The Pathetic State Of Relationships In 2023
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the difference between men and women when it comes to sexual assault and rape. We also talk about the different types of sexual assault in our society and how they affect our perception of women and men.
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man prioritizes, I think when a man prioritizes like the girl, his girl over everything, that's
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when these things can happen. I think a man should be on his purpose and a man should be on his ground
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and create like his purpose and then everything will fit around, you know, what he's trying to
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do as well. I feel sometimes when a man's just fully on, just trying to make a girl happy and
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fully trying to, you know, please her all the time and then she gets frustrated and then, you know,
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you know, loses respect for him and then these things can happen. Yeah, that's true. But I think,
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but I think that society makes men do that. Yeah, 100%. Because like, think about if me and you're
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in a contract and I gain everything by leaving and you lose everything by leaving, of course,
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you're going to do more to make it work. How could you not? And me, I'm paid to not make it work.
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So it's like, I think that the way that the laws are structured literally influence how we are in
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relationships with each other. That's right. Men can't really win. Men in
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always get the short end of the stick. No, they can't. So that's how it is then, yeah?
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No. But again, if you know this, if you know it and you, because there's knowing things and then
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there's accepting things. There's a lot of people know things, but not everyone accepts it. So if
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you know this, but you also accept it, then you're all right. You're in a good place. You understand?
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You've controlled the emotion. If you don't accept it, you're going to be pissed.
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Then you're going to get emotional because it is very unfair. But then again, life's not fair.
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Yeah. I mean, it's not that every woman will, but it's that every woman can. So if you have a child
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with a girl, because you can avoid marriage, but you can't avoid children, you just have to hope
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she doesn't do it. That's it. There's no real way to avoid it because men only get custody of their
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kids 10% of the time. It's a real deal. Yeah. I only know this because I'm doing a documentary on the UK
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court system now. So I literally interviewed these men and there's some of them where I'm like,
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I don't know how you could have avoided it. You got a girl that was from a nice home, two parents.
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You had everything. Like she had no red flags and she's still, they still do it.
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That sucks. But think about it. Think about it. It's like, okay, if stealing was legal,
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right. If it was legal to steal, right. You might be a good, you know, I'm not, I'm not a stealer.
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I don't steal things, but you know, if stealing's legal and every day I'm like tempted looking by all the
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people that are stealing, I'm walking by one day, I might just do it because it's legal and the
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system allows for it. So it doesn't necessarily mean like women are malicious and out to get you,
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but like, you know, it's a lot of power to give one gender in their favor. That's right. Yeah.
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But it goes back to like the society where we always view the woman as the victim. Like if I mean,
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do you guys know anyone that's been falsely accused of a crime? Like a guy? Yeah.
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Yeah. And like most of society just believes her. Right.
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It's like, even if you see in football, that you see that rapist is that, you know,
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Grapist, Grapist, Grapist, but you see, um, like when you have situations like that,
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you know, everyone just believes that that is a guy that did it.
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Do you know what I'm saying? Just because of what society, you know,
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the image of society portrays and that. So yeah, therefore.
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Yeah. It's another interesting point. Again, when you talk about like women,
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you were saying earlier about a lot of men not getting like a,
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not having sex basically. You know what I'm saying? And again, it's because women,
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they can be more picky because they're ultimately the ones saying yes or no.
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You can't have sex with a woman unless she says yes. You know what I'm saying?
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Whereas guys, you know what I'm saying? That's what guys are going to,
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their standards are going to be low. They're going to get anything they can.
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You know what I'm saying? Unless you're in a certain fraction of man,
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you know what I'm saying? Then your kind of options are a bit more.
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it's like an unprecedented time in history because women are a hundred percent in
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like the men would impregnate the woman if you didn't comply, you know,
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they're going to grape you, you know, like, so historically, like,
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like men have always been in control of reproduction where now women are
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for the first time ever in history with abortion being legal.
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Right. And men, like you have no say if I get an abortion.
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women are a hundred percent in control of relationships and sex.
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like how can we not say it's on the women because we're a hundred percent in
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Again, it's good that you're saying all these things because they're real,
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the facts that people probably don't even want to agree with them because they
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sound kind of a bit funny, but it's the, it's the realist.
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Yeah. Well, and it's not to hate on women. Like I think any group that has a significant
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amount of power, like I heard, I was just interviewing this guy who's like a,
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he made this book called the history of sex today. And he was talking about how back before,
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like, you know, in order to satisfy like the, the one out of three men that are either like the,
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the sexless men in a tribe, because if you didn't give them sex, like now we have corn,
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but before they didn't. So you had to give them something. Otherwise they get angry and start to riot.
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So they would literally like take a girl and make her have sex with like 20 dudes.
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Yeah. Yeah. Like that's what they would do historically.
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But now it's like, this is the first time where women are in control,
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a hundred percent control of sex and reproduction.
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What? So the gallim are digging up the mandem now?
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You mean the gallim are having sex with the guys and
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No, like, like, like, so before the women had to comply with what the men,
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like the strongest, fittest men wanted. So if you were in a guy's like with the,
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his tribe or whatever, and they're protecting you and he says,
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go sleep with 20 men. You got to do it. What are you going to do?
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So now the switch now is that like women are a hundred percent in control of who's born
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So, and we are a hundred percent in control of birth control.
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So if the, maybe if there was a male birth control, that was like the equivalent,
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because, okay. If I sleep with, if I sleep with you, right.
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I, we, we both, I know a hundred percent, like all the,
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Because like, I know if they're wearing a condom or not that like,
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that's the only form of birth control that men have, but women,
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it's like, you don't know if I'm ovulating or not.
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You don't know if I'm going to take the plan B.
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You don't know if I'm going to go get the abortion or not.
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Like women are a hundred percent in control now.
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And you can even say women are a hundred percent in control of relationships
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because what comes first sex or relationships nowadays in 2023.
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Yeah. Sex. And so it's like, it's like, if, if that's the case,
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Yeah. Women. Yeah, that's right. Women are in control these days.
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But again, if you're like a masculine man and you,
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you understand, keep to, you understand the masculine ways,
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Someone in the chat said they still sleep with 20 guys.
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Actually, I actually thought that when you said it,
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because women now like they're happy to sleep around with more than one guy at a time.
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You understand where that was kind of a lot more taboo nowadays.
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but it's like a lot of the rappers and these filming rappers,
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they've made it kind of like trendy to do that.
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you can diss him and move over to the next man.
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And again, it puts a lot of pressure on men in sex as well.
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But if you're having sex and sex is about having fun and pleasure with each other,
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Again, men always get the short end of the six that you can't, you can't win.
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That's mad, you know, to hear it as well as that sounds crazy.
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Well, I think they're trying to, like you said this,
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Man have to keep strong and keep firm and keep their emotions under control.
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And when you do that, then women will, you understand?
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I think a lot of people struggle because there's no one around them to, people get,
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a lot of guys get bad advice, you know, get bad advice from other people.
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I'm not talking about me myself, you know what I'm saying, you're a joker.
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no, the truth is a lot of men get bad advice from other guys as well.
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And that can influence them to like, not be able to manage emotions.
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Like it's a skill, do you know what I'm saying?
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You have to go through certain situations, be able to,
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because I feel like as a man, a man goes through certain situations,
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this character will get tested through these situations and it's up to him to
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like, you know, now when the character gets tested for him to, you know,
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Now, um, I learned from this and then I'm able to like, become more stronger.
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You can't just have, be like, have a skill where it's like, okay,
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It's everything's going to take practice and over time.
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But it goes back to like keeping the family together because like,
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how is it, how is a man going to learn from a woman how to control his emotions?
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Cause in my situation, like my family's been together, but it's been so that kind of like
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And you can see that in my situation, like, you know, you know, um, I've been around a lot
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of emotional men in my family and stuff like that.
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So it's, you know, and that can make someone like, you know, go off the edge, but you have
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to learn again from understanding the situation and learn and adapt and see what it is.
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But I feel a lot of people can be in situations, some of my friends as well, situations whereby
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they've grown with their mum and they've grown with their dad as well.
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But cause it's in a toxic kind of like, um, scenario and whatnot, they ain't able to like,
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They get frustrated and then, and then they go through no shit as well.
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I think the state of relationships makes like relationships worse.
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So the state of marriage and like long-term relationships, how like our, our generation
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really like even you, when you said six years, I was like, I don't know the last time I've
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had someone on the show in a relationship for more than six years.
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And, and so like that being impressive is a little sad when you think about it.
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It's happy for you, but no, but think about it.
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It's happy for you, but just like, it shows the state of society, but it's like,
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because we're always ha we both parties, mostly women have one foot out the door all the time.
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Cause every argument, you're not thinking about a solution.
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Or should I go or before marriage was for life?
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So you had to think of a solution because you couldn't go get divorced.