Sexless men have tripled in the past decade, according to a 2017 study, and are more than half of men under 30 have not had sex in the last year. Why do you think this is happening? What are the reasons for the increase in sexless men? Is it due to technology, social media, or other social pressures?
00:00:02.240So, a study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that the number of sexually inactive young adults has increased in recent years.
00:00:11.680A survey conducted by the General Social Survey which found that the percentage of men under 30 who have not had had sex in the past year has tripled since 2008.
00:00:22.020A study published in JAMA Pediatrics which found that fewer teens are having sex than in previous generations.
00:00:28.800A study found in the Journal of Adolescent Health which found that social media use is associated with a decrease in sexual activity among adolescents.
00:00:40.940According to a 2017 study, the number of sexually inactive men in the U.S. has tripled in the past decade.
00:00:47.160The percentage of men aged 18 to 29 who have not had had sex in the past year increased from 9.5% in 2008 to 28% in 2018.
00:00:56.720There are a number of potential reasons for this trend including the rise of technology, social media, and video games which can be addictive and time consuming.
00:01:06.100Economic factors such as lack of job opportunities and financial insecurity may also contribute to men delaying marriage and sexual activity.
00:01:15.940Changes in gender norms and expectations as well as a shift towards more casual dating and hookup culture may also be factors.
00:01:22.860This trend is not unique to the U.S. where there are similar patterns in other countries including the U.K. and Japan.
00:01:31.780Some experts argue that the trends towards sexual inactivity is not necessarily a negative and may reflect a broader shift towards a greater emphasis on personal fulfillment and self-care.
00:01:43.700So, according to the article, the number of sexless men under 30 has tripled in the last decade.
00:01:49.780Why do you guys think that's happening?
00:02:21.140But from being in the U.K. and how I know guys that, you know, are out here, I don't think men have become like sexless at all.
00:02:33.280But I think, sorry, I tried to cut you off, but you can speak after me.
00:02:38.000I think also there is a massive change in confidence in men.
00:02:44.380I don't know what happened with this gender thing.
00:02:47.320But also there's a massive impact when men is confused and it's playing in their confidence.
00:02:55.220Like I think the generation right now, the kids that I'm seeing right now, there's a massive difference between them and the generation that I know.
00:03:04.600There's a lot of culture, you know, even the songs that you hear like Six Figure, blah, blah, blah.
00:03:11.520I think men are questioning if they're good enough to actually go out and date and take girls out and, you know, be with these type of girls that they fancy or they have to settle for something that they're not.
00:03:22.640Which most of men do, but I think there's a massive crisis, I would say, that's happening to the young generation.
00:03:29.940And it's the whole songs, the culture, everything that's happening, contributing to the confidence of the young boys right now, comparing to the generation before.
00:03:51.260And it's funny enough, even I think also a lot of men are put in a lid to who they are and what they need and what they want.
00:03:59.680And their identity has been really like, there's a crisis of their identity because of what the conversation that we're having and the songs and everything.
00:04:11.020The whole culture is definitely suppressing that a hundred percent.
00:04:15.200I definitely think there is a bit of a crisis of masculinity going on with a lot of young men where, I mean,
00:04:20.640if I think of someone my age, we have so many strong male role models and we didn't have the distraction of this little device in our hands that just sucked in all of our potential almost as men and as human beings.
00:04:34.760And now men don't have their own models.
00:05:02.960I guess some people see it as an attack on masculinity.
00:05:05.440And some of it is the men themselves' failure to almost move with the modern times.
00:05:12.100So they've withdrawn into their computer games.
00:05:14.020They've withdrawn into this world where they're almost just with themselves or with their peers.
00:05:18.700And they've forgot the art of actually engaging in conversations, chatting people up and doing stuff.
00:05:24.000And I think also another aspect is I think we're a bit in the victim culture a little bit in life as well, where people see themselves as victims.
00:05:30.680And poor me and almost the world owes them something.
00:05:33.660I'm sure there are a lot of, and I don't mean to be bad when I say it, but a lot of angry men who seem that they by default should just have stuff without having to put the work in.
00:05:41.760So it's almost like an entitlement with guys because they're not putting the work in.
00:05:45.540They don't know how to or they're scared to do it.
00:05:47.620But as a result, a lot of them are unintentionally sexless.
00:05:51.240I don't think they want to be, but I think it's unintentionally.
00:05:53.820So there's so many different factors that are contributing to it, especially more so with men.
00:05:57.760And then I guess there's also the factor of women going for that top 20% or the top 30% of men, as we see with these Tinder studies.
00:06:05.000So most men are not going to pass that standard anymore.
00:06:08.140So they're going to be left, they're sort of scratching their ears thinking, what can I do?
00:06:12.220And a lot of them are choosing to withdraw.
00:06:13.580And I think it's quite dangerous as well.
00:06:14.920Well, you've seen it with a lot of the shooting and stuff that's happened in America.
00:06:18.960They can become quite angry and quite disaffected and it can become quite dangerous for society.
00:06:24.260Can you expound a little bit more what you said that you said phones are ruining men's potential?
00:06:28.440Yeah, because phones are this illusion of life, but it's not real.
00:06:33.640So if you've always got your head in your phone or you've got your head in video games, how the hell do you become who you're born to be?
00:06:41.340How the hell do you get the level of charisma, the level of confidence you need if you're always in the phone?
00:07:02.240It's actually, there's so many different factors that are contributing to them needing almost, I guess, they feel they need to disengage from society.
00:07:10.680And I think also the access to corn as well.
00:08:12.720So there's all these different things, you know?
00:08:14.380And I think, and because I do a lot of advocacy for men, I think from my stance is men need to be responsible for the state of their lives.
00:08:22.960I don't necessarily think society owes them anything.
00:08:26.220I'd love society to care about men, to care about masculinity, to see the value that men bring to the world.
00:08:42.460I know that, especially for younger people, it's a bit of a minefield because what was normal for my generation, chatting up a girl on the street or wherever it might be, for some people might be seen as some sort of attack almost.