The DELUSION of MODERN WOMEN
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Summary
In this episode, I sit down with my good friend, author, entrepreneur, and mom, Kelsea Ballerini. Kelsea talks about her single mom life and how it has changed her dating life since becoming a mom. She also talks about what it's like being a single mom and how she deals with the pressures of being a mom and writing a book.
Transcript
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Have you noticed a difference in dating since you became a single mother?
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Do you feel like that has been the biggest difference?
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Oh, I thought the kid would be bigger than the book.
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at one point, the DMs were looking like a Nike store with all the checks, right?
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I'm telling you, but after the book, it was quiet.
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I feel like it took a, I don't even really want to say when it picked back up.
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Probably, maybe like eight, seven or eight months after the book,
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it started to kind of bounce back out, but I'm talking, it was quiet.
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I think I was 26 when I released my book, yeah, 2018.
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Could you do the multiple wives if he was open with you from the jump?
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It's like, I would want him to myself, but I like the way he carries himself.
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And I do think it's a lot different if you are, it's full transparency.
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I'm never going to say never because a lot can happen between now and never, but I like
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the idea of someone just being fully transparent and I don't know exactly.
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I don't know if I could be one of several, but I just don't want to say never.
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If you could have a perfect man that you wanted 666, you know what that means?
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Again, I don't want to like make, I don't want to say, I never want to have more kids.
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Cause I just feel like I've been humbled in a lot of ways.
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So right now, unless a man wants to marry me, why would I have more kids?
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You know, like can't imagine more, you know, especially with all that commitment.
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Even if something, we get married and it doesn't work out.
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But if what I give my career, have the perfect guy, like he sees the beauty in the Grand Canyon
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and dance, like does the bachata in the restaurant and is romantic.
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Sometimes when you talk, it sounds like La La Land, respectfully.
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And just cause you'll talk about these guys and I'm like, these men aren't real.
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Let's talk about the beauty in the Grand Canyon.
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But why can't I have a guy that sees the beauty in the Grand Canyon?
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Why would I want someone that doesn't see the beauty in the Grand Canyon?
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But he doesn't see the beauty in the Grand Canyon?
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Bro, you're going to be able to make your own money.
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So why, like, at the end of the day, you grew up with money.
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So money, why would that even really impress you?
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No, my point is like, it's just sometimes I think when we talk about like these perfect
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guys, and it's, look it, when I was younger, oh God, it's so embarrassing.
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When I was a kid, like, oh my gosh, like I totally had like a list of like what I wanted
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But when I read it back, I was like, God damn, I was delusional.
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No, I think for me that I've, I'm not looking for like a fucking perfect guy.
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And yeah, like, I don't know how to be, to be quite honest with you.
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Like, why would a guy see the value in me if he doesn't even see the value in, this is
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If you don't see the beauty in like the world and the land and all of these things, why,
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You don't even think the Great Canyons, like its value speaks for itself.
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Like, so yeah, I mean, for me, I don't, I don't want a millionaire over someone who would
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Like you're looking at the world with a feminine lens.
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And they're not, they're not trying to look at the Grand Canyon and see the beauty in it.
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And my dad is, I look up to my dad more than anyone in the world.
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And I'm like, he would think it was cool, but he's trying to bike it.
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Like somebody who would want to bike is someone who would want to hike.
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Like, I would love to bike the Grand Canyon with someone that I love that it's like,
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but it's like, see, this is where I often like kind of see where the guys are coming from.
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Cause it's like, my dad probably would be looked over by most women when he was in his twenties.
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Um, I already know these comments are hilarious.
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Oh guys, the Tate and the Tate Brittany Pearl video.
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Um, I think I was saying, I think if I had to do it over again, I would have had one, maybe
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Cause I really wanted to hear you more and I felt like there was some people on the panel
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that just like kept talking for a very long time.
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And I think too, I want to clarify cause I, like I know that they're going to love that
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Like I love that you even put that together and thought about adding me to that.
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Um, when I am in a group setting, especially like that, that type of panel, I'm an active
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So when somebody is talking, you be quiet, you don't talk.
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So I think that's why for me, when people are going around and there's three people that
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have made a point, whatever I had to say, I'm just like, I kind of didn't get to say
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it because again, I believe in just listening and let people, letting people talk.
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So I didn't have a lot of times where it was my turn to talk.
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And when I did, I thought I kind of had to like, Hey, actually, you know?
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So yeah, it wasn't like, like I, and again, I liked a lot of the stuff that we talked about,
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I think if I had to do it again, but something tells me, you know, there may be another one in
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Would you be okay with a long-term relationship without marriage?
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I've actually thought about this because I would, I don't even think it's really the paper that
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And like, I would love, I think I like the idea of a wedding more than we have to go sign
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And then when we divorce the courts are in our business because of like what I'm going through
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with the child support custody stuff, getting out of that contract is going to be hard.
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So yeah, I would be, I would want like, still I want to ring, still want a wedding, but
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I wouldn't have to, I don't think we would have to do it in front of the courts.
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And like I said, I've actually thought about that because I think I was watching one of
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your videos where a lot of women just want the celebration, the wedding and they, and
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Would you be okay with like, cause I always say, I would be cool with just, I want to
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But you know, I, then I'm like, you know, if he doesn't want to do the contract, that's
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But I was thinking like, just like a small thing with like my parents and my immediate
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Like I think that sounds nicer than like this big, like who needs 300 people at a wedding?
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I don't even know 300 people that would show up.
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So no, I, I love the idea of just like the ceremony and reception and people just celebrating
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And it doesn't have to be in front of, like I said on paper.
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So that's kind of where I have changed my views a little bit where I'm like, it's not
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I just want you and like all the fun stuff that comes along with it.
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They're like, they've been sold a fairytale to Disney.
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I mean, it is what it is, but it's like, yeah, I mean, cause it's not just about like,
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like, I want to be able to, again, if I, especially if I'm marrying someone who has all of this,
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Like I, cause it's never about like, oh, I want to take half of everything.
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Um, even when I was with my ex, like we had talked about prenups, like whatever, you know,
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But I think that's just where it's like, yeah, you, you want the, the cute stuff that comes
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But I don't even really know if people actually want to go through the process, especially
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