JustPearlyThings - July 28, 2023


The Man ALL Girls Are After


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47 minutes

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10,477

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1,065

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Misogyny

80

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In this episode, we discuss cheating and how to deal with it. We have all been cheated on at some point in our lives and how we dealt with the situation. We also talk about emotional cheating and what to do if your partner cheats on you.

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00:00:00.980 But I also think, like, women, like, we should know what we're getting ourselves into. 1.00
00:00:04.480 Like, if you go for the guy that's rich, he's got money, he's tall.
00:00:07.040 Like, you know it's a strong possibility he's going to do that.
00:00:09.920 So what are you going to do if he does?
00:00:11.860 Don't have a kid and then cry cheating later if you know that's going to be a possibility. 1.00
00:00:16.140 I have best friends who, like, who openly say to me, like, oh, yeah, he's got a girlfriend or he's got a wife.
00:00:22.020 And they're happily ready to break a happy home.
00:00:24.940 I don't condone in that.
00:00:26.440 I don't condone in that.
00:00:27.740 I think it's wrong.
00:00:28.380 Again, it's all the emotional damage.
00:00:30.620 You know what I mean?
00:00:31.420 And I've put myself in a category of, I'm like an honest fuckboy.
00:00:36.760 You're on the Instagram and all these girls are after you. 1.00
00:00:39.500 All of them.
00:00:40.320 Yep, right.
00:00:43.380 All of them.
00:00:44.440 All of them.
00:00:44.800 All of them.
00:00:45.280 All of them.
00:00:46.700 And I'm not 6'4".
00:00:47.760 I'm 5'8".
00:00:48.840 I'll tell you.
00:00:49.540 Okay, so you mean to tell me that all of these girls who you were sleeping with, not one of them had ideas above what you had? 0.54
00:00:57.180 Because if I know women, and I'd like to think I do. 1.00
00:00:59.800 I'm like my man.
00:01:00.580 I keep it straight.
00:01:01.580 Darling, I'm a single.
00:01:02.920 But they think they can change you, mate.
00:01:04.420 They don't, they don't, they're not going to listen.
00:01:06.060 They're going to be like, I'm going to be the exception.
00:01:07.780 But yes, I agree with you, bro.
00:01:08.820 But then the onus is on them.
00:01:10.460 I go to sleep with a clean conscious knowing that I've not promised anyone.
00:01:13.740 Today's topic, cheating.
00:01:18.340 Yep, yep.
00:01:19.180 So, yeah, yeah.
00:01:21.900 Okay.
00:01:22.820 So, so, my first question is, have you ever been cheated on and have you ever cheated?
00:01:30.800 Yes, I've been cheated on and I never cheat.
00:01:35.320 You never cheat.
00:01:35.860 How did you find out he cheated?
00:01:39.300 Painful.
00:01:39.780 Well, I find out, I don't know.
00:01:45.340 It's just like sometimes God loves me too much and they just show me little things.
00:01:51.320 You're right.
00:01:51.600 God, God brought you cheating?
00:01:56.940 No, no, no.
00:01:57.920 Yeah, it just happened and I knew he was cheating because I think men, when they are cheating, they, they are way, um, they, they feel guilty and then try to make it up to you.
00:02:09.920 Oh, so he was, he was like buying you stuff and treating you well.
00:02:13.680 Yeah, out of nowhere.
00:02:14.560 Okay, and so then how, how do you get evidence or?
00:02:17.980 Well, I just, I'm not a person that go into someone's phone.
00:02:22.420 Okay, so phone.
00:02:23.100 But, yeah, but it just, it just happened for me to see.
00:02:27.340 Okay, you saw like a message?
00:02:28.740 Yeah, and I, I saw a message and then from there, obviously I checked and yeah.
00:02:32.440 And then like, what, it was him like messaging, come over or something?
00:02:36.820 Uh, no, it was more, I can't really say it because it's a bit inappropriate, so.
00:02:43.640 Oh, it was like some sexual stuff.
00:02:45.720 Okay.
00:02:46.420 I feel like we've got to qualify the question.
00:02:47.820 What do you mean by cheating?
00:02:48.720 As in going the whole way or what's cheating is such a loose term?
00:02:53.180 That's a good, that's a good question.
00:02:54.660 When I think of cheating, I think of like stuff that's like sexual, you know, I would say kissing someone else is cheating.
00:03:02.800 Yeah, but unless you're in like an arranged, it's not cheating if you guys agree to the, you know.
00:03:07.740 What if it's like a, just a flirty text message?
00:03:09.620 Yeah, like text messages, like Instagram, like you replied to something.
00:03:13.800 Yeah, but from there, it's starting, right?
00:03:15.960 Premeditated.
00:03:16.320 Not necessarily, not necessarily.
00:03:17.740 Because for me, there's also emotional cheating.
00:03:19.920 Like if you invest your emotional energy in someone else, that's also cheating.
00:03:23.100 Because I could be with a guy and then I'm investing my emotional energy into another guy.
00:03:27.160 You're still cheating.
00:03:27.620 I think that emotional cheating, that's a, that's a woman thing, I think. 1.00
00:03:30.800 Like, you know, like, you don't really care as a man, isn't it?
00:03:34.020 See, men, men, when it comes to men, men cheat for different reasons from when women cheat. 0.98
00:03:38.500 You understand what I mean?
00:03:39.620 Yeah, that's why when women cheat, people say that it hurts more. 1.00
00:03:43.580 It hurts the man more.
00:03:44.540 You know what I mean?
00:03:44.940 Because men, it's like, our penises kind of talk for us.
00:03:49.160 You know what I mean?
00:03:49.960 Yeah, like our penises are the ones that are making the decision certain times, you know?
00:03:55.080 And once you've bust that nut, you're like, you snap back to normal.
00:03:59.040 You can go about the love of her.
00:04:00.800 I still love her though.
00:04:02.100 Yeah, yeah.
00:04:02.680 After you bust that nut, you're like, oh, man, what am I doing here?
00:04:05.140 Yeah.
00:04:05.520 You come to your senses.
00:04:06.760 You come to your senses.
00:04:07.480 You come to your senses.
00:04:08.680 No pun intended.
00:04:09.260 So that's why you're saying men do it, just to go bust it nut, and then after they come to me.
00:04:12.720 No, I feel like it's a double standard, for sure.
00:04:14.480 Guys can have sex without emotions.
00:04:16.960 But with females, they need emotions. 1.00
00:04:20.060 It's very much different.
00:04:21.100 Men can have full-blown sex with a woman and feel less than a woman sending a flirty text message. 0.60
00:04:27.140 Exactly.
00:04:27.500 Like, we can be more upset over them sending a text message than us having full-blown sex with a woman. 0.62
00:04:33.040 My mum broke it down from a practical standpoint, right?
00:04:35.840 This is genius.
00:04:36.380 If you let someone into your home, that's slightly more personal than you going into someone's home.
00:04:41.940 And women, from a practical standpoint, they are allowing you access to their insides. 1.00
00:04:47.900 You're just visiting.
00:04:49.200 You can visit 100 houses in a day.
00:04:50.960 Not that I recommend you do that.
00:04:52.960 I don't do that, by the way, just to comment.
00:04:55.380 That's it.
00:04:56.760 So I big up my mum for that.
00:04:58.700 But I don't condone it.
00:04:59.700 I don't suggest you do it.
00:05:02.860 That's it.
00:05:04.120 There's some study.
00:05:05.220 I'm trying to find it that, like, backs up what you guys are saying, where they asked, like, married men that cheated if they still loved their wives.
00:05:10.960 And it was, like, 85% or 80% roughly still said they did.
00:05:15.240 I mean, it's not like they don't love them anymore.
00:05:19.440 It's like, maybe they want to try something different, maybe.
00:05:22.580 Bro, so true.
00:05:24.140 Have you guys cheated?
00:05:25.200 Have you guys cheated?
00:05:25.680 Yeah, I've been a serial cheater, man.
00:05:28.240 Come on.
00:05:28.840 Any man says I haven't cheated, they're lying.
00:05:31.220 But Paul, Paul.
00:05:32.420 Not every guy can cheat.
00:05:35.100 Yeah, that's true.
00:05:35.960 But Paul, on the subject that you just said of married men, I remember being in the lift.
00:05:39.860 I went to go clubbing with the guys who was in the lift.
00:05:42.800 And we seen an older guy.
00:05:43.660 He must have been around about, say, about 65 years old.
00:05:46.560 And he was like, oh, lads, you going to enjoy it?
00:05:48.240 Like, have a good night tonight?
00:05:49.280 We was like, yeah.
00:05:49.840 Then he was like, yeah, I'm on a prom looking for a woman tonight.
00:05:53.520 And we're like, okay.
00:05:54.880 He was like, I'm married, by the way, but I'm bored.
00:05:57.600 He was like, she don't do nothing for me.
00:05:59.500 But I love my wife.
00:06:00.480 A friend of mine once said, behind every great looking woman is a man sick of Shagna. 1.00
00:06:04.500 And I'm sorry to like, because I know women don't want to hear that. 1.00
00:06:08.120 But like, and it's not all true.
00:06:10.040 Like, obviously, there's exceptions.
00:06:11.220 There's all good.
00:06:11.740 There's good guys out there.
00:06:12.600 But I do feel like men, we are programmed to want to multiply.
00:06:18.140 That is like, it's not a choice.
00:06:19.440 We wake up every morning with a full sack and we're ready to go.
00:06:22.780 And unfortunately for women, if you're not there, like, that's why women, unfortunately, 1.00
00:06:27.260 have to be on their A game.
00:06:28.840 It's not fair, but it's just the way it is.
00:06:30.920 I beg to differ on that one for the simple fact of you can be that woman or that man.
00:06:39.500 Absolutely.
00:06:40.080 You could be everything that he dreams of.
00:06:42.740 I agree.
00:06:43.060 And yet still, somehow, some way, I can be submissive.
00:06:48.400 I can give it to you as and when you want it multiple times out of the day.
00:06:53.400 But the truth is, if you want to go out and do that, you're going to do it.
00:06:58.040 That works both ways.
00:06:58.780 No, and I was going to get to that point.
00:07:02.260 You know, to me, it's like, I've always looked at cheating.
00:07:06.760 I've been on the receiving end of that.
00:07:09.120 And I've been there multiple times.
00:07:11.480 Now, it does two things.
00:07:15.480 It makes you look inside yourself and think, okay, have I done something in order to not satisfy him?
00:07:23.660 What drove him to look at me?
00:07:27.040 But you're telling me that you love me.
00:07:28.720 You care for me.
00:07:30.180 Oh, you know, you're my world.
00:07:31.600 Okay, show me that I'm your world.
00:07:33.560 But then you still show me that.
00:07:35.540 But then you still feel, oh, I'm going to go out and demand him.
00:07:38.520 Yeah, different area, cold, dang, no, no, no.
00:07:42.200 No, it's not about that.
00:07:43.680 Do you understand what I'm saying?
00:07:44.560 And it's the same with women as well. 0.81
00:07:46.100 Women, I believe, if you feel that you have to get to that point where you're cheating, 1.00
00:07:51.740 why are you still in that relationship?
00:07:54.560 Why haven't you sat down and had that A and B conversation?
00:07:57.360 Okay, well, I could flip it on you and say, why did you choose the wrong men multiple times in a row then?
00:08:01.740 Okay, no, no, no.
00:08:02.840 No disrespect.
00:08:03.580 No, no, no.
00:08:04.220 And that's a fair question.
00:08:05.320 Yeah, because they're all good guys out there.
00:08:07.060 No, no, no.
00:08:07.460 And that is a very fair question.
00:08:08.620 You just said every man cheats.
00:08:10.120 No, I said every man has the urge in them.
00:08:12.260 They're programmed to want to fuck every day. 0.90
00:08:14.380 That's, well, generally.
00:08:15.760 I'll answer because women in general like men that cheat.
00:08:21.140 It's true.
00:08:22.040 It's true.
00:08:22.680 I mean, from an athlete.
00:08:24.760 I don't like that.
00:08:27.400 I wish my ex-girlfriend was like you.
00:08:32.660 Have you cheated?
00:08:34.100 I'm not proud of this.
00:08:35.820 It's not like a good thing that makes women look good, but look at who women pick. 1.00
00:08:39.680 Two women have always reproduced for every one man. 0.93
00:08:42.500 And while there have been monogamous, like throughout the last two million years, there
00:08:46.220 have been monogamous societies.
00:08:48.220 And the majority of the population has been monogamous, but the top 15% of men have never
00:08:55.140 been monogamous ever.
00:08:56.580 And now what's the difference today?
00:08:57.940 Women now are completely in control of sex, which has never happened in all of history, 1.00
00:09:01.860 right?
00:09:02.400 And what has happened since we've gotten in control of sex?
00:09:05.280 We have been sleeping with a smaller and smaller percentage of men.
00:09:08.000 So what does that mean?
00:09:08.960 We could have the monogamous guys, but none of us pick them.
00:09:11.640 So, and we don't when we have the most youth and the most beauty, because usually like we
00:09:16.620 do go into monogamous relationships, but we do it in our thirties because the average
00:09:20.460 age of first marriage is in 31.
00:09:22.000 So that means we're non-monogamous in our twenties.
00:09:23.760 I have a question for the ladies, if this is okay. 1.00
00:09:26.340 Have any of you's ever knowingly, like deep, deep down inside, been a booty call?
00:09:32.540 Knowingly.
00:09:33.560 Have you ever been, have you ever knowingly been a booty call?
00:09:36.440 Like a guy who's just, you're a side piece, you're not serious, but you're turning up
00:09:40.640 and you know he's calling you at 11 o'clock for good reason.
00:09:43.680 Like he ain't taking you out, he ain't doing all the nice things.
00:09:46.560 You're turning up knowing what this is really about.
00:09:50.000 He may be lovely to you.
00:09:51.300 He may say all the nice things to you, but you deep down in your, I know what I'm here
00:09:55.400 I'm just going to say, I'm just going to say no.
00:09:56.320 No, I haven't said no.
00:09:56.980 Okay.
00:09:57.180 I'm going to say no.
00:09:57.840 I personally haven't been in that situation, but each people or persons or people that are
00:10:05.580 in that set up.
00:10:06.580 Yes.
00:10:06.820 What about situationship?
00:10:08.220 Anyone?
00:10:08.700 Raise your hand.
00:10:09.600 Situationship.
00:10:10.140 Never.
00:10:10.640 Whatever.
00:10:11.060 Every guy you've slept with, you've been in a relationship with a hundred percent.
00:10:14.280 Yeah.
00:10:14.340 Four years plus.
00:10:14.840 Okay.
00:10:15.320 Okay.
00:10:15.480 Wow.
00:10:16.040 Yeah.
00:10:16.380 Yeah.
00:10:17.020 You have been in a situationship?
00:10:18.860 No, every person that I've.
00:10:20.720 Okay.
00:10:21.300 I've heard any interviews with, I've been with them kind of.
00:10:23.640 These recruiters need to step their game up.
00:10:25.100 They're too nice.
00:10:25.720 Get some holes in the panel, please.
00:10:30.380 Wait, what?
00:10:31.200 Did you get some holes in the panel?
00:10:31.860 I said, can we get some holes in the panel?
00:10:33.100 Oh, wow.
00:10:34.400 Can we get some?
00:10:35.440 We're trying to.
00:10:36.400 I've told you girls like that.
00:10:37.700 You see what he's saying though, because a situationship is the same thing.
00:10:42.880 No, I understand that.
00:10:44.480 It is, but you are both single.
00:10:45.540 Yeah.
00:10:46.300 And if you both agree, it's like, if you know what the setup is and you're like, okay,
00:10:51.380 look, I've got an itch.
00:10:52.840 I need you to scratch.
00:10:54.100 I'll call you.
00:10:55.140 If that's the setup, then fair enough.
00:10:57.000 Each of their own.
00:10:57.880 But personally, I've never been in that situation.
00:11:00.880 Were you married?
00:11:01.600 Are you, you're married?
00:11:02.720 Am I?
00:11:03.300 You're married?
00:11:05.180 Somewhat.
00:11:06.080 You mean somewhat.
00:11:06.820 I just couldn't remember what you said in the beginning.
00:11:09.000 I didn't answer that question.
00:11:10.220 Oh, okay.
00:11:10.800 I see a ring.
00:11:12.260 I'm just not.
00:11:12.520 Yes, there is a ring there.
00:11:14.220 Okay.
00:11:14.660 Yeah.
00:11:15.180 No, it just surprises me, because if you're still single at 35, I'm like, every guy, you're
00:11:19.180 in a relationship by 35?
00:11:21.100 I wouldn't say every guy that I've been with.
00:11:23.780 I would say in my younger days, you know, when you're finding yourself and you don't
00:11:29.680 really, women sometimes want a little bit more than men. 0.65
00:11:35.300 And what I wanted is not necessarily what he wanted, but they sell you this dream, take
00:11:42.980 you down the stream and kind of just leave you there kind of thing, you know?
00:11:47.880 And that was my experience.
00:11:49.780 Right.
00:11:50.020 But that's still a situation ship.
00:11:51.800 If you weren't together.
00:11:52.680 No, we was in a relationship.
00:11:54.060 Oh, you were in a relationship.
00:11:54.940 Yes, we were in a relationship.
00:11:56.560 And then he then went on to go and find what was appealing to himself.
00:12:03.440 And that's how that relationship dissolved.
00:12:07.360 He cheated on you? 0.98
00:12:08.240 Yes.
00:12:08.920 I've never gone out.
00:12:10.080 I've never cheated on an individual, but I have had it happen to me twice.
00:12:15.720 I'm not picking the wrong guys, because it doesn't matter if you're, you could be a really
00:12:20.060 good guy.
00:12:20.620 I mean, like what one of you said where, you know, they went out and this guy was married,
00:12:25.080 but he was still out there looking for something else.
00:12:28.000 Do you know what I mean?
00:12:28.700 So sometimes you can't really.
00:12:30.720 How tall were the guys?
00:12:32.340 How tall?
00:12:32.840 Um, oh, I don't know.
00:12:37.300 I'm like five, two.
00:12:38.300 So they were a little bit, I don't know, probably six.
00:12:40.980 Okay.
00:12:41.320 Six foot.
00:12:41.860 And like, how much money did they make roughly?
00:12:44.060 Well, at the time we were like teenagers.
00:12:46.220 So we were all just grafting.
00:12:48.520 We arrived.
00:12:49.000 Some of us were either still in college or, you know, doing a little Saturday job and stuff
00:12:53.920 like that.
00:12:54.380 We wasn't in a state where, as I am now in my thirties, where I'm more established.
00:13:01.760 So give and take, you know, we were still in college.
00:13:06.020 So they had a bachelor's degree or they were in college.
00:13:08.560 So they got a degree too.
00:13:09.340 Yeah.
00:13:09.560 So they were, yeah, they were working.
00:13:11.360 I have, I have a point.
00:13:12.640 I'm just going to read.
00:13:13.180 I'm just going to read.
00:13:14.120 I'm just going to read some stats.
00:13:15.220 So once, once a man earns over 300 K, um, the odds of him cheating increased by roughly
00:13:20.160 50% with a third of men, um, in that, in that higher income bracket, cheating on their
00:13:25.300 wives, only 6% of these unfaithful men report that their marriages were coming to an end
00:13:29.820 or didn't love their wives anymore.
00:13:31.420 Not the remaining 94% still love their wives goes without saying that men don't cheat more.
00:13:37.140 Um, or women don't cheat more when they're in a higher income bracket beyond wealth. 1.00
00:13:41.780 The men who are over six foot tall are statistically 38% more likely to cheat, which is presumably
00:13:47.400 just down to the opportunity.
00:13:50.400 Intriguingly, um, university degrees are 34% more likely to cheat.
00:13:55.820 So it's like, if we're going after the guys with all of these qualities, like, do you think
00:13:59.860 we should maybe expect it on some level?
00:14:01.920 Yeah, I reckon of course you can expect it more.
00:14:03.880 If a guy's over six foot kind of thing, he, he believes he's got more power.
00:14:08.300 If you're making more money than that female, you know, you've got more power. 1.00
00:14:12.420 So girls have to, I feel like all of these external things, right? 0.99
00:14:17.200 They only draw out what is innately in you already.
00:14:20.300 You could be a billionaire and seven foot five, but if you have morals and principles and
00:14:25.200 you genuinely love the woman that's with you, you're not going to go cheat.
00:14:27.340 But it's just, it's just nowadays, bro.
00:14:29.320 There's, there's, there's so much options.
00:14:31.620 Accessibility.
00:14:32.060 I disagree.
00:14:32.620 There's all these other.
00:14:33.580 I disagree with that.
00:14:33.980 I'll tell you, I'll tell you why.
00:14:34.940 Because if you, if you look at like NBA players and like, and professional athletes, there
00:14:40.440 are women that go to those games and seek those men out trying to get them to cheat on 0.92
00:14:44.840 their wives.
00:14:45.280 Like there are girls that have said word for word. 0.96
00:14:47.240 I, I, I, it took me years, but I finally got them to cheat.
00:14:50.580 Yeah.
00:14:51.020 But what is it?
00:14:51.960 So, so my point is even a good guy, if you're telling me some of the most beautiful women 1.00
00:14:57.080 you've ever seen in your life are chasing you down, hunting you.
00:15:00.320 They know everything about you trying to get you to cheat.
00:15:03.340 I think like people are human over the course of like a 20 year career.
00:15:07.920 Not once.
00:15:08.500 Yeah.
00:15:08.600 But if your relationship is solely based around a sexual experience, then of course, there's
00:15:12.880 always going to be someone with more curvaceous booty just around the corner, but if you're 1.00
00:15:16.320 dealing with an actual woman on a spiritual, financial, physical realm, then there is nothing 1.00
00:15:22.100 that you're going to give me that this woman doesn't satisfy me with already.
00:15:24.900 And I'm talking from experience.
00:15:25.980 I'll be honest before any of my ex-girlfriends call me out in the comment sections.
00:15:28.620 I was a serial cheater when I was young, but I've seen firsthand my eldest sister, my
00:15:32.520 youngest sister, what they've gone through and the heartbreak that a man was able to cause.
00:15:36.340 And it was almost God's way of showing me, this is what you're doing to these other women.
00:15:39.480 You're a reverberate, bro.
00:15:40.700 I can tell you, categorically, look at it.
00:15:43.140 He's too pretty to be speaking like this.
00:15:44.300 No, no, no, no, no, I can tell you categorically.
00:15:45.640 A pretty boy out here, yeah.
00:15:46.720 It's all right for you, pal.
00:15:48.720 Can I finish my sentence?
00:15:49.380 Can I just ask you a quick question?
00:15:50.940 What's the longest you've been monogamous to a girl?
00:15:53.500 Five years.
00:15:54.280 Five years.
00:15:54.700 Okay, but that's not 25.
00:15:56.140 No, no, no, but in the last four years, in the last three and a half years, in the last
00:16:01.200 three and a half years, yeah, I've never, ever, ever, ever cheated.
00:16:04.300 It's never even crossed my mind.
00:16:05.400 And because of my line of work, I can go on my Instagram right now and I've got blue ticks with
00:16:08.900 two, three million followers asking me to go to the estates to have sexual intercourse.
00:16:13.440 And I say no.
00:16:14.360 Why?
00:16:14.680 Because from a mature standpoint, I know that what I want in a woman isn't just sex.
00:16:20.300 You know, look at your mother. 0.97
00:16:21.380 Look at your...
00:16:21.940 It's so much deeper than sex.
00:16:24.760 Yeah, but I'm saying like that happens, but I'm just saying like, I think that even a good
00:16:29.960 man can do it on a bad day.
00:16:31.860 Facts.
00:16:32.260 That's my point.
00:16:33.500 Like, it's not that you should or you shouldn't.
00:16:35.980 Not if you're in love.
00:16:37.360 Martin Luther King, didn't you know he had a stable of holes?
00:16:39.940 Bro, Muhammad Ali was out here every other day with a different woman.
00:16:43.580 One thing I want to say is that we were talking about these high achievers, these men who earn
00:16:47.740 over 300,000.
00:16:48.940 Those men, they don't...
00:16:51.080 Like, that doesn't just happen overnight.
00:16:52.660 You have to train your brain into being a mogul and all of this.
00:16:56.080 Like, you be selfish every single day.
00:16:58.180 You're thinking, me, me, me, me, me.
00:16:59.800 So any woman who wants to then weave in with that way of life, you can't just come up here 1.00
00:17:05.320 and expect a man to change who he is and be a different person because he needs you to
00:17:10.120 weave into his life.
00:17:11.160 And a lot of women aren't willing to do that these days. 1.00
00:17:13.260 And also part of the problem is these men are like the alpha males.
00:17:17.420 And I know that's such a ridiculous word to use these days because people have used it
00:17:20.780 and bastardized it.
00:17:21.540 But I feel like these men, like, they're bred to be as successful as possible to provide.
00:17:27.360 And also part of the problem is they all want to, like, fuck every day.
00:17:30.720 And they're not in control of themselves around women in the way that a man who...
00:17:35.440 Well, actually, I wonder a lot of these men who aren't in that situation who are, like,
00:17:39.000 slagging these men off.
00:17:40.120 If they were in that situation, would you have these morals that you claim to have
00:17:43.360 when no one's trying to fuck you? 0.86
00:17:44.840 I don't know.
00:17:45.620 I just think cheating is wrong, man.
00:17:46.860 Just for my moral.
00:17:47.740 Even though I've done it before, I've done it before, there's nothing cool about it.
00:17:50.440 It should not be glamorized.
00:17:51.380 We should not normalize it.
00:17:52.520 We don't know.
00:17:53.100 I'm not saying to glamorize it, but I'm saying the last two million years,
00:17:56.640 the world has been one way.
00:17:57.940 I'm not going to tell the world how to be.
00:17:59.660 And I think a lot of times women go into relationships with, like, delusional expectations.
00:18:03.680 Like, the top 15% of men for the last two million years have always cheated.
00:18:08.440 And now you're coming in and saying, well, he's going to be faithful to me.
00:18:11.500 Okay, good luck.
00:18:12.460 My message to women is conduct yourself in a certain esteem.
00:18:15.320 And if a man is stupid enough into cheating, he's going to lose out.
00:18:18.120 And he will potentially go with a woman who's going to cheat on him. 0.99
00:18:20.680 And I think that sounds really nice, but it's not nice when they can't replace the guy.
00:18:27.520 And that's the sad thing is, like, I'll talk to girls and they'll talk about how their mom
00:18:30.860 or their mom left their dad because he cheated and now she's dying alone.
00:18:34.640 And so it's like, is it really a better option?
00:18:37.460 And that's why they don't talk to you.
00:18:38.420 I'd rather be alone.
00:18:39.380 So you'll be happy staying with someone that's consistently cheating on you than dying alone?
00:18:43.760 That's cat.
00:18:44.660 I'm so sorry.
00:18:45.040 I don't know if you stay with them.
00:18:46.280 I don't know if you stay with guys that cheat.
00:18:48.880 So wait, wait, wait.
00:18:49.320 What does that look like, dying alone?
00:18:51.320 Okay.
00:18:51.720 Most women, you need 2.5 million to retire. 1.00
00:18:54.340 Okay.
00:18:55.140 And there's a lot of evidence to suggest that the UK is going to start rolling back
00:18:58.920 the benefits that mostly women are on. 1.00
00:19:01.020 So what does that look like, dying alone?
00:19:03.100 I don't know.
00:19:03.800 On the streets, being homeless?
00:19:05.500 Could you work it out with your husband or is it better to be homeless?
00:19:07.240 Not every woman that isn't in a relationship is alone.
00:19:10.100 They might have a family.
00:19:11.120 They could have, like, kids.
00:19:13.040 It doesn't necessarily mean they're alone just because they're not with a man.
00:19:15.440 Now you have to mooch off of everyone around you instead of working it out with your husband. 0.93
00:19:19.500 I would rather do that.
00:19:20.200 I mean, I would rather do that.
00:19:22.900 I look at it like this.
00:19:24.680 If you've left your husband, you have to understand and you have to take on board the damage that
00:19:33.100 was caused.
00:19:33.780 Now, if I was married and I've brought forth 10 children for you and I felt that we've
00:19:42.180 built our empire and we've got our tribe and we're good, we're strong, and then I was
00:19:49.400 your world and you was my world and then we had our children, you have to sit down and
00:19:54.580 think, well, why is she alone?
00:19:56.280 Because the damage sometimes is irreversible.
00:19:59.460 Irreversible.
00:19:59.960 It doesn't matter how many times you go and you sit down and you talk to somebody and you're
00:20:05.280 like, well, this is what's happened.
00:20:07.020 Have you tried this?
00:20:08.220 Sometimes that's not enough.
00:20:09.680 Yeah, but who has to suffer in these situations?
00:20:13.260 The kids.
00:20:14.140 No, no, no.
00:20:14.620 And I was going to get there.
00:20:16.060 And, you know, at the same time, the damage can be unreversible.
00:20:20.440 So that's why they tend to be alone.
00:20:22.560 And yes, you're right.
00:20:23.860 It is the children that do end up suffering because, you know, they've grown up thinking,
00:20:29.420 oh, mommy and daddy's in love.
00:20:30.860 And, you know, they're always together.
00:20:32.080 No, no, no, no, no, no, I'm just speaking on this, you know, and then it turns out that
00:20:38.960 that may not be the situation.
00:20:40.540 Now, I know quite a lot of people that, you know, you grow in a household, you hear an
00:20:46.780 argument, parents do it all the time. 0.84
00:20:49.320 They think, oh, the children are in bed, they're sleeping.
00:20:51.180 But actually, no, we're hearing everything.
00:20:53.220 And it does affect the children.
00:20:54.900 I've worked with children and I've seen the damage that it's caused.
00:20:57.820 But the effects of a single mother home are worse. 1.00
00:21:02.700 And every stat will tell you you're more likely to commit suicide, you're more likely
00:21:05.880 to be homeless, they're 80% of the prison population.
00:21:08.840 Like, every real problem in society is literally linked to a single mother home. 1.00
00:21:13.400 And so my thing is, like, I just think once you have a family, it's not about you anymore,
00:21:17.020 it's about your kids.
00:21:18.320 And so it's like this, you know, this idea that we can't work through cheating, I just
00:21:22.120 think is silly.
00:21:22.800 You know, it's all about honesty, I reckon, you know.
00:21:24.900 Honesty is, I think, like, cheating is a lot of people that are not going to be a lot of
00:21:27.800 cheating wouldn't be a thing if it was for the honesty side of things, you know.
00:21:30.940 I mean, depending on what you're looking for.
00:21:32.620 See, like, in 2023 now, yeah, even myself, I've been involved in a throuple, yeah, it's
00:21:39.500 only for a couple of weeks and that.
00:21:42.800 It's a dictionary.
00:21:47.800 Definition, please.
00:21:49.960 I've got a girlfriend.
00:21:51.620 Well, I've got two girlfriends and my girlfriends are girlfriends.
00:21:54.660 Well, not currently, it's not the situation anymore.
00:21:56.500 I've been doing it wrong the whole time.
00:21:57.720 Fuck, mate, man.
00:21:59.120 So that's a throuple, you know what I mean? 1.00
00:22:01.080 That's the throuple.
00:22:01.680 All of the people do it.
00:22:03.300 But it's just a case of honesty, you know what I mean?
00:22:05.840 So I was honest with them, they were honest with me, no one got hurt in the process.
00:22:10.200 How the fuck did you pull that off, seriously?
00:22:12.880 It was a crafty one.
00:22:13.900 It's like 23% of women are actually open to that, where only 6% of men are reversed.
00:22:18.080 Yeah, I think it can happen if you're, like you said, honest and open.
00:22:20.980 I think it can.
00:22:22.120 Well, I mean, how many women, like, do, like, we all know a lot of women who have no idea 1.00
00:22:27.160 they're being cheated on.
00:22:28.080 But like, yeah, like, every guy is going back to his girlfriend being like, yeah, he's cheating.
00:22:32.740 Like, a lot of women out there just have no idea they're being cheated on. 1.00
00:22:36.140 So, like, maybe they would be happier if they were just at least honest about it and the
00:22:39.700 man was like, this is what I'm talking about.
00:22:41.240 What goes around, comes around.
00:22:42.480 I promise you.
00:22:43.480 I've experienced it myself.
00:22:44.420 I wasn't a dog, comes in a lie.
00:22:45.020 You believe me?
00:22:45.480 I promise you.
00:22:46.620 Exactly.
00:22:47.620 I'm disagreeing.
00:22:48.680 I've seen a lot of nice people get fucked over and a lot of assholes get great lives.
00:22:52.100 Yeah, but you haven't read the end of the chapter, you haven't read the end of the book.
00:22:55.720 Have they died?
00:22:57.500 We all die in the end.
00:22:58.720 I know, but so long as there's life, there's an opportunity for karma to be inflicted.
00:23:02.740 I'm telling you, if you are a man who breaks people's hearts and you boast about it and
00:23:05.900 you're proud and you look in the mirror and you feel more of a man, then there's something
00:23:09.240 No, I don't know.
00:23:10.240 That's the bad thing about it.
00:23:11.240 There's something wrong.
00:23:12.240 Put it this way, put it this way, right?
00:23:13.240 Guys, let's ask this question.
00:23:14.240 Get straight to the chase.
00:23:15.240 Your mum gets cheated on.
00:23:16.240 How do you feel?
00:23:17.240 Yeah, you'd feel bad.
00:23:18.240 You'd feel bad.
00:23:19.240 Why would you feel bad about something that's normal?
00:23:21.240 No, it's normal to say, however...
00:23:23.240 Well, we did.
00:23:24.240 We said a majority of people cheat.
00:23:25.900 So it's normal now.
00:23:26.900 No, no.
00:23:27.900 I said throughout history, the top 15% of men have always cheated.
00:23:31.820 Men cheat more than men nowadays.
00:23:32.820 Yeah.
00:23:33.820 Yeah.
00:23:34.820 But still, regardless of the statistics and where they sway, it's a wrong thing to do.
00:23:37.820 It's a wrong thing to do.
00:23:38.820 You know what it is?
00:23:39.820 The side of cheating which is wrong is the emotional damage which provides to the other
00:23:43.820 person.
00:23:44.820 That's what we fail every time around.
00:23:46.820 You know what I mean?
00:23:47.820 So when you're in a relationship with a person that you love, like for instance, I've been
00:23:50.820 in a relationship, a long-term relationship.
00:23:52.820 I cheated on a missus.
00:23:53.820 You know what I mean?
00:23:54.820 And to me personally, it was nothing to do with whether I love her or not.
00:23:58.820 You know what I mean?
00:23:59.820 I just found out in later life that I liked different types of varieties of Pum Pum.
00:24:03.820 That's just how I roll.
00:24:04.820 You know what I mean?
00:24:05.820 So...
00:24:06.820 But at the same said time, that doesn't mean that I didn't love my girlfriend.
00:24:10.820 I definitely agree.
00:24:11.820 You can still love your girl, but it's just the excitement of another female. 1.00
00:24:18.820 It's just the excitement.
00:24:19.820 Then you're not ready to be in a relationship.
00:24:20.820 No, no.
00:24:21.820 But you can still love that female. 0.98
00:24:23.820 You're still going back to that girl.
00:24:24.820 You're still willing to take her up.
00:24:26.820 You're still willing to do everything for her.
00:24:29.820 So basically what you're saying is, as a woman, if you want to get in a relationship,
00:24:33.820 we have to expect the man to cheat on us.
00:24:35.820 I don't think that's cool.
00:24:36.820 No, no, no.
00:24:37.820 That's not what I said.
00:24:38.820 It's a possibility.
00:24:39.820 If you drive the car, you might crash.
00:24:42.820 It's the same thing.
00:24:43.820 You're saying like the top 15 to 20 men cheat, right?
00:24:47.820 So I feel like as women, we do need to take the more responsible role of choosing better men
00:24:52.820 because we have that 80 whole percent of men that don't.
00:24:55.820 What better man means?
00:24:57.820 I've learned that for the last actual couple of months, only recently.
00:25:01.820 And I've learned that.
00:25:02.820 And that's big from watching your shows actually.
00:25:05.820 And it's opened my mind a lot because it's just like we have a whole 80%
00:25:08.820 and we don't want to generalize men because not everyone cheats.
00:25:11.820 Well, and when you think about it, so like women used to select for resources, right? 1.00
00:25:17.820 More, more so than looks because when, because we like, we didn't work.
00:25:21.820 And usually you would live at your dad's house and then you would go to your husband
00:25:24.820 until about the twenties when women started to go to work. 0.97
00:25:26.820 So what happened is when that, when women started being the like selectors of mates, 1.00
00:25:31.820 our first choice is looks in our twenties.
00:25:35.820 And so, but what percent of men do we find attractive?
00:25:37.820 Only 20%.
00:25:38.820 Women find 80% of men is ugly. 0.98
00:25:40.820 So back in the day, the dad would like, like say, oh no, he's going to cheat on you.
00:25:44.820 Stay away from that boy.
00:25:45.820 And then he would like pick the provider guy.
00:25:47.820 Maybe we need to be with an ugly guy. 1.00
00:25:49.820 But then women in their thirties, they'll switch because it's like they need a kid, 1.00
00:25:58.820 time's running out.
00:25:59.820 And so they'll switch from selecting for looks to selecting for more provider first.
00:26:04.820 But it's like if you did that in the beginning.
00:26:06.820 But this is the thing though, these, these men, we're sitting here going, right?
00:26:10.820 The top 20% cheat.
00:26:11.820 Why did they cheat?
00:26:12.820 Because they can't.
00:26:13.820 You mean to tell me the other 80% if they had it on the table, they wouldn't do the men or just men, 0.98
00:26:18.820 you know, like us labeling these 20% as arseholes just because they have the height, the resources. 0.96
00:26:24.820 Could we agree that all men cheat them?
00:26:26.820 No, I, I think there's, there's definitely exceptions to the rule.
00:26:29.820 Like, and like, I think me and my guy over here have a similar story in that, you know,
00:26:34.820 unfortunately, like we have this thing where we're very immature and we mature later on in life as men.
00:26:40.820 I agree.
00:26:41.820 Yeah, we, we go through this period where like, let's be real.
00:26:44.820 How's it done?
00:26:45.820 You want to experience more.
00:26:46.820 We want to try everything on the menu.
00:26:48.820 You know, we don't want to be sitting 50 year old wondering what was, what would that have been like?
00:26:52.820 We want to know.
00:26:53.820 And actually you kind of have to get that out of your system before you go, you know what?
00:26:57.820 This is actually childish.
00:26:58.820 And one woman who looks after you, who's got your back and really cares about you is the real deal. 0.90
00:27:03.820 But you're not going to come to that when you're in your childish state of mind.
00:27:06.820 So yeah, we have to go through that.
00:27:08.820 And unfortunately, some of you girls are victims during that period.
00:27:11.820 And that's, yeah, it's collateral.
00:27:13.820 But I also think like women, like we should know what we're getting ourselves into.
00:27:17.820 Like if you go for the guy that's rich, he's got money.
00:27:19.820 He's tall.
00:27:20.820 Like, you know, it's a, it's a strong possibility.
00:27:22.820 He's going to do that.
00:27:23.820 So what are you going to do if he does?
00:27:24.820 Don't have a kid and then cry cheating later. 1.00
00:27:26.820 If you know, that's going to be a possibility.
00:27:28.820 Facts.
00:27:29.820 Cause girls are going central London, for instance, they're looking for the guy with the Lambo. 0.98
00:27:33.820 They're looking for guys with the Mercedes.
00:27:35.820 They want a guy with this, this, this, these big chains.
00:27:37.820 I've seen it all the time.
00:27:38.820 And then you're wearing a chain.
00:27:39.820 That's what girls, that's what girls, that's what girls are intrigued to. 0.93
00:27:50.820 Girls like that. 1.00
00:27:51.820 We tell women like you can have everything. 0.99
00:27:54.820 He can be tall.
00:27:55.820 He can have money.
00:27:56.820 He can be good looking and he's going to be monogamous to you.
00:28:00.820 Good luck.
00:28:01.820 That's it.
00:28:02.820 But you're still crying over this guy.
00:28:03.820 They'll still go running back to the guy.
00:28:04.820 Question, question though.
00:28:05.820 So girls, you girls, like men are only as faithful as their options, but are women really any different?
00:28:11.820 Like let's, let's, let's say you meet two guys at the same time.
00:28:14.820 One guy's sweet and lovely.
00:28:15.820 And the other guy has all of these things.
00:28:17.820 You're, you are going to also be a bit more drawn like to this guy who's the provider, the, the, the alpha.
00:28:23.820 I mean, I'm not sure about that one.
00:28:24.820 We're more accessible this day and age, I think.
00:28:27.820 I feel like, you know, years ago wasn't so much accessible.
00:28:30.820 Well, judging by Instagram and the way women post anything that is like, like I've sat in restaurants before where a woman has literally had a guy taking pictures of her eating her fucking dinner for 15 fucking minutes. 1.00
00:28:42.820 Wondering why is she taking a picture in this restaurant?
00:28:45.820 Cause she wants everyone to know what restaurant she's in and he's the one paying for it.
00:28:49.820 And he's getting laid base off of that.
00:28:50.820 So let's not add like women don't value this because it's literally all over London every week.
00:28:55.820 But what sort of, when we keep using this term, sorry, it's really irating me.
00:28:58.820 Women, what, what, a real woman doesn't do that. 1.00
00:29:00.820 My mom would never in a million years go to Nobukov and take a picture and be like, Hey, real women probably don't even have social media. 1.00
00:29:05.820 It's what's happening in reality.
00:29:09.820 But no, but no, but no, you can't, we can't speak of women as a general woman. 0.57
00:29:14.820 Okay. Can you, can we make a general consensus that the women in their twenties today are different, are of a different cloth and the women, let's say in their fifties today.
00:29:22.820 Yeah.
00:29:23.820 Yeah.
00:29:24.820 The women in their fifties are more traditional than the women in their twenties. 0.81
00:29:30.820 I have best friends who like, who openly say to me like, Oh yeah, he's got a girlfriend or he's got a wife.
00:29:37.820 And they're happily ready to break a happy home.
00:29:40.820 I don't condone in that.
00:29:41.820 No, I don't condone.
00:29:42.820 No, I think it's wrong.
00:29:43.820 Again, it's all the emotional damage.
00:29:45.820 Yeah.
00:29:46.820 You know what I mean?
00:29:47.820 And I, I put myself in a category of, um, I'm, I'm like an honest fuck boy.
00:29:51.820 Yeah.
00:29:52.820 That's why.
00:29:53.820 Does that make sense?
00:29:54.820 You know what I mean?
00:29:55.820 I'm an honest.
00:29:56.820 At least you're honest.
00:29:57.820 Yeah.
00:29:58.820 When I'm, when I'm honest about my, my, my link ups and whatnot, other women tend to be more attracted to the situation.
00:30:05.820 You know what I mean?
00:30:06.820 They tend to, they tend to be more attracted.
00:30:08.820 First of all, they go away a little bit hurt and whatnot.
00:30:10.820 Like, Oh Dave, you shouldn't have done that.
00:30:12.820 But then they come back after a while and be, you know, they're reasonable.
00:30:15.820 You know, they, okay.
00:30:17.820 You do get a little bit of pum pum over there.
00:30:19.820 That's no problem.
00:30:20.820 You were honest about it.
00:30:21.820 And then, yeah, it just seems more appealing for some reason.
00:30:24.820 I don't know why.
00:30:25.820 If you're addicted to pum pum like that.
00:30:26.820 Yeah.
00:30:27.820 Why not just be out here proling and sleeping with a new girl every other day? 0.99
00:30:30.820 I've done that before.
00:30:31.820 But at least you're not hurting another individual.
00:30:33.820 There's nothing, there is nothing nice.
00:30:34.820 I don't care whether we're talking about the 20th century or the 19th century.
00:30:38.820 There is nothing nice about harming another individual.
00:30:40.820 Can I ask you a question though?
00:30:41.820 That's what it is.
00:30:42.820 Are you meaning to say, right?
00:30:43.820 Cause you know, you, you're on the Instagram and all these girls are after you. 1.00
00:30:46.820 All of them.
00:30:47.820 Yup.
00:30:48.820 Right.
00:30:49.820 All of them.
00:30:50.820 All of them.
00:30:51.820 All of them.
00:30:52.820 All of them.
00:30:53.820 And I'm not 6'4".
00:30:54.820 Okay.
00:30:55.820 I'm 5'8".
00:30:56.820 I'll tell you as it is.
00:30:57.820 Okay.
00:30:58.820 So, you mean to tell me that all of these girls who you are sleeping with, not one of 0.98
00:31:01.820 them had ideas above what you had.
00:31:04.820 Because if I know women and I'd like to think I do. 1.00
00:31:06.820 I'm like my man.
00:31:07.820 I keep it straight.
00:31:08.820 Darling, I'm a single.
00:31:09.820 But they think they can change you mate.
00:31:11.820 They don't, they don't, they're not going to listen.
00:31:13.820 They're going to be like, I'm going to be the exception.
00:31:14.820 Yes.
00:31:15.820 I agree with you bro.
00:31:16.820 But then the onus is on them.
00:31:17.820 I go to sleep with a clean conscious knowing that I've not promised anyone this, this and
00:31:21.820 this.
00:31:22.820 I mean, the idea of a relationship is commitment, right?
00:31:24.820 Okay.
00:31:25.820 I'm confused with you.
00:31:26.820 Go on.
00:31:27.820 Go on.
00:31:28.820 Tell me.
00:31:29.820 Let's go.
00:31:30.820 Let's go.
00:31:31.820 You're cool with me talking about your job, right?
00:31:32.820 Yeah.
00:31:33.820 A hundred percent.
00:31:34.820 Okay.
00:31:35.820 So how are you, like, how are you faithful if you're on OnlyFans?
00:31:38.820 Precisely why I said I haven't been in a relationship for as long as I've done OnlyFans.
00:31:41.820 Oh, I thought you said you've been in it for five years.
00:31:43.820 Oh, I misunderstood.
00:31:44.820 I thought you were saying you're still in the.
00:31:46.820 I guess what?
00:31:47.820 I have had many propositions from female content creators, beautiful, stunning head to toe. 1.00
00:31:52.820 And I've said no, because I know I'm not capable of, you know, seeing my missus having sex, 0.87
00:31:57.820 whatever, sexual intercourse with some other guys.
00:32:00.820 So I know.
00:32:01.820 So I'm not in the business of harming people.
00:32:03.820 And I know that some girls have said to me, it's fine.
00:32:06.820 I don't mind seeing you of other girls. 0.95
00:32:08.820 Wait.
00:32:09.820 So you're 32 now.
00:32:10.820 Yeah.
00:32:11.820 And you've been on OnlyFans for two years.
00:32:12.820 Yeah.
00:32:13.820 Did you see your relationship before that?
00:32:14.820 Prior to it.
00:32:15.820 Prior to it.
00:32:16.820 Yeah.
00:32:17.820 So the day I created OnlyFans, she left me.
00:32:18.820 No, but bro, how?
00:32:19.820 I'm just confused.
00:32:20.820 I thought you said you cheated before.
00:32:21.820 I have.
00:32:22.820 When I was younger.
00:32:23.820 16, 17, 18.
00:32:24.820 Every single day.
00:32:25.820 Every day.
00:32:26.820 I stopped.
00:32:27.820 I realized that there's nothing.
00:32:28.820 So it's just a little bit like you're confusing me because in the end, you did cheat on her
00:32:33.820 in a way because you started the OnlyFans.
00:32:35.820 I'll break it down.
00:32:36.820 I'll break it down.
00:32:37.820 Right.
00:32:38.820 When I was young and naive and I was ignorant, I cheated because I thought it was cool.
00:32:41.820 I thought it was a good thing to do.
00:32:43.820 Right.
00:32:44.820 Then I lost my job.
00:32:46.820 OnlyFans presented itself.
00:32:47.820 I had a conversation with my fiancee at the time and I said, this is what I'm going to
00:32:50.820 do.
00:32:51.820 Whether you support me, you either support me and we stay and I'll do solo stuff or you walk
00:32:55.820 away and that's fine.
00:32:56.820 I respect it.
00:32:57.820 And I will do collaborations.
00:32:58.820 She decided to walk away. 0.99
00:32:59.820 I did it.
00:33:00.820 It changed my life.
00:33:01.820 I retired my mom.
00:33:02.820 I have zero regrets, but I will never know about how many people and how normal it is.
00:33:05.820 Glamorize cheating.
00:33:06.820 It's disgusting.
00:33:07.820 I've seen it firsthand what it does to my family.
00:33:09.820 This girl agreed to marry you.
00:33:10.820 That's a big deal.
00:33:11.820 The girl agreeing to marry you and you turn around and go, hey, by the way, I'm going
00:33:14.820 to fuck girls on OnlyFans. 0.94
00:33:15.820 No, no, you're wrong.
00:33:16.820 That's not what you said.
00:33:17.820 No, no.
00:33:18.820 That's not what you said.
00:33:19.820 Let's be very clear about my English.
00:33:21.820 No, but.
00:33:22.820 I said I was going to do OnlyFans.
00:33:23.820 OnlyFans does not constitute having sex with other people.
00:33:26.820 Yeah.
00:33:27.820 It could be solo stuff.
00:33:28.820 Okay.
00:33:29.820 Like I put on my Instagram.
00:33:30.820 It could be feed stuff.
00:33:31.820 So let's not go down there.
00:33:32.820 Right, but it's still like something she didn't agree to in the beginning.
00:33:35.820 Great.
00:33:36.820 Which I'm not.
00:33:37.820 Has she left?
00:33:38.820 No, I know.
00:33:39.820 But my point is it's a little bit like hypocritical of you to go around saying, oh, I don't cheat.
00:33:42.820 Like that's a horrible thing to do when it's like you kind of did the same thing there.
00:33:46.820 No, no, no.
00:33:47.820 Wait, wait, wait.
00:33:48.820 You've misconstrued.
00:33:49.820 No, no, no.
00:33:50.820 Reverse.
00:33:51.820 Reverse.
00:33:52.820 You've misconstrued with what he's saying.
00:33:53.820 I know what you're saying.
00:33:54.820 Can I say it again?
00:33:55.820 I know what you're saying.
00:33:56.820 Let's reverse this.
00:33:57.820 Let's reverse this.
00:33:58.820 No, no, no.
00:33:59.820 Let's reverse this.
00:34:00.820 Let's go on Instagram.
00:34:01.820 Yeah.
00:34:02.820 Right?
00:34:03.820 Are you a cheater if you've got an Instagram profile?
00:34:04.820 I think girls are in a relationship. 1.00
00:34:05.820 Yeah.
00:34:06.820 People aren't paying for Instagram to have a wank over you.
00:34:07.820 No.
00:34:08.820 I really, I don't think.
00:34:09.820 I know they get it for free.
00:34:10.820 They get it for free.
00:34:11.820 No, but I mean, if I'm in a relationship with a girl and she's like, I'm going on OnlyFans.
00:34:16.820 I know what people are going to pay for.
00:34:18.820 So I'm going to.
00:34:19.820 And if I've proposed to her and we're going to get married, I don't care if you're working 0.99
00:34:22.820 with other people.
00:34:23.820 People are going to be wanking off to you.
00:34:24.820 That's going to bother me.
00:34:25.820 Oh, Instagram.
00:34:26.820 Yeah.
00:34:27.820 But we had a conversation.
00:34:28.820 If I did it behind her back on a low key.
00:34:30.820 Yeah.
00:34:31.820 And I was like, right, I'm going to change my alias.
00:34:32.820 They're going to use a different social media account.
00:34:33.820 So she doesn't find out.
00:34:34.820 Then I'm a cheater.
00:34:35.820 I'm a real man because I sat her down and I said, babe, this is what I want to do.
00:34:38.820 And this is how I want to incorporate you into my future, my five year plan.
00:34:41.820 And had she stayed, she would have benefited from the millions that I made.
00:34:44.820 100%.
00:34:45.820 Facts.
00:34:46.820 At least she was honest with her.
00:34:47.820 Honesty.
00:34:48.820 There is nothing glamorous about cheating.
00:34:49.820 I do respect that.
00:34:50.820 Facts.
00:34:51.820 I'm telling you.
00:34:52.820 I do respect that.
00:34:53.820 And this is from an ex serial cheater.
00:34:54.820 My exes will tell you in the comment section.
00:34:56.820 It's not nice.
00:34:57.820 It's not nice.
00:34:58.820 It's not nice.
00:34:59.820 I rate the fact that you're honest though.
00:35:01.820 I rate that.
00:35:02.820 You have to be.
00:35:03.820 Do you know what?
00:35:04.820 I think sorry.
00:35:05.820 I'm taking the mic here.
00:35:06.820 If I hadn't seen my sister break down, I thought I was going to lose her.
00:35:09.820 Like she was suicidal.
00:35:11.820 God works in mysterious ways.
00:35:12.820 That's why I said karma is a bitch.
00:35:14.820 When I saw that in my own two eyes, I said, I'll never do this to another girl.
00:35:17.820 Right.
00:35:18.820 Never.
00:35:19.820 So if I want to keep sleeping with Tom.
00:35:20.820 No, Tom.
00:35:21.820 Jesus.
00:35:22.820 It's all coming out.
00:35:23.820 It's all coming out.
00:35:24.820 It's all coming out.
00:35:25.820 It's all coming out.
00:35:26.820 It's all coming out.
00:35:27.820 It's all coming out.
00:35:29.820 Then I would do that.
00:35:31.820 But the day I commit to a girl, that's it.
00:35:33.820 I'm staying.
00:35:34.820 And the day I don't want to, I have an open conversation, babe.
00:35:36.820 You're not for me anymore.
00:35:37.820 And I go and shit.
00:35:38.820 Do you ever think a girl is going to take you serious with you doing the content that 1.00
00:35:41.820 you do?
00:35:42.820 Guess what?
00:35:43.820 I don't care.
00:35:44.820 I don't care.
00:35:45.820 My mum is retired.
00:35:46.820 And I've got a lot of money on my bank account.
00:35:47.820 Women are out of it to me. 1.00
00:35:48.820 But it's all about that.
00:35:49.820 Obviously, it's a situation where obviously we come to a stage in life where we all want
00:35:52.820 to settle down and just have that perfect female. 0.98
00:35:54.820 Do we?
00:35:55.820 Well, a lot of people.
00:35:56.820 Do you want to be 60 and be alone?
00:35:57.820 Would I be alone?
00:35:58.820 I have two wonderful nieces that I provide for and I pay for private school for.
00:36:01.820 I have my sister who loves me.
00:36:03.820 No, no.
00:36:04.820 I understand that.
00:36:05.820 Unconditional.
00:36:06.820 Obviously, some people want like a... 0.88
00:36:07.820 Not me.
00:36:08.820 Have you come to terms with the fact that your career may land you alone later on in life?
00:36:14.820 It can tarnish...
00:36:15.820 It's just a general question, brother.
00:36:18.820 I know, 100%.
00:36:19.820 I enjoy cuddles.
00:36:20.820 Okay, okay.
00:36:21.820 I'll tell you, right?
00:36:22.820 The two years that I deprived myself from any social interaction were the two years I was
00:36:26.820 able to retire my mum and make more money in 24 months than I made in 30 years socializing
00:36:31.820 with women.
00:36:32.820 My priorities as a human being here is to provide for my family.
00:36:35.820 That's it.
00:36:36.820 You're not answering the question.
00:36:37.820 If God should afford being a luxury of having a woman in future, then great. 1.00
00:36:40.820 Politician.
00:36:41.820 But if I don't have it, who cares?
00:36:42.820 Who cares?
00:36:43.820 No, but I say, are you...
00:36:44.820 But...
00:36:45.820 In later on in life...
00:36:46.820 Do I look like I'm going to struggle for a woman?
00:36:47.820 Be honest.
00:36:48.820 No, no, no, no.
00:36:49.820 If they're going to be serious, I used to be that guy.
00:36:52.820 Obviously, not bringing no depression to the show, but my mum recently passed.
00:36:55.820 But what I've done is make sure I sorted a house for her. 0.98
00:36:59.820 Make sure I've done all this stuff for her.
00:37:00.820 But obviously, the affection that she can give me is not always the affection that I have.
00:37:04.820 A female, a genuine female can give you. 0.99
00:37:06.820 Good point, yeah.
00:37:07.820 Do you understand?
00:37:08.820 But the right woman will come along and she will forgive me.
00:37:09.820 At the right time, yeah.
00:37:10.820 Exactly.
00:37:11.820 So you can have your nieces and all this stuff and be like...
00:37:13.820 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:37:14.820 But with an actual genuine female, you want to actually feel that affection. 0.98
00:37:16.820 I've never struggled.
00:37:17.820 No, it's not that you're going to struggle, but obviously, you're a decent looking guy,
00:37:20.820 bro.
00:37:21.820 Do you know what I mean?
00:37:22.820 So it's a thing where girls are going to attract to you. 1.00
00:37:26.820 But when they see things online...
00:37:28.820 Yeah, and if they're ignorant enough to base me on my past and how I made my money,
00:37:35.820 then that's a reflection of your ignorance and you don't deserve to be in my presence.
00:37:38.820 Are you saying you would stop it for the right girl? 0.94
00:37:40.820 A hundred billion percent.
00:37:41.820 Well, then I think...
00:37:42.820 A hundred billion.
00:37:43.820 Yeah, I think that's valid then, bro.
00:37:44.820 Yeah, a hundred percent.
00:37:45.820 That doesn't really...
00:37:46.820 So you think it's a reflection of them if they judge you for being an OnlyFans?
00:37:49.820 Yes.
00:37:50.820 Nah.
00:37:51.820 Wait, wait.
00:37:52.820 No, no, no.
00:37:53.820 I wouldn't say the reflection.
00:37:54.820 That's literally what he said.
00:37:55.820 Because to me, it's like your morals and your values and what you put out into the world.
00:37:59.820 You know what I mean?
00:38:00.820 To me, it's not a positive thing.
00:38:02.820 Cool.
00:38:03.820 That's to you, right?
00:38:04.820 Okay.
00:38:05.820 Can we all agree on the fact that if you were born in a single parent family and your mom
00:38:08.820 was raised in a council estate and you used to work in Tesco and you retired her?
00:38:11.820 Is that an admirable thing?
00:38:12.820 Forget how you got the money.
00:38:13.820 Is that an admirable thing?
00:38:14.820 Yes or no?
00:38:15.820 Two stories.
00:38:16.820 Listen, I graduated from King's College University with a 2-1, right?
00:38:21.820 It's a Russell Group University.
00:38:22.820 To get there, you need straight A's, right?
00:38:24.820 I'm academically savvy.
00:38:26.820 I'm a good brother.
00:38:27.820 I'm an awesome son.
00:38:29.820 I'm a great uncle.
00:38:30.820 I'm a wonderful multifaceted human being.
00:38:33.820 If someone is ignorant enough to judge me in all my existence based on something as insignificant
00:38:39.820 as how I make my money, then that's a reflection of you living in the dinosaur era and not me.
00:38:43.820 No, because it shows that you can be bought.
00:38:45.820 And that's the thing.
00:38:46.820 It's like when you have morals, principles and values, like there's some things you can't be paid to do.
00:38:50.820 And it's no offense.
00:38:51.820 I'm not trying to be rude.
00:38:52.820 No, 100%.
00:38:53.820 100%.
00:38:54.820 But I don't think you can say.
00:38:55.820 But you can't pay me to have sex.
00:38:56.820 Wait, wait, wait.
00:38:57.820 So I'm saying like, I don't think you can say, oh, I can make any decision I want.
00:38:59.820 And anyone that judges me, it's on them.
00:39:02.820 It is.
00:39:03.820 Like that doesn't make sense to me.
00:39:04.820 No, trust me.
00:39:05.820 See, like it doesn't matter how good you are as a person, bruv.
00:39:07.820 If your missus knows you're out there clapping cheeks.
00:39:09.820 For 3.49, bruv.
00:39:10.820 Do 9 to 5.
00:39:11.820 Come on, bruv.
00:39:12.820 It's true.
00:39:13.820 You're not playing, bruv.
00:39:14.820 Come on.
00:39:15.820 No, no.
00:39:16.820 But I'm just saying, bruv.
00:39:17.820 Most women can't handle that. 1.00
00:39:18.820 There's multiple women that can't handle that. 1.00
00:39:20.820 That's not a reflection of another female of because of what you're doing. 0.77
00:39:23.820 Because, you know, I know many people that were in your same situation and they went on,
00:39:27.820 but they just didn't take, like to me, that's kind of a cheat code.
00:39:30.820 It's like a shortcut.
00:39:31.820 Like, you know, my dad, he was on the south side of Chicago.
00:39:34.820 He was one of 13 kids on a fireman's salary.
00:39:36.820 It wasn't like he grew up rich and he ended up employing 200 people in like a company, you know?
00:39:41.820 And so it's like some people are in your exact situation.
00:39:44.820 They don't take the easy way out.
00:39:46.820 My only problem with that is the phrase the easy way.
00:39:48.820 And trust me, every content creator is going to come to my defensive.
00:39:51.820 I used to be, and you can Google check me, an English teacher, fully qualified.
00:39:55.820 Went to university, GTP, the whole lot.
00:39:57.820 Then I was a managing director in the city.
00:39:59.820 So I can tell you I've done the social norms.
00:40:02.820 And running a successful OnlyFans account is 10, listen to me, 10 times harder than being a fully qualified English teacher.
00:40:13.820 That's not what you're saying.
00:40:14.820 No, no, no.
00:40:15.820 That's not what you're saying.
00:40:16.820 So when I hear phrases like you took the easy way out, it's not an easy way out.
00:40:20.820 Okay, but it's easier than, okay, so it's easier than, selling sex is easier than not selling sex.
00:40:27.820 Sex is the easiest sell. 0.97
00:40:29.820 If I wanted to make more money, I could take off my clothes tomorrow and I would make more money.
00:40:35.820 And I know it's harder for a guy.
00:40:37.820 So it's not necessarily the same guy versus girl, but I'm assuming you have women in your content, right?
00:40:41.820 Okay.
00:40:42.820 Sex sells.
00:40:43.820 So question, do you think everyone could jump on OnlyFans and make millions?
00:40:46.820 If it's that easy, if it's the easy way.
00:40:48.820 No, no, I'm not saying that every single person can make a ton of money.
00:40:51.820 I'm saying it's easier than not doing it.
00:40:53.820 Because if there was an easier for way, if there was an easier way for you to make millions, you would have did it.
00:40:59.820 But when you say easy, don't you think it's difficult having to deal with like people's perceptions of you, family judgment, social judgment, isn't that difficult?
00:41:06.820 I mean, I think that's the trade-off for easy money.
00:41:08.820 But it's not easy if it comes with all those complications, is it?
00:41:11.820 It's like selling drugs easy.
00:41:13.820 I'm saying it's easier than the other option because otherwise you wouldn't have did it.
00:41:17.820 No problem.
00:41:18.820 We can agree to disagree on this point.
00:41:19.820 We don't have to be in union and everything we say.
00:41:21.820 You have your point.
00:41:22.820 I have mine.
00:41:23.820 I disagree on that front.
00:41:24.820 That's it.
00:41:25.820 Simple.
00:41:26.820 Who else has been cheated on?
00:41:29.820 Wait, what we disagree on?
00:41:32.820 We've got stories for them.
00:41:34.820 I don't even know anything.
00:41:35.820 No, actually, I thought we agreed to be honest.
00:41:37.820 Yeah.
00:41:38.820 Who else has been cheated on?
00:41:39.820 I have.
00:41:40.820 I have.
00:41:41.820 I got cheated on when I was little, man.
00:41:43.820 For me personally, when it first happened, can you hear me?
00:41:51.820 Oh, okay.
00:41:52.820 Um, when it first happened, um, I was in my teens.
00:41:57.820 Um, it kind of hurt, but then I kind of got over it and now I didn't get under another
00:42:04.820 man before people come for me and be like, yeah, get under another man.
00:42:07.820 No, it did hurt.
00:42:09.820 I kind of just stayed off the market for a bit, um, kind of healed from what I went through
00:42:15.820 because when you're talking about cheating, cheating is in different ways and different
00:42:21.820 forms.
00:42:22.820 And like I said, when you're in a relationship with somebody and that person is selling you
00:42:29.820 a dream.
00:42:30.820 And they're telling you, oh, you're this, you're that and dah, dah, dah, dah, dah, dah.
00:42:35.820 But then it turns out, no, really, I wasn't what you wanted.
00:42:38.820 I wasn't what you claimed that I was.
00:42:42.820 Just go.
00:42:43.820 Just, it's better you tell me, look, babe, I love you.
00:42:46.820 Yeah.
00:42:47.820 But I'm going to have to love you from a distance.
00:42:48.820 Cool.
00:42:49.820 I'm, I'm, I'm fine with that.
00:42:51.820 Do you.
00:42:52.820 But when you go out of your way to specifically hurt that individual, knowing full well that
00:42:58.820 I'm not doing that to you.
00:43:00.820 Like I'm not getting numbers on the, on, on, on the slide.
00:43:03.820 You, you know, my phone's open, go through my phone.
00:43:06.820 I have nothing to hide because I'm not doing anything inappropriate.
00:43:09.820 And the fact that most people that I've actually sat down and asked, I'm like, well, why would
00:43:14.820 you like, what, why cheat?
00:43:16.820 Well, it's because.
00:43:18.820 But you understand that men and women are different.
00:43:20.820 No, no, I get that.
00:43:21.820 No, no, no.
00:43:22.820 I totally get that.
00:43:23.820 I know.
00:43:24.820 I understand.
00:43:25.820 Well, two different entities.
00:43:26.820 Because right now you're saying like, why would you do that?
00:43:27.820 You're trying to hurt me.
00:43:28.820 But they're not trying to hurt you.
00:43:29.820 No.
00:43:30.820 Well.
00:43:31.820 It's just how they're wired.
00:43:32.820 No, I don't think it's how they're wired.
00:43:33.820 No, no, no.
00:43:34.820 Essentially they.
00:43:35.820 Hold on.
00:43:36.820 Hold on.
00:43:37.820 I disagree.
00:43:38.820 The majority of the guys here are going to tell you it's how they're, like if you ask
00:43:40.820 the majority of that.
00:43:41.820 No, no.
00:43:42.820 I understand that.
00:43:43.820 But when you actually sit down and have a conversation with somebody that knows themselves,
00:43:49.820 knows what they're about, mentally strong.
00:43:53.820 They've come out of their little boy moments because a lot of men still have it.
00:43:58.820 Whether you're 50, 40, 30, I've seen it.
00:44:01.820 I've got stories for days.
00:44:04.820 But like I said, if that's what you want to do, do that.
00:44:08.820 But why get into a relationship?
00:44:09.820 And this is where I don't agree with it, whether it's a male or a female.
00:44:13.820 Yeah.
00:44:14.820 If you know you cannot be loyal to one individual.
00:44:17.820 Don't be in a relationship.
00:44:18.820 Do not be in a relationship.
00:44:20.820 You can be single and you could be free to mingle all day long.
00:44:24.820 Living life.
00:44:25.820 Nobody can't come and say nothing to you.
00:44:27.820 Because you're not her.
00:44:28.820 So what if you want that woman though? 0.77
00:44:29.820 What if you want that woman? 0.99
00:44:30.820 That's the woman you want. 1.00
00:44:31.820 Yeah.
00:44:32.820 But you still just like to have the variety of spices.
00:44:34.820 Honestly, honestly, I think women, we need to get off our high horse. 1.00
00:44:39.820 We're supposed to be virgins on our wedding day.
00:44:41.820 What percent of women are virgins on our wedding day? 1.00
00:44:44.820 No, because I'm serious.
00:44:45.820 You're supposed to bring purity and youth to a marriage, right?
00:44:49.820 That's the exchange.
00:44:50.820 They're supposed to give you resources and monogamy because they're not doing their mating strategy, 1.00
00:44:55.820 basically, which is screw as many people as possible.
00:44:58.820 We could keep, you know, being like part of the harem, right?
00:45:00.820 Like with a high value guy, but we say, no, we're not going to do that.
00:45:03.820 We're going to give you purity and youth.
00:45:04.820 We're not holding up our end of the bargain today.
00:45:06.820 I want to give the other side of it.
00:45:08.820 Is that okay?
00:45:09.820 No, go for it.
00:45:10.820 Because I'm not proud of this, but like, you know, I want to be honest here.
00:45:16.820 And like, you know, my man's given me a bit of honesty.
00:45:18.820 I love this guy.
00:45:23.820 In my previous experience when I was at my worst in terms of like using women and stuff like 1.00
00:45:31.820 that, when, you know, I was, I was in my high value man and I'll do what I want phase as they say.
00:45:37.820 Basically, if a girl I'd asked to come and meet me that night said she was busy.
00:45:42.820 I'll be like, cool.
00:45:43.820 One of the other 10 will say yes then.
00:45:45.820 And like, that was none of her knowledge or whatever at the time, but she just wasn't there.
00:45:50.820 And my selfishness and my childishness was just like, cool.
00:45:54.820 I'll just go through the list.
00:45:55.820 The first one to say, yes, it's your lucky day.
00:45:57.820 Let's, let's go.
00:45:58.820 And, and in my head, I'm like, if you're not dedicated enough to me to be here, then you can't have any complaints.
00:46:05.820 That's the way I was feeling at the time.
00:46:06.820 And I think a lot of men go through that when you're not living together and heavy serious, but it's, it's dating.
00:46:12.820 And I was just like, okay, the first one to say yes, that's it then.
00:46:16.820 Preview of the next episode.
00:46:17.820 Pell, would you stay in a, would you stay in a married relationship with your husband happily being cheated on? 0.83
00:46:23.820 Would I be happily cheated on?
00:46:25.820 People always ask me this.
00:46:27.820 Um, no, I would not be happily cheated on, but I think again, that the kids are more important than you.
00:46:32.820 Once you have kids, it's not about you.
00:46:34.820 You would accept it.
00:46:35.820 Yeah. If I, if I have kids, you know, and I, and you try to work.
00:46:38.820 But how, like how many times is like the limit for them to like go?
00:46:41.820 If you have kids, I'm going to try to work it out.
00:46:44.820 Like, because I just genuinely think that if you put your feelings above the kid, like, I just think you're selfish.
00:46:49.820 I'm going to talk on my own.
00:46:50.820 I think it's not about you.
00:46:51.820 I like this guy, but you are talking the opposite of what your actual life is.
00:46:55.820 Steve Harvey.
00:46:56.820 Steve Harvey.
00:46:57.820 Yeah.
00:46:58.820 Okay. No, no, no, no. He's got a point. 100%.
00:46:59.820 But watch this.
00:47:00.820 When you interview porn stars, I'm like, I never cheat.
00:47:02.820 I'm like, you're fucking cheating every day. You don't have to do this trick.
00:47:04.820 I'm getting paid.
00:47:05.820 Watch, watch. He's going to apologize. I promise you. Watch this.
00:47:07.820 Not if they're single.
00:47:08.820 Two year career stint in this illustrious industry.
00:47:11.820 I've done four.
00:47:13.820 Count with me.
00:47:14.820 One, two, three, four collaborations.
00:47:17.820 I'll go on my Instagram right now and you can verify this, yeah?
00:47:20.820 I guarantee I have four girls asking me to do scenes next week. 1.00
00:47:23.820 I'm super selective.
00:47:24.820 I've done four girls in two years.
00:47:27.820 Four girls in two years.
00:47:28.820 But you're not living the lifestyle like you're preaching.
00:47:29.820 End of story.
00:47:30.820 I am, I am.
00:47:31.820 End of story.
00:47:32.820 So you've only had sex with four girls in two years?
00:47:34.820 On camera, on camera.
00:47:35.820 Okay, okay. So there's been more other than that.
00:47:36.820 Of course.
00:47:37.820 But he's not living that lifestyle.
00:47:38.820 But I'm not in a relationship.
00:47:39.820 If it was that great, you'd be living it.
00:47:40.820 But I'm not in a relationship.
00:47:41.820 No, but...
00:47:42.820 Remember, we're just talking about cheating.
00:47:43.820 We're not talking about anything else.
00:47:44.820 But I actually disagreed with something else that you said.
00:47:46.820 You said that.
00:47:47.820 I thought we were friends.
00:47:48.820 No.
00:47:49.820 No.
00:47:50.820 No.