JustPearlyThings - The REASON You Can't take a Woman's Advice

00:00:00.000 what do you guys think is the biggest red flag in the opposite gender so in in men what is the

00:00:07.180 biggest red flag no communication lack of communication so if they don't text you no

00:00:12.620 not communication in that sort of way like i can go all day about texting someone it doesn't really

00:00:16.300 bother me but when i say communication when it comes down to things that matter okay like what

00:00:21.040 so feelings for one maybe no not maybe definitely okay so if they're not telling you they like you

00:00:29.620 not saying that they like me no but like for example how can i put it just just communication

00:00:35.860 in general just knowing where people are at if that makes sense or for example i believe relationships

00:00:41.520 aren't 50 50 they i don't i don't think that's a thing and i don't think it ever has been a thing

00:00:45.800 some days relationships can be 80 20 or it could be 40 60 but it's the fact that you you in how can i

00:00:54.740 explain it just in order just just general basic communication like how was your day and not just

00:01:01.840 saying oh yeah i'm okay thanks like actually getting in debt with it who do you think communicates better

00:01:06.880 men or women men logically yeah men men are very direct and forward and to the point where women 0.99

00:01:13.980 have the tendency to just absolutely flap around like and they end up going from men go from a to b

00:01:19.740 it's like story start middle finish whereas women go from here to here to here to here to here and 1.00

00:01:24.500 then and then they finally get to the just after the end and then they gotta go back to the middle

00:01:27.760 and then they finally get to the end and it's like whoa and i know women do a lot women do do a lot 0.91

00:01:33.400 but like men some men just find it i think find it difficult to communicate like i'm like i just

00:01:40.860 want to know communicate what just how like not even how they feel like about the relationship or

00:01:45.700 anything like that in general wouldn't that just mean he's not into you yeah in a way yeah i get

00:01:50.680 that but i mean just general communication doesn't matter whether it be with a partner in that sort

00:01:55.640 of way or whether it be do you find that communicating more with women solves problems or gives you more

00:02:02.680 problems depends on what you're communicating about that is the question it depends on what you're

00:02:07.600 communicating about who's involved in the conversation and i need it please don't no no no it depends i need

00:02:14.500 you to i need you to give me one way or the other um wait repeat the question again all right do you

00:02:19.920 think communicating more with women gives you more problems or less problems yeah more more yes more 1.00

00:02:25.940 because they make you ever think everything i know so then why why do you think they stop doing it

00:02:29.700 it's true it's true the real joke is that she said communication is a red flag and literally you just

00:02:37.940 had a serious problem communicating you know i mean as a red flag like not not being able to communicate

00:02:42.940 is a massive red flag like if you're upset tell me why you're upset and we'll work through it

00:02:47.380 together like that's exactly what i'm just saying yeah you're limiting yours to just in a relationship

00:02:53.140 and when it comes to sex and feelings and all that but you can't even communicate the point across

00:02:57.760 now so how would you even be able to communicate in a relationship oh sparingly probably yeah

00:03:03.520 no but so i'm saying on a first date red flag first date red flag oh if they've got a bad breath

00:03:08.720 or if they've got like horrible teeth okay yeah that's got to be a problem out here the teeth

00:03:13.180 is like oh the tears are known for like i haven't noticed it too bad out here but i'm like i've

00:03:19.120 just heard you guys are known for the bad teeth see like crooked smiles i don't deal with no

00:03:23.120 crooked crooked teeth i can deal with but like see like oh if they're like dirty and grimy and

00:03:29.080 no i couldn't do it red flag will you will you ghost or will you text them that you're done with

00:03:35.680 i'm too nice i have to text them you'll text i'll just go along with it a little bit what will

00:03:39.480 you say in the text if you're if you're done with the date there's the crooked teeth you got to go

00:03:44.000 oh but it was really nice meeting you like i'd see you again soon probably not no and then after

00:03:49.900 that like so so you do ghosts like yeah yeah that wasn't a ghost i don't yeah i do i mean i try not

00:03:58.360 to i try to make it a little bit better for myself i'm trying to justify it it's all right

00:04:02.640 it's all right it's all right like let's we're we're gonna get off our mind more okay i try and do

00:04:06.880 it i try and do it the nicest way but yeah i do do it i do do it all right biggest red flag

00:04:11.480 um i would say touching back on the communication in dating if you haven't like if we're dating i

00:04:20.200 expect you to check up on me i would say every day so if he's not checking up on you every day

00:04:27.120 if you're not checking up on me um you're airing my calls or you're not responding to messages

00:04:33.120 like it just shows that you're not interested and then you will come back and say oh why like why

00:04:38.740 can't you come back and say oh i'm working i'm busy um i'll get back to you just having that

00:04:44.400 communication there just shows two things either you're not interested or yeah like it's it's a bad

00:04:51.800 point so what if what if he is interested and is there anything he could do to make you not

00:04:56.940 interested um so like it's going like he's showing that he's interested in you but yeah but this

00:05:03.320 happened now you got a ghost or or text i mean it depends which way you go um having multiple

00:05:09.780 girlfriends having multiple girls as friends oh oh female friends yeah do you have male friends

00:05:16.720 uh not really you know not really so you do or you don't um i would say about i would say i have

00:05:25.260 how about four you have four male friends yeah i'm a girl's girl okay i don't really have male

00:05:31.100 friends wait so you have four male friends yeah but but okay but but he can't have female friends

00:05:37.380 no he can but um no more than so like a female best friend that's a red flag okay but you can

00:05:44.120 have your four male friends it's all right it's all right just be honest it's all right okay so you

00:05:50.220 know like with a female best friend i know that you'll go into your female best friend to confide

00:05:55.080 in her and tell her oh you confide in your male friends be honest um for example if say okay say the

00:06:04.080 guy's not communicating with me very good question and he i don't know he's not answering calls and

00:06:13.260 he's not applying to messages i might go to my male friend and say oh is he interested in me

00:06:17.640 so you do okay yep all right all right all right do you do you think your male friends are attracted

00:06:24.240 to you no uh no you don't think they're no god they like they like listening to your feelings so

00:06:32.340 so you think they think you're ugly i i don't know i've never i don't know uh no i wouldn't think

00:06:41.600 they think i'm ugly but i don't think they look at me like that is do you have you ever heard the

00:06:48.000 phrase men will anything do you think that's true yes or no yes or no um yeah yeah okay so you do

00:07:03.260 think they would want to sleep with you

00:07:14.940 we can we can we can test it yeah do you want you want to call them now wow wow

00:07:22.440 you can show them the show later and show them that this isn't real but just to see

00:07:29.580 and say what well just just say you know it's late i've been thinking why haven't you and i

00:07:37.160 gotten together

00:07:38.000 all right all right now you can't you have to make them think it's real i don't know how you guys talk

00:07:51.100 but you got to talk normal put on speaker thank you if they answer let's see

00:07:56.880 okay i knew your phone better not ring right now sweating um let me silence it

00:08:06.900 hope you didn't send a warning text first no i didn't because you were typing for really long

00:08:22.380 no i was trying to find pink or somebody don't answer

00:08:26.160 oh they're not answering

00:08:30.980 yeah

00:08:36.240 no my signal's bad up here oh get her the wi-fi we'll fix it don't worry

00:08:44.240 we got good service up here you can come on rome that's all right

00:08:56.420 how many so would you be comfortable if he had four female friends that were trying to sleep with him all 1.00

00:09:05.720 all the time no no but is this a bit of a double it's okay it's okay but is this a bit of a double standard

00:09:14.400 the four guys that i would class with my friends they're not my best friends okay there's a degree of separation

00:09:21.180 they're just friends but you do talk to them about him yeah like i may go to advice here and there but i know a best friend is someone who you speak to me speak to continuously every day

00:09:31.500 okay we'll try one more time for fun i'm here to have a good time you know

00:09:38.500 yeah i don't want to say that's all right just keep your sound on in case they i'll let you you put your sound on

00:09:58.500 if they call back feel free to answer okay all right what about you red flag on a first date

00:10:04.040 we're talking about surface level red flags has to be uh not taking care of yourself so

00:10:10.620 the way that would show up on a first date would be drinking vaping

00:10:14.240 yeah those would be the obvious ones okay and will you ghost after will you send her a text

00:10:20.620 like you're not interested anymore either one which one do you do more

00:10:26.480 i don't really go on dates but you know you don't go on any dates not not has to has to break a major

00:10:33.540 barrier to even get to that point so i'm not even risking i'll never risk being on a date and then

00:10:38.860 finding out about the red flag you know i mean i have to have a high level of confidence even

00:10:42.740 so you have to like be friends with her first before you take her on a date not to say friends

00:10:47.080 but be you know familiarized yeah you have to like know her you wouldn't meet her off an app or anything

00:10:51.320 no no i mean you could meet but it have to be like some some investigations and some interrogation

00:10:57.140 you'll go through her ig yeah whatever speak a good amount understand yeah what is this person

00:11:02.280 about okay and no no ghosting it's like 50 50 yeah either one no no affinity to could be ghosted

00:11:11.200 could be very straightforward and just let them know dimitri back in the day well so the again it's

00:11:17.120 like how you meet the person matters like for example today in 2023 i find that some women 1.00

00:11:21.660 as i'm seeing the internet and it appears some women have penises that would be a very big red flag 0.98

00:11:26.140 uh an immediate disqualification um but if i were to be honest like because i can talk more honestly 0.99

00:11:33.240 now because like i have no skin in the game it's just be she's fat like that's just like sorry but 1.00

00:11:37.640 like you made a critical error in your decision making and i see you as a risk uh to any potential

00:11:43.020 anything period and i can go much deeper into that but that's like a that's a miscalculation

00:11:47.440 on your part so it's a no okay so but you wouldn't know if she was fat before the date well again i'm

00:11:53.340 saying it's like the context of what do i know because like like i can see obviously like we can

00:11:57.500 get catfished into that so if you misrepresented yourself that's like you're immediately an

00:12:01.640 untrustworthy person what what was like a red flag on a first date like it's going well and then

00:12:06.440 she but she did um my goodness man i mean how transparent i mean again like there's you can

00:12:13.260 list them all go on like like the thing for me is like transparently like i'm a salesman and i know

00:12:19.460 like i am i am a salesman and like as the salesman my goal is always to close and so when i went on a

00:12:24.580 date like transparently my goal was to get laid and it was specifically entirely to get laid and everything

00:12:29.760 i did and the way i optimized my actions through and that sounds like a psychopath but the way that i

00:12:34.220 optimized my actions through a number of iterations of dates was like i want to get laid on this date

00:12:37.840 right um and and and again i'm gonna get like super castigated for this in the comments good

00:12:43.740 great like i had gone on enough dates because i started approaching women and i started like hey 0.63

00:12:48.660 what's your name hey i thought you were cute i wanted to say hi i'm not at the level of these

00:12:51.580 results guys now are but i was very passionate about that because i like to make myself uncomfortable

00:12:56.420 and cross the barrier into the new comfort zones right which is i'm a salesman like how did i make and

00:13:01.080 how do i make money i pick up the phone i cold call and i learned to iterate optimize and then

00:13:05.040 transform time and energy into money right um and i became extremely proficient at like the meet and

00:13:11.000 close like i'm gonna meet you and you know within about three hours because i'm gonna you know this

00:13:15.640 dilute time through taking you to various venues whatever the that stuff was at the time that's what's

00:13:21.240 gonna happen um so i don't know if i could so maybe she stays the night but she did something and 0.99

00:13:27.240 made you not call her i'm asking like what would make you not call a girl um i think i think i think

00:13:31.620 what happens is over time is if you are successful that you start to notice some pretty uh resounding

00:13:36.560 patterns like if a girl says i never do this it means she always does it you know uh so if a girl

00:13:41.260 starts to give me signals of virtue that i know she's actually covering for the fact that she is

00:13:45.000 promiscuous um which is very i okay it is incredibly um hypocritical of me to say that obviously if

00:13:52.520 i'm optimizing to get late and i'm saying well if you do it then you're whatever and you're doing that

00:13:56.140 whatever right um but yeah signals of non-purity and non-chastity would be would be big um one of

00:14:01.700 the things that i have some examples other than that so if she says i never do this what else yeah

00:14:06.220 like like for example look when you're in a context of a date like she absolutely knows what's happening

00:14:11.620 you're just trying to make it you know seem like it's not happening even though it's like it just

00:14:15.240 happened but you know it's clearly happening um you know if a woman exhibits more masculine behavior 0.99

00:14:20.340 for example like it's very clear that like a woman that makes decisions and acts like a man is

00:14:24.740 is more promiscuous and science has actually proven that and backed that up as well um but i'll say

00:14:29.540 this one thing that really attracted me uh to the woman that became my wife is that it was very

00:14:34.820 apparent to me that she really wasn't that experienced um in being seduced like it was very

00:14:41.020 clear to me because and and this is why this is where i have a divergence with a lot of people that

00:14:45.080 follow your channel because i'm generally a pretty conservative guy right but then guys and then you

00:14:49.800 would say well so you're saying you should date to marry i'm like no as a man you should date to get

00:14:53.380 laid because you want to learn about the nature of women understand the patterns that they exhibit 0.99

00:14:57.780 and make yourself the best version for the woman you'll eventually marry and be dangerous and have

00:15:01.860 those options and a lot of guys like you can't say that you're just giving out your body it's like no

00:15:05.280 guys nobody wants your body like you got to learn how for a woman to actually to actually want you 1.00

00:15:10.280 like that's that's a really difficult skill to learn and a worthy one um but for me like if i can tell

00:15:16.140 that she's more promiscuous um and you can tell those patterns very quickly once you've seen enough

00:15:20.400 times obviously that's like okay i can't escalate but i'll but i may have kept her around for other

00:15:24.820 means and purposes right transparently tell them about the one girl you dated well i'm so she was

00:15:30.620 i mean i i got what i deserved she was a stripper but i was i was young at the time yeah um and she 1.00

00:15:35.480 was like just she actually approached me it was at the w hotel in dallas texas i was living in texas

00:15:41.720 at the time and there's a club and like i think the sub penthouse or the penthouse floor in the

00:15:44.960 w hotel and she came up to me and we started talking i was just like oh my god she's so hot 1.00

00:15:49.700 and she was like to me she was a 10 like she just looked like i was like i was blown away that

00:15:54.720 she's talking to me and then and then i find out she's a sports fan we go to a sporting event there's

00:15:59.380 all these you know players on the on the in the arena playing whatever sport and and there was i

00:16:05.720 think 10 10 players on it was a hockey game and she had like gone through and she had slept with eight

00:16:10.920 of them no way dude no way and then and then she started like this was after a few months that we'd

00:16:16.680 been like kind of seeing each other i was young and but but she was so hot and sexually she helped 1.00

00:16:20.580 me grow so much because she was so sexually like she was just like taking me on a ride i was like 1.00

00:16:24.820 this is i'm calling my friends guys this is the greatest thing i've ever experienced it's amazing

00:16:28.520 and she owns a house i don't know how she owns a house and it turns out i mean i was an experience

00:16:32.100 that someone made me wake up i'm like i thought this was the greatest chick ever it's like no she

00:16:35.560 had she owned the house in the early 20s because she was a stripper yeah and then and then it came 1.00

00:16:39.300 out all the famous because she's asking me one time did you ever sleep with anyone famous somebody at the time

00:16:42.820 i'm like no at that time i hadn't and then she's like oh i should tell you no i was this guy and

00:16:47.060 and i realized that for her she was one of those groupie chugs that like her her confidence grew

00:16:52.740 because she was able to get guys that other women couldn't because these guys actually could reject 1.00

00:16:57.200 women right and then i'm like and i'm like holy crap man like no wonder she's blowing my mind sexually 1.00

00:17:02.100 and i realized right away i'm like oh i can't take her seriously more but i was infatuated because i just 0.96

00:17:06.220 you know i i was in my early 20s and when a woman that's that hot that she can sleep with 1.00

00:17:10.820 a-list celebrities is giving you some you're just like ah i'm living in a movie but but obviously

00:17:16.920 like no as a wife like that that would be a terrible decision did you ghost her or did you

00:17:22.680 no i never i would never ghost anyone ever because and this is again this is implicit to

00:17:27.220 like my value system i i really thought through my value system for when i was growing up a lot

00:17:30.880 like i spent a lot of time by myself i wasn't the most popular kid in high school and when you're

00:17:34.840 not popular and like and that's actually one thing that i think is society's missing we're missing

00:17:39.020 some freaking bullying man like like we're like bullying is a it's like you're like we shouldn't 0.68

00:17:44.040 bring back bullying bro for real i was bullied so much in school i think and i deserved it 0.94

00:17:50.680 you really do a bit you know what i mean it makes you stronger no because it sets the boundaries

00:17:56.260 like bullying is the truth it sets the boundaries on what people appreciate and don't appreciate

00:17:59.760 right yeah like like i was a loser and it's okay like people are like hey loser blah blah and i'm

00:18:05.540 like why aren't why are they picking me it's like oh because i don't physically defend myself because

00:18:09.000 i act in feminine ways to try to resolve conflict when that's not the rules that men need to abide 1.00

00:18:14.520 by right and that feedback helped me sit there and think and and iterate in my mind like what should

00:18:19.660 i be doing to have better outcomes than the ones i'm getting it and this is one of the things about

00:18:23.320 your channel so i've been on the show a couple times right and sometimes i peek in the comments

00:18:27.180 to see what people say and here's what's interesting and i find this fascinating right

00:18:30.940 when i say something to the effect of women should be held accountable and should hold

00:18:35.680 themselves accountable all the guys are like dimitri spitting the facts who brought the facts 0.87

00:18:40.400 right the moment i say that men need to hold themselves accountable you're a simp you're this

00:18:45.240 you're that it's like no man like like a little bullying guys is not a bad thing because it helps

00:18:50.660 you be better like and you owe it to yourself to make promises to yourself that you keep and follow

00:18:56.680 through on so yes women should be more accountable obviously but as men we should be accountable too

00:19:02.000 yeah i i think though it's because the world will show men the truth where women will say lizzo's at

00:19:08.840 10 not you guys yeah but but but listen but but again i'm sorry if i'm taking air like you can cut

00:19:14.140 me off but like even yesterday like the you you asked me a question like should you know would your

00:19:18.900 daughter marry a bus driver i'm like hell no my daughter's not gonna marry a bus driver it's not

00:19:22.000 gonna happen like as her dad i work way too damn hard i live in a too nice neighborhood i sent her to a 1.00

00:19:26.660 freaking top like she goes to an elementary school that has the word college in it like when you're

00:19:31.980 doing that like i'm putting her you know i'm putting her in classrooms with like kids of ambassadors and 0.88

00:19:36.080 and kids of the guy that runs the stock market in our country is like that those kind of kids right

00:19:40.340 i'm doing it so she doesn't marry a bus driver and so as a matter so the men go and they're like

00:19:44.080 oh you don't like middle class working men that run society i'm like no that's not what i'm saying

00:19:49.980 i'm saying is i don't want my daughter to marry a career bus driver because that is not the problem

00:19:54.340 that a 50 year old man should be solving on how to drive the bus from point a to point b by the time 0.98

00:19:58.700 you're 50 you should be running the damn organization and taking care of other employees 0.97

00:20:02.560 and growing in your career that's the point yes there's nothing wrong with electricians when you're 0.99

00:20:06.780 26 27 years old but if you're doing the same thing at 59 that you were 27 you're solving the wrong

00:20:12.700 problems right so that's where the accountability argument comes in is that there there's a a problem

00:20:18.100 that you solve but it has to be age appropriate what do you think red flag first date um a woman 0.95

00:20:25.860 that's like um always talking about her ex does that happen before yeah on a first date when you

00:20:34.840 get to know them and they talk about their ex about if the ex is in their life or not if i have a

00:20:38.800 had a kid or and they're talking about their ex and saying how they how they broke up and things

00:20:44.420 like that yeah well you ghost or or you will you send them a text and be like stop talking about the

00:20:50.520 ex goodbye forever i feel like for men it's not even ghosting though because if you don't reach out

00:20:56.940 they're not even gonna you know i mean it's not like ghosting it's like you're just kind of choosing

00:21:00.680 to end the dialogue really yeah women will never reach out rare it's rare they have to be bold 1.00

00:21:08.440 yeah do you know guys sorry about this but real quick do you know what happens when you don't go

00:21:12.780 some you probably experienced this when you're like hey listen you're really cool but i see that

00:21:15.580 you have some feelings and you're trying to escalate the relationship i just want to let you know that

00:21:18.900 this is not going to be a serious relationship for me and you have to deal with it she just gets more 1.00

00:21:22.420 attracted to you and then she just is like it's like what are you doing i literally just told you

00:21:26.420 who i am why have you found that to be true too if you guys like put a girl in the the friends

00:21:32.840 with benefits zone she wants you more yes yes and if you find that if you try to commit to her

00:21:40.080 she wants you less yes yes yeah what do you guys have to say about that why do we do that

00:21:48.560 do you guys do you guys find that you guys want guys you can't have it's that it's interesting

00:21:55.320 it's that why why don't you want me that i want that why don't you want to know why you want to

00:21:59.860 know why they don't want you yeah because yeah what if they said like you're annoying

00:22:04.600 what can i say would you would you would you would you then stop chasing

00:22:14.740 uh me personally i was i'll ask them why how no no what i'm saying they say you're annoying then what

00:22:23.180 why do you think i'm annoying i dig too deep that's why

JustPearlyThings - July 21, 2023

The REASON You Can't take a Woman's Advice

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