JustPearlyThings - The Reason Most Men CHEAT With Their Partners

00:00:00.000 on the flip side do you guys think there's ever a point where it's like it's been too long

00:00:04.980 like because in my opinion like if you haven't had sex with your husband in like two or three

00:00:09.140 years he's going somewhere i'm going somewhere too like like that's what i'm out like and i

00:00:18.900 wouldn't even blame them like our guys have to like do that i feel like it's easy for us to sit

00:00:24.140 here and write on your viewers are gonna hate me because i'm anti-man and that's fine it's very 0.51

00:00:28.180 easy it's a complicated ship it's easy to write off men and be like well they like they're fucking 0.79

00:00:33.140 animals no they're they're humans oh they can control well i don't i don't advocate cheating

00:00:39.920 i've never advocated cheating i don't think it's cool to cheat but what i'm saying is like i think

00:00:44.140 you have some level of responsibility as a wife to have sex with your husband and like so if you 0.99

00:00:48.980 haven't done it in like two or three years like i think i would understand if he left or told you

00:00:53.940 that's a part of being in a relationship that's a part of being in a relationship yeah two or three

00:00:58.760 years that's different than like if you go through like two or three months where you're not having

00:01:01.880 sex okay yeah no i understand not only that how complicated is the relationship or marriage

00:01:07.580 for that person to not want to be sexually active with you that's the thing like what is he doing

00:01:13.100 that's making her uncomfortable well have you ever seen a couple where the girl feels like she's 0.99

00:01:17.860 settled and she's not really into him but she just wants like kids you never seen that

00:01:21.820 i've seen that i've seen that no it's but i know but the guy but i'm saying but i'm saying a lot

00:01:27.940 of times the guy doesn't know that he doesn't know like but who knows she couldn't blame him

00:01:33.780 for that if he was to step out that's what that's what i'm saying yeah yeah

00:01:36.760 well right i mean i think like the guy if you cheat you're cheating and you're disloyal to that

00:01:47.140 marriage you made a commitment oh for sure he should leave he should leave yeah that's that's

00:01:53.260 a commitment yeah yeah right i'm with you i don't advocate cheating but i would understand if he

00:01:59.080 wanted to get a divorce on the grounds he hasn't had sex in three years if he vocalized that divorce

00:02:03.780 and that separation yeah issues and then called down his thing fair enough yeah if he was to go be

00:02:10.380 petty and be like cool i haven't got anything for my wife you might not even know the reason like say 1.00

00:02:14.620 she got abused or kidnapped or something or she didn't feel comfortable to tell you she don't

00:02:19.240 want you to look at her a certain way well it's understandable yeah but why don't we jump to be

00:02:23.140 communication yeah as well yeah definitely but it's still lack of communication on his part like

00:02:29.320 he can never say he was in the right no i'm with you i don't agree with cheating like i i'm never

00:02:35.600 going to advocate for cheating i don't think it's cool to cheat but i understand like where men are

00:02:41.380 coming from when they haven't like because there are that happens a lot they be getting

00:02:44.640 put on a bike and still go ahead go ahead go ahead also i think it's important to know like in the

00:02:50.240 day and age we're in there's temptation everywhere let me tell you if you have a fine man or a fine

00:02:57.700 woman there are people waiting waiting patiently waiting so it's like you kind of do like you know

00:03:06.020 okay also like i'm not saying women aren't but men are a lot more like visual yeah women we're a lot

00:03:12.100 more internal emotional what are you doing for me like like an exchange of like goods almost like

00:03:16.960 what are you doing that kind of turns us on yeah yeah the things you can like almost give us in a way

00:03:21.460 but like men are like they'll see something and they want it and they're like oh sparkly like

00:03:26.660 yeah well they're they're more they're more visual yeah and also sex doesn't as like like it's

00:03:33.780 it's not as much to them as it is to us as a woman i'm not gonna get a dick pic and be like

00:03:37.800 but as a man like he's gonna get a picture of a and he's gonna be like i need to fuck this bitch 1.00

00:03:46.380 right now so it's like as a woman also like you have to kind of be aware of that like bitches are 1.00

00:03:51.680 lurking yeah so you gotta you gotta say we can hold our own i feel like they should hold their own

00:03:57.880 like it's yeah i agree it's about what you want like if you really want this say i'm with a man

00:04:02.500 i've got my partner if i want my man enough no other guy will tell me like i could maybe look

00:04:08.920 at her and be like oh yeah you're fine as far i don't mean i want you though sexually or you can 0.76

00:04:12.860 just do you but i might think yeah you're attractive i think just as attractive doesn't

00:04:18.880 mean i yeah yeah and i could have a man well do you do you think cheating do you think do you

00:04:25.000 think cheating is different for men and women no really i think it depends um the principle

00:04:31.100 is the principle no no we're not we're not talking about we're not talking about the

00:04:34.800 principle though so what i'm saying cheating is different for men and women i think men

00:04:38.420 can have sex with someone they don't even like and never want to see again where girls like 1.00

00:04:42.780 i could do that too oh really but naturally men kissed like no like actually i'll just have like 0.98

00:04:51.160 you know what i'm saying like i've been in space in my life where i don't even need to like

00:04:54.240 yeah do you do you feel like that's the norm because i don't feel like that's what is the norm

00:04:58.940 what that who defines that norm i mean statistics and like

00:05:02.880 statistics general data anecdotal like you could take i was going to say that men are very much

00:05:09.860 heat of the moment type of cheaters and when it comes to women it sometimes can be more on the

00:05:14.960 emotional side because when you have a partner that you love dearly but you feel like you're not

00:05:18.960 getting enough from them emotionally you might try to find that out elsewhere yeah and that becomes a

00:05:23.560 problem and that's why oftentimes men feel like it's worse when girls cheat because they're like

00:05:27.540 damn that man is emotionally available okay and like you know my girl's happy talking to them

00:05:34.040 because women from what i've seen tend to cheat up so like if they're cheating it's like there's a 1.00

00:05:40.180 no no no no but i'm saying i'm saying like like we were even saying earlier we were even saying

00:05:49.360 earlier like oh we have to be worried about the ugly girl like you know you know because men will 1.00

00:05:55.100 sleep with like goddamn anything but like women like if you're cheating from what i've seen like 1.00

00:06:00.200 usually the guy that they're cheating with has something the partner doesn't have where the

00:06:04.520 girl if he cheats it's like she'll have nothing yeah yeah i i have cheated before hi nice to meet

00:06:10.440 i never said i was a good person so in my experience it was like mentally i was done like i didn't want

00:06:18.440 to be with this motherfucker anymore like i was no i'm so serious like i was like so done and like it 0.98

00:06:24.680 just he wouldn't leave me alone and i kept trying to bring up with him the nice way and then it was

00:06:28.340 like i felt stuck it for certain reasons and then i would just like mentally i was done i cheated and

00:06:33.780 i was like i don't care anymore because you hurt me in so many ways emotionally that's brought me to

00:06:37.380 this point where i don't care and like now looking back yes i regret those actions because that's not

00:06:44.500 right i could have just put my foot down and not been a weak bitch and be like i don't want to be 1.00

00:06:49.140 with you which i actually did do and he just like would tell me no i don't know how the fuck that 0.81

00:06:54.440 works probably like when my therapist told me i was bipolar and i told her no

00:06:59.640 but you know like i feel like for me personally not speaking for all women but it was like uh

00:07:05.320 i didn't care like because i was done i would left the relationship mentally way before i cheated

00:07:11.560 i feel like some women when they do cheat it's not like initially or like when they 1.00

00:07:17.800 it's not the intention yeah it will be like build up so they'll start talking to somebody they'll be

00:07:25.400 they'll be fed emotionally and then it gets to that point where it's like okay i'm gonna have sex

00:07:29.720 with you and i feel like not all women but i feel like that emotional like boundary is like set and

00:07:35.560 then they like keep building and then it ends up that's why that's why i watch the male friends 0.97

00:07:39.960 yeah trifling like yeah they just go out and do whatever they just pull up to the club and they're

00:07:44.920 like all right i'm taking you home exactly and then the other half are just like i'm not getting what

00:07:49.160 i need yeah i need i need to be fed somewhere else okay i gotta i gotta pause for one second we can

00:07:58.040 hold on so um next super chat sam mem mandy masa hashtag get pearl a date guys yes i have so many

00:08:09.560 people just lined up you would be shocked okay like so like like so many it's like i can't anyways um

00:08:23.320 um also the british girl is fine af he thinks you're fine yes um i am in a domestic discipline

00:08:33.240 relationship with my man what is that what is your opinion on dd relationships i'm the happiest i've

00:08:39.640 ever been carissa wilson i've heard it okay so i think that is um i saw this on i think it was

00:08:48.360 not lifetime but it was like my life or whatever on vh1 or something and it was this couple who um

00:08:58.680 the guy the man in the relationship they were married disciplined his wife and gave her rules 0.99

00:09:03.400 and like if you didn't follow this she would either have to write like an essay or something

00:09:07.720 or write things down or be punished in a way i'm not sure if that's her type of it's like

00:09:13.720 that's the type of definition what's the definition it says domestic discipline is a 0.97

00:09:18.520 relational approach that advocates wifely submission and male dominance through the

00:09:22.680 use of disciplinary tactics such as spanking i can actually speak on this because i am part of that

00:09:30.040 but however it's not always like male dominance female submissiveness like it's not always that 0.70

00:09:37.400 dynamic especially because right now i'm with a woman so like we kind of like switch on and off

00:09:42.440 roles with that but we more so do that in a positive light i don't know how to explain it

00:09:47.800 because it's not like you didn't make me a sandwich yeah go write a fucking essay like 0.99

00:09:52.040 no i didn't like that whipping them or something the way that her and i do it it's like it's like

00:09:57.240 the way that we do it is by uplifting each other like it's like you didn't do your affirmations

00:10:02.760 today like you did not speak highly of yourself today i will come back to you in 10 minutes like

00:10:08.360 make sure you do it but you're not gonna like wait wait what'd you say so what i'm hearing is

00:10:14.360 be with a woman forget all that actually me and my girlfriend have automations on for each other

00:10:20.520 where it says like yeah affirmations where it's like i'm powerful i'm beautiful so on and so forth

00:10:24.840 because we try to uplift each other as much as we can yeah so i know what it's like to be in that

00:10:30.040 type of relationship both sexually and like outside of a sexual um viewpoint but what about like the

00:10:35.880 like the more strict like like let's say you started dating girl or guy and they said this

00:10:40.760 is the strict like rules for you they have to develop that connection with me in order for me

00:10:46.280 to get that far but you could possibly get that far is what i'm yeah okay like that's fine what about

00:10:51.400 what about you yeah i feel like i that's to me that's kind of hot but like i've never been with a

00:10:56.360 man that like i'm a very dominant female energy like i've always i also just have control issues 0.90

00:11:16.280 because that's happened in my life i feel like i always need to be like in control also i'm a leo so

00:11:21.080 that just fucks me oh my god get out the door there okay wait finish your thought finish your 0.97

00:11:39.640 thought what was like so you were saying you think you would you think it'd be hot because i've never

00:11:44.040 been with a man that has been able to have like be able to handle me like that and so i feel like

00:11:49.800 that's something that i want because like i haven't no one's been able to handle me okay so

00:11:54.920 what i'm hearing is they pussy bitches like that's what i'm hearing it sounds like well they're they're 1.00

00:12:02.280 like not you know what are they called the alpha and the beta so it's like more of a beta i know

00:12:10.360 but you you know what i'm saying when i'm like you know what i'm talking about you could say more

00:12:14.440 feminine whatever go ahead i feel like personally sometimes i'm like is it my fault because do i like

00:12:18.520 like like subconsciously seek out weak not like weak but like men that are just like

00:12:23.320 no like control yes is it me am i the toxic one am i the drama

00:12:31.400 okay what about what about you guys would you guys be cool with a relationship like that no

00:12:38.760 but okay so not in the sense where it's like i feel like i'm being punished but the way that you

00:12:44.760 explained it i would like an uplifting type of relationship to where it's like both like where

00:12:50.040 i can step ahead and then like let you lead and everything is okay what if what if you're at a

00:12:54.760 you're at a guy's house right and then you just meet the man no no no no you're dating you're dating okay

00:13:01.400 okay and no you've been dating right and he you did something he didn't like and he says if you do

00:13:11.880 that again i need you to leave i'm out well i'm but well like did i like overstep a boundary yeah

00:13:20.040 probably it was something he's setting a boundary this is the first time you did something he found

00:13:24.440 disrespectful i don't you could but he and so he said if you're gonna do this like i'm not telling you to

00:13:30.280 leave now but if you do this again i like i'm gonna need you to leave okay because you're not

00:13:34.200 going to proper communication yeah yeah yeah at first it sounded like the man was just like get

00:13:38.600 the fuck out like if you put another sink in another dish in the sink no no it would it would be i 0.93

00:13:44.200 can't think of anything off the top of my head but yeah yeah what'd you say then proper what she said

00:13:51.320 for me that's communication like you're like you're setting me boundaries yeah i like it or not

00:13:55.880 that's you setting me boundaries i need to respect that because you're a human being you can set that

00:14:00.360 boundaries you're entitled to that yeah for example if i set those boundaries you need to respect that

00:14:04.920 like if you've told me if you did that again that that's not cool that's what you want from what i

00:14:09.640 from our relationship that's what you're from a relationship regardless that's me or another girl

00:14:14.120 or another woman whatever that's what you want so i need to respect that if i can't adhere to that

00:14:19.400 that's on me but it's different if you if i just mess up one time and you're like you know what get

00:14:25.160 the fuck out you're abusing me verbally you're physically abusing me like all of that that's 0.99

00:14:29.960 different but for you to vocalize how you feel and i'm still doing it again that's different

JustPearlyThings - July 16, 2023

The Reason Most Men CHEAT With Their Partners

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