The Man ALL Girls Are After
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In this episode, we discuss cheating and how to deal with it. We have all been cheated on at some point in our lives and how we dealt with the situation. We also talk about emotional cheating and what to do if your partner cheats on you.
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But I also think, like, women, like, we should know what we're getting ourselves into.
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Like, if you go for the guy that's rich, he's got money, he's tall.
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Like, you know it's a strong possibility he's going to do that.
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Don't have a kid and then cry cheating later if you know that's going to be a possibility.
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I have best friends who, like, who openly say to me, like, oh, yeah, he's got a girlfriend or he's got a wife.
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And they're happily ready to break a happy home.
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And I've put myself in a category of, I'm like an honest fuckboy.
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You're on the Instagram and all these girls are after you.
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Okay, so you mean to tell me that all of these girls who you were sleeping with, not one of them had ideas above what you had?
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Because if I know women, and I'd like to think I do.
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They don't, they don't, they're not going to listen.
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They're going to be like, I'm going to be the exception.
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I go to sleep with a clean conscious knowing that I've not promised anyone.
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So, so, my first question is, have you ever been cheated on and have you ever cheated?
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It's just like sometimes God loves me too much and they just show me little things.
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Yeah, it just happened and I knew he was cheating because I think men, when they are cheating, they, they are way, um, they, they feel guilty and then try to make it up to you.
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Oh, so he was, he was like buying you stuff and treating you well.
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Okay, and so then how, how do you get evidence or?
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Well, I just, I'm not a person that go into someone's phone.
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But, yeah, but it just, it just happened for me to see.
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Yeah, and I, I saw a message and then from there, obviously I checked and yeah.
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And then like, what, it was him like messaging, come over or something?
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Uh, no, it was more, I can't really say it because it's a bit inappropriate, so.
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As in going the whole way or what's cheating is such a loose term?
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When I think of cheating, I think of like stuff that's like sexual, you know, I would say kissing someone else is cheating.
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Yeah, but unless you're in like an arranged, it's not cheating if you guys agree to the, you know.
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What if it's like a, just a flirty text message?
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Yeah, like text messages, like Instagram, like you replied to something.
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Because for me, there's also emotional cheating.
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Like if you invest your emotional energy in someone else, that's also cheating.
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Because I could be with a guy and then I'm investing my emotional energy into another guy.
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I think that emotional cheating, that's a, that's a woman thing, I think.
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Like, you know, like, you don't really care as a man, isn't it?
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See, men, men, when it comes to men, men cheat for different reasons from when women cheat.
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Yeah, that's why when women cheat, people say that it hurts more.
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Because men, it's like, our penises kind of talk for us.
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Yeah, like our penises are the ones that are making the decision certain times, you know?
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And once you've bust that nut, you're like, you snap back to normal.
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After you bust that nut, you're like, oh, man, what am I doing here?
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So that's why you're saying men do it, just to go bust it nut, and then after they come to me.
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No, I feel like it's a double standard, for sure.
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Men can have full-blown sex with a woman and feel less than a woman sending a flirty text message.
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Like, we can be more upset over them sending a text message than us having full-blown sex with a woman.
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My mum broke it down from a practical standpoint, right?
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If you let someone into your home, that's slightly more personal than you going into someone's home.
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And women, from a practical standpoint, they are allowing you access to their insides.
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I'm trying to find it that, like, backs up what you guys are saying, where they asked, like, married men that cheated if they still loved their wives.
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And it was, like, 85% or 80% roughly still said they did.
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I mean, it's not like they don't love them anymore.
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It's like, maybe they want to try something different, maybe.
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But Paul, on the subject that you just said of married men, I remember being in the lift.
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I went to go clubbing with the guys who was in the lift.
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He must have been around about, say, about 65 years old.
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And he was like, oh, lads, you going to enjoy it?
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Then he was like, yeah, I'm on a prom looking for a woman tonight.
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He was like, I'm married, by the way, but I'm bored.
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A friend of mine once said, behind every great looking woman is a man sick of Shagna.
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And I'm sorry to like, because I know women don't want to hear that.
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But I do feel like men, we are programmed to want to multiply.
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We wake up every morning with a full sack and we're ready to go.
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And unfortunately for women, if you're not there, like, that's why women, unfortunately,
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I beg to differ on that one for the simple fact of you can be that woman or that man.
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And yet still, somehow, some way, I can be submissive.
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I can give it to you as and when you want it multiple times out of the day.
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But the truth is, if you want to go out and do that, you're going to do it.
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You know, to me, it's like, I've always looked at cheating.
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It makes you look inside yourself and think, okay, have I done something in order to not satisfy him?
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But then you still feel, oh, I'm going to go out and demand him.
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Women, I believe, if you feel that you have to get to that point where you're cheating,
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Why haven't you sat down and had that A and B conversation?
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Okay, well, I could flip it on you and say, why did you choose the wrong men multiple times in a row then?
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I'll answer because women in general like men that cheat.
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It's not like a good thing that makes women look good, but look at who women pick.
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Two women have always reproduced for every one man.
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And while there have been monogamous, like throughout the last two million years, there
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And the majority of the population has been monogamous, but the top 15% of men have never
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Women now are completely in control of sex, which has never happened in all of history,
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And what has happened since we've gotten in control of sex?
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We have been sleeping with a smaller and smaller percentage of men.
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We could have the monogamous guys, but none of us pick them.
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So, and we don't when we have the most youth and the most beauty, because usually like we
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do go into monogamous relationships, but we do it in our thirties because the average
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So that means we're non-monogamous in our twenties.
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I have a question for the ladies, if this is okay.
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Have any of you's ever knowingly, like deep, deep down inside, been a booty call?
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Have you ever been, have you ever knowingly been a booty call?
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Like a guy who's just, you're a side piece, you're not serious, but you're turning up
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and you know he's calling you at 11 o'clock for good reason.
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Like he ain't taking you out, he ain't doing all the nice things.
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You're turning up knowing what this is really about.
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He may say all the nice things to you, but you deep down in your, I know what I'm here
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I'm just going to say, I'm just going to say no.
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I personally haven't been in that situation, but each people or persons or people that are
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Every guy you've slept with, you've been in a relationship with a hundred percent.
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I've heard any interviews with, I've been with them kind of.
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You see what he's saying though, because a situationship is the same thing.
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And if you both agree, it's like, if you know what the setup is and you're like, okay,
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But personally, I've never been in that situation.
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I just couldn't remember what you said in the beginning.
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No, it just surprises me, because if you're still single at 35, I'm like, every guy, you're
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I would say in my younger days, you know, when you're finding yourself and you don't
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really, women sometimes want a little bit more than men.
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And what I wanted is not necessarily what he wanted, but they sell you this dream, take
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you down the stream and kind of just leave you there kind of thing, you know?
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And then he then went on to go and find what was appealing to himself.
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I've never cheated on an individual, but I have had it happen to me twice.
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I'm not picking the wrong guys, because it doesn't matter if you're, you could be a really
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I mean, like what one of you said where, you know, they went out and this guy was married,
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but he was still out there looking for something else.
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So they were a little bit, I don't know, probably six.
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And like, how much money did they make roughly?
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Some of us were either still in college or, you know, doing a little Saturday job and stuff
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We wasn't in a state where, as I am now in my thirties, where I'm more established.
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So give and take, you know, we were still in college.
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So they had a bachelor's degree or they were in college.
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So once, once a man earns over 300 K, um, the odds of him cheating increased by roughly
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50% with a third of men, um, in that, in that higher income bracket, cheating on their
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wives, only 6% of these unfaithful men report that their marriages were coming to an end
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Not the remaining 94% still love their wives goes without saying that men don't cheat more.
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Um, or women don't cheat more when they're in a higher income bracket beyond wealth.
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The men who are over six foot tall are statistically 38% more likely to cheat, which is presumably
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Intriguingly, um, university degrees are 34% more likely to cheat.
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So it's like, if we're going after the guys with all of these qualities, like, do you think
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Yeah, I reckon of course you can expect it more.
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If a guy's over six foot kind of thing, he, he believes he's got more power.
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If you're making more money than that female, you know, you've got more power.
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So girls have to, I feel like all of these external things, right?
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They only draw out what is innately in you already.
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You could be a billionaire and seven foot five, but if you have morals and principles and
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you genuinely love the woman that's with you, you're not going to go cheat.
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Because if you, if you look at like NBA players and like, and professional athletes, there
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are women that go to those games and seek those men out trying to get them to cheat on
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Like there are girls that have said word for word.
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I, I, I, it took me years, but I finally got them to cheat.
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So, so my point is even a good guy, if you're telling me some of the most beautiful women
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you've ever seen in your life are chasing you down, hunting you.
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They know everything about you trying to get you to cheat.
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I think like people are human over the course of like a 20 year career.
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But if your relationship is solely based around a sexual experience, then of course, there's
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always going to be someone with more curvaceous booty just around the corner, but if you're
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dealing with an actual woman on a spiritual, financial, physical realm, then there is nothing
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that you're going to give me that this woman doesn't satisfy me with already.
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I'll be honest before any of my ex-girlfriends call me out in the comment sections.
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I was a serial cheater when I was young, but I've seen firsthand my eldest sister, my
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youngest sister, what they've gone through and the heartbreak that a man was able to cause.
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And it was almost God's way of showing me, this is what you're doing to these other women.
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No, no, no, no, no, I can tell you categorically.
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What's the longest you've been monogamous to a girl?
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No, no, no, but in the last four years, in the last three and a half years, in the last
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three and a half years, yeah, I've never, ever, ever, ever cheated.
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And because of my line of work, I can go on my Instagram right now and I've got blue ticks with
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two, three million followers asking me to go to the estates to have sexual intercourse.
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Because from a mature standpoint, I know that what I want in a woman isn't just sex.
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Yeah, but I'm saying like that happens, but I'm just saying like, I think that even a good
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Like, it's not that you should or you shouldn't.
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Martin Luther King, didn't you know he had a stable of holes?
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Bro, Muhammad Ali was out here every other day with a different woman.
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One thing I want to say is that we were talking about these high achievers, these men who earn
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You have to train your brain into being a mogul and all of this.
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So any woman who wants to then weave in with that way of life, you can't just come up here
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and expect a man to change who he is and be a different person because he needs you to
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And a lot of women aren't willing to do that these days.
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And also part of the problem is these men are like the alpha males.
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And I know that's such a ridiculous word to use these days because people have used it
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But I feel like these men, like, they're bred to be as successful as possible to provide.
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And also part of the problem is they all want to, like, fuck every day.
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And they're not in control of themselves around women in the way that a man who...
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Well, actually, I wonder a lot of these men who aren't in that situation who are, like,
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If they were in that situation, would you have these morals that you claim to have
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Even though I've done it before, I've done it before, there's nothing cool about it.
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I'm not saying to glamorize it, but I'm saying the last two million years,
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And I think a lot of times women go into relationships with, like, delusional expectations.
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Like, the top 15% of men for the last two million years have always cheated.
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And now you're coming in and saying, well, he's going to be faithful to me.
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My message to women is conduct yourself in a certain esteem.
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And if a man is stupid enough into cheating, he's going to lose out.
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And he will potentially go with a woman who's going to cheat on him.
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And I think that sounds really nice, but it's not nice when they can't replace the guy.
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And that's the sad thing is, like, I'll talk to girls and they'll talk about how their mom
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or their mom left their dad because he cheated and now she's dying alone.
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And so it's like, is it really a better option?
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So you'll be happy staying with someone that's consistently cheating on you than dying alone?
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And there's a lot of evidence to suggest that the UK is going to start rolling back
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Could you work it out with your husband or is it better to be homeless?
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Not every woman that isn't in a relationship is alone.
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It doesn't necessarily mean they're alone just because they're not with a man.
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Now you have to mooch off of everyone around you instead of working it out with your husband.
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If you've left your husband, you have to understand and you have to take on board the damage that
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Now, if I was married and I've brought forth 10 children for you and I felt that we've
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built our empire and we've got our tribe and we're good, we're strong, and then I was
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your world and you was my world and then we had our children, you have to sit down and
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It doesn't matter how many times you go and you sit down and you talk to somebody and you're
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Yeah, but who has to suffer in these situations?
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And, you know, at the same time, the damage can be unreversible.
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It is the children that do end up suffering because, you know, they've grown up thinking,
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No, no, no, no, no, no, I'm just speaking on this, you know, and then it turns out that
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Now, I know quite a lot of people that, you know, you grow in a household, you hear an
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They think, oh, the children are in bed, they're sleeping.
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I've worked with children and I've seen the damage that it's caused.
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But the effects of a single mother home are worse.
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And every stat will tell you you're more likely to commit suicide, you're more likely
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to be homeless, they're 80% of the prison population.
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Like, every real problem in society is literally linked to a single mother home.
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And so my thing is, like, I just think once you have a family, it's not about you anymore,
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And so it's like this, you know, this idea that we can't work through cheating, I just
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You know, it's all about honesty, I reckon, you know.
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Honesty is, I think, like, cheating is a lot of people that are not going to be a lot of
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cheating wouldn't be a thing if it was for the honesty side of things, you know.
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See, like, in 2023 now, yeah, even myself, I've been involved in a throuple, yeah, it's
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Well, I've got two girlfriends and my girlfriends are girlfriends.
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Well, not currently, it's not the situation anymore.
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But it's just a case of honesty, you know what I mean?
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So I was honest with them, they were honest with me, no one got hurt in the process.
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It's like 23% of women are actually open to that, where only 6% of men are reversed.
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Yeah, I think it can happen if you're, like you said, honest and open.
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Well, I mean, how many women, like, do, like, we all know a lot of women who have no idea
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But like, yeah, like, every guy is going back to his girlfriend being like, yeah, he's cheating.
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Like, a lot of women out there just have no idea they're being cheated on.
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So, like, maybe they would be happier if they were just at least honest about it and the
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I've seen a lot of nice people get fucked over and a lot of assholes get great lives.
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Yeah, but you haven't read the end of the chapter, you haven't read the end of the book.
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I know, but so long as there's life, there's an opportunity for karma to be inflicted.
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I'm telling you, if you are a man who breaks people's hearts and you boast about it and
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you're proud and you look in the mirror and you feel more of a man, then there's something
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Why would you feel bad about something that's normal?
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I said throughout history, the top 15% of men have always cheated.
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But still, regardless of the statistics and where they sway, it's a wrong thing to do.
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The side of cheating which is wrong is the emotional damage which provides to the other
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So when you're in a relationship with a person that you love, like for instance, I've been
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And to me personally, it was nothing to do with whether I love her or not.
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I just found out in later life that I liked different types of varieties of Pum Pum.
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But at the same said time, that doesn't mean that I didn't love my girlfriend.
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You can still love your girl, but it's just the excitement of another female.
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So basically what you're saying is, as a woman, if you want to get in a relationship,
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You're saying like the top 15 to 20 men cheat, right?
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So I feel like as women, we do need to take the more responsible role of choosing better men
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because we have that 80 whole percent of men that don't.
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I've learned that for the last actual couple of months, only recently.
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And that's big from watching your shows actually.
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And it's opened my mind a lot because it's just like we have a whole 80%
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and we don't want to generalize men because not everyone cheats.
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Well, and when you think about it, so like women used to select for resources, right?
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More, more so than looks because when, because we like, we didn't work.
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And usually you would live at your dad's house and then you would go to your husband
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until about the twenties when women started to go to work.
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So what happened is when that, when women started being the like selectors of mates,
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And so, but what percent of men do we find attractive?
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So back in the day, the dad would like, like say, oh no, he's going to cheat on you.
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But then women in their thirties, they'll switch because it's like they need a kid,
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And so they'll switch from selecting for looks to selecting for more provider first.
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But it's like if you did that in the beginning.
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But this is the thing though, these, these men, we're sitting here going, right?
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You mean to tell me the other 80% if they had it on the table, they wouldn't do the men or just men,
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you know, like us labeling these 20% as arseholes just because they have the height, the resources.
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No, I, I think there's, there's definitely exceptions to the rule.
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Like, and like, I think me and my guy over here have a similar story in that, you know,
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unfortunately, like we have this thing where we're very immature and we mature later on in life as men.
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Yeah, we, we go through this period where like, let's be real.
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You know, we don't want to be sitting 50 year old wondering what was, what would that have been like?
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And actually you kind of have to get that out of your system before you go, you know what?
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And one woman who looks after you, who's got your back and really cares about you is the real deal.
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But you're not going to come to that when you're in your childish state of mind.
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And unfortunately, some of you girls are victims during that period.
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But I also think like women, like we should know what we're getting ourselves into.
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Like if you go for the guy that's rich, he's got money.
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Like, you know, it's a, it's a strong possibility.
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Cause girls are going central London, for instance, they're looking for the guy with the Lambo.
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They want a guy with this, this, this, these big chains.
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That's what girls, that's what girls, that's what girls are intrigued to.
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He can be good looking and he's going to be monogamous to you.
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So girls, you girls, like men are only as faithful as their options, but are women really any different?
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Like let's, let's, let's say you meet two guys at the same time.
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You're, you are going to also be a bit more drawn like to this guy who's the provider, the, the, the alpha.
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We're more accessible this day and age, I think.
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I feel like, you know, years ago wasn't so much accessible.
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Well, judging by Instagram and the way women post anything that is like, like I've sat in restaurants before where a woman has literally had a guy taking pictures of her eating her fucking dinner for 15 fucking minutes.
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Wondering why is she taking a picture in this restaurant?
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Cause she wants everyone to know what restaurant she's in and he's the one paying for it.
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So let's not add like women don't value this because it's literally all over London every week.
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But what sort of, when we keep using this term, sorry, it's really irating me.
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Women, what, what, a real woman doesn't do that.
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My mom would never in a million years go to Nobukov and take a picture and be like, Hey, real women probably don't even have social media.
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But no, but no, but no, you can't, we can't speak of women as a general woman.
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Okay. Can you, can we make a general consensus that the women in their twenties today are different, are of a different cloth and the women, let's say in their fifties today.
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The women in their fifties are more traditional than the women in their twenties.
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I have best friends who like, who openly say to me like, Oh yeah, he's got a girlfriend or he's got a wife.
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And they're happily ready to break a happy home.
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And I, I put myself in a category of, um, I'm, I'm like an honest fuck boy.
00:29:58.820
When I'm, when I'm honest about my, my, my link ups and whatnot, other women tend to be more attracted to the situation.
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First of all, they go away a little bit hurt and whatnot.
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But then they come back after a while and be, you know, they're reasonable.
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And then, yeah, it just seems more appealing for some reason.
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Why not just be out here proling and sleeping with a new girl every other day?
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But at least you're not hurting another individual.
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I don't care whether we're talking about the 20th century or the 19th century.
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There is nothing nice about harming another individual.
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Cause you know, you, you're on the Instagram and all these girls are after you.
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So, you mean to tell me that all of these girls who you are sleeping with, not one of
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Because if I know women and I'd like to think I do.
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They don't, they don't, they're not going to listen.
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They're going to be like, I'm going to be the exception.
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I go to sleep with a clean conscious knowing that I've not promised anyone this, this and
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I mean, the idea of a relationship is commitment, right?
00:31:31.820
You're cool with me talking about your job, right?
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So how are you, like, how are you faithful if you're on OnlyFans?
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Precisely why I said I haven't been in a relationship for as long as I've done OnlyFans.
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Oh, I thought you said you've been in it for five years.
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I have had many propositions from female content creators, beautiful, stunning head to toe.
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And I've said no, because I know I'm not capable of, you know, seeing my missus having sex,
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whatever, sexual intercourse with some other guys.
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And I know that some girls have said to me, it's fine.
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So it's just a little bit like you're confusing me because in the end, you did cheat on her
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When I was young and naive and I was ignorant, I cheated because I thought it was cool.
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I had a conversation with my fiancee at the time and I said, this is what I'm going to
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Whether you support me, you either support me and we stay and I'll do solo stuff or you walk
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I have zero regrets, but I will never know about how many people and how normal it is.
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I've seen it firsthand what it does to my family.
00:33:11.820
The girl agreeing to marry you and you turn around and go, hey, by the way, I'm going
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OnlyFans does not constitute having sex with other people.
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Right, but it's still like something she didn't agree to in the beginning.
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But my point is it's a little bit like hypocritical of you to go around saying, oh, I don't cheat.
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Like that's a horrible thing to do when it's like you kind of did the same thing there.
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Are you a cheater if you've got an Instagram profile?
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People aren't paying for Instagram to have a wank over you.
00:34:11.820
No, but I mean, if I'm in a relationship with a girl and she's like, I'm going on OnlyFans.
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And if I've proposed to her and we're going to get married, I don't care if you're working
00:34:31.820
And I was like, right, I'm going to change my alias.
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They're going to use a different social media account.
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I'm a real man because I sat her down and I said, babe, this is what I want to do.
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And this is how I want to incorporate you into my future, my five year plan.
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And had she stayed, she would have benefited from the millions that I made.
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If I hadn't seen my sister break down, I thought I was going to lose her.
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When I saw that in my own two eyes, I said, I'll never do this to another girl.
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And the day I don't want to, I have an open conversation, babe.
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Do you ever think a girl is going to take you serious with you doing the content that
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And I've got a lot of money on my bank account.
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Obviously, it's a situation where obviously we come to a stage in life where we all want
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to settle down and just have that perfect female.
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I have two wonderful nieces that I provide for and I pay for private school for.
00:36:08.820
Have you come to terms with the fact that your career may land you alone later on in life?
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The two years that I deprived myself from any social interaction were the two years I was
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able to retire my mum and make more money in 24 months than I made in 30 years socializing
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My priorities as a human being here is to provide for my family.
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If God should afford being a luxury of having a woman in future, then great.
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Do I look like I'm going to struggle for a woman?
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If they're going to be serious, I used to be that guy.
00:36:52.820
Obviously, not bringing no depression to the show, but my mum recently passed.
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But what I've done is make sure I sorted a house for her.
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But obviously, the affection that she can give me is not always the affection that I have.
00:37:08.820
But the right woman will come along and she will forgive me.
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So you can have your nieces and all this stuff and be like...
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But with an actual genuine female, you want to actually feel that affection.
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No, it's not that you're going to struggle, but obviously, you're a decent looking guy,
00:37:22.820
So it's a thing where girls are going to attract to you.
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Yeah, and if they're ignorant enough to base me on my past and how I made my money,
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then that's a reflection of your ignorance and you don't deserve to be in my presence.
00:37:38.820
Are you saying you would stop it for the right girl?
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So you think it's a reflection of them if they judge you for being an OnlyFans?
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Because to me, it's like your morals and your values and what you put out into the world.
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Can we all agree on the fact that if you were born in a single parent family and your mom
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was raised in a council estate and you used to work in Tesco and you retired her?
00:38:16.820
Listen, I graduated from King's College University with a 2-1, right?
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If someone is ignorant enough to judge me in all my existence based on something as insignificant
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as how I make my money, then that's a reflection of you living in the dinosaur era and not me.
00:38:46.820
It's like when you have morals, principles and values, like there's some things you can't be paid to do.
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So I'm saying like, I don't think you can say, oh, I can make any decision I want.
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See, like it doesn't matter how good you are as a person, bruv.
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If your missus knows you're out there clapping cheeks.
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That's not a reflection of another female of because of what you're doing.
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Because, you know, I know many people that were in your same situation and they went on,
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but they just didn't take, like to me, that's kind of a cheat code.
00:39:31.820
Like, you know, my dad, he was on the south side of Chicago.
00:39:36.820
It wasn't like he grew up rich and he ended up employing 200 people in like a company, you know?
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And so it's like some people are in your exact situation.
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My only problem with that is the phrase the easy way.
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And trust me, every content creator is going to come to my defensive.
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I used to be, and you can Google check me, an English teacher, fully qualified.
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And running a successful OnlyFans account is 10, listen to me, 10 times harder than being a fully qualified English teacher.
00:40:16.820
So when I hear phrases like you took the easy way out, it's not an easy way out.
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Okay, but it's easier than, okay, so it's easier than, selling sex is easier than not selling sex.
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If I wanted to make more money, I could take off my clothes tomorrow and I would make more money.
00:40:37.820
So it's not necessarily the same guy versus girl, but I'm assuming you have women in your content, right?
00:40:43.820
So question, do you think everyone could jump on OnlyFans and make millions?
00:40:48.820
No, no, I'm not saying that every single person can make a ton of money.
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Because if there was an easier for way, if there was an easier way for you to make millions, you would have did it.
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But when you say easy, don't you think it's difficult having to deal with like people's perceptions of you, family judgment, social judgment, isn't that difficult?
00:41:06.820
I mean, I think that's the trade-off for easy money.
00:41:08.820
But it's not easy if it comes with all those complications, is it?
00:41:13.820
I'm saying it's easier than the other option because otherwise you wouldn't have did it.
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We don't have to be in union and everything we say.
00:41:35.820
No, actually, I thought we agreed to be honest.
00:41:43.820
For me personally, when it first happened, can you hear me?
00:41:52.820
Um, when it first happened, um, I was in my teens.
00:41:57.820
Um, it kind of hurt, but then I kind of got over it and now I didn't get under another
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man before people come for me and be like, yeah, get under another man.
00:42:09.820
I kind of just stayed off the market for a bit, um, kind of healed from what I went through
00:42:15.820
because when you're talking about cheating, cheating is in different ways and different
00:42:22.820
And like I said, when you're in a relationship with somebody and that person is selling you
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And they're telling you, oh, you're this, you're that and dah, dah, dah, dah, dah, dah.
00:42:35.820
But then it turns out, no, really, I wasn't what you wanted.
00:42:43.820
Just, it's better you tell me, look, babe, I love you.
00:42:47.820
But I'm going to have to love you from a distance.
00:42:52.820
But when you go out of your way to specifically hurt that individual, knowing full well that
00:43:00.820
Like I'm not getting numbers on the, on, on, on the slide.
00:43:03.820
You, you know, my phone's open, go through my phone.
00:43:06.820
I have nothing to hide because I'm not doing anything inappropriate.
00:43:09.820
And the fact that most people that I've actually sat down and asked, I'm like, well, why would
00:43:18.820
But you understand that men and women are different.
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Because right now you're saying like, why would you do that?
00:43:38.820
The majority of the guys here are going to tell you it's how they're, like if you ask
00:43:43.820
But when you actually sit down and have a conversation with somebody that knows themselves,
00:43:53.820
They've come out of their little boy moments because a lot of men still have it.
00:44:04.820
But like I said, if that's what you want to do, do that.
00:44:09.820
And this is where I don't agree with it, whether it's a male or a female.
00:44:14.820
If you know you cannot be loyal to one individual.
00:44:20.820
You can be single and you could be free to mingle all day long.
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But you still just like to have the variety of spices.
00:44:34.820
Honestly, honestly, I think women, we need to get off our high horse.
00:44:39.820
We're supposed to be virgins on our wedding day.
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What percent of women are virgins on our wedding day?
00:44:45.820
You're supposed to bring purity and youth to a marriage, right?
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They're supposed to give you resources and monogamy because they're not doing their mating strategy,
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basically, which is screw as many people as possible.
00:44:58.820
We could keep, you know, being like part of the harem, right?
00:45:00.820
Like with a high value guy, but we say, no, we're not going to do that.
00:45:04.820
We're not holding up our end of the bargain today.
00:45:10.820
Because I'm not proud of this, but like, you know, I want to be honest here.
00:45:16.820
And like, you know, my man's given me a bit of honesty.
00:45:23.820
In my previous experience when I was at my worst in terms of like using women and stuff like
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that, when, you know, I was, I was in my high value man and I'll do what I want phase as they say.
00:45:37.820
Basically, if a girl I'd asked to come and meet me that night said she was busy.
00:45:45.820
And like, that was none of her knowledge or whatever at the time, but she just wasn't there.
00:45:50.820
And my selfishness and my childishness was just like, cool.
00:45:55.820
The first one to say, yes, it's your lucky day.
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And, and in my head, I'm like, if you're not dedicated enough to me to be here, then you can't have any complaints.
00:46:06.820
And I think a lot of men go through that when you're not living together and heavy serious, but it's, it's dating.
00:46:12.820
And I was just like, okay, the first one to say yes, that's it then.
00:46:17.820
Pell, would you stay in a, would you stay in a married relationship with your husband happily being cheated on?
00:46:27.820
Um, no, I would not be happily cheated on, but I think again, that the kids are more important than you.
00:46:35.820
Yeah. If I, if I have kids, you know, and I, and you try to work.
00:46:38.820
But how, like how many times is like the limit for them to like go?
00:46:41.820
If you have kids, I'm going to try to work it out.
00:46:44.820
Like, because I just genuinely think that if you put your feelings above the kid, like, I just think you're selfish.
00:46:51.820
I like this guy, but you are talking the opposite of what your actual life is.
00:47:00.820
When you interview porn stars, I'm like, I never cheat.
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I'm like, you're fucking cheating every day. You don't have to do this trick.
00:47:05.820
Watch, watch. He's going to apologize. I promise you. Watch this.
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Two year career stint in this illustrious industry.
00:47:17.820
I'll go on my Instagram right now and you can verify this, yeah?
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I guarantee I have four girls asking me to do scenes next week.
00:47:28.820
But you're not living the lifestyle like you're preaching.
00:47:32.820
So you've only had sex with four girls in two years?
00:47:35.820
Okay, okay. So there's been more other than that.
00:47:44.820
But I actually disagreed with something else that you said.