JustPearlyThings - March 27, 2023


The DELUSION Of Women


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10 minutes

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Word count

2,012

Sentence count

217

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Misogyny

15

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Toxicity

19

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Hate speech

11

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In this episode, we talk about the difference between women and men when it comes to self-improvement and self-esteem. We talk about how women tend to lie to themselves about themselves, while men tend to be more self-aware.

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00:00:00.000 I say I'm an average chick on my show.
00:00:02.740 And girls will look at me like, aw. 1.00
00:00:04.400 And I'm like, most people are average.
00:00:06.140 I've never had a girl come on here and say she's, slide, twice. 1.00
00:00:09.780 Maybe twice the girls have come on and said I'm an average girl.
00:00:12.640 Every girl thinks they're special. 0.81
00:00:13.920 I mean, the top ones are the ones that are.
00:00:15.180 I mean, men can say that about themselves.
00:00:16.700 No, they don't.
00:00:17.240 Maybe that's their issue.
00:00:18.220 They don't have self-love.
00:00:19.140 No, no.
00:00:20.120 Men don't think they're special.
00:00:22.180 That's sad.
00:00:23.320 They should.
00:00:24.060 No, because men have to face reality in the world. 0.99
00:00:27.680 If they ain't shit, they're going to know. 0.99
00:00:29.960 The world's going to tell them. 1.00
00:00:30.900 Where women will say, oh, you're so beautiful anyway. 0.98
00:00:33.800 Oh, you're a ton of women. 1.00
00:00:34.700 We lie to each other, too. 0.98
00:00:35.820 You'll never tell your friend that she's fat.
00:00:37.380 Women tend to lie to themselves, though. 1.00
00:00:39.880 Yes.
00:00:40.180 I wear makeup.
00:00:41.800 Don't get me wrong.
00:00:42.500 I definitely lie to myself every day.
00:00:44.380 But women will perceive themselves as a person that's wearing the makeup. 1.00
00:00:48.360 I've done their hair.
00:00:49.040 I've done this.
00:00:50.040 Men don't do that. 0.99
00:00:51.100 So they look at themselves. 0.99
00:00:52.220 And they may feel shit about themselves. 0.99
00:00:54.640 But they're going, that's who I am. 0.99
00:00:55.920 Women will look at themselves with makeup on and go, I'm a 10. 0.99
00:00:59.240 And the minute that makeup comes off, they feel so insecure.
00:01:01.600 And that's why we are more like, that proves my point.
00:01:06.340 That we are trying to help ourselves.
00:01:08.080 We are trying to improve ourselves.
00:01:09.280 We'll do anything.
00:01:10.160 I would say, me and me, it looks negative to me.
00:01:13.080 But I do it anyway. 1.00
00:01:14.300 We'll do anything but the hard shit. 1.00
00:01:16.720 Losing weight. 1.00
00:01:17.320 Oh, my God.
00:01:17.500 Yeah, I agree.
00:01:18.200 They won't lose weight and things like that.
00:01:20.440 I would push back on the notion that guys aren't doing anything for self-improvement,
00:01:24.400 though, because I'm part of this whole space.
00:01:26.640 These guys, I mean, maybe it's not the biggest space in the world.
00:01:29.020 It's a small percentage, though, isn't it?
00:01:30.520 But yeah, I would agree with that.
00:01:32.940 But maybe you're in an echo chamber.
00:01:34.180 Who you're looking at on Instagram, you're looking at a lot of girls. 0.69
00:01:36.540 Maybe they're into the self-improvement, the wellness stuff.
00:01:38.260 Fine.
00:01:38.920 But I also know a lot of guys who are also working hard.
00:01:42.140 I mean, what do guys have to work on?
00:01:43.260 Money, muscles, game, frame, basically.
00:01:45.180 So are you leveling up financially?
00:01:47.780 Are you working on your career?
00:01:49.040 Are you on your mission?
00:01:49.880 Are you going to the gym?
00:01:51.980 Are you looking after your fashion?
00:01:53.200 Are you looking after your career?
00:01:53.840 So guys do need to do a lot.
00:01:55.260 And the truth is, if you are a reasonably attractive girl in her, say, 20s,
00:02:02.140 and we're not even talking about a 10.
00:02:03.600 We're talking about a girl who's a 6 or a 7 or whatever.
00:02:05.640 Fine.
00:02:07.900 You don't have to do very much to get validation from the dating market.
00:02:12.940 You don't have to do very much.
00:02:14.640 You have to be kind of cute, wear a summer dress, walk down the street,
00:02:17.840 and you're going to get guys who are sort of like complimenting you or whatever.
00:02:21.720 Except that's illegal now.
00:02:22.900 But, you know, back when we used to be allowed to talk to each other,
00:02:26.200 you would get that positive validation.
00:02:28.580 Whereas dudes actually, for the most part, are invisible to women
00:02:31.320 unless they've really worked on themselves,
00:02:34.200 unless they've done the necessary things.
00:02:35.760 And I think if men aren't self-improving, it's women's fault 1.00
00:02:38.660 because men have to be motivated by something.
00:02:41.620 I agree.
00:02:42.060 So again, what do they get at the end of it?
00:02:44.700 They get women that think it's okay to leave. 1.00
00:02:47.840 So what kind of wife are they getting at the end of it? 1.00
00:02:50.900 Yeah, or you get the whole...
00:02:52.060 One meal a day, maybe.
00:02:53.660 Two of you are lucky.
00:02:54.860 Or you get this whole bunch of guys who have sort of dropped out of the system
00:02:57.120 because they think the dating is completely unfair
00:02:58.800 because they think they're invisible.
00:03:00.120 80% of guys are invisible to women.
00:03:01.880 So they think, well, why should I bother?
00:03:03.180 What are they called? Incels or something?
00:03:04.300 We did it on the last episode.
00:03:05.840 They're dangerous.
00:03:07.500 We learned about that last time.
00:03:09.300 I didn't even know that word.
00:03:11.280 Well, so...
00:03:12.800 They're a very small, small percentage of people.
00:03:14.900 So they're very angry people, aren't they?
00:03:16.760 They're angry, but they're angry...
00:03:18.600 I would say...
00:03:19.140 There's a much deeper psychological issue there.
00:03:21.140 Oh, okay.
00:03:21.560 We won't get into it there.
00:03:25.580 I would say that...
00:03:27.580 Again, it's the fault of women. 1.00
00:03:32.180 Because again, if there's incels, why is that? 0.96
00:03:35.520 It's because women are all sleeping with the same men. 1.00
00:03:37.460 I think, though, just based on psychological evidence,
00:03:41.760 there's a lot going on there that's deeper than just societal means.
00:03:46.220 But I get what you're saying about, like, in retrospect,
00:03:49.580 but incels themselves are...
00:03:51.080 But then I also don't agree...
00:03:51.640 There's much deeper psychological issues going on there.
00:03:53.800 I also don't agree with that because what you just said,
00:03:56.320 I would say, but they all want us to be virgins.
00:03:59.320 But yeah, we are sleeping with the same person or whatever.
00:04:01.700 Yeah, but why aren't we virgins? 0.75
00:04:03.620 Because we chose to have sex outside of marriage 0.80
00:04:05.700 and two guys do not expect a virgin. 1.00
00:04:08.080 That is the most bullshit shit I've ever heard in my life. 1.00
00:04:11.380 No. 1.00
00:04:12.060 Do you expect a virgin?
00:04:14.240 No.
00:04:15.180 I don't know.
00:04:15.940 I've never seen a single guy that says he expects a virgin.
00:04:19.240 I think that's an immature mindset.
00:04:20.840 I think that's the ideal, but they don't...
00:04:23.280 I think that's much younger people.
00:04:25.100 Yeah, that's an immature mindset.
00:04:25.840 I think men are realistic.
00:04:30.700 No, no, no.
00:04:31.360 I mean, like, younger, actual age-wise, the younger...
00:04:35.020 Oh, you mean, like, teen guys who are stuff like that?
00:04:37.680 Yeah, yeah.
00:04:38.000 Who technically are virgins themselves.
00:04:39.920 You're saying, I'm so over the hill,
00:04:41.540 I'm just going to take what I can get, really, to be honest.
00:04:45.640 It's like, 100 body count, fine, no worries, no worries.
00:04:48.580 I'll take it.
00:04:49.220 But I think the whole thing is quite nuanced, though,
00:04:51.140 because to counter what I've just said, you are right.
00:04:54.820 There's a lot of guys who are very, very lazy,
00:04:57.300 and they don't want to do the work. 0.99
00:04:58.340 They don't want to fucking do anything. 0.98
00:04:59.720 They sit there, and this is... 0.99
00:05:01.260 We complain about this a lot.
00:05:02.320 You know, they sit there on the computer going,
00:05:03.940 oh, it's really unfair.
00:05:04.900 If I'm not a six-foot...
00:05:05.820 If I'm not a seven-foot-five Chad with, you know, blah, blah, blah,
00:05:08.760 then it's over for me.
00:05:10.360 They don't do anything.
00:05:11.400 They just sit there complaining.
00:05:12.860 And, you know, that is on them,
00:05:14.880 because also they need to be going out
00:05:16.880 and they need to be working on themselves.
00:05:18.840 You know, so I think human beings in general are inherently lazy.
00:05:22.500 Most people.
00:05:23.320 But if, again, if you are a reasonably cute, you know, young woman,
00:05:28.920 I think you get more breaks in society than a dude of the same level.
00:05:32.840 Yeah.
00:05:33.120 I hear that.
00:05:33.760 Yeah.
00:05:34.720 What do you guys think a husband is for?
00:05:39.500 I would say a provider.
00:05:44.520 I would say also man of the house.
00:05:47.420 As I said before, companion, to be your best friend.
00:05:52.620 And also to, honestly, to push you to be that better person that is so important.
00:05:58.460 And a good father.
00:06:01.880 I feel like a lot of, no offense,
00:06:03.760 a lot of men haven't been taught what a good father is,
00:06:10.160 because they didn't have that experience.
00:06:12.620 And that's unfortunate.
00:06:14.180 And that's just being passed down to the next generation,
00:06:16.560 to the next generation, to the next generation.
00:06:18.040 And that's something that I think is really important.
00:06:21.440 Someone that is a good father, has good morals.
00:06:24.780 Okay.
00:06:25.400 What do you think?
00:06:26.100 Um, I think he's a protector, definitely.
00:06:32.740 Someone who is, I don't want to say like shield me from the world,
00:06:39.960 but someone who is going to have my back,
00:06:43.420 um, make sure that I'm safe at all times,
00:06:48.080 um, emotionally, like mentally, financially.
00:06:53.240 Um, and someone that I can just do life with,
00:06:58.140 like my life partner,
00:06:59.800 someone that can be by my side and face these challenges
00:07:03.600 that we face in life together.
00:07:06.380 Okay.
00:07:07.000 What do you think?
00:07:07.640 What's a husband for? 0.55
00:07:09.120 I think, um, I don't know, to be honest.
00:07:15.740 I don't know.
00:07:17.200 You don't know?
00:07:17.880 No.
00:07:18.600 It's an honest answer.
00:07:20.300 I don't know.
00:07:21.060 Honestly, I don't know.
00:07:24.420 But you are, you're from Romania though,
00:07:26.260 which is quite, still quite, um,
00:07:29.540 what's the word?
00:07:30.560 Sorry.
00:07:30.740 Traditional.
00:07:31.620 It is.
00:07:32.380 Does that not have an effect on how you think about it?
00:07:34.980 Not really.
00:07:35.960 Okay.
00:07:36.560 Not really.
00:07:37.060 But, um, I think we should be friends, first of all.
00:07:42.840 We should get support for each other.
00:07:45.640 Uh, we should be equal.
00:07:48.760 I think that's important.
00:07:50.240 You think men and women can be equal?
00:07:54.240 There's an intruder coming into the house.
00:07:56.580 Are you guys equally going to fight him?
00:07:58.080 No.
00:07:58.720 Yes.
00:08:00.000 Oh, get out of here. 1.00
00:08:01.220 No.
00:08:01.780 Get out.
00:08:02.340 Yes, I am.
00:08:03.960 I'm ready to box someone up here.
00:08:06.360 No.
00:08:06.840 I'm not going to fight him.
00:08:07.680 I'm going to run and call the police.
00:08:08.820 You deal with him.
00:08:12.740 So no.
00:08:13.540 So no.
00:08:13.960 Okay.
00:08:16.960 Anything else?
00:08:17.940 Or no, you said you don't know.
00:08:19.180 No.
00:08:19.460 Okay.
00:08:19.800 But you want it to be equal.
00:08:21.660 So when you say equal, do you mean equal?
00:08:23.460 Because a lot of girls say that and I'm like,
00:08:25.080 I don't really know what they mean by that.
00:08:26.960 Like they want a partner, equal.
00:08:30.100 I think it's about support and how you understand each other.
00:08:36.000 And when someone has a bad day, you just have to be there for them
00:08:40.900 and push them up, don't push them down.
00:08:44.280 I think that's important.
00:08:47.480 But what does that have to do with being equal?
00:08:53.180 I mean, like, I know we shouldn't push each other down in a row,
00:08:56.080 but what is that?
00:08:58.260 I don't know.
00:09:00.300 You mean like your views are equal kind of thing?
00:09:02.940 Yeah.
00:09:03.140 Like he respects you, you respect him.
00:09:04.980 Like the discipline between us, like all the respect.
00:09:08.880 He shouldn't tell you what to do
00:09:10.400 and you don't tell him what to do kind of thing.
00:09:12.560 No.
00:09:12.700 You just mutually agree.
00:09:14.740 We should, yeah, we should have a conversation about everything
00:09:18.100 and just agree.
00:09:20.540 Yeah, but what about when you disagree?
00:09:22.300 What happens?
00:09:23.520 We will find a way.
00:09:24.940 Then are you going to listen?
00:09:26.420 If he says that like you're...
00:09:27.620 Yeah, of course.
00:09:27.800 If I'm wrong, I'm going to say I'm wrong.
00:09:30.160 If I'm wrong, I'm wrong.
00:09:31.200 Yeah, but then, so then you wouldn't be equal, right?
00:09:34.480 If you guys disagree and then you have to trust him to make a decision.
00:09:38.040 I think she just means that she doesn't want to like a dictatorship type of relationship.
00:09:47.460 No, I feel like we need, yeah, we need to agree.
00:09:51.280 We need to have the conversation.
00:09:53.200 We need to talk about our problems.
00:09:56.320 See, I don't, I don't think you realize how this sounds to men.
00:09:59.820 And I used to say something similar, so I'm not judging you.
00:10:02.500 But when you're like, oh, we need to talk about our problems and talk about every issue
00:10:06.660 and like until we can come to a conclusion.
00:10:08.240 They don't really want to talk, that's true.
00:10:09.180 No, they just want, they just want, they just want a girl to listen.
00:10:12.680 Yeah.
00:10:12.840 Okay, we're going to do this.
00:10:13.820 And then she says, but why do we do it?
00:10:15.400 Why, but why?
00:10:16.900 Like men hate that, but why?
00:10:18.900 It's like a trick, like they hate it.
00:10:20.860 Yeah, that's true.
00:10:21.800 Yeah.
00:10:22.120 You're right.
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