JustPearlyThings - The Rise of Sexual Objectification in Modern Women FT Christine

00:00:00.000 Hey, happy Monday. I hope everyone's well and your week is off to a fantastic start.

00:00:04.740 Does anyone else constantly have this sense of impending doom?

00:00:08.380 It can't just be me. Everywhere I look, on social media and mainstream media platforms,

00:00:13.620 I seem to find myself generally disappointed with our species.

00:00:17.500 To begin our expedition of discerning through the forest of chaos our society has today found itself in,

00:00:22.620 I want to start with a particular matter of contention that seems to have become a popular norm,

00:00:27.940 or at least for what I've seen in my generation.

00:00:31.060 Today in this video, we will be debunking the lunacy of the popular idea that promiscuity promotes female empowerment

00:00:37.740 and that it is ultimately good for women and thus good for the broader society around.

00:00:42.500 Because why wouldn't you agree that seeing your mum on OnlyFans just shows how empowered she is?

00:00:47.240 Whoa, go women! What an example! 1.00

00:00:49.860 Okay, so let's delve straight into it.

00:00:51.880 I want to start with what I mean by promiscuity.

00:00:54.460 Promiscuity is defined as having or characterised by many transient sexual relationships

00:01:00.060 where the word transient is defined as only lasting for a short time or impermanent.

00:01:05.080 I'll get into the danger of transient sex later, but for now, let's first delve into the promiscuous woman. 1.00

00:01:11.280 Now, I'm not ignorant to the fact that promiscuous behaviour in women has been around for millennia. 1.00

00:01:17.500 And sex sells. Sex will always sell. 0.98

00:01:19.980 When you look back to, say, the 50s and 60s, this sexualisation, objectification of women was, of course, still present,

00:01:26.320 but perhaps not to the level that some of you expose yourselves for $3.99 a month for.

00:01:30.120 But you get the point. Promiscuity is nothing new.

00:01:32.300 The change I have seen that I believe is detrimental to our depressed and anxious generation

00:01:36.880 is that promiscuity has now become an identity.

00:01:40.420 And more worrying, it's become a goal and this kind of false ideal that people feel they need to aspire to.

00:01:45.100 And girls, I do get it. I completely understand why you want to match yourselves to what you see on Instagram.

00:01:51.440 These girls are, on the screen at least, gorgeous. 1.00

00:01:54.740 And what girl doesn't want to feel gorgeous? 0.99

00:01:57.140 Among that, you're a fool if in the age of Instagram you cannot see that females do require a level of female validation. 0.94

00:02:02.880 The number one comment I hear from girls about these Instagram baddies who typically do have fans, let's be real, 0.98

00:02:08.720 is, oh, well, it's because all the men follow her. 0.93

00:02:11.120 Like, yeah, of course, we've just established that we know s**t selves.

00:02:15.060 The problem is, why do you think that's all you have to offer?

00:02:17.560 Or perhaps is it that you're too lazy to figure out what else you might have to offer and develop it, 0.96

00:02:22.800 so you just use the fact that because you have a f**ter and, well, everyone else does it and men love it, 0.97

00:02:28.280 you're going to use that. 1.00

00:02:29.320 We all have f**k. 0.99

00:02:30.020 Girl, be more creative. 1.00

00:02:30.900 It's like you have this idea that men like this girl, so I'll be like her and then the men will like me. 0.95

00:02:36.620 Or worse, my boyfriend and his friends will talk about this girl on Instagram or talk about this f***** star, 0.97

00:02:42.620 so if I act like her, then I'll be the star-prized girlfriend and all of his friends will talk about me. 0.95

00:02:48.140 The delusion is real, guys. 0.95

00:02:50.640 On a personal level, this s**t hurts me.

00:02:52.920 Like, I don't want girls to be lied to. 0.96

00:02:54.940 And let's be real, it's pretty easy to string a girl down a path. 0.99

00:02:58.080 We're naturally more submissive, we're more emotional than men, we're much more agreeable than men,

00:03:03.300 and this is the majority of girls. 0.75

00:03:05.900 I don't know why loads of girls think that they're an exception to the rule nowadays, 1.00

00:03:09.420 but I don't want the girls I love and care about around me to be deceived, you know?

00:03:14.180 If you go back to the 50s, Marilyn Monroe was renowned to be the sexiest woman alive,

00:03:18.160 and I'm sure lots of women back then wanted to emulate her image. 1.00

00:03:21.800 There's still women now who want to emulate her image. 1.00

00:03:24.600 Of course, she's gorgeous. 0.99

00:03:26.460 But again, this is just her image.

00:03:28.800 A desire to emulate an image that is purely based upon your current physical state

00:03:33.400 is exactly what it says on the tin.

00:03:34.840 You're creating an image.

00:03:36.340 You're abandoning your whole being, your whole personality,

00:03:39.880 your whole potential as an ever-changing, ever-developing human being

00:03:43.120 with a long life ahead of you.

00:03:44.480 You're reducing that down so you can produce the sexiest image you possibly can 0.94

00:03:48.720 whilst your body can do so now.

00:03:50.440 You're reducing your whole life, your whole existence, as to what you exist as.

00:03:54.240 Marilyn Monroe wasn't even a person. 0.99

00:03:56.020 Marilyn Monroe is an image, a character.

00:03:58.920 And look how problematic that was for the woman behind the image. 0.99

00:04:01.940 Norma Jean Mortensen lived in a state of total loss and confusion within her being.

00:04:06.680 And if you haven't already watched the film Blonde on Netflix,

00:04:09.500 I highly suggest you do so, if of course your tiny attention spans. 0.96

00:04:13.120 Who can we think of who is notoriously a promiscuous woman, a sexual product? 1.00

00:04:19.120 Katie Price comes to mind for me. 0.94

00:04:20.360 Again, she's not a real person, but she's an image that's distorted into a so-called personality.

00:04:25.240 Created by a lady called Katrina Amy Alexandra Alexis Innes.

00:04:28.380 If you Google her, it literally says her claim to fame is being billed as Jordan 0.99

00:04:32.040 on page three in the British newspaper, The Sun.

00:04:34.380 And again, fame for her surgically enhanced breasts. 1.00

00:04:38.100 Do we think that Katrina is genuinely well and happy?

00:04:40.120 Another thing that blows my mind with all of this is I remember when women were advocating 1.00

00:04:44.900 for the removal of page three from The Sun newspaper,

00:04:47.880 screaming about how awful page three was back in the day and how it's degrading to women 0.76

00:04:52.100 and children can see it.

00:04:53.620 Yet these same women be preaching how awesome it is for a woman to now make money on OnlyFans. 1.00

00:04:59.820 OnlyFans, a platform that exists on the internet loads of your children have access to.

00:05:06.000 Woo! 0.99

00:05:06.140 Female empowerment.

00:05:07.460 Score for the win.

00:05:08.180 The problem I have is that clinging to a certain image that only exists for a short space of

00:05:13.460 time in comparison to the majority of your life, it's a certain portrayal of who we are

00:05:18.440 through ultimately a fake image, whether it be filters, editing, surgical enhancements.

00:05:23.840 It's not even just the honesty aspect that bothers me.

00:05:26.320 It's the complete identification with the image that they're portraying and their downright

00:05:31.200 ignorance to their humanity and their mortality.

00:05:34.300 I just want you guys to genuinely internalise and accept the truth of our reality as women.

00:05:39.380 Give yourselves a real life. 0.59

00:05:40.700 None of this live fast, die young, self-destructive crap, you're only here once, none of that. 0.97

00:05:46.300 They're convincing you that this ideal they're showing you is real, but it's not real. 0.97

00:05:50.880 Our bodies change every single day and whether you like it or not, you will get old, you will

00:05:55.880 get wrinkles and your boobs will sag. 0.78

00:05:57.520 This is a fact of reality.

00:05:59.640 Remember reality, that thing that existed before social media came around?

00:06:03.320 And this does not mean that now we should shift idealisation to create yet another deluded

00:06:07.980 ideal where we're distorting the reality of beauty standards by putting hippos on a 0.93

00:06:12.820 Sports Illustrated magazine.

00:06:14.300 So if your whole identity is based in this current physical portrayal of yourself, if you're

00:06:19.040 constantly checking how your Instagram page looks and you're spending more time checking

00:06:23.580 Instagram than you do any other daily habit, and I'm sure your screen times will reflect

00:06:27.900 this.

00:06:28.340 So I know that it happens.

00:06:29.880 I know you guys do it.

00:06:31.280 And I know to a lot of people how they're perceived on Instagram is one of their greatest

00:06:35.040 achievements.

00:06:35.800 It's a known principle that the combination of our daily habits creates the person we

00:06:40.420 are.

00:06:40.720 Who we are is what we do.

00:06:41.660 And if the majority of your day is spent with the habit of checking your Instagram, then that's

00:06:46.640 all you are.

00:06:47.180 You are pixels on a screen.

00:06:49.220 And what happens if the lights go out?

00:06:50.800 What's left of you?

00:06:51.660 What happens when that can no longer be emulated?

00:06:54.120 What's left?

00:06:54.720 Is there a person left?

00:06:55.600 What are you left with when you've identified as this transient vogue visor?

00:06:59.260 This notion that we can construct a new identity of ourselves based purely off of delusional 0.92

00:07:03.780 and egotistical drives breeds mental illness.

00:07:07.080 And should midlife crisis come around, which it may, you're setting yourself up for a fall

00:07:12.060 from an unbelievably high pedestal, a fall which may paralyze you and could kill this

00:07:17.540 false ideal that you've created.

00:07:19.200 And then what's left?

00:07:20.040 Wouldn't the best idea be introspection and reflection in order to accept and incorporate

00:07:24.900 what we are into who we are?

00:07:26.540 Or is that asking too much accountability?

00:07:28.720 Are you just lazy?

00:07:29.400 Because I can assure you that whatever you're running from, it's ultimately yourself and

00:07:34.760 it will always catch up with you.

00:07:36.540 There's no running from ourselves.

00:07:37.980 Accepting the things that we've done in our life instead of fleeing allows us to evolve,

00:07:42.440 grow and bloom into healthy ideals that are based in realistic and safe desires.

00:07:48.080 I think the root of this issue, particularly for us in Gen Z, can be derived from our inability

00:07:52.520 to envision the future.

00:07:53.900 Our attention spans have become so disabled and docile that content creators are literally

00:07:58.940 having to insert those little video games at the bottom of videos as an attempt to catch

00:08:03.460 your attention to get you to focus.

00:08:05.120 Does that not insult you?

00:08:06.160 Are we not ashamed?

00:08:07.040 And there's no point trying to insult the content creators for that and saying that they're

00:08:09.940 putting it there.

00:08:10.660 They're just adapting to a market that we, the consumers, create.

00:08:14.180 And shock horror, most of those videos get loads and loads of views.

00:08:18.780 So clearly that says something about the current mental state of our minds.

00:08:22.680 On the topic of transience, which seems to be at the heart of our contemporary culture,

00:08:26.740 as reflected by the most used app on the planet of all time, we browse transiently through

00:08:32.000 social media.

00:08:33.420 We now also date in a transient manner.

00:08:35.640 Decades prior to now, dating was a means to find a life partner.

00:08:39.340 Now dating can be purely for attention or sexual means.

00:08:43.120 Don't get me wrong.

00:08:44.180 I understand the necessity for dating apps in the digital age.

00:08:47.240 If you don't drink or you're not part of any club or society, or you don't want to

00:08:52.300 meet a partner out clubbing, which is fair enough, then dating apps are a way to find

00:08:56.160 someone for sure.

00:08:56.820 However, I do see that there are these certain dating apps that are more used to gain a wealth

00:09:02.340 of attention rather than anything else.

00:09:04.220 The rise of apps like Tinder have pushed and promoted this hookup culture, which I absolutely

00:09:08.820 do not agree with.

00:09:10.020 My difficulty surrounds freedom.

00:09:11.380 Now, freedom is extremely important to me.

00:09:14.180 And you may ask, well, if you care about people's freedoms, then why do you disagree with an

00:09:19.020 app that gives women the ability to sleep around freely? 0.99

00:09:21.700 That empowers women. 1.00

00:09:23.100 It's not the freedom of choice that I have a problem with.

00:09:25.800 Rather, how free is the action of making said choice if it's made from a place where a bias

00:09:31.540 has been imposed, whether you like it or not?

00:09:33.500 Freedom is defined as having the ability to act or change without constraint or to possess

00:09:39.640 the power and resources to fulfill one's purposes unhindered.

00:09:43.560 Everyone everywhere should have this right.

00:09:45.240 In most countries here in the West, this is a fundamental human right and is part of the

00:09:49.740 country's legal jurisdiction, which is fundamentally necessary.

00:09:53.400 Do the companies and platforms that exist within these jurisdictions comply with the law as to

00:09:58.540 allow for this right to be properly executed?

00:10:01.260 From what I've seen in the last three years.

00:10:02.920 To have freedom to act or to not act in a particular way regarding a particular subject,

00:10:08.600 in this instance, we're talking about transient sexual relationships, then you need to understand

00:10:12.780 the pros and cons of said subject in order to make a decision that remains unhindered.

00:10:18.440 Celebrities, public figures, the music we consume, influencers, and even our schooling

00:10:23.120 system here in the UK tells us, hey, it's okay to have sex with lots of different guys.

00:10:27.940 That's why we have contraception. 1.00

00:10:29.420 As long as he wraps it up, there's no other risks.

00:10:32.060 In the name of freedom, let's take this narrative into account.

00:10:35.080 But this narrative is still one-sided.

00:10:36.660 The other side provides scientific evidence that concludes otherwise and does show that

00:10:41.720 there are risks that exist, but they're just not widely discussed in the popular

00:10:46.360 public consumer space.

00:10:48.060 Would you agree that in order for you to remain unhindered, we shouldn't just be getting

00:10:52.360 one-side justification for things?

00:10:54.420 You'd want to know both sides, right?

00:10:56.100 If you don't understand the concept of tyranny, that's absolutely fine.

00:10:59.660 It's very easy to digest briefly.

00:11:01.960 Here are two examples of notoriously tyrannical societies, both past and present.

00:11:06.920 North Korea.

00:11:07.780 So yeah, hopefully we can all agree that tyranny is bad and that blocking out information that

00:11:12.660 you don't like just because it contradicts how you currently live your life and exercise

00:11:16.900 your beliefs, well, that's bad.

00:11:18.420 If you want someone to stop saying something just because it contradicts what you're currently

00:11:22.840 doing in your life, if you don't like something and you think, oh, I should block that out,

00:11:26.200 you're being tyrannical.

00:11:27.100 So what they don't tell you, which you may have already heard of here and there, but given

00:11:31.420 that we do live in a one-sided society at the moment, it's probably been dismissed as

00:11:35.680 misogyny.

00:11:36.480 You just haven't wanted to hear it.

00:11:37.620 It's basically that having transient sexual relationships, so many different sexual partners,

00:11:42.160 actually does carry with it a lot of risks, not only on your ability to do something

00:11:46.160 which is called pair bonding, but it also depletes your potential life prospects.

00:11:51.180 But let's see the evidence.

00:11:52.520 Professor Nicholas H.

00:11:53.620 Wolfinger found that women marrying in the year 2000 that have had more than 10 premarital

00:11:57.980 sexual partners are more likely to get divorced.

00:12:01.420 Whilst the professor does admit that ultimately this raises more questions than answers as we

00:12:06.160 can't change our body count, it does show at least that for us girls, there is a clear 0.96

00:12:10.900 emotional connection linked to how many people we share ourselves with sexually.

00:12:14.500 It is the same to men, it does apply to men too, however for women the bar is a lot lower.

00:12:19.940 Men can sleep with way more women without damaging their ability to pair bond.

00:12:23.840 I just wish that people would try to understand why it matters.

00:12:27.260 I personally have come to the conclusion that women know it matters, purely just based off 1.00

00:12:32.520 of the defensive behaviour that manifests when they're asked about it.

00:12:35.380 It's kind of like they assume that they will be judged, so somewhere inside they must know

00:12:40.720 and accept that it is something to judge.

00:12:43.040 Otherwise, why would they feel like they're being judged?

00:12:45.240 I don't know.

00:12:45.860 Perhaps it's not conscious.

00:12:47.180 Who knows?

00:12:47.720 Not only does promiscuity feed the lie that transient sexual relationships are empowering

00:12:52.520 and holds no risk to your potential future, but promiscuity as represented now has proven

00:12:58.360 to affect your ability to attach deep on an emotional level.

00:13:01.360 There are multiple studies and scientific data to support this, which again, I'm so

00:13:05.340 sorry that you actually have to go out and find it and that it's not readily available,

00:13:09.980 but that's why I'm here to share.

00:13:11.180 You have been lied to.

00:13:12.300 I'm so sorry the world is like this and I wish it wasn't.

00:13:14.740 If you care about both sides of an argument, here is the other side that they don't tell

00:13:18.100 you.

00:13:18.500 Pair bonding is a biological, neurological mechanism that happens in all animals, including

00:13:24.320 humans, to form attachments.

00:13:25.880 It was first arrived in 1987 by people called Hassan and Shaver.

00:13:30.000 If you've ever done A-level psychology, the OCR one, you might remember learning about

00:13:36.680 Bulby and the attachment experiments.

00:13:39.140 It's all linked to this.

00:13:40.060 Bulby, Ainsworth, I can't remember any others.

00:13:42.660 Let me know if you can remember any.

00:13:43.780 It's not new knowledge.

00:13:44.940 When an individual chooses to engage in transient sex, breaking bond after bond from each new

00:13:50.760 partner that they're with, the brain forms a new synaptic map of one night stands.

00:13:54.900 And this pattern of attach, break, attach, break becomes the new normal for the individual.

00:14:00.820 There's an article that explains this.

00:14:03.100 It's really easy to digest.

00:14:04.400 You basically make it harder for you to permanently bond with someone.

00:14:07.780 The mainstream media, our educational systems, our music, and people in positions of power

00:14:12.820 are convincing women this is female empowerment.

00:14:15.860 This is freedom.

00:14:17.080 Allowing women to have unhindered freedom upon their acts. 0.98

00:14:20.360 Actually giving women both sides of the story whilst being informed of all the benefits and 0.98

00:14:25.440 the costs of engaging in promiscuity.

00:14:28.040 Female empowerment is meant to be about acceptance and love. 1.00

00:14:31.220 Love being, it's something that's going to be good for yourself, so therefore it's going

00:14:34.460 to be good for the people around you.

00:14:36.220 And thus the ripple effect of that means that it's good on the broader society.

00:14:39.680 It's these same feminists that preach about female empowerment as an excuse to indulge in 1.00

00:14:45.120 promiscuous behaviour that also shame the ideal of being a wife. 1.00

00:14:49.460 And where's the love there?

00:14:50.600 If you can't already tell, I do not agree with anything that feminism alleges to stand 1.00

00:14:55.320 for, but we'll be here for another hour if I jump into that now.

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00:15:08.400 If you didn't like it, that's absolutely fine too.

00:15:11.880 I hope you ask yourself, is this topic triggering something for you?

00:15:15.100 And maybe delve into that.

00:15:16.360 If it's not that and you're convinced it's me, please let me know and tell me in the comment.

00:15:20.440 Is this triggering something for you?

00:15:21.920 Any areas you think I can improve on, please leave a comment below on how I can do better.

00:15:26.380 And of course, I'll try my best.

00:15:27.800 We're not here for long.

00:15:28.540 There are people out there with big red buttons that could end all of our lives in seconds.

00:15:33.200 We're bound to not agree on everything.

00:15:35.960 Life's too short.

00:15:36.920 Let's try our best to remain harmonious in the adversity of opinion.

00:15:40.640 Sending love to you all.

JustPearlyThings - July 22, 2023

The Rise of Sexual Objectification in Modern Women FT Christine

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