00:02:25.720And it's a hard thing for people who are not traumatized to look at this from an outside lens, because there's things you have to overcome.
00:02:34.360How much more traumatic can it get for a child to grow up in a situation where it's encouraged for you to be beat by your parents as discipline?
00:02:44.280Because that's how African kids are raised.
00:03:16.640I know different types of trauma affect different kinds of people.
00:03:20.020But I think the problem is we blame the trauma and we remove accountability from people.
00:03:25.000Yeah, you choose how to react from that.
00:03:26.700Because there are children that come from the same home where the father was abusive and one goes on to be successful in life and one has a completely useless life.
00:03:34.460Sorry, by a lot of people that I met who have gone, seen stuff from childhood, they either carry it on or they express it in another way, in an unhealthy way.
00:04:02.820So you have a sponsor and your sponsor might say, you know, you do like a day or two clean and it's, you know, well done, congratulations.
00:04:09.420And then they get back onto the drugs.
00:04:11.840They relapse and their sponsor or the, you know, the expert says, their support worker says, you haven't hit your rock bottom because they haven't.
00:04:19.720It doesn't matter what your trauma is.
00:04:21.400It matters what stops you from like going down the rabbit.
00:04:24.600I definitely, I'm going to say I disagree with you on that in the sense because I exclusively run a community of traumatised individuals and our main goal is to overcome the trauma.
00:04:34.460Because here's the thing, if you don't overcome your trauma, you're going to get caught in a pattern of self-sabotage.
00:04:40.600How you earlier were mentioning that, you know, people who may have gained a lot of weight, they'll lose a hundred pounds, but they're still traumatised in their head and their subconscious mind is still traumatised.
00:04:51.820So they will rebound upwards because they're going to match to what's going on here because you have to come to closure with your trauma.
00:05:03.580That's what, that's what, that's what, that's what, that's the goal of all psychological training is it's catharsis.
00:06:04.240Like, so, so like, isn't it based on, like, I just think it's based on like the person, you know, because I'll know people that like, they're, like he was saying they're siblings and one will turn out great and one will go crazy.
00:06:24.980Like your environments can keep you trapped in your trauma too, as well.
00:06:29.580Because like, you know, historically speaking too, because not every, because another thing is this, not every therapist is a good therapist.
00:06:37.660First of all, they just did what needed to be done to get their therapy license.
00:07:56.420It wasn't a rebuttal, but it was just adding on to the fact that like, because I have seen people who've hit rock bottom and still didn't do what was necessary to change.
00:08:05.580Which was to, which was to heal that trauma, to come clear, to come to closure with it.
00:08:21.900I personally have never hit rock bottom with my mental health, but I was miserable enough to be like, yo, this is something else to fucking change.
00:08:31.720So, that's my big thing, because I think if we're telling everybody, get out there and hit rock bottom, like, you know, it's just not a good thing.
00:08:42.380But, like, what Pearl and King said, too, you know, there is an absolute truth to that in the sense that we can't sit here and sit around and feel sorry for ourselves.
00:08:52.140In today's modern times, like, I tell this, guys, I said, to all men, and I don't care what you have to say, but if you're a man, and you're after the age of 35, and you're still financially struggling, it is 10,000% your fault.
00:09:07.520Because there's every opportunity in the world.
00:09:11.120I personally have come from every low marker, abject poverty, physically abuse, mentally abuse, emotionally abuse, everything.
00:09:22.100And I have made millions with my business.
00:09:24.220And so, for me, if I could do that, if I could do that, you know, I'm an exception to the rule, but I am saying that there's possible.
00:09:35.200Do you think focusing on trauma makes it worse?
00:09:38.240Because I just look at the results, okay?
00:09:41.920I'm not saying there's no exceptions to this.
00:09:44.140And when I hear girls talk about trauma for years, it just, they don't seem to get better when they're always talking about it.
00:09:52.480And they'll do, like, therapy for years.
00:10:00.000I'm like, this is supposed to be, like, six months.
00:13:06.320And she, like, had to continuously mention it to us.
00:13:08.860And we're like a group of strangers, like anybody with kind of regular, you know, functionalities about themselves would kind of keep that private.
00:15:31.560People, like, I have a friend, okay, and he went to 15 years of CBT, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, right?
00:15:38.760And he said it resolved about 5% of his traumas.
00:15:42.280But once he started doing hypnotherapy and getting down to the core issues, because when you're traumatized, okay, when you're traumatized, your subconscious mind, which controls everything about you, that is what is permanently damaged.
00:17:16.280I was lucky enough to come upon a group of people through my community as I started my YouTube channel.
00:17:21.860And if you watch my YouTube from now, like, now, watch me in 2019, 2020, I was, like, way more toxic, way more, like, unrefined that I am now.
00:17:31.120And so it's a very complex puzzle to solve.
00:17:34.380But if you do do research into understanding the majority of psychological problems that are haunting people right now, it is trauma.
00:17:43.560And then the goal of all therapy is catharsis, which is emotional release, which brings closure to those traumas.