The DELUSION That FEMINISTS Have
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about feminism and what it means to be a feminist and why it is so important for women to have equal rights and opportunities. We also discuss the role of feminism in our society and the role feminism has played in empowering women.
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you consider yourself a feminist yes or no okay so i think that feminism is very important but i
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feel like the way it has manifested in the west in particular is now causing a net negative and
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i feel like that's why conversations right now are going to be really important to kind of
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hold back that sort of chaos um so i'd say that i'm a feminist in the aspect of women's rights
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um however i'm not a feminist um the feminine women who go too far with feminism i think with
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a lot of women we um they've been given an inch and now they want to take the mile
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so um that's my perception on it um i would say i'm a feminist um and that's because if not for
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feminism i wouldn't be here right now because i'm here because my mom's able to work as a
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nurse bring us from nigeria and create a life for us so i'm grateful to feminism for my life basically
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um i wouldn't say i'm like in terms of the new age feminism i do think certain women go a bit too far
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like in terms of promiscuity i i don't feel like they should use feminism like to justify promiscuity
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but i think a lot of women now they're using feminine feminism as a way of justifying bad behavior
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but feminine as a feminism as a whole i can't even say it feminism as a whole i think is very
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important and it's helped a lot of women um come out of abusive situation and just empower women
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generally yeah i call myself a feminist i think feminism has done overwhelmingly like net good uh there
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might be a couple crazy people today on like twitter and social media but i don't think we should let
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that taint the entire movement i think it's important to keep moving in a positive direction forward while
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calling out the crazy people that kind of try to hold things back okay and you i'm an old school feminist
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women that know their place got their rights and know their place i don't want to be a man i don't want
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to be equal to a man and feminism in the old school days was nothing like the feminist now so if i was
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going to say that i'm a feminist i will say i'm an old school feminist and that these young people who
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now claim they're feminists they're not feminists they want to be men yeah i agree what's what's changed
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from now then to now what's changed is that they like the lady said that she said a mile but i'm speaking
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like as a dressmaker they gave us an inch and they wouldn't take a yard and it's not it's not helping
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us it's not helping us i've gone from being able to work being able to vote to i'm the same as a man
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i'm not the same as a man i can't do the same as a man i need men i need men i need men i will say that
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is make his day i need my man this as much as he needs me if not more but that's what's changed is
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that nowadays the feminism the feminists think that they need that they don't need men but if
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they didn't need men where would we be so i'm a feminist that in the old school days i i like what
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i've been given i've been given an inch i'm happy with an inch i don't want the yard i can't handle a
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yard so me i'm okay working taking care of my man and being feminine and i think the feminists have
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taken feminism out of the word feminist it's to do with being an empowered woman not being
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an empowered masculine woman and i think that most of the feminists nowadays they're butch they're
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masculine even if they look feminine there and they think they're they're feminists they've got
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this underlying i'm the same as men are equal and you're not you know what women hold back know your
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place hold your corner that's my view 100 thank you all right cool so the whole feminism thing i
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wouldn't call myself a feminist i would say that i believe in equal opportunities but if you really
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want equal opportunities it has to be full-time not just when it suits you i think a lot of a lot of
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the ideology of feminism is is kind of just like catered to empowering women and like at the end of
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the day a lot of a lot of times in in reality women don't even want to be on the same equal playing
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field as men because they don't want to take on certain responsibilities that men take on so do i think
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uh you know people should be paid the same money if they do the same job of course do you know i'm
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saying and everybody should have the same equal rights as human beings but it has to be in all
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aspects of life not just when it suits you so no i wouldn't say i'm a feminist but i do believe in
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equality between races races or sexes yeah races and sexes i've got i've got a lot of things going
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on in my mind feminism and racism yeah sexes genders everything i think we need to have the 2023 version
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of the dictionary what is feminism because i think opinions and positions come into
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what we believe feminism to be because as you said it's different from the old school to the new
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school i would say am i a feminist not by choice i'd say that i have to do what i have to do and i have
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to get by and i can't necessarily uh stay in my lane and i can't necessarily not take up a masculine
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role because there is no man in my life to take up that masculine role so sometimes i have to step out of
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my femininity and adopt some masculinity in order to get by so does that mean that i sabotage my
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femininity does that mean that i'm not a feminist because i have to do things outside of what
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technically is a feminist i ain't sure so i think i'm i'm on the fence right now so i'm a bit confused
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you said you you step into your masculinity because you don't have a man in your life because if we're
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going to go for old school look after your man and he does the manly roles and he does the car and he
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takes out the bins and he does all the masculine things that the old school feminists might say
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if that person is because old school there was you know husband and wife there was not so many single
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women like myself right running households running businesses paying for cars getting under the bonnet all
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of those things all i'm saying is sometimes if i were to stick to old school feminine ways
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i wouldn't get by okay okay that's what i'm trying to say um auntie did you have something to say
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you said i don't understand what she's coming from so okay so you you were saying that old school you
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look after your man and you know your place yeah but in your place what what's the limits of that place
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there's no limits it's just that it's a position a place is a position that you're holding yeah you're
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holding that stance i'm a woman that's my place right so okay so what do you okay maybe i need
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to understand then what's a man's place a man's place is to um look after me make sure he's got
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my best interests at heart and he has to make the final decision which improves both of us he his final
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decision will always be in my benefit so when he's not there to look after you who's looking after you
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i make sure i've got a man so any decision i might even me for me being on the podcast i wouldn't be
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here if it wasn't for him because before i decided to come on the podcast i asked his permission people
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might think that's really strange i said what is your permission what do you think about it this is
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what i'm going to do and there's certain things he didn't like so i told pearl you know what i can't
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do this i can't do that i can't do whatever and then we came to a conclusion but the final decision
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is always his and i trust him with it because he'll always have my best interest at heart and i'm
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a trained mechanic and maybe that's because you've got a good man yeah wait wait hold on even if you're
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a good man that sounds ridiculous yeah maybe because i can't i can't do what you just i can't do what
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you just said i can't because that's why is that ridiculous what because why would you need permit
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like there might be boundaries within the relationship so for instance like i don't want you to
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do like a pearl like strip show dance thing with like male strippers like i can understand that
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because that's like boundaries of the relationship but in terms of like i need your permission to do a
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show because i like if your boyfriend or husband or whatever if he's not like in this world you
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probably know better than he does like what's better for you i'd imagine but the thing is we're
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both not in this world we both don't know about social media he didn't and it's blown up but you're in
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this world now right right yeah but i still had his permission so there might be certain things that have
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developed since me being on the podcast that he doesn't agree with so i will cut them back
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at heart i mean if you pick a good guy i mean he's a good guy yeah but imagine if he didn't have a good
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guy yeah all the women that are trapped in abusive well and also you never know if you have a good guy
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until until you don't and can i just leave that don't you know yourself better than anyone
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no not necessarily because i'm i'm human i've got bad things and i've got good things i'm just as bad as
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anybody else and i will always take other people's opinions and then when he says stuff i don't always
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take it as hard as pearl knows because thanks to pearls you know sort of a few problems we've had to
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like you know stop like being stubborn but you've given another human authority over your decision
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making in life sorry can i just can i add something onto that um auntie what you said is the exact same
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situation with me i have a fiance and i would not come up here unless i've spoken to him about it
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and he's actually agreed with it so the only reason why i'm sitting as many of you know i was just
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