The Secrets Of Passion And Fulfilment In Long-Term Relationships ｜ Stirling Cooper @StirlingCooper
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1 hour and 8 minutes
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Summary
Sterling Cooper is a regular on our panel shows and has been with us for a number of years. He has been in the entertainment industry for a long time and is now a full time escort and sex coach. We talk about his early life growing up in a Christian, wholesome family in Australia and how he went from there to becoming a swinger and escort.
Transcript
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I also used to work as a high-class male companion.
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Sex was always, I guess, a bit taboo in my family.
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of, like, the combination between, like, a gentleman.
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and, like, bangs another dude's wife in front of him.
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I had directors and companies I refused to shoot with.
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And every guy and girl in the industry has that.
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And he doesn't book your work, violate your no list.
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Like, the average guy today has seen more naked women
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than, like, Genghis Khan would have seen in his lifetime.
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So, Sterling, you've been on the show a couple times.
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Why don't you introduce yourself to the people at home
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I also used to work as a high-class male companion,
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servicing wealthy business ladies, shall we say.
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And prior to that, I was also in the swingers scene
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as a single guy, as what you would call a bull in that scene.
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And now, I've given up that life of degeneracy.
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And I kind of pull on that experience of performing under pressure
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I'm able to help men, women, couples all over the world
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How does one go from nice, wholesome family in Australia
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I, like, would never have guessed if I didn't know.
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I like to think I present as somewhat classy...
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But my mom had a Bible by her bed every day of her life.
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I think technically we're some kind of Protestant.
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Technically Christian, but not really Christian.
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So I took my dad on, like, a tour of America last year.
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And, like, basically it was just me getting him drunk
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It's typically women who are mid-30s, career women.
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I'd say have a hard time finding the kind of guy
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Because the guy they want to be with is chasing tail
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So my job was really to be that guy, to be that classy gentleman that would wine and dine
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My job was to kind of be that perfect fantasy of, like, the combination between, like, a gentleman
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but still quite sexually deviant behind closed doors to give them that fantasy they wanted.
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It was a really interesting learning lesson into, like, female psychology for me.
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Actually, once here in Britain, I had a British police officer.
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She was, yeah, just, look, I guess, yeah, looking to lose that authority in a way.
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I had my best client was this, like, multi-millionaire Chinese lady who ran, like, a, it was like a
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And that was one of the most interesting experiences I got.
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So she used to fly me out to New Zealand on skiing trips.
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And it was actually kind of, it wasn't, she wasn't sad, but the story was a bit tearful
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because she told me that her whole family, every time they interacted with her, because
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she was the wealthiest one in her family, deca-millionaire, whole time, anytime anyone
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in her family interacted with her, all they wanted from her was money.
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She couldn't, she was technically married back in China.
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Um, he was some kind of, uh, like high level, uh, musician.
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Um, but it wasn't, it was a marriage of, it's a safe face.
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I think they'd done it, they'd consummated it maybe once or twice, but it wasn't a relationship
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So he was still in China and she was living in Melbourne.
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And the only person in, so she, so because she's married on paper, she can't be seen
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She can't, she can't go out and meet, you know, a guy through one of her friends or
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She can't confide in any of her family members because all they want is money from her.
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The only person she could confide in was her niece and her niece wanted to be a chef.
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And so she would spoil her niece by taking her to like five-star restaurants all the time.
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And that was the way of bonding and that, but that was, as she was telling me that story,
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I was like, man, like it's lonely for like wealthy women.
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Cause they do, they do not have an easy time finding a guy who is like kind of going to
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be on their level and is going to, yeah, be like intimate and passionate with them.
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It's really, it was a really eyeopening experience.
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So they would, they were like, so I know you just said her, but like in like actual marriages
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They never really would tell me why they hired me.
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It was like verbatim, like I hired you for this.
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They would talk about the problems they had with their husband, how the marriage was sexless,
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um, how the passion had gone and things like this.
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Do you find that sexless marriages are typically the choice of the woman or the guy?
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I think for the, well, the, the clients I was seeing, I think would probably like an
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Uh, based upon what I hear from guys who study my material, like my YouTube, my email list
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Uh, I'd say it's more the case of the woman, like not being, she's, her lust isn't inspired
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by her man anymore because he's kind of taken a backseat.
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He's kind of coasting through the relationship.
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Like when you have the, the honeymoon phase at the beginning of a relationship, both of
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You know, and that energy comes from both sides, but eventually guys will get kind of
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complacent and fall into a habit and a routine.
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And that's when you kind of stop seducing each other.
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Cause if, if you're not the kind of guy who's going to inspire that lust out of her in the
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first place, well, she's going to be less sexual towards you.
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And it's, it's going to slowly degrade to nothing.
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Just trying to put all the burden of responsibility on the guy, but that's life as a guy, I think.
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And so I would say it's for the most part, it's down to the guy to make sure that stays
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Now, if she's getting fat and not, you know, no, I'm serious.
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But if she's, you know, getting out of shape or whatever.
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Well, he has to, let's say, inspire a little bit of jealousy in her to make sure that she
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Cause otherwise, like if she's complacent and she'll get complacent when she thinks that
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her man has no sexual options at all, when he's not a guy who women want to flirt with,
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or he gets attention from women, well, she ain't going to really put any, why does she
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She's getting, she's getting her into the, into the bargain met, right?
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House is paid for, mortgage is paid for, she can, you know, do her things or whatever.
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Like it's a balance that both, both sides need to have incentive for it to work.
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Do you think it's possible to avoid like, I don't know, relationships getting boring
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over time, you know, cause, cause life is, it's so long.
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Like if you want to actually have a 20, 30, 40, 50 year marriage, which it's rare nowadays
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Is it even possible to avoid things getting boring?
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I would say that boredom isn't like this, this thing you need that you should be super
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It's like kind of more of a lack of like fulfillment between the two of you.
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Like, and I think, I think that's comes from, I'm, I'm talking as a guy who's not, who doesn't
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So take whatever I'm saying here with a grain of salt, obviously.
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And it's my opinion based upon what I've seen from like friends who've been in long relationships
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You've probably dealt with more women than like any, the average guy.
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I'll hear these guys come and say, I've been married 10 years, 15 years.
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And I, I almost think like sometimes the players have a little bit respectfully, but like
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have a little bit more of like, uh, uh, grasp on female nature and norm, know more about
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Cause they've dealt with more women than the average married man.
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Like the average marriage, that married, that married man knows his wife.
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Well, you do see, you do, you still will see a lot of guys in long-term relationships,
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long, like long-term marriages who've, who've kind of been, uh, hand pecked, right?
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So that, that fundamentally tells me that he doesn't actually understand female nature.
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If the dynamic is off in that relationship, well, he probably would have been, not that I'm
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trying to encourage us, it'll be, probably would have been better sort of sowing his
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oats a bit when he was younger to kind of learn a bit of the darker side of female nature
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rather than going into a long-term relationship naively.
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And, you know, eventually let's not say, maybe he's not necessarily getting taken advantage
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of, but he's certainly not wearing the pants in the relationship.
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And I don't think she's happy if he, if she's wearing the pants, I think no woman's
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And that's eventually when they'll hire a guy like me or cheat on, on him with a guy
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And it's, it's not a good situation for anyone.
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So I'd much rather the doobie were in the pants and the doobie stepping up and at least
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So the, the light side of female nature is the nurturing kind of motherly, motherly aspect
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and the, well, the nurturing aspect towards your partner and your kids, I'd say.
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For men, the, the light side of the man is protecting and providing the dark side is
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We're, we're all perfectly aware that men are more violent than women.
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I think men are, well, I think men are far better at violence.
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When I, the reason I think that women are more violent is because we're more likely
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I didn't say it's always a good reason, but I think the more violent one kills the innocent.
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But let's just say that that's still like, men are still better at that.
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And that's ironically, the guys who you would consider to be like, quote unquote, players
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are actually just men who are very good at manipulation.
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They're men who have mastered the female weapon.
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So when I say manipulation, I mean, things like emotional coercion, right?
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Like, which is really all a woman has, like that's, that's really her only power is emotional
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Now she can, she can manipulate, I'm using the term manipulate loosely here.
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But she can manipulate a man in a positive way by like, oh gee, maybe cooking him dinner,
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having like a warm, like roast dinner, waiting on the table when he gets home.
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That's like, I'm falling in love with that woman.
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That's still emotional manipulation, but it's done in a positive way.
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The negative emotional side, the negative manipulative side of that is like the nagging, like the
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Disculating him in front of other people, right.
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That's kind of the more manipulative, the darker side of that, I'd say.
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The same way, the same way that a baby has to cry to get what it wants.
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Well, it's not, it can't, it can't go grab like the bottle of milk for itself.
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And women cannot get what they want in the world through physical force.
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Men can, men have been using violence since the dawn of time to get what they want out
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I'm going to club that guy over the head and take it.
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They have to use the tool, the one tool they have, which is really emotional manipulation.
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And it's primarily emotional manipulation of men.
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And again, I'm not saying it's a bad thing, I'm just saying it is.
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And you said that men, basically that our players have mastered the art of emotional
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Or at least they're able to recognize when a woman is trying to emotionally manipulate
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And like how a guy that is a player would, I don't know, avoid it or deal with it.
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So maybe she's like, oh, why didn't you call me yesterday?
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Well, that's her provoking you with an argument to try and get you to give her more attention.
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So you'll argue back and forth and she's getting what she wants.
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Well, a guy who's experienced with women will recognize that.
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He also recognizes that's not really behavior he likes to encourage, right?
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So if she's trying to argue with me, like, basically I didn't reply.
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Like, okay, put the phone down and wait for her to get back into a good mood.
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And then when she's being lovely is when I'm going to show my affection.
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But when she's not being lovely and she's being a bit annoying, I'm not going to shower her
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It's not that complicated, but that's a pretty common example, I'd say.
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Have you ever heard the phrase to treat your woman like a child?
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That reminds me of like when you kids, like when they have a temper tantrum, you have to
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Well, one of the best selling female self-help books, I believe right now, is something along
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the lines of like how to train your man like a dog.
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There is also a book about like how to train your man like a dog.
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But it's like, okay, is that, that's, that's just as bad.
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I mean, the way I look at it is like, we don't even like the guys that stuff works on.
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So it's like, you're kind of screwing yourself.
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Because you're never, you're never going to like a guy that's getting onto your program.
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So it's like these girls will bring out these books and on the outside, like, like,
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let's say Jada, like 20 years ago said, this is how I bagged Will Smith.
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Because she, they were like the couple of everyone loved.
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Everyone loved Will and Jada like 10, 15 years ago.
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I don't really, I don't really give a shit about celebrity stuff, but.
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She doesn't even like him because he's the type of guy that that stuff would work on.
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He's, he's been a fantastic example for the average guy.
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I think to like, of what, what to look out for.
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Like obviously in love with her, her ex, Tupac or whatever, whatever that was.
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Did you see that her daughter cried talking about Tupac?
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I think she wrote a letter to Tupac or something.
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I'm shocked that one of Will's kids isn't called Tupac.
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Like I'm shocked one of his sons isn't called Tupac.
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Isn't that a common thing where like guys will find out that their kid is named after
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That's why the man, the man should name the kids.
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Cause the man's going to name the kids after like ancestors, like siblings, like ancient
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You're not going to call him like nickname him after Chad or his, his ex Stacy or something.
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You had like a girlfriend you would do that with?
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So I was what you would call a bull is the technical term.
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I'm, I'm like the dude who come, who comes in and like bangs another dude's wife in front
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I've, I've not been putting this energy out into the universe deliberate to, to be fair,
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deliberately in the last two weeks I've in my DMS, I've had about five different proposals
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from married women asking or sliding in my DMS, like, and their profile photo is like them
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So they would, how would they, I would, I would go to parties and stuff.
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And I would also get invited to like, yeah, a couple's house and he would sit in the corner
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They, they, they, they, they, they fetish, they fetishize it.
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Very often it's the dude's idea to get another dude in to bang his wife.
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I, uh, I don't, I wouldn't personally, I'm not into that.
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Like being on that end of the equation, how it's all like sexual fantasies and kinks.
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They, to me, at least they seem to be derived from just an exposure to more and more like
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Like, for example, I don't think anyone starts like their life off with like the fetish of
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It has to be something that, that is built on after like years of consuming like graphic
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I can't, I honestly can't think of another way for that to like a manifest.
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I don't see it because there's no, there's no biological part of it.
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Do you think it's like a deviation because of consumption?
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It must be not, I mean, not just that fetish, but I think, I think basically all fetishes
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With the, with the one exception I'll probably make to that rule is general BDSM, like more,
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more specifically like the dom sub dynamic, because I think that is fundamentally more
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in line with like our actual biological roles as men and women.
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So that, that at least makes sense in the sense like, okay, why would a woman wanting to be
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like tied up and spanked kind of makes sense from like the biological perspective, like men
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are stronger than women and thus they fantasize about stronger men.
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But other things like, yeah, like leather fetishes, like cuckold fetishes, all this kind of stuff.
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It's like, I, I at least have not come across any other way of kind of explaining their origins.
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Like I'm trying to learn as much as I can about it.
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But yeah, my, my, that's my current hypothesis.
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So tell me what you, have you seen, have you seen the Adam 22?
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I'm kind of familiar with what's going on to a degree.
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So Adam 22 loaned his wife out for a OnlyFans video.
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He, his wife, um, had sex with, um, I think his name is Jason Love.
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He said, I think this could be very positive for society.
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So this is the new, what do you, what do you think about?
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Well, for a start, he's recreating a very, very famous scene with that shot.
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There's, it's kind of like a meme that goes around, is around the internet now.
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I think the girls, the original girl's name was Piper Perry.
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Um, and she's sitting in the middle of a couch and there's like five, like black actors behind
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I'm actually friends with two of the guys who were, who were in that shoot.
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I don't know any of the other guys in that though, but.
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Cause I saw all the stuff that was happening before with like the Jason Love thing in that.
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Like I'm not, I'm, I, you cannot convince me that, that he does not know what he's doing.
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When it comes to like going viral like that, because he knows that a whole bunch of people
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like you, for example, are going to engage with it.
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He knows it's going to get the, get engagement.
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Because like, there's no such thing as bad publicity, right?
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His audience ain't, you know, like, like friends, like not, not friends of mine, but
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His audience ain't followers of mine who are like, you know, trying to go down a self-improvement
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route and try to, um, you know, improve their sex lives, improve their relationship dynamics.
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So if that person gets angry about his content and signal boosts it, he wins happy days.
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His audience, the guys he's going after are the dudes who would like to watch that material.
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So what do you think about couples that do OnlyFans together?
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I used to kind of, I used to kind of participate in, in, in that kind of stuff.
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But you didn't have like a item that, I don't think you had a wife and a child.
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I dated, I dated a few girls in the industry during, during my time.
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Um, a big part of that to be fair was networking ability.
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It's like, if you're, if you're the boyfriend of like a star, she will recommend you to like
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So to a large degree, that is like a business relationship.
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But, um, I know lots of couples, still friends with a bunch of couples who do that, who still
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create like OF stuff or, or they're couples, they're two couples, whatever.
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And they're on set every day shooting with other people.
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The one, all the ones I know are still doing fine.
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How long has it been that they're together for?
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It's, it's a combination of a few different things.
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I mean, there's one, one couple that comes to mind right now.
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They've probably been together for at least, at least four years, at least four years.
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Oh, I thought you were going to say like 10 or something.
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I didn't, I've only met them like four or five years ago.
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It's that's, that's, that's one example of they're actually both stars.
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There's another couple I know where she's a star and he's just a regular Joe.
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They've been married for like, at least eight years.
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But I don't know what's going on behind his doors.
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I don't know how genuinely happy she is, but a lot of that seems to be like, I could
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The one it's, at least on the woman's side, her getting certain needs met.
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From one guy and other needs met from a bunch of dudes.
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So like, not to say that the, her husband isn't fucking her right, but like, she's definitely
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getting like a lot of her sexual fantasy needs met, obviously from, from her line of work
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And the partner is purely there for like the emotional connection side of things.
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And so they, they have the ability to, this is the common trait with like stars and only
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fans, girls who will shoot like guy, girl porn is their ability to kind of separate emotion
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Like if you didn't, it would be, they would, they would fall in love with every guy that
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Or they'd get burnt out really quickly, which does happen.
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And those girls get out of the industry very quickly.
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Um, the turnover rate is super fast, especially in like Europe, but, uh, yeah, it's, it's,
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it's a very special kind of woman who even has the ability, a unique type of woman who
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has the ability to even do that in the first place.
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Do you think it's possible for women to actually separate the two?
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Not the average woman, but these women seem to do it.
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Um, I've heard, I hear this argument all the time on, on places like Twitter, for example,
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that the female orgasm isn't important because you don't need it to reproduce babies, which
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However, there is another really important reason for the female orgasm.
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When a woman has an orgasm and there's other things that cause this to happen.
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But when a woman has an orgasm as well, she gets a dump of oxytocin in her brain, which
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is what will trigger that pair bonding between the partner.
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Like the more sexual partners a woman has had, typically she produces less oxytocin.
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So it's a consequence of like the lack of pair bond is a consequence, I think of just sleeping
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And it's a developed ability to separate like sex and emotion like that.
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Cause most of the girls I know that like kind of went crazy when they were older.
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I'm like, they didn't like, if I knew them from like young, you know, like most, I don't
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know anyone that's done like only fans or anything like that.
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But like, I do know a girl, a couple of girls that kind of went off the rails from like where
00:29:42.600
It was something that seemed to kind of happen later.
00:29:46.600
There's a lot of, there's also a lot of girls, like a lot of the MILF performers, like the
00:29:49.600
older girls who get into the industry and they get into the industry in their like thirties.
00:29:54.600
A lot of them actually tend to have come from like a swingers background.
00:29:59.600
Like they've, they were, they've been with like their husband for like long time.
00:30:03.600
The couple, the pair of them decided to experiment and get into the swingers scene.
00:30:16.600
It's the dude's idea because he thinks, oh, this is a free meal ticket to more pussy.
00:30:25.600
Even in the swingers scene, it's way harder, way less likely for him to get a nude chick.
00:30:29.600
And it's infinitely easy for his wife to get another dude.
00:30:34.600
Oh, so he thinks he's going to be the one sleeping around, but generally it's her.
00:30:43.600
What do you think about those stars that are women like Lana Rhodes, Mia Khalifa that come
00:30:57.600
Like this, this whole idea in general, cause there's a big misconception about the street,
00:31:03.600
or at least I'll clarify the professional industry.
00:31:06.600
So like this is prior, like OnlyFans are kind of blurred and muddied the waters here a
00:31:12.600
But prior, cause OnlyFans has only been around for like five years.
00:31:16.600
So prior to that, you like you had professional, which is basically like shooting for any of
00:31:21.600
You might've, you might find on like tube sites.
00:31:28.600
Like loads of like consent forms, model releases, paperwork.
00:31:34.600
You do, you do not get into that industry by being coerced.
00:31:39.600
Like the, every agent I know in LA, they don't have to recruit.
00:31:44.600
They are inundated with applications from women, all the agents.
00:31:51.600
They have to go for their inbox every day and be like, no, no, no.
00:32:00.600
Like in the seedy underbelly of like the human trafficking area, trying to recruit girls.
00:32:07.600
That is not the case, but that gets conflated a lot because there was a lot of, there was
00:32:13.600
a lot of, uh, how do I say this without you getting flagged?
00:32:31.600
That stuff is a hundred percent like based around like human trafficking and stuff.
00:32:35.600
But because it's on the same website as like all the professional stuff, it kind of gets
00:32:39.600
So when I, when a woman like, you know, Lana Rhodes or Mia Cleaver says like, I was coerced
00:32:43.600
into doing this, well, you had to like sign a consent form.
00:32:49.600
You had to get, you had to go like contact the agent to like get work in the first place.
00:32:55.600
Like where's the, it's up until like the whole way through.
00:32:58.600
It's like, like you making a choice, you making a choice, you making a choice, you making a choice.
00:33:02.600
Where's the, where's the coercion coming to it?
00:33:10.600
Cause I'm like, how the hell do you get coerced into doing like, that's my question.
00:33:21.600
Like you can, you can literally like, we have a thing in the industry called a no list as well.
00:33:27.600
No one, like only your agent knows your no list.
00:33:30.600
I have a list of girls that I would not, what I would, I refuse to shoot with.
00:33:33.600
I had directors and companies I refuse to shoot with.
00:33:38.600
And every guy and girl in the industry has that.
00:33:41.600
And he doesn't book your work that violates your no list.
00:33:46.600
Well, and they always start an only fans later.
00:33:51.600
They'll go on like a ho apology tour and then start an only fans after.
00:34:06.600
So I'm not trying to, I'm actually excited with the Adam 22 thing.
00:34:09.600
I ain't trying to shit on Lana Rhodes and Mia Cleefier because again, these two women are
00:34:15.600
Especially like, so Mia, Mia's been doing this longer.
00:34:17.600
Lana's just jumped on the train, but for the, like, I don't know how long, Mia's been
00:34:23.600
Every, every like 12 months, what she would do is she would, she would come out publicly
00:34:31.600
And every girl who was currently in would retweet that shit in outrage.
00:34:45.600
She was one of the most popular, like most highly paid talent in the industry.
00:34:53.600
But both of them have only fans and accounts, both of them are making money off of it.
00:34:56.600
So every time you, you can, you like buy into this, like out this rage bait, just realize
00:35:01.600
you're like, as angry as you are at it, you're, you're putting money in the bank account.
00:35:06.600
See, I don't really think that they're these smart marketers.
00:35:11.600
I do think Adam, I mean, I don't think he can make that scene.
00:35:15.600
I just think women kind of go through a cycle and it's like, they're like, oh, I don't
00:35:22.600
And then they're here and then they're trying to get rid of it.
00:35:24.600
Then they realize, oh, it doesn't really matter.
00:35:33.600
I just, I just, I don't believe it's that well thought out personally.
00:35:38.600
Like I'm not going to, I'm not going to call Lana Rhodes a brilliant marketer.
00:35:51.600
I, I, you'd be, you'd be surprised how smart a lot of these girls are behind closed doors.
00:35:57.600
Um, what do you think about born again virgins?
00:36:12.600
But so what made you leave the porn industry though?
00:36:17.600
Um, it was largely a frustration of not being able to speak my mind.
00:36:23.600
In case you can't tell I'm, I'm a lot more right leaning.
00:36:27.600
Like my beliefs and my opinions, but politically and like socially and the entire country is
00:36:37.600
It's all like, it all very much resonates with that whole like, um, agenda propaganda,
00:36:45.600
So like there was, there was lots of instances of, of I'd be on set.
00:36:52.600
I'd be on set and I was very pro Trump at the time, uh, until the back stuff happened.
00:36:59.600
But basically, um, you'd be on set and you'd, and like my co-star would be, would be super
00:37:04.600
The industry, all the women are feminists by the way, which might sound ironic, but they
00:37:19.600
And so, uh, you know, they, they come on, they'd be, they'd be bitching and whinging
00:37:23.600
And in the back of my head, I'm like, yes, nice one.
00:37:29.600
So, but then you'd be blacklisted or something.
00:37:40.600
I actually went, I went on and tweeted some like red pill stuff.
00:37:52.600
I tweeted the big one that got me like mega canceled was if she calls herself a queen,
00:37:58.600
a princess, a brat or a bad bitch, she's probably not relationship material.
00:38:13.600
What literally like almost every girl in the industry will kind of label.
00:38:17.600
We'll use one of those labels to the, to define themselves.
00:38:23.600
I knew, I knew that would ruffle up some feathers, but, uh, I went cause I was in, I was actually
00:38:28.600
in Spain, no Portugal at the time when I tweeted it, went to bed.
00:38:32.600
But the Americans saw it and I woke up the next morning to about 900 Twitter notifications.
00:38:39.600
And everyone was like, cancel this guy, cancel this guy, cancel this guy.
00:38:42.600
Like shit, just trying to shit on my reputation and stuff.
00:38:45.600
And that, but it was kind of like, it was, it was good because I, I was kind of like,
00:38:56.600
Like, ah, this is the, this is what you, like you wanted, you wanted free speech, Sterling.
00:39:07.600
And did he say you're basically shit out of work?
00:39:14.600
I built a business off what I know how to teach.
00:39:17.600
And I'm an, I'm a quite, quite a good teacher and I have a, I actually have a scientific
00:39:22.600
So like I'm able to pull on a whole bunch of resources and I'm like, you know what?
00:39:25.600
It's going to be a challenge, but I'll make it work.
00:39:29.600
Do you think porn is a net good or net negative?
00:39:34.600
Is that weird having that opinion being that, how long did you do porn for?
00:39:39.600
Is it weird having that opinion, having done it?
00:39:43.600
Cause it's, I look at the way I look at it now is like, I don't, I can't, I can't regret
00:39:48.600
having done it because if I hadn't have done it, I wouldn't have been in a position to
00:39:53.600
I had to help guys like biohacks and things like that, but I'd learned from like older
00:39:57.600
Like what, like what to eat, what supplements to take, like how to exercise all this stuff.
00:40:02.600
I had to learn in order to be able to teach it to the average guy to help his sex life.
00:40:08.600
But I just, the way I look at it now is like, I'm just trying to make up for like the damage
00:40:15.600
Cause it's not, it's not like the, the only context I'm, you might be able to argue that
00:40:20.600
like kind of good is to spite, like for couples to watch, to kind of like spice things up a
00:40:26.600
And they were like watching it together and like kind of creating a fantasy and just
00:40:29.600
redirecting that sexual energy into their relationship.
00:40:32.600
You can make an argument for that, but in general, like, especially like internet, man, like
00:40:40.600
It's on every, on every kid's phone, like easily accessible.
00:40:45.600
Like Paul, like when I was growing up, it was like, I remember we, me and some friends,
00:40:49.600
we went down to the tip, like the local garbage dump.
00:40:52.600
Cause one of the kids knew that the local news agency had dumped a bunch of nudie mags
00:40:59.600
And we went around like half a day scrounging it.
00:41:01.600
And we eventually found like a pile of like this magazine and we all took one.
00:41:04.600
And that was like our masturbation material as teenagers for about six years.
00:41:10.600
Whereas now it's like the average guy today has seen more naked women than like Genghis
00:41:20.600
The human, the male brain isn't really made for that level of sexual exposure.
00:41:25.600
I don't think it's, it's, it's a dangerous thing we're playing with.
00:41:37.600
Is it women asking for sexual attention from men or men asking for sex?
00:41:43.600
I would argue that women ask for sexual attention first.
00:41:46.600
My reason being is I was in Vegas and these chicks are walking, like they have stickers
00:41:53.600
Well, it's, it's women asking for attention in general.
00:41:57.600
And because men view women as sexual objects, any attention is ergo associated with sex.
00:42:07.600
But they do, they defer their responsibility onto men.
00:42:14.600
Like they, they will never take, they can't take responsibility for it.
00:42:17.600
And they can't really, the average woman cannot really initiate it.
00:42:20.600
Like they still have just as many sexual fantasies.
00:42:23.600
And if, and a lot of cases, women's sexual fantasies are a lot more perverted than guys' sexual fantasies.
00:42:27.600
A really good book to read is, uh, My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday.
00:42:34.600
So Nancy, I think she was a New York Times journalist, I believe.
00:42:36.600
And she basically put an ad in the New York Times asking for women to write in their anonymous sexual fantasies.
00:42:46.600
Is it like, cause I've heard there was a male OnlyFans model that came on the show.
00:42:51.600
And he said the number one thing he gets from women is like rape fantasies.
00:43:03.600
And I remember reading that in my early twenties and that like, that changed me from thinking
00:43:06.600
of women as like sugar and spice and everything nice.
00:43:11.600
So it's, I think it's, it's good for the average man to understand that.
00:43:16.600
Now you could make the argument that maybe that's just modern women.
00:43:20.600
So it's still, it's not super, super, duper old.
00:43:24.600
But I do think that, uh, yeah, women tend to be a lot more sexual, but they're just
00:43:34.600
They're walking around with just stickers on their titties.
00:43:39.600
Cause they'll just say, not all women are like that.
00:43:44.600
Well, but my sample size is like in, in excess, in excess of like 600 now.
00:43:49.600
So I'm not, that's, that's not, that's literally just because of, I know, I don't know.
00:44:01.600
How many women have you interacted with in your life?
00:44:08.600
Like I'm taught, we can't, we can't talk about generalizations without taking like.
00:44:16.600
Like what are the biggest problems that guys come to you with?
00:44:20.600
Well, one of the first things I teach guys going back to your previous point is to not
00:44:31.600
Because it can be something that really drags you back with a lot of these.
00:44:36.600
These are the problems that guys come to me with.
00:44:38.600
So two of the most common ones are either erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation.
00:44:44.600
And the probably the third more common one is like, how do I generally, how do I get my
00:44:50.600
Like, like, how do I get, get into orgasm in this position or that position?
00:44:53.600
No, like some kind of a more technical mechanical kind of a question like that.
00:45:07.600
Um, one, from a brain chemistry perspective, like we mentioned before, like the average
00:45:11.900
guy seeing more titties, like a king or a sultan would have in his entire lifetime.
00:45:18.200
What that does is it screws around with your, your, um, your dopamine receptors when you're
00:45:22.300
constantly bombarding it to say, by the way, it's the exact same thing that incessantly scrolling
00:45:27.560
on TikTok does, the exact same thing that incessantly eating like sugary foods does.
00:45:34.560
Eating sugary foods has the same effect as porn?
00:45:36.560
Well, it has an effect on your dopamine receptors, right?
00:45:42.560
Sugary foods or, you know, uh, what you would call like comfort foods, right?
00:45:46.560
They use it to like, what are they, what's the comfort from?
00:45:49.560
They're trying to like get some kind of a dopamine release.
00:45:52.560
Sugary foods tend to do that more than like veggies.
00:46:00.560
Not to, not to the, maybe not to the same extent, but, uh, yeah, the idea is if you're
00:46:03.560
constantly bombarding your brain with dopamine, the receptors become less, like it causes less
00:46:09.560
Shall we say a bigger stimulus to cause the same effect?
00:46:14.560
So the guy who, you know, might've been, I was like jerk off to a glimpse of a woman's
00:46:21.560
Now he, he has to go through like 50 odd videos to finally get his nut off.
00:46:25.560
So that's the, that's one of the big reasons it, it dampens his dopamine receptors, which,
00:46:29.560
which again leads to a whole bunch of other things.
00:46:32.560
Like it leads to reduce motivation, reduce drive from a guy, uh, reduces his ability to,
00:46:39.560
uh, climax, reduces his ability to get excited and aroused.
00:46:44.560
Cause a real woman in front of him is not as novel and stimulating to his brain as the
00:46:49.560
50 different women he saw last night when he was jacking it.
00:46:53.560
So it's one of the first things dudes need to like cut out.
00:46:56.560
If they got, if they have any problem whatsoever in the bedroom, the first thing they should
00:47:03.560
What can men do to maintain attraction in their relationships?
00:47:07.560
Be aware of the masculine and feminine polarity and being aware of like, like emphasizing your
00:47:19.560
So what I mean by that is women want to feel feminine.
00:47:24.560
Women want to be in that more, let's say submissive role in the bedroom.
00:47:30.560
I think the bedroom is like a microcosm for what goes on outside the relationship.
00:47:34.560
Like I've had guys, for example, who I've taught how to be a bit more of a dominant, passionate
00:47:40.560
And then they'll email me back like a month later and be like, oh, she's, she's cooking
00:47:45.560
She's not, she's not nagging about taking the trash out.
00:47:48.560
So you think that what happens in the bedroom is like kind of a symbol almost for what's
00:47:53.660
going on in the relationship or it reflects it?
00:47:57.560
It's the outside reflects the inside of the bedroom.
00:48:00.560
So like if the relationship dynamic in the bedroom is like polarized like that, she's going
00:48:05.620
to feel like he's the, an actual man when she like, let's give another example.
00:48:14.740
If she is the one who has to like lead sex, if he's constantly like begging for her to
00:48:21.020
initiate sex, taking like the supplicative role, she's not going to respect that man.
00:48:29.220
And then, okay, when, when they're outside the bedroom, that's when she starts, she's
00:48:32.920
going to start nagging him to take out the trash.
00:48:34.500
That's when she's going to start emasculating him in front of his friends and disrespecting
00:48:39.500
So you almost think all of the relationship problems go back to sex.
00:48:42.500
I wouldn't say all of them, but I'd say that they, I'd say it is always a factor.
00:48:47.840
I'd say it's, it's, it's, it runs parallel, right.
00:48:52.220
And that's why I think it's a very easy way to fix it because men are still allowed to
00:48:59.100
It's a bit like, if you were out, if you were out in public and like a man was trying
00:49:05.680
to say, let's, let's say he's trying to keep his woman in line or something like you're
00:49:09.720
showing too much shoulder, let's just say that as an example, right, he's saying that
00:49:12.220
out loud in public, you know, cover up your ankles.
00:49:16.060
Society, every, everybody around him is going to like look at him very negatively for being
00:49:21.320
that, for taking that role and taking that stance.
00:49:24.280
But in the privacy of the bedroom, he can take the leadership role or take the more masculine
00:49:28.720
role, be more passionate, be more dominant in that regard.
00:49:31.060
Obviously consensually, we're not saying anything's not consensual.
00:49:35.060
But he's allowed to do that because that's their intimate relationship, the two of them.
00:49:39.280
It's a consensual thing between the two of them.
00:49:43.040
So now we can start to repair, if the dynamic was off, we can start to kind of fix it by
00:49:48.900
just tapping, getting her back into a feminine, getting her back into that submissive mindset
00:49:52.540
where she can look up to a man, respect him and think, oh, this is why I fell in love
00:49:57.160
This is why I started going, like I started dating this guy because he's the fucking man, right?
00:50:08.460
If she doesn't have those feelings at all for a man, that's, it's going to lead to a dead
00:50:15.160
It's going to lead to all kinds of other problems manifesting outside of it, right?
00:50:17.300
So in a large way, I think you would be quite, the average couple would be very, very surprised
00:50:23.100
how much they can fix, how many of these problems, you don't need to go to a therapist,
00:50:28.720
You just need to learn how to dick her down properly and like, lay the pipe.
00:50:36.320
I could really, it, okay, another example I'll give you is like, not just me, but also
00:50:41.640
friends of mine, we'll, you know, we'll take a girl out on a date who's a feminist and after
00:50:47.940
we're done, like if we, if we sleep with her once or twice, okay, now she's cooking and
00:50:57.820
Like girls like will fight with a guy the whole show and then they'll hit on him after.
00:51:04.820
It's like, in most, but most guys have never had that experience in their life or they've
00:51:12.820
So it sounds like we're in talking the realms of fantasy, but we're really not, this is well
00:51:19.820
Have you ever had a guy that was in a super disrespectful, like maybe she was leading
00:51:25.420
relationship and you actually got him to turn it around?
00:51:28.980
Because I've heard like two schools of thought.
00:51:30.860
I've heard one school of thought that if a relationship starts that way or it's gotten
00:51:40.360
And then, you know, I've heard people say that you can maybe turn it around.
00:51:46.600
Ask the guys like, okay, are you, are you married and are there kids involved?
00:51:50.100
Cause if there's kids involved and they're married and stuff, it's like, look, I'm not
00:51:54.320
going to tell the guy to like end the marriage.
00:51:57.760
I'm going to say, look, this is going to suck and it's not going to happen overnight.
00:52:02.680
Maybe we should start with these little things in the bedroom, little, just not, not going
00:52:08.040
And then we'll see over time, maybe we can start to steer this better in the right direction.
00:52:12.400
I have had at least one guy who's kind of from like a long, long term relationship has
00:52:19.900
But typically if a guy's, if it's not, there's not kids involved and they're not married and
00:52:28.900
Cause like this ain't like, if you have kids and kids with this woman or get married with
00:52:37.780
Cause now she's got all this power over you, like, yeah, it's always easier to kind
00:52:42.360
of start from something new, but you know, start, start with the, start with a foundation,
00:52:52.540
And that's, I mean, a bunch of the guys who follow consume, consume my, my YouTube material,
00:52:55.540
And so I think I, by having them understand, like, you know, this idea of like a masculine
00:53:02.280
and feminine polarity, for example, they're going to at least start relationships a bit better
00:53:08.700
So, um, one criticism that I hear a lot is from the conservative crowd a bit more that
00:53:18.000
red pill guys just tell the men to sleep around.
00:53:20.860
Um, you know, for example, I think Myron says you must sleep with 50 women before you settle
00:53:28.480
You know what in, in, it's kind of weird because I kind of, I agree with what he said
00:53:34.080
because it's like, I wouldn't have the knowledge I have if I hadn't have slept with as many
00:53:48.240
Like you can, like, I know guys who picked this stuff up quicker than I did with far lower
00:53:55.240
Like the dude has a far lower body count, but they got it quicker.
00:53:58.700
Like consuming stuff, like, like fresh and fit, like you, like me, you know, all these
00:54:04.160
people who want to help guys can help them to understand like the dynamics between men
00:54:09.620
So they, like you said before, they don't start the relationship off badly.
00:54:12.820
I would love it if every guy could do like one undone and it's a great relationship.
00:54:25.660
I think there is an, there is an abundance of, shit, we're probably going to get into
00:54:32.660
this a bit later tonight, but there's an abundance of women who are maybe like past their prime
00:54:37.140
or who are just, all these women want from their life is to just sleep around and have
00:54:45.280
Well, they, these are a, let's say good training wheels for a guy who was just trying to understand
00:54:52.000
women a bit better so that when he does find a woman who meets all of his criteria and
00:54:56.420
standards, a woman he can take seriously and settle down with, he's not going into that
00:55:01.800
Like he's not going into it completely unaware of the kind of manipulation tactics that women
00:55:10.760
Now you, you can find guys and I've, I've met a couple of guys who are like actual virgins
00:55:15.640
who have all this shit down pat already, if I could figure out a way to replicate that,
00:55:20.220
that, that's like a amazing thing because like, but I mean, look at, look at Steven Crowder,
00:55:26.600
Married his wife as a virgin and he, he's one, he's one such guy I would have said, I would
00:55:30.800
have said in the past, I think he's actually, he actually understands a lot of the stuff
00:55:40.260
And that was really unfortunate because they all labeled him as an abuse.
00:55:47.080
So you've said in the past, men should be able to control their emotions.
00:55:50.980
Women should be feminine and men should be masculine.
00:56:05.220
Like you can have a, like a guy can have emotions, but he's in control of them.
00:56:16.520
I'm not saying guys should be psychopathic or sociopathic.
00:56:18.660
Guys can have an emotion, but this is the way I was taught to think about it at a young
00:56:24.400
Every emotion you have is a choice because you get external stimulus from the world.
00:56:29.540
It passes through like a filter and then your brain decides how to interpret that.
00:56:34.840
So like, I don't know, let's say some guy cuts me off in traffic, right?
00:56:43.800
There's a moment there where I can make a decision about how I'm going to react to it.
00:56:49.560
I can choose to get pissed off and assume he's being a dickhead.
00:56:52.420
Or I can choose to not get pissed off, make sure I don't crash my car and think, well, maybe this
00:57:00.240
Maybe he's got a pregnant wife and they're passionate to see it and he's in a rush.
00:57:05.840
But before every emotion you feel, you have a choice whether to feel it or not.
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So being in control of your emotions rather than having your emotions control you is,
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I think, very healthy for men, very healthy for society, very healthy for relationships.
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And the opposite of a dude who's super erratic, no impulse control.
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That leads to violence, that leads to crime, that leads to like all kinds of problems.
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Because I think a lot of times, especially like in relationships, sometimes something happens
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or we get mad over things that are small and we think it's like bigger than it is.
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And I always think like by giving people the benefit of the doubt, it's like, I don't know.
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Some people will take advantage of it, but I think in general, most people are good.
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I've been a complete dick to my friends and employees and girlfriends and stuff before.
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And like, I think that most people are generally good people.
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They might be a bit delusional about the way the world works.
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They were putting on an event in Vegas in 2021.
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A few other guys who I'm still friends with to this day in this one sort of event.
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And then they hung out in a bunch of different countries together.
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It's a business network, an international business network for guys.
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A better way of saying it is like it's a brotherhood network, really.
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Kind of like the emphasis of it is like adventures of excellence with like a community of brothers.
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It's like doing really cool shit with guys you share a common worldview with.
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That's what we've been doing for the last couple of years.
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Going on crazy adventures together and having a great time.
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That's kind of what the war room really tries to facilitate.
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Men can find other guys who they get along with, who share hobbies.
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There's like different kind of groups within that group where these guys can share these ideas.
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I have a question about like stocks or something.
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And an expert in that field will be able to answer me like instantly.
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What has it been like watching your friend get canceled?
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Have all these baseless accusations thrown at them.
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Um, and it's, it's, it's, it sucks to see like some people, two guys you genuinely care
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about, you know, who, who, you know, are some of the most generous people on the planet.
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They, they, people don't really understand how lovely these two guys are behind closed
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doors because all they see is like the internet kind of persona and what people push out and
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But when you actually get to spend time random one-on-one, like cameras off, like it's just
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Not to say that they aren't on social media either, but it really shows you like how impactful
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Like he's been almost locked up for a year now.
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There's nothing, they're not going to put him in jail.
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Like they would have by now, like they're not going to put him in jail.
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And it's clearly just them trying to silence him.
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Like if we just, okay, if we put him away in jail for long enough, if we put him in his
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on house rest long enough, we just keep him in Romania for long enough.
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If we take away his cars, he can't go out and flex and be seen.
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If we, you know, limit like his social media accounts, like he can't influence people.
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Like that's going to reduce his effect on the world, but they've just turned Andrew into
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Like he's, he's one of the few people who's gone more viral after it got canceled.
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I don't know anyone that's been taken off all platforms and is more well-known.
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Like these, these two guys are really hard to like, you can't, you can't like screw
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Like they are, especially like together, they are the strongest pair of men I have ever
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Like not just physically, but mentally, these guys, you can't break them.
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They haven't, they, they love each other's company.
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They love like, they love living in Romania for a start.
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Like they've got, they've got their family, their family's safe, most importantly.
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The day can't come soon enough when these guys actually get released for God's sake.
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Do you think it's important for men to have a group of men around them?
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I didn't realize, I didn't realize until I like joined the war room and met a bunch
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of guys in there and found guys that I resonated with.
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It was, for me, it was kind of like, prior to that, prior to like joining the war room,
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I, there was probably like one, maybe two guys in my whole life who I basically, who had
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And we'd very much gone on the same journey and shared a similar worldview.
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And then I joined the war room and I was like, oh, this is where everybody is.
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That's surprising to me that you didn't have a ton of like guy friends before.
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Like I had, I had guy friends from like university and stuff, but then I left Australia, came
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And it's the guys that I stayed in touch with were the ones that I would say, I say to this
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But then I made a whole bunch more super, super close friends.
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One of the reasons I moved out to Marbella, like a bunch of guys out there who I really
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The average guy, actually, especially the average like entrepreneurial guy.
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Because being an entrepreneur, you know this, like it's, it's, it's a very like lonely kind
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You've got to like, you're taking a lot of responsibility on yourself.
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Like sometimes like your team members don't necessarily know why you've chose a certain
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And the average person who's working like a nine to five can't necessarily really relate
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So when you surround yourself with other dudes who are doing that kind of same thing, it's
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So where can the people that want to find you, where can they find you?
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You can go to, uh, YouTube and you can type in Sterling Cooper.
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I'm the first thing that comes up, uh, which is great.
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Another great place to go find like all of the things I have to offer you guys, all the
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I've got a free ebook, which puts you on my free email list and you can listen to all
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my various musings on masculinity, on health, on fitness.
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I, I just dump a ton of stuff on, on guys every day in the inbox.
01:04:51.020
So you have a course coming out soon, don't you?
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I have, well, I actually have a supplement line coming out right now.
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Um, I've been, like I said before, I've got, my background is chemistry.
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I was actually a published scientific author before I even graduated.
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Um, and so for the last 12 months, I've basically been formulating effectively like
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what a supplement based around what I used to take every day before I would go shoot a
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scene in order to make sure I was like ready to rock and roll consistently like on, on command.
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So that's something I've been working on for the last 12 months.
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I've finally found a really good American manufacturer to crank it out.
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If you go to clubhousesupplement.com, that's where you'll find that stuff.
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And is that, does that help with like the testosterone?
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Cause isn't, I would imagine that's part of the erectile stuff is like people, the lack
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The main, the main reasons behind erectile dysfunction is about three, the three key
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One is a problem with like the arteries themselves.
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So people, you know, people think of like cardiovascular health, right?
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And you can get arterial plaques and things like that.
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People think of it being associated with just the heart, but your penis has arteries too.
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And they can also get those same kind of arterial plaques and thus it can limit the blood
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That's the first thing that we want to work on getting rid of and kind of cleaning out.
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The second thing is like blood flow itself, nitric, which is based around nitric oxide
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So nitric oxide, when, when dudes go to the gym and they get, they get a pump, right?
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That's nitric oxide causing their blood vessels to expand and relax.
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The erection is actually a relaxation response.
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People don't really think of it that way, but it is.
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You get nitric oxide, dilate your blood vessels.
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They fill with, with more blood and thus things get bigger.
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And the third problem that, that tends to happen is a thing called venous leakage.
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So if you've ever seen someone with varicose veins before, there's like kind of spidery
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That's a problem with what's called venous leakage, which is basically there's, there's
01:06:49.440
kind of like these locks in your arteries, which help blood only flow in like one direction.
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When those like locks kind of get weak, the blood can kind of move back and forth.
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It can move backwards as much as it's moving in forwards.
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And it kind of just sits in pools on the surface rather than moving like in the direction it's
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So when you fix that and you, you, you get, you supplement with things that can actually
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You keep everything like locked in the place you want it to be locked in.
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All the blood stays in the one spot, much longer.
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And so that the supplement like helps with that basically.
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All the ingredients in this supplement are specifically engineered towards that.
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That's, that's what I've been working on for like 12 months.
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Guys, make sure you go subscribe to his channel.
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And also guys, get yourself a women should have vote t-shirt today.
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I'm going to get, they're not delivered yet, but I'll get Sterling one too.
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The women will just come up to you left and right and just say how awesome and amazing you
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The link is in the description and I'll talk to you next time.