JustPearlyThings - The Men Got TRIGGERED As She Said THIS

00:00:00.000 Yeah, I also think a man doesn't value a woman enough.

00:00:03.300 Huh?

00:00:05.580 Did you not hear what I said?

00:00:06.760 What did you say?

00:00:08.060 I said, I don't think a man values a woman enough.

00:00:11.660 Why is that?

00:00:12.360 Why do you think that?

00:00:14.380 It's just in general.

00:00:15.600 It's just the society we live in now.

00:00:17.240 Yeah, like, it's just like a normal thing.

00:00:19.160 Okay, do you think a man will rather value?

00:00:21.040 Let me be real.

00:00:22.000 Do you think a man would rather value a girl that's a virgin or a girl that's a hood? 0.94

00:00:25.120 Oh, don't go back to that again.

00:00:26.400 I'm just saying.

00:00:26.960 I'm just saying.

00:00:27.400 I'm just saying.

00:00:27.980 But as a person, I carry the kids, et cetera, et cetera.

00:00:31.240 No, men don't value women because women don't bring anything to the table anymore. 1.00

00:00:34.260 We don't.

00:00:35.280 We bring kids.

00:00:36.160 We're fat.

00:00:37.000 Yeah, but, okay, a dog carries kids.

00:00:39.000 Like, why do we act like this is so special and crazy?

00:00:42.420 Because we go through the process.

00:00:43.580 Well, yeah, but women don't go through the process because half of us aren't going to have kids. 1.00

00:00:48.540 And even if we, you know what's special?

00:00:49.980 My grandma, on both sides, one carried nine kids and one carried 13. 1.00

00:00:55.080 Modern women won't even carry three. 1.00

00:00:57.980 And they wait too long.

00:01:00.240 So, you know, the average age of first marriage is 31. 0.97

00:01:02.700 How many kids can you carry at 31?

00:01:05.740 So why would they value that?

00:01:07.660 Well, we don't bring anything nowadays.

00:01:10.800 What percent of women are cooking on a regular basis? 1.00

00:01:13.320 What percent of women? 1.00

00:01:14.200 Why can't the men do that? 0.95

00:01:15.200 Because men and women are different. 0.98

00:01:17.920 And most men out-earn women.

00:01:19.680 So if we're going to talk about, like, a guy that's a provider, like, most men, only 4% of relationships, the woman out-earns the man. 0.85

00:01:25.620 So most men still out-earn us.

00:01:27.420 But we don't bring anything.

00:01:29.200 We're not virgins anymore.

00:01:31.760 Or what percent of women are virgins on our wedding day? 1.00

00:01:33.820 And you can't just be a hoe. 1.00

00:01:36.740 Like, let's say a girl's a hoe, yeah? 1.00

00:01:38.100 And then expect the man.

00:01:39.420 Like, disrespect the man saying, why can't you do it?

00:01:41.520 Or why is it not the same with us?

00:01:43.440 Just shush. 0.81

00:01:44.260 You know what I'm saying?

00:01:44.800 And the other thing is, like, if women feel like men don't value them, it's probably because they don't bring anything to be valued. 0.71

00:01:51.760 It's like, okay, if a man is rejected by every single girl, right, if he goes up to 100 women and he's rejected by all of them, wouldn't you think, well, there's probably something wrong with a dude?

00:02:02.720 That's a lot of women to reject him. 1.00

00:02:04.420 But if a woman sleeps with guy after guy after guy and all of them cheat on her and none of them want to be in a relationship with her and none of them are committed to her and none of them value her, maybe something's wrong with her.

00:02:13.140 Maybe there's something she doesn't bring, but it's like it never – women, we're so narcissistic that we never think maybe it's us. 0.97

00:02:19.540 It's always them.

00:02:20.720 It's like the men don't value us, but maybe you don't bring anything to value.

00:02:23.600 You know, we had a woman come here and she taught an episode of Wife School. 1.00

00:02:27.820 And I'm telling you, like, she was a bit bigger, right, but she was so feminine, so kind, so caring.

00:02:34.080 There was not a man in the room that didn't respect her and value her.

00:02:37.320 And that just would never happen to her because she brought something to the table.

00:02:41.020 But it's like as women, we keep bringing nothing to the table and then wondering why guys don't respect us.

00:02:47.680 Yeah, I do hear what you're saying, but I think as well – you know, like, toxic relationships?

00:02:53.220 The whole toxic situation is so heightened on the internet.

00:02:56.500 Oh, everyone's toxic.

00:02:57.320 And I think because of social media, it's brought this negative atmosphere around relationships in a sense.

00:03:06.800 Because if you didn't have social media, you wouldn't be able to see what other people are doing and how they are in relationships.

00:03:12.240 Who's on social media more, men or women?

00:03:15.240 Oh, I don't know, you know.

00:03:16.760 It's women. 1.00

00:03:17.340 It's women. 1.00

00:03:18.980 So if you say, like, society, social media influences, it's influencing the women. 1.00

00:03:23.240 Then we what?

00:03:23.760 We go into relationships and expect what?

00:03:25.720 Toxicity.

00:03:27.060 I mean, I personally don't.

00:03:28.320 I don't want a toxic relationship.

00:03:30.460 You might be an exception, but we're talking about the rule.

00:03:33.000 Like, we're talking about common problems.

00:03:35.080 And like we even said, you know, like, women want the roller coaster. 1.00

00:03:38.180 We want the ups and downs in relationships.

00:03:39.980 And then, you know, again, we ask, why do the men not value us?

00:03:44.460 Do you guys think the phrase is true?

00:03:45.580 Men will do anything for sex? 0.99

00:03:48.020 To an extent, yeah.

00:03:49.160 Yes.

00:03:49.620 Yeah.

00:03:50.180 So if we treat, if they treat us a certain way, isn't that our own fault?

00:03:54.440 Because they'll do anything for sex. 1.00

00:03:55.940 So if we're sleeping with the ones that act bad, then that's our own fault if they treat us like that.

00:04:00.520 But they'll act good before you sleep with them and then they'll start acting bad.

00:04:03.620 That's what normally happens.

00:04:04.720 You've already kind of gained a little bit of attachment.

00:04:06.520 You know, I disagree with this because I've had friends in toxic relationships.

00:04:10.240 And all of the friends will tell them, yeah, that's a toxic man.

00:04:13.860 And the parents will tell them, you know, not a good one.

00:04:18.120 Like, let's just call a spade a spade.

00:04:19.940 If you ask your dad about him, he probably wouldn't like him.

00:04:23.020 Or your brothers or, like, men you respect in your life.

00:04:25.940 Like, I think it's just a cop-out that women say, oh, he's changed all the time.

00:04:29.200 And if that's true, then why don't you wait longer before sleeping with men if they change? 1.00

00:04:36.580 If we waited to be married to have sex with someone, then we'd all be married. 0.53

00:04:41.720 Yeah, true.

00:04:42.620 So it's kind of like if the men are acting.

00:04:44.520 And people always say, I get on the women, but it's like, what comes first nowadays, sex or relationships in general?

00:04:50.120 Sex.

00:04:51.480 Right?

00:04:52.060 You agree?

00:04:52.520 Sex.

00:04:53.140 Who's in control of sex? 1.00

00:04:54.420 The woman.

00:04:55.080 So who's in control of relationships?

00:04:58.020 The woman.

00:04:58.540 How is a woman in control of sex? 1.00

00:05:01.480 Because men are always trying to get, like, men control access to relationships.

00:05:05.600 Women control access to sex. 1.00

00:05:06.900 But sex comes before relationships.

00:05:09.660 Right.

00:05:10.120 It's because we always give consent, don't we?

00:05:11.920 Yeah, like, women has the last say on if the sex happens or not. 1.00

00:05:15.800 Yeah.

00:05:16.360 Like, men are always, they're going to screw anything.

00:05:18.160 You know what I mean?

00:05:18.560 Like, you come naked in front of, like, come on.

00:05:20.580 It's just an actual thing, isn't it?

00:05:22.760 You think guys are that picky with who they sleep with?

00:05:24.940 Women are, right? 1.00

00:05:25.620 So we're in control of sex.

00:05:26.720 So it's like, if relationships are in the shitter, whose fault is that?

00:05:31.040 Yeah.

00:05:31.820 It is true.

00:05:32.680 Well, we're the ones that pick, right?

00:05:36.640 Savage.

00:05:38.140 I agree with what you're saying 100%, but I just think it's difficult.

00:05:41.640 Because guys don't give you the whole experience of themselves.

00:05:45.800 They give you a perception or they show you what...

00:05:47.700 A little teaser.

00:05:48.380 Yeah, they'll give you a percentage.

00:05:49.820 They show you what they want to show you.

00:05:51.440 So then wait to sleep with them.

00:05:53.580 But then if...

00:05:54.420 I mean, I don't sleep with someone right away anyway.

00:05:57.680 But if I've gained a level of comfortability with you because of what you've shown me and

00:06:03.140 who you are as a person, and then I sleep with you and then after you change, then you

00:06:08.800 clearly would just doing that for the sex. 0.98

00:06:10.660 Right, but it's probably because you didn't offer anything other than sex.

00:06:14.160 Guys don't get bored with women that offer things other than sex. 0.83

00:06:17.860 True.

00:06:18.140 The majority of them do get bored with women.

00:06:20.000 I don't even care about sex, bro.

00:06:22.040 Don't lie.

00:06:22.960 You're fucking cappy.

00:06:24.180 They actually don't.

00:06:24.920 They actually don't.

00:06:25.320 Mate, it's all you think about.

00:06:26.260 How much do you think about?

00:06:28.280 I have a question.

00:06:29.680 Have you ever asked a guy what his favorite meal is and learned to cook it from scratch?

00:06:33.920 And did it on a consistent basis?

00:06:35.900 Like dropped it off maybe every other day?

00:06:39.080 When my mind...

00:06:40.080 Can I just...

00:06:40.740 Why would we do that?

00:06:42.760 Because that's bringing something to the table.

00:06:44.660 Yeah, but they do bring it.

00:06:45.820 Wait, wait, wait.

00:06:46.960 What is it for us, like?

00:06:48.140 Wait, okay, wait.

00:06:48.700 Most men pay for dates. 0.93

00:06:49.900 Would that be valuable to you guys?

00:06:51.580 Yes.

00:06:51.840 A girl that drops off like a home-cooked meal or like comes... 1.00

00:06:54.760 Would that be valuable?

00:06:55.660 Yes.

00:06:56.660 It's not going to stop them cheating.

00:06:57.740 It's average stuff.

00:06:58.260 Okay, but it'd be something, right?

00:06:59.480 I'm sure that she cares.

00:07:00.820 Okay, okay.

00:07:01.580 Yeah, that's my only point, right?

00:07:03.300 But I'm asking, like, nobody's done that, right?

00:07:05.960 I mean, I was talking to a guy quite recently and every time he'd come around, I would ask him,

00:07:10.760 well, what do you want?

00:07:11.700 And I kind of...

00:07:12.520 I knew what he liked, so I'd make it for him.

00:07:15.440 Do you know what I mean?

00:07:15.820 So that's like bringing something to the table.

00:07:17.220 That's something, right?

00:07:18.280 I'm not saying that's the only thing.

00:07:19.400 We don't need to bring everything to the table.

00:07:21.700 Like, what does he...

00:07:23.040 Exactly.

00:07:23.780 What's he doing?

00:07:24.820 But for him to be talking to you, he has to bring something to the table.

00:07:28.540 Because you guys are all pretty girls.

00:07:30.040 You're not dealing with no guy that's completely broke.

00:07:32.680 You're not dealing with no guy that's super ugly.

00:07:35.480 Like, in order for him to even get in the door, you have to bring something.

00:07:39.220 The difference is women don't have to bring anything. 1.00

00:07:41.400 You just have to be pretty to get in the door.

00:07:46.200 Easy as my friend.

00:07:47.020 Easy as my friend.

00:07:47.060 Okay, but what's the man bringing to the table?

00:07:49.360 Again, okay.

00:07:50.600 Do you want a guy that's smarter than you?

00:07:53.160 Typically.

00:07:53.780 Yes.

00:07:54.120 Do you want a guy that's taller than you?

00:07:55.640 No.

00:07:56.400 Definitely.

00:07:56.640 I'm kind of like short guys.

00:07:58.020 I'm just weird.

00:07:59.780 Okay, so do you want a guy that's stronger than you?

00:08:01.940 Yeah.

00:08:02.380 Do you want a guy that makes more money than you? 1.00

00:08:03.700 Ideally, you pick.

00:08:07.920 Oh, come on. 0.87

00:08:08.500 The same if, the same or, yeah, yeah, the same or more, yeah.

00:08:12.680 Yeah, right.

00:08:13.580 So, off the bat, he has to bring something to the table to get in the door.

00:08:19.060 But you don't.

00:08:20.120 And that's the point.

00:08:20.860 Like, we get in the door and we think we're bringing something to the table, but we're not.

00:08:25.580 Because we're just being pretty in there.

00:08:26.920 I just never look at it as that, though.

00:08:29.040 With them having money or whatever.

00:08:30.620 Right, but that's probably why, like, you haven't been in successful relationships.

00:08:35.040 You know, that might be the problem.

00:08:36.700 But I just think everything should be equal in life.

00:08:39.140 Why should I feel like I have to bring something to the table?

00:08:40.840 Life's not equal.

00:08:41.720 It's not fair.

00:08:42.180 But, okay, it's not fair to the men that you can get in the door because you're pretty.

00:08:47.460 Yeah.

00:08:47.940 Yeah, do you know what I mean?

00:08:48.740 Like, life isn't fair.

00:08:49.080 I never look at it in that way.

00:08:50.720 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:08:51.140 Life isn't fair.

00:08:52.200 Like, women, we get privileged all the time. 1.00

00:08:53.640 Like, even just getting on the show, right?

00:08:56.300 The women just, you guys just have to be pretty. 1.00

00:08:59.740 Yeah.

00:08:59.940 Bring that up.

00:09:00.800 Where the men, where it's funny, where the men have to have a following or they have

00:09:04.360 to have, like, done something, typically.

00:09:05.660 Yeah, I agree.

00:09:06.460 But that's, like, that's not, like, the topic we're talking about.

00:09:09.400 We're talking about, like.

00:09:10.800 No, no, no, but it's the same.

00:09:12.960 But, guys, it's the same dynamic.

00:09:14.380 That's what I'm pointing out.

00:09:15.700 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:09:15.980 Because even, like, this podcast, it's the same thing with dating.

00:09:18.520 Like, men have to have a certain amount of requirement.

00:09:21.440 Women only swipe right on dating apps 5% of the time. 1.00

00:09:24.900 Men swipe right 50. 0.99

00:09:26.940 So, 50% of women are getting in the door. 1.00

00:09:29.220 We're only 5%, maybe 15% of men are getting in the door.

00:09:32.040 But majority of those swipes is them wanting a fuck. 0.97

00:09:35.680 Um, yeah.

00:09:36.440 She's basically saying, ask women. 1.00

00:09:37.700 But the point is, what does relationships start with?

00:09:41.560 Sex.

00:09:42.860 Nowadays.

00:09:43.080 Not necessarily.

00:09:43.980 Not always, but nowadays.

00:09:44.900 But generally.

00:09:45.980 I personally wouldn't.

00:09:47.440 Like, I have.

00:09:48.840 But not now.

00:09:50.860 But then you go to the same problem as earlier.

00:09:53.180 Where, like, the guy that you actually, that you want to be with, now you're making him

00:09:57.160 wait.

00:09:57.400 Where the last whatever many got to hit it for free.

00:10:00.600 Like, it's, like, offensive to guys.

00:10:02.360 It's the same thing with dates, right?

00:10:04.760 Yeah.

00:10:05.100 Like, when I gave you guys the date example where maybe he took you to Taco Bell and he

00:10:08.660 took her on this five-star restaurant.

00:10:09.980 That's offensive, right?

00:10:11.120 That's how guys see it.

00:10:12.260 But it's just a mad world that we live in now, I think.

00:10:16.620 And there's just so much, like, pressure.

00:10:18.280 Women generally don't think about the men. 1.00

00:10:20.460 That's the point here.

00:10:21.740 You guys think about yourself.

00:10:22.540 I just think we're all in the same thing, though.

00:10:25.660 I do.

00:10:27.040 My girl thinks about me.

00:10:28.380 She cares about me.

00:10:29.280 I think about my woman's respect.

00:10:31.080 But that's probably a reflect of how you treat her, though.

00:10:33.540 If you treated her like shit, she wouldn't do that. 1.00

00:10:35.520 Let's say I was a broke boy, a weasel, a peasant, yeah?

00:10:38.380 I wouldn't have this kind of love that I have now, do you understand?

00:10:40.880 I've done stuff in order to put myself up there, cash-wise, respect-wise, charisma-wise,

00:10:46.900 everything-wise, yeah?

00:10:47.900 That reflects on her love towards me, do you know what I'm saying?

00:10:50.960 It has a part to play in it.

00:10:52.160 It's not everything.

00:10:52.680 I think it's a lot of the reason that the love's so strong, do you know what I'm saying?

00:10:58.320 Not because you have money.

00:10:59.160 Let's say I worked in it.

00:11:00.100 No, it's not that.

00:11:00.740 It's not that.

00:11:01.320 I thought that's what you said.

00:11:02.340 There's always someone better.

00:11:03.520 It's not that I have money.

00:11:04.860 It's because I'm respected.

00:11:06.220 It's what money brings, you understand?

00:11:07.820 The freedom.

00:11:08.360 It brings respect, freedom, spontaneity.

00:11:10.700 It brings that you can go here at this time at 3 p.m., let's go to the park, let's go by the lake.

00:11:17.340 You know what I'm saying?

00:11:17.780 I can't do that.

00:11:19.260 It's a specific time to, like, 9 to 5, see me after 5, baby, as always, can't do anything special, can't go on holiday.

00:11:27.660 I take my girl on holidays.

00:11:29.100 Do you know what I'm saying?

00:11:29.980 It's spontaneity.

00:11:31.360 An average guy can't do that.

00:11:32.420 They work.

00:11:33.440 9 to 5, wake up, go home, wake up, go home.

00:11:36.160 But then an average woman wouldn't be able to come on holiday with you if she had a 9 to 5? 0.99

00:11:39.080 She wouldn't have a 9 to 5 because I'll take care of her. 1.00

00:11:40.720 But what if she wanted to have a 9 to 5?

00:11:42.940 Why would she want to have a 9 to 5? 0.79

00:11:44.140 Because some people want to be able to provide for themselves.

00:11:46.800 Why is that?

00:11:47.340 I wouldn't want a month to spend all of a month's money.

00:11:50.060 The thing is, I understand, I completely understand that.

00:11:52.280 99% of women talk like that. 1.00

00:11:54.680 But I personally think it's the guy's job to teach her other words.

00:11:59.760 Do you know what I'm saying?

00:12:00.840 Yeah, but you can be taught, but it doesn't mean that you're actually going to, like, do you know what I mean?

00:12:04.040 Okay, but baby, listen, listen, I'll take care of you, this and that.

00:12:07.180 We'll get married.

00:12:07.920 I'm going to take care of you.

00:12:08.980 That's your thoughts of it.

00:12:10.520 It sounds fantastic.

00:12:11.820 But that wouldn't make me happy, though.

00:12:13.360 I understand, I understand.

00:12:14.480 That wouldn't make me happy.

00:12:15.180 I understand that you want your own money.

00:12:16.840 You don't want to ask your money.

00:12:17.960 You don't want to be dependent on him.

00:12:19.000 Of course not.

00:12:19.320 But the happiest relationships end up being where the woman is dependent on her man. 1.00

00:12:24.040 Do you understand?

00:12:24.900 And that's when they're the happiest.

00:12:26.140 Not when a girl's in another job working under some next guy telling her what to do.

00:12:30.400 That's not the way to go.

00:12:31.860 Because I can't personally have my girl listening to all this from a next fucking man.

00:12:37.460 What, if she had her own business, though?

00:12:38.780 What, if she was a businesswoman? 0.96

00:12:40.300 And was the CEO of her own company?

00:12:42.000 Would that be a problem?

00:12:43.220 That would take her over. 0.83

00:12:44.180 It's my business, though.

00:12:45.100 Yeah, but she wants to do that. 0.99

00:12:46.020 How is that your business?

00:12:46.900 Because that's my business.

00:12:47.440 Because she's worked hard towards that.

00:12:48.500 If she's my girl, give it to me, then, if she's worked hard towards it.

00:12:51.120 You have to look after the kids.

00:12:52.920 That's my business, though.

00:12:53.580 Yeah, honestly.

00:12:54.960 I'm just telling you.

00:12:56.820 For a 26-year-old, I've built this whole thing myself.

00:13:01.200 Congratulations.

00:13:02.200 Thank you.

00:13:02.600 Which is amazing.

00:13:03.440 Thank you.

00:13:03.920 But the thing is, men don't care.

00:13:06.100 They don't care.

00:13:06.920 And if anything, for successful guys, it's harder.

00:13:10.680 Because I don't have as much free time as the next girl.

00:13:14.140 And what he's talking about, taking, you know how much stress comes with a business?

00:13:18.660 That sounds so nice.

00:13:19.740 To have a guy take it.

00:13:20.780 You'd have to really trust him.

00:13:22.280 And I'm like, that sounds so nice to have a guy take it over.

00:13:24.660 Because it's like, having a business does not make you a better partner at all.

00:13:29.700 No.

00:13:30.000 Like, if anything, it makes you worse.

00:13:31.640 You're stressed out.

00:13:32.940 You know what I'm saying?

00:13:33.260 Of course.

00:13:33.440 But who wants a lazy girl? 1.00

00:13:35.620 I mean, you know?

00:13:37.360 But men just don't care as much about that. 0.88

00:13:40.200 Like, they don't want a girl that sits around. 1.00

00:13:42.560 But that's not like a girl.

00:13:43.200 Why don't you transfer that productivity to being, like, a housewife or a mother or a wife? 1.00

00:13:47.860 Who's more happy?

00:13:48.440 You can do that for a business.

00:13:49.860 You can do that for your family and your man.

00:13:51.480 But if you're running a business, you're doing it for yourself.

00:13:53.320 Because then the business gets the best of you.

00:13:55.940 But what if that's what you want?

00:13:56.900 Right.

00:13:57.440 That's selfish.

00:13:58.380 Because your family should get the best of you.

00:14:01.020 Well, business is it.

00:14:01.860 Yeah.

00:14:02.240 So now your business gets all your creativity.

00:14:05.040 Your business, like, or the business that you work.

00:14:07.760 Let's be honest.

00:14:08.540 It gives you a passive income as well.

00:14:09.320 Most women don't have, right. 1.00

00:14:11.420 But the goal is to be with a guy that makes more than you, right?

00:14:15.440 It's not my goal, to be honest.

00:14:16.620 I mean, let's just, okay, if you had got, like, let's just call a spade a spade.

00:14:20.240 Guy A, guy B.

00:14:21.340 One guy makes 100K.

00:14:22.580 One guy makes 30.

00:14:23.580 They're the same guy.

00:14:24.880 You're going to pick the 100K.

00:14:26.460 Yeah.

00:14:27.300 Everyone would.

00:14:28.160 Like, I'm not shaming you for that.

00:14:29.720 If it was right now, then I probably wouldn't, because I would rather build with someone

00:14:33.460 than have someone who's got it all.

00:14:34.980 Right.

00:14:35.160 But the expectation is that he gets to a point that he can pay for it.

00:14:38.860 Oh, of course.

00:14:39.420 Of course.

00:14:39.640 Right.

00:14:39.920 Because you want to have kids, right?

00:14:42.240 Yeah.

00:14:42.540 Yeah.

00:14:42.840 So five kids, like, what is that going to cost?

00:14:45.500 Oh, thousands.

00:14:46.820 So he's got to make a good amount of money.

00:14:49.160 Yeah, of course.

00:14:49.920 And the point is, no matter how good your business is, when you have kids, you have to put it aside

00:14:53.760 or your kids are going to be influenced by someone else.

00:14:56.700 Well, that's, you know, when I said earlier, how about, I think, if you want to be a business

00:15:00.640 woman and you want to be a mother, you'd have to establish that business before you 1.00

00:15:04.540 had kids.

00:15:05.120 Because if you was a CEO, you could hand that down to someone else.

00:15:08.460 You could still be a part of the business, but you wouldn't be there full time because

00:15:12.040 your business is established.

00:15:13.560 You can work from home.

00:15:14.760 You can have other people doing things for you.

00:15:16.880 Why do you need it?

00:15:17.720 Why do you need the business?

00:15:19.380 Because that's, because I know that I can offer that.

00:15:23.400 I know that I've had businesses before.

00:15:24.960 What should a girl's dream be? 1.00

00:15:26.200 Let's be honest, yeah?

00:15:27.140 From a childhood, what did you dream of having?

00:15:29.640 I dreamed of being on the West End.

00:15:31.460 Having a nice house, having kids, having a nice husband, yeah?

00:15:34.400 No, really, it wasn't for me.

00:15:36.340 It wasn't for me either.

00:15:37.580 So what was your dream?

00:15:38.540 To have a business?

00:15:39.420 My dream was to be, to follow my grandparents' footsteps and be on the West End.

00:15:43.220 I never, ever once thought, oh, husband, husband, husband.

00:15:46.000 So your dream was just to be on the West End?

00:15:47.260 Yeah.

00:15:47.460 That was your dream?

00:15:47.980 That was my dream.

00:15:48.260 Are you on the West End?

00:15:49.220 No, my dream's changed now.

00:15:51.580 What is the West End?

00:15:53.200 It's that in the Central London.

00:15:54.200 Broadway, it's a Broadway.

00:15:54.640 Oh, I see.

00:15:56.680 Yeah.

00:15:57.100 Yeah, I grew up on doing...

00:15:58.240 All right, cool.

00:15:58.680 So who do you think's up here?

00:16:00.060 A girl that is stressing about a business, running it, employees, just like that. 1.00

00:16:03.480 Yeah, but she might not be stressing about it, though.

00:16:05.240 No, I wouldn't.

00:16:06.460 She has to be.

00:16:07.000 If it's successful.

00:16:07.520 You can't.

00:16:09.080 There is no way you're making money and you are not stressed about it.

00:16:12.540 I promise to God, any girl that says otherwise is capping.

00:16:17.040 And the thing is, our hormones are different, so we don't deal with stress the same way that

00:16:20.580 men deal with stress.

00:16:22.280 And that's like, especially since I've gotten into management, I understand why women are 1.00

00:16:26.320 bad at it to be on.

00:16:27.280 Women are horrible at management. 1.00

00:16:28.460 No, because seriously, we are not meant to...

00:16:32.000 I talked to a doctor.

00:16:33.680 I interviewed him, I don't know, a week or two ago, and he was telling me, we do not

00:16:38.120 process stress the same way that men do.

00:16:40.280 We're not built for it.

00:16:41.840 And we're more agreeable.

00:16:43.340 So you have to go against how...

00:16:44.680 Because when you're managing someone, you have to be on them to make sure they're doing

00:16:47.500 their job.

00:16:48.300 And that causes us stress because women are more agreeable than men.

00:16:51.740 So a lot of times they sell you this, oh, like you can just run a business and not be

00:16:56.160 stressed.

00:16:56.540 There's no way.

00:16:57.600 I think it comes to experience, though.

00:16:59.020 Unless it's unsuccessful.

00:17:02.320 If you're not making money, you very well, you might not be stressed.

00:17:06.240 Sorry, go ahead.

00:17:07.100 I was just saying, I think when you have a business and you're stressed, it's not a bad

00:17:13.020 stress because you know that you're going to get there.

00:17:14.800 Yes, it is.

00:17:15.320 You've got kids to look after, bro.

00:17:16.480 Yes, it is.

00:17:16.920 Yes, it is.

00:17:17.200 You've got a family to provide for.

00:17:18.220 I just mean...

00:17:18.880 You haven't got time to look after a business and stress over that.

00:17:21.460 You've got to look after employees.

00:17:22.800 You have kids.

00:17:23.620 You have a husband.

00:17:24.200 You have a household to look after.

00:17:25.260 I think it takes the right type of person to be honest.

00:17:28.100 Because not everyone's going to run a business anyway.

00:17:29.700 I understand where you're coming from because I'm really passionate about what I do.

00:17:34.760 And so on one level, you're right.

00:17:36.420 It's not the same type of work.

00:17:38.120 I used to work in sales and that was horrible.

00:17:40.740 God, I hate it.

00:17:41.360 Because you weren't interested in it.

00:17:42.340 Correct.

00:17:42.880 And so there is a type of love you get from doing something you're interested in.

00:17:46.860 But I'm telling you, if you become successful and you get to the point where you're

00:17:51.300 making good money, it comes with a lot of problems.

00:17:55.060 Yeah.

00:17:55.640 No money, no problems.

00:17:56.540 But everything good worth having comes with some sort of issue because it wouldn't be worth

00:18:00.700 having.

00:18:00.900 And that's the thing.

00:18:01.860 It's a trade-off.

00:18:03.160 Yeah.

00:18:03.520 And the issue is, as a woman, if you make more money, it is tougher for you in dating. 1.00

00:18:08.040 It is not an asset to men and men do not care about it.

00:18:11.040 Yeah.

00:18:11.360 It is not a bonus.

00:18:13.040 Especially to the men that we want.

00:18:14.900 Yeah.

00:18:15.120 It is nothing to them.

00:18:16.300 Yeah.

00:18:16.620 But I'm not doing it for a man. 0.99

00:18:18.220 I'm doing it for me.

00:18:19.400 Right.

00:18:19.840 But that's the original problem, though, is as women, we never think about what the men 0.99

00:18:24.340 want.

00:18:25.220 Yeah.

00:18:25.440 I'm sure there's men out there that would want a woman to have a business. 1.00

00:18:28.860 Not necessarily a business, but have a career.

00:18:30.800 You're right.

00:18:31.480 The broke ones.

00:18:33.520 Yeah, but not always.

00:18:34.660 I have guy friends that are doing extremely well for themselves, and they want the best

00:18:39.120 for me in the sense that it's more attractive for them to have someone who's not a housewife.

00:18:44.020 But then there's other guys that would probably want a housewife. 1.00

00:18:46.400 So again, it comes down to your environment of how you've grown up in.

00:18:49.180 The reason, I mean, some guys, like, they want girls with money to offset the risk of

00:18:53.720 marriage, but it's not really an attraction thing.

00:18:56.380 Like, men are never going to look at Oprah and say, oh, she's so hot because she's rich. 1.00

00:19:01.040 Yeah.

00:19:01.560 But women will look at, say, Trump. 1.00

00:19:03.800 Like, how many hot girls have slept with Trump? 0.51

00:19:05.340 That man is not, like, let's just, he's not attractive, right?

00:19:08.040 Because he has power, status, money.

00:19:10.160 And so we're just not attracted to the same things.

00:19:13.500 Yeah.

00:19:14.020 I get what you're saying, but I don't think.

00:19:15.880 I don't really agree, to be honest.

00:19:18.640 You think men are lined up to sleep with Oprah? 1.00

00:19:21.560 No, no, not that at all.

00:19:23.000 I just, I don't know, it's just the whole power thing.

00:19:25.660 Like, I think, as a woman.

00:19:27.400 You don't think women want to sleep with kings, presidents? 1.00

00:19:29.560 Yeah, I mean, I agree with that.

00:19:31.760 Okay, so women do love power. 1.00

00:19:33.480 You don't think women want to sleep with the CEO of companies? 1.00

00:19:37.000 It takes it, but that's a specific, that word type of woman, though. 1.00

00:19:43.920 Because I wouldn't, I would, one girl might look at a man with tons of money and think,

00:19:48.080 oh my gosh, yes, that's who I want, I'm going to chase him.

00:19:51.020 But I'd look at a man and be like, congratulations, but that doesn't impress me.

JustPearlyThings - August 12, 2023

The Men Got TRIGGERED As She Said THIS

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