JustPearlyThings - August 29, 2023


The Reason Women HARDLY Rate Themselves


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Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

222.23233

Word Count

2,443

Sentence Count

233

Misogynist Sentences

48

Hate Speech Sentences

33


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Do you think men prefer women that have abortions or would prefer a woman that didn't have an abortion?
00:00:05.600 From my experience, I feel like people have told me that the girl is usually the one that's causing issues trying to keep the baby.
00:00:14.400 And they want someone that's just...
00:00:15.600 So I'm saying a guy that wants a wife, right?
00:00:18.320 And he's going to look and there's chick A who's had two abortions in the past and chick B who's had zero abortions in the past.
00:00:26.880 Who will he pick?
00:00:28.740 The zero, obviously.
00:00:30.000 Come on, you know what he's on.
00:00:31.000 I don't know, because what if he's not even thinking about like that?
00:00:34.080 No, no, no, no.
00:00:35.000 He doesn't want children.
00:00:35.940 I just said he's looking for a wife.
00:00:38.260 He's looking for a wife.
00:00:39.600 You know, the guys that never get married, that's not what we're talking about.
00:00:44.440 What if that's not his specification?
00:00:46.280 What if that's not really a thing?
00:00:48.460 Well, a lot of men won't get married, I would predict.
00:00:51.800 What about now?
00:00:52.300 I'm talking about the abortion thing.
00:00:54.200 What if they're not thinking about that?
00:00:55.840 No, I'm saying if this is a normal guy that wants to get married and have kids and he has two choices, one had abortions, one didn't, who would he pick?
00:01:07.840 Probably the one with no abortions.
00:01:09.980 So I have a question for the ladies.
00:01:12.380 Why is women, is it so hard for us to rate each other?
00:01:16.280 Because people are just jealous, I feel like.
00:01:18.740 No, I mean, like, why is it that whenever we talk about better women and worse women, there's such a visceral reaction?
00:01:25.520 Like when we could talk about there's better men and there's worse men and like we could all generally agree.
00:01:30.760 But like when I say these women are better, like virgins are better than non-virgins.
00:01:35.080 It's like, ah, that's terrible.
00:01:37.140 Because I believe that the metrics are different.
00:01:39.560 When it comes to men, it's only about achievement.
00:01:42.100 When it comes to women, it's kind of physical features or something that women are not involved with primarily.
00:01:50.240 But then I understand that with like, for example, low body count or no abortion.
00:01:55.060 But sometimes it's just like how the woman is born.
00:01:58.340 It's not something that she can really.
00:02:00.860 I mean, I was going to say, I think, I think a big part of that is because women are predisposed to want to be socially accepted more so than men.
00:02:13.120 Yeah.
00:02:13.540 Right.
00:02:14.060 Whereas men like where not that we don't want to be socially accepted, but we care about, we prioritize other things.
00:02:20.820 Whereas women do want to be socially accepted.
00:02:22.680 So they don't want to say anything publicly, their actual opinion.
00:02:27.400 Right.
00:02:28.180 Because if other people agree with it, especially if it's other women.
00:02:31.600 Right.
00:02:31.840 And they work because women use their social connections and stuff to kind of keep themselves safe and to integrate and stuff like that.
00:02:37.420 So that's a big part why they would rather lie publicly because they're socially accepted as opposed to say what they really believe.
00:02:43.200 If it risks them.
00:02:44.040 I think more men compete.
00:02:45.380 The guy always wants to be the best guy in the room.
00:02:47.640 Girls don't want to be the best guy.
00:02:48.820 No, no.
00:02:49.120 I didn't say, I didn't say, I didn't say that girls don't compete.
00:02:51.340 I'm not saying we don't compete, but men compete more.
00:02:54.600 Definitely, the man always wants to be the top guy.
00:02:57.840 That's why a lot more men will stunt on social media and say they've got money that they haven't got.
00:03:02.080 Yeah, but you're proving my point.
00:03:03.060 Because men want to compete, right?
00:03:04.800 They understand that to compete, you have to, you being socially accepted cannot be a priority.
00:03:09.420 Yeah, exactly.
00:03:10.020 But if you want to be socially accepted, right?
00:03:12.520 You compete against other people, you're less likely to do that because you don't want to step on anyone's toes.
00:03:16.820 Men compete against men for what reason?
00:03:18.360 If you're trying to be successful to get a woman and marry her, like, why do you actually care what other men think?
00:03:23.680 Because resources are limited.
00:03:27.700 What do you mean?
00:03:28.740 Like, resources are limited.
00:03:31.000 Like, every, you know, check you want, another guy wants it.
00:03:33.980 Every woman you want, another guy wants it.
00:03:35.760 If you win, it's because you were more competitive and you were better.
00:03:38.300 So men are trying to take other men's females?
00:03:41.240 Well, she's going to end up with, typically, she's going to end up with one guy.
00:03:45.040 Whoever that guy is, depends on his level of competitiveness.
00:03:48.240 Again, would you marry someone that you took off your friend?
00:03:50.660 Well, I mean, if, I mean...
00:03:52.400 I know, guys.
00:03:53.520 But that's not relevant to what I'm saying.
00:03:56.200 But that's not relevant to what I'm saying.
00:03:57.840 What I'm saying is, let's say she's a virgin.
00:04:00.660 The first guy she sleeps with, who's that going to be?
00:04:03.360 Yeah, but how many people compete for virgins?
00:04:05.360 How many virgins even exist anymore?
00:04:07.220 It's like non-existent.
00:04:07.780 Well, I mean, there are a lot of men who do compete.
00:04:08.880 Is anyone a virgin in this room?
00:04:10.860 Yeah, but I mean...
00:04:11.520 No.
00:04:11.800 Yeah, but if you let me finish my point, what I'm saying is, well, firstly, a lot of guys
00:04:15.620 actually do compete for virgins.
00:04:18.060 But really and truly, the point I'm trying to make is...
00:04:20.020 They would have been existed.
00:04:20.500 Exactly.
00:04:21.060 But resources are limited.
00:04:22.540 That's the thing, they don't.
00:04:23.640 Go back 100 years ago, maybe they did compete for virgins, but he's staying in.
00:04:27.300 Well, actually, hold on, guys.
00:04:28.780 I'm going to let you go ahead.
00:04:29.860 Finish your point.
00:04:30.680 Go ahead.
00:04:31.260 Yeah, I mean, all I'm saying is resources are limited, which means you must be competitive.
00:04:34.920 Why is a woman going to go with man A over man B?
00:04:37.800 There must be a reason.
00:04:39.020 There must be a criteria.
00:04:40.360 Otherwise, what's the point?
00:04:41.300 The criteria is he has more resources.
00:04:44.140 Even with that example you used, I would argue that if, say, like a guy steals a girl off
00:04:49.300 another guy, they won't, they won't, if the other person finds out he doesn't really care
00:04:55.120 what the guy thinks, whereas the other way around where the woman finds out...
00:04:58.540 Why would you be trying to steal someone's girl if you're trying to think about marriage?
00:05:01.140 No, but I'm saying if the woman finds out that he had a girlfriend, most of the time,
00:05:04.320 a lot of the time, they will tell the other girl because they don't want the other girl
00:05:07.600 to think that she's like a whole or whatever.
00:05:10.060 But that girl is a hoe.
00:05:11.560 If she's with someone and then she leaves that guy to go with the mate...
00:05:14.020 No, but the point is, is that the guy wouldn't care, the guy wouldn't care and wouldn't tell
00:05:16.200 the other guy.
00:05:16.440 Maybe not, but you're not wasting your time because there's a lot of single females out
00:05:19.980 there.
00:05:20.200 So why do you need to piss about trying to take in your months?
00:05:22.180 But that's not the point.
00:05:23.020 The point is that it doesn't care.
00:05:25.040 Yeah.
00:05:26.040 Sorry.
00:05:27.040 Sorry.
00:05:28.040 The thing is, women are actually going back to the fact that women are actually more scared
00:05:32.360 of what other women have to say about them.
00:05:35.100 We are judged harshly by our own gender.
00:05:40.580 And I think that actually matters more to us than what a man thinks.
00:05:44.540 And who calls, who calls women whores more men or women?
00:05:48.040 Women.
00:05:49.040 Yeah, exactly.
00:05:50.040 It's, it's actually disgusting how women speak about other women.
00:05:54.040 Um, and I think that's why we don't want to be, like you said, we don't want to be so open
00:06:00.580 about things because, yeah, because we just don't want the other girl to call us a slut
00:06:05.700 or something like that, you know?
00:06:06.700 So would you be more concerned about a girl knowing your body count over a boy?
00:06:12.380 No, you wouldn't.
00:06:13.700 You don't care if the girls know who you think.
00:06:15.580 They don't judge you like that.
00:06:16.580 No, but women would shame.
00:06:17.580 They don't judge you as slut.
00:06:18.580 I feel like it's the same.
00:06:19.580 When they fall out.
00:06:20.580 When they fall out.
00:06:21.580 But men's like each other.
00:06:22.580 I would say a guy because a girl's going to tell everybody.
00:06:25.580 Yeah, but I agree with that.
00:06:27.580 So then you're more worried about men's opinion, not females then, aren't you?
00:06:30.580 Because you'll happily tell your friends.
00:06:31.580 Because the women are competing for men.
00:06:33.580 Yeah, that's why.
00:06:34.580 Yeah, but you don't need to compete against each other.
00:06:36.580 Yeah, you do.
00:06:37.580 Who else are you competing against?
00:06:38.580 If it's not each other.
00:06:39.580 It is.
00:06:40.580 It's like competition, basically.
00:06:41.580 A random go.
00:06:42.580 Not necessarily friends, but just like every other girl in the world, like you're competing.
00:06:45.580 Well, and it's competing for attention.
00:06:47.580 No, I agree with that.
00:06:48.580 Absolutely.
00:06:49.580 It's competing and it's always like competing with like, oh, if a girl has the best guy,
00:06:55.580 like if she's got a boyfriend who's got a lot of money, that's such a big thing for women.
00:06:59.580 Like they will literally hate on you for that.
00:07:02.580 It's such a big thing.
00:07:03.580 That's very shallow.
00:07:04.580 That's how we prove.
00:07:05.580 But we're not talking about good and bad.
00:07:07.580 We're talking about what is.
00:07:08.580 And even women look at men, like they're in a relationship and let's just say, let's just say quote unquote,
00:07:13.580 the woman is less good looking than the man.
00:07:16.580 Yeah.
00:07:17.580 The woman's onto like literally slagging off the girls.
00:07:21.580 Yeah.
00:07:22.580 You're this, you're this, you're this, you're this.
00:07:23.580 Like just because the man chose someone as deemed less attractive.
00:07:26.580 Exactly.
00:07:27.580 But you don't know whether that woman has qualities of that he's looking for.
00:07:30.580 But a girl would, or a woman would, they're not really women.
00:07:33.580 They're just girls.
00:07:34.580 Like they just go for that attack.
00:07:36.580 And they will go for that guy.
00:07:37.580 If they see like, you are very successful, pretty woman.
00:07:41.580 You've got it.
00:07:42.580 You know, you've got so much going for you and you're with that guy.
00:07:44.580 She's not really looking for much substance.
00:07:45.580 They're going to be like, if she's with that guy, then that guy's got something very valuable.
00:07:50.580 And I need to get that guy.
00:07:51.580 That he can sustain a relationship.
00:07:53.580 Preselection.
00:07:54.580 But this is just how women think.
00:07:56.580 Girls are just, yeah.
00:07:57.580 This is how women think.
00:07:58.580 I don't agree with it, but unfortunately we have to be real.
00:08:00.580 A lot of women are unhappy because you're fighting over girls, man.
00:08:02.580 Like what the fuck?
00:08:03.580 And that's why it's so hard to have real friends, girlfriends.
00:08:06.580 I think what the actual reason is, it's just females have already made that mistake and they don't fall into that category.
00:08:11.580 So it's hard for them to speak about it.
00:08:13.580 They simply can't refer to their own experience.
00:08:16.580 They've already made that mistake.
00:08:17.580 But that comment that you all agreed on was mad.
00:08:19.580 Like you said that if you see...
00:08:20.580 Which one? Sorry, can you just repeat it?
00:08:22.580 Yeah, that if you see a girl with a guy and they're happy or he's successful, you're going to hate on that woman.
00:08:29.580 That's so common.
00:08:30.580 This is real life.
00:08:32.580 Every day.
00:08:33.580 This is real life.
00:08:34.580 That is real life.
00:08:36.580 So when your friends are happy and get married, you hate them.
00:08:39.580 Maybe they're friends.
00:08:40.580 Yeah, women do that all the time.
00:08:42.580 Yes.
00:08:43.580 Are you joking?
00:08:44.580 We're not talking about what's right and wrong.
00:08:47.580 We're talking about what is.
00:08:48.580 And they will do something.
00:08:50.580 They will actually go out of their way to sabotage your marriage.
00:08:54.580 Are you kidding me?
00:08:55.580 It may not be us sitting in the room.
00:08:57.580 So we're just going to sit and agree with it as women rather than stand up and say stop doing that.
00:09:01.580 No, it's sad.
00:09:02.580 Be happy for your drink.
00:09:03.580 No, no, no.
00:09:04.580 We agree with it, but we want it to stop.
00:09:06.580 Like we do not condone it.
00:09:08.580 We don't want to be part of it.
00:09:09.580 We don't want to be part of it.
00:09:10.580 But we're just saying that this is our reality as women.
00:09:13.580 We tear each other down.
00:09:15.580 None of my friends would ever, ever call me for being with.
00:09:19.580 They would be happy.
00:09:20.580 I'd be happy.
00:09:21.580 If one of my friends got married to a millionaire tomorrow, I'd be like, yes, girl.
00:09:24.580 And my never going to sit there and go, I want your mum.
00:09:26.580 And so would I.
00:09:27.580 Right, so then most of the females don't think that then.
00:09:29.580 If all of you are saying that you'd be happy for your friend to marry a millionaire, then that's wrong then, isn't it?
00:09:34.580 Females don't think like that.
00:09:35.580 No, because we don't listen to what we're talking about the majority.
00:09:37.580 Wait, wait, wait.
00:09:38.580 We don't listen to what women say.
00:09:39.580 We watch what we do.
00:09:40.580 And there's trends and there's patterns.
00:09:41.580 This is what we see on a day-to-day.
00:09:43.580 Because at the end.
00:09:44.580 It's a thing.
00:09:45.580 You know, your mum will warn you about it.
00:09:47.580 You know, your big sister will give you advice about it.
00:09:49.580 I think it depends on your friendship.
00:09:50.580 It sounds like you're all chilling.
00:09:51.580 And they don't believe it until they see it as well.
00:09:53.580 I pointed it out a few times and then eventually they will actually see it and be like, hmm, yeah.
00:09:58.580 And the thing is, men always say women, but maybe it's true.
00:10:03.580 Men are so good at spotting it as well.
00:10:06.580 Like a guy will always spot like that girl is that way.
00:10:09.580 Yep.
00:10:10.580 They're really good at spotting that.
00:10:12.580 And men will be unattractive.
00:10:13.580 Just to point out, because I noticed you're just, you're just basically trying to combat everyone.
00:10:17.580 You realize that you can actually look at the world outside of yourself and outside of your friend.
00:10:22.580 Yeah, but all of these girls have said that, then said that they wouldn't hate their friends for it.
00:10:26.580 So the majority in this room wouldn't.
00:10:28.580 That's us.
00:10:29.580 If only everyone was like us.
00:10:30.580 I'm just saying that the conversation we're having is not about anyone specific.
00:10:34.580 It's not personal to anyone seated here.
00:10:36.580 It's just an observation.
00:10:37.580 You can observe the world as an observer.
00:10:39.580 You don't have to have experienced something to see that things actually happen.
00:10:44.580 Okay.
00:10:45.580 Sorry to say something.
00:10:46.580 The women are all competing for the same men.
00:10:49.580 All the women.
00:10:50.580 No, they're competing for the same.
00:10:52.580 If it's not the one, the same pool of men at the end.
00:10:55.580 Yeah.
00:10:56.580 That's why this hatred is there.
00:10:57.580 Yes.
00:10:58.580 Yes.