The Rise of Sexual Objectification in Modern Women FT Christine
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Summary
Promiscuity is nothing new, but the change I have seen in our society over the past few decades is that it has become a goal and a false ideal that people feel they need to aspire to. And more worrying, it s become an identity.
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Hey, happy Monday. I hope everyone's well and your week is off to a fantastic start.
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Does anyone else constantly have this sense of impending doom?
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It can't just be me. Everywhere I look, on social media and mainstream media platforms,
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I seem to find myself generally disappointed with our species.
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To begin our expedition of discerning through the forest of chaos our society has today found itself in,
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I want to start with a particular matter of contention that seems to have become a popular norm,
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or at least for what I've seen in my generation.
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Today in this video, we will be debunking the lunacy of the popular idea that promiscuity promotes female empowerment
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and that it is ultimately good for women and thus good for the broader society around.
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Because why wouldn't you agree that seeing your mum on OnlyFans just shows how empowered she is?
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I want to start with what I mean by promiscuity.
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Promiscuity is defined as having or characterised by many transient sexual relationships
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where the word transient is defined as only lasting for a short time or impermanent.
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I'll get into the danger of transient sex later, but for now, let's first delve into the promiscuous woman.
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Now, I'm not ignorant to the fact that promiscuous behaviour in women has been around for millennia.
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When you look back to, say, the 50s and 60s, this sexualisation, objectification of women was, of course, still present,
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but perhaps not to the level that some of you expose yourselves for $3.99 a month for.
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But you get the point. Promiscuity is nothing new.
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The change I have seen that I believe is detrimental to our depressed and anxious generation
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is that promiscuity has now become an identity.
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And more worrying, it's become a goal and this kind of false ideal that people feel they need to aspire to.
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And girls, I do get it. I completely understand why you want to match yourselves to what you see on Instagram.
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These girls are, on the screen at least, gorgeous.
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Among that, you're a fool if in the age of Instagram you cannot see that females do require a level of female validation.
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The number one comment I hear from girls about these Instagram baddies who typically do have fans, let's be real,
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is, oh, well, it's because all the men follow her.
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Like, yeah, of course, we've just established that we know s**t selves.
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The problem is, why do you think that's all you have to offer?
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Or perhaps is it that you're too lazy to figure out what else you might have to offer and develop it,
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so you just use the fact that because you have a f**ter and, well, everyone else does it and men love it,
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It's like you have this idea that men like this girl, so I'll be like her and then the men will like me.
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Or worse, my boyfriend and his friends will talk about this girl on Instagram or talk about this f***** star,
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so if I act like her, then I'll be the star-prized girlfriend and all of his friends will talk about me.
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And let's be real, it's pretty easy to string a girl down a path.
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We're naturally more submissive, we're more emotional than men, we're much more agreeable than men,
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I don't know why loads of girls think that they're an exception to the rule nowadays,
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but I don't want the girls I love and care about around me to be deceived, you know?
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If you go back to the 50s, Marilyn Monroe was renowned to be the sexiest woman alive,
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and I'm sure lots of women back then wanted to emulate her image.
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There's still women now who want to emulate her image.
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A desire to emulate an image that is purely based upon your current physical state
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You're abandoning your whole being, your whole personality,
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your whole potential as an ever-changing, ever-developing human being
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You're reducing that down so you can produce the sexiest image you possibly can
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You're reducing your whole life, your whole existence, as to what you exist as.
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And look how problematic that was for the woman behind the image.
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Norma Jean Mortensen lived in a state of total loss and confusion within her being.
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And if you haven't already watched the film Blonde on Netflix,
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I highly suggest you do so, if of course your tiny attention spans.
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Who can we think of who is notoriously a promiscuous woman, a sexual product?
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Again, she's not a real person, but she's an image that's distorted into a so-called personality.
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Created by a lady called Katrina Amy Alexandra Alexis Innes.
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If you Google her, it literally says her claim to fame is being billed as Jordan
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on page three in the British newspaper, The Sun.
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And again, fame for her surgically enhanced breasts.
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Do we think that Katrina is genuinely well and happy?
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Another thing that blows my mind with all of this is I remember when women were advocating
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for the removal of page three from The Sun newspaper,
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screaming about how awful page three was back in the day and how it's degrading to women
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Yet these same women be preaching how awesome it is for a woman to now make money on OnlyFans.
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OnlyFans, a platform that exists on the internet loads of your children have access to.
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The problem I have is that clinging to a certain image that only exists for a short space of
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time in comparison to the majority of your life, it's a certain portrayal of who we are
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through ultimately a fake image, whether it be filters, editing, surgical enhancements.
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It's not even just the honesty aspect that bothers me.
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It's the complete identification with the image that they're portraying and their downright
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ignorance to their humanity and their mortality.
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I just want you guys to genuinely internalise and accept the truth of our reality as women.
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None of this live fast, die young, self-destructive crap, you're only here once, none of that.
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They're convincing you that this ideal they're showing you is real, but it's not real.
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Our bodies change every single day and whether you like it or not, you will get old, you will
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Remember reality, that thing that existed before social media came around?
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And this does not mean that now we should shift idealisation to create yet another deluded
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ideal where we're distorting the reality of beauty standards by putting hippos on a
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So if your whole identity is based in this current physical portrayal of yourself, if you're
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constantly checking how your Instagram page looks and you're spending more time checking
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Instagram than you do any other daily habit, and I'm sure your screen times will reflect
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And I know to a lot of people how they're perceived on Instagram is one of their greatest
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It's a known principle that the combination of our daily habits creates the person we
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And if the majority of your day is spent with the habit of checking your Instagram, then that's
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What happens when that can no longer be emulated?
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What are you left with when you've identified as this transient vogue visor?
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This notion that we can construct a new identity of ourselves based purely off of delusional
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And should midlife crisis come around, which it may, you're setting yourself up for a fall
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from an unbelievably high pedestal, a fall which may paralyze you and could kill this
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Wouldn't the best idea be introspection and reflection in order to accept and incorporate
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Because I can assure you that whatever you're running from, it's ultimately yourself and
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Accepting the things that we've done in our life instead of fleeing allows us to evolve,
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grow and bloom into healthy ideals that are based in realistic and safe desires.
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I think the root of this issue, particularly for us in Gen Z, can be derived from our inability
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Our attention spans have become so disabled and docile that content creators are literally
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having to insert those little video games at the bottom of videos as an attempt to catch
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And there's no point trying to insult the content creators for that and saying that they're
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They're just adapting to a market that we, the consumers, create.
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And shock horror, most of those videos get loads and loads of views.
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So clearly that says something about the current mental state of our minds.
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On the topic of transience, which seems to be at the heart of our contemporary culture,
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as reflected by the most used app on the planet of all time, we browse transiently through
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Decades prior to now, dating was a means to find a life partner.
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Now dating can be purely for attention or sexual means.
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I understand the necessity for dating apps in the digital age.
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If you don't drink or you're not part of any club or society, or you don't want to
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meet a partner out clubbing, which is fair enough, then dating apps are a way to find
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However, I do see that there are these certain dating apps that are more used to gain a wealth
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The rise of apps like Tinder have pushed and promoted this hookup culture, which I absolutely
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And you may ask, well, if you care about people's freedoms, then why do you disagree with an
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app that gives women the ability to sleep around freely?
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It's not the freedom of choice that I have a problem with.
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Rather, how free is the action of making said choice if it's made from a place where a bias
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Freedom is defined as having the ability to act or change without constraint or to possess
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the power and resources to fulfill one's purposes unhindered.
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In most countries here in the West, this is a fundamental human right and is part of the
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country's legal jurisdiction, which is fundamentally necessary.
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Do the companies and platforms that exist within these jurisdictions comply with the law as to
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To have freedom to act or to not act in a particular way regarding a particular subject,
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in this instance, we're talking about transient sexual relationships, then you need to understand
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the pros and cons of said subject in order to make a decision that remains unhindered.
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Celebrities, public figures, the music we consume, influencers, and even our schooling
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system here in the UK tells us, hey, it's okay to have sex with lots of different guys.
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As long as he wraps it up, there's no other risks.
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In the name of freedom, let's take this narrative into account.
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The other side provides scientific evidence that concludes otherwise and does show that
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there are risks that exist, but they're just not widely discussed in the popular
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Would you agree that in order for you to remain unhindered, we shouldn't just be getting
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If you don't understand the concept of tyranny, that's absolutely fine.
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Here are two examples of notoriously tyrannical societies, both past and present.
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So yeah, hopefully we can all agree that tyranny is bad and that blocking out information that
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you don't like just because it contradicts how you currently live your life and exercise
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If you want someone to stop saying something just because it contradicts what you're currently
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doing in your life, if you don't like something and you think, oh, I should block that out,
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So what they don't tell you, which you may have already heard of here and there, but given
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that we do live in a one-sided society at the moment, it's probably been dismissed as
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It's basically that having transient sexual relationships, so many different sexual partners,
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actually does carry with it a lot of risks, not only on your ability to do something
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which is called pair bonding, but it also depletes your potential life prospects.
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Wolfinger found that women marrying in the year 2000 that have had more than 10 premarital
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sexual partners are more likely to get divorced.
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Whilst the professor does admit that ultimately this raises more questions than answers as we
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can't change our body count, it does show at least that for us girls, there is a clear
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emotional connection linked to how many people we share ourselves with sexually.
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It is the same to men, it does apply to men too, however for women the bar is a lot lower.
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Men can sleep with way more women without damaging their ability to pair bond.
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I just wish that people would try to understand why it matters.
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I personally have come to the conclusion that women know it matters, purely just based off
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of the defensive behaviour that manifests when they're asked about it.
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It's kind of like they assume that they will be judged, so somewhere inside they must know
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Otherwise, why would they feel like they're being judged?
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Not only does promiscuity feed the lie that transient sexual relationships are empowering
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and holds no risk to your potential future, but promiscuity as represented now has proven
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to affect your ability to attach deep on an emotional level.
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There are multiple studies and scientific data to support this, which again, I'm so
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sorry that you actually have to go out and find it and that it's not readily available,
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I'm so sorry the world is like this and I wish it wasn't.
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If you care about both sides of an argument, here is the other side that they don't tell
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Pair bonding is a biological, neurological mechanism that happens in all animals, including
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It was first arrived in 1987 by people called Hassan and Shaver.
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If you've ever done A-level psychology, the OCR one, you might remember learning about
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When an individual chooses to engage in transient sex, breaking bond after bond from each new
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partner that they're with, the brain forms a new synaptic map of one night stands.
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And this pattern of attach, break, attach, break becomes the new normal for the individual.
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You basically make it harder for you to permanently bond with someone.
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The mainstream media, our educational systems, our music, and people in positions of power
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are convincing women this is female empowerment.
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Allowing women to have unhindered freedom upon their acts.
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Actually giving women both sides of the story whilst being informed of all the benefits and
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Female empowerment is meant to be about acceptance and love.
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Love being, it's something that's going to be good for yourself, so therefore it's going
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And thus the ripple effect of that means that it's good on the broader society.
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It's these same feminists that preach about female empowerment as an excuse to indulge in
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promiscuous behaviour that also shame the ideal of being a wife.
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If you can't already tell, I do not agree with anything that feminism alleges to stand
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for, but we'll be here for another hour if I jump into that now.
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