JustPearlyThings - October 18, 2023


The Number 1 PROBLEM With America Today


Episode Stats

Length

7 minutes

Words per Minute

188.4655

Word Count

1,464

Sentence Count

131

Misogynist Sentences

26

Hate Speech Sentences

17


Summary

In this episode, we discuss why women don t get the respect they deserve from their male counterparts, and why they should focus on family over work. We also discuss depression and how to deal with it, and how it can be prevented.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I'm pretty easy to please.
00:00:02.220 It's like you gave me the point A to point B.
00:00:04.360 I'm happy.
00:00:05.140 But my point is that average men that allow us to do what we do deserve respect.
00:00:10.320 And too many times I see people become successful and get to a certain point
00:00:14.120 and they don't respect the average men that run this country.
00:00:17.780 Not everybody's going to own businesses.
00:00:20.200 Not everybody's going to become a top 5, 10% earner.
00:00:23.720 And quite frankly, we couldn't have, like, the country would not function if everybody did.
00:00:28.720 I 100% agree with you on the infrastructure.
00:00:30.960 Men do not get the respect they deserve in that regard on a macro level.
00:00:35.900 On a micro level, I think that you have personal responsibility, individual decisions.
00:00:40.820 Let me ask you this one thing.
00:00:42.760 Why do you think that is?
00:00:44.120 Meaning, this is my hypothesis.
00:00:46.320 Prior to the 1980s, 1950s, however far you want to go,
00:00:52.160 women weren't necessarily in the workforce, right?
00:00:54.680 They were relying on a man.
00:00:55.920 So, you could be at a small town in Des Moines, Iowa, or Jacksonville, Florida, or, you know,
00:01:02.740 wherever.
00:01:04.680 And the point is, you could get, as an average man, you can get a normal girl.
00:01:10.200 She respects you because she's not working.
00:01:12.280 She relies on you.
00:01:13.260 You pay the bills.
00:01:14.600 An average income could support a family of two.
00:01:17.720 Normal guy, normal girl, marriage, family, boom.
00:01:20.940 But as women have been empowered, gone to school, made more money, now they've developed a,
00:01:26.360 I don't really need that $40,000 dude.
00:01:29.540 I make 80 grand.
00:01:30.600 I'm only going to go out with a guy that makes more than me.
00:01:32.600 You know about the hypergamy concept.
00:01:34.860 So, is it because women have made more money, they don't necessarily need that man as a provider?
00:01:39.900 And is that the biggest reason that they don't get the respect from the women?
00:01:43.360 What do you think?
00:01:43.760 I would argue women steal men's money.
00:01:46.020 Actually, I would say they do it through child support, alimony, and government benefits,
00:01:50.000 more than anything.
00:01:50.960 But that's after they get married.
00:01:52.760 In order to get married, a guy has to fall in love and make that decision.
00:01:55.320 Oh, child support.
00:01:56.160 You don't need to get, you just need to trap the guy.
00:01:59.320 You just need, like, the wrong, get the wrong woman pregnant.
00:02:01.680 But, you know, they say that.
00:02:02.880 But women used to, it used to be, everything was more family-oriented before.
00:02:07.560 So, women would work, they would just work, like, if a guy had a farm, the woman would work on the farm.
00:02:14.360 So, they would just be working together, typically.
00:02:17.600 Yeah, but how many people are working on farms these days, Pearl?
00:02:20.640 No, I know, these days.
00:02:21.840 But you were talking about, like, I'm saying it's not correct, this idea that, like, women didn't, like, work and contribute to society.
00:02:29.640 Not in the way they do now, sure.
00:02:32.260 But I'm saying, in the past, like, come on, a woman from the 1850s, life was a million times harder than a chick working today.
00:02:42.680 Absolutely.
00:02:43.320 Like, Google a day in the life of the Amish.
00:02:45.840 Oh, my God.
00:02:46.980 Could you do that?
00:02:47.940 I couldn't do that.
00:02:49.040 I see your point.
00:02:50.660 I don't even think we're arguing.
00:02:51.740 I think we're just, we're disagreeing on nuance.
00:02:54.960 Everyone's life was harder in the 1850s.
00:02:57.660 Everyone.
00:02:58.420 You know, the world is so much better, and this is the problem in America today.
00:03:01.180 The world is so much better than it's ever been, especially Western society, so much better.
00:03:07.040 The poverty levels are minuscule compared to where they were 20, 40, 50, 100 years ago.
00:03:13.560 We're inventing problems.
00:03:15.200 We're inventing depression.
00:03:16.440 We're passing out antidepressants like it's, you know, popcorn, whereas life is actually pretty good, right?
00:03:24.100 And women, they're capitalizing on modern society.
00:03:28.560 Should women, you know, dumb it down and not capitalize and just focus on marriage and kids?
00:03:36.820 Or should women be like, yeah, let me go get my money, too.
00:03:39.780 How should women operate in modern society?
00:03:42.580 Well, I would say society would be a lot better if women focused on family and especially family over themselves.
00:03:50.160 I would say I actually disagree with one thing you said there.
00:03:53.640 I actually don't think that this depression, anxiety, all that stuff, I really don't think it's made up.
00:03:59.180 I think it comes from single mother homes.
00:04:01.360 I think it comes from selfish mothers choosing themselves over their family.
00:04:05.380 And I think that kind of messes you up in the head.
00:04:08.260 A lot of times for life, some people can overcome it, but a lot of times.
00:04:11.740 Okay, so you actually, you've said something about being selfish, actually, a perfect segue.
00:04:18.920 You said a modern female mentality is me before the family, right?
00:04:22.440 Women filed a divorce, we all know this, what, 70 to 80% of the time, especially if they're college educated.
00:04:30.580 Divorce, how do you feel about divorce?
00:04:32.640 You said it should be banned?
00:04:33.740 Yeah, except for Will Smith, I'll give him one.
00:04:38.340 So Will Smith.
00:04:39.500 Will Smith, I grant you a divorce.
00:04:42.540 So other than Will Smith, when do you condone divorce?
00:04:46.260 Under any circumstances?
00:04:47.820 I'll give one-sided abuse.
00:04:49.760 I think if they're beating each other, they should work it out.
00:04:52.240 They should just both figure out how to not hit.
00:04:54.680 But yeah, one-sided abuse, I'll give you a divorce.
00:04:58.360 Maybe some adultery cases.
00:05:00.540 Most cheating is a one-time thing, fun fact.
00:05:03.960 But, you know, maybe if he gets another chick pregnant, I might give you a divorce.
00:05:08.420 So there are exceptions to the rule.
00:05:10.340 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:05:11.240 The church used to, like, you'd have to, like, give your case to the church, and then they would say yes or no.
00:05:16.560 But they were a lot more picky back then.
00:05:18.320 So go ham on the women right now, right?
00:05:20.640 I don't think you're going to have a problem with that.
00:05:25.560 What is it that makes them selfish?
00:05:28.320 Why are they the ones filing for divorce the vast majority of the time?
00:05:32.740 What is it that they're just willing to just cast away their kids, their family, and just succumb to their emotions?
00:05:39.000 What is it?
00:05:39.480 Oh, God.
00:05:40.180 I've heard every.
00:05:41.260 I'm sure you've heard every excuse, too.
00:05:43.420 He was holding me back.
00:05:44.760 I'm like, bitch, from what?
00:05:46.180 He gave you kids.
00:05:47.220 No, I mean, women file 70% to 80% of the time, and a lot of times I think it's because they think the grass is greener on the other side.
00:05:55.880 And a lot of times, again, the media tells us we're so special and awesome and amazing, and you're going to find better.
00:06:02.980 And the truth is that most women do not.
00:06:05.020 The majority of single mothers do not remarry.
00:06:07.460 They do not.
00:06:08.000 I think only it's like 15% actually get a guy to remarry them, 22% get a guy to live with them again.
00:06:14.700 So the majority of single mothers do not have happy endings.
00:06:18.100 And we're not really honest.
00:06:19.820 We don't really tell people these statistics.
00:06:22.260 Okay, bingo.
00:06:22.740 I think that's a great point and a great stat you just made.
00:06:25.400 We just did a whole panel.
00:06:28.040 Kevin Sabo was on.
00:06:29.660 Troy Francis was on.
00:06:30.920 A couple of our friends were on.
00:06:32.440 There was a couple single mothers on the panel.
00:06:36.180 Janelle Gordon, you might know.
00:06:39.020 Janelle, we asked the question to the men.
00:06:41.760 You meet this woman.
00:06:42.820 She's amazing.
00:06:43.480 She's awesome.
00:06:44.240 She's young.
00:06:44.960 She's beautiful.
00:06:46.100 She's charismatic.
00:06:47.200 She's smart.
00:06:48.740 She's loyal.
00:06:49.680 All that fun stuff.
00:06:51.140 But she has a three-year-old kid.
00:06:52.900 Okay?
00:06:53.400 The good news is he was potty trained.
00:06:54.880 Yeah, ha, ha, ha, ha.
00:06:56.420 Would you date this girl?
00:06:58.120 And uniformly, they're like, nah, nah, nah, nah.
00:07:00.800 And then the women with kids obviously stated their case.
00:07:02.940 That's like, nah, like a real man needs to step up.
00:07:05.420 All that fun stuff.
00:07:06.480 But you said that only 15% of single mothers remarry?
00:07:10.520 Roughly.
00:07:10.960 I don't remember if it's, it's like a roughly 15.
00:07:13.600 I don't, it could have been 13.
00:07:14.840 Gotcha, but I think that's an important stat to point out.
00:07:17.100 Because if that's the objective to get married,
00:07:21.740 it'd be good to know that stat.
00:07:23.260 Yeah, and then 22% get a guy to live with them.
00:07:25.700 But again, that means the majority do not have happy endings.
00:07:29.080 You know, another stat, if you hit 30 and you're not in a relationship,
00:07:32.500 you're more likely to not have kids than to have them.
00:07:35.500 As a woman?
00:07:36.140 As a woman.
00:07:36.760 Okay, gotcha.
00:07:37.620 Well, actually, if you, if you had 35 as a guy,
00:07:40.100 you only have a 15% chance of getting married over,
00:07:42.620 I think too many men, like, they see the game.
00:07:45.280 They're like, I'm not playing.