JustPearlyThings - October 05, 2023


The Delusion Of Single Mothers Living TOGETHER


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9 minutes

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167.98412

Word count

1,523

Sentence count

127

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Misogyny

29

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Hate speech

15

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In this episode, I talk about the future of society and how we are going to see a rise in the number of single mothers. I also talk about how women are becoming more selfish and why it s a bad thing.

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00:00:00.000 Now, I wanted to point out the future of society.
00:00:02.980 I don't say this in a happy way, but if I had to predict what I would see in 50 years,
00:00:06.980 this is what I would guess.
00:00:09.420 Marriage and relationships really are going to go away except for the upper class. 0.98
00:00:14.860 The elite, I do believe, will still marry, but I believe it will continue to disappear
00:00:20.740 in the middle class.
00:00:21.780 The reason being, richer men are able to better fight in court, and they're better able to,
00:00:27.320 you know, afford a wife and recover if it goes south. 0.51
00:00:31.060 Now, that's not to say that I haven't seen rich men get royally screwed over in divorce
00:00:35.880 court.
00:00:36.260 That absolutely has happened.
00:00:37.680 But in my experience, it's the middle class American workers that are not able to recover.
00:00:43.840 So where does that leave us with all of these single mothers on the market? 1.00
00:00:47.400 You are going to see older women start to live together. 0.96
00:00:51.580 So there is an article that I saw, I believe, showed me what I think the future is, which
00:00:57.940 I can't even imagine.
00:00:59.580 How bad of a child?
00:01:00.640 Can you imagine having four women in the same house? 1.00
00:01:04.940 Four single mothers? 1.00
00:01:07.360 Oh my God.
00:01:08.160 And women, it's not like women get together and become better people. 0.99
00:01:12.000 It's like we become worse people.
00:01:13.600 So, okay.
00:01:14.840 So this article discusses the journey of four single mothers who jointly purchased a four
00:01:19.640 unit apartment building in Washington, D.C. to build equity and share housing costs.
00:01:24.380 This existing floor plan of the 1927 building presented challenges, particularly for one of
00:01:30.940 the mothers who needed more space and privacy for her two kids. 0.99
00:01:34.480 They hired architect Linnell Schneider to redesign the floor plan, investing $40,000 in renovations
00:01:41.100 to create a more practical and efficient layout.
00:01:43.340 Schinders' expertise in compact living spaces and her commitment to co-housing projects
00:01:48.480 helped transform the apartments into a more suitable living arrangement for the group.
00:01:52.640 They also considered long-term expansion options, including the possibility of additional dwelling
00:01:57.400 units to accommodate the growing needs of the families and generate extra incomes.
00:02:03.540 Overall, the single mothers' collaborative approach to housing and their willingness to invest
00:02:08.320 in the redesign of their apartments to meet their unique needs showcases the advantages
00:02:13.320 of shared living arrangements and thoughtful architectural planning and addressing modern housing.
00:02:18.460 Holly Harper is the founder of Anagram Consulting, Blue Bikes, Communications, and Siren Foundry.
00:02:24.600 She's also founded a company known as Street Pearl.
00:02:27.860 Oh, hey, look at that.
00:02:29.160 Look at that.
00:02:29.960 Now, you're going to see a rise of single people.
00:02:32.660 You're going to see a rise of couples without children.
00:02:35.520 And you're going to see a rise of single mothers. 1.00
00:02:38.480 You are going to see society reshape for a post-marriage world. 0.99
00:02:43.340 And I predict that you will absolutely, in fact, start to see single mothers pool their resources
00:02:50.160 as well as elderly women coming together, pooling their resources, and having houses together. 0.83
00:02:57.660 Now, we have a single mother that is talking about the experience of being a single mother.
00:03:01.880 Let's pull it up.
00:03:02.640 You know, it's crazy because I joke a lot about being single and, but I'm 46 years old.
00:03:16.800 And while I'm getting ready for surgery and everything, it dawned on me that I'm 46 years old
00:03:24.540 and I don't have a husband to take care of me.
00:03:31.620 I don't have a husband to help me get ready.
00:03:42.320 Being single and 46 sucks.
00:03:50.100 It just sucks.
00:03:52.700 And I'm fucking tired.
00:03:54.540 And I make jokes about the fucking buffoons that I have been encountering in dating.
00:04:04.900 This is my reality.
00:04:06.200 And this, those stories are the shit that's available.
00:04:11.580 Because all the good men have gotten married in their 20s and 30s.
00:04:18.220 Because they're good men.
00:04:19.400 I'm not blaming it all on men because women are fucking shit. 1.00
00:04:23.120 They're fucking batshit crazy too, so.
00:04:26.580 But this is my reality, not anybody else's.
00:04:29.480 I wanted to point out her mentality. 0.84
00:04:32.220 And the thing is, women's words mean something and they reveal something.
00:04:38.200 So, what did she say?
00:04:39.880 I don't have a husband to take care of me.
00:04:44.100 But it's supposed to be the other way around.
00:04:48.420 I mean, the true definition of a wife is a helpmate. 0.97
00:04:52.880 You're supposed to take care of your husband. 0.99
00:04:54.800 Now, obviously, obviously, it goes both ways.
00:04:57.800 But my point is, typically, when you hear women's reasoning for wanting a husband, and it's a selfish thing. 0.96
00:05:06.620 It's about them.
00:05:07.880 Typically, that's the reason why they haven't been able to get one.
00:05:10.940 Because selfish women do not end up getting husbands. 1.00
00:05:13.440 They end up dying alone.
00:05:14.800 So, the comment section said,
00:05:16.620 I don't feel sorry for you.
00:05:17.940 You made the bed.
00:05:18.700 Now, lie in it.
00:05:19.680 Lying Raw says, this is what they wanted.
00:05:23.220 And it's true. 0.56
00:05:24.200 Al Fonbo, don't say that you're beautiful.
00:05:26.820 I'm sure you'll find the perfect person.
00:05:28.500 God has a plan for everybody.
00:05:31.520 No.
00:05:32.320 No, no, no.
00:05:33.540 Stop saying that, guys.
00:05:35.360 Like, this is why.
00:05:38.580 Like, guys, as women, we just need to be sick of this bullshit. 1.00
00:05:42.500 I am tired of being pandered to.
00:05:45.060 No, most women are not going to have a happy ending. 1.00
00:05:48.540 Feminism has lied to women. 1.00
00:05:50.060 And there is an entire generation of women coping with the fact that most will be alone 0.88
00:05:55.040 in the next 50 years.
00:05:56.980 Yes, yes, yes.
00:05:58.120 And most women, that woman should not expect to get a husband ever. 1.00
00:06:02.900 She can hope for one.
00:06:04.320 If she gets one, then great.
00:06:07.040 But I would argue that telling that woman to make a financial plan of how she is going 0.99
00:06:12.980 to spend the next 50 years of her life is a far better option than selling the dream
00:06:18.560 that there is a husband waiting for you at the end of this.
00:06:21.680 That is not the reality for a lot of women. 1.00
00:06:24.340 And the issue you get is all of these influencer women will come out saying they're so happy
00:06:29.180 single.
00:06:29.960 Emily Ratajkowski said that.
00:06:31.960 But are most women as attractive as Emily or have the same financial opportunities as Emily? 1.00
00:06:37.520 The answer is no.
00:06:39.640 Most women are living paycheck to paycheck. 1.00
00:06:42.400 They make about $35,000 a year.
00:06:45.240 And a large majority are in debt.
00:06:48.900 Women have so much debt. 1.00
00:06:51.220 So what is going to happen to them in their old age?
00:06:55.020 Women make poor decisions and keep expecting men to bail them out. 1.00
00:06:59.740 But one day, men are going to stop bailing them out.
00:07:02.940 And we are going to see a huge rise in the number of homeless women.
00:07:08.860 Four Leaf Viking.
00:07:10.240 Are we not better than this gentleman?
00:07:11.720 No one deserves to be miserable and alone.
00:07:14.660 Look at this.
00:07:15.440 Just because this girl made poor decisions in her youth is no reason for her to continue
00:07:19.720 to be miserable.
00:07:20.840 She's got a life ahead of her to find her person.
00:07:23.120 She just needs to go find them, have some empathy.
00:07:25.080 It's pitiful.
00:07:25.560 People might think I'm mean, but I am just not in the business of selling dreams.
00:07:31.040 I won't do it.
00:07:32.300 I refuse.
00:07:33.340 Like, if I don't think something is likely, if I know that the chance a woman has is if 1.00
00:07:38.920 unmarried by 35, actually, if a woman is single at 30, not in a relationship, she's
00:07:45.500 actually more likely to not get married than to get married.
00:07:49.400 So at 30, if she has a boyfriend, her odds are a little bit better.
00:07:52.440 But if she doesn't have a boyfriend, because on average, it takes men three years to marry
00:07:58.780 you.
00:07:59.440 So that's something as women we have to take into account. 0.98
00:08:02.380 Yes, on average, it's going to take three years to convince a guy to marry you.
00:08:06.400 So I'm just not in the business of selling dreams.
00:08:09.820 At 46, it's probably over.
00:08:12.240 I hope she has savings.
00:08:14.020 And what I would do if I were her is I would figure out a financial plan on how to live the 0.83
00:08:19.420 rest of my life alone.
00:08:20.480 Um, I would also look for a husband in the process and see what they what what you can 0.99
00:08:26.740 do.
00:08:27.120 But I'm just not in the business of selling dreams.
00:08:30.300 And and I think that women are just sold a dream over and over again. 0.99
00:08:34.560 God's timing.
00:08:36.020 It'll happen when really you have to put effort into making things happen.
00:08:40.500 Well, it's not just a thing like this.
00:08:47.760 It's okay.
00:08:48.580 But I think the Martin of the people, I will kick back it in the business of my life in the
00:08:52.160 life of 2019 and I was 걸는 concrete and altered too.
00:08:54.060 And whoever knows what's it like.
00:08:54.680 So let's go out to my therapist.
00:08:55.980 And if you have got love for the family of somebody who does happen there.
00:08:57.180 So let's go out there to go out there to myself a espí.
00:08:58.760 As were you guys talking.
00:08:59.300 Maybe I was going to fall out on the others.
00:09:00.840 Because you are sitting there and we go out with a lot of affairs that organisERS and
00:09:02.960 you.
00:09:03.580 And I was listening, they said, that's not as good.