JustPearlyThings - The EFFECT Of Media on Modern Women

00:00:00.000 What would you give up for your relationship?

00:00:04.300 I want to ask the guys, because I feel like you've got a chance.

00:00:07.140 Starting here, Alex, I don't think I've even heard you speak once.

00:00:10.520 What would you expect the right girl to give up for you, to be with you? 0.84

00:00:15.640 Definitely the socials.

00:00:17.440 Okay, no social media.

00:00:18.360 Definitely nightlife.

00:00:21.500 And time giving time, that's it.

00:00:24.780 Okay.

00:00:25.480 So your big things are social media and nightlife?

00:00:29.440 Nightlife, yeah.

00:00:30.820 And all the hoe behaviors, all the window. 1.00

00:00:34.080 All the hoe behavior is gone. 1.00

00:00:36.220 Do you want a wife of hoe? 1.00

00:00:38.160 No.

00:00:38.640 No.

00:00:39.480 Is it possible to?

00:00:41.080 I don't know.

00:00:43.660 Okay, what would you expect your girl to give up for you?

00:00:47.160 I'm pretty liberal.

00:00:48.900 Unless I see that it's coming between us in some way, do what you want.

00:00:53.220 Just don't be out here making either of us look crazy, because you're a reflection of me.

00:00:58.180 So if you're going to go to the club with your girls, all right, cool.

00:01:01.860 But then if it comes back to me that you was dancing on 50 men, and your tongue was down 50 throats, then obviously it's not going to run, can it?

00:01:10.500 Because that's too many.

00:01:12.160 One man too many.

00:01:13.720 I should be the one man.

00:01:14.720 And if I'm not there, obviously it's not always that I can be there.

00:01:16.840 But like, I'm not going to let her out.

00:01:18.080 What if she's dancing on another dude? 0.80

00:01:19.380 Would you mean you're dancing on a...

00:01:20.820 I don't know, she's at the club.

00:01:22.540 What else are you doing at the club?

00:01:23.480 You're dancing.

00:01:24.720 That's almost like a sarcastic refrain.

00:01:26.540 But I understand what you mean by she's dancing on another one.

00:01:28.940 But like, I wouldn't appreciate that.

00:01:31.100 And if that was the case...

00:01:31.540 You dumping her?

00:01:32.800 Yeah, of course.

00:01:33.740 Not working or nothing.

00:01:35.820 Oh, he's thinking about it.

00:01:36.980 He's not sure.

00:01:37.620 Yeah, because you know it is now, yeah.

00:01:40.520 The laws online.

00:01:41.660 Have you kept a girl before that's done that? 0.85

00:01:44.000 Well, yeah, that's the thing.

00:01:45.820 Oh, okay.

00:01:46.880 And I was like, you know what?

00:01:48.000 It's a dance.

00:01:48.940 She did tell me though.

00:01:50.560 So it's like, all right, cool, you told me.

00:01:52.580 Is it the worst thing in the world?

00:01:54.160 No.

00:01:54.720 Did I appreciate it?

00:01:55.720 No.

00:01:56.920 You didn't marry her though, did you?

00:01:58.460 I did marry her, that's the thing.

00:01:59.600 Oh, she's the... 1.00

00:02:00.180 Oh, it's your wife that you married?

00:02:01.320 Yeah, this is my wife, yeah. 0.99

00:02:02.300 Okay.

00:02:02.780 Yeah.

00:02:03.340 So, but then, to be fair, with my wife, because the story with my wife is a long time in the

00:02:10.000 making, like I met my wife when I was seven years old.

00:02:12.560 Oh, okay.

00:02:13.040 So it's different, you know?

00:02:14.780 So like...

00:02:15.700 You love her.

00:02:16.520 Exactly.

00:02:17.280 But then I've said to her before, like, if I met you in the club and then I found

00:02:20.980 that you went to the club and you was in other things in the club, it's like,

00:02:23.980 nah, because you're just any girl from the club, so you can go. 0.97

00:02:26.800 But she doesn't do that now? 1.00

00:02:28.020 No, no, no.

00:02:29.020 Now when she's like, oh, she's meeting her friends, I'm like, yeah, go, because she's

00:02:31.740 a wife, she's a mother, she's in education, stuff like that, she very rarely goes out,

00:02:35.940 she looks after me, food, clothes, all that kind of stuff.

00:02:39.020 To a more traditional relationship.

00:02:40.100 Very, very, very, to be fair.

00:02:41.520 Yeah.

00:02:41.800 So, and yeah, so that's why I would question it.

00:02:47.760 But obviously my situation is very unique as opposed to some other people out there.

00:02:52.380 But in general terms, then I would mostly say, yeah.

00:02:55.140 Okay.

00:02:55.480 What would you give up for the right guy?

00:03:00.680 Not soccer.

00:03:01.800 Yeah, pretty much.

00:03:03.360 My daughter and football is like those two things. 0.97

00:03:07.820 I mean, why would a man want me to give up football?

00:03:09.780 I mean.

00:03:11.220 Because you've got it wrong with girls. 1.00

00:03:13.220 Yeah, I'm with girls. 0.96

00:03:14.320 Like, I coach girls.

00:03:15.380 I don't trust you.

00:03:15.720 But I don't, I mean, I don't even keep social media on my main phone.

00:03:20.340 I don't, going out.

00:03:22.040 How do you get recruited today?

00:03:22.780 Your main phone.

00:03:23.560 Don't they recruit you through Instagram or no?

00:03:25.540 No, just the girl knows me. 0.65

00:03:27.520 Oh, okay.

00:03:28.940 She called me.

00:03:29.920 But yeah, I mean, yeah, and going out is just over.

00:03:33.260 I did a lot of clubbing when I was younger.

00:03:35.620 I've lived my life.

00:03:37.460 I mean, I'm easy.

00:03:39.900 Yeah, whatever.

00:03:40.400 I don't have to dress like a slut.

00:03:43.580 But then what if your husband was like, nah, yeah, so.

00:03:46.100 You need to hang up your football boots.

00:03:48.440 No more life coaching.

00:03:50.980 Just sit down.

00:03:52.040 No more couch.

00:03:52.580 Get up and cook. 0.90

00:03:53.500 Yeah, if he's the right man, like, sure, I'm bored of coaching anyway.

00:03:58.760 You're taking on the right boxes.

00:04:00.440 Seriously, if I, yeah, if he can provide them.

00:04:03.020 So you won't give up.

00:04:04.460 You just won't do it because you don't want to do it anymore, right?

00:04:08.280 It's not like give up for him, your coaching.

00:04:11.760 Well, I am doing it now.

00:04:13.160 But yeah, if he really wanted me to give.

00:04:15.100 For the right man, yeah, I would.

00:04:16.260 I'm not really attached.

00:04:17.180 Come on.

00:04:17.600 I have a question.

00:04:19.740 So this one, I actually don't even, I don't even think I would do this one.

00:04:23.640 So, would you get plastic surgery for the right guy?

00:04:28.540 No.

00:04:29.260 I would not give up.

00:04:30.520 No, no, no.

00:04:31.100 That, I would not.

00:04:32.220 That doesn't really make sense to me because if the guy wants you to get plastic surgery,

00:04:36.180 why don't you just find the woman who looks like, yeah, you want. 1.00

00:04:39.680 I've heard, I've heard guys like paying for their girl's boob jobs. 1.00

00:04:43.580 Yeah, 100%.

00:04:44.160 I've heard of that.

00:04:45.320 I'm too scared to go under surgery.

00:04:49.160 I wouldn't want to do it either, but I think that's my one.

00:04:52.800 I might need it, but I still want to do it.

00:04:55.200 I'm fine as you are, man.

00:04:56.520 All that plastic surgery, BBL, BLL.

00:04:59.620 But yeah, otherwise I'm easy.

00:05:00.840 I'm not down for it, man.

00:05:01.480 I'm not attached to, yeah.

00:05:04.040 But then couldn't he just get the girl to eat more? 0.62

00:05:07.300 No, you can't get boobs from that. 1.00

00:05:09.460 No?

00:05:09.980 Yeah, I mean, if you put on weight, wouldn't your breast grow? 1.00

00:05:12.640 Yeah, I don't think they want, I think it's usually because they want the hourglass, you know.

00:05:18.240 Sheesh.

00:05:19.120 I don't know.

00:05:19.580 And that's because of social media, again.

00:05:21.520 I'm just trying to think of a natural route.

00:05:22.260 Yeah, no, you can.

00:05:23.200 There are ways that you can, but not for it to look like plastic.

00:05:26.260 No, obviously not.

00:05:27.040 It's not going to be up here like this, but like.

00:05:29.160 But there are things, like I said, it is, you can work on yourself.

00:05:32.440 And yeah, that, I would do that for him, like to like work on myself, to be in shape, to look good.

00:05:36.660 Yeah, absolutely.

00:05:37.320 But not plastic surgery or fillers and all that.

00:05:39.940 That's quite true.

00:05:40.540 No, I wouldn't do that.

00:05:41.300 Yeah. Okay, what would you expect the right girl to do for you or to give up for you? 0.99

00:05:47.080 I think, you know, sort of to begin with, just looking at my current circumstances, obviously if she'd work, the start of the other is fine.

00:05:54.500 But if it came down to where I was in a position where she wouldn't need to work, and especially I think, I think by nature, like, I want to be the woman that's more nurturing.

00:06:06.140 So, you know, that early stages before the kids start to go to school, I'll take it on for the team.

00:06:12.320 You know, you've got to stay at home, especially if I can provide that life for us, you know?

00:06:16.940 So that's why I'd expect her to give up.

00:06:18.780 After that, you know, we're open to talks.

00:06:21.900 If she wants to go back to work, get a little problem, man. 1.00

00:06:23.720 But in that period, you've got to play ball, man, you know?

00:06:27.420 If it's the best thing for the family.

00:06:29.280 Mm-hmm.

00:06:29.580 Yeah.

00:06:31.240 Did you answer what you would give up for the right guy?

00:06:33.880 I don't remember.

00:06:34.620 No, not really.

00:06:35.520 Okay.

00:06:35.760 Because I was thinking about it and I was kind of like, I don't know, I probably wouldn't give up anything.

00:06:45.560 Nothing?

00:06:46.200 Damn, son.

00:06:47.080 No.

00:06:47.400 I don't think any relationships require sacrifice.

00:06:49.420 No, I have a fiancé, obviously, and I love him.

00:06:52.700 But I think the only reason probably is coming from that, that is he's very, he wants me the way I am.

00:07:01.320 I mean, I think I love dancing, so he doesn't, me going to the, because I do a bit of a TV personality in Persian channels.

00:07:09.680 So I do a lot of dancing.

00:07:11.600 I do a lot of, you know, cameras.

00:07:15.280 I do like Persian, Latino.

00:07:17.180 So I mix.

00:07:17.660 You'll teach me now.

00:07:18.760 I will.

00:07:19.280 I will do a bit of a dance here.

00:07:20.500 Oh, yes, please.

00:07:21.280 And so because, because I do whatever I always wanted to do right now.

00:07:25.900 And he's very happy with the way I am, even though I'm most of the time just, you know, I'm very like outgoing and stuff and spending a lot of time out because of the camera and videos and my friends.

00:07:40.040 And he's always involved and he's loving the fact that I'm very outgoing and social.

00:07:45.140 So he doesn't say, oh, I don't like that.

00:07:48.500 Don't do that.

00:07:49.160 Don't do this.

00:07:49.800 So I think he lets you do whatever you want.

00:07:52.040 So probably if he tells me don't dance, I wouldn't give up because I'm, I'm so.

00:07:57.180 What if he told you, what if he told you delete social media?

00:08:03.580 What do you get social media for?

00:08:05.780 Social media, because I have a big platform on Instagram and I really worked hard for it.

00:08:11.260 Do you make any revenue, any type of money?

00:08:13.420 Do you get paid from social media?

00:08:14.720 No, but I have a big, amazing family.

00:08:17.860 It's like, you know, you're having, when you build up your Instagram and then your real family.

00:08:21.700 Sorry?

00:08:22.700 You can call your family, FaceTime your family.

00:08:23.840 Oh, I talk about my family in Iran.

00:08:25.840 I, I, I called Instagram my family as well because I, I kind of like.

00:08:29.840 Hold on, better than your real family, like your fiance.

00:08:31.840 No, I just don't understand why anybody wants me to delete my Instagram.

00:08:36.720 In case.

00:08:37.340 You can see them in real life.

00:08:38.740 Yeah.

00:08:39.140 Well, I'll give you an example.

00:08:41.120 So we had, we had, um, a guy, um, come, come in, um, uh, two days ago, uh, Justin Waller.

00:08:49.100 He's like a YouTuber and this guy has married women, um, constantly trying to sleep with him

00:08:55.060 on social media all the time.

00:08:57.060 Like literally, like he, he's shown me like videos, pictures of girls, like saying, come

00:09:02.000 over and like, he'll show me pictures of their families.

00:09:04.440 Right.

00:09:04.940 Yeah.

00:09:05.240 And he, he doesn't do it cause he's, he's not that type of guy, you know?

00:09:08.380 Yeah, but, but it's like, if a guy just wants to avoid that headache of you, you know, potentially

00:09:16.120 doing something like you wouldn't understand that.

00:09:18.380 If a lot, a lot of, um, divorces like come from social media.

00:09:22.720 That's true.

00:09:23.120 Cause my sister had, uh, you know, lots of argue with his, with her husband because of

00:09:27.260 social media, but now thinking about it, if obviously he wants me to delete Instagram,

00:09:33.680 otherwise he's not going to be with me because I, I, I really love him and he's, he's amazing.

00:09:38.380 So probably I would, but I think I'm going to be depressed for a few months.

00:09:42.380 Is he Iranian?

00:09:43.380 Is he, is he Iranian?

00:09:44.380 No, he's English.

00:09:45.380 Okay.

00:09:46.380 Okay.

00:09:47.380 So you, so you, so you.

00:09:48.380 Okay.

00:09:49.380 I don't know.

00:09:50.380 It explains a lot.

00:09:51.380 I'll be wrong.

00:09:52.380 When you have that, when you don't have that sort of things in your life, you don't really

00:09:54.380 think about it.

00:09:55.380 But now because we're discussing it, it's actually good for me because when you discuss it, I get

00:09:59.380 into myself and thinking if one, the doll want me to delete my Instagram because we never had

00:10:03.380 that conversation and I never thought about it, but now you're asking me and I'm thinking

00:10:08.380 about it.

00:10:09.380 Probably I would.

00:10:10.380 Well, can I ask you, would you like, would you give up just pearly things for the right

00:10:14.380 color?

00:10:15.380 Oh yeah, easily.

00:10:16.380 Yeah.

00:10:17.380 I mean, to be honest, I would, I would really want to get my, you can just do it at home

00:10:20.380 though, from home.

00:10:21.380 Yeah.

00:10:22.380 I mean, to be honest, I don't think the show is conducive.

00:10:24.380 Like what am I going to do this when I have kids?

00:10:26.380 No.

00:10:27.380 You know what I mean?

00:10:28.380 I'm going to have this crazy, you know, this crazy lady of mine. 1.00

00:10:32.380 I would still.

00:10:33.380 The wife show you could still do.

00:10:35.380 Oh, yeah.

00:10:36.380 The wife show. 0.71

00:10:37.380 You just have to pivot.

00:10:38.380 The wife's school.

00:10:39.380 You could still do that, man.

00:10:40.380 Yeah.

00:10:41.380 Just rub the baby with your foot here. 1.00

00:10:42.380 The camera ain't got to be there.

00:10:43.380 I mean, if it was genuinely causing a problem in my marriage, like I would, I mean, it's

00:10:48.380 social media, you know what I mean?

00:10:49.380 That's what I was going to say.

00:10:50.380 I don't know.

00:10:51.380 Sorry.

00:10:52.380 Yeah.

00:10:53.380 Go ahead.

00:10:54.380 Go ahead.

00:10:55.380 I was going to say, I don't know why social media has such a grip on people nowadays.

00:10:56.380 It hasn't been around for that long.

00:10:57.380 It's only what?

00:10:58.380 Nine, 10.

00:10:59.380 Imagine saying that 10 year old controls your life and it isn't your child.

00:11:02.380 That is crazy to me.

00:11:04.380 Like, yeah, fair enough.

00:11:05.380 I'll go on social media.

00:11:06.380 Most days I'm just scrolling.

00:11:07.380 When you actually really think about what is it that you're doing?

00:11:10.380 Unless like you're a full-time content creator now, or like some form of celebrity where

00:11:15.380 you need to have that level of engagement to my mind.

00:11:18.380 Now, if you're just on there going like this on with your thing, with your thumb scrolling

00:11:21.380 on the glass.

00:11:22.380 That's why I don't do it.

00:11:23.380 You're wasting your time.

00:11:24.380 That's why I don't do it.

00:11:25.380 No, I wouldn't, if I was like that, like just scrolling and, you know, wasting my time,

00:11:29.380 I wouldn't even care if I wanted to delete my Instagram to be honest.

00:11:32.380 If you're meant to ask for it, you're going to delete it, isn't it?

00:11:34.380 Yeah.

00:11:35.380 100%.

00:11:36.380 Yeah.

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JustPearlyThings - May 16, 2023

The EFFECT Of Media on Modern Women

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