JustPearlyThings - November 27, 2023


The Reasons Why People Don't Date In Miami


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

199.0831

Word Count

1,737

Sentence Count

226

Misogynist Sentences

19

Hate Speech Sentences

4


Summary

In this episode, we talk about how long it takes to find your first girlfriend, cheating in Miami, and why you should not date ugly men in Miami. We also talk about our experiences with cheating and how to deal with it.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 question. What about like, how long do you guys are in a talking phase with a chick until you
00:00:06.820 ask her to be your girlfriend? Oh, I've never even had like a formal girlfriend. I mean,
00:00:11.920 I'm only 22. Oh, okay. So if you, okay. But you meet a chick tomorrow, you're like, she's awesome.
00:00:19.760 How long are you waiting? Um, I don't know, probably like a month or two. I feel like
00:00:24.960 that's a good amount. If you go on a few dates a week or something like that, you should know at
00:00:30.340 that point. That's nice. Okay. I mean, I don't really set. Yeah. I don't really set a time limit
00:00:34.820 on it. It's just whenever she's ready, she'll kind of hint it. It could take three weeks. It could
00:00:39.220 take two months, three months, usually after before three months, if she actually likes you,
00:00:43.720 she'll give you the little, little hint. But, uh, yeah, you don't set exact times. I'm not,
00:00:48.780 I'm not setting a time and like right in my notebook, I'm going to ask her to be my girlfriend
00:00:51.900 on this date. It's kind of just whenever she brings it up a few days after that, then you,
00:00:56.520 So you let her take the initiation? No, no. I take the initiation. She'll bring it up. We'll have
00:01:01.160 a little talk. You'll take the clues. Yeah. And then a few days I'm like, by the way, congrats.
00:01:05.900 You're my girlfriend. So you tell them they're your girlfriend. You don't even ask. You're just like,
00:01:13.900 they're mine. They're very good enough. Okay. Got it. Um, for me, it's at least six to eight
00:01:19.980 months. I definitely would not jump into anything. I have to bet the girl. They're leaving you on
00:01:23.740 site. Hold on. Don't say what. Wait a second. Um, I want to make sure, uh, we have our first
00:01:28.640 argument first to see how bitchy he is. So I think you don't know anybody. Cause in that first
00:01:33.140 month or two, maybe she's putting on like a mask. You don't really know how she or she fights
00:01:37.000 fair. Um, women's true colors come out when they get angry at you. So I give it at least a couple
00:01:42.280 arguments that usually takes a big stake. You got to see if she throws a slipper or
00:01:45.720 throws a knife. Exactly. Why is it taking, why is it taking six months for her to get
00:01:51.520 mad at you? Yeah. She's going to get mad before that. It sounds like you're the one
00:01:55.780 who has the mask on. No, no, no, no. I think that a lot of women, I dated a girl who literally
00:02:00.440 when she would get mad, she'd go and fuck some other dude. Oh yeah. Yeah. That's what I'm
00:02:04.060 saying. You have to see if she fights fair. Yeah. So she was silent. She was like,
00:02:08.500 her get back was crazy. Okay. So that was my next question about Miami dating. How common
00:02:15.000 is cheating here? Oh, real calm. Let's say if you're dating out in Miami, are you going
00:02:20.880 to get cheated on? Uh, I would say it's like a 75, 25% chance. It depends on the guy to the
00:02:30.360 type of guy that you're dating. Okay. You know, who are the better guys to not get cheated on
00:02:35.420 by? Uh, the normal ones, the ones that have regular jobs. The ones that can't get other
00:02:39.860 puss. Um, no, not necessarily. And who are the guys to stay away from? Uh, the really pretty
00:02:45.460 ones. Okay. Cause they can get other puss. No, no, no, no, no. That's not true. That's not
00:02:50.660 true. Um, no, but no, not date ugly men. Not date ugly men. I just feel like again, you have
00:03:01.080 to understand Miami's a very superficial city. Okay. Superficial in the sense that you can
00:03:08.080 meet a pretty man who is not that pretty in his day to day life. You know what I mean?
00:03:14.600 Maybe he has like, I don't know, $50,000 worth of child support that he owed somebody or something
00:03:19.040 crazy like that. Has that happened to you? No, I'm just saying like, it's, it's, you know,
00:03:23.460 someone that's happened to you. Yeah. Actually. I know a lot of girls that crazy stuff like that
00:03:28.880 has happened to, you know what I mean? So you have to understand that there, yes, there
00:03:32.680 is this Miami that's full of influencers. And then there's a whole other Miami with regular
00:03:38.560 people who are kind of fucked up. Like some of them, you know what I mean?
00:03:43.200 What did your exes do? My ex husband? Yeah. Uh, he's a superintendent for a demolition
00:03:49.240 company. Okay. Is that a good job? Uh, yeah, they make very good money actually. I
00:03:54.040 meant like in terms of like, I mean, not get cheated on. Yeah. Oh, to not get cheated on.
00:03:58.820 Um, I think if a man wants to cheat, he's going to cheat no matter what he does for
00:04:02.700 a living, to be honest with you. Okay. Like it's the man, you know what I mean?
00:04:08.220 What about women? What, what are the, what women in Miami cheat the most?
00:04:15.300 What women in Miami cheat the most?
00:04:17.300 That depends how they feel in the relationship. He doesn't want to set anybody up.
00:04:21.580 I would say. People with the most options.
00:04:25.100 Um, I would say the ones that actually have a personality because there's a lot of pretty
00:04:35.980 girls in Miami. Like that's the norm here. You're funny, but the ones that have an actual
00:04:40.980 personality definitely have an added like up on top. So they'll cheat more.
00:04:46.980 They have more options. You know, taking that back. Okay. Um, so am I, do you just get cheated
00:04:53.680 on in Miami? What's your opinion? I feel like, yeah, 85%. And I also feel like it's so much
00:05:01.220 more common to get cheated on. Like not physically, just flirtatious, flirting on the gram, things
00:05:07.500 like that. That's too common. Do you think like liking another girl's picture? Is that cheating?
00:05:12.980 Raise your hands. Is that cheating? No. I don't think that's cheating. Messaging another
00:05:16.720 girl cheating. Raise your hand. What's the message about? Yeah. What's the message about?
00:05:20.980 Hey. No. Yeah. Yeah. What do you say I hate her for? That's true. What do you say I hate
00:05:27.760 her for? Okay. But you say 85% of men here cheat. Yeah. Okay. No. I, I, I, I'm not, I was
00:05:34.560 just talking about this today. I think all men cheat. I came from all men, all men cheat.
00:05:38.980 Doesn't matter. They're going to cheat on you sometime. If you planning to marry them
00:05:42.740 your whole life, they're going to cheat. Yeah. That's why I got it. You know, you know,
00:05:48.220 what percent of men have had more than one sexual partner in the last year? I guess 10%,
00:05:53.980 10% of men. 10% of men. Yeah. 10%. They surveyed 5,000 men in 2022. That's what they said.
00:06:00.040 Can any of you ladies relate? 5,000 men doesn't even know.
00:06:02.980 To what? To only having one. What's the question? Relate to what? To only having one
00:06:07.540 sexual partner in the last year? I can. To us cheating? To us cheating? To having over
00:06:12.040 one partner in the last year. No, just one partner in the last year. I can. Over one.
00:06:15.400 No, she said one. That was the statistic. One. No, more than one. Yeah, it was more than one.
00:06:20.020 Oh, more than one. Yeah. No. So, so 10% of men have had more than one sexual partner in the past
00:06:25.000 year. Only three, 33% of men have had more than one sexual partner in their lifetime. Okay.
00:06:29.980 Like, sorry, in a year in their lifetime. Sorry. Okay. Does that make sense?
00:06:33.400 So, but more than one, that could be many though. So, that could be 20, it could be 30, it could be 50.
00:06:38.620 I know, but I'm saying only 10% of men have slept with more than one chick in the last year.
00:06:43.020 Oh, so what you're saying is 90% of men haven't slept with any chicks in the past year.
00:06:47.340 No, no, they've slept with one. More than one. One. Yeah, yeah, you kidding.
00:06:50.620 Right. Two or less. I'm not getting this. I'm sorry.
00:06:53.740 I mean, sometimes that statistic works probably more outside of Miami than here.
00:06:59.180 Yeah. Okay. Cause like he just said, girls are giving it up in 10 minutes.
00:07:02.300 Mm-hmm. You know what I'm saying? Only for the big G's.
00:07:05.340 Super like hyper sexualized. So, what do you think? Can you find a boyfriend that does not cheat here?
00:07:11.260 No. For, from my experience, um, I think men are just really openly cheaters. Like they'll,
00:07:16.140 they're not cheating though. They just tell you they have several women and if you're, I mean,
00:07:20.940 they don't even ask if you're okay with it. Did you? So who, did someone tell you that?
00:07:26.380 Yeah, a few people.
00:07:27.100 A few people.
00:07:28.060 Oh, I'll be honest.
00:07:29.100 I haven't really dated since I've been.
00:07:31.660 Okay. So, cause you're thinking of something, I'm guessing. What, what did that person do?
00:07:36.460 I think they more or so like their game or whatever is just like,
00:07:41.500 just like saying it like carelessly. So you can just kind of like not really digest it, but just,
00:07:46.060 okay. He has girls. And then just.
00:07:47.580 Okay. What, what happened? I need to hear this story.
00:07:49.980 Yeah.
00:07:51.020 Um, we were on a date. We were like getting romantic. It was getting cute, whatever. We were, um,
00:07:57.900 I think we went to the beach or something after just hanging out and then, um, his girlfriend called.
00:08:05.820 His girlfriend called and, um, I was like, oh, you have a girl. He's like, oh yeah. Casually.
00:08:11.260 After I've been with him for like two hours to tell you.
00:08:13.340 What did he do for a living?
00:08:16.940 Um, not, nothing.
00:08:19.980 Nothing she could say on air. We already know what that means.
00:08:23.020 Well, okay. Okay. I actually.
00:08:24.140 He was a businessman, but.
00:08:25.420 Oh, no.
00:08:26.140 Ah!
00:08:27.340 It's a good cover.
00:08:28.460 Nice man.
00:08:29.900 Entrepreneur.
00:08:31.340 Yeah.
00:08:32.140 Girl, there's a lot of drug dealers here. There's a lot of scammers here.
00:08:35.100 Yeah, scammers and drug dealers.
00:08:36.220 We're not going to say it.
00:08:37.100 And women love to be in the rotation.
00:08:39.180 Drug dealers will cheat on you.
00:08:41.180 No.
00:08:41.740 Yeah.
00:08:42.460 And scammers in Miami.