JustPearlyThings - July 13, 2023


The Reason For FAILED Relationships In SOCIETY


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10 minutes

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Word count

2,138

Sentence count

205

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Misogyny

38

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27

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Who is to blame for modern relationships? Women? Men or Feminism? Is it society, or is it the patriarchy? Who is responsible for modern dating? And why is it so hard for women to be emotionally available to men?

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00:00:00.160 Who is to blame for modern relationships, men or women?
00:00:06.100 Women. 0.81
00:00:06.500 Women. 0.81
00:00:07.020 Women. 0.81
00:00:08.180 Tell me why.
00:00:10.560 I feel like women are too emotional. 1.00
00:00:12.880 Okay, we're too emotional?
00:00:14.240 Yeah.
00:00:15.460 I don't get what you mean by blame.
00:00:17.860 Okay, I'll give you some numbers.
00:00:19.980 So, essentially, 100 years ago, 85% of people were married.
00:00:26.020 Or actually, I think it was 90.
00:00:27.160 It was 85% to 90%, because 85% was the virginity rate.
00:00:30.980 Okay, but let's say 90% of people were married 100 years ago.
00:00:34.100 Now, the average marriage is eight years, and there's a 50% divorce rate.
00:00:40.520 Wow.
00:00:41.080 So, who is to blame for this shift where it used to be you get married, you stay married.
00:00:47.960 Now, divorce.
00:00:50.600 I would say women. 0.95
00:00:52.160 Women have more power now. 1.00
00:00:53.300 Because, yeah, because they're ultimately the decision makers, not in a household, but, I mean, to, you know, for sex, for marriage, and it's a function of society with everything being pushed on you, social media.
00:01:07.020 There's so much options for them, and it's very easy for them to go.
00:01:11.120 Women don't take shit anymore, that's the thing. 1.00
00:01:13.220 Women don't take the bare minimum. 1.00
00:01:15.020 Women expect more, and that's probably why. 1.00
00:01:18.100 Yeah, but the answer is not Nikki.
00:01:19.660 It's the expectation.
00:01:20.620 You know, I'm going to take the woman's side for one second. 1.00
00:01:24.540 I think, as a woman, you can't expect the world, okay?
00:01:27.260 I really do.
00:01:27.980 And I think if you offer or bring anything to the table, but I think the average chick really doesn't, unfortunately. 1.00
00:01:37.720 It's not that bad.
00:01:38.300 I hear women throw around the word narcissist like it's a game of tennis. 1.00
00:01:43.540 Like, the thing is, is that not everyone is a narcissist.
00:01:45.760 There are people with narcissistic personality disorder.
00:01:48.240 Everyone has narcissistic traits.
00:01:49.720 And with women's addiction to social media, I think women are way more narcissistic than that. 1.00
00:01:55.620 And because of social media, the standards that they have for a partner is overblown compared to what it would have been when they were living in a small country town before social media ever existed.
00:02:07.340 And before our filters has existed.
00:02:10.780 Is that men's fault, though, for not being autistic? 0.67
00:02:15.600 It's women's fault of unrealistic expectations. 1.00
00:02:18.340 It's always men's fault. 1.00
00:02:19.240 The thing is, I've been friends with the type of girl who will literally do everything.
00:02:25.620 for male validation.
00:02:26.840 It's all about social media, wearing the certain things and doing the certain things.
00:02:30.600 I'm like, all you're going to get is just the fuck out of it.
00:02:32.960 Why are you trying to impress these people?
00:02:35.160 And then they'll do it.
00:02:35.960 And then they'll go, why has this guy hurt my feelings?
00:02:38.280 And I'm like, because you've given it up.
00:02:40.900 Like, that's your own problem.
00:02:42.620 Like, you have nothing to offer.
00:02:44.300 You've come to the table.
00:02:45.460 You've given absolutely nothing and expected everything.
00:02:48.120 And then you're wondering why he's left you.
00:02:50.060 Because you have nothing.
00:02:51.140 That's self-delusion.
00:02:52.660 I think women are incredibly, incredibly good at deluding themselves. 1.00
00:02:57.760 Yeah.
00:02:57.960 But that unrealistic expectation comes from, I think, the feminism push. 1.00
00:03:03.920 Totally.
00:03:04.440 Women were lied to for the last 10, 20 years that they are, you know... 1.00
00:03:09.600 I would argue 100.
00:03:11.120 Yeah, yeah.
00:03:11.880 100 years.
00:03:12.480 Strong as men.
00:03:12.980 Longer than that, yeah.
00:03:13.660 That, you know, feminism is the way to go. 1.00
00:03:16.520 That they're almost on an equal playing field to men when it comes to certain things.
00:03:19.640 Oh, to tack off that point, you said the original question was who's responsible for it, right?
00:03:24.100 Well, you could get really technical and say it was men because it came from a certain French
00:03:28.300 school of philosophy.
00:03:29.620 The idea of feminism and social Marxism came from French philosophers, I believe.
00:03:33.260 Really?
00:03:33.620 I thought it was...
00:03:34.380 It was a bunch of dudes.
00:03:35.260 Yeah, but the women are the ones falling for it. 1.00
00:03:37.160 I thought it was from Plato.
00:03:38.280 No, I thought that was the original because his interpretation of the Bible was, like,
00:03:42.340 basically that women had a higher, um, uh, what is it called? 1.00
00:03:46.160 It's like, like, he reinterpreted the Bible, basically, to the point where, like, the men 0.74
00:03:50.780 have to get wisdom from the women. 1.00
00:03:52.500 Feminism comes from the Bible. 1.00
00:03:53.620 But if Plato, like, you would have expected something to have happened a lot sooner if Plato...
00:03:57.520 Well, no, because I think that was the 1500s.
00:04:00.140 And you start to see feminism as, like, a social movement mainstream, like, the 1800s.
00:04:04.500 Yeah, I mean, um, so, I mean, you know...
00:04:06.600 It's like, if you go back to, like, Henry VIII, like, Anne, um, who was the woman that
00:04:11.580 got beheaded?
00:04:13.120 Anne?
00:04:13.520 Anne Boleyn, is it?
00:04:14.200 Anne Boleyn, yeah.
00:04:15.420 She originally wanted to start the NHS.
00:04:19.800 Like, that was her original plan.
00:04:21.800 Off with her head. 1.00
00:04:22.800 Off with her head. 1.00
00:04:23.920 Stupid idea.
00:04:24.500 The thing is that we didn't want...
00:04:25.140 This is what we do at work, you see?
00:04:27.000 Exactly.
00:04:27.200 It's just like, like, when we come up with ideas, we chop off their head.
00:04:32.100 Like, that's just the way it works.
00:04:33.440 But, no, like, it's things like that.
00:04:36.880 I think women are just far more impressionable. 1.00
00:04:39.200 Far more impressionable.
00:04:40.080 They watch one reality TV show, and it breaks their programming, and they've got to think,
00:04:44.440 okay, I've got to be like this woman. 0.90
00:04:46.060 You know, you watch one soap opera, and you go, I need to be living like Kim Kardashian.
00:04:51.940 No, because...
00:04:52.460 Think about it.
00:04:53.080 Think about it.
00:04:53.800 They're the ones falling for it.
00:04:54.860 Well, because we're so influenced.
00:04:56.320 They realized that we could be influenced by propaganda when the radio happened in the
00:05:00.780 1920s, because basically what they do is they say, women, this is this horrible thing
00:05:04.940 that happened, and then this is how you can solve it, and they'll either put, you know,
00:05:09.240 vote for me, or they'll put, buy this, whatever.
00:05:11.780 Here's this horrible, horrible problem.
00:05:13.620 They just, you know, tug at our heartstrings.
00:05:15.320 Because the opportunity arose, I mean, if we're talking about, like, America during the war,
00:05:19.780 like, they had the President Hoover, like, he did the Hoover chats, and most of them, the
00:05:25.520 fireside chats were women calling in and talking about their issues at home whilst their husbands
00:05:30.920 were off at war and stuff like that.
00:05:32.460 And obviously, the empathy would come more for them.
00:05:35.920 And then obviously, it'd be a lot of women listening to that same thing. 1.00
00:05:38.580 Yeah.
00:05:39.080 And it would just go on from there.
00:05:41.560 Well, and they've constantly put, like, propaganda, because again, we literally believe anything.
00:05:46.420 It's so crazy.
00:05:47.680 Because, like, even King, we were talking about how we do these shows, and we just hear
00:05:50.600 the same ideas from women over and over and over again.
00:05:53.660 And one idea that they put into our heads is basically, like, if you trust a man, like,
00:05:57.680 you need to have a backup plan.
00:05:59.360 You need to have a backup plan because he will abuse you.
00:06:01.920 He will this.
00:06:02.540 And that's why, like, every single show, it's, like, the first thing.
00:06:04.840 Somebody's going to bring up abuse.
00:06:06.060 Someone's going to bring up this.
00:06:07.420 Because, and then what they also did was they convinced women that we're abused and we're
00:06:11.040 not because they expand the definition of abuse.
00:06:12.880 So they basically put goddamn everything.
00:06:14.640 So they'll do coercive control, financial abuse, like, basically all these words to just confuse
00:06:19.900 you and convince you you were abused and you're the victim.
00:06:22.060 And it's, like, a whole system.
00:06:23.060 It's all social influence.
00:06:24.260 Every woman on social media now is pretty much the same. 1.00
00:06:26.440 They wear the same shoes.
00:06:27.320 They all get the same birthday cakes.
00:06:28.780 And that's how you can see, like, the reason you can see women are so influenced by propaganda 1.00
00:06:32.540 is because fashion trends.
00:06:34.680 Like, women are so quick onto fashion trends. 1.00
00:06:36.660 Like, you always want to switch our clothes.
00:06:37.440 And you can see the women for, like, micro trends and stuff like that. 1.00
00:06:40.340 Like, I think if you have, like, a staple wardrobe, like...
00:06:43.680 So we're all in agreement it's women? 1.00
00:06:45.620 Yeah.
00:06:46.080 Okay.
00:06:46.300 Well, obviously, you had the off-the-cuff opinion of it being, like...
00:06:52.940 I mean, if we're talking about the specific French philosophers who introduced it, they were a bunch of dudes.
00:06:57.860 I think you're talking about Martin Luther.
00:06:59.520 I think that's Martin Luther.
00:07:00.240 No, no, no, no.
00:07:00.480 I'm just...
00:07:01.200 I'm talking about a bunch of communists that came over and...
00:07:03.040 No, I'm just curious, like, where that was.
00:07:06.720 Because I just thought it was Plato in the 1500s.
00:07:10.020 Jordan Peterson has talked about that, the original social Marxists.
00:07:13.120 Okay.
00:07:13.720 Like, the guys who were trying to conflate, like...
00:07:15.200 Like, communism conflates, like, oh, it's the bourgeoisie versus proletariat, right?
00:07:19.340 Yeah.
00:07:19.500 And then social Marxism is it's, like, men versus women.
00:07:22.940 Pearl, I think Plato was before the Bible.
00:07:24.700 I think it's Martin Luther.
00:07:26.540 His reinterpretation of the Bible and pushing out feminist values.
00:07:30.820 No, no, I know it was...
00:07:32.340 I know part of it, I know I heard Plato.
00:07:34.840 Like, I don't know what the time...
00:07:37.020 I could be wrong on the time frame, but I heard it was Plato in the 1500s.
00:07:42.860 But, so, I'll actually...
00:07:45.380 I am gonna, you know...
00:07:47.660 I am gonna...
00:07:49.600 I'm gonna take an unpopular opinion.
00:07:51.800 It is not men at large's fault, but a small percentage of men's fault who gave women the 0.60
00:08:00.140 right to vote.
00:08:03.320 Because then, then, as soon as we got the vote, all the politicians had to cater to
00:08:07.800 us.
00:08:08.460 And what did we vote for?
00:08:10.300 Policies that broke up the family.
00:08:12.640 So, child support, alimony, no-fault divorce, and making things legal like birth control.
00:08:19.860 But, Pearl, how are you gonna convince a society now to ban the women vote or stop the women vote? 0.99
00:08:26.240 Well, I'm gonna try.
00:08:27.420 But, well, I mean, I honestly think net taxpayers would probably be...
00:08:33.540 Because this idea that everyone should get the right to vote, I just don't believe it.
00:08:37.000 Like, you need to have some skin in the game.
00:08:39.020 And the problem is, women, we own the majority of the debt. 1.00
00:08:41.520 We're just debt-ridden women, we spend all this money, and then... 1.00
00:08:45.200 Yeah, you can't just be some OnlyFans girl that gets a vote. 0.96
00:08:50.600 Is that what you're saying?
00:08:51.640 But the OnlyFans man can.
00:08:52.400 Is that what you're saying?
00:08:53.320 I'll be honest, the average OnlyFans worker, no.
00:08:59.080 But, you know, if they're a net taxpayer, I could get behind it.
00:09:03.400 Because it's not like all of them are going to be net taxpayers.
00:09:05.980 Yeah, when your tax bill is over $150K, you're allowed in.
00:09:09.940 I don't have a system ironed out, but I think women should give it up first. 1.00
00:09:14.160 But like women always do give it up first, that's the way it is. 1.00
00:09:18.240 What?
00:09:18.740 I was like, like women always give it up first. 1.00
00:09:21.120 That's the way it is.
00:09:22.640 Oh, yes, yes.
00:09:23.780 Sorry, what were you going to say?
00:09:24.820 I'm pretty sure there was a certain point in history where it was only landowners who were
00:09:28.200 allowed to vote, too.
00:09:29.360 Yeah.
00:09:30.080 That should be tax bill.
00:09:31.200 That was because the vast majority of people had a farm.
00:09:33.540 But there was males that represent the household.
00:09:35.740 I am open to ideas.
00:09:37.280 I just think we've got to take it away from the majority of women. 1.00
00:09:40.160 And I'll take one for the team, guys.
00:09:44.040 I'll give it up.
00:09:44.980 I can't wait.
00:09:45.540 I can't wait for you to give it up.
00:09:48.300 No, pay net tax.
00:09:49.700 Like as in you're more of a tax incentive than a burden.
00:09:53.360 Yeah.
00:09:53.960 You contribute more to the pool than you take.
00:09:56.000 Yes.
00:09:56.340 I agree.
00:09:57.320 Like, does it make sense to me that the homeless person who pays zero tax and lives off the
00:10:03.100 system gets an equal say in how we spend the money in the system?
00:10:07.240 Well, I'm pretty sure prisoners can't pay.
00:10:09.060 No, definitely not.
00:10:09.760 Yeah, but like it will be all about, it will literally be even more about money and the
00:10:14.400 people that are owning the money are going to have the more benefits and the people that
00:10:17.320 don't are going to be at the bottom of the pile.
00:10:19.180 Well, I think that's the privilege with paying for things.
00:10:22.480 It's like if you pay for the lights in a house, you have more of a say.
00:10:26.040 You have more of an ability of lights in the house.
00:10:28.880 Well, yeah, you, it's like, imagine like your kids got an equal say in your house that
00:10:33.940 you pay for.
00:10:34.440 Yeah, but they wouldn't though.
00:10:35.640 No, I know.
00:10:36.200 That's the point.
00:10:36.960 That's why I would argue you wouldn't.
00:10:38.380 But, you know, we don't have to go into it, but I bring it up every time I can, though.
00:10:44.420 I know.
00:10:44.860 I can see you getting excited.
00:10:46.020 I love talking about taking away the.