JustPearlyThings - December 24, 2022


The DELUSION Of Modern Women


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Length

11 minutes

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205.53528

Word Count

2,421

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1

Misogynist Sentences

32

Hate Speech Sentences

17


Summary


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00:00:00.000 but where where but where are you guys from where um i mean i'm from chicago that's which is which
00:00:07.820 is another city but people move to new york so but new york is not a place known for people to just
00:00:15.420 marry i'm telling you new york if you date a man for new york you are on a 10 year dating plan
00:00:21.120 you will sit there and date a man for eight years then he will finally say let's get married by the
00:00:27.160 ninth year you're engaged 10 year you're married well if you get married everybody up there is
00:00:32.560 more common law marriages but i've also heard that the women in new york aren't marriageable
00:00:39.040 i've heard they're very career driven i've heard they're very masculine they're not very motherly
00:00:44.460 and men will date a woman for 10 years that they don't see as wife material break up with her and
00:00:50.740 marry the next chick well i wouldn't i wouldn't say i wouldn't say we're not motherly i wouldn't say
00:00:55.840 that i would say are we career driven yes but think about it there's so much poverty in new york
00:00:59.960 new york is an expensive city not everybody comes from a good background so you're gonna thrive to
00:01:05.440 be more career driven because you have to make it and you hope along that way you you find a man that
00:01:10.800 will want to make it with you but i i believe that women should go back to not working i wish i could go
00:01:16.540 back to not working but so why don't women reality but like if we're gonna go back to traditionalism
00:01:21.100 right so like again because we have this like where women want a traditional outcome but we
00:01:26.940 don't want to be traditional women i have nothing i have nothing against wanting to do like do your
00:01:31.460 career and be modern but where i get confused is when traditional women ask for modern for modern
00:01:37.940 women ask for traditional outcomes so it's like okay if you want to stay home and not work why aren't
00:01:44.120 you a virgin on your wedding day that's traditional why is he not a virgin no but that you know that's
00:01:49.280 not you know that's not the same of course i'm just putting it if your mother teaches you that
00:01:54.620 at a young age right right if you get like when you go to a lot of these spanish countries right
00:01:59.100 you see 90 day fiance they always go to a spanish country uh you know asian country and they get
00:02:04.320 their little nice young wives because that's what's being taught to these women how to be a wife
00:02:08.760 so but over the age of 18 it's on your it's your job to learn so so right now the average age of
00:02:15.520 first marriage is 30 okay women are getting married at 30 so now you have 10 years to figure
00:02:22.620 it out you can surround yourself by wives right you can learn how to cook learn how to do the
00:02:27.660 traditional thing like there's no more excuses anymore especially with the internet you can learn
00:02:32.980 what you want to learn you're in the real world by then by 18 you're in the real world by then right
00:02:37.680 so if you really think about it the average woman might lose her virginity at 16 right so the average
00:02:43.480 woman let's say loses her virginity at 16 right and your mother didn't tell you the values of
00:02:48.140 no sex before marriage or whatever like that you're already tainted by 18 okay okay so fine we take the
00:02:53.740 purity out of it but there's still other things you can do to be a traditional one it's not all about
00:02:58.180 purity i just use that as an example right that's just one tenant of it right like you can get a job
00:03:03.800 working with children right that would prepare you to be a mother right you could you could which is a
00:03:09.920 low paying but it's a low paying job you could you could but right but but traditional women
00:03:14.080 it's not about money it's about family right you can you could surround yourself by wives he was
00:03:19.780 talking about femininity coaches like there's ways that women can improve we just choose not to but if
00:03:25.360 we're busy so what you said earlier right let me tell you what you said earlier you said more women
00:03:29.080 have their own apartments and these men are able to come over and this and that more women women
00:03:33.500 move out of their parents home earlier right it no well well then it is then in history yeah yeah
00:03:39.700 so women move out of their parents home earlier than a man were right man will stay home longer
00:03:43.560 right we no no i didn't say that i said before women would go from the the parents house to the
00:03:50.420 husbands yeah no but what i'm trying to say is that in this day and age more women are getting
00:03:54.780 like their own apartments earlier well if that's true women can't afford it so women have way more debt
00:04:00.640 than men but that's the thing about it right if women are venturing out early of course they're
00:04:04.540 going to want to make more money they're going to want to have better jobs but them trying to work
00:04:09.080 and support themselves how are they going to be able to sit there and be like okay let me take first
00:04:14.680 of all there's not a lot of classes that are available to show women how to sit there femininity
00:04:20.320 classes but how many oldest raise and female coaches there's there's there's so many classes it's
00:04:26.160 booming right now like no but now it is because now women are starting to be like hey maybe we
00:04:31.140 don't like there's churches equality movement but churches you can like find wives like there's
00:04:36.460 always people you can surround yourself with that's now that they're doing that 10 years ago this is
00:04:41.480 not what they were teaching us 10 years ago 10 years they're pushing women to work in this field
00:04:45.960 work in that field do this do that so right now maybe this newer generation coming up the women have
00:04:52.520 a better chance of learning how to go back to traditional ways and being wives again but we went
00:04:56.620 through a whole era where women you better get up and work because there were a lot of men that
00:05:00.720 weren't working so women better get up and work and help the household men still out earn women
00:05:05.360 but then again we go back to the childhood all right and what parents taught us so if my mom taught
00:05:12.420 me how to cook and how to clean and to look after the house and to paint the walls so this kind of
00:05:16.540 prepares me for the wifeyness of the situation right so again it's not just schools it's not
00:05:21.780 universities it's not like education system that is fully responsible for being as good wives or good
00:05:28.220 husbands is our upbringing and where we come from and the more we're not getting it at home the more
00:05:33.280 we are crappier at it right correct and that's why it's so important for families to stay together
00:05:38.080 that's why women should not have sold out the men to the government because now the next generation of
00:05:44.680 women has all these problems where we don't know how to be wives and even above all this stuff like what percent of
00:05:50.680 women will obey their husband because if you want if you want to be in a traditional marriage no it
00:05:56.000 doesn't it's not if he leads right that's not biblical it's not it's not submit when i feel like it it's
00:06:01.840 submit all the time and support him even when he makes the wrong decision the titanic goes down with
00:06:08.960 the shit the captain you go down no no but the bible does say that the wife should submit to her
00:06:14.020 husband but it also says that this husband should be able to lead should be able to actually take care
00:06:19.200 of his family so if you can't take care of your family and i have to now go out and work issue you're
00:06:23.860 going into is now it's oh he's leading like when i decide he's leaving now it's based on your feelings
00:06:29.520 that's the problem like that's why men get frustrated when they go to church because they go to church and
00:06:33.820 women there's not even like women that will actually submit to their husbands and so i'll submit when i feel
00:06:38.820 like he's leading but but you're only going to do that when you're comfortable with him think about it
00:06:43.120 so you think any man like let's say if i start dating um john right if i start dating john tomorrow i i
00:06:48.640 should just already be like go ahead and lead me lead the way everything you do i'm going to trust in
00:06:51.860 you yes yes what if he has a whole secret life as a heroin addict or something but this is you can't get
00:06:57.240 anything good going into like you can't you can't go into things in bad faith like you will never get
00:07:03.720 a good outcome if you're going into things in bad positive if you're making like the men of the
00:07:07.820 the few the your the men of the future pay for the mistakes of your past like they're then there's no
00:07:12.920 future imagine if a man came to you and it's like oh i need to go through your phone okay like i'm not
00:07:18.900 gonna i'm not gonna pay for dinner because you might be talking to 10 other guys you think he's crazy
00:07:22.820 but women will put the mistakes of their exes on the men of their future but i think but i think it
00:07:29.200 would be unwise for a woman to meet a man and tomorrow be like go ahead and lead the way you're
00:07:34.960 still getting to know him well you're supposed to you're supposed to have like your brothers or
00:07:38.620 you're supposed to vet him can i ask johnny a question because you work with men helping them
00:07:43.660 date at the you know is that something that men generally are one in the men you're working with
00:07:49.620 for um a woman who will obey them i wouldn't use the word obey you know it sounds quite controlling
00:07:56.920 as i said earlier allows them to to take the lead you know um femininity is about receiving
00:08:06.220 receiving masculinity is about giving you know so just allow space for that an example is i was
00:08:13.760 speaking to a friend of mine she went away with her friend two girls and two boyfriends they emptied
00:08:20.300 the car they had the bags one one of them independently just grabbed her bags and took them straight to
00:08:25.780 the door the other one allowed her guy to take the bags and i take him to the door my friend goes why
00:08:32.380 did you let him take the bags there's little things like that that i give him space to do so he he feels
00:08:39.200 like he's he has a role in the relationship yeah i i sort of i fear that micro things that you know
00:08:47.600 on a day oh yeah yeah i i completely agree i think um that there is a real magic that happens when you
00:08:54.020 have a relationship where a woman can be feminine and a man can be masculine i think that there's a real
00:09:00.740 sparkle yeah um but i think um that actually i don't well it's a question i have really it's just that
00:09:15.040 from my experience if i'm dealing with a man who is fawning over me and would obey my every command
00:09:25.220 like i would think he was pathetic no i didn't say he obey you i said you're supposed to obey him no i
00:09:31.380 know but i'm just saying like i i personally feel like men and women that we are different but i don't
00:09:38.640 think that i can not empathize with men at all and i feel like wouldn't um i don't know the kind of men
00:09:48.800 that i would want to be with you know sort of high intelligence very interesting kind of guys
00:09:53.860 i would think that they would lose respect for me if i you know flatly obeyed without any kind of
00:10:03.180 challenge you know for me i think that a relationship should be you should be challenging
00:10:07.660 each other to be the best versions of yourself absolutely to grow and yeah and if that if that
00:10:12.740 means that on you know in an appropriate way on you know on appropriate occasions a wife has to tell
00:10:21.220 that husband i think you're taking the wrong course of action i think you know you could behave in a
00:10:27.040 way that's more effective that's cool and you know a good husband would want to hear that if it was
00:10:34.080 appropriate you're absolutely right um one of the exercises i do with anyone i first work with them
00:10:40.040 is hash out what they want from someone you know of course the superficial aspects but the character
00:10:46.580 traits and one thing that comes up time and time again is this word challenge that's exactly what
00:10:52.020 you're talking about it's this pushback it keeps the respect in the relationship it lets the other
00:10:57.540 know where the line is and what your boundaries are and i feel and back to like one of the earliest
00:11:02.420 points we had in this conversation today we spoke about why people leave and i feel like people
00:11:08.420 leave because they attach so much fear to relaying what's important to them that they never actually
00:11:14.660 have that conversation and they just end up getting frustrated and then they walk but my point isn't
00:11:21.000 that you can't offer your perspective my point at the end of the day it's his decision that's
00:11:25.000 traditional like that's that's if we're going to go back to like i've read the writings of people
00:11:29.460 like 100 200 years ago when they described like real traditional relationships they don't really exist
00:11:34.500 anymore and the whole point is like if you want to be in an actual traditional relationship you're
00:11:39.880 supposed to obey your husband like at the end of the day it's his decision it's not saying like
00:11:44.280 you can't give him any input