JustPearlyThings - The Only Place to Find Good Men

00:00:00.000 I'm curious to the guys, what are the best places for women to find husbands? 0.98

00:00:05.920 That's a good question.

00:00:08.760 Nowadays, a lot of it happens online.

00:00:10.480 A lot of people Instagram, but I think you should go put yourself in situations where

00:00:14.820 I think the farmer's market, go grocery shopping.

00:00:19.040 I think the church, you should go find a guy there.

00:00:22.920 A picnic, like a little park.

00:00:24.600 You know, just go to cute places.

00:00:25.780 I met a lot of great couples recently in Japan.

00:00:27.480 They met at the beach.

00:00:28.100 You know, I think that if you are in your feminine nature and you are doing things that 1.00

00:00:33.940 coincide with that, you can find that guy.

00:00:36.420 I hear a lot of females say there's a whole lot of accounts on TikTok that base their content 1.00

00:00:41.940 off of how to find a successful rich man or how to do this or how to do that.

00:00:47.220 And they usually say, they usually target Mayfair, Knightsbridge, go to this bar, go to this club.

00:00:53.980 The club, I wouldn't seek that out in the club.

00:00:56.280 I don't agree.

00:00:57.200 Immediately, you put yourself in the scenario that guys at that level are not looking for.

00:01:02.080 You don't want a girl who's clubbing. 1.00

00:01:04.180 I think what Sneeko said is important.

00:01:06.680 Being in your feminine energy, wherever you go, you're going to more likely attract a better 1.00

00:01:12.300 quality of man.

00:01:13.040 Because the problem with Mayfair and Kensington and Knightsbridge and these places is you're

00:01:17.480 going to meet a lot of guys who just want to have one night stands.

00:01:20.060 But equally, you're going to meet them online as well.

00:01:21.780 So it's really about the energy that you put out in terms of what you attract.

00:01:26.960 But I think as well, going to some more chilled out places, going to Borough Market, like he

00:01:30.540 said, go to Whole Foods.

00:01:31.440 You know, those kind of places, more likely to meet somebody who's a bit more authentic

00:01:34.440 than maybe the more superficial, glamorous.

00:01:36.660 Yeah.

00:01:37.280 The gym's good.

00:01:37.820 Although as long as you don't start filming him and putting it on TikTok.

00:01:40.060 Please don't do that.

00:01:42.800 What do you think?

00:01:46.760 It's hard because it depends on what you mean, how you define the man, right?

00:01:50.900 Whole Foods.

00:01:51.340 I don't grocery shop anymore.

00:01:52.580 So I don't think you're going to find a one percenter in there.

00:01:55.020 But at the same time, you know, you have to find them somewhere.

00:01:59.420 So I think Sneeko's dead on with the online thing.

00:02:01.560 And then it comes down to filtering and asking the right questions, but being respectful inside

00:02:04.960 those questions.

00:02:05.520 You know, say, and just be hand in hand honest.

00:02:08.100 Like, look, man, I'm looking for this kind of guy, you know, and 50, 60 grand.

00:02:12.940 He also nailed that.

00:02:13.860 That's not going to be a problem for you.

00:02:15.300 In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if you got a bunch of messages after this show, because

00:02:18.480 that's so very obtainable now.

00:02:20.320 Right.

00:02:21.160 So you need to aim higher.

00:02:23.340 Yeah.

00:02:23.780 And I think you could, I think, I think you could get higher.

00:02:26.300 Yeah, you could.

00:02:27.640 But, um, you know, also you have to understand that guys that are pretty well to do have pretty

00:02:32.340 well to do hobbies. 0.99

00:02:33.360 Bro, if I was a girl, I'd be playing golf like a motherfucker. 0.99

00:02:36.100 You know what I'm saying? 1.00

00:02:37.140 Even if you suck. 1.00

00:02:38.040 Yeah. 1.00

00:02:38.160 Even if you're trash, even if you're trash, you know, so it's like those types of things, 0.93

00:02:41.800 you know, where, where do, where do guys like that meet up? 0.96

00:02:45.220 Where are they?

00:02:45.940 And can it not be in a bar scene?

00:02:47.580 Because you don't want to meet somebody you're going to be with forever in a bar.

00:02:50.080 Because the first question you're going to get asked is, you have to carry that around

00:02:53.240 in your relationship.

00:02:54.220 Oh, we met in the club.

00:02:55.300 Right.

00:02:56.100 So I, I would try not to meet a person in the club, honestly.

00:03:00.480 So when you say the best place to meet someone is online, how do you portray yourself in

00:03:05.300 the best way possible online?

00:03:06.940 What is your ideal?

00:03:07.800 So ideally, if you want to be wife material, I would make it be known that you had curves 1.00

00:03:13.840 without showing skin.

00:03:15.280 Okay.

00:03:15.960 There's a classy way to be sexy.

00:03:18.220 Right.

00:03:18.440 You know, the woman that's like very clearly built well, but is not showing it, but she's 1.00

00:03:23.960 still showing it.

00:03:24.660 Just there's clothes, right?

00:03:26.080 Yeah.

00:03:26.300 With a bit of mystery to it.

00:03:27.500 Right.

00:03:27.980 And it'll drive men wild because now if you go online and you look at a girl's account 1.00

00:03:33.120 and first of all, she's got the cleavage everywhere. 1.00

00:03:36.120 But if you just scroll down a little bit, you can see exactly what her nipples look like. 1.00

00:03:39.540 I don't want a woman like that. 1.00

00:03:41.580 I don't want that.

00:03:42.440 You know why?

00:03:43.260 Because a man gets a lot of value from other men out of how classy and how beautiful

00:03:48.000 this woman is.

00:03:49.080 And if she's out there promoting it to the world, number one, that's marketing. 0.89

00:03:52.660 So I'd never accept that as a man personally.

00:03:55.800 And then number two, everybody in that group is going to look down upon that man because

00:04:00.160 the woman is out there marketing and they've all seen everything he's got.

00:04:04.340 So the sacredness, which is one of the most beautiful things I believe that a woman has,

00:04:09.300 is now given away.

00:04:11.100 So I think it's very important to compete because you are competing against BBLs and boob jobs 1.00

00:04:16.000 and all those things. 0.51

00:04:16.660 But even if you get a boob job, there's a way to show that you have big poops and a busty 1.00

00:04:22.460 figure and you're in good shape without actually showing it, if that makes sense.

00:04:26.640 So there's a way.

00:04:27.340 What do you think about women that get plastic surgery to attract men? 1.00

00:04:31.320 Do you think that's a good idea?

00:04:32.180 I think it's smart.

00:04:33.140 I would do it if I was a woman. 0.98

00:04:33.940 If I was a woman, I would have fake boobs for sure. 1.00

00:04:37.040 If I didn't have, you know, you understand what I'm saying? 0.98

00:04:39.480 Yeah, let's not cap about that.

00:04:41.000 And I'd also be in the squat rack and I'd also be doing all the things that it took to attract men. 0.61

00:04:46.500 Beauty is very mathematical in a lot of ways.

00:04:48.520 The attractive things about a woman, like as far as bust and shape and all those things, 1.00

00:04:52.640 those things are very, very, very real.

00:04:54.860 And although it sounds shallow, it's the basis of the relationship is attraction.

00:04:58.020 So if you can be attracted to somebody and then be, and then another thing, I would be

00:05:03.540 at least well-read, understand politics, have a strong opinion because you're going to want

00:05:08.480 those kinds of things.

00:05:09.340 Because I do, there is nothing more attractive for me than a woman that is based.

00:05:13.400 If a woman is based, like. 1.00

00:05:16.300 Well, have a strong opinion about the right things.

00:05:17.920 Yeah.

00:05:18.060 If you're a communist, I don't want to.

00:05:19.300 Yeah.

00:05:19.600 Like, I mean, I mean, obviously.

00:05:21.420 Feminist.

00:05:22.100 Right.

00:05:22.540 And here's a newsflash for you.

00:05:23.700 Most, most successful men are based in pretty much conservative if you're talking politics,

00:05:30.000 right?

00:05:30.340 That's by and largely.

00:05:32.020 And then if you get a lefty that's successful, he's probably going to be kind of simply.

00:05:36.320 You're probably going to sacrifice some masculinity there, you know?

00:05:39.420 So for me, the right hobbies, I like the, I like the whole foods thing, but online and

00:05:45.160 then make sure you're the kind of class that a man says, okay, I can take her and like turn 1.00

00:05:50.720 her and build her and keep developing her because she's already on the right path.

00:05:54.960 She's already the right cloth. 0.68

00:05:56.660 Men often pick the wrong cloth, as do women, but having, being the right cloth from the 1.00

00:06:02.640 jump, you're giving that man a canvas to turn you into a queen. 1.00

00:06:06.620 So that's what I would do.

00:06:07.820 Can I ask the question?

00:06:09.040 Like, I understand what femininity looks like from a woman's perspective, but from a man's 0.73

00:06:13.420 eyes, like, what does femininity look like to you guys? 1.00

00:06:16.680 Because I might have a, we might have different opinions.

00:06:19.200 I don't think we do.

00:06:20.400 Oh, really?

00:06:20.900 Okay.

00:06:21.040 So what do you, what do you think the woman's perspective on femininity is? 1.00

00:06:23.680 I think femininity is someone who's calm, someone who's able to submit, someone who's 0.76

00:06:27.720 able to compromise, someone who takes care of herself and you guys just have the same

00:06:33.300 thing.

00:06:33.480 I think you want to be looking at watchwords like classy, demure, modesty, you know?

00:06:38.080 And when you're constructing, say like an online profile, it's those kinds of things you

00:06:41.840 want to be going for.

00:06:42.720 Like, like Justin has just said, I mean, you can look sexy, but nice dress, you know, not, not

00:06:46.860 going to sort of the Instagram hoe kind of route, you know, less is more, you know, in 0.99

00:06:52.060 it with a lot of these things.

00:06:52.960 Yeah.

00:06:53.120 Because you're selling it cheaper.

00:06:54.320 Yeah.

00:06:54.540 Yeah.

00:06:54.800 Yeah.

00:06:55.980 Oh, that's true.

00:06:56.940 Do any of you guys have any other dating questions for the guys?

00:07:01.420 If you'd want to know from like a man's point of view.

00:07:03.160 What do you think is the main problem with men nowadays and the women that they choose?

00:07:11.380 Like, why are they making certain mistakes?

00:07:13.640 I think that ethics happen a long time before you need them.

00:07:16.520 So men choose not to be in abundance in every area of their life.

00:07:21.160 They're not taking care of their fitness.

00:07:23.120 They're not taking care of their business.

00:07:24.620 They're not taking care of their career, their style.

00:07:26.620 They're not well read.

00:07:27.740 They're not doing all the things that they're supposed to be able to do to tell a woman that 0.99

00:07:31.800 comes into their life.

00:07:33.220 Hey, listen, I can't put up with this kind of behavior. 0.99

00:07:35.980 You can't have your titties all over the internet. 0.99

00:07:37.560 I can't accept that. 0.99

00:07:38.740 You have to be in abundance to tell a woman, no, the woman, and this is not to disrespect

00:07:43.020 women, but a woman needs to know that you can replace her. 1.00

00:07:45.500 You need to be that kind of man to earn that kind of respect from a woman. 0.99

00:07:49.220 And when you can get in a position with a woman where she knows you can replace her with 1.00

00:07:53.100 somebody else that wants to be classy, who wants to take that role, who wants to be submissive

00:07:57.960 inside a frame that you've earned, then you're in the right place.

00:08:01.160 And men, by and largely, are not doing that now.

00:08:03.940 They're playing the video games and doing the weed or whatever they're not supposed to

00:08:07.720 be doing.

00:08:08.580 And for that reason, they make sacrifices when it comes down to relationship negotiations

00:08:12.560 that they shouldn't make and they don't even want to make, but that's the only girl they

00:08:16.860 got.

00:08:18.000 And so if they would have been working on themselves the last few years, when it comes to

00:08:22.680 the point of something coming to a head, they can't look a woman in the eyes with conviction 0.96

00:08:26.580 and say, this isn't going to work.

00:08:27.840 I'm going to run.

00:08:28.960 I'm going to be the leader in this relationship.

00:08:30.880 They have to cater.

00:08:31.820 And what happens with that is she sees him buckle because he's not in abundance and then

00:08:37.120 she loses respect for him.

00:08:38.580 And if she doesn't leave him, she cheats. 0.98

00:08:40.220 What about the mistake that a lot of athletes make?

00:08:44.340 Because they also seem to end up sometimes with like...

00:08:46.480 Absolutely.

00:08:47.080 So there's buckets in life.

00:08:48.820 So the money bucket can fill up. 1.00

00:08:50.940 You can be the richest guy in the world and be a fucking dork. 0.99

00:08:54.280 You can also be completely jacked, ripped, you know, alpha, have game, all those other 1.00

00:09:00.200 things, be broke.

00:09:01.500 So a man can't just stop at one thing.

00:09:04.300 So if you were looking at like a schedule of values of things in life, you have to be

00:09:08.440 connected.

00:09:08.920 You have to have influence.

00:09:09.920 You have to have money.

00:09:10.920 You have to be fit.

00:09:12.220 You have to be worldly, well-spoken and be able to be articulate in a conversation to

00:09:15.880 communicate because a woman is really going to need communication because it's going to 1.00

00:09:19.600 get emotional, you know?

00:09:21.100 So you have to be stern and direct, but at the same time, a good communicator without

00:09:25.420 arguing.

00:09:26.320 A man has to have emotional intelligence.

00:09:28.020 I will never raise my voice at a woman, like a woman I'm seeing, I'll never raise my 1.00

00:09:32.960 voice because it tells her that I'll go down to a child level.

00:09:35.780 She has to respect me.

00:09:37.120 There has to be that dissonance because if she doesn't respect me, she's like, man, I

00:09:41.040 need to find a guy I respect.

00:09:42.200 I don't look up to this guy.

00:09:43.160 This guy can't handle it. 0.98

00:09:44.340 This guy is childish. 0.95

00:09:45.720 He'll come down here with me. 0.95

00:09:47.640 Yeah, that's not the way to do it.

00:09:49.480 So for me, a man has to handle all these different areas of his life and some of these buckets

00:09:55.760 fill.

00:09:56.040 And that's what you'll see sometimes you'll see a guy get ran over the coals because he's

00:09:59.920 an athlete.

00:10:01.000 So he had, let's say maybe fitness and money, but he didn't have all those other things

00:10:05.200 like frame and things like that to make him a leader.

00:10:07.860 And the next thing, you know, he's getting, he's getting divorced like that soccer player

00:10:11.880 that just got wrecked.

00:10:14.020 Right.

00:10:15.340 No, he got wrecked.

00:10:16.360 He actually won in that divorce.

00:10:18.200 Did he?

00:10:18.640 Yeah.

00:10:18.760 Cause she writes more money than him. 0.99

00:10:19.840 Secondly, right?

00:10:20.600 Well, but let's take any athlete that gets wrecked. 0.85

00:10:23.900 It happens.

00:10:24.740 They get wrecked because they, they look at that one bucket, particularly a money bucket.

00:10:28.760 A lot of times you see a lot of fat, rich guys, they get comfortable.

00:10:31.480 They think they're the big boss, but there's dudes out there competing in every category. 0.99

00:10:36.460 Yeah.

00:10:36.980 And you have to, and you have to have the frame, right?

00:10:39.200 That's true.

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00:10:45.960 on this platform.

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JustPearlyThings - April 24, 2023

The Only Place to Find Good Men

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