JustPearlyThings - June 05, 2023


The DELUSION That FEMINISTS Have


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

189.40678

Word Count

1,937

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

29

Hate Speech Sentences

2


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 you consider yourself a feminist yes or no okay so i think that feminism is very important but i
00:00:08.160 feel like the way it has manifested in the west in particular is now causing a net negative and
00:00:14.160 i feel like that's why conversations right now are going to be really important to kind of
00:00:17.920 hold back that sort of chaos um so i'd say that i'm a feminist in the aspect of women's rights
00:00:27.600 um however i'm not a feminist um the feminine women who go too far with feminism i think with
00:00:37.520 a lot of women we um they've been given an inch and now they want to take the mile
00:00:41.840 so um that's my perception on it um i would say i'm a feminist um and that's because if not for
00:00:51.360 feminism i wouldn't be here right now because i'm here because my mom's able to work as a
00:00:57.280 nurse bring us from nigeria and create a life for us so i'm grateful to feminism for my life basically
00:01:06.640 um i wouldn't say i'm like in terms of the new age feminism i do think certain women go a bit too far
00:01:14.560 like in terms of promiscuity i i don't feel like they should use feminism like to justify promiscuity
00:01:22.400 but i think a lot of women now they're using feminine feminism as a way of justifying bad behavior
00:01:29.360 but feminine as a feminism as a whole i can't even say it feminism as a whole i think is very
00:01:35.600 important and it's helped a lot of women um come out of abusive situation and just empower women
00:01:41.440 generally yeah i call myself a feminist i think feminism has done overwhelmingly like net good uh there
00:01:48.640 might be a couple crazy people today on like twitter and social media but i don't think we should let
00:01:52.160 that taint the entire movement i think it's important to keep moving in a positive direction forward while
00:01:55.920 calling out the crazy people that kind of try to hold things back okay and you i'm an old school feminist
00:02:03.040 women that know their place got their rights and know their place i don't want to be a man i don't want
00:02:10.800 to be equal to a man and feminism in the old school days was nothing like the feminist now so if i was
00:02:19.520 going to say that i'm a feminist i will say i'm an old school feminist and that these young people who
00:02:26.720 now claim they're feminists they're not feminists they want to be men yeah i agree what's what's changed
00:02:33.280 from now then to now what's changed is that they like the lady said that she said a mile but i'm speaking
00:02:39.440 like as a dressmaker they gave us an inch and they wouldn't take a yard and it's not it's not helping
00:02:46.080 us it's not helping us i've gone from being able to work being able to vote to i'm the same as a man
00:02:52.160 i'm not the same as a man i can't do the same as a man i need men i need men i need men i will say that
00:03:01.040 is make his day i need my man this as much as he needs me if not more but that's what's changed is
00:03:08.560 that nowadays the feminism the feminists think that they need that they don't need men but if
00:03:16.320 they didn't need men where would we be so i'm a feminist that in the old school days i i like what
00:03:24.640 i've been given i've been given an inch i'm happy with an inch i don't want the yard i can't handle a
00:03:29.120 yard so me i'm okay working taking care of my man and being feminine and i think the feminists have
00:03:38.400 taken feminism out of the word feminist it's to do with being an empowered woman not being
00:03:49.360 an empowered masculine woman and i think that most of the feminists nowadays they're butch they're
00:03:56.240 masculine even if they look feminine there and they think they're they're feminists they've got
00:04:01.440 this underlying i'm the same as men are equal and you're not you know what women hold back know your
00:04:07.440 place hold your corner that's my view 100 thank you all right cool so the whole feminism thing i
00:04:15.840 wouldn't call myself a feminist i would say that i believe in equal opportunities but if you really
00:04:22.160 want equal opportunities it has to be full-time not just when it suits you i think a lot of a lot of
00:04:28.800 the ideology of feminism is is kind of just like catered to empowering women and like at the end of
00:04:35.360 the day a lot of a lot of times in in reality women don't even want to be on the same equal playing
00:04:42.080 field as men because they don't want to take on certain responsibilities that men take on so do i think
00:04:47.840 uh you know people should be paid the same money if they do the same job of course do you know i'm
00:04:53.200 saying and everybody should have the same equal rights as human beings but it has to be in all
00:04:58.800 aspects of life not just when it suits you so no i wouldn't say i'm a feminist but i do believe in
00:05:03.760 equality between races races or sexes yeah races and sexes i've got i've got a lot of things going
00:05:15.680 on in my mind feminism and racism yeah sexes genders everything i think we need to have the 2023 version
00:05:26.480 of the dictionary what is feminism because i think opinions and positions come into
00:05:33.440 what we believe feminism to be because as you said it's different from the old school to the new
00:05:37.600 school i would say am i a feminist not by choice i'd say that i have to do what i have to do and i have
00:05:48.400 to get by and i can't necessarily uh stay in my lane and i can't necessarily not take up a masculine
00:05:55.520 role because there is no man in my life to take up that masculine role so sometimes i have to step out of
00:06:01.280 my femininity and adopt some masculinity in order to get by so does that mean that i sabotage my
00:06:08.240 femininity does that mean that i'm not a feminist because i have to do things outside of what
00:06:13.360 technically is a feminist i ain't sure so i think i'm i'm on the fence right now so i'm a bit confused
00:06:20.080 you said you you step into your masculinity because you don't have a man in your life because if we're
00:06:25.600 going to go for old school look after your man and he does the manly roles and he does the car and he
00:06:31.680 takes out the bins and he does all the masculine things that the old school feminists might say
00:06:37.040 if that person is because old school there was you know husband and wife there was not so many single
00:06:42.720 women like myself right running households running businesses paying for cars getting under the bonnet all
00:06:48.720 of those things all i'm saying is sometimes if i were to stick to old school feminine ways
00:06:55.200 i wouldn't get by okay okay that's what i'm trying to say um auntie did you have something to say
00:07:00.400 you said i don't understand what she's coming from so okay so you you were saying that old school you
00:07:04.800 look after your man and you know your place yeah but in your place what what's the limits of that place
00:07:11.120 there's no limits it's just that it's a position a place is a position that you're holding yeah you're
00:07:16.560 holding that stance i'm a woman that's my place right so okay so what do you okay maybe i need
00:07:22.000 to understand then what's a man's place a man's place is to um look after me make sure he's got
00:07:27.920 my best interests at heart and he has to make the final decision which improves both of us he his final
00:07:34.880 decision will always be in my benefit so when he's not there to look after you who's looking after you
00:07:40.800 i make sure i've got a man so any decision i might even me for me being on the podcast i wouldn't be
00:07:47.360 here if it wasn't for him because before i decided to come on the podcast i asked his permission people
00:07:54.960 might think that's really strange i said what is your permission what do you think about it this is
00:08:00.000 what i'm going to do and there's certain things he didn't like so i told pearl you know what i can't
00:08:05.600 do this i can't do that i can't do whatever and then we came to a conclusion but the final decision
00:08:11.920 is always his and i trust him with it because he'll always have my best interest at heart and i'm
00:08:16.880 a trained mechanic and maybe that's because you've got a good man yeah wait wait hold on even if you're
00:08:21.280 a good man that sounds ridiculous yeah maybe because i can't i can't do what you just i can't do what
00:08:25.360 you just said i can't because that's why is that ridiculous what because why would you need permit
00:08:31.120 like there might be boundaries within the relationship so for instance like i don't want you to
00:08:35.360 do like a pearl like strip show dance thing with like male strippers like i can understand that
00:08:40.240 because that's like boundaries of the relationship but in terms of like i need your permission to do a
00:08:44.960 show because i like if your boyfriend or husband or whatever if he's not like in this world you
00:08:49.680 probably know better than he does like what's better for you i'd imagine but the thing is we're
00:08:53.120 both not in this world we both don't know about social media he didn't and it's blown up but you're in
00:08:57.840 this world now right right yeah but i still had his permission so there might be certain things that have
00:09:02.000 developed since me being on the podcast that he doesn't agree with so i will cut them back
00:09:07.920 at heart i mean if you pick a good guy i mean he's a good guy yeah but imagine if he didn't have a good
00:09:13.200 guy yeah all the women that are trapped in abusive well and also you never know if you have a good guy
00:09:16.720 until until you don't and can i just leave that don't you know yourself better than anyone
00:09:22.320 no not necessarily because i'm i'm human i've got bad things and i've got good things i'm just as bad as
00:09:27.360 anybody else and i will always take other people's opinions and then when he says stuff i don't always
00:09:32.560 take it as hard as pearl knows because thanks to pearls you know sort of a few problems we've had to
00:09:37.280 like you know stop like being stubborn but you've given another human authority over your decision
00:09:43.520 making in life sorry can i just can i add something onto that um auntie what you said is the exact same
00:09:48.880 situation with me i have a fiance and i would not come up here unless i've spoken to him about it
00:09:54.320 and he's actually agreed with it so the only reason why i'm sitting as many of you know i was just
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