The Sad Reality Of Average Men In The Dating Market
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about bisexuality and what it means to be bisexual in the 21st century. We talk about our experiences with bisexuality in the past and present, and how bisexuality has impacted our dating and sex lives.
Transcript
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They always say that a guy can't be bisexual, that he's only gay.
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And I'm guessing, and I'll tell you this, the women I've been with wouldn't say that either.
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Women are, like, intrigued because they're like, oh, they asked the question to me again.
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Tell me about the differences between dating men and dating women.
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Men are liars and men will tell you what they want to tell you to.
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Men are, men will tell you what they want to tell you, which most of the time is just to get into a situation,
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whether it's bed or whether it's a date or whatever.
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Like, if you've done something wrong, they let you know.
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Their body language, their expression, the way they carry themselves, like, you know you've messed up.
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With a guy, like, they'll try and, like, play it off.
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So, like, for me, yeah, I'm still trying to, like, figure the whole thing out.
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I mean, like, I know I was bi since I was eight, and I've been, like, dating guys or whatever the last four or five years,
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but the majority of my life has been with females.
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To a guy, I'm just like, sometimes I meet a guy and I'm just like, huh, I thought I had it figured, and I still don't have it figured.
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Now I'm at a stage where I'm like, now I understand why women be out there, like, oh, you guys ain't playing this and that.
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Are we going to give you the same advice that we give to all these women?
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I wonder if men, like, if in same-sex relationships, like, because women we know are hypergamous.
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Like, is it the same, like, when it's same-sex, are you guys all sleeping with the same men?
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So some guys, I've been told sometimes I'm not gay enough.
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Where I'm just a specific person who like what I like, and I think it's come to a point where, like, I'm 33 years old.
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I'm, like, confident who I am and everyone knows and blah, blah, blah, where I'm just like, it's not just about how you look or whatever.
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It's actual, the conversation, the attraction, the overall how you are as an individual.
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Like, I've been with people who I physically wouldn't have been attracted to, but I've gotten to know them.
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And it's been like, you've wowed my mind and that I find sexy and I find it, yeah, and attractive.
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Because I don't hear guys say that often where they can, like, they don't find a girl attractive and she can, like, talk her way into being attractive.
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Because I've fallen for a person, a female, who I just used to hang out with and I physically wouldn't have normally found her attractive.
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But after going out with her on, just as a friendship thing, I found myself not falling in love with her, but falling for her and seeing her in a different light.
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So you were basically the gay best friend that they need to worry about.
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One of my girls that's no longer a friend of mine because her boyfriend saw it as, uh, I was, I've been this guy where guys have stopped their girls being friends with me.
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And I've been like, just tell him I'm not bi anymore.
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Just say I've seen the light and I've gone all the way gay.
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If I was the boyfriend on the situation, I'm on the same vibe.
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Basically, as a bisexual, I'm just a lover of all people.
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Would you guys let your girlfriend hang out with a guy that was bi?
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Because he's, you're able to kind of tap into that emotional side.
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And then you're able to do whatever, lay whatever you need to lay in it.
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But you know, you'll be under the same category as just a male best friend.
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It's not like sometimes a gay best friend kind of gets a little blight.
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That's what makes you scary because you've got all the attributes of the gay best friend.
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But at the same time, on some days, you're not that gay best friend.
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So today's topic is talking about social media and how it pertains to relationships.
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On a given day, how many messages do you receive from men interested in you?
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I think if I put stories up, then I'll have more interaction.
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When I put stories up, yeah, I'll get a couple, a few messages to be fair.
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And any sort of like love or attention that I receive from dudes is from guys I already
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know or have already like had an encounter with, like met before.
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So I don't really get strangers like, hey, like, what's up?
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So how many messages do you get a day from men?
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So you get no messages from guys interested in you.
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And when I do, it's the people that already know me.
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And if I do is from like an uncle that's like 25 years older than me that I'm going to ignore.
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I don't really see them come up as much because they go into message requests.
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So if I post like a update from like my gym progress, then I'll get a flurry of people.
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What would you say is the quality of the girls that DM you?
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So like out of every 10, what percent are you would actually?
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I mean, if I post it, if I was to post a trap, it would maybe be that 40%.
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Sometimes, you know, I might get some wings in there.
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Yeah, because the gays love a personal trainer, man.
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And the reason why is because my situation, women are lovely.
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Because women would just like, and then be like, oh, I love like how positive you are
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There's not, I don't think, I think there's a shortage of like masculine mandem as they
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So I made my account private because guys have kept DMing me through like, and then so
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like, let's say, for example, the black gay community in London is not that big, including
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So some people would see, so some people would see that I'm following them or blah, blah,
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And then my biography says like open-minded, blah, blah, blah.
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Weren't really too sure if I liked him or whatever.
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And he was like, look, I wouldn't mind if you had an affair with a woman because she can
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But if it was with another man, he would find it offensive.
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I could say I could get like two, three a week.
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That's half to do with the fact that I don't use social media.
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Even when, but at the same time, back when I was single, I still didn't really get messages
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like that, it was you having to fish rather than the fish coming to you type of situation.
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But it was like, yeah, it was like, you have to go there rather than them come here.
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Which is very different to a lot of other situations I've heard from like other guys
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Girls to guys ratio is very different because a lot of girls I've seen get a lot more messages
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However, the guys that do get messages get a lot, and a lot of them.
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So you have that like one friend, that one male friend who's a 10 out of 10, who we get
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However, like a bell curve situation, there are more girls getting more messages than
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But from what I've seen, the hottest guys will, because girls are hypergamous, so they
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So if you've got that one guy who's a 10, he's going to get more messages than any girl