 out

00:20:18.540 it's time

00:20:19.280 yeah

00:20:19.780 you gotta

00:20:20.800 hunt like

00:20:21.280 the men

00:20:21.660 do

00:20:21.900 I mean

00:20:22.360 you're

00:20:22.540 not

00:20:22.940 you're

00:20:24.940 not 22

00:20:25.580 anymore

00:20:26.280 she has

00:20:35.220 to date

00:20:35.540 40 year

00:20:36.120 old

00:20:36.360 men

00:20:36.960 yeah I

00:20:38.320 would say

00:20:38.700 go older

00:20:39.440 you

00:20:41.380 don't

00:20:41.640 I

00:20:41.820 wouldn't

00:20:42.320 go

00:20:42.480 divorced

00:20:43.120 because

00:20:43.420 I

00:20:43.560 think

00:20:43.800 once

00:20:44.380 the

00:20:44.520 guy's

00:20:44.800 done

00:20:45.000 that

00:20:45.260 once

00:20:45.640 he's

00:20:45.960 done

00:20:46.420 but

00:20:47.580 would

00:20:49.860 you

00:20:50.000 consider

00:20:50.440 rushing

00:20:51.040 the rushing

00:20:51.640 forcing a

00:20:52.220 marriage

00:20:52.480 to meet

00:20:53.040 the

00:20:53.180 biological

00:20:53.660 clock

00:20:54.620 leading

00:20:55.340 to

00:20:55.560 increased

00:20:56.060 divorce

00:20:56.540 rates

00:20:56.800 yeah

00:20:57.120 but I'm

00:20:58.720 just saying

00:20:59.080 if I

00:20:59.300 was guys

00:21:00.020 we're

00:21:00.220 trying to

00:21:00.440 be

00:21:00.580 pragmatic

00:21:00.980 here

00:21:01.500 feel free

00:21:01.960 to give

00:21:02.300 your

00:21:02.460 take

00:21:02.840 in the

00:21:03.100 comments

00:21:03.600 activities

00:21:04.600 and

00:21:05.060 that's

00:21:05.360 what I

00:21:05.520 would

00:21:05.620 say

00:21:05.800 I would

00:21:06.000 say

00:21:06.180 download

00:21:06.640 bumble

00:21:07.160 and hinge

00:21:07.680 now I

00:21:08.340 would say

00:21:08.600 go hinge

00:21:09.060 you're

00:21:09.660 gonna buy

00:21:10.100 you're

00:21:10.280 gonna buy

00:21:10.580 the premium

00:21:11.080 version

00:21:11.600 of it

00:21:12.000 and

00:21:13.600 you're

00:21:14.140 gonna

00:21:14.400 four nights

00:21:15.480 a week

00:21:15.820 you're

00:21:16.000 going on

00:21:16.400 dates

00:21:16.760 four nights

00:21:18.320 a week

00:21:18.700 until you

00:21:20.720 find your

00:21:21.140 first date

00:21:21.860 you have

00:21:22.780 up to

00:21:23.100 three dates

00:21:23.780 to want

00:21:24.240 to sleep

00:21:24.600 with them

00:21:24.960 if you

00:21:26.260 don't

00:21:26.680 it's

00:21:27.120 on to

00:21:27.420 the

00:21:27.520 I

00:21:27.980 wouldn't

00:21:28.280 go

00:21:28.480 there

00:21:28.760 for

00:21:32.220 the

00:21:32.400 ladies

00:21:32.800 though

00:21:33.100 I

00:21:33.260 would

00:21:33.420 say

00:21:33.720 you know

00:21:33.960 you're

00:21:34.200 gonna

00:21:34.280 have

00:21:34.420 to

00:21:34.500 start

00:21:34.680 booking

00:21:34.940 that

00:21:35.180 calendar

00:21:35.620 okay

00:21:38.460 so

00:21:38.900 you guys

00:21:39.380 get the

00:21:39.700 idea

00:21:40.000 this

00:21:40.460 is

00:21:40.660 a

00:21:40.940 so

00:21:41.880 the

00:21:42.180 other

00:21:42.420 the

00:21:42.700 thing

00:21:42.920 that

00:21:43.080 inspired

00:21:43.720 this

00:21:44.120 live

00:21:44.480 stream

00:21:44.880 was

00:21:46.680 the

00:21:47.020 social

00:21:47.540 media

00:21:48.160 mothers

00:21:49.680 so

00:21:52.080 these

00:21:52.880 are

00:21:53.020 the

00:21:53.160 women

00:21:53.440 that

00:21:53.880 either

00:21:54.160 are

00:21:54.420 Kim

00:21:54.660 Kardashian

00:21:55.200 or

00:21:55.480 think

00:21:55.780 they're

00:21:55.960 Kim

00:21:56.180 Kardashian

00:21:56.720 and

00:21:57.800 are

00:21:58.080 using

00:21:58.600 their

00:21:58.900 women

00:21:59.320 sorry

00:22:00.960 are

00:22:01.460 using

00:22:01.880 their

00:22:02.100 children

00:22:02.620 for

00:22:03.020 clout

00:22:03.460 now

00:22:04.340 as

00:22:04.560 you

00:22:04.660 guys

00:22:04.840 know

00:22:05.000 I

00:22:05.120 get a lot

00:22:05.460 of

00:22:05.600 flack

00:22:05.980 for

00:22:06.180 pointing

00:22:06.480 this

00:22:06.740 out

00:22:07.060 from

00:22:07.280 the

00:22:07.440 trad

00:22:07.700 cons

00:22:08.100 when

00:22:09.340 they'll

00:22:09.580 throw

00:22:10.260 their

00:22:10.460 kid

00:22:10.680 on

00:22:10.940 an

00:22:11.240 app

00:22:11.520 like

00:22:11.760 Twitter

00:22:12.060 with

00:22:12.360 pedophiles

00:22:13.060 and say

00:22:13.400 you know

00:22:13.640 what

00:22:14.020 I

00:22:15.360 need

00:22:15.660 to

00:22:15.820 virtue

00:22:16.100 signal

00:22:16.700 using

00:22:17.160 my

00:22:17.480 children

00:22:17.860 today

00:22:18.300 look

00:22:19.720 at

00:22:19.860 my

00:22:20.140 amazing

00:22:20.560 awesome

00:22:20.960 family

00:22:21.620 for

00:22:22.600 clout

00:22:23.060 Zach

00:22:26.000 says

00:22:26.240 pump

00:22:26.560 and dump

00:22:26.960 Pearl

00:22:27.360 stop

00:22:27.660 giving

00:22:27.920 away

00:22:28.200 my

00:22:28.460 moves

00:22:28.860 no

00:22:29.360 no

00:22:29.520 I

00:22:30.020 would

00:22:30.200 tell

00:22:30.420 the

00:22:30.600 35

00:22:31.020 year

00:22:31.280 old

00:22:31.440 woman

00:22:31.640 to

00:22:31.820 expect

00:22:32.380 it

00:22:32.640 the

00:22:33.240 trad

00:22:33.600 cons

00:22:33.940 will

00:22:34.080 say

00:22:34.240 wait

00:22:34.480 till

00:22:34.660 marriage

00:22:34.980 they're

00:22:35.240 idiots

00:22:35.660 at that

00:22:36.180 age

00:22:36.380 that's

00:22:36.640 not

00:22:36.860 going to

00:22:37.040 work

00:22:37.300 they're

00:22:37.740 dumb

00:22:37.960 I

00:22:39.460 would

00:22:39.620 say

00:22:39.800 look

00:22:40.020 lady

00:22:40.340 there's

00:22:41.280 something

00:22:41.520 wrong

00:22:41.800 with

00:22:41.960 you

00:22:42.060 I

00:22:42.160 don't

00:22:42.280 know

00:22:42.400 what

00:22:42.680 but

00:22:43.300 I

00:22:43.440 would

00:22:43.840 expect

00:22:44.220 to

00:22:44.480 get

00:22:44.620 pumped

00:22:44.920 and

00:22:45.140 dumped

00:22:45.360 a

00:22:45.520 couple

00:22:45.740 times

00:22:46.080 before

00:22:46.360 you

00:22:46.540 find

00:22:46.780 Prince

00:22:47.580 Charming

00:22:47.960 just

00:22:48.240 realistically

00:22:48.920 I

00:22:50.600 mean

00:22:50.940 anyways

00:22:55.060 so

00:22:55.520 now

00:22:56.040 she's

00:22:56.840 putting

00:22:57.160 her

00:22:57.680 12

00:22:59.460 year

00:22:59.660 old

00:22:59.840 daughter

00:23:00.140 on

00:23:00.420 TikTok

00:23:00.760 in

00:23:03.580 a

00:23:03.880 mini

00:23:04.280 skirt

00:23:04.840 with

00:23:06.120 her

00:23:06.320 boobs

00:23:06.760 out

00:23:07.120 at

00:23:08.240 like

00:23:08.480 12

00:23:09.040 years

00:23:09.460 old

00:23:10.100 so

00:23:31.920 and

00:23:32.720 they

00:23:32.960 also

00:23:33.320 do

00:23:33.600 the

00:23:33.780 thirst

00:23:34.220 traps

00:23:34.800 with

00:23:35.120 the

00:23:35.320 children

00:23:35.800 so

00:23:37.120 you

00:23:38.720 see

00:23:38.880 this

00:23:39.060 she's

00:23:39.300 she's

00:23:39.660 doing

00:23:40.100 the

00:23:40.420 the

00:23:40.640 booty

00:23:40.900 thing

00:23:41.540 oh

00:23:44.860 where's

00:23:45.280 the

00:23:45.620 hold

00:23:46.720 on

00:23:46.900 let me

00:23:47.140 go to

00:23:47.360 her

00:23:47.500 page

00:23:47.780 there

00:23:47.940 is

00:23:48.080 two

00:23:48.380 on

00:23:48.620 this

00:23:48.900 have

00:23:49.140 have

00:23:49.160 have

00:23:50.040 look at

00:23:54.100 this

00:23:54.420 she's

00:23:55.060 got

00:23:55.220 her

00:23:55.420 boobs

00:23:55.800 out

00:23:56.080 at

00:23:56.220 like

00:23:56.460 12

00:23:56.860 years

00:23:57.240 old

00:23:57.620 do

00:23:59.140 you

00:23:59.280 see

00:23:59.440 this

00:23:59.820 this

00:24:00.480 nonsense

00:24:00.920 have

00:24:03.880 a

00:24:04.060 holly

00:24:04.340 jolly

00:24:04.680 and

00:24:19.200 you

00:24:19.960 so

00:24:20.380 Kim Kardashian they have nannies raising their kids a lot of your trad con influencers and they

00:24:26.400 don't really want to be mothers they like the clout of the children they like having the kids

00:24:32.260 so they can be told I am a good person I am special awesome and amazing and motherhood trendy

00:24:41.160 trad wife trendy I know and so these are what I call the social media mothers now next are what I call

00:24:55.020 the mothers that really are not meant to be mothers these are the mothers that there is not a bone in

00:25:04.080 there you know sorry I'm a little spacey today guys don't know I'm kind of tired there aren't people

00:25:12.920 there are mothers that get absolute joy from watching their children they look at their kids and

00:25:21.720 it it lights up their life and then there's women that don't have a nurturing bone reasons why I

00:25:32.680 don't want any more children I gave up my entire 20s to being a mom I became a mom at 21 I had another

00:25:39.760 child at 26 shorty is trying to claim her 30s back like period okay I spent my entire 20s trying to

00:25:49.040 find the balance between being a mom and figuring out who the fuck I was and I didn't even know that

00:25:53.600 at that time because I thought I was just living so let's start there your 20s are supposed to be

00:26:00.780 your selfish years and anybody who tells you that that is not true I don't know what planet they're

00:26:07.060 on but your 20s are your selfish years is the years that you are an actual you're transitioning into

00:26:13.120 being an adult mentally physically emotionally spiritually etc so no you shouldn't be nobody's

00:26:18.920 parent especially in your early 20s and I had a son at 21 so we were riding this wave together just

00:26:25.380 getting smacked with the waves you know and then by the time I was 26 I mean it wasn't as hard but

00:26:30.280 still like I didn't have my 20s to myself so she resents her children she says you know what

00:26:38.560 I had these kids young I wish I didn't I didn't get to party I didn't get to do all the fun stuff

00:26:44.500 so no I don't want any more kids and let's not even get into this part but we are everywhere I go

00:26:53.120 that they see my two children they're like oh my god you look so young because I am I'm only 30

00:26:58.500 with a nine-year-old and a four-year-old and don't get me wrong like 21 you're an adult I was an adult I

00:27:05.760 had a child at an adult age but are you really an adult at 21 yeah are you really you are for all

00:27:17.960 you people out there or mamas who think you want to have children oh I got my allergies in my eye

00:27:24.280 before 25 don't do it and you know what 30 and after is a great age to become a mom honestly it

00:27:32.140 is like especially if you treated your 20s as you should it was tough being a mom I love my son and

00:27:41.420 I loved him and I had such a great time with him but I still wanted to do me and becoming like I had

00:27:47.900 to be selfless before I can even be selfish that was tough and then I had my daughter and let me

00:27:54.360 tell you having a child at an older age I saw the difference when you reflect between being a mom at

00:28:00.020 21 and being a mom at 26 and even being a mom now at 30 like my patience is so much more now like

00:28:05.680 so beautiful but imagine if I would have been selfish and then became selfless they would not

00:28:13.080 have had to ride these waves with me probably would have been simpler waves I don't know but

00:28:16.500 the reason I don't want no more kids is because my son is gonna be nine and my daughter's four and I

00:28:22.520 finally made it I'm not on survival mode anymore I am just a mom living life and life will just

00:28:30.920 continue to elevate from here and I want to claim that life before like I just want to claim it with my

00:28:38.800 kids so I'm two and done and 30 and clean period okay why do mothers get away with saying that they

00:28:51.100 don't like their children what effect is that going to have on the kids one day you know children they

00:28:59.760 don't always process things right away or understand what's going on but they're not stupid and they

00:29:04.640 figure it out eventually and you know many times adults figure out what happened in the past are

00:29:13.020 able to process things that happened during their childhood but they used to be able to process those

00:29:19.600 things privately now the ladies are on social media documenting how much they don't like their

00:29:26.900 children now I'm going to take a second and read the audacity chat so guys if you go to the

00:29:34.520 audacitynetwork.com and sign up I said I'll take callers today if we get 10 signups during the

00:29:40.980 show we have one right now you know it's up to you guys it's 10 bucks a month 80 bucks a year you

00:29:46.300 normally on most chats have to buy super chats but here you don't it's just on the website okay

00:29:51.260 um Bob Miller says sorry first names Bob especially if they've been run through I'm not saying you're

00:29:59.840 run through I'm just saying if especially if other women are run through yes it's not the way God

00:30:04.500 designed it um you mean nine I have already signed up um I said today but guys I don't work for free

00:30:13.400 this isn't I'm already signed up come on you're gonna if we're gonna go off the plan I need you

00:30:21.580 guys to to get the 10 during a show I'm not asking for a ton of money 10 bucks I signed up ages ago

00:30:30.780 somewhere in an alternate do you guys want the calls that bad I mean is this okay maybe I'll do

00:30:38.360 one or two let me make sure I can because my producer is oh he said he can do it okay

00:30:43.740 maybe I can Bob so why is the man ever wanted to settle down with her Pearl tell the YouTube people

00:30:51.300 you're only posting the zoom link on the audacity network and so they have to join to get it it'll be

00:30:55.800 a perk for us and drive those losers to your site you know what I like that idea I think that's that's

00:31:03.500 a good idea okay Charles being a single mom by choice should be illegal yes and it's crazy because

00:31:09.260 the conservatives will freak out at the gay guys that want to have kids rightly rightly so I don't

00:31:15.280 think that's right either but a man sorry a woman tries to do the same thing nobody bats an eye and

00:31:25.300 it's encouraged that woman is a sex trafficker I see it because she's a sex trafficker she's a

00:31:31.300 disgusting human being look how she's got dressed like a good little Catholic girl I have three

00:31:36.260 daughters and it's disgusting I think the average age of woman a thousand years ago was like 12 or 13 so

00:31:42.780 was her husband when the life expectancy was 40 how old do you think mothers were there must be 6

00:31:48.680 million years of human evolution there has to be known or no if not you wouldn't make it past 60

00:31:55.140 okay let me look at the next one

00:31:56.980 I have so many girls now this is women figuring out that motherhood is hard girlfriends that are like I

00:32:05.720 love my kid but I still want my life from before I had my kid I want to work even more now that I've

00:32:11.340 had a kid because I realized being a full-time mom is being hard there has been this weird stigma

00:32:16.700 around women who decide to not have kids I've been seeing it much more normalized now on TikTok I've

00:32:22.760 been seeing all these videos where people are saying I had kids and I love my kids but if I could go

00:32:28.680 back and do it over I wouldn't do it and that's something that was so taboo to say and it's super

00:32:34.300 controversial people are so scared for a reason for a reason if you think it's super taboo to say

00:32:43.140 why would it be taboo why would that be a good idea to say that and it's one thing to say it in private

00:32:48.840 and let's not pretend like the way we talk in public and private is the same thing

00:32:53.680 your mom yelling at you in private is one thing your mom yelling at you in front of everyone

00:33:02.460 is a completely different thing and social media has allowed women to do this Garrett if they do

00:33:10.200 feel that way to actually say that out loud but it's a real feeling that people actually have why

00:33:14.800 is that so horrible to talk about doesn't mean you don't love your child of course you would never

00:33:18.880 give them back it's not like you have to regret it to say hey if I knew what I was in for I wouldn't

00:33:24.820 do it let me do another can't even believe this I regret having kids I'm 35 female and I regret my

00:33:34.640 decision to ever have children I'm constantly burnt out and touched out and exhausted being the only one

00:33:41.940 doing the caretaking I love them and make sure that they know it but this is not a life I will never

00:33:48.120 choose to live for myself again how do other single parents in relationships make it happen

00:33:53.740 I feel like I'm going to explode either from depression exhaustion or rage my family's help

00:34:00.780 is minimal but I'm grateful for what they do give I haven't had a child-free night since Christmas

00:34:07.160 Eve 2020 and before that March of 2018 I'm so angry inside every time I have to take on one more burden

00:34:15.940 myself I want to run away some days but I would never inflict that trauma on my children my mom

00:34:23.640 left me and I would never hurt my kids like that I'm not some checked out parent either I give hugs

00:34:30.420 I read books I give nightly baths and I ask about school I give words of encouragement and I'm exhausted

00:34:38.140 buy it every single minute am I a piece of garbage yep probably but I really just wanted to get this off

00:34:50.240 my chest now these are the women you know feminists have a point to an extent put a one in the chat if

00:35:00.520 you think that there are certain women that were just not meant to have children or be mothers

00:35:06.560 and I'll tell you what interviewing a thousand women I used to think pretty much every woman had it in

00:35:13.860 them until I started interviewing women and seeing what they prioritize and there is a woman mother of

00:35:20.880 four that would come on my show constantly and I would always wonder who's watching her kids I knew she

00:35:27.020 wasn't watching them she was at every event everything we would throw she would come nice enough woman but

00:35:32.680 you know you beg not to mention the single mothers that have a revolving door of men

00:35:38.020 in and out of their life

00:35:41.280 okay next okay next the next archetype we have is the competing

00:35:50.620 the next archetype of mother we have is the competing mother these are the mothers that compete with their

00:36:01.640 daughters many of them flirt with their daughters boyfriends whenever something good happens to the

00:36:09.360 daughter they need to steal the attention they cannot deal with their children getting more attention than

00:36:18.560 them many men told me that their girlfriends mothers would hit on them these are the mothers that try to

00:36:26.740 be young forever and dress like they are in their teenage years next we have the I did so much for you

00:36:34.740 mother these are the mothers that want a ribbon for having a kid having a kid is easy anyone can do it

00:36:41.620 and these mothers resent their children because they missed out on their youth often married young and

00:36:49.360 gave up a high-powered career in order to be a mom you can't serve two masters you can't have it all

00:36:55.740 at least not at the same to do so they are women that gave up things in order to have children

00:37:00.820 but does it count if the women feel as though they should have chosen the alternative

00:37:05.860 I found that many women feel as though they missed out on a career or partying in their youth when

00:37:11.960 they were young they regret the decision and they make sure their children know this is where the

00:37:18.200 I did so much for you mothers come from this is where the mothers that want recognition for doing the

00:37:23.540 bare minimum of raising a child they chose to have I did so much for you means I give only in order

00:37:31.660 to get I missed out on this means I wanted to party more than being a mom next there are the I hate your

00:37:40.000 father mothers these are the mothers that hate the fathers of their children so much that they make the

00:37:46.900 kids pay for it these are the mothers that say things like you are just like your father these women

00:37:52.560 married men that they don't really like and every chance they get they belittle him these are the

00:37:58.100 mothers who make passive aggressive jokes and disrespect the father in front of the kid when

00:38:03.100 these women get divorced they make sure the entire town knows and they play victim even to the point of

00:38:08.060 fault filing abuse allegations the social media moms are the ones that use their children to build their

00:38:15.260 brand growing up children deserve a sense of privacy but for whatever reason the moms think it's more

00:38:21.280 important to show off that they are a good mother it's very obvious by their social media posts they

00:38:27.220 are trying to signal signal look at me I'm a great mom this in itself is not traditional because

00:38:32.880 traditional women bring the least amount of attention to themselves um

00:38:39.280 now I wanted to react to this is what I call the cope

00:38:45.980 and what women will do is they'll make decisions that clearly are not the best for their kids and

00:38:53.920 really if I were them I would just advise being quiet but what they tend to do is they tend to

00:38:59.760 have to rationalize these things and I want to show you guys two modern mothers and I do I am fans

00:39:09.480 of both of them so if you see this it's not personal but what you're saying makes no sense at all and

00:39:15.080 it makes you look like a bad mom I hope you're not I hope you're a good mom but based on this I

00:39:20.280 wouldn't bet on it okay so I'm gonna play this tower and the cop cars I mean I am in New York

00:39:28.000 City am I here we're here um hey is this your daily view when you're here well when I'm here

00:39:33.560 I try to be not in New York City as often as humanly possible but yeah when I'm here this is

00:39:39.160 not not a bad gig it's insane which I expected but then you're like okay I get it um okay we have a

00:39:46.280 lot to get to and not much time day in the life of Laura Trump right now oh my god is what

00:39:52.740 often it changes I mean that's the thing but if an average day I try to get up as early as I can

00:40:01.340 and get a workout in honestly sometimes it's in the three o'clock hour I wake up it depends on right now

00:40:06.360 in between trying to fit in uh many things that I'm personally doing like a podcast that I have or

00:40:12.640 um you know interviews for the RNC and campaign and I try to make a trip a day trip if I can and so

00:40:20.700 sometimes it means that I am the first one up and out of my house in the morning and the last one back

00:40:25.840 and in bed at night and as many moms know I am also if I come home at midnight and there's stuff

00:40:31.560 that's not in the right spot I'm putting it away absolutely you can't wake up to mess yeah to crap no

00:40:36.260 no I can't do it I can't function but you know it changes uh every day but it's a lot of travel it's a

00:40:42.100 lot of hustle but honestly it's the thing that I feel most inspired to do right now and I think is

00:40:48.420 most important to do and uh I know that I can do so they have they have slips is the most important

00:40:57.480 thing the kids or the job do it because it's not forever there's a finite amount of time attached to

00:41:04.320 how crazy things are right now um no no two days are alike and but it's always a hustle the finite

00:41:11.260 time period you're talking specifically about like the job stuff because the home stuff is the

00:41:16.840 exact same thing oh well the home stuff is right I mean and that and then it flies by and we were

00:41:21.540 just talking your kids are babies six and four yeah mine are 22 28 they said oh great she's a wonder

00:41:27.380 woman she forgot to mention the nanny yeah these women all have nannies teen and I'm so set like I'm

00:41:33.460 excited for this new chapter but I'm sad because they're not six and four right and so that's the hard

00:41:39.680 part is trying to balance all of the work stuff and it's more than work it's a passion it's a career

00:41:44.740 with the fact that your babies are not going to be babies for long yeah like you have to be present

00:41:49.720 so how it's not a lot of sleep I think that's generally how I operate now and you're right I'm

00:41:56.980 I'm so acutely aware because so many people have told me enjoy this time really take it in and look

00:42:03.720 you only get a certain amount of time to really impact the lives of your kids to impact the lives

00:42:09.260 of another human being and I don't want somebody else to do that job so I mean the mom guilt is real

00:42:15.000 sometimes my kids don't like when I leave I don't like when I leave but I I have to do it a lot

00:42:21.820 in the times now the question is does she have to is there a man that could do the same job just as good

00:42:31.720 I'm not saying it's right or wrong but what I am what I'm showing if she's admitting she's not

00:42:40.200 prioritizing the kids she's prioritizing what she wants to do if your kids are counting down the days

00:42:46.680 till you get back it's showing something else is the priority yeah she's married into the Trump family

00:42:54.300 they have enough money for her to not work now you could argue

00:42:58.280 you could argue that the country's in danger okay okay I get it but this is why I'm not the biggest

00:43:09.000 fan of women in politics because you can't do it all and generally these women it's at the expense of

00:43:17.200 the children I'm away I try to make sure that they're very busy doing they you know obviously when

00:43:24.440 they're in school that's one thing but camp sports activities things to keep them busy um but I don't

00:43:30.820 know I don't know that anybody has it fully balanced I feel like I always have loose ends everywhere and

00:43:35.060 I'm always kind of crazy and at night when I'm trying to go to sleep I like wake myself all like

00:43:39.460 I forgot to do this I get up out of bed I go do it but I think a lot of especially moms feel feel

00:43:45.200 probably the same way I actually have tried to not use the word balance as much because that makes

00:43:50.320 it sound like it's equal that's true and there's no such thing yeah like never even before you had

00:43:56.180 kids and you have kids and you're like wow I was a slacker I thought I was busy what was I doing

00:44:00.880 what was I doing with my time yeah exactly what are the conversations like with your kids and again

00:44:06.860 they're young but when you're like I promise I'll be back later tonight or tomorrow or you know

00:44:13.320 because they're old enough to understand yeah but what are those conversations like well uh you know

00:44:18.840 they I think nobody's better than the mom and dad right in a kid's life and I always try to let

00:44:26.880 them know that I will always come back mom always comes back but you know they understand I think

00:44:33.800 they're starting to understand why I'm traveling like I am right now and it's it's for grandpa

00:44:38.480 and um whenever we talk specifically about that and about the fact that right after Halloween mom won't

00:44:47.760 have to travel as much because all of the but they always want to know exactly when I'm coming back

00:44:52.160 when exactly will you be back will it be tonight will be tomorrow if you're coming back tonight will

00:44:56.660 you come in and see me before you go to bed of course I always do but I think it's um you know I

00:45:02.640 don't know that it's much different than any other parent you know it's no matter if you're going for

00:45:07.500 two hours away from your kids or two weeks away from your kids it's always hard to leave and

00:45:12.100 I do everything I can to make sure that I'm able to get back is look at that's a long time kids develop

00:45:20.940 attachment issues when you're gone that long now is it the end of the world who has a perfect

00:45:28.000 childhood I mean hell these kids are trumps choices and trade-offs Dane says uh Pearl first line

00:45:37.620 history was if you eat of the fruit you will be like God women are swallowing it no pun intended

00:45:43.680 there's always a new fruit and that will complete them it's because they have no fulfillment they have

00:45:49.000 no spiritual connection it's all material they say they might say that they have a spiritual connection

00:45:54.580 but that's BS Pearl she is so selfish and she is and she's messing with her kids and they're going

00:45:59.240 to deal with it the rest of their lives their nanny will probably be closer to them than their mother

00:46:03.220 so she's selfish yeah and the other thing so guys I was I was a product of nannies I grew up with

00:46:09.860 nannies and the challenge you have is the nannies will not stay forever it's really rare that you have

00:46:18.480 a nanny that'll stay for 18 years and it's you know how there's like a rotating door of like fathers that

00:46:26.540 like single mothers deal with when you know they're dating the the challenge you have with the nannies is

00:46:32.040 it's a rotating door of random women that are in your house and it's really hard on a kid like um when

00:46:41.460 I think of like the worst memories I ever had as a kid I was like sobbing because my nanny left

00:46:48.480 and it ultimately is selfish um not not saying like my parents were but you know because we had like 10

00:46:59.980 kids they did the best they could but you know it's women in that position when

00:47:08.300 it's it's very difficult on the children when the mother is not there as the primary caretaker

00:47:20.300 and she's leaving for two weeks at a time

00:47:23.460 I said Pearl you grew up with nannies I did I had um it was a program called

00:47:30.900 Au Pair in America and to be fair I don't think nannies necessarily are bad in itself

00:47:37.560 but what this program does is it's very cheap it's like subsidized I think in Illinois so it's

00:47:44.720 like a cheaper version or something but it's essentially an exchange program um so people

00:47:53.480 from Europe they don't tend to go to school right away they work for a couple years and so one program

00:47:59.240 they do that through is Au Pair in America and the nannies come they live in your house they stay

00:48:04.060 for a year up to two years I think the most we ever had was like three and then they go back to

00:48:09.780 Germany or mine were mostly Germans but I I could I could tell you the best countries to get wives

00:48:16.380 from because I grew up with like um like I had one from South Africa from Russia from Brazil um but

00:48:25.820 yeah I I remember like crying for like a week because I was so sad that this one it's like you fall in

00:48:32.260 love with the woman and then they just leave and um you know I don't I don't like to I don't this

00:48:40.380 isn't a pity party right but a lot of these mothers they don't consider um was it like an exchange student

00:48:48.720 program yeah but it was with they weren't in school so they were just a nanny for a year they'd go back

00:48:54.200 as quickly as I possibly but anyways they they don't consider the effect that has on a kid right

00:49:01.160 we can what about you what about you time do you know what I'm saying I know I know here's the thing

00:49:08.940 but see this is the modern this is the modern mentality Sage my thought is what about the kids

00:49:16.200 it's like the women they almost see it as um selfless that they give up any time for their kids

00:49:25.140 when I'm thinking um you leave for two weeks who the your poor kids um

00:49:33.720 and the modern mentality is what about you what about me thing because I'm older than you and I

00:49:44.980 ignored that and it takes a freaking toll I'm sure physically mentally spiritually like all of it

00:49:53.600 yeah so okay the 345 workout was just insane and quite obvious well but it's not always 345

00:49:58.460 that's only if it has to be I'm like today it was not just to be to be fair it was like uh 630

00:50:04.540 good because that's reasonable if you're doing 345 or 630 makes me feel guilty you're gonna inspire me

00:50:10.080 but anyway point being like that that actually is and I don't think everybody understands that workout

00:50:16.120 and getting that sweat on it is for you it's part of it it isn't just okay trying to look a

00:50:21.440 certain way it's mental it is so mental it is I mean a lot of times that's the only honestly the

00:50:28.260 only time I'm alone in a whole 24 hour period like that's that's it that's what I get and I

00:50:34.180 force that into I should interview my former nan you guys have to understand you guys are gonna get me

00:50:40.280 in trouble you know I get if I say the wrong thing on this show I get in trouble you know I mean

00:50:49.240 because I never want it to be like a pity party you know it's not but I'm just I'm just being honest

00:50:56.820 when I'm saying I would not recommend wouldn't be my first choice I don't think it's bad like okay

00:51:03.520 a baby like a nanny once or twice a week on the weekends who cares right I mean kids go to school

00:51:11.980 for the day they're fine but it's just when it's the primary caretaker when that's who's picking you

00:51:17.600 up from school every day it's it's like I remember I remember being a kid and I would like go out

00:51:25.200 to school and I remember I would just want it to be like my mom or my dad and it'd be kind of sad

00:51:30.440 be like oh dang it if it's the nanny no offense I like the nannies but you know they said

00:51:35.840 someone in the chat said you should only let your subscribers through the audacity network able to

00:51:42.200 call in I think it's a great marketing tool yes guys I I do have the audacity the call-in link but

00:51:49.460 yep I'm gatekeeping it today it's on the audacity chat

00:51:54.120 you guys gotta pay to get it sorry I don't work for free my schedule in a lot of ways because I

00:52:04.460 think it is so pro won't tell us the best country for a while you guys are distracting me I'm sorry

00:52:10.920 today I'm just spacey look I can't some shows are just not going to be a level they're just not like

00:52:18.040 you know sometimes it's a b or a c I don't know what to tell you guys you guys will just have to deal

00:52:23.520 with it the nanny is the best nanny so Brazilians very loving very fun we had spending issues with

00:52:33.560 the Brazilian nanny I remember I loved her a lot I really did but I remember we had spending issues

00:52:41.160 and they don't do well with discipline I had a South African nanny she I wasn't the biggest fan

00:52:47.380 of her I had German nannies I would say were my number one draft pick maybe it's because I'm part

00:52:55.340 German and it was just an easier transition but out of all the nannies I had my favorites were all

00:53:02.560 from Germany my favorite nanny married my uncle actually so she became family but Pearl has the

00:53:10.760 audacity to put the link on the audacity network yes I do yes I do Pearl did you grow up a millionaire

00:53:20.160 how did you have so many nannies well I mean my family like did well but it they weren't crazy until

00:53:28.820 I was a little bit older um but the the nannies it's not that expensive I believe in states where

00:53:37.760 it's subsidized so the price isn't what you guys would think like I know it's an option for like

00:53:45.880 upper middle class people too um you said the black haired German nanny was my favorite

00:53:54.780 you don't my favorite she was I had two I had two that I remember a lot and they were

00:54:04.180 I I offered them all of my piggy bank money to stay like I really you know

00:54:08.540 and again I'm so lucky like I got nothing to complain about so I'm not trying to make this a

00:54:15.440 pity thing but I know how difficult that is as a child because you don't really understand what's

00:54:20.860 going on you just know this person that you've grown close to for like two years

00:54:26.160 is leaving and then the worst part is when you get a nanny oh the worst is when you don't like the

00:54:36.360 nanny oh oh there is this one nanny that was so annoying my gosh the worst nanny I ever had

00:54:44.600 the worst and she stayed for two years and I was so mad I remember being so oh you know it's one

00:54:55.640 thing if you don't like somebody and it's like in your family like you don't like them but we're family

00:55:01.600 it's another thing if you're forced to interact with someone every day that's a stranger that you

00:55:06.480 don't like oh so important and it balances me you talk about a balance but it really does it settles

00:55:15.960 me and if I if I don't have that if I don't get that little bit of time to just break a sweat and

00:55:21.580 feel like I did something for me and just set my mind in a good spot then I feel kind of off the rest

00:55:27.520 of the day to be honest so that is my me time right now and it's not as much as I want it to be

00:55:33.420 but again I know that it won't be forever yeah you know push through it yeah yeah um the

00:55:39.500 the conversations with the kid part is what I wanted to get back to because I remember

00:55:43.780 having the the kids understand right they they get it as they get older um but I remember I haven't

00:55:52.440 probably fully forgiven myself for moments where I missed the dance recital missed just the class field

00:55:57.940 trip the basic things that's part of the reason why we become mothers yeah right um

00:56:02.680 there will always be guilt but how do you handle that part of it when you see it they know it's

00:56:09.080 wrong they do they just you know they don't admit it can't quite be there for everything yeah it's

00:56:15.400 it's the worst it's honestly the worst it um I think that it's like they don't how do your kids handle

00:56:21.940 not one question about the children the thing that I hope is that first of all my kids look back

00:56:30.120 on this time and they'll they'll realize what I've been doing and I hope they're very proud of what

00:56:35.540 I was doing and why I was doing it because honestly I'm not I'm not doing it for me I'm doing it for

00:56:40.460 them I'm doing it because I hope that the result is that they have a great life on the other end and

00:56:45.740 all kids in this country have a great life on the other side of of um November 5th but I also hope

00:56:52.400 that I am an example for them you know and I think that's really important because I think as much as

00:57:00.380 easy as it would be to just say you know what I'm only going to focus on my kids I also don't know

00:57:05.000 that that is the best model for them and and not that anybody's perfect anybody's got it all figured

00:57:09.740 out but I think the fact that they see that I'm out doing something that doesn't involve them and

00:57:15.360 they're okay there's somebody's taking care of them my mom comes a lot god bless moms uh out there

00:57:20.880 they call her Mimi she takes care of my kids a lot and I'm so lucky that I have her and that ability

00:57:26.900 but they see me out there doing something that's meaningful to me and I think that's really

00:57:32.140 powerful and I think that's really important for both my daughter and my son you know I hope one day

00:57:36.700 that my son meets um some tough chick out there who he's like wow she and my mom could get down

00:57:42.840 because like she goes hard and my mom went hard and I hope that that is of value to him one day

00:57:48.780 whenever he's you know seeking a a wife down the road and for my daughter I mean what a better

00:57:54.480 example for a girl than having a mom who's out there hustling I hope she takes that away I'm so

00:57:59.700 glad you said that because it took me way too long to realize that you know well that's good yeah I'm

00:58:04.180 ahead of things you are you seriously are because again the balance thing whatever but when they see

00:58:10.300 um you help out there like you said all kids helping others helping this country literally and

00:58:16.800 figuratively helping the country now the question is do we need conservative women fighting for this

00:58:23.560 country what's wrong with conservative men you know this is why I say there's no such thing as a

00:58:30.740 conservative woman even me and I'd like to say for all these people that said I claimed that I never

00:58:37.160 claimed that I don't I'm like what when did I say that it was saying there's like a hierarchy

00:58:43.100 there's a hierarchy of trad I'm gonna make it one day and you know Candace Owens is saying she's

00:58:51.000 gonna run for office in 2028 is there really not a a man that could do it

00:59:00.600 no man could do to have done what she could have done in the RNC

00:59:09.180 I don't know none America's pretty big

00:59:14.340 yeah okay I'm gonna listen to this for another minute and then we're gonna take callers

00:59:23.560 thank you to Dan who had the great idea the link to the zoom if you want to call in it's on the

00:59:29.700 audacity network website that's the audacity not network.com you can get it on the apple store um

00:59:36.180 also or android that was it so you go there download the app and then you can go into the chat

00:59:44.900 10 bucks a month 80 bucks a year that's unlimited super chats so normally on a show you got a super

00:59:51.820 every time to put your comment how many comments you know Bob Miller has had like a million comments

00:59:58.460 this show I'm about to read the rest that you know that's that's the value you get I may have to put

01:00:04.540 something in the beginning where if you want it read because sometimes you guys interact with each

01:00:08.720 other and I don't know if that's the you know I I think I'm not trying to read you guys's

01:00:16.760 conversation it's your comments on the show so I might add something but okay so Bob

01:00:22.500 yeah that's right you got to get it and I pay how I would pay more for your program my mother's

01:00:29.940 German best mother in the world look I'm just as someone that had nannies across the world

01:00:34.760 that was my experience they're looking for guilt to be assured bad example me me me me get my point

01:00:41.240 you support Trump that makes you conservative even if you didn't say if your actions speak louder

01:00:46.740 than words where is the link sorry uh Bob it's in the can I pin it okay I'm gonna play this a little

01:00:53.360 longer um but also doing it because you get a lot out of it like isn't that the kind of career we want

01:00:59.220 our daughters and sons to choose yes is to not just do it because of a paycheck like it has to mean

01:01:05.040 something so that's beautiful that they are able to see that and I hope they do well eventually but

01:01:12.780 oh by the way documenting one of social media we hate it right it's evil and at the same time with

01:01:18.000 all this technology they're gonna be able to look back on all of this yeah and hear these crazy

01:01:23.700 interviews that you're doing with all kinds of random people yeah because it's gonna exist I gotta

01:01:28.220 be honest you guys tell me your thoughts I think mothers overvalue the photo albums the memory boxes

01:01:36.200 the books I don't really look through any of it I don't know you guys tell me you tell me what you

01:01:45.780 think I I think the kids kind of grow up they want to do their own thing I don't know just and they

01:01:53.840 will see and fully comprehend more right I hope so that's the that's the plan at least I'll give

01:02:00.180 me 15 years I'll report back okay I will what is today yeah June 2024 I'm putting them in the calendar

01:02:06.220 yeah put it down okay but do you know what would be a better way to report back put the kid there

01:02:10.600 the kids aren't gonna answer honestly we're all afraid of our moms

01:02:15.140 everybody okay let me put

01:02:20.740 okay we can bring up the zoom now I believe Doug MPA

01:02:34.920 Pearl if you see this I'm playing and chilling with the unheard chat homie we're drifting and

01:02:45.660 socializing keep the chat interactive free of charge you're welcome well the YouTube one is

01:02:50.380 always free I read these sometimes um okay is the zoom ready let me just text my producer I'll play

01:03:00.220 this a little longer um I unmuted it down um couple time happy time yeah we don't any we don't get

01:03:11.600 enough we actually it's so funny my husband and I were talking about this Sunday afternoon and we

01:03:18.240 we try to make a date and stick to it like every if it's right now it's probably like once every two

01:03:26.020 weeks but we have that time that's pretty good well and no matter yeah no I agree no matter what else

01:03:32.120 is going on we had one night I think like a week ago oh okay sorry okay now we can go back

01:03:40.540 all right apparently Doug is on the line Doug MPA you there Doug

01:03:44.980 I can't hear him what is the problem I mean I can hear him like over there but it's weird I can't

01:03:56.820 kind of a tech issue

01:03:58.260 I can't hear him are you sure it's mic five all right guys I'm gonna go work out this tech issue

01:04:09.780 and play this for a second that we had planned and it was going to be just the two of us and we had

01:04:15.480 some friends we haven't seen in a long time who happened to be in town and they said oh are you guys

01:04:20.100 available for dinner we haven't seen you in so long and I told him I was like we're not doing that

01:04:23.380 it's yeah because you got to stick to it honestly because there are always going to be people there's

01:04:29.760 always stuff there's always things coming into your life as far as I'm concerned and I think it's so

01:04:34.860 important that we have that time together because both of our lives are crazy and it's very easy I

01:04:41.120 think as a couple when I'm over here going in this direction and he's going in this direction and

01:04:46.200 you know we're both very focused on the things that we're doing to not be a cohesive team

01:04:53.360 anymore to really live your separate lives and oh you you know you sleep in the same bed at night

01:04:58.300 but not to really connect in any way and so I think it's so important I think it's vital honestly to

01:05:04.340 a relationship um but our 10-year wedding anniversary is November 8th of this year which

01:05:11.260 is three days after election day yeah our our wedding anniversary was on the uh two-year wedding

01:05:15.860 anniversary was election day 2016 oh my god yeah so what I said to him I said we have to plan

01:05:22.340 something for I don't know when it's going to be end of November December something just how will

01:05:28.040 there ever be a good time based on November 5th going the way that it needs to go for your family

01:05:33.040 right like when we when we ever actually be able to do it to take some romantic trip it's 10 years

01:05:39.740 yeah and another 10 years you'll have to wait till 20 we'll figure it out I don't know but we never

01:05:45.780 went on our our original honeymoon because you and I were talking about riding horses I broke both of my

01:05:51.200 nervous three weeks before my wedding jumping a horse as we're crazy no surprise to anybody who

01:05:59.020 does that sort of thing because that's we're just full crazy you can't get it out of your blood like

01:06:03.220 once it's in you're done no no that's it it's over um and so we didn't go on our original honeymoon

01:06:08.540 which was supposed to be okay I'm sorry guys I had to go check something all right let's see

01:06:13.540 okay Doug I can hear you now hey Pearl how are you good sorry about that we're um because of the

01:06:21.580 holidays we're doing a virtual producer so I had to go yeah I had to go fix something well

01:06:27.320 always good to talk to you I got a lot of opinions on the single mother by choice stuff man like I'm

01:06:34.440 just gonna let me start off by saying all the problems in the U.S. are from single mothers and

01:06:43.120 simps okay but on the scale of single mothers single mothers by choice are the absolute worst

01:06:48.560 single mothers by choice are absolute scumbags you want to know why it's because you're putting

01:06:53.800 not only you're putting your child at every statistical disadvantage and these women are going

01:07:00.900 solo if you get IVF or or insemination that child will never know their father ever ever and listen

01:07:11.080 to this only two percent of births come come from insemination and only two percent of births come from

01:07:18.760 IVF the the fastest growing group of single mothers are ages 33 to 37 is what happens at 35

01:07:27.680 between that age they smash into the wall right so if only two percent of births come from IVF and two

01:07:35.000 percent come from from insemination that's only a small amount so most of the single mothers how are

01:07:41.500 they going to get their child Pearl how one night stands hookups but he's a deadbeat when you met him

01:07:50.360 and the society is going to give them a pass saying oh you got pregnant by a deadbeat he's terrible and

01:07:58.140 then she's going to tell that child his whole life that his dad his or her dad was a deadbeat when she

01:08:03.880 never should have had had a kid with them in the first place yeah because he didn't want to be a dad

01:08:08.080 or a dad a dad with her anyways 100 these are guys that already have multiple i'm just curious what

01:08:17.680 the difference is what percent of white women have more than one uh father of their children of white

01:08:27.880 women i'm guessing it's probably 40 to 45 percent one father for their children so he's okay yeah

01:08:34.640 22 percent yeah b-dubs is 65 percent wow yeah so and also this whole myth of single mothers being able

01:08:50.380 to do it by themselves i have a sister who decided to have a child with with with a total ray ray right

01:08:59.200 and i wouldn't trade my nephew for the world but the biggest problem these women don't understand is

01:09:06.420 that they're making a unilateral decision that'll affect the lives of everyone around around them

01:09:12.220 everyone yeah they can't do it by themselves so if these single mothers by choice they should talk to

01:09:19.440 their father their mother their aunts their uncles their brothers their sisters especially if they have

01:09:26.520 uncles because they're gonna have to pick up the slack their family is irrevocably changed from

01:09:32.840 their unilateral decision single mothers by choice are the scum of the earth yeah i know one i met

01:09:41.040 and i really like her as a person i'd like to say really nice person but it's she's had a weight

01:09:48.500 problem for years as long as i've known her and i'm like you can't take care of yourself because

01:09:54.160 you're morbidly like that was what was standing in the way of her finding someone um go ahead i'll

01:10:01.280 bounce off that you have a lot of single mothers by choice that one um they can't stay with they

01:10:10.040 can't attract or keep a man yeah and if you can't get along with an adult what makes you think that

01:10:15.300 you're gonna be able to raise a child yeah and then also also you you've seen multiple um studies

01:10:25.600 and an analysis of these women that i just wanted someone to love me so i had a child so you're if

01:10:33.580 you're making a child try to love you the way that a man would it's not fair to the child or they need

01:10:38.440 someone to take care of them when they're old how is that fair to the kid not like now the kid

01:10:43.840 comes to the planet and he's an indentured servitude to you when you get old because you can't afford

01:10:50.600 to pay someone to take care of you or to be a pleasant or to be a pleasant enough person that they

01:10:55.660 want to yeah i agree that's the that's the thing like you know if someone was a really good

01:11:02.440 involved parent the kids will want to do it but we have this whole generation of parents that weren't

01:11:11.240 parents i think it started with the like 50 to 70 ish people today like i would say that's roughly

01:11:17.660 where it started they're like late late generation x yeah and you know that's why that's why the kids

01:11:27.260 you know early gen x they shame the kids for throwing them in a nursing home but it's like

01:11:32.880 they weren't involved parents you know like you you know i'm sure people on the channel have heard me

01:11:38.880 talk about like i adore my dad i adore him to death and if he needed help like i would want to do it

01:11:45.380 because he is a great father you know what i mean i'm like it wouldn't even be like um

01:11:50.760 i it wouldn't really be a burden it would be like you would want to do it

01:11:56.000 but the thing is it's different when they want to versus they feel entitled to it you know

01:12:02.880 yeah i agree in fact you can see articles where a lot of um millennials are complaining that that

01:12:12.560 their their grandparents don't want to help them with their grandkids because that's another thing

01:12:18.180 kids aren't entitled to take care of the grandparents but grandparents aren't entitled to

01:12:23.220 take care of their grandchildren either you're not and that's something that men learn you guys learn

01:12:28.300 that you're not owed anything but women feel entitled to handouts from their grandparents their

01:12:34.340 parents and their kids yes especially when they're single mothers single mothers are the most entitled

01:12:40.400 selfish women in the west and the hands down the only the one woman i know that's a single mother

01:12:48.080 by choice the only reason she can do it is because of state sponsored daycare

01:12:53.400 and the country she's in and her parents and like isn't that that's pretty self i mean kids are pretty

01:13:04.220 cute i won't lie but i've met the kids but it's you know it's it's just kind of selfish you know

01:13:10.160 yeah there's one one other thing i want to talk about who was the woman with sage steel's chicken

01:13:17.100 neck who who's the who was the woman that sage steel was was interviewing laura trump laura trump so

01:13:25.120 so guys um there's actually a a burgeoning version of um area of therapy where these professional women

01:13:35.180 they miss their child's milestone first step

01:13:40.160 honey our daughter said her first word and she was at work or she was or she she was at a conference

01:13:47.040 and your children are only little ones there's nothing women can do i'm sorry laura trump there's

01:13:53.040 nothing she's doing that's that's as important as being a mother to her children someone else could

01:13:58.760 have done it exactly and you know there's so many jobs i don't know if you've heard my stuff you

01:14:07.340 listen to a lot of my streams but i'm not even necessarily against women working but there's a

01:14:12.420 million work from home jobs you could go be a teacher right you could be a teacher at the school

01:14:17.920 your kid works at um like i understand it's like 82 percent of people have both parents working okay

01:14:24.900 fine maybe it's not for everyone but there's a difference between having like a you know work

01:14:31.100 that like i had a friend whose mom was a nurse and her mom would work overnight shifts so she could be

01:14:35.720 there for like the kids and she would sleep for an hour get up and take the kids to school sleep

01:14:40.280 during the day and that was how she made it work and it's like you're leaving the kids for two weeks

01:14:46.240 at a time that's a long that's like half the month yeah and for what it's not it's not for money

01:14:55.840 they don't need money yeah the sad part about it is i always say on my channel we are in the great

01:15:03.900 experiment right now where where where where the women my age you know 40s and younger were lied to

01:15:11.920 about the past they thought that women were shackled shackled uh in the basement until 1975

01:15:18.700 so now women can truly choose to live alone they have they can choose to focus on the career but

01:15:26.480 the problem is so the the pipeline is women spend their early 20s going to some high-priced institution

01:15:33.760 to get some degree that nobody cares about to get a job that's not going to make them any money

01:15:38.340 they give their 25 to 30s the early 30s to some job that can care less about them it's just making

01:15:46.340 the wall smash even harder and harder right and that even happens to mothers it's not till later

01:15:54.340 when their child starts to grow up that they realize i missed a lot and you can never get it back

01:16:00.160 and kids know too they do know because just how most women have that have that one friend who's married

01:16:08.640 to a man of substance who just skips through life without a care in the world and they're jealous

01:16:13.780 most most of most kids like you like whose whose mom is trying to do all this independent crap

01:16:20.080 have a friend whose mom is suzy homemaker super positive you know uh a traditional mom and they

01:16:28.100 all wish they had that mom i know i did yeah we had a colonel who lived who lived who lived uh in my

01:16:36.880 neighborhood and his wife was a stay-at-home mom she was the greatest thing ever like like he was a

01:16:42.380 colonel he was a stay-at-home mom they had three kids their son was my best friend and i used to

01:16:48.140 go over there she always had shoot home cooked meals every single day of the week always had

01:16:52.640 cookies made she was she was like she was the mom that we all saw on tv for real and i used to wonder

01:16:58.820 why do i have like why don't i have that yeah kids know and it's kids grow up with regret and it's

01:17:05.500 easier than ever to cook your kids food there's air fryers like there's room buzz it's easier than

01:17:12.120 ever to like they to you know cook for your family have you ever had a friend who well you eat you're

01:17:23.640 not old enough yet but when you hit about the 33 to 35 you're gonna hear your friends start talking

01:17:30.600 about well if i don't have a child by the time i'm this age i'm gonna do it by myself what would

01:17:36.660 you tell one of your friends who would say pearl you know i decided something if i don't have if

01:17:43.320 i'm not married by the time i'm 35 i'm gonna get uh inseminated and do it by myself what would you

01:17:48.840 tell her so are you telling me are you asking my opinion that'd be my first question and then what if

01:17:54.600 she was if she's asking my what if she was telling you what both scenarios telling me um

01:18:01.100 i would probably just ask her questions like have you tried this have you tried that but

01:18:09.240 you know um i i probably wouldn't say anything unless they asked um because if i know anything

01:18:17.420 about women it's like they're gonna do what they're gonna do regardless you can't stop them

01:18:22.180 um yeah but the problem is a lot of women have to talk about it somehow some way which is why so

01:18:29.680 many of these women post all this garbage all over social media so so you your friends are going to

01:18:35.480 tell you about it it's not a matter if it's a matter of when well i'll tell them you can do that but

01:18:41.340 i mean what about the kid don't you think the kid deserves a dad no uh you know yeah single

01:18:48.800 single motherhood uh single kids from single mother homes fare out way worse have you thought

01:18:54.760 about who's gonna take care of the kid when you have to work or what if the daycare is near you you

01:19:01.600 know so yeah there's one more part so guys on my channel i always say women can't stand each other

01:19:08.500 they really can't okay and a lot of women have to learn a harsh lesson because all of their friends

01:19:14.580 so a woman will say oh i'm gonna be a single mother or you know i got pregnant by nug nug and

01:19:22.100 all their friends are like oh we'll help you girl you give you a baby shower and then and then when

01:19:27.940 that baby's born and it's crying at night and you need a break or someone just to babysit they're not

01:19:32.520 gonna pick up the phone you're doing it all by yourself yeah anyway but that's that's all i got i'm

01:19:41.040 just going to say once again single mothers by choice guys no single mothers don't sleep with

01:19:46.060 them don't date them don't marry them you're not playing another anyone else on the call

01:19:53.500 if they don't know someone has to tell them women know they just do not care they don't i'm telling you

01:20:02.480 i'm getting tired um okay let me see if anyone else is on the call oh two people okay let's go next

01:20:11.880 um hello

01:20:18.080 cameras on off oh hello oh how are you

01:20:25.860 hello i can't hear you

01:20:32.480 that'll be why oh there you go

01:20:37.700 uh wow we're really out of sync like

01:20:43.720 uh so what do you think about the single mothers by choice like what are your thoughts on the show

01:20:51.480 i was really cold in it i was just really sort of uh uh the word the word of the month i think is

01:21:01.540 egocentric to be honest like um i looked at the wiki of uh egocentric the other day and uh it was

01:21:12.000 scary actually um when you get into the developmental issues in childhood and stuff like that you know

01:21:19.620 it's just uh it's a bit crazy

01:21:23.000 i don't know man i'm just cold just absolutely cold if if they're deciding to to have kids

01:21:35.900 uh without a dad you know like destining that kid never to have a dad

01:21:42.080 okay thanks for calling in

01:21:44.640 so guys if you want to call in the link is only on our website so you go to the audacity

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01:22:01.140 i posted the zoom link okay who's next you can pull it up

01:22:05.480 i think there's one more now again we have a virtual usually he's here in person we're

01:22:20.640 going virtual today so bear with us

01:22:22.780 oh hello hi can you hear me i can hear you um what's your name

01:22:31.100 hello that's richard oh richard nice um i i don't know if you have your camera on i can't see

01:22:40.980 okay do you have your camera on or no i'm just flying around on a holiday so i don't know i don't

01:22:47.220 want to do the video okay no worries so what do you think of the show what do you think

01:22:52.020 i mean all of your topics are great because i mean i put the comment in there that women don't

01:22:59.260 they know this is wrong i mean it just seems so obvious and i'm just wondering what it is that got

01:23:06.260 women to this point where there's no rules and there's no laws and you know they don't seem to have

01:23:11.760 any morals you know and they just rough or you know like one of my theories is is that like

01:23:19.540 a thousand years ago the neighboring tribe would maraud and steal women from the other tribe and

01:23:25.580 they would just take these women to their tribe and then they would just become their wives

01:23:29.240 i don't know i don't you know is there some sort of weird evolutionary thing going on where women just

01:23:34.700 roll with it and you know it's like i don't know it's very strange have you got any explanation

01:23:40.300 about why this behavior even happened no you're right actually that's why women get over men so

01:23:45.340 fast is because the women that survived had to get like get over the guy they were with initially

01:23:53.720 like you wouldn't survive if you like pined for like the guy that you used to be with

01:24:00.080 right so we're in this modern world now and you know everything is a lot different

01:24:04.840 so what is the answer i mean i'm always looking for a solution to this because it's just a disaster

01:24:10.820 absolute disaster um i mean i think at some point it will like things will come back together i just

01:24:18.340 sadly don't think it'll be in my lifetime um i think we'll have another 50 years of feminism

01:24:24.620 like i don't see the birth rate going up anytime soon um the only way i could the only thing i could

01:24:33.000 see as a solution is more feminism so i'll give you an example if women start getting put on alimony

01:24:40.300 and child support like men the women will start to protest the laws if women actually have the

01:24:47.980 responsibility of being a single mother the way that men have the responsibility of being a single

01:24:53.480 father and men stop you know their parents stop bailing them out the government stops bailing them out

01:24:59.580 that's when you'll see change or like um in new york you know everyone all the women are freaking

01:25:05.840 out that that woman was burned alive and no one helped but you know how many of those women voted for

01:25:13.540 leftist policies that allowed that right it's not an i don't see it changing until women start to be

01:25:20.880 treated like men you know if you give women selective service you say okay you want to vote

01:25:25.580 here's selective service just like the men how many women would say you know what it might be time to

01:25:32.360 give that up but the problem is we have all the freedom now without the responsibility um i i think

01:25:39.800 trump maybe could help but i'm i'm just still skeptical because i just think women have too much power now

01:25:48.080 sadly well i'm really curious of what life must have been like a thousand years ago

01:25:53.560 in these villages where at any moment some marauding tribes can come in i mean what do you think women

01:25:59.900 were thinking what do you think men were thinking i mean what do you think men were doing what do you

01:26:03.620 think women were doing right like the mental you know attitude at that time must have been crazy

01:26:09.820 and they were as modern as we were right they had exactly the same capacity of thinking as we do so

01:26:15.060 it's just it must be crazy so that's my that's the end of my comment thanks bro thanks for calling in

01:26:21.620 is there anyone else on the line let me text them anyone else thank you for calling in guys i always

01:26:31.960 appreciate my members okay you guys are amazing truly you guys keep this thing going i mean i've been

01:26:38.040 demonetized for a year i couldn't do it without you um let me message they said trump ain't helping

01:26:46.100 i think that maybe trump could help cut some of the government programs and the spending that's a step

01:26:54.900 in the right direction um white women white men you guys are awesome you've always been pro trump

01:27:04.360 thank you guys you guys are amazing white women for the first time in a long time voted conservative

01:27:10.240 more for trump and i think that was a their way our way of saying sorry about the last four years

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01:28:02.420 and i will see you on monday

01:28:17.180 and i will see you on monday

01:28:20.740 So, there is a PSI, obviously, for the part of the session, and clearly she didn't park it.

01:28:35.920 Fair enough.

JustPearlyThings - December 27, 2024

The Curse of The Modern Mother ｜ Pearl Daily

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