JustPearlyThings - July 22, 2023


The Rise of Sexual Objectification in Modern Women FT Christine


Episode Stats

Length

15 minutes

Words per Minute

201.12587

Word Count

3,156

Sentence Count

171

Misogynist Sentences

33

Hate Speech Sentences

12


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Hey, happy Monday. I hope everyone's well and your week is off to a fantastic start.
00:00:04.740 Does anyone else constantly have this sense of impending doom?
00:00:08.380 It can't just be me. Everywhere I look, on social media and mainstream media platforms,
00:00:13.620 I seem to find myself generally disappointed with our species.
00:00:17.500 To begin our expedition of discerning through the forest of chaos our society has today found itself in,
00:00:22.620 I want to start with a particular matter of contention that seems to have become a popular norm,
00:00:27.940 or at least for what I've seen in my generation.
00:00:31.060 Today in this video, we will be debunking the lunacy of the popular idea that promiscuity promotes female empowerment
00:00:37.740 and that it is ultimately good for women and thus good for the broader society around.
00:00:42.500 Because why wouldn't you agree that seeing your mum on OnlyFans just shows how empowered she is?
00:00:47.240 Whoa, go women! What an example!
00:00:49.860 Okay, so let's delve straight into it.
00:00:51.880 I want to start with what I mean by promiscuity.
00:00:54.460 Promiscuity is defined as having or characterised by many transient sexual relationships
00:01:00.060 where the word transient is defined as only lasting for a short time or impermanent.
00:01:05.080 I'll get into the danger of transient sex later, but for now, let's first delve into the promiscuous woman.
00:01:11.280 Now, I'm not ignorant to the fact that promiscuous behaviour in women has been around for millennia.
00:01:17.500 And sex sells. Sex will always sell.
00:01:19.980 When you look back to, say, the 50s and 60s, this sexualisation, objectification of women was, of course, still present,
00:01:26.320 but perhaps not to the level that some of you expose yourselves for $3.99 a month for.
00:01:30.120 But you get the point. Promiscuity is nothing new.
00:01:32.300 The change I have seen that I believe is detrimental to our depressed and anxious generation
00:01:36.880 is that promiscuity has now become an identity.
00:01:40.420 And more worrying, it's become a goal and this kind of false ideal that people feel they need to aspire to.
00:01:45.100 And girls, I do get it. I completely understand why you want to match yourselves to what you see on Instagram.
00:01:51.440 These girls are, on the screen at least, gorgeous.
00:01:54.740 And what girl doesn't want to feel gorgeous?
00:01:57.140 Among that, you're a fool if in the age of Instagram you cannot see that females do require a level of female validation.
00:02:02.880 The number one comment I hear from girls about these Instagram baddies who typically do have fans, let's be real,
00:02:08.720 is, oh, well, it's because all the men follow her.
00:02:11.120 Like, yeah, of course, we've just established that we know s**t selves.
00:02:15.060 The problem is, why do you think that's all you have to offer?
00:02:17.560 Or perhaps is it that you're too lazy to figure out what else you might have to offer and develop it,
00:02:22.800 so you just use the fact that because you have a f**ter and, well, everyone else does it and men love it,
00:02:28.280 you're going to use that.
00:02:29.320 We all have f**k.
00:02:30.020 Girl, be more creative.
00:02:30.900 It's like you have this idea that men like this girl, so I'll be like her and then the men will like me.
00:02:36.620 Or worse, my boyfriend and his friends will talk about this girl on Instagram or talk about this f***** star,
00:02:42.620 so if I act like her, then I'll be the star-prized girlfriend and all of his friends will talk about me.
00:02:48.140 The delusion is real, guys.
00:02:50.640 On a personal level, this s**t hurts me.
00:02:52.920 Like, I don't want girls to be lied to.
00:02:54.940 And let's be real, it's pretty easy to string a girl down a path.
00:02:58.080 We're naturally more submissive, we're more emotional than men, we're much more agreeable than men,
00:03:03.300 and this is the majority of girls.
00:03:05.900 I don't know why loads of girls think that they're an exception to the rule nowadays,
00:03:09.420 but I don't want the girls I love and care about around me to be deceived, you know?
00:03:14.180 If you go back to the 50s, Marilyn Monroe was renowned to be the sexiest woman alive,
00:03:18.160 and I'm sure lots of women back then wanted to emulate her image.
00:03:21.800 There's still women now who want to emulate her image.
00:03:24.600 Of course, she's gorgeous.
00:03:26.460 But again, this is just her image.
00:03:28.800 A desire to emulate an image that is purely based upon your current physical state
00:03:33.400 is exactly what it says on the tin.
00:03:34.840 You're creating an image.
00:03:36.340 You're abandoning your whole being, your whole personality,
00:03:39.880 your whole potential as an ever-changing, ever-developing human being
00:03:43.120 with a long life ahead of you.
00:03:44.480 You're reducing that down so you can produce the sexiest image you possibly can
00:03:48.720 whilst your body can do so now.
00:03:50.440 You're reducing your whole life, your whole existence, as to what you exist as.
00:03:54.240 Marilyn Monroe wasn't even a person.
00:03:56.020 Marilyn Monroe is an image, a character.
00:03:58.920 And look how problematic that was for the woman behind the image.
00:04:01.940 Norma Jean Mortensen lived in a state of total loss and confusion within her being.
00:04:06.680 And if you haven't already watched the film Blonde on Netflix,
00:04:09.500 I highly suggest you do so, if of course your tiny attention spans.
00:04:13.120 Who can we think of who is notoriously a promiscuous woman, a sexual product?
00:04:19.120 Katie Price comes to mind for me.
00:04:20.360 Again, she's not a real person, but she's an image that's distorted into a so-called personality.
00:04:25.240 Created by a lady called Katrina Amy Alexandra Alexis Innes.
00:04:28.380 If you Google her, it literally says her claim to fame is being billed as Jordan
00:04:32.040 on page three in the British newspaper, The Sun.
00:04:34.380 And again, fame for her surgically enhanced breasts.
00:04:38.100 Do we think that Katrina is genuinely well and happy?
00:04:40.120 Another thing that blows my mind with all of this is I remember when women were advocating
00:04:44.900 for the removal of page three from The Sun newspaper,
00:04:47.880 screaming about how awful page three was back in the day and how it's degrading to women
00:04:52.100 and children can see it.
00:04:53.620 Yet these same women be preaching how awesome it is for a woman to now make money on OnlyFans.
00:04:59.820 OnlyFans, a platform that exists on the internet loads of your children have access to.
00:05:06.000 Woo!
00:05:06.140 Female empowerment.
00:05:07.460 Score for the win.
00:05:08.180 The problem I have is that clinging to a certain image that only exists for a short space of
00:05:13.460 time in comparison to the majority of your life, it's a certain portrayal of who we are
00:05:18.440 through ultimately a fake image, whether it be filters, editing, surgical enhancements.
00:05:23.840 It's not even just the honesty aspect that bothers me.
00:05:26.320 It's the complete identification with the image that they're portraying and their downright
00:05:31.200 ignorance to their humanity and their mortality.
00:05:34.300 I just want you guys to genuinely internalise and accept the truth of our reality as women.
00:05:39.380 Give yourselves a real life.
00:05:40.700 None of this live fast, die young, self-destructive crap, you're only here once, none of that.
00:05:46.300 They're convincing you that this ideal they're showing you is real, but it's not real.
00:05:50.880 Our bodies change every single day and whether you like it or not, you will get old, you will
00:05:55.880 get wrinkles and your boobs will sag.
00:05:57.520 This is a fact of reality.
00:05:59.640 Remember reality, that thing that existed before social media came around?
00:06:03.320 And this does not mean that now we should shift idealisation to create yet another deluded
00:06:07.980 ideal where we're distorting the reality of beauty standards by putting hippos on a
00:06:12.820 Sports Illustrated magazine.
00:06:14.300 So if your whole identity is based in this current physical portrayal of yourself, if you're
00:06:19.040 constantly checking how your Instagram page looks and you're spending more time checking
00:06:23.580 Instagram than you do any other daily habit, and I'm sure your screen times will reflect
00:06:27.900 this.
00:06:28.340 So I know that it happens.
00:06:29.880 I know you guys do it.
00:06:31.280 And I know to a lot of people how they're perceived on Instagram is one of their greatest
00:06:35.040 achievements.
00:06:35.800 It's a known principle that the combination of our daily habits creates the person we
00:06:40.420 are.
00:06:40.720 Who we are is what we do.
00:06:41.660 And if the majority of your day is spent with the habit of checking your Instagram, then that's
00:06:46.640 all you are.
00:06:47.180 You are pixels on a screen.
00:06:49.220 And what happens if the lights go out?
00:06:50.800 What's left of you?
00:06:51.660 What happens when that can no longer be emulated?
00:06:54.120 What's left?
00:06:54.720 Is there a person left?
00:06:55.600 What are you left with when you've identified as this transient vogue visor?
00:06:59.260 This notion that we can construct a new identity of ourselves based purely off of delusional
00:07:03.780 and egotistical drives breeds mental illness.
00:07:07.080 And should midlife crisis come around, which it may, you're setting yourself up for a fall
00:07:12.060 from an unbelievably high pedestal, a fall which may paralyze you and could kill this
00:07:17.540 false ideal that you've created.
00:07:19.200 And then what's left?
00:07:20.040 Wouldn't the best idea be introspection and reflection in order to accept and incorporate
00:07:24.900 what we are into who we are?
00:07:26.540 Or is that asking too much accountability?
00:07:28.720 Are you just lazy?
00:07:29.400 Because I can assure you that whatever you're running from, it's ultimately yourself and
00:07:34.760 it will always catch up with you.
00:07:36.540 There's no running from ourselves.
00:07:37.980 Accepting the things that we've done in our life instead of fleeing allows us to evolve,
00:07:42.440 grow and bloom into healthy ideals that are based in realistic and safe desires.
00:07:48.080 I think the root of this issue, particularly for us in Gen Z, can be derived from our inability
00:07:52.520 to envision the future.
00:07:53.900 Our attention spans have become so disabled and docile that content creators are literally
00:07:58.940 having to insert those little video games at the bottom of videos as an attempt to catch
00:08:03.460 your attention to get you to focus.
00:08:05.120 Does that not insult you?
00:08:06.160 Are we not ashamed?
00:08:07.040 And there's no point trying to insult the content creators for that and saying that they're
00:08:09.940 putting it there.
00:08:10.660 They're just adapting to a market that we, the consumers, create.
00:08:14.180 And shock horror, most of those videos get loads and loads of views.
00:08:18.780 So clearly that says something about the current mental state of our minds.
00:08:22.680 On the topic of transience, which seems to be at the heart of our contemporary culture,
00:08:26.740 as reflected by the most used app on the planet of all time, we browse transiently through
00:08:32.000 social media.
00:08:33.420 We now also date in a transient manner.
00:08:35.640 Decades prior to now, dating was a means to find a life partner.
00:08:39.340 Now dating can be purely for attention or sexual means.
00:08:43.120 Don't get me wrong.
00:08:44.180 I understand the necessity for dating apps in the digital age.
00:08:47.240 If you don't drink or you're not part of any club or society, or you don't want to
00:08:52.300 meet a partner out clubbing, which is fair enough, then dating apps are a way to find
00:08:56.160 someone for sure.
00:08:56.820 However, I do see that there are these certain dating apps that are more used to gain a wealth
00:09:02.340 of attention rather than anything else.
00:09:04.220 The rise of apps like Tinder have pushed and promoted this hookup culture, which I absolutely
00:09:08.820 do not agree with.
00:09:10.020 My difficulty surrounds freedom.
00:09:11.380 Now, freedom is extremely important to me.
00:09:14.180 And you may ask, well, if you care about people's freedoms, then why do you disagree with an
00:09:19.020 app that gives women the ability to sleep around freely?
00:09:21.700 That empowers women.
00:09:23.100 It's not the freedom of choice that I have a problem with.
00:09:25.800 Rather, how free is the action of making said choice if it's made from a place where a bias
00:09:31.540 has been imposed, whether you like it or not?
00:09:33.500 Freedom is defined as having the ability to act or change without constraint or to possess
00:09:39.640 the power and resources to fulfill one's purposes unhindered.
00:09:43.560 Everyone everywhere should have this right.
00:09:45.240 In most countries here in the West, this is a fundamental human right and is part of the
00:09:49.740 country's legal jurisdiction, which is fundamentally necessary.
00:09:53.400 Do the companies and platforms that exist within these jurisdictions comply with the law as to
00:09:58.540 allow for this right to be properly executed?
00:10:01.260 From what I've seen in the last three years.
00:10:02.920 To have freedom to act or to not act in a particular way regarding a particular subject,
00:10:08.600 in this instance, we're talking about transient sexual relationships, then you need to understand
00:10:12.780 the pros and cons of said subject in order to make a decision that remains unhindered.
00:10:18.440 Celebrities, public figures, the music we consume, influencers, and even our schooling
00:10:23.120 system here in the UK tells us, hey, it's okay to have sex with lots of different guys.
00:10:27.940 That's why we have contraception.
00:10:29.420 As long as he wraps it up, there's no other risks.
00:10:32.060 In the name of freedom, let's take this narrative into account.
00:10:35.080 But this narrative is still one-sided.
00:10:36.660 The other side provides scientific evidence that concludes otherwise and does show that
00:10:41.720 there are risks that exist, but they're just not widely discussed in the popular
00:10:46.360 public consumer space.
00:10:48.060 Would you agree that in order for you to remain unhindered, we shouldn't just be getting
00:10:52.360 one-side justification for things?
00:10:54.420 You'd want to know both sides, right?
00:10:56.100 If you don't understand the concept of tyranny, that's absolutely fine.
00:10:59.660 It's very easy to digest briefly.
00:11:01.960 Here are two examples of notoriously tyrannical societies, both past and present.
00:11:06.920 North Korea.
00:11:07.780 So yeah, hopefully we can all agree that tyranny is bad and that blocking out information that
00:11:12.660 you don't like just because it contradicts how you currently live your life and exercise
00:11:16.900 your beliefs, well, that's bad.
00:11:18.420 If you want someone to stop saying something just because it contradicts what you're currently
00:11:22.840 doing in your life, if you don't like something and you think, oh, I should block that out,
00:11:26.200 you're being tyrannical.
00:11:27.100 So what they don't tell you, which you may have already heard of here and there, but given
00:11:31.420 that we do live in a one-sided society at the moment, it's probably been dismissed as
00:11:35.680 misogyny.
00:11:36.480 You just haven't wanted to hear it.
00:11:37.620 It's basically that having transient sexual relationships, so many different sexual partners,
00:11:42.160 actually does carry with it a lot of risks, not only on your ability to do something
00:11:46.160 which is called pair bonding, but it also depletes your potential life prospects.
00:11:51.180 But let's see the evidence.
00:11:52.520 Professor Nicholas H.
00:11:53.620 Wolfinger found that women marrying in the year 2000 that have had more than 10 premarital
00:11:57.980 sexual partners are more likely to get divorced.
00:12:01.420 Whilst the professor does admit that ultimately this raises more questions than answers as we
00:12:06.160 can't change our body count, it does show at least that for us girls, there is a clear
00:12:10.900 emotional connection linked to how many people we share ourselves with sexually.
00:12:14.500 It is the same to men, it does apply to men too, however for women the bar is a lot lower.
00:12:19.940 Men can sleep with way more women without damaging their ability to pair bond.
00:12:23.840 I just wish that people would try to understand why it matters.
00:12:27.260 I personally have come to the conclusion that women know it matters, purely just based off
00:12:32.520 of the defensive behaviour that manifests when they're asked about it.
00:12:35.380 It's kind of like they assume that they will be judged, so somewhere inside they must know
00:12:40.720 and accept that it is something to judge.
00:12:43.040 Otherwise, why would they feel like they're being judged?
00:12:45.240 I don't know.
00:12:45.860 Perhaps it's not conscious.
00:12:47.180 Who knows?
00:12:47.720 Not only does promiscuity feed the lie that transient sexual relationships are empowering
00:12:52.520 and holds no risk to your potential future, but promiscuity as represented now has proven
00:12:58.360 to affect your ability to attach deep on an emotional level.
00:13:01.360 There are multiple studies and scientific data to support this, which again, I'm so
00:13:05.340 sorry that you actually have to go out and find it and that it's not readily available,
00:13:09.980 but that's why I'm here to share.
00:13:11.180 You have been lied to.
00:13:12.300 I'm so sorry the world is like this and I wish it wasn't.
00:13:14.740 If you care about both sides of an argument, here is the other side that they don't tell
00:13:18.100 you.
00:13:18.500 Pair bonding is a biological, neurological mechanism that happens in all animals, including
00:13:24.320 humans, to form attachments.
00:13:25.880 It was first arrived in 1987 by people called Hassan and Shaver.
00:13:30.000 If you've ever done A-level psychology, the OCR one, you might remember learning about
00:13:36.680 Bulby and the attachment experiments.
00:13:39.140 It's all linked to this.
00:13:40.060 Bulby, Ainsworth, I can't remember any others.
00:13:42.660 Let me know if you can remember any.
00:13:43.780 It's not new knowledge.
00:13:44.940 When an individual chooses to engage in transient sex, breaking bond after bond from each new
00:13:50.760 partner that they're with, the brain forms a new synaptic map of one night stands.
00:13:54.900 And this pattern of attach, break, attach, break becomes the new normal for the individual.
00:14:00.820 There's an article that explains this.
00:14:03.100 It's really easy to digest.
00:14:04.400 You basically make it harder for you to permanently bond with someone.
00:14:07.780 The mainstream media, our educational systems, our music, and people in positions of power
00:14:12.820 are convincing women this is female empowerment.
00:14:15.860 This is freedom.
00:14:17.080 Allowing women to have unhindered freedom upon their acts.
00:14:20.360 Actually giving women both sides of the story whilst being informed of all the benefits and
00:14:25.440 the costs of engaging in promiscuity.
00:14:28.040 Female empowerment is meant to be about acceptance and love.
00:14:31.220 Love being, it's something that's going to be good for yourself, so therefore it's going
00:14:34.460 to be good for the people around you.
00:14:36.220 And thus the ripple effect of that means that it's good on the broader society.
00:14:39.680 It's these same feminists that preach about female empowerment as an excuse to indulge in
00:14:45.120 promiscuous behaviour that also shame the ideal of being a wife.
00:14:49.460 And where's the love there?
00:14:50.600 If you can't already tell, I do not agree with anything that feminism alleges to stand
00:14:55.320 for, but we'll be here for another hour if I jump into that now.
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00:15:15.100 And maybe delve into that.
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00:15:26.380 And of course, I'll try my best.
00:15:27.800 We're not here for long.
00:15:28.540 There are people out there with big red buttons that could end all of our lives in seconds.
00:15:33.200 We're bound to not agree on everything.
00:15:35.960 Life's too short.
00:15:36.920 Let's try our best to remain harmonious in the adversity of opinion.
00:15:40.640 Sending love to you all.