JustPearlyThings - April 24, 2023


The Only Place to Find Good Men


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

218.76048

Word Count

2,392

Sentence Count

171

Misogynist Sentences

31

Hate Speech Sentences

20


Summary

In this episode, we discuss the best places for women to find husbands, how to find a husband, and what to look for in a potential husband. We also discuss the importance of being a good wife material and how to present yourself in the best possible way online.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I'm curious to the guys, what are the best places for women to find husbands?
00:00:05.920 That's a good question.
00:00:08.760 Nowadays, a lot of it happens online.
00:00:10.480 A lot of people Instagram, but I think you should go put yourself in situations where
00:00:14.820 I think the farmer's market, go grocery shopping.
00:00:19.040 I think the church, you should go find a guy there.
00:00:22.920 A picnic, like a little park.
00:00:24.600 You know, just go to cute places.
00:00:25.780 I met a lot of great couples recently in Japan.
00:00:27.480 They met at the beach.
00:00:28.100 You know, I think that if you are in your feminine nature and you are doing things that
00:00:33.940 coincide with that, you can find that guy.
00:00:36.420 I hear a lot of females say there's a whole lot of accounts on TikTok that base their content
00:00:41.940 off of how to find a successful rich man or how to do this or how to do that.
00:00:47.220 And they usually say, they usually target Mayfair, Knightsbridge, go to this bar, go to this club.
00:00:53.980 The club, I wouldn't seek that out in the club.
00:00:56.280 I don't agree.
00:00:57.200 Immediately, you put yourself in the scenario that guys at that level are not looking for.
00:01:02.080 You don't want a girl who's clubbing.
00:01:04.180 I think what Sneeko said is important.
00:01:06.680 Being in your feminine energy, wherever you go, you're going to more likely attract a better
00:01:12.300 quality of man.
00:01:13.040 Because the problem with Mayfair and Kensington and Knightsbridge and these places is you're
00:01:17.480 going to meet a lot of guys who just want to have one night stands.
00:01:20.060 But equally, you're going to meet them online as well.
00:01:21.780 So it's really about the energy that you put out in terms of what you attract.
00:01:26.960 But I think as well, going to some more chilled out places, going to Borough Market, like he
00:01:30.540 said, go to Whole Foods.
00:01:31.440 You know, those kind of places, more likely to meet somebody who's a bit more authentic
00:01:34.440 than maybe the more superficial, glamorous.
00:01:36.660 Yeah.
00:01:37.280 The gym's good.
00:01:37.820 Although as long as you don't start filming him and putting it on TikTok.
00:01:40.060 Please don't do that.
00:01:42.800 What do you think?
00:01:46.760 It's hard because it depends on what you mean, how you define the man, right?
00:01:50.900 Whole Foods.
00:01:51.340 I don't grocery shop anymore.
00:01:52.580 So I don't think you're going to find a one percenter in there.
00:01:55.020 But at the same time, you know, you have to find them somewhere.
00:01:59.420 So I think Sneeko's dead on with the online thing.
00:02:01.560 And then it comes down to filtering and asking the right questions, but being respectful inside
00:02:04.960 those questions.
00:02:05.520 You know, say, and just be hand in hand honest.
00:02:08.100 Like, look, man, I'm looking for this kind of guy, you know, and 50, 60 grand.
00:02:12.940 He also nailed that.
00:02:13.860 That's not going to be a problem for you.
00:02:15.300 In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if you got a bunch of messages after this show, because
00:02:18.480 that's so very obtainable now.
00:02:20.320 Right.
00:02:21.160 So you need to aim higher.
00:02:23.340 Yeah.
00:02:23.780 And I think you could, I think, I think you could get higher.
00:02:26.300 Yeah, you could.
00:02:27.640 But, um, you know, also you have to understand that guys that are pretty well to do have pretty
00:02:32.340 well to do hobbies.
00:02:33.360 Bro, if I was a girl, I'd be playing golf like a motherfucker.
00:02:36.100 You know what I'm saying?
00:02:37.140 Even if you suck.
00:02:38.040 Yeah.
00:02:38.160 Even if you're trash, even if you're trash, you know, so it's like those types of things,
00:02:41.800 you know, where, where do, where do guys like that meet up?
00:02:45.220 Where are they?
00:02:45.940 And can it not be in a bar scene?
00:02:47.580 Because you don't want to meet somebody you're going to be with forever in a bar.
00:02:50.080 Because the first question you're going to get asked is, you have to carry that around
00:02:53.240 in your relationship.
00:02:54.220 Oh, we met in the club.
00:02:55.300 Right.
00:02:56.100 So I, I would try not to meet a person in the club, honestly.
00:03:00.480 So when you say the best place to meet someone is online, how do you portray yourself in
00:03:05.300 the best way possible online?
00:03:06.940 What is your ideal?
00:03:07.800 So ideally, if you want to be wife material, I would make it be known that you had curves
00:03:13.840 without showing skin.
00:03:15.280 Okay.
00:03:15.960 There's a classy way to be sexy.
00:03:18.220 Right.
00:03:18.440 You know, the woman that's like very clearly built well, but is not showing it, but she's
00:03:23.960 still showing it.
00:03:24.660 Just there's clothes, right?
00:03:26.080 Yeah.
00:03:26.300 With a bit of mystery to it.
00:03:27.500 Right.
00:03:27.980 And it'll drive men wild because now if you go online and you look at a girl's account
00:03:33.120 and first of all, she's got the cleavage everywhere.
00:03:36.120 But if you just scroll down a little bit, you can see exactly what her nipples look like.
00:03:39.540 I don't want a woman like that.
00:03:41.580 I don't want that.
00:03:42.440 You know why?
00:03:43.260 Because a man gets a lot of value from other men out of how classy and how beautiful
00:03:48.000 this woman is.
00:03:49.080 And if she's out there promoting it to the world, number one, that's marketing.
00:03:52.660 So I'd never accept that as a man personally.
00:03:55.800 And then number two, everybody in that group is going to look down upon that man because
00:04:00.160 the woman is out there marketing and they've all seen everything he's got.
00:04:04.340 So the sacredness, which is one of the most beautiful things I believe that a woman has,
00:04:09.300 is now given away.
00:04:11.100 So I think it's very important to compete because you are competing against BBLs and boob jobs
00:04:16.000 and all those things.
00:04:16.660 But even if you get a boob job, there's a way to show that you have big poops and a busty
00:04:22.460 figure and you're in good shape without actually showing it, if that makes sense.
00:04:26.640 So there's a way.
00:04:27.340 What do you think about women that get plastic surgery to attract men?
00:04:31.320 Do you think that's a good idea?
00:04:32.180 I think it's smart.
00:04:33.140 I would do it if I was a woman.
00:04:33.940 If I was a woman, I would have fake boobs for sure.
00:04:37.040 If I didn't have, you know, you understand what I'm saying?
00:04:39.480 Yeah, let's not cap about that.
00:04:41.000 And I'd also be in the squat rack and I'd also be doing all the things that it took to attract men.
00:04:46.500 Beauty is very mathematical in a lot of ways.
00:04:48.520 The attractive things about a woman, like as far as bust and shape and all those things,
00:04:52.640 those things are very, very, very real.
00:04:54.860 And although it sounds shallow, it's the basis of the relationship is attraction.
00:04:58.020 So if you can be attracted to somebody and then be, and then another thing, I would be
00:05:03.540 at least well-read, understand politics, have a strong opinion because you're going to want
00:05:08.480 those kinds of things.
00:05:09.340 Because I do, there is nothing more attractive for me than a woman that is based.
00:05:13.400 If a woman is based, like.
00:05:16.300 Well, have a strong opinion about the right things.
00:05:17.920 Yeah.
00:05:18.060 If you're a communist, I don't want to.
00:05:19.300 Yeah.
00:05:19.600 Like, I mean, I mean, obviously.
00:05:21.420 Feminist.
00:05:22.100 Right.
00:05:22.540 And here's a newsflash for you.
00:05:23.700 Most, most successful men are based in pretty much conservative if you're talking politics,
00:05:30.000 right?
00:05:30.340 That's by and largely.
00:05:32.020 And then if you get a lefty that's successful, he's probably going to be kind of simply.
00:05:36.320 You're probably going to sacrifice some masculinity there, you know?
00:05:39.420 So for me, the right hobbies, I like the, I like the whole foods thing, but online and
00:05:45.160 then make sure you're the kind of class that a man says, okay, I can take her and like turn
00:05:50.720 her and build her and keep developing her because she's already on the right path.
00:05:54.960 She's already the right cloth.
00:05:56.660 Men often pick the wrong cloth, as do women, but having, being the right cloth from the
00:06:02.640 jump, you're giving that man a canvas to turn you into a queen.
00:06:06.620 So that's what I would do.
00:06:07.820 Can I ask the question?
00:06:09.040 Like, I understand what femininity looks like from a woman's perspective, but from a man's
00:06:13.420 eyes, like, what does femininity look like to you guys?
00:06:16.680 Because I might have a, we might have different opinions.
00:06:19.200 I don't think we do.
00:06:20.400 Oh, really?
00:06:20.900 Okay.
00:06:21.040 So what do you, what do you think the woman's perspective on femininity is?
00:06:23.680 I think femininity is someone who's calm, someone who's able to submit, someone who's
00:06:27.720 able to compromise, someone who takes care of herself and you guys just have the same
00:06:33.300 thing.
00:06:33.480 I think you want to be looking at watchwords like classy, demure, modesty, you know?
00:06:38.080 And when you're constructing, say like an online profile, it's those kinds of things you
00:06:41.840 want to be going for.
00:06:42.720 Like, like Justin has just said, I mean, you can look sexy, but nice dress, you know, not, not
00:06:46.860 going to sort of the Instagram hoe kind of route, you know, less is more, you know, in
00:06:52.060 it with a lot of these things.
00:06:52.960 Yeah.
00:06:53.120 Because you're selling it cheaper.
00:06:54.320 Yeah.
00:06:54.540 Yeah.
00:06:54.800 Yeah.
00:06:55.980 Oh, that's true.
00:06:56.940 Do any of you guys have any other dating questions for the guys?
00:07:01.420 If you'd want to know from like a man's point of view.
00:07:03.160 What do you think is the main problem with men nowadays and the women that they choose?
00:07:11.380 Like, why are they making certain mistakes?
00:07:13.640 I think that ethics happen a long time before you need them.
00:07:16.520 So men choose not to be in abundance in every area of their life.
00:07:21.160 They're not taking care of their fitness.
00:07:23.120 They're not taking care of their business.
00:07:24.620 They're not taking care of their career, their style.
00:07:26.620 They're not well read.
00:07:27.740 They're not doing all the things that they're supposed to be able to do to tell a woman that
00:07:31.800 comes into their life.
00:07:33.220 Hey, listen, I can't put up with this kind of behavior.
00:07:35.980 You can't have your titties all over the internet.
00:07:37.560 I can't accept that.
00:07:38.740 You have to be in abundance to tell a woman, no, the woman, and this is not to disrespect
00:07:43.020 women, but a woman needs to know that you can replace her.
00:07:45.500 You need to be that kind of man to earn that kind of respect from a woman.
00:07:49.220 And when you can get in a position with a woman where she knows you can replace her with
00:07:53.100 somebody else that wants to be classy, who wants to take that role, who wants to be submissive
00:07:57.960 inside a frame that you've earned, then you're in the right place.
00:08:01.160 And men, by and largely, are not doing that now.
00:08:03.940 They're playing the video games and doing the weed or whatever they're not supposed to
00:08:07.720 be doing.
00:08:08.580 And for that reason, they make sacrifices when it comes down to relationship negotiations
00:08:12.560 that they shouldn't make and they don't even want to make, but that's the only girl they
00:08:16.860 got.
00:08:18.000 And so if they would have been working on themselves the last few years, when it comes to
00:08:22.680 the point of something coming to a head, they can't look a woman in the eyes with conviction
00:08:26.580 and say, this isn't going to work.
00:08:27.840 I'm going to run.
00:08:28.960 I'm going to be the leader in this relationship.
00:08:30.880 They have to cater.
00:08:31.820 And what happens with that is she sees him buckle because he's not in abundance and then
00:08:37.120 she loses respect for him.
00:08:38.580 And if she doesn't leave him, she cheats.
00:08:40.220 What about the mistake that a lot of athletes make?
00:08:44.340 Because they also seem to end up sometimes with like...
00:08:46.480 Absolutely.
00:08:47.080 So there's buckets in life.
00:08:48.820 So the money bucket can fill up.
00:08:50.940 You can be the richest guy in the world and be a fucking dork.
00:08:54.280 You can also be completely jacked, ripped, you know, alpha, have game, all those other
00:09:00.200 things, be broke.
00:09:01.500 So a man can't just stop at one thing.
00:09:04.300 So if you were looking at like a schedule of values of things in life, you have to be
00:09:08.440 connected.
00:09:08.920 You have to have influence.
00:09:09.920 You have to have money.
00:09:10.920 You have to be fit.
00:09:12.220 You have to be worldly, well-spoken and be able to be articulate in a conversation to
00:09:15.880 communicate because a woman is really going to need communication because it's going to
00:09:19.600 get emotional, you know?
00:09:21.100 So you have to be stern and direct, but at the same time, a good communicator without
00:09:25.420 arguing.
00:09:26.320 A man has to have emotional intelligence.
00:09:28.020 I will never raise my voice at a woman, like a woman I'm seeing, I'll never raise my
00:09:32.960 voice because it tells her that I'll go down to a child level.
00:09:35.780 She has to respect me.
00:09:37.120 There has to be that dissonance because if she doesn't respect me, she's like, man, I
00:09:41.040 need to find a guy I respect.
00:09:42.200 I don't look up to this guy.
00:09:43.160 This guy can't handle it.
00:09:44.340 This guy is childish.
00:09:45.720 He'll come down here with me.
00:09:47.640 Yeah, that's not the way to do it.
00:09:49.480 So for me, a man has to handle all these different areas of his life and some of these buckets
00:09:55.760 fill.
00:09:56.040 And that's what you'll see sometimes you'll see a guy get ran over the coals because he's
00:09:59.920 an athlete.
00:10:01.000 So he had, let's say maybe fitness and money, but he didn't have all those other things
00:10:05.200 like frame and things like that to make him a leader.
00:10:07.860 And the next thing, you know, he's getting, he's getting divorced like that soccer player
00:10:11.880 that just got wrecked.
00:10:14.020 Right.
00:10:15.340 No, he got wrecked.
00:10:16.360 He actually won in that divorce.
00:10:18.200 Did he?
00:10:18.640 Yeah.
00:10:18.760 Cause she writes more money than him.
00:10:19.840 Secondly, right?
00:10:20.600 Well, but let's take any athlete that gets wrecked.
00:10:23.900 It happens.
00:10:24.740 They get wrecked because they, they look at that one bucket, particularly a money bucket.
00:10:28.760 A lot of times you see a lot of fat, rich guys, they get comfortable.
00:10:31.480 They think they're the big boss, but there's dudes out there competing in every category.
00:10:36.460 Yeah.
00:10:36.980 And you have to, and you have to have the frame, right?
00:10:39.200 That's true.
00:10:39.720 As many of you know, I was just banned on Tik TOK and we are demonetized on a daily basis
00:10:45.960 on this platform.
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