JustPearlyThings - August 12, 2023


The Number 1 RED FLAG In Modern Women


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

208.71559

Word Count

2,275

Sentence Count

277

Misogynist Sentences

16

Hate Speech Sentences

7


Summary

In this episode, we talk about the importance of a woman s role model, how to be a woman in the modern world, and how to get the most out of your social media presence. We also talk about how to properly introduce yourself to potential female role models.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I find it weird that a lot of girls, speaking again, this is a very general statement, but
00:00:05.000 a lot of girls in that kind of respect will look at idols and mimic what they look like,
00:00:09.500 but a lot of guys will look at their idols and mimic what they act like and do.
00:00:13.500 That's facts.
00:00:14.500 Right.
00:00:15.500 But we focus more on respect and I think with women sometimes it can be more of an attention.
00:00:18.500 Visual.
00:00:19.500 Because how many people have Cardi B as their role model?
00:00:21.500 Just be like J-Lo.
00:00:22.500 Yeah.
00:00:23.500 You see how J-Lo's rolling?
00:00:24.500 Exactly.
00:00:25.500 Hot.
00:00:26.500 Don't bring it around me.
00:00:28.500 But then if you ask a guy who their role model is, it's like Samuel L. Jackson or something.
00:00:33.500 You know what?
00:00:34.500 I was trying to think of one good feminine role model in the media.
00:00:38.000 Today?
00:00:39.000 Yeah, like that's in mainstream.
00:00:40.000 I'm like, I can't think.
00:00:41.000 Kayla Pearson.
00:00:42.000 Who's that?
00:00:43.000 J-Lo.
00:00:44.000 She's a role model for me.
00:00:47.000 She does like YouTube videos and that.
00:00:50.000 Okay.
00:00:51.000 But she's not like anywhere near as big as someone like Beyonce or Cardi B.
00:00:54.000 Just pearly things.
00:00:55.000 Real?
00:00:56.000 Real?
00:00:57.000 If I'm putting YouTubers on here.
00:00:59.000 Do you want to pull up the Instagram?
00:01:02.000 You thought you escaped?
00:01:04.000 Yeah.
00:01:05.000 Oh, no.
00:01:06.000 Oh, no.
00:01:07.000 No, no, no, no.
00:01:09.000 Okay.
00:01:10.000 What are we thinking?
00:01:11.000 That's the Pearl podcast.
00:01:12.000 Number one pic.
00:01:13.000 I love that.
00:01:14.000 So therefore she gets a point because she was on my podcast.
00:01:17.000 Oh.
00:01:18.000 Look at that.
00:01:19.000 This picture here.
00:01:20.000 Do you know what?
00:01:21.000 This is interesting, Granz.
00:01:22.000 You know what's really important?
00:01:24.000 The captions.
00:01:25.000 Yeah, we're not really looking at those.
00:01:26.000 The captions are vital.
00:01:27.000 Can we pull up that caption again?
00:01:29.000 The captions are vital.
00:01:30.000 I need to see you on the train.
00:01:31.000 You see that picture?
00:01:32.000 Another adventure.
00:01:33.000 Another adventure.
00:01:34.000 Another adventure.
00:01:35.000 Another adventure.
00:01:36.000 That picture would make a bisexual straight again.
00:01:39.000 Is that a politic coming in on your stuff?
00:01:41.000 You're sick, you know.
00:01:43.000 Yeah, let's see.
00:01:44.000 Yeah, let's see.
00:01:45.000 All right, all right.
00:01:46.000 Whoa.
00:01:47.000 Yeah, she's cool.
00:01:48.000 Let me see what she say.
00:01:49.000 Get a smile.
00:01:50.000 What type of message would you guys send as an opener to her?
00:01:54.000 It would be, you know, with me, I'm not trying to give too much away, but it would
00:02:00.000 usually be story related.
00:02:01.000 Yeah.
00:02:02.000 Something related to whatever you're posting that right now.
00:02:04.000 What adventure do you want to go on next?
00:02:06.000 Because, I mean, if you posted like back in July last year, like you went somewhere
00:02:12.000 and then you don't really want to talk about that right now.
00:02:14.000 But if you're in Dubai right now or you're somewhere, you can talk about that maybe,
00:02:18.000 you know.
00:02:19.000 But going through her page, I normally, the pictures are a given, but I like to look at
00:02:25.000 their statuses as well, what they're captioning the things, you know what I mean?
00:02:28.000 Yeah, the single eyes do light up.
00:02:30.000 Because it's one of those pages where you're like, okay, you see enough.
00:02:33.000 In the pictures to be like, okay, if I was to message this person, like I said before,
00:02:39.000 when a guy's message is like, will she respond?
00:02:41.000 She might.
00:02:42.000 She might, depending on what you say, right?
00:02:45.000 So what?
00:02:46.000 Your Instagram gives off, you have to come up with like really astute and you have to
00:02:50.000 be really on your stuff.
00:02:51.000 With yours?
00:02:52.000 Yeah, it's fun girl.
00:02:54.000 Not fun girl, but fun girl.
00:02:57.000 So without meeting her, like what type of person would you have thought she was before?
00:03:02.000 Probably seen in the nightclubs out there and stuff.
00:03:05.000 I've seen you out.
00:03:06.000 I haven't.
00:03:07.000 Yeah.
00:03:08.000 Yeah.
00:03:09.000 What are you, are you in the nightclubs or not?
00:03:11.000 Do you know what?
00:03:12.000 I used to a lot when I was younger, but now it's more events like bars, stuff like that.
00:03:16.000 I don't really go out to the clubs too, too much.
00:03:18.000 Certified nights out there.
00:03:19.000 Yeah.
00:03:20.000 Cocktail bars, two for one, before seven.
00:03:21.000 Yes.
00:03:22.000 Okay.
00:03:23.000 I know I've seen you before.
00:03:27.000 Do any of the guys want to volunteer their Instagrams?
00:03:30.000 Yeah, go on the night ranks.
00:03:31.000 Let's do it, man.
00:03:33.000 No.
00:03:34.000 What is the most wild message you've ever sent to a girl?
00:03:38.000 Ooh.
00:03:39.000 Um.
00:03:40.000 The ones where you have to send a message and put your phone down and look away.
00:03:44.000 Like a wild first message.
00:03:46.000 Oh, first message.
00:03:47.000 First message.
00:03:48.000 Oh, no.
00:03:49.000 I don't need to know.
00:03:50.000 Probably like a, probably, you know, I think if she's abroad, you get a little bit more
00:03:57.000 confidence in it.
00:03:58.000 So you might, you might like, yo, when are you going to quit playing and just move to
00:04:01.000 London?
00:04:02.000 You know what I mean?
00:04:03.000 Like one of those kind of ones.
00:04:05.000 But yeah.
00:04:06.000 What about you do?
00:04:08.000 Sometimes I would do funny ones that are only funny to me.
00:04:12.000 Like, I can see you.
00:04:13.000 That's the message I ask.
00:04:15.000 It's dumb, right?
00:04:16.000 It's a good thing you're engaged now.
00:04:17.000 Yeah, yeah.
00:04:18.000 I'm out of the game.
00:04:19.000 If you tried that on me, that would not work.
00:04:20.000 I'd be like, is this a mistake?
00:04:21.000 Like, is this an error?
00:04:22.000 I can see you.
00:04:23.000 But, but, but, look.
00:04:24.000 You responded.
00:04:25.000 That's all you wanted.
00:04:26.000 That's all you wanted.
00:04:27.000 That's all we needed.
00:04:28.000 We needed a door to be open.
00:04:29.000 And from there, you can figure out.
00:04:30.000 I'm only kidding.
00:04:31.000 Blah, blah, blah.
00:04:32.000 You can find it.
00:04:33.000 But you see that?
00:04:34.000 It worked right there.
00:04:35.000 Yeah.
00:04:36.000 That's all you wanted.
00:04:37.000 That's all you wanted.
00:04:38.000 That's all we needed.
00:04:39.000 We needed a door to be open.
00:04:40.000 Yeah, you can figure out.
00:04:41.000 I'm only kidding.
00:04:42.000 Blah, blah, blah.
00:04:43.000 You can find it.
00:04:44.000 But you see that?
00:04:45.000 It worked right there.
00:04:46.000 I can see you.
00:04:47.000 You know the GIFs?
00:04:48.000 The little GIFs.
00:04:49.000 Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:04:50.000 They're the best way to slide, I think.
00:04:52.000 Oh.
00:04:53.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:04:54.000 You know what's funny?
00:04:55.000 I've never DMed anyone before they DMed me.
00:04:58.000 Sorry, big man.
00:04:59.000 I've never messaged anyone in my life.
00:05:01.000 Sorry, big man.
00:05:02.000 No, I didn't know it was a thing.
00:05:03.000 Go on.
00:05:04.000 I didn't know it was a thing.
00:05:05.000 Go on, king.
00:05:06.000 I literally waited for someone to message me.
00:05:07.000 Cold.
00:05:08.000 You kind of react and then the vibe of it.
00:05:10.000 What's your back signal?
00:05:11.000 You like a couple pictures?
00:05:12.000 You like the story?
00:05:13.000 So if I like your pictures more than one, you know what it means.
00:05:16.000 Then he knows what time it is.
00:05:17.000 And if you don't, he or she, let's not go fully gay yet.
00:05:20.000 Okay, okay.
00:05:21.000 Hey, man.
00:05:23.000 And then we kind of, then obviously if you get a private message or something like that,
00:05:27.000 then I kind of react to that.
00:05:29.000 I don't know if it's a female or a male, but a female is very different where I'm very,
00:05:34.000 it's very different with a female because I'm kind of more romantic types.
00:05:37.000 I'm, I'm a face to face person anyway.
00:05:39.000 I'm old school.
00:05:40.000 Like pretend social media didn't, didn't, didn't exist.
00:05:44.000 So with a female, it'd be like, let's, let's go catch a bite.
00:05:47.000 Let's go to a cocktail bar.
00:05:49.000 And I think as time go on, I'm kind of the same thing with guys.
00:05:53.000 It's not just a thing where I just want to talk.
00:05:55.000 Anyone can be anyone on social media or on the phone.
00:05:58.000 I want to feel your vibe by the way you talk, the way you hold yourself as a person,
00:06:02.000 your body language.
00:06:03.000 And, and that's it because that's what wows me.
00:06:05.000 And that's what gets here.
00:06:06.000 And if you've got me here, girl or female, you've got me.
00:06:10.000 You obviously know like when, what kind of girls or guys to, that you need to take on a date
00:06:15.000 and you know which, which ones you can just bring back.
00:06:18.000 Like what guys are different though.
00:06:21.000 Guys are more brazen.
00:06:23.000 Are there any like tests you guys do to see how slutty a girl is?
00:06:28.000 Yeah.
00:06:29.000 Yeah.
00:06:30.000 Yeah.
00:06:31.000 If you say the word, this should be outdated now.
00:06:32.000 So I'm a foolish out there.
00:06:33.000 But you know, if, if he, if he says our trouble and responding a certain type of weight,
00:06:38.000 it's game over for you.
00:06:39.000 If he says our trouble and you're like, Oh, do you mean trouble?
00:06:44.000 Nah, nah, nah, just, just ignore the whole trouble thing in it.
00:06:47.000 I think trouble, you guys be using trouble.
00:06:49.000 Yeah.
00:06:50.000 It's kind of the same vibe of, um, if I hear the words come out of your mouth, that's just
00:06:53.000 who I am.
00:06:54.000 You know, that girl is tapped.
00:06:56.000 That's just who I am.
00:06:57.000 What do you mean?
00:06:58.000 Cause anytime you hear, Oh, that's just who I am.
00:06:59.000 People just don't understand who I am.
00:07:00.000 And it just, that person is someone who argues for fun.
00:07:05.000 That's someone who, who light your car on fire because you told her that you were two
00:07:10.000 pence off.
00:07:11.000 That's someone, that's someone that will have a fight with you because their cousins were
00:07:15.000 upset.
00:07:16.000 What do you think about the, the girls that say that they just get along with guys more
00:07:21.000 than girls?
00:07:22.000 Hmm.
00:07:23.000 She ain't for me.
00:07:24.000 She ain't for me.
00:07:25.000 That's interesting coming from you, sir.
00:07:27.000 I need you just with me.
00:07:34.000 Okay.
00:07:35.000 Just with me.
00:07:36.000 How about people's girlfriends can chill with you?
00:07:37.000 No, that's cool.
00:07:38.000 I'm cool though.
00:07:39.000 I'm a good guy.
00:07:40.000 You're giving vibes that she can't have friends.
00:07:42.000 What are other tests you guys do?
00:07:44.000 Um, I kind of just look at, I just, I just observe, man.
00:07:47.000 You gotta observe.
00:07:48.000 Like people would tell on themselves eventually.
00:07:50.000 So you just observe what kind of stuff they're posting.
00:07:52.000 If they're posting a lot of like indirect quotes to, that means that they need to heal.
00:07:56.000 Mm-hmm.
00:07:57.000 You know what I mean?
00:07:59.000 If they, yeah.
00:08:00.000 It just depends on what you post.
00:08:01.000 Nothing.
00:08:02.000 It's true.
00:08:03.000 I met a girl, like if I met someone, girl or female and they told me this come out of
00:08:07.000 a relationship, I'm not, I'm not fussed with you.
00:08:09.000 But if we're just talking on a sexual situation, I have needs.
00:08:14.000 Okay.
00:08:15.000 But if it's something where you want it to go like in a relationship or whatever, you
00:08:19.000 need, you need time to heal.
00:08:20.000 If it's just, if you just want to have fun or whatever, then yeah, I can't take you seriously
00:08:24.000 if you told me you just broke up with your partner.
00:08:27.000 Yeah.
00:08:28.000 To your point.
00:08:29.000 A month or whatever or a few weeks ago, I can't take you seriously.
00:08:31.000 Okay.
00:08:32.000 If she posts a hundred quotes, then you're right.
00:08:34.000 She does have a hundred issues that she needs to sort out at some point.
00:08:38.000 There's a specific page.
00:08:40.000 Yeah.
00:08:41.000 I don't know what these pages are.
00:08:43.000 I'm not going to give them clout right now.
00:08:44.000 Do you guys?
00:08:45.000 The one that begins with a J and ends in a Y.
00:08:47.000 Like that one, if they post that, red flag.
00:08:50.000 Trinidad.
00:08:51.000 Do you guys look at who girls follow?
00:08:53.000 Sometimes, yeah.
00:08:54.000 You have to sometimes.
00:08:55.000 No, no, no, no, no.
00:08:56.000 Because you know.
00:08:57.000 I don't do that.
00:08:58.000 They follow Sam Smith.
00:08:59.000 I'm joking.
00:09:00.000 Do you guys look at who guys follow?
00:09:03.000 No.
00:09:04.000 No.
00:09:05.000 If I'm interested.
00:09:06.000 Yeah.
00:09:07.000 I'll go through who they follow.
00:09:09.000 And what if he follows a bunch of Instagram models?
00:09:12.000 Does that bother you?
00:09:14.000 Not really.
00:09:15.000 Cause guys are going to be guys, aren't they?
00:09:17.000 They're all going to be attracted to like Instagram models, but it doesn't really bother
00:09:20.000 me too, too much to be fair.
00:09:21.000 So what do you look for when it comes to their following?
00:09:24.000 Well, say if like a girl's like commented on their page, I'll go.
00:09:29.000 I'll go.
00:09:30.000 I'll go through that Pacific girl.
00:09:31.000 If that makes sense.
00:09:32.000 Oh, okay.
00:09:33.000 Yeah.
00:09:34.000 Oh, interesting.
00:09:35.000 I care about the mutuals.
00:09:37.000 I care about the mutuals.
00:09:38.000 Oh, damn.
00:09:39.000 Yeah.
00:09:40.000 I care about the mutuals.
00:09:41.000 I need to know which one of my friends.
00:09:42.000 If we've got mutuals, there's certain people that if we're mutual friends.
00:09:45.000 Yeah.
00:09:46.000 I know why he knows me.
00:09:47.000 I'm black.
00:09:48.000 It's crazy.
00:09:49.000 Cause I trust women.
00:09:50.000 I don't, I don't, whenever I'm dating with a girl or talking to a girl, I don't do any
00:09:54.000 research on you whatsoever.
00:09:55.000 It's the guys that I know are just out there in the streets.
00:09:58.000 Guys are completely different guys that are one.
00:10:00.000 I'm just like, I watch your mutuals.
00:10:02.000 That's interesting.
00:10:03.000 Everyone in London, like guy wise in the whole gay world be sleeping with everyone.
00:10:08.000 The women.
00:10:09.000 Yeah.
00:10:10.000 I don't know, man.
00:10:11.000 With women, I kind of just trust you.
00:10:12.000 I don't, I don't think I've ever had a girl play out on me.
00:10:15.000 The, the younger version of me, like, okay.
00:10:18.000 For example, I think any guy that's under the age of 25 or like 20 years old, if they've
00:10:25.000 cheated, sorry, I know you're going to disagree with me.
00:10:28.000 Like, it's not really a cheat.
00:10:29.000 We're not a man.
00:10:30.000 We don't really know what we're doing.
00:10:32.000 Um, so I think like if you're under the age of 25 and you cheat, look at you looking
00:10:37.000 at me.
00:10:38.000 I'm so excited.
00:10:39.000 We're under 25 and I've done it.
00:10:42.000 And I think a lot of us here have done it.
00:10:44.000 Um, I don't think.
00:10:45.000 Speak for yourself.
00:10:46.000 Speak for yourself.
00:10:47.000 Speak for yourself.
00:10:48.000 I'm not trying to drag the whole other people.
00:10:51.000 I'm going to have a team.
00:10:52.000 I'm going to have a team.
00:10:53.000 I'm going to have a team.